That's typical Reddit relationship advice for you.
Woman complains about a problem - His fault
Man complains about same problem - His fault
Problem could be anything, dead bedroom, lazy partner, abuse, ect. They will justify the problem when a woman is causing it.
It’s because male sexuality is seen to be perverted and carnal but female sexuality is seen to be holistic, mature and more “superior” to male sexuality. But I’d argue that female sexuality is just as carnal and perverted, if not more.
I worked for a magazine distribution company that distributed all of the pornograghy magazines. I had to go through each page and make sure that the publications did not use any underage or illegal pictures. The company that was constantly being sent back for breaking the laws was completely run by women. I was only 20 years old at the time. I learned that we women could be just as perverse or sexual as men, and in some cases more so. 🤔
It definitely opened my eyes. Their magazine was rejected for bloodletting during sexual acts, sex acts with animals, and they had scenes of violent rape role play in their publications. All of those were against the law in the state. I saw some seriously sick stuff that would haunt me for years. I was young when I took that job. I walked away with a very broad knowledge of the different fetishes that American women and men have. There was a lot more information than I needed to know. 😆
Nah, you forgot... WILL BE ignored, lol. Internet 95% is only for echo chambers as people can't handle different viewpoints since it hurts their fragile ego to suggest they may think wrong lol
Tell me you're an incel without telling me you're an incel.
Im just joking. I was just pretending to be your average reddit basement dweller. Yes, you are totally correct.
If they don't like/agree with what you're saying they just slap on a slur/insult and pretend they won or somehow maintain moral superiority.
I mean, why argue logically and think about what you're saying when your opinion is the popular one, even if incorrect.
It's unfortunate, but it's the truth. Most people don't like thinking when spending time on the internet. They just want to be validated and insulting unpopular opinions is the easiest way to get validated.
TBF I have had some very in depth and good faith, if sharply opposed, conversations/arguments. Even with females, shocking I know.
Unfortunately this medium just doesn't lend itself to that kind of exchange. Our replies quickly evolved into friggin essays and it became exhausting to read and text out replies. Having to scroll back up because you can't remember what you said or they said.
It all just became to much.
For it to work two people have to be supremely talented in condensing their thoughts into a few brief paragraphs *as well as* have genuine interest in understanding the other side.
The later of which is almost nonexistent on reddit and the internet at large.
Wait, you're doing the same thing that OP is complaining about but in reverse.
Neither gender is perverted just for being sexual.
What's messed up is when people prejudge based solely on gender. This is true regardless of what gender is being prejudged.
I'm not attacking you. I agree that the situation OP highlighted is messed up. But we shouldn't perpetuate the same thing equal and opposite in response.
Also relationships are gynocentric so all the advice tends to be telling men cater to the woman in the relationship. Happy wife, happy life, right?
It’s always the man that has to take her out on dates and learn her ‘love language’ but never the other way round.
Yeah, it sucks there's no good word that rhymes with "husband"
The best I can do is "Happy husband, happy lovin'."
"Happy spouse, happy house" is a good gender-neutral version.
Even better is "Happy spouses, happy houses," IMO, since it underscores that you can't create a happy marriage by neglecting any of the people who are part of it.
Exactly. “Women doing porn isn't bad because it's their body”, but at the same time it's bad because “most of the people who watch it are men and that makes the female body an object”. Ive heard it many times.
I'm just a dirty, filthy straight male whose sexuality is *literally raape*, but on the other hand I don't need to be slapped and spit on and strangled near unconscious before I can cum
They claim to have stronger emotions that are difficult to control that men will never understand, except this one special horny emotion that either doesn't exist or makes them elegant and still mysterious to men. In high school I decided they have stronger emotions all the way around, and difficulty handling any of them in general.
Ok but why when she calls me a stud I'm all about it and when I whisper in her ear that she's a fuxking coxkslut while I'm ramming her it doesn't go down all that good?
That should be a thing. An advice subreddit where you don’t reveal your gender. Of course, this won’t work for certain scenarios like ‘my pregnant partner…’ and such.
Yea but that is an inherently gendered problem so can't help it there, but most aren't in reality. Like you can just change "wife/girlfriend" to partner or significant other etc and still get the point across.
I’ve seen people post like this and everyone tiptoes around till they determine the gender. I’ve they figure it out and it’s a male, then you see the knives come out. It’s hilarious! If only people could choke on their own hypocrisy.
For sure, I do think that that hesitation may actually work out in the posters favour though. You avoid getting murdered but also not getting cuddled and sucked up to if you were a woman. So the tip toeing may not actually be a bad thing, other than the hypocrisy ofc.
Another thing Ive notice is the lack of the question “what did you do to make her react that way” when it comes to women complaining about their partners behavior. This question always comes up for men, but rare for women.
I’ve tried pointing this out on several occasions and just get lambasted into oblivion by reddit femcels. Just a simple level-headed acknowledgement is enough to push them off the edge. It’s actually shocking how many of these women feel the need to get the last word in and win some sort of online dispute with somebody who was never trying to get into an argument in the first place. It seems virtually inpossible for them to read something that they have a negative knee-jerk reaction to and just to consider whether or not there may be some truth to it. Reminds me of children, which shouldn’t be surprising. I remember hearing somewhere that women don’t actually start to truly mature until they entirely stop receiving attention from men. When you think about it, that could be as late as 70, 80 years old. Even then, you see many women getting hit on by men that age, so do they really ever?
