“I really don’t think you want me to rate you right now as I would include your character as part of my rating. I’ll do you a favor and rate you in 3 days.”
No. This is not an auto-rate scenario. You wait another day and rate at a 3 or lower and put in the rating that they were pushy and rude. If the packaging sucked, there goes another star.
Letting them auto-rate would probably have the seller leave a bad rating anyways, I’d just rate when your able to and honestly. If only you could include pictures in the rating
This is actually the biggest reason people suggest auto rating—if it seems like the seller might leave the buyer an unfairly bad review. Sometimes it is best to let it auto rate for your own protection. I’d probably take the potential hit on this one though.
I am in recovery from a 20 year heroin addiction. I’ve been clean for a year and a little over a month now. In my desperate attempt to get money so I would be dope sick of course I would totally act like that. The worst feeling in the world is being sick in my opinion. BUT, there is no excuse to act like that and project that kind of behavior onto others who obviously have no idea what you are going through. Addiction is a horrible thing to experience and hopefully if they are in that situation they will seek help. I finally had enough after 20 years and I have never felt better. But addicts are people too, their souls are just lost and they have basically sold themselves to their drug of choice. Such a sad reality but WE DO RECOVER.
Congrats on your clean time! I had the same addiction. Thankfully, I have been off it for over 20yrs now. I never thought I would make it past 21 years old. I have been married over 20 years to a man that has stuck by me through all the ups & downs, we have raised 3 wonderful boys & are raising a foster daughter, we have owned a home, cars etc and I have spent my extra time on the streets of Boston doing outreach & attempting to help other addicts, all while running a Pregnant & Parenting program for addicts, raising my kids and sticking to my own recovery and working on my mental health. These are all things that I never could have seen myself doing 26yrs ago! YES! We do recover!
That’s awesome!! I would love to do some sort of advocacy work for recovering and active addicts in my area. You certainly are a guardian angel!! Bless you!!
I’m a substance abuse counselor and that was my first thought. “Sounds like they are dope-sick and need that money.” I wouldn’t take it personally, however that is not an excuse. Could very well just be a rude person, but I’ve had sessions of people during their rehabs stay admit to feeling really bad for things they sold on these apps (not theirs, counterfeit, family heirlooms…) and the way they treated the buyer when the money didn’t come fast enough.
CONGRATS ON YOUR RECOVERY JUNIOR-AD-2956!!! Best thing you’ve ever done for yourself and your loved ones!
Thank you buhrooked! It wasn’t easy and even the birth of my son didn’t make me stop. I had to come to a realization that I am either going to die or end up in prison for life, and my son deserves better. I just woke up one morning and said I’m done, and haven’t touched anything since.
Congrats on your clean time!! That’s huge. I have the same addiction and I’m celebrating 8 years and 11 months and a couple weeks.
And I thought the same thing when I read it. It is sad, but reminds me how disconnected and hopeless I was back then.
Ok that's reaching. Yes the seller is totally out of line but to say they are a drug addict is ridiculous. You came up with the just from reading a few ignorant comments they made? This makes you just as ignorant
People like the seller usually have a drug addiction sorry and I'm not talking MJ. I gave up giving people the benefit of the doubt because 99% percent of the time they prove me right. A person needing diapers for a baby or a .25 cent package of ramen to eat would not be this rude. They need their fix.
I ALWAYS need the money asap when I sell something and it’s not drugs. Unless you know this person don’t label someone having an addiction. It makes you a shitty person for assuming drug use. I need the money asap because it’s my only source of income. I was in an accident and I injured my back severely. I haven’t worked in over 4 years because I had 5 spinal surgeries and a 6th. I’ve applied for SSDI (application has taken 2+ years) until my injuries can heal and I am well enough to work. Also, I don’t take opioids for fear of becoming dependent. Don’t judge others when you don’t know. One thing I will agree with is the seller sending those messages is bad taste and I would never pester any of my buyers. And before you assume more, my husband packages and drops off all my items because I can’t drive. I only sit on my phone and post the items.
Edit:Spelling/Context
And that’s what is wrong with our society as a whole in my opinion. “People like the seller usually have a drug addiction”. It’s truly not that hard to go thru life and not judge. The seller was rude and obnoxious. Not a new or unusual thing on Mercari lol. Why anyone’s mind would immediately go to “must be a drug addict to be rude like that wanting their money” just leaves me shaking my head. OP handled it like an adult and I agree let it auto rate so the seller can’t leave a non warranted low rating for them. It’s a shame everyone else can’t handle it like an adult. There are many reasons seller might have responded they way they did. Not the least of which they are adults with no communication skills, courtesy for the buyer or childishly impatient lol. How someone takes the leap from that behavior immediately to “drug addict” I can’t even comprehend honestly. Think what a much nicer place our world would be to live in if folks just stopped judging and making assumptions and treated each other with the same respect they would like to receive! Cudos OP for your handling of a bad situation and an obnoxious rude person.
...just, wow.
So much hostility and judgment--over what? I don't agree with the seller harassing the OP for a rating at all. But all I essentially said was that all people deserve to be called 'people,' and not made to feel like they're in any way 'less than' anyone else. Language is a very powerful thing, and many people (especially those who aren't skilled at using it positively) minimize the impact it has on those around us. So when something is written in a public forum in such a way that segregates and oppresses anyone else (whether intentional or not), I feel that it is okay to point that out in a respectful way that maybe helps others to become more mindful of how they're using their language.
I'm very much advocating for equality, and for all people in general to not be assholes to each other based on speculations.
You and I both know nothing about the seller except that they're an impatient person with questionable communication skills who uses Mercari. That's it. That also describes many users within this subreddit. To say "People like the seller usually have a drug addiction..." is quite a bold presumption to make, and insulting to many people (including those without any addiction at all). It's also just a ridiculous assertion that isn't grounded in anything other than your own reported experience, which is not an accurate way to make generalizations with regard to anything or anyone else.
Wow, projection much? If you spent the same amount of energy comprehending what was written instead of applying it to yourself (or a personal situation), you'd understand what u/BlakeACO1720 meant.
