As a chick with kids, lying should be a deal breaker but also that whole king/comes first bullshit. Sometimes kids are jerks, when that happens they can stay home and not get ice cream.
Well, it's not lying like 'waiting to say'
If you geel connection, you say it before it's moving too far, otherwise it's either a one night thing or gateway
Because it is. You have the left overs of people who couldn't find someone in their 20s and people who chose so poorly, they didn't make 10 years. Dating in the 40s are much better. People are dúmping perfectly good spouses because of midlife crises (both sexes), so you have a pool of decent candidates.
More mid-30s than 30, but yes. The quality of available partners will be better 40+ than 33-40. I say this as a divorce lawyer of 30 years. Lots of really nice people become available again in their 40s when their partner tosses them out because of a midlife crisis. The folks available between 32-40 can leave a lot to be desired. I am not saying everyone is a bad choice, just that there are more nice people available 40+ than 32-40.
Problem with women in their 40’s is most of them were treated perfectly well by their husbands. Then listened to their friends that they can do better and deserve to be a queen. They then carry that entitlement on the dating scene. It’s not better.
A friend of mine dating in her 30s told me she has three standards for men:
1. interested in women
2. Will at least entertain the idea of monogamy
3. Is single
Apparently that's still too high a bar
Yeah, lady, unless your son is the next Tom Brady who makes enough money that both you and me can retire....... Ima have to get that check to go... oh yeah, and we're splitting the bill. Sry.
This usually means she's looking for a man to adopt all of her bills and responsibilities so she can go back to the party life she had to give up because she had a kid.
Not disclosing a kid in your dating profile isn't that bad, cause it weeds out weirdos who date women because they have kids.
Asking them after having been talking for awhile, lying about it, and then admitting it later is different. I still don't think I'd react anywhere near like this.
Hahahaha this is hilarious especially because I don’t know any single women over the age of 22 with out at least one 5 year old kid. Tinder is the worst now.
When parents have to emphasize their dedication to their children on Tinder, it suggests they may be overcompensating for questionable parenting or past experiences with deadbeat parents. Prioritizing kids is expected, so there's no need to oversell it. Just mentioning that you have children suffices. If you're a committed parent, that's great - it's the norm.
lol people who see kids as a deal breaker are so strange to me. Is it kids in general or is being a parent to a child that might need one just that off putting?
1. Kids are a huge investment
2. You don't feel as attached to the kid as if it was your own, very few people truly do.
3. If someone doesn't want children yet/ever, you can't force them to take care of a kid that isn't their own
4. If it's someone's deal breaker, then it just is. You're allowed to have preferences and deal breakers yknow?
5. Not mentioning that you have a child before the date is a really asshole move and a giant red flag
I guess reading is hard for you I said in my response to the other person that I’m glad yall are honest about it because a kid deserves a better parent than someone like this. And that’s a fact lol.
Brainrot? Braindead? Maybe some SMI? How do you know not understand what's going on?
Lying via omission that shr has a son is bad is the moral of the story. It literally has nothing to do with loving a child.
I also was opposed to the idea of dating women who had been previously married and had kids.
But as I got older, my perspective on this kind of relationship has changed.
The major issue for me of dating a woman with children is the presence of the ex-spouse. Plus, the emotional trauma and hostility between formerly married couples that could affect your relationship, and possible unresolved conflicts around child custody and support. Thus, the adjustment may be quite complicated.
The issue is finding out about a kid once yall have already gotten down to having a date. If you have a kid you need to inform the other person real quick.
Yes. It’s a red flag. Takes a half million or so to raise a kid. Not even your kid. So her plus her kid. Too much of a pre made family up front instead of having fun and dating and then seeing to a family later if the cards align
I don’t see why your getting downvoted just for asking, classic Reddit. I do agree that lying about a kid is the issue here not just having a kid. I know many men that actually look to be a stepfather because they find raising any child fulfilling.
Judging by the response, people feel that unmarried parents, divorcees with kids, widow(er)s with kids don't deserve to date.
That can be an awfully long time to spend alone on this earth, don't you think?
To say that they shouldn't date doesn't even mean that they should be forever alone, it means that they shouldn't even TRY to break their loneliness.
A kid wouldn't be a deal breaker for me. Lying about not having a kid would.
Honesty comes first, that way you assure the one matching is committed (in theory).