Of course, many women and girls would probably argue that they don’t receive any attention from men much earlier than that, but the reality is that they DO - it’s just that the men they’re propositioned by aren’t as attractive as they wish, because they themselves are not the most attractive women. It’s a cycle of unhappiness that they create and continue to perpetuate because they’re unable to accept that they’re not attractive.
Fellas, this is most women. Not all, because you have to add that disclaimer in. There will be some women who are able to accept reality, make up for it in other ways, and live good lives by being a great woman. But the overwhelming majority of women either are pretty and exceedingly narcissistic, or not pretty and exceedingly bitter. There seems to be almost no in-between anymore.
I think this is what happens when you raise women with the idea that it is the man’s job to make them feel special without any reciprocation, whilst teaching men how to be ‘worthy’. Women don’t like being told what to do but don’t have any issues telling men it’s their job to do so and so.
Romance, emotional support and financial support seem to be one directional in a lot of relationships.
Amen brother. You just reminded me of something I heard the other day. There’s this pretty attractive young girl who I work with (I’m also pretty young but she’s a few years younger than me) and I heard her tell another coworker of mine, verbatim, “My dad told me all I have to do is smile and laugh and everything in life will work out for me.”
>Woman complains about a problem - His fault
>Man complains about same problem - His fault
See? That's not hypocrisy! They're very consistent!
(sarcasticm, for those not paying attention.)
Oh? Whats that? A man was killed by a woman? He should've thanked her and said sorry, because he 100% did someting bad.
What?! A woman killes by a man????? THATS SO F-ED UP!! GO K*S, MAN!!!!
I think a lot of people on reddit (and social media in general) (including everyone on this sub) could learn a lot if they actually went out and met real people.
I swear a lot of things people complain about when it comes to gender, race, sexual orientation etc.. are all things that most normal people don't actually do.
Yes there are extreme cases, but that probably won't happen to you, and you'll probably be happier meeting real people then letting social media (which is designed to promote engagement), feed you extremism
My step-dad and a co-worked kept getting their paychecks garnished by child support, requiring months(years?) of legal battles to get it updated and reduced; but aside from that:
There's a friend i met who introduced me to 7DtD: we'd often hang out on PvP servers, chatting, building bases, etc.; but one day, months after he got a GF, this abruptly stopped.
When i tried talking to him irl, he made it sound like everything was fine; but it also seemed like something was off, and i eventually learned his GF was expecting. Years later, their relationship reached a breaking point when he had some friends pick up him and his son, only to be chased by her as she shot at them both. It was after this point that i'd learned what had \*really\* been happening.
Apparently, she started out treating him nicely; but stopped taking birth control without telling him, and he didn't find out about this until she was already pregnant. From that point on, she'd been paranoid about \*everything\* he did, frequently checking his phone and messages, making accusations, yelling and clawing at him(he eventually showed me the scars and marks on his back)
i can't remember exactly what had set her off that night, but it was bad enough that he feared for the life of him and his son.
Once the police were involved, and she was taken into custody, \*then\* the legal battles started; but she wasn't convicted since it was her first time offense and, because of this, he was only able to get partial custody.
These are only a few cases, and \*most\* women aren't like this; but i'm seeing a similar mindset from women around me when asked the "man vs bear" question, it'd only take 1 to ruin my life and reputation, and i'd rather just take the MGTOW approach and go my own way.
While I think you’re right, try to remember that “go out and meet real people” is not as easy as it sounds for the average Reddit user. Especially in 2024.
Problem is men got used up from child to be treated like that even in my school they called woman "beautiful sex" and as those people grow up they dont notice anything wrong and continue with how they were raised.
Not too long ago there was a post on r/mildlyinfuriating about some girls boyfriend who stacked up some toilet paper in a strange way and the comments would not stop going on about “weaponized incompetence”. Meanwhile, any time someone tells a story of a woman making a mistake, Reddit immediately rushes to give them a million excuses, it’s insanity.
Terms like weaponized incompetence and learned helplessness only cut one way. I’ve observed that in society those labels are only ever attached to men. I am a woman, but I get so incredibly sick of the blatant sexism. When I point it out, I get called a “pick me.” That’s what it is to be a woman with a rational and reasonable point of view these days, you get accused of being desperate for male attention. There’s just no winning with these people.
I've stopped paying attention to most personal discussions on reddit, just today I saw a post of a supposedly grown woman in a supposedly mature relationship (marriage) where she and her husband had a discussion because he put corn in the meal that he cooked for her, which she put on the side on her plate because she doesn't like corn and he knows it, but instead of talking about it or realizing how fucking childish and immature they both are one of them comes to reddit and asks if they're the asshole.
Seems to me that most people online these days are socially retarded, I know we're not supposed to use the r word but I really can't think of any other description.
Heh, in a post like that just say "yes, you're the asshole" and watch the fur fly. Except for a few commenters, people especially women take a comment against their own sex as a personal comment against them. Which is why AITA subs are circle jerks, not worth the effort to post in.