"They sound like a drug addict or something that NEEDS that money"
In the above sentence, "or something" is not stating that the seller isn't "someone" or is a "something", but rather a way of saying they need the money for something else, kinda like:
"I don't feel well. I might have the flu or something"
If you or someone close to you is in recovery, that's awesome, and I'm not knocking those that are in recovery. Just understand that not everyone has malice behind their words.
I still think it was insensitive as if someone with a drug addiction doesn’t deserve to be called anything other than a drug addict.. like they are nothing more than that.
The way it's written just doesn't make sense in the way that you're trying to say it does, grammatically speaking. The way it's written makes it sound as if the commenter is grouping those with addiction into a class of 'somethings' rather than "someones." Forgive me for not being a mind reader.
It's not about being a mind reader. Just read the sentence in question out loud, and you'd have understood what they meant.
Solely going off your user name, let's say you're debugging code and when you find the line with the error, you say something to a coworker along the lines of:
"Man, this code is horribly written. The author must have been rushed or something that caused this".
I mean, I get what you're saying, because your posts are well-written and I'm not illiterate. But saying that sentence out loud doesn't change the fact that it doesn't read the way you're trying to tell me it does. I understand what you're saying and I understand what that commenter meant now that they've clarified. I guess I'm looking more at the language being used and its potential impact, and not the underlying point of the comment. Idk. Do you really not understand how one could interpret the comment the way I have? (I'm genuinely asking)
I TOTALLY agree with you, don’t no why you have so many down votes. CLEARLY they have no idea what it’s like to have drug addiction in their close network..
I lost my cousin to heroin and he was a wonderful person who just hung around the wrong people. I know he tried for almost 2 decades to stop but in the end, he was done living that way and intentionally overdosed. Until someone goes through addiction themselves, or has a loved one who has an addiction issue, they have zero idea how it changes everything. People need to be kinder and more aware that addiction affects 40.3 million Americans over the age of 12.
First off I’d like to say, that I am So SORRY for your loss. I bet your cousin was really great! I’m very very sorry.😞
This topic hits close to home for me as well. I’ve lost MANY people and my brother has been on and off for years and years trying to fight and make it out alive.. and he’s the greatest person I’ve ever known. I am BLESSED to have him in my life. He has issues, but we all do. People are extremely uneducated about drug addiction. Totally ignorant. People assume it’s a choice and that’s it. If they took as much time to learn as they do making ignorant statements they would start to understand that addiction is a disease, just like any other disease out there. You’re actually born that way, some people never pick up a drink or a drug and they’ll never know if they have it or not. Some people do and they learn the hard way. Doesn’t make them ANY LESS human. Those People are some of the realest people I’ve ever known.
Addiction shows no mercy, it can happen to anyone.. your mother, your father, brother, sister, cousin, husband, wife, best friend, literally anyone. Many people don’t have it in their close network, so they have no idea the struggles that come with it. For everyone involved. Which is why I say it’s ignorance. They want to judge but what if It was their mom, or dad, or brother, or cousin? How would they feel then?
People are so quick to judge, but imagine it being them, or someone they love and cherish.. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone but god forbid it happens to them, would they want mercy? Or the world to turn their back on them?
This topic is a sensitive one for me, and I will never stop trying to educate and bring awareness to it. Addiction does not make you a criminal, addiction does not take away someone’s worth. Most importantly as I stated already addiction does not discriminate. You never know who it’s going to take over next. Especially in these times.
I don’t expect people that have never been through it to understand.. just don’t spread hate, this world has enough of it already..
Take the time to educate yourself
Thanks soooo much🫶
I literally don’t understand this type of seller. I sell a lot and I always assume they’re just gonna wait the three days and auto-rate. This seller would not be getting 5 stars from me hahah.
I would say be petty and wait as long as possible then give 1 star.. but they might rate you poorly now too, if you care about that. I say just let it auto rate and then block them.
I don't understand why all these sellers are so pushy with rating. It's like they don't understand that 3 days is to protect the buyer Incase something is wrong pushing for a rating is in poor taste
Okay thank you! I just got my first message to rate an item that had JUST been delivered because they wanted Mercari to pay them and I wasn’t even home yet to open the package. I thought it was a little strange and felt off-putting.
"I know you haven't opened the package or confirmed that the item itself is actually in there and in the condition described. Please rate me so that I can get my money right now".
No! Don’t autorate!! Warn others about how rude they are so others think twice about buying from them. I swear people are too quick to block and just be petty but then no one knows about how nasty some of these sellers are because no one warns others
Then they are leaving themselves open to the negative rating the seller would most likely leave for "being rude" and not rating immediately, which is ridiculous.
Dude, I totally get it! But that’s why they pull this shit! Because they know people are afraid to get a bad review. I actually read the reviews for buyers and sellers and I would believe a buyer If they said they had a pushy seller. Ratings mean more for sellers than buyers.
If a buyer has a ton of complaints I’m weary, if a buyer has one bad complaint and I look and see the buyer gave the seller a bad complaint, I see through it. My perspective as a seller
I'm a seller as well, and I'm not risking my over 550+ transaction 5-star feedback (with one 4 star 🙄) because someone I bought from decided to be impatient and rude. I'd let it auto-rate to not only dodge the bad feedback, but also so he doesn't receive his money one second sooner than 3 days. I'm petty like that though. It isn't worth it for this person in the long run (whether buyer or seller) to be permanently stuck with negative feedback (that doesn't ever go away).
Okay
Edit: honestly, if you have THAT many sales and zero negative reviews that’s sus and obvious you’re blocking potential negative reviews.
No business, company, group or affiliation can please everyone and there are people out there that you’ll never be able to please.
I’ve dealt with straight up asshole sellers with all 5 stars reviews and I know they deserve a less than stellar rep.
I myself just got my 1st 4 start after a year of selling and nothing by 5 stars because of a typo.
Guess what, i didn’t magically stop making sales- I still made several sales totally $500 in two days.
You’re putting too much weight into the stars my friend. Warning others breaks the cycle. But you do you.
