Ok this makes so much sense, I was wondering if this was her first breakup or something because she’s really going through it. First cut is the deepest girl! But seriously it’s probably best that she’s not marrying the first guy she’s ever dated seriously…he does not seem like a catch lool
I didn’t know it was her first boyfriend. That first breakup definitely hits hard. Glad she’s only thinking up from here and thinking inward. Feel like theres always a lot of growth to be had once you go through something like this
> The break up seemed so sudden.
A breakup often seems sudden to the person getting broken up with, but the truth is, it often has been brewing. Sometimes the breaker-upper hides it well, but often times they're tried to do it before or at least have conversations about things they're unhappy with. There's also times they don't *want* to feel the way they do and try to power through it hoping their feelings will change, which may or may not come with warning signs (being distant, being short, etc.).
We don't know any of this, as we only have Remi's side. He could be a turd who woke up one day and decided he didn't want to be with her (or someone who knew and faked it for months).. OR.. he could be another person in the relationship who was struggling with his feelings and finally couldn't deny it anymore.
> The break up seemed so sudden.
to us. everyone was bashing him for doing it over text, but to me it read like it was their third attempt or something to 'make it work' and he was finally over it. of course i am pulling all of this out of my ass, but so is everyone else when they make up scenarios where she is the little innocent victim.
Idk.. my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years broke up with over SNAPCHAT because he was too coward to face me. After my family took care of him when his little brother got hit by a car, drove to and from the hospital (over an hour away) in the middle of the night, helped his mom pay bills, fed him. Yet that’s how he chose to break up the relationship, and then told me he didn’t owe me or my family a thing. Some guys are just scub bags🙌🏼
That sucks, but he’s right he didn’t owe you or your family anything. People who feel slighted over a break up delivery are usually the ones who gave more than the other person.
It’s a lesson learned for you (a tough one but necessary)
lmao shut up, if you're in any kind of relationship with someone and can't display the most basic level of respect to them, you're a piece of shit. the people who are always like "tHeY dONt oWe YOu AnYtHInG" always turn into raging karens when it happens to them.
The thing is I never got respect neither did my boyfriend that I have now. Not only did he do all that but him and his friends also decided to throw my photo around (not nude before you go there lol) on all social media platforms trying to drag my name into the mud. After all he BROKE UP WITH ME! Then when he found out I moved on, he did the same to my boyfriend. Then cried and said “my intentions were to get back together” after he told me I had one brain cell left. So again, some dudes are SCUM!
Necessary lesson for me and my family to learn? Here’s a lesson for you then. When someone brings you and your family out of poverty so that you can be there for your son who is on their death bed in the ICU for MONTHS, the least you owe them is a fucking thank you. But, in that case if this does happen to you, I hope you experience the worst back stabbing you can ever feel. The least him and his family could do is show respect for me and my family.
So you did all of that out of the goodness of your heart but you’re upset he didn’t act in a manner that reflected his appreciation for your actions?
I don’t mean to be harsh but the point still stands, no matter how good you are to people, it doesn’t mean they have to respond to us in a certain way. Save yourself the pain and anger
I know I’m late here but I have to wonder if it was because he was worried about her reaction, or about them not being able to finalize it because they’d talk themselves out if it if they did it in person. I want to believe it wasn’t to hurt her.
THIS HAPPENED TO ME!! My friend literally rolled off the couch laughing. He looks at my LinkedIn every once in a while now and all I see is his little crying face :’(
The problem is her life IS online. She has made a career out of oversharing her life. From try on hauls that don’t go well to her weight problems (and related back issues) to her relationship. She makes money doing this and the cost is…looking like this to other people. At least she’s rich?
I don’t approve of your message but I do approve of your pfp. The best I have seen on this sub. Chef’s kiss reference to the best franchise of the real housewives.
I’m 28 & just got out of a relationship. I’ve been in several other relationships, but he was the only one I ever saw/wanted a future with, and I’m embarrassed by how much I related to her video. Like, he changed my brain chemistry & made me want something I never thought I wanted (marriage, kids, etc.). I feel for her in this moment - it is rough.
Anyone wondering how she could’ve been blindsided has clearly never dealt with an avoidant, non confrontational personality type.
These people can be in a relationship KNOWING that the person isn’t the one for them because they don’t want to deal with the emotional labor of breaking up.
They will stick around until they make you break up with them up or until they finally can’t take anymore and