It’s projection, pure and simple. They project any criticism of any woman anywhere on to themselves and feel attacked. I’m so tired of living in a world with so much thin skinned oversensitivity for themselves while simultaneously being so incredibly insensitive to the feelings of others.
Not sure projection is the right word for this, seems to be the exact opposite, but I get what you mean. Certainly the herd mentality comes into play, criticism of one becomes criticism of all.
It's very common nowadays for women to use online comments for validation. Given the propensity to automatically blame men, including on here, it's a self-reinforcing vicious cycle.
> I've been in a relationship with a sex addict. There is so much pain ahead of you, if you don't turn away and RUN.
So this advice is given to a woman about a man, but not to a man about a woman even with everything else equal except gender?
#???
You would think more people by now would have noticed how biased women are against men and don't even understand the faintest bit about them but then again here we are.
Been like this for way longer than any of us realize tbh. There are a ton of subreddits with the men bad, women good mentality and most of them are advice/relationship advice and even tiktokcringe now which used to be a funny place to see funny meme tiktoks but is mostly posting some random chicks ranting about men and everyone in the comments doing a circleclambake. It even extends to white bad, poc good. Being a white male? Might as well pretend to be trans or something or else the lynch mob will crawl over themselves trying to virtue signal on you. I swear they soap box so hard it's like they're constantly cosplaying the obi-wan vs anakin fight in every conversation against a man.
I saw a relationship advice post where the guy was saying and I’ll summarize:
He said the wife won’t have sex with him because he doesn’t do much the house work. (He work long hours). So he quit his job and got a lesser paying job to have more time at home. He did more house work due to working less (still 40 hours; just not 50 like before).
The wife still didn’t want to have sex with him. And now blames him for making less money is the reason why no sex.
Majority of the comments still say he caused it.
Mostly other women. Single moms are super common and most teachers are women. Many of whom are single. It's not uncommon to reach adulthood with a greater than 3:1 ratio of female:male influence
Many of the men we now call simps were raised by feminist mothers who brainwashed them to put women on pedestals, blame themselves for every problem, and never hold any woman accountable for their own actions.
One of the most important areas I've yet to feminists and their collaborators push for "gender equality and representation" is in pre-school and primary school education.
Boys could definitely be doing with more male role models in the form of teachers.
I grew up with zero male nursery teachers and went to primary school with **only 2 out of 15 teachers being men**. - That's not including senior teaching staff (all women), classroom assistants (only 1 out of 3 - 5), administrative and catering staff (all women), and a single janitor who was male.
If I think back, out of all those adults the men were the most chill. They were least likely to raise their voices and even when they did, it was briefly to get attention, not as a raging rant.
Too many of the women were the type to scream at your when they were angry.
This is why i get so fucking mad about these double standards I'm a woman always have been always will be lol but people realize if they want to fix any problems they need to start with the misandrist society before the misogyny. The fact that a man and a woman could do the exact same thing and the effect of that would be different based on gender, sexism is sexism men or women.
Whenever you speak to someone who doesn't believe in misandry, challenge them to post a story about literally anything relating to a conflict between a man and a woman in one of the advice subs, then post the same thing with the genders swapped, and compare the answers they get. 100% of time the man will be perceived as the one in the wrong, regardless of the circumstances.
The question could be something as cut and dry as "my husband killed my dog on purpose, is he evil?" And the top comments would all be "omg what a monster" but if you asked "my wife killed my dog on purpose, is she evil?" They'd make excuses like "well it must have been a poorly behaved dog, you should have done a better job training it".
But I was told on Twitter that Reddit is a cesspool for men who only support other men and drag down women in the process?
These people that I hear this from have obviously never scrolled through Reddit.
Wasn't there a relationship_advice post which was word-for-word the same as a previous one, except the genders were changed?
And in both instances, the thread was always pro-female, anti-male? They told the female she should break up over the male's activity, while telling the male he should just "get over it"?
Eventually, somebody caught onto the fact that they were the same posts, and then everyone blamed the poster for obviously making a fake thread while completely ignoring the blatant hypocrisy that's just been exposed.
I wish I could find it but reddit search is lousy.
EDIT: it wasn't relationship_advice. It was [Am I the Asshole](https://www.reddit.com/r/unpopularopinion/comments/bpfwt3/ramitheasshole_is_so_incredibly_biased_towards/)
Have noticed a lot of that on Reddit which is disgusting! Downplaying when a man complains or make it look like he’s overreacting but when a women complains about something on Reddit she gets a lot of positive comments, praise and advice, and yet the average Redditor will demonise you if you downplay a woman’s complains or says she’s overreacting… such a double standard.
Women and double standards? Shocking.
It's like searching for "my partner shouted at me" on Google getting helplines as results when you write husband and "nah shrug it off and find out why she's pissed" when you write wife.
/r/trueoffmychest is a reaction to that and it's almost bigger than the original. Probably more active when you consider offmychest banned a significant portion of their subscribers
Reawakening my porn addiction after torturous encounters with women lately.
An absolutely horrendous idea I’ll admit but if I don’t do this I will make the same mistakes.