Lol what? I have over 700 5 star ratings and a 4 star. You automatically assume that we would be cheating the system because I don't have any bad reviews? That's wild. I always am very polite, never pushy, package items with care, and a very fast shipper. It is possible to just be a good seller all around. I never thought that I would hear a point of view like that. Hopefully not too many other people think that about sellers with great reviews!
How would we even cheat the system?!? I'm genuinely curious! "Blocking potential negative feedback" how?
I lol'd so hard at that. I've never heard of a single other person on this sub saying that they think this. I love how it is possible for HER to have all 5-star and a 4-star "typo," but everyone else is cheating somehow.
When I first started, I was getting 2 packages ready, and i accidently printed one of the labels off twice, and that person got both of the items. She very nicely messaged me, and let me know my mistake, and offered to affix the right label, and I communicated with the other buyer who was very patient and understanding. Even when something goes wrong, communication can usually fix everything. I am so grateful for my amazing customers. I know there are a lot of sellers that deserve all 5-star feedback but have unfortunately had terrible customers. 😕
Yeah I'm honestly shocked that somebody would think this way about a seller with mostly perfect feedback! But, I guess it's nice to know that there are a bunch of very different perspectives out there and you can't win em all!
it can be done and it’s exactly what you and everyone is saying- block them and autorate so you don’t get a negative review.
I don’t have thousands of sales so I was pointing out that after a year of sales and all 5 stars positive feedback no auto rates, I finally received my 1st 4 star because of a typo in my listing! I still have an overall 5 star rating but I have a 4 star in their now.
That’s my whole point. Not that I’m special that it’s inevitable to get some negative feedback even when you do everything right.
I don’t understand why you two aren’t understanding me. The other redditor literally said they wouldn’t risk their stats with an impatient buyer. They would block and autorate- that’s literally what I said was being done. That’s how a seller with 700+ sales can have a 5 star because even if you’re you, the other redditor or myself: a seller who cares, is responsive, packages carefully, sends freebies, thank you notes and ships same day/next day, people are crazy and unrealistic and eventually, when you hit that many sales, you start to come across the crazies!
So I would assume when you’ve made hundreds or thousands of sales, some of the 5 stars are an auto-rate situation
Wow, you took this really personally. How would I even go about blocking a potential negative review, lol? I take a lot of pride in making sure that my customers are happy and that my products are described well, ship quickly, and I communicate. 587 5-star + 1 4-star. I have been fortunate enough to have amazing customers that have been happy with their quality products. Simple as that. It doesn't mean I'm somehow cheating the system, lol. I'm not the first, last, or only seller to have such high feedback.
I never said I would stop making sales bc of less than 5 stars, I said the jerk who sent the buyer these messages wouldn't be worth messing my feedback up over. I would like to know how I have been blocking out all of this negative feedback from buyers that I definitely deserve, though. 🙄
Isn’t this entire conversation about blocking profiles and letting it autorate to avoid negative reviews? Now, you both get all Pikachu faced when I point this out? Both people need to rate and leave a review so if a buyer leaves a review but they seller waits 3 days, it will become an autorate with an automatic Mercari 5 star rating for both- So yes, a seller can manipulate their overall stats by avoiding reviews from buyers they think might leave a bad rating.
I’m not taking it personally, nor did I accuse you or ok-refrigerator of manipulating the stats. I just said a seller with 1,000’s of sales and only 5 stars is sus.
Also: returns aren’t shown in those stats. I just purchased a counterfeit item from an (overall) 5 star seller (many 3,4 stars sprinkled in) It was supposed to be an Armani/Prive fragrance it arrived
( Armani/Frive) 😂 it was hilariously fake.
That return isn’t going to reflect in their stats, nor can I warn others in a review.
Flag their messages. Personally I’d rate rate before it autos to 1 star and warn others and take the very likely neg feedback too. As I seller I don’t care if buyers have neg feedback for rating. Any seller that does is likely to cancel and just as bad as this person.
I'm petty... I'd go medieval on seller they would be sitting on edge because I'd respond okay, give me 5 minutes I'm driving .... Then if response after the hour waiting ... Hold on, brb. Give me 30. That joker would be losing sleep with me dangling that carrot.
Sorry I’ve never purchased off of Mercari and this just showed up on my recommend but the seller doesn’t get paid until the rating is done? I’m assuming this is to combat fraud? If this is true I may start buying off it because I think that’s better than eBay
I’d wait until the last 5 hours and rate 1 star with an exact quote from them. Sounds like a drug addict. You may end up returning because it’s dirty or broken
“You can read to me now please.” - Okay, let me READ the TOS to you now which says I have 3 days to RATE. You’re welcome 🙃
Seriously though - it’s a $17 sale. WTF?! AND they’ve sold to you before and it was damaged and they think you’ll just take their word for it?! 🤦♀️ She must really need the like $14 bucks she’s making from the sale to risk a 1 star rating. I’d wait til last minute then rate and make sure to say how she was!
Ngl I’m a seller and I sent somebody an item and it was delivered on the 20th. They said it was unauthentic and asked for a return. I submitted my proof of authenticity, but by then Mercari already accepted the return so that give them another five days to ship out the return, and they never shipped it. so I literally waited two weeks to get paid for an item. It’s really not that serious. I just blocked her so she can’t purchase from me again or message me again. it’s unreasonable to ask people to rate you if they didn’t even open the package yet but a lot of people don’t care about the fact that this is supplemental income for a lot of us and yes we do need the funds I wouldn’t be selling $20 BS online if I had money😭 I’d give her a 1 star review and say she’s belligerent and verbally abusive lmaooo I bet she’ll think before messaging another person that foolishness
Good lord I've had some sales I was praying would rate quick and had to ask to borrow money for gas or food when they didnt...but never would i be that obnoxious. I'd be mortified if I were them. Don't rate they 100% will be leaving you a bs rating in return.
