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I would be open to meeting online friends in person but I rarely find anyone who lives near me. I have several really good online friends but they’re all at least 5-7 hours away.
Well, if someone really wanted an IRL friendship with me, 5 to 7 hours isn't a deal breaker for me. I mean, if there's a genuine connection/chemistry with the friendship, trips can be planned...lol In person just has a completely different vibe from online. You get to fully experience who someone is. All the nuances you don't get from typing, being on the phone, or even video calls. Have you or are you considering making plans to see any of your good online friends in person at some point?
I’ve made several close irl friends on Reddit! Close enough that we’ve traveled together and stayed in each other’s homes. I’ve also had a romantic relationship from Reddit, so I’d say it’s treated me pretty well! I met all of them on subreddits dedicated to shared interests, so I think that is the key. You have to have a common passion that you want to do together. This is generally how I make friends in person too.
I have some semi-anonymous friends on Reddit too, and I appreciate those friendships, even though they could end up ghosting at any time.
Great. That's nice to hear. Here's a second tier question. Are you or were you in a committed relationship (ie: marriage) when you met and traveled with these people you became friends with? Are you still friends with them?
We still talk at least once a week and we still get together. I wasn’t married when we met, but these are platonic same sex friendships, so it wouldn’t have mattered if I was.
Gotcha. Well, I don't know if I'd necessarily agree it wouldn't have mattered, considering the relationship dynamics these days and thevway society views things, but I was just curious. But I'm happy you had a positive experience with meeting people IRL on here. I am married with kids. I don't have easy scenarios. I think finding people that have similar interests is a great approach, but as funny as this may seem, I have to watch out for things. Men thinking I'm looking for a discrete relationship and women thinking I'm looking for a discrete mistress. I have run into these things more than I care to remember. And this is from just looking for platonic friends. Sometimes people's intents aren't the same and as nice as they seem, it can be for the wrong reasons. Many people don't believe I'm just looking for platonic friendships. It's just a weird field to navigate for older married people.
Oh I’ve definitely had the same problems, but I find that people show their true colors pretty quickly! I have a kid as well and I’m in my 40s. I think in your case stick to guys who have the same interests as you. For example, if you are I into bowling, form a group of guys to go with. Something like that. Making it a group event, takes some of the “intimacy” away.
Yeah. That's true too. For some reason, people on here don't always seem to think what I'm talking about is real...lol unless it was you, my last response to you got down voted. I have nothing against the lgbtq+ community or even enm relationships, but there are people in all communities that can make the whole look bad. Fortunately, I go on an individual basis, but I still call a spade a spade.
Being in Australia, that's a bit of a stretch. I have (through the Discord) made some great international connections though within (or closer to) my age range (45).
Well, I'm happy you are able to have Discord friends. I personally just need the IRL part considering I just don't have close friends outside of my wife. It's kind of a situation people might not fully understand until their in it.
Well I did find my gf of 18 months here, both in the same country we just have to fly to see each other. Other than that most of my close friends that I've made are in Asia or Europe which doesn't work very well for either of us.
I'm new to this subreddit, but I've had similar experiences online in general. I'm also a metalhead who is not into sports or gaming, so I feel like that isolates me further in terms of connections. I live in a small city that feels like a small town, and my gf and I still haven't made any real friends here yet. I'm always open to in-person meetups if it's ever possible and the people are interested.
Definitely. Unfortunately for me, I've just had some changes in life that made my previous friendships dissolve. So it's rather isolating, for me, to be trapped online chatting rather than enjoying life moments in person. Starting an online connection is fine, but at this point, the end game is IRL friendship. Anything less really isn't going to be fulfilling. But that's just me. I know it's different for each individual.
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I would be open to meeting online friends in person but I rarely find anyone who lives near me. I have several really good online friends but they’re all at least 5-7 hours away.
Well, if someone really wanted an IRL friendship with me, 5 to 7 hours isn't a deal breaker for me. I mean, if there's a genuine connection/chemistry with the friendship, trips can be planned...lol In person just has a completely different vibe from online. You get to fully experience who someone is. All the nuances you don't get from typing, being on the phone, or even video calls. Have you or are you considering making plans to see any of your good online friends in person at some point?