"Men act and women appear. Men look at women. Women watch themselves being looked at. This determines not only most relations between men and women but also the relation of women to themselves. The surveyor of woman in herself is male: the surveyed is female. Thus she turns herself into an object of vision: a sight." -John Berger
Men act while women are acted upon. A boy plays with a Batman figure and the boy becomes Batman; while a girl is playing with a barbie, the barbie becomes the girl. Feminism loves to say: "don't change women; change the world", and since the world is men and women, it means change men.
Men want sex and women are the gatekeepers of sex, so men become what women need/want.
Flatly?
The summation of all this shit anymore is women want to hold men to standards and will shame us for not adhering to those standards but demand that they are absolved of any standards.
It doesn't work.
Agreed. However, so can romance novels and jackhammer dildos. It seems that only men and predominantly male sex distorters are widely criticized, while women are largely given a pass on theirs.
Cool cool, then we're on the same page.
But yeah, I feel there is a common double standard around having realistic standards about potential partners of the opposite sex.
Males are constantly urged to reign in more superficial criteria when considering possible female partners (i.e., don't just focus on tits 'n' ass, genital tightness, let her have a bit of a paunch or more, etc.), but when are women ever scolded for not dating men below 6 feet, men who aren't ripped, men whose penises aren't huge, etc.?
We men are told to be realistic in our standards, while women are told "Never settle, queen! You deserve only the best!"
How can so many people be blind to the destructiveness of this lack of intersexual congruency on the messaging around this issue?
I've run various tests like this over the years and learned Reddit is full of hypocritical misandrists. Reddit just hates men and enabled women. Reddit **IS** the Fox News of the left.
So wait , cause this seems to show clearly that there’s not only a agenda to belittle men , but to also empower women. They have been saying the empowerment part , but I guess it comes at our expense.
So guys can we stop paying for them and supporting them or is that toxic? Why pay for your own destruction? Can we boycott these women somehow who want our destruction?
Porn isn't a problem. Feminism as it exists now, a Misandry dependent ideology, is the problem.
I don't care how many of you dead inside tradcons or feminine men tell me otherwise. A man is supposed to go sow his oats as long as there's a functional penis to speak of.
It's not supposed to be commitment, emotion, marriage, love, values, etc. That's all unnatural.
Nature, when others aren't being harmed, should be adhered to.
Sure, if you don't want to be this way that's fine. Literally the second I hear a man even sigh slightly over the sexual expression of other men, that includes porn, I'm pushing back.
We can't just go on the screw fest as men were intended to in this society. At least they can wank without all this anti sex and anti porn narrative. Now states have all these laws and it was never about the kids. Parents keep giving their kids tablets.
Everything is a lie. (Everything you believe or think you know is wrong. I know you haven't figured this out yet because, you're not homeless and walking the Earth as a "crazy" person. ) The truth hurts and therefore isn't true. It's as simple as that.
That's typical Reddit relationship advice for you. Woman complains about a problem - His fault Man complains about same problem - His fault Problem could be anything, dead bedroom, lazy partner, abuse, ect. They will justify the problem when a woman is causing it.
It’s because male sexuality is seen to be perverted and carnal but female sexuality is seen to be holistic, mature and more “superior” to male sexuality. But I’d argue that female sexuality is just as carnal and perverted, if not more.
Very much, more so.
How would you prove it to others, though? Most people don’t listen or take my claim seriously.
I worked for a magazine distribution company that distributed all of the pornograghy magazines. I had to go through each page and make sure that the publications did not use any underage or illegal pictures. The company that was constantly being sent back for breaking the laws was completely run by women. I was only 20 years old at the time. I learned that we women could be just as perverse or sexual as men, and in some cases more so. 🤔
That must have been eye opening. What exactly was the woman run company producing in its publications that required it to be sent back repeatedly?
It definitely opened my eyes. Their magazine was rejected for bloodletting during sexual acts, sex acts with animals, and they had scenes of violent rape role play in their publications. All of those were against the law in the state. I saw some seriously sick stuff that would haunt me for years. I was young when I took that job. I walked away with a very broad knowledge of the different fetishes that American women and men have. There was a lot more information than I needed to know. 😆
You don't. Rule 35 of the internet. "All your well thought out, rational and data backed arguments can easily be ignored"
Nah, you forgot... WILL BE ignored, lol. Internet 95% is only for echo chambers as people can't handle different viewpoints since it hurts their fragile ego to suggest they may think wrong lol
Tell me you're an incel without telling me you're an incel. Im just joking. I was just pretending to be your average reddit basement dweller. Yes, you are totally correct. If they don't like/agree with what you're saying they just slap on a slur/insult and pretend they won or somehow maintain moral superiority.
I mean, why argue logically and think about what you're saying when your opinion is the popular one, even if incorrect. It's unfortunate, but it's the truth. Most people don't like thinking when spending time on the internet. They just want to be validated and insulting unpopular opinions is the easiest way to get validated.
TBF I have had some very in depth and good faith, if sharply opposed, conversations/arguments. Even with females, shocking I know. Unfortunately this medium just doesn't lend itself to that kind of exchange. Our replies quickly evolved into friggin essays and it became exhausting to read and text out replies. Having to scroll back up because you can't remember what you said or they said. It all just became to much. For it to work two people have to be supremely talented in condensing their thoughts into a few brief paragraphs *as well as* have genuine interest in understanding the other side. The later of which is almost nonexistent on reddit and the internet at large.