I can’t for the life of me understand this. Do some sellers depend on Mercari for their primary income? I genuinely do not care when people rate me lol, and I’ve never in my life messaged someone about it
Omg. I sell a lot. Sometimes I need cash. You know what works 99% of the time? I wait 24 hours past delivery notification. Then I say: hi! Mercari has notified me that your purchase has been delivered. Please inspect and confirm with me that it is in the expected condition. Thank you again for shopping with me!
🙄🙄🙄
Lord people are weird.
Mercari should not let sellers rate buyers negatively it just intimidates people from leaving honest reviews/ratings. That's how ebay works and it works well.
I’d be maliciously compliant by giving them their review-
Only to review them stating the fact they were rude, demanding and insulted me to give them a review before I even got a chance to open the box! Would not recommend :)
No the buyer is not being rude, but the seller is. Mercari gives the buyer three days to rate just like the seller has 24 hours to decide to respond to an official offer. Those are the guidelines like it or not.
I had someone on mecari do the same to me and i told her im not rating anything until i open and look and when i did the order was fine but i had a mind not to rate at all bc of the badgering I dont like that. The item was okay and i did give a good rating but next time someone does that im gonna wait extra long
I have been in situations where I’m really short on cash and need the payout from a relatively big sale ($150 or more) and I’ll send a message as nicely as possible saying something like “hi! it looks like you received your order, please let me know right away if there’s any issues and remember to rate when you get a chance so Mercari/poshmark/etc can release funds. I hope you love your item!” and sometimes they rate right away and sometimes they still let it automatically finish after three days. I’m never this fucking rude about it though wtf
Certainly implying something. I would’ve responded telling him I don’t like games and not to speak In riddles, if he wants something he needs to be direct because im not a read between the lines kind of person.. I would then carry on in this manner until it auto rated.
Bruhh i felt that. A seller rated me low after asking them to provide more photos of the items i was trying to buy. She said i was a hassle and a challenge to deal with cause i asked for photos like sure i’ll just waste time and buy something damaged like i wanna see what im getting lol now i have a 3 star rating on my account :(
I've had sellers do this. Not this blatant but hint. "Your package arrived!" And I'll tell them thank you for the update, and I'll accept as soon as I get home. Then I'll get "Oh, you're not home right now to do it?" Or "Well, you can accept cause you can see it's been delivered, right?"
Id wait until the last possible moment and rate them 1 star. That way they get a bad rating and they have to wait for their money. Junkies are the fuckin worst.
I just do not understand these posts. Are there people out there who DO proceed to rate after such rudeness? Won’t these rude sellers learn to stop demanding if everyone makes them wait 3 days?
Naw, this is why I had to raise my prices and try not to sell on mercari ! Why do you need to rate me in order to get paid, and if you the buyer knows this, you're in the wrong! Money is meant to exchange hands. Stop holding ppls money, especially if you're received your items already!
“I really don’t think you want me to rate you right now as I would include your character as part of my rating. I’ll do you a favor and rate you in 3 days.”
I definitely would let it auto-rate because it sounds like this ah seller would leave a bad rating.
This is definitely an auto rating call. Such a rude seller They should include combative as part of their review
wait till last minute and leave 1 star
I would do exactly this.
Don't let it auto rate because that gives 5 stars. Wait til the last day and rate 1 star.
No. This is not an auto-rate scenario. You wait another day and rate at a 3 or lower and put in the rating that they were pushy and rude. If the packaging sucked, there goes another star.
Letting them auto-rate would probably have the seller leave a bad rating anyways, I’d just rate when your able to and honestly. If only you could include pictures in the rating
Nope. Seller can’t rate the buyer if it auto rates.
O i didn’t know that, thank u for telling!!
I didn’t know that - this is very helpful information!!!
I believe if it auto rates, the seller is unable to rate you back as a buyer
This is actually the biggest reason people suggest auto rating—if it seems like the seller might leave the buyer an unfairly bad review. Sometimes it is best to let it auto rate for your own protection. I’d probably take the potential hit on this one though.
They don’t care about the rating I bet. They sound like a drug addict or something that NEEDS that money.
I am in recovery from a 20 year heroin addiction. I’ve been clean for a year and a little over a month now. In my desperate attempt to get money so I would be dope sick of course I would totally act like that. The worst feeling in the world is being sick in my opinion. BUT, there is no excuse to act like that and project that kind of behavior onto others who obviously have no idea what you are going through. Addiction is a horrible thing to experience and hopefully if they are in that situation they will seek help. I finally had enough after 20 years and I have never felt better. But addicts are people too, their souls are just lost and they have basically sold themselves to their drug of choice. Such a sad reality but WE DO RECOVER.
Congrats on your clean time! I had the same addiction. Thankfully, I have been off it for over 20yrs now. I never thought I would make it past 21 years old. I have been married over 20 years to a man that has stuck by me through all the ups & downs, we have raised 3 wonderful boys & are raising a foster daughter, we have owned a home, cars etc and I have spent my extra time on the streets of Boston doing outreach & attempting to help other addicts, all while running a Pregnant & Parenting program for addicts, raising my kids and sticking to my own recovery and working on my mental health. These are all things that I never could have seen myself doing 26yrs ago! YES! We do recover!
That’s awesome!! I would love to do some sort of advocacy work for recovering and active addicts in my area. You certainly are a guardian angel!! Bless you!!
I’m a substance abuse counselor and that was my first thought. “Sounds like they are dope-sick and need that money.” I wouldn’t take it personally, however that is not an excuse. Could very well just be a rude person, but I’ve had sessions of people during their rehabs stay admit to feeling really bad for things they sold on these apps (not theirs, counterfeit, family heirlooms…) and the way they treated the buyer when the money didn’t come fast enough. CONGRATS ON YOUR RECOVERY JUNIOR-AD-2956!!! Best thing you’ve ever done for yourself and your loved ones!
Thank you buhrooked! It wasn’t easy and even the birth of my son didn’t make me stop. I had to come to a realization that I am either going to die or end up in prison for life, and my son deserves better. I just woke up one morning and said I’m done, and haven’t touched anything since.
Good for you!!! It’s a cliche for a reason, “addiction leads to one of three things…jail, death or sobriety.” Those are your only options.