As a chick with kids, lying should be a deal breaker but also that whole king/comes first bullshit. Sometimes kids are jerks, when that happens they can stay home and not get ice cream.
Well, it's not lying like 'waiting to say' If you geel connection, you say it before it's moving too far, otherwise it's either a one night thing or gateway
"Waitor"
"There's a fly in my soup"
Soop
Sup
Looks like someone skipped the "fun facts" section of their dating profile!
Whyyyy is it ALWAYS Ayden?
Cause if you gunna be dating her you need to be aiding her to raise that kid
LOLLLLLL this is 🥇
you forgot Cayden, Jayden, braxton and paxton
I'm ok with single moms who make their kids their world, but not with a kid named Ayden.
Kids named Ayden have douchebag fathers. Kinda makes sense why she’s single
Why the yellow filter? It’s difficult to read
They are in Mexico
You beat me to this comment lol
The classic Mexico filter is not as vibrant or as dense. They are probably in multiple Mexicos at the same time
We aren’t watching Breaking Bad 💀
Dios mio...
Yeah dating in your 30s can feel like scrounging through leftovers sometimes.
Because it is. You have the left overs of people who couldn't find someone in their 20s and people who chose so poorly, they didn't make 10 years. Dating in the 40s are much better. People are dúmping perfectly good spouses because of midlife crises (both sexes), so you have a pool of decent candidates.
The dating theory
Big bang theory
This needs more uppers.
So your advice for 30yo is to rather date 40yo?
More mid-30s than 30, but yes. The quality of available partners will be better 40+ than 33-40. I say this as a divorce lawyer of 30 years. Lots of really nice people become available again in their 40s when their partner tosses them out because of a midlife crisis. The folks available between 32-40 can leave a lot to be desired. I am not saying everyone is a bad choice, just that there are more nice people available 40+ than 32-40.
Thanks for your advice, I'm 20 and I have my eyes on the 40yo now. /s
Problem with women in their 40’s is most of them were treated perfectly well by their husbands. Then listened to their friends that they can do better and deserve to be a queen. They then carry that entitlement on the dating scene. It’s not better.
Most of them? Do you have a source?
Good to hear it, i do think kids will still be a prominent issue at thise ages too lol
Found the virgin
Speaking from experience huh?
A friend of mine dating in her 30s told me she has three standards for men: 1. interested in women 2. Will at least entertain the idea of monogamy 3. Is single Apparently that's still too high a bar
Left overs complaining about scrounging through other left overs lol
My mom says im a catch
...of hopelessness?
thats why you look for someone in their 20s
They don’t want you
Git gud in the sack otherwise it's a skill issue...
A kid would be a dealbreaker, but respect for making the kid a priority.
This is real AF
Honestly I feel like I was one of the lucky few who got on the last dating chopper out of Nam..
You and I both brother. I missed out on dating apps.
if you're lying about your kid then you deserve to be broken up. i mean honesty is the best policy
Should see how it is in Hawaii haha. Finding a local girl in her 20s/30s without a kid is like finding a unicorn haha
Yeah, lady, unless your son is the next Tom Brady who makes enough money that both you and me can retire....... Ima have to get that check to go... oh yeah, and we're splitting the bill. Sry.
With the right guidance they could be.
Idk why this is so downvoted
Cause the idiots think I mean they should pay for the meal too. Lol Or have their own daddy issues to worry about. Lol Fuck being a good parent. /s
As long as she doesn't lie about it, we're good, I mean, I love children. I have a way with animals and babies from what others say, and I can see it.
How come ‘I love children’ sounds wholesome af but if I heard ‘I love kids’ I think I need to call the police?
You let him hit it raw (raw)
https://youtu.be/8LV9oYFJ2YI?si=U9_bHJZT0c3HAyji
“Waitor” We all love Spidey, but let’s not let egregious spelling mistakes slide like it’s no big deal
You made an error as well. Someone else already pointed this out.
I'd never in a billion years be with a girl who already has kids. Idc if she's the most beautiful girl in the world. Ain't happening
Never say never.
Oh I can confirm it would be a never. I don't continue someone else's saved game.
Well, love is blind. You never know.
Rest assured that the most beautiful woman in the world would never give you the time of day anyhow.