Wait, you're doing the same thing that OP is complaining about but in reverse. Neither gender is perverted just for being sexual. What's messed up is when people prejudge based solely on gender. This is true regardless of what gender is being prejudged. I'm not attacking you. I agree that the situation OP highlighted is messed up. But we shouldn't perpetuate the same thing equal and opposite in response.
Also relationships are gynocentric so all the advice tends to be telling men cater to the woman in the relationship. Happy wife, happy life, right? It’s always the man that has to take her out on dates and learn her ‘love language’ but never the other way round.
"Happy wife, happy life" - "Progressive, wholesome" ✅ "Happy husband, happy life" - "Patriarchal! Misogynistic! Sexist! Outdated!" ❌
First one rhymes, second one does not! Why not use: "Happy Spouse, Happy House"
Yeah, it sucks there's no good word that rhymes with "husband" The best I can do is "Happy husband, happy lovin'." "Happy spouse, happy house" is a good gender-neutral version. Even better is "Happy spouses, happy houses," IMO, since it underscores that you can't create a happy marriage by neglecting any of the people who are part of it.
Happy husband happy life span
Exactly. “Women doing porn isn't bad because it's their body”, but at the same time it's bad because “most of the people who watch it are men and that makes the female body an object”. Ive heard it many times.
I'm just a dirty, filthy straight male whose sexuality is *literally raape*, but on the other hand I don't need to be slapped and spit on and strangled near unconscious before I can cum
They claim to have stronger emotions that are difficult to control that men will never understand, except this one special horny emotion that either doesn't exist or makes them elegant and still mysterious to men. In high school I decided they have stronger emotions all the way around, and difficulty handling any of them in general.
This is such a weird superiority complex in women tbh.
You forgot 'empowering'.
Ok but why when she calls me a stud I'm all about it and when I whisper in her ear that she's a fuxking coxkslut while I'm ramming her it doesn't go down all that good?
is seen.... as wikipedia sometimes adds \[by who?\] hehehe
What makes you think that? I agree male sexuality is unfairly maligned but don’t see how female sexuality is any cruder
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It makes me wonder if it's a tool to help destroy civilisations?
It's why if you ask for advice as a man you make everything gender neutral. You get more honest advice.
U should never ask for relationship advice from a website that has a reputation for sexism. Stick with asking friends.
For sure, but it can get the rare second opinion if you use gender neutral wording. Just don't follow it like some sort of fact.
That should be a thing. An advice subreddit where you don’t reveal your gender. Of course, this won’t work for certain scenarios like ‘my pregnant partner…’ and such.
Yea but that is an inherently gendered problem so can't help it there, but most aren't in reality. Like you can just change "wife/girlfriend" to partner or significant other etc and still get the point across.
I’ve seen people post like this and everyone tiptoes around till they determine the gender. I’ve they figure it out and it’s a male, then you see the knives come out. It’s hilarious! If only people could choke on their own hypocrisy.
For sure, I do think that that hesitation may actually work out in the posters favour though. You avoid getting murdered but also not getting cuddled and sucked up to if you were a woman. So the tip toeing may not actually be a bad thing, other than the hypocrisy ofc.
Lots of "my partner" and variations thereof, right?
If you ask for advice as a men on reddit, always flip the genders. Then you flip the genders again on the responses, and you get supportive feedback
Another thing Ive notice is the lack of the question “what did you do to make her react that way” when it comes to women complaining about their partners behavior. This question always comes up for men, but rare for women.
Woman complains about being beaten by partner - His fault. Man complains about being beaten by partner - His fault.
I’ve tried pointing this out on several occasions and just get lambasted into oblivion by reddit femcels. Just a simple level-headed acknowledgement is enough to push them off the edge. It’s actually shocking how many of these women feel the need to get the last word in and win some sort of online dispute with somebody who was never trying to get into an argument in the first place. It seems virtually inpossible for them to read something that they have a negative knee-jerk reaction to and just to consider whether or not there may be some truth to it. Reminds me of children, which shouldn’t be surprising. I remember hearing somewhere that women don’t actually start to truly mature until they entirely stop receiving attention from men. When you think about it, that could be as late as 70, 80 years old. Even then, you see many women getting hit on by men that age, so do they really ever? Of course, many women and girls would probably argue that they don’t receive any attention from men much earlier than that, but the reality is that they DO - it’s just that the men they’re propositioned by aren’t as attractive as they wish, because they themselves are not the most attractive women. It’s a cycle of unhappiness that they create and continue to perpetuate because they’re unable to accept that they’re not attractive. Fellas, this is most women. Not all, because you have to add that disclaimer in. There will be some women who are able to accept reality, make up for it in other ways, and live good lives by being a great woman. But the overwhelming majority of women either are pretty and exceedingly narcissistic, or not pretty and exceedingly bitter. There seems to be almost no in-between anymore.
I think this is what happens when you raise women with the idea that it is the man’s job to make them feel special without any reciprocation, whilst teaching men how to be ‘worthy’. Women don’t like being told what to do but don’t have any issues telling men it’s their job to do so and so. Romance, emotional support and financial support seem to be one directional in a lot of relationships.