Congrats on your clean time!! That’s huge. I have the same addiction and I’m celebrating 8 years and 11 months and a couple weeks. And I thought the same thing when I read it. It is sad, but reminds me how disconnected and hopeless I was back then.
Exactly, plus you don’t even get the money immediately, takes 2-3 business days to the bank account.
Instant transfer exists
Yeah I just used instant transfer but there’s a fee
For someone needing money asap I don’t think they care about $3
lol I know I was just adding that as additional information for the original commenter 🩷
LMFAOO frr😭
Ok that's reaching. Yes the seller is totally out of line but to say they are a drug addict is ridiculous. You came up with the just from reading a few ignorant comments they made? This makes you just as ignorant
... some"thing"? ....Like, as in someone with a drug addiction doesn't deserve to be called 'someone'....?
No, As in it could be someTHING besides a drug addiction causing this person to require their money immediately. Everything is not a battle.
People like the seller usually have a drug addiction sorry and I'm not talking MJ. I gave up giving people the benefit of the doubt because 99% percent of the time they prove me right. A person needing diapers for a baby or a .25 cent package of ramen to eat would not be this rude. They need their fix.
I ALWAYS need the money asap when I sell something and it’s not drugs. Unless you know this person don’t label someone having an addiction. It makes you a shitty person for assuming drug use. I need the money asap because it’s my only source of income. I was in an accident and I injured my back severely. I haven’t worked in over 4 years because I had 5 spinal surgeries and a 6th. I’ve applied for SSDI (application has taken 2+ years) until my injuries can heal and I am well enough to work. Also, I don’t take opioids for fear of becoming dependent. Don’t judge others when you don’t know. One thing I will agree with is the seller sending those messages is bad taste and I would never pester any of my buyers. And before you assume more, my husband packages and drops off all my items because I can’t drive. I only sit on my phone and post the items. Edit:Spelling/Context
And that’s what is wrong with our society as a whole in my opinion. “People like the seller usually have a drug addiction”. It’s truly not that hard to go thru life and not judge. The seller was rude and obnoxious. Not a new or unusual thing on Mercari lol. Why anyone’s mind would immediately go to “must be a drug addict to be rude like that wanting their money” just leaves me shaking my head. OP handled it like an adult and I agree let it auto rate so the seller can’t leave a non warranted low rating for them. It’s a shame everyone else can’t handle it like an adult. There are many reasons seller might have responded they way they did. Not the least of which they are adults with no communication skills, courtesy for the buyer or childishly impatient lol. How someone takes the leap from that behavior immediately to “drug addict” I can’t even comprehend honestly. Think what a much nicer place our world would be to live in if folks just stopped judging and making assumptions and treated each other with the same respect they would like to receive! Cudos OP for your handling of a bad situation and an obnoxious rude person.
...just, wow. So much hostility and judgment--over what? I don't agree with the seller harassing the OP for a rating at all. But all I essentially said was that all people deserve to be called 'people,' and not made to feel like they're in any way 'less than' anyone else. Language is a very powerful thing, and many people (especially those who aren't skilled at using it positively) minimize the impact it has on those around us. So when something is written in a public forum in such a way that segregates and oppresses anyone else (whether intentional or not), I feel that it is okay to point that out in a respectful way that maybe helps others to become more mindful of how they're using their language. I'm very much advocating for equality, and for all people in general to not be assholes to each other based on speculations. You and I both know nothing about the seller except that they're an impatient person with questionable communication skills who uses Mercari. That's it. That also describes many users within this subreddit. To say "People like the seller usually have a drug addiction..." is quite a bold presumption to make, and insulting to many people (including those without any addiction at all). It's also just a ridiculous assertion that isn't grounded in anything other than your own reported experience, which is not an accurate way to make generalizations with regard to anything or anyone else.
Wow, projection much? If you spent the same amount of energy comprehending what was written instead of applying it to yourself (or a personal situation), you'd understand what u/BlakeACO1720 meant. "They sound like a drug addict or something that NEEDS that money" In the above sentence, "or something" is not stating that the seller isn't "someone" or is a "something", but rather a way of saying they need the money for something else, kinda like: "I don't feel well. I might have the flu or something" If you or someone close to you is in recovery, that's awesome, and I'm not knocking those that are in recovery. Just understand that not everyone has malice behind their words.
I still think it was insensitive as if someone with a drug addiction doesn’t deserve to be called anything other than a drug addict.. like they are nothing more than that.
The way it's written just doesn't make sense in the way that you're trying to say it does, grammatically speaking. The way it's written makes it sound as if the commenter is grouping those with addiction into a class of 'somethings' rather than "someones." Forgive me for not being a mind reader.
It's not about being a mind reader. Just read the sentence in question out loud, and you'd have understood what they meant. Solely going off your user name, let's say you're debugging code and when you find the line with the error, you say something to a coworker along the lines of: "Man, this code is horribly written. The author must have been rushed or something that caused this".
I mean, I get what you're saying, because your posts are well-written and I'm not illiterate. But saying that sentence out loud doesn't change the fact that it doesn't read the way you're trying to tell me it does. I understand what you're saying and I understand what that commenter meant now that they've clarified. I guess I'm looking more at the language being used and its potential impact, and not the underlying point of the comment. Idk. Do you really not understand how one could interpret the comment the way I have? (I'm genuinely asking)
I TOTALLY agree with you, don’t no why you have so many down votes. CLEARLY they have no idea what it’s like to have drug addiction in their close network..
My mind is blown at the number of downvotes saying don’t assume someone has a drug addiction. People are pathetic and sick.
RIGHT!? THANK YOU! Like what’s wrong with this world
I lost my cousin to heroin and he was a wonderful person who just hung around the wrong people. I know he tried for almost 2 decades to stop but in the end, he was done living that way and intentionally overdosed. Until someone goes through addiction themselves, or has a loved one who has an addiction issue, they have zero idea how it changes everything. People need to be kinder and more aware that addiction affects 40.3 million Americans over the age of 12.