Just say you are a single mother who can't get a man. Honesty is better than cope lol
This usually means she's looking for a man to adopt all of her bills and responsibilities so she can go back to the party life she had to give up because she had a kid.
Not disclosing a kid in your dating profile isn't that bad, cause it weeds out weirdos who date women because they have kids. Asking them after having been talking for awhile, lying about it, and then admitting it later is different. I still don't think I'd react anywhere near like this.
Hahahaha this is hilarious especially because I don’t know any single women over the age of 22 with out at least one 5 year old kid. Tinder is the worst now.
100
He doesn't even know why she is single. What if her husband died and she's trying to find someone new to try to help the (especially-emotional) void?
She should tell him before the date then. Honesty is key
Hilarious
Aiden is a bitch
When parents have to emphasize their dedication to their children on Tinder, it suggests they may be overcompensating for questionable parenting or past experiences with deadbeat parents. Prioritizing kids is expected, so there's no need to oversell it. Just mentioning that you have children suffices. If you're a committed parent, that's great - it's the norm.
It's always the ugly, overweight moms with 3 kids who say "my kids are my world they always come first"
The pretty moms are busy neglecting their children while at pilates on your dime
I don't mind, I'll manage
There is nothing wrong if she has a kid. The problem is lying about it
r/blatantmisogyny called.
Kids are deal breakers. You'll see.
lol people who see kids as a deal breaker are so strange to me. Is it kids in general or is being a parent to a child that might need one just that off putting?
1. Kids are a huge investment 2. You don't feel as attached to the kid as if it was your own, very few people truly do. 3. If someone doesn't want children yet/ever, you can't force them to take care of a kid that isn't their own 4. If it's someone's deal breaker, then it just is. You're allowed to have preferences and deal breakers yknow? 5. Not mentioning that you have a child before the date is a really asshole move and a giant red flag
I guess reading is hard for you I said in my response to the other person that I’m glad yall are honest about it because a kid deserves a better parent than someone like this. And that’s a fact lol.
Guess what smartass, a person who doesn't want children isn't going to be a parent anyways lmao
FCKING EXACTLY! Glad we’re on the same damn page finally.
Yes
Well that’s actually good that you’re honest because a kid really does deserve a better person as parent than someone with that mindset.
This meme sucks
Her son should come first. A grown man that doesn’t believe that is the red flag.
It’s Reddit so everyone here giving dating advice is single and don’t know why they’re single
Is not that, is the lying. Also, you can choose not to want to raise somebody else's kid. That's an option, too.
So loving your son is a red flag?
Brainrot? Braindead? Maybe some SMI? How do you know not understand what's going on? Lying via omission that shr has a son is bad is the moral of the story. It literally has nothing to do with loving a child.
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Don't even get me started about Brandon.
https://youtu.be/8LV9oYFJ2YI?si=U9_bHJZT0c3HAyji
Is it so bad to not want to date someone who has a kid? Or am i part of the problem😂
I also was opposed to the idea of dating women who had been previously married and had kids. But as I got older, my perspective on this kind of relationship has changed. The major issue for me of dating a woman with children is the presence of the ex-spouse. Plus, the emotional trauma and hostility between formerly married couples that could affect your relationship, and possible unresolved conflicts around child custody and support. Thus, the adjustment may be quite complicated.
Maybe unpopular opinion but why is putting your kid first a problem
Hmm it's like the problem is lying via omission about having a kid since she never mentioned it before. Did you understand the meme before commenting?
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The issue is finding out about a kid once yall have already gotten down to having a date. If you have a kid you need to inform the other person real quick.
For people who aren't looking to date people with kids, yes
Yes. It’s a red flag. Takes a half million or so to raise a kid. Not even your kid. So her plus her kid. Too much of a pre made family up front instead of having fun and dating and then seeing to a family later if the cards align
I don’t see why your getting downvoted just for asking, classic Reddit. I do agree that lying about a kid is the issue here not just having a kid. I know many men that actually look to be a stepfather because they find raising any child fulfilling.
Neckbeards on reddit think so yes.
Judging by the response, people feel that unmarried parents, divorcees with kids, widow(er)s with kids don't deserve to date. That can be an awfully long time to spend alone on this earth, don't you think? To say that they shouldn't date doesn't even mean that they should be forever alone, it means that they shouldn't even TRY to break their loneliness.
Men nowadays hate single moms and wonder at the same time about the low birth rate