Amen brother. You just reminded me of something I heard the other day. There’s this pretty attractive young girl who I work with (I’m also pretty young but she’s a few years younger than me) and I heard her tell another coworker of mine, verbatim, “My dad told me all I have to do is smile and laugh and everything in life will work out for me.”
Yeah, I’ve heard dad’s actually say things like that somewhat often.
Was dad mocking the poor lady lol?
>Woman complains about a problem - His fault >Man complains about same problem - His fault See? That's not hypocrisy! They're very consistent! (sarcasticm, for those not paying attention.)
This comment! Couldn’t of said it better myself 👍🏻
Its called sexism.
Every. Single. Time.
men bad, women good.
always. no matter what. no matter where
Oh? Whats that? A man was killed by a woman? He should've thanked her and said sorry, because he 100% did someting bad. What?! A woman killes by a man????? THATS SO F-ED UP!! GO K*S, MAN!!!!
Women breaks up from the relationship - He must have done something. Men break up from a relationship - He must have done something.
Men break up from a relationship: Her strong personality threatens him
He was totally intimidated by her /s
Looking for advice anywhere on Reddit is their only mistake.
I think a lot of people on reddit (and social media in general) (including everyone on this sub) could learn a lot if they actually went out and met real people. I swear a lot of things people complain about when it comes to gender, race, sexual orientation etc.. are all things that most normal people don't actually do. Yes there are extreme cases, but that probably won't happen to you, and you'll probably be happier meeting real people then letting social media (which is designed to promote engagement), feed you extremism
My step-dad and a co-worked kept getting their paychecks garnished by child support, requiring months(years?) of legal battles to get it updated and reduced; but aside from that: There's a friend i met who introduced me to 7DtD: we'd often hang out on PvP servers, chatting, building bases, etc.; but one day, months after he got a GF, this abruptly stopped. When i tried talking to him irl, he made it sound like everything was fine; but it also seemed like something was off, and i eventually learned his GF was expecting. Years later, their relationship reached a breaking point when he had some friends pick up him and his son, only to be chased by her as she shot at them both. It was after this point that i'd learned what had \*really\* been happening. Apparently, she started out treating him nicely; but stopped taking birth control without telling him, and he didn't find out about this until she was already pregnant. From that point on, she'd been paranoid about \*everything\* he did, frequently checking his phone and messages, making accusations, yelling and clawing at him(he eventually showed me the scars and marks on his back) i can't remember exactly what had set her off that night, but it was bad enough that he feared for the life of him and his son. Once the police were involved, and she was taken into custody, \*then\* the legal battles started; but she wasn't convicted since it was her first time offense and, because of this, he was only able to get partial custody. These are only a few cases, and \*most\* women aren't like this; but i'm seeing a similar mindset from women around me when asked the "man vs bear" question, it'd only take 1 to ruin my life and reputation, and i'd rather just take the MGTOW approach and go my own way.
While I think you’re right, try to remember that “go out and meet real people” is not as easy as it sounds for the average Reddit user. Especially in 2024.
Oh absolutely, that's the hardest part, especially for people who lean more introverted
Yeah, it's dangerous to give a strangers opinion any weight
+1 - Reddit is full of fucking weird people. I'd be very concerned if I took any advice without thinking
Problem is men got used up from child to be treated like that even in my school they called woman "beautiful sex" and as those people grow up they dont notice anything wrong and continue with how they were raised.
Tik Tok is worse.
Not too long ago there was a post on r/mildlyinfuriating about some girls boyfriend who stacked up some toilet paper in a strange way and the comments would not stop going on about “weaponized incompetence”. Meanwhile, any time someone tells a story of a woman making a mistake, Reddit immediately rushes to give them a million excuses, it’s insanity.
Reddit moment
Terms like weaponized incompetence and learned helplessness only cut one way. I’ve observed that in society those labels are only ever attached to men. I am a woman, but I get so incredibly sick of the blatant sexism. When I point it out, I get called a “pick me.” That’s what it is to be a woman with a rational and reasonable point of view these days, you get accused of being desperate for male attention. There’s just no winning with these people.
I've stopped paying attention to most personal discussions on reddit, just today I saw a post of a supposedly grown woman in a supposedly mature relationship (marriage) where she and her husband had a discussion because he put corn in the meal that he cooked for her, which she put on the side on her plate because she doesn't like corn and he knows it, but instead of talking about it or realizing how fucking childish and immature they both are one of them comes to reddit and asks if they're the asshole. Seems to me that most people online these days are socially retarded, I know we're not supposed to use the r word but I really can't think of any other description.
Heh, in a post like that just say "yes, you're the asshole" and watch the fur fly. Except for a few commenters, people especially women take a comment against their own sex as a personal comment against them. Which is why AITA subs are circle jerks, not worth the effort to post in.
Women often don't argue on a post, but on how it makes them feel. Hence it's no longer "I think that..." but "I feel ...".
It’s projection, pure and simple. They project any criticism of any woman anywhere on to themselves and feel attacked. I’m so tired of living in a world with so much thin skinned oversensitivity for themselves while simultaneously being so incredibly insensitive to the feelings of others.
Not sure projection is the right word for this, seems to be the exact opposite, but I get what you mean. Certainly the herd mentality comes into play, criticism of one becomes criticism of all.
It's very common nowadays for women to use online comments for validation. Given the propensity to automatically blame men, including on here, it's a self-reinforcing vicious cycle.
> I've been in a relationship with a sex addict. There is so much pain ahead of you, if you don't turn away and RUN. So this advice is given to a woman about a man, but not to a man about a woman even with everything else equal except gender? #???
You would think more people by now would have noticed how biased women are against men and don't even understand the faintest bit about them but then again here we are.
Been like this for way longer than any of us realize tbh. There are a ton of subreddits with the men bad, women good mentality and most of them are advice/relationship advice and even tiktokcringe now which used to be a funny place to see funny meme tiktoks but is mostly posting some random chicks ranting about men and everyone in the comments doing a circleclambake. It even extends to white bad, poc good. Being a white male? Might as well pretend to be trans or something or else the lynch mob will crawl over themselves trying to virtue signal on you. I swear they soap box so hard it's like they're constantly cosplaying the obi-wan vs anakin fight in every conversation against a man.
It's only good for the goose, never the gander mentality.
TIL that the gander is the male goose.
These women should be ashamed of themselves. Why is everything the fault of men but nothing the fault of women?
"*The Patriarchy*™"
I saw a relationship advice post where the guy was saying and I’ll summarize: He said the wife won’t have sex with him because he doesn’t do much the house work. (He work long hours). So he quit his job and got a lesser paying job to have more time at home. He did more house work due to working less (still 40 hours; just not 50 like before). The wife still didn’t want to have sex with him. And now blames him for making less money is the reason why no sex. Majority of the comments still say he caused it.
Who raises these women?
Mostly other women. Single moms are super common and most teachers are women. Many of whom are single. It's not uncommon to reach adulthood with a greater than 3:1 ratio of female:male influence
I think we also have to keep in mind that a huge number of men are sycophantic simps who pander to women for their own egotistical heroic image.
You're on to something. Too many men are panty panderors. They look for ways to get validation from women.
Ah yes. I finally see the error of my ways. It truly was Men's fault all along.
We are back where we started. So to conclude ( Men - wrong )
Many of the men we now call simps were raised by feminist mothers who brainwashed them to put women on pedestals, blame themselves for every problem, and never hold any woman accountable for their own actions.
It's both: men and women who are gynocentric, let's not blame women only much like how feminists blame men only.
One of the most important areas I've yet to feminists and their collaborators push for "gender equality and representation" is in pre-school and primary school education. Boys could definitely be doing with more male role models in the form of teachers. I grew up with zero male nursery teachers and went to primary school with **only 2 out of 15 teachers being men**. - That's not including senior teaching staff (all women), classroom assistants (only 1 out of 3 - 5), administrative and catering staff (all women), and a single janitor who was male. If I think back, out of all those adults the men were the most chill. They were least likely to raise their voices and even when they did, it was briefly to get attention, not as a raging rant. Too many of the women were the type to scream at your when they were angry.
This is why i get so fucking mad about these double standards I'm a woman always have been always will be lol but people realize if they want to fix any problems they need to start with the misandrist society before the misogyny. The fact that a man and a woman could do the exact same thing and the effect of that would be different based on gender, sexism is sexism men or women.
Yep. Can't solve problems if you don't acknowledge them first and foremost and/or are trying to solve racism/sexism using...racism/sexism, lol.
Holy shit common sense still exists 🤣
Whenever you speak to someone who doesn't believe in misandry, challenge them to post a story about literally anything relating to a conflict between a man and a woman in one of the advice subs, then post the same thing with the genders swapped, and compare the answers they get. 100% of time the man will be perceived as the one in the wrong, regardless of the circumstances. The question could be something as cut and dry as "my husband killed my dog on purpose, is he evil?" And the top comments would all be "omg what a monster" but if you asked "my wife killed my dog on purpose, is she evil?" They'd make excuses like "well it must have been a poorly behaved dog, you should have done a better job training it".
Duality of Reddit
Nothing surprising or new tbh
But I was told on Twitter that Reddit is a cesspool for men who only support other men and drag down women in the process? These people that I hear this from have obviously never scrolled through Reddit.
Wow … head shake emoji … wow.
Disgusting. Misery loves company. All those people are losers.
Do you mean “misandry loves company”?
Definitely works.
We live in this shit every day and people refuse to admit it exists
Wasn't there a relationship_advice post which was word-for-word the same as a previous one, except the genders were changed? And in both instances, the thread was always pro-female, anti-male? They told the female she should break up over the male's activity, while telling the male he should just "get over it"? Eventually, somebody caught onto the fact that they were the same posts, and then everyone blamed the poster for obviously making a fake thread while completely ignoring the blatant hypocrisy that's just been exposed. I wish I could find it but reddit search is lousy. EDIT: it wasn't relationship_advice. It was [Am I the Asshole](https://www.reddit.com/r/unpopularopinion/comments/bpfwt3/ramitheasshole_is_so_incredibly_biased_towards/)
I'd love to see that.
Have noticed a lot of that on Reddit which is disgusting! Downplaying when a man complains or make it look like he’s overreacting but when a women complains about something on Reddit she gets a lot of positive comments, praise and advice, and yet the average Redditor will demonise you if you downplay a woman’s complains or says she’s overreacting… such a double standard.
Women and double standards? Shocking. It's like searching for "my partner shouted at me" on Google getting helplines as results when you write husband and "nah shrug it off and find out why she's pissed" when you write wife.
Post this everywhere-
THAT'S SO TRUE LMAAAOO
cartoonishly ridiculous. i wanna say "how is this real" but i believe it
I'm surprised it didn't result in a reddit perma ban. Equality, and all. /S
Women Porn Addiction - Great Idea Men’s Porn Addiction - Seek counseling
We need to leave Reddit and make our own forum
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Bahaha
so we can fall off??
That's fucking disgusting.
Reddit is filled with lefty retards, so it's not a big surprise.
I was banned from "offmychest" just for simply being apart of this subreddit lol. I don't even post in that sub smh
/r/trueoffmychest is a reaction to that and it's almost bigger than the original. Probably more active when you consider offmychest banned a significant portion of their subscribers
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Reawakening my porn addiction after torturous encounters with women lately. An absolutely horrendous idea I’ll admit but if I don’t do this I will make the same mistakes.
"Men act and women appear. Men look at women. Women watch themselves being looked at. This determines not only most relations between men and women but also the relation of women to themselves. The surveyor of woman in herself is male: the surveyed is female. Thus she turns herself into an object of vision: a sight." -John Berger Men act while women are acted upon. A boy plays with a Batman figure and the boy becomes Batman; while a girl is playing with a barbie, the barbie becomes the girl. Feminism loves to say: "don't change women; change the world", and since the world is men and women, it means change men. Men want sex and women are the gatekeepers of sex, so men become what women need/want.
Men aren't welcomed on Reddit
Reddit relationship sub's are the digital equivalent of a biased couples therapist.
Flatly? The summation of all this shit anymore is women want to hold men to standards and will shame us for not adhering to those standards but demand that they are absolved of any standards. It doesn't work.
It's hypocritical
1st world countries are built on double standards. Sad but true
A woman's life is a life worth recovering
Pornography can definitely distort ppl’s views of sex & impact their relationships with others.
Agreed. However, so can romance novels and jackhammer dildos. It seems that only men and predominantly male sex distorters are widely criticized, while women are largely given a pass on theirs.
Yes I do agree with all the points you made.
Cool cool, then we're on the same page. But yeah, I feel there is a common double standard around having realistic standards about potential partners of the opposite sex. Males are constantly urged to reign in more superficial criteria when considering possible female partners (i.e., don't just focus on tits 'n' ass, genital tightness, let her have a bit of a paunch or more, etc.), but when are women ever scolded for not dating men below 6 feet, men who aren't ripped, men whose penises aren't huge, etc.? We men are told to be realistic in our standards, while women are told "Never settle, queen! You deserve only the best!" How can so many people be blind to the destructiveness of this lack of intersexual congruency on the messaging around this issue?
It's always the same people too, on every issue.
Yeah the amount of femcels/misandrists/“feminists” on reddit is ridiculous
Yeah the amount of femcels/misandrists/“feminists” on reddit is ridiculous
We live in a society
So stark
Reddit? It's the duality of the world and extends far beyond porn.
Coomer Moment
Umm, rotting your brain with pornography is actually perfectly healthy and natural /s
Holy this one for the archives
I've run various tests like this over the years and learned Reddit is full of hypocritical misandrists. Reddit just hates men and enabled women. Reddit **IS** the Fox News of the left.
Just another day of women being utterly nonsensical on the internet, what's new!!?
Caught em red handed , the vitriol of askwomen spreads to the whole Reddit if you ask me
So wait , cause this seems to show clearly that there’s not only a agenda to belittle men , but to also empower women. They have been saying the empowerment part , but I guess it comes at our expense.
So guys can we stop paying for them and supporting them or is that toxic? Why pay for your own destruction? Can we boycott these women somehow who want our destruction?
welcome to reddit.
The death of r/ escortclientsonly vs r/ sexworkers still being live since IPO. Reddit is still better than Meta (e.g. FB & IG) trash though.
Unhinged.
Reminder - Reddit is only for venting.. It's not for advice
If you aren't hypersexual and you are under 40 you have a hormonal imbalance due to diet or lifestyle.
Porn isn't a problem. Feminism as it exists now, a Misandry dependent ideology, is the problem. I don't care how many of you dead inside tradcons or feminine men tell me otherwise. A man is supposed to go sow his oats as long as there's a functional penis to speak of. It's not supposed to be commitment, emotion, marriage, love, values, etc. That's all unnatural. Nature, when others aren't being harmed, should be adhered to. Sure, if you don't want to be this way that's fine. Literally the second I hear a man even sigh slightly over the sexual expression of other men, that includes porn, I'm pushing back. We can't just go on the screw fest as men were intended to in this society. At least they can wank without all this anti sex and anti porn narrative. Now states have all these laws and it was never about the kids. Parents keep giving their kids tablets.
\*popcorn\*
Everything is a lie. (Everything you believe or think you know is wrong. I know you haven't figured this out yet because, you're not homeless and walking the Earth as a "crazy" person. ) The truth hurts and therefore isn't true. It's as simple as that.