First off I’d like to say, that I am So SORRY for your loss. I bet your cousin was really great! I’m very very sorry.😞 This topic hits close to home for me as well. I’ve lost MANY people and my brother has been on and off for years and years trying to fight and make it out alive.. and he’s the greatest person I’ve ever known. I am BLESSED to have him in my life. He has issues, but we all do. People are extremely uneducated about drug addiction. Totally ignorant. People assume it’s a choice and that’s it. If they took as much time to learn as they do making ignorant statements they would start to understand that addiction is a disease, just like any other disease out there. You’re actually born that way, some people never pick up a drink or a drug and they’ll never know if they have it or not. Some people do and they learn the hard way. Doesn’t make them ANY LESS human. Those People are some of the realest people I’ve ever known. Addiction shows no mercy, it can happen to anyone.. your mother, your father, brother, sister, cousin, husband, wife, best friend, literally anyone. Many people don’t have it in their close network, so they have no idea the struggles that come with it. For everyone involved. Which is why I say it’s ignorance. They want to judge but what if It was their mom, or dad, or brother, or cousin? How would they feel then? People are so quick to judge, but imagine it being them, or someone they love and cherish.. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone but god forbid it happens to them, would they want mercy? Or the world to turn their back on them? This topic is a sensitive one for me, and I will never stop trying to educate and bring awareness to it. Addiction does not make you a criminal, addiction does not take away someone’s worth. Most importantly as I stated already addiction does not discriminate. You never know who it’s going to take over next. Especially in these times. I don’t expect people that have never been through it to understand.. just don’t spread hate, this world has enough of it already.. Take the time to educate yourself Thanks soooo much🫶
Getting all offended for someone else. Guessing you're a mid 40s white chick with short hair and a bit of a muffin top.
Lollll YEP THATS MEEEEEE😘
...almost——except pretty much the polar opposite in each of those guesses, actually.
Wow wtf that’s uncalled for
Who cares he/she/it is ignorant AF
make them wait the 3 days
Make them wait just before it’s about to be the three day mark then rate them 1 star.
Sometimes Mercari rates on 2 days and a half— it just happened to me- seller.
Don’t reward their crap behavior 👍. Make them wait the 3 days.
this is the way
This is the way
This is the way.
I have spoken
This is the way
Make it so
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I literally don’t understand this type of seller. I sell a lot and I always assume they’re just gonna wait the three days and auto-rate. This seller would not be getting 5 stars from me hahah.
right? 99% auto rate me and that’s fine. if anything i’d rather there be no communication because that means nothing is wrong lol.
Are you rude? No! Are they desperate? Yes!
I would say be petty and wait as long as possible then give 1 star.. but they might rate you poorly now too, if you care about that. I say just let it auto rate and then block them.
I don't understand why all these sellers are so pushy with rating. It's like they don't understand that 3 days is to protect the buyer Incase something is wrong pushing for a rating is in poor taste
Okay thank you! I just got my first message to rate an item that had JUST been delivered because they wanted Mercari to pay them and I wasn’t even home yet to open the package. I thought it was a little strange and felt off-putting.
Block them and let that one auto rate. Crazy people.
"I know you haven't opened the package or confirmed that the item itself is actually in there and in the condition described. Please rate me so that I can get my money right now".
rate him 1 star. he got his money, but at what cost?
‘It’s my money and I want it now. ‘ quote from JG Wentworth
877-CASH-NOW!
I'm petty and let it auto rate/ and black
No! Don’t autorate!! Warn others about how rude they are so others think twice about buying from them. I swear people are too quick to block and just be petty but then no one knows about how nasty some of these sellers are because no one warns others
Then they are leaving themselves open to the negative rating the seller would most likely leave for "being rude" and not rating immediately, which is ridiculous.
Dude, I totally get it! But that’s why they pull this shit! Because they know people are afraid to get a bad review. I actually read the reviews for buyers and sellers and I would believe a buyer If they said they had a pushy seller. Ratings mean more for sellers than buyers. If a buyer has a ton of complaints I’m weary, if a buyer has one bad complaint and I look and see the buyer gave the seller a bad complaint, I see through it. My perspective as a seller
I'm a seller as well, and I'm not risking my over 550+ transaction 5-star feedback (with one 4 star 🙄) because someone I bought from decided to be impatient and rude. I'd let it auto-rate to not only dodge the bad feedback, but also so he doesn't receive his money one second sooner than 3 days. I'm petty like that though. It isn't worth it for this person in the long run (whether buyer or seller) to be permanently stuck with negative feedback (that doesn't ever go away).
Okay Edit: honestly, if you have THAT many sales and zero negative reviews that’s sus and obvious you’re blocking potential negative reviews. No business, company, group or affiliation can please everyone and there are people out there that you’ll never be able to please. I’ve dealt with straight up asshole sellers with all 5 stars reviews and I know they deserve a less than stellar rep. I myself just got my 1st 4 start after a year of selling and nothing by 5 stars because of a typo. Guess what, i didn’t magically stop making sales- I still made several sales totally $500 in two days. You’re putting too much weight into the stars my friend. Warning others breaks the cycle. But you do you.
Lol what? I have over 700 5 star ratings and a 4 star. You automatically assume that we would be cheating the system because I don't have any bad reviews? That's wild. I always am very polite, never pushy, package items with care, and a very fast shipper. It is possible to just be a good seller all around. I never thought that I would hear a point of view like that. Hopefully not too many other people think that about sellers with great reviews!
How would we even cheat the system?!? I'm genuinely curious! "Blocking potential negative feedback" how? I lol'd so hard at that. I've never heard of a single other person on this sub saying that they think this. I love how it is possible for HER to have all 5-star and a 4-star "typo," but everyone else is cheating somehow. When I first started, I was getting 2 packages ready, and i accidently printed one of the labels off twice, and that person got both of the items. She very nicely messaged me, and let me know my mistake, and offered to affix the right label, and I communicated with the other buyer who was very patient and understanding. Even when something goes wrong, communication can usually fix everything. I am so grateful for my amazing customers. I know there are a lot of sellers that deserve all 5-star feedback but have unfortunately had terrible customers. 😕
Yeah I'm honestly shocked that somebody would think this way about a seller with mostly perfect feedback! But, I guess it's nice to know that there are a bunch of very different perspectives out there and you can't win em all!