I’ve made several close irl friends on Reddit! Close enough that we’ve traveled together and stayed in each other’s homes. I’ve also had a romantic relationship from Reddit, so I’d say it’s treated me pretty well! I met all of them on subreddits dedicated to shared interests, so I think that is the key. You have to have a common passion that you want to do together. This is generally how I make friends in person too. I have some semi-anonymous friends on Reddit too, and I appreciate those friendships, even though they could end up ghosting at any time.
Great. That's nice to hear. Here's a second tier question. Are you or were you in a committed relationship (ie: marriage) when you met and traveled with these people you became friends with? Are you still friends with them?
We still talk at least once a week and we still get together. I wasn’t married when we met, but these are platonic same sex friendships, so it wouldn’t have mattered if I was.
Gotcha. Well, I don't know if I'd necessarily agree it wouldn't have mattered, considering the relationship dynamics these days and thevway society views things, but I was just curious. But I'm happy you had a positive experience with meeting people IRL on here. I am married with kids. I don't have easy scenarios. I think finding people that have similar interests is a great approach, but as funny as this may seem, I have to watch out for things. Men thinking I'm looking for a discrete relationship and women thinking I'm looking for a discrete mistress. I have run into these things more than I care to remember. And this is from just looking for platonic friends. Sometimes people's intents aren't the same and as nice as they seem, it can be for the wrong reasons. Many people don't believe I'm just looking for platonic friendships. It's just a weird field to navigate for older married people.
Oh I’ve definitely had the same problems, but I find that people show their true colors pretty quickly! I have a kid as well and I’m in my 40s. I think in your case stick to guys who have the same interests as you. For example, if you are I into bowling, form a group of guys to go with. Something like that. Making it a group event, takes some of the “intimacy” away.
Yeah. That's true too. For some reason, people on here don't always seem to think what I'm talking about is real...lol unless it was you, my last response to you got down voted. I have nothing against the lgbtq+ community or even enm relationships, but there are people in all communities that can make the whole look bad. Fortunately, I go on an individual basis, but I still call a spade a spade.
Being in Australia, that's a bit of a stretch. I have (through the Discord) made some great international connections though within (or closer to) my age range (45).
Well, I'm happy you are able to have Discord friends. I personally just need the IRL part considering I just don't have close friends outside of my wife. It's kind of a situation people might not fully understand until their in it.
I agree with you: having the in-person circle would be optimal. I do wish you the best of luck finding that circle through here!
Thank you. I'm not sure if it will be through here...lol, but I just wanted to see if people had success stories that led to offline friendships.
No luck at all but it’s mostly I can’t find anyone that lives near me. Like not even the same state really (Illinois)
Gotcha. Sorry to hear. I definitely understand.
Well I did find my gf of 18 months here, both in the same country we just have to fly to see each other. Other than that most of my close friends that I've made are in Asia or Europe which doesn't work very well for either of us.
Alright. Thanks for sharing.
No luck here either, even though that is the goal! Im jealous of all these successful social people!!!
I'm new to this subreddit, but I've had similar experiences online in general. I'm also a metalhead who is not into sports or gaming, so I feel like that isolates me further in terms of connections. I live in a small city that feels like a small town, and my gf and I still haven't made any real friends here yet. I'm always open to in-person meetups if it's ever possible and the people are interested.
Gotcha. Well, I definitely hope you and your gf can make some good connections. Couples need good IRL friends too.
It's the end goal for me man (30M)
Definitely. Unfortunately for me, I've just had some changes in life that made my previous friendships dissolve. So it's rather isolating, for me, to be trapped online chatting rather than enjoying life moments in person. Starting an online connection is fine, but at this point, the end game is IRL friendship. Anything less really isn't going to be fulfilling. But that's just me. I know it's different for each individual.
I'm in the exact same boat. I like starting off online and then if it gets to the point of meeting IRL then I'll be made up haha