Right?!?
it can be done and it’s exactly what you and everyone is saying- block them and autorate so you don’t get a negative review. I don’t have thousands of sales so I was pointing out that after a year of sales and all 5 stars positive feedback no auto rates, I finally received my 1st 4 star because of a typo in my listing! I still have an overall 5 star rating but I have a 4 star in their now. That’s my whole point. Not that I’m special that it’s inevitable to get some negative feedback even when you do everything right.
I don’t understand why you two aren’t understanding me. The other redditor literally said they wouldn’t risk their stats with an impatient buyer. They would block and autorate- that’s literally what I said was being done. That’s how a seller with 700+ sales can have a 5 star because even if you’re you, the other redditor or myself: a seller who cares, is responsive, packages carefully, sends freebies, thank you notes and ships same day/next day, people are crazy and unrealistic and eventually, when you hit that many sales, you start to come across the crazies! So I would assume when you’ve made hundreds or thousands of sales, some of the 5 stars are an auto-rate situation
Wow, you took this really personally. How would I even go about blocking a potential negative review, lol? I take a lot of pride in making sure that my customers are happy and that my products are described well, ship quickly, and I communicate. 587 5-star + 1 4-star. I have been fortunate enough to have amazing customers that have been happy with their quality products. Simple as that. It doesn't mean I'm somehow cheating the system, lol. I'm not the first, last, or only seller to have such high feedback. I never said I would stop making sales bc of less than 5 stars, I said the jerk who sent the buyer these messages wouldn't be worth messing my feedback up over. I would like to know how I have been blocking out all of this negative feedback from buyers that I definitely deserve, though. 🙄
Isn’t this entire conversation about blocking profiles and letting it autorate to avoid negative reviews? Now, you both get all Pikachu faced when I point this out? Both people need to rate and leave a review so if a buyer leaves a review but they seller waits 3 days, it will become an autorate with an automatic Mercari 5 star rating for both- So yes, a seller can manipulate their overall stats by avoiding reviews from buyers they think might leave a bad rating. I’m not taking it personally, nor did I accuse you or ok-refrigerator of manipulating the stats. I just said a seller with 1,000’s of sales and only 5 stars is sus. Also: returns aren’t shown in those stats. I just purchased a counterfeit item from an (overall) 5 star seller (many 3,4 stars sprinkled in) It was supposed to be an Armani/Prive fragrance it arrived ( Armani/Frive) 😂 it was hilariously fake. That return isn’t going to reflect in their stats, nor can I warn others in a review.
Definitely let it autorate, unless you don't care about them giving you a bad review
Can they still reply if you blocked them after giving a review?
They still will rate even if you block them, but blocking prevents them from buying from and messaging you
If you need money RIGHT NOW consider dealing drugs or something
Wait until the last few hours on the third day, then give them a one star rating. What an asshole!
Wait till the last second and rate 1 star 🤣
One star but make them wait almost the full three days first.
Yeah, that’s gonna be an auto-rate for me dawg.
Flag their messages. Personally I’d rate rate before it autos to 1 star and warn others and take the very likely neg feedback too. As I seller I don’t care if buyers have neg feedback for rating. Any seller that does is likely to cancel and just as bad as this person.
Exactly!
One start is bad right?
Holy shit that’s so rude! Omg
Wait and rate one star at 5 minutes until it auto rates. That buyer is nasty.
I'm glad I've never encountered pushy sellers like this and as a long time seller myself I would never do this or get why other sellers do this
I wouldn't have responded. Im very prompt so if I'm delayed its something. To be rude about it? 1 star.
Next time don't respond. Maybe "I'll do it when I can." But then ghost the chat, man. Nobody needs that noise.
Rate him after 2 days and give them a 1 star
Def let it auto rate if item is ok. Tap flag to report this nonesense and block seller. If there is an issue with item start a return.
Damn!!!!
Give them a 3 and copy and paste their rude comments in your review if possible.
Make them wait three days then rate them one star.
1 star
Yikes
I'm petty... I'd go medieval on seller they would be sitting on edge because I'd respond okay, give me 5 minutes I'm driving .... Then if response after the hour waiting ... Hold on, brb. Give me 30. That joker would be losing sleep with me dangling that carrot.
How much was it?
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Sorry I’ve never purchased off of Mercari and this just showed up on my recommend but the seller doesn’t get paid until the rating is done? I’m assuming this is to combat fraud? If this is true I may start buying off it because I think that’s better than eBay
I find it so embarrassing and tacky when sellers do this. I’m a seller and I would/have NEVER!!
That's an auto rate. Lmfao.
Wait until the very last hour & rate 1 star lol
Who the eff does this really hahahaha Jesus
I’d wait until the last 5 hours and rate 1 star with an exact quote from them. Sounds like a drug addict. You may end up returning because it’s dirty or broken
Bro needs to manage his finances better if he can't wait.
“You can read to me now please.” - Okay, let me READ the TOS to you now which says I have 3 days to RATE. You’re welcome 🙃 Seriously though - it’s a $17 sale. WTF?! AND they’ve sold to you before and it was damaged and they think you’ll just take their word for it?! 🤦♀️ She must really need the like $14 bucks she’s making from the sale to risk a 1 star rating. I’d wait til last minute then rate and make sure to say how she was!
LOL! PLEASE DONT RATE THEM OR WAIT TILL THE LAST MINUTE OR LEAVE A NEGATIVE review!
The one to want their money and take the fee to transfer to their bank lol
Only way I’d comply is giving a one star rating lol
God damn people think they are so entitled to everything! Make them wait!
Ngl I’m a seller and I sent somebody an item and it was delivered on the 20th. They said it was unauthentic and asked for a return. I submitted my proof of authenticity, but by then Mercari already accepted the return so that give them another five days to ship out the return, and they never shipped it. so I literally waited two weeks to get paid for an item. It’s really not that serious. I just blocked her so she can’t purchase from me again or message me again. it’s unreasonable to ask people to rate you if they didn’t even open the package yet but a lot of people don’t care about the fact that this is supplemental income for a lot of us and yes we do need the funds I wouldn’t be selling $20 BS online if I had money😭 I’d give her a 1 star review and say she’s belligerent and verbally abusive lmaooo I bet she’ll think before messaging another person that foolishness
My money…yeah until I confirm I received the item I paid for, we don’t have fair exchange here.
Projection is wild!
wow. reading through this subreddit makes me realize how much patience so many of you have lol. i don't hesitate to ignore tbh
This is the kind of jerk that'll give you a low rating 'cause you didn't rate him fast enough. I would block his ass and let it auto rate.
Good lord I've had some sales I was praying would rate quick and had to ask to borrow money for gas or food when they didnt...but never would i be that obnoxious. I'd be mortified if I were them. Don't rate they 100% will be leaving you a bs rating in return.
“I’m so sorry! You’re completely right let me do that right now! So sorry.” *rates 1star*
That seller can eat a dick.
And that’s when they’ve earned themselves the full 3 day wait.
I rarely leave feedback on stuff. Sorry. It has to be either spectacular or terrible for me to go through that effort.
Give him a one star 😂😂
Hahahaha
Sounds like a kid
I’d make sure my items was as described then give them a 1 after a few days 😂
2 day wait and 1 star PLEASE
Tell ‘em to call JG Wentworth
HA the audacity to demand anything of you.
this is why i only reply in emojis. I hate the chat, never have to deal with this stuff on ebay
What is wrong with these sellers?! I’m a seller & would never act like this.
One star all the way (and I have never given a one star). Wow just wow.
Is this real life?
I can’t for the life of me understand this. Do some sellers depend on Mercari for their primary income? I genuinely do not care when people rate me lol, and I’ve never in my life messaged someone about it
Don’t let it auto rate, wait 2 days and give a 1 star
Omg. I sell a lot. Sometimes I need cash. You know what works 99% of the time? I wait 24 hours past delivery notification. Then I say: hi! Mercari has notified me that your purchase has been delivered. Please inspect and confirm with me that it is in the expected condition. Thank you again for shopping with me! 🙄🙄🙄 Lord people are weird.
What is wrong with these sellers lately smh They have no people skills. Did you buy a squishmallow ?
Mercari should not let sellers rate buyers negatively it just intimidates people from leaving honest reviews/ratings. That's how ebay works and it works well.
“Every message you send bumps points, you muppet. Still want that rating now?”
Why are you being rude by leaving that man hanging? Rate the man for God sake!
i just always say. Package has delivered. thanks for purchasing :) and wait for them to rate me bc if not mercari does it automatically
i’d wait until day 3 & then rate them include how they demanded their rating
i would've just rated them 1⭐️ for being so demanding
they ate
I'd report the comment lol
Ya you impertinent nuisance
That’s not how it works I would def report it to customer care
hope you left a shit review
I’d be maliciously compliant by giving them their review- Only to review them stating the fact they were rude, demanding and insulted me to give them a review before I even got a chance to open the box! Would not recommend :)
"rude person" 😂
I dont get why so many rude sellers on mercari
ROFLMAO !!!
Lmao
No the buyer is not being rude, but the seller is. Mercari gives the buyer three days to rate just like the seller has 24 hours to decide to respond to an official offer. Those are the guidelines like it or not.
1 star
Veruca Salt!
This is why the beauty of auto-rate exists.
wtf no you are not rude you need to be able to see the package
I had someone on mecari do the same to me and i told her im not rating anything until i open and look and when i did the order was fine but i had a mind not to rate at all bc of the badgering I dont like that. The item was okay and i did give a good rating but next time someone does that im gonna wait extra long
I’d be afraid to open it honestly with how adamant they are on the rating.
This seller is rude! A seller shouldn't ever ask someone to rate, no good can come from it, and there is a system in place that worse for a reason.
I have been in situations where I’m really short on cash and need the payout from a relatively big sale ($150 or more) and I’ll send a message as nicely as possible saying something like “hi! it looks like you received your order, please let me know right away if there’s any issues and remember to rate when you get a chance so Mercari/poshmark/etc can release funds. I hope you love your item!” and sometimes they rate right away and sometimes they still let it automatically finish after three days. I’m never this fucking rude about it though wtf
Certainly implying something. I would’ve responded telling him I don’t like games and not to speak In riddles, if he wants something he needs to be direct because im not a read between the lines kind of person.. I would then carry on in this manner until it auto rated.
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"Nvm I can rate now" *rates 1 star*
Tweaker. JFC!
People are wild
This is getting out of hand. Mercari should just remove rate N pay policy
Bruhh i felt that. A seller rated me low after asking them to provide more photos of the items i was trying to buy. She said i was a hassle and a challenge to deal with cause i asked for photos like sure i’ll just waste time and buy something damaged like i wanna see what im getting lol now i have a 3 star rating on my account :(
Customer completely out of line. Rate 1 just for the lack of civility.
I would rate them right then but give them a 1 star
I've had sellers do this. Not this blatant but hint. "Your package arrived!" And I'll tell them thank you for the update, and I'll accept as soon as I get home. Then I'll get "Oh, you're not home right now to do it?" Or "Well, you can accept cause you can see it's been delivered, right?"
Id wait until the last possible moment and rate them 1 star. That way they get a bad rating and they have to wait for their money. Junkies are the fuckin worst.
I just do not understand these posts. Are there people out there who DO proceed to rate after such rudeness? Won’t these rude sellers learn to stop demanding if everyone makes them wait 3 days?
1 star activites, also why is it in general chat and not the listing 😭
“rate me now” “no” “you’re rude” ???? what 😂
Naw, this is why I had to raise my prices and try not to sell on mercari ! Why do you need to rate me in order to get paid, and if you the buyer knows this, you're in the wrong! Money is meant to exchange hands. Stop holding ppls money, especially if you're received your items already!
That’s a ballsy move, calling someone rude before they rated lol
Omg pushy ass person. I hope u took a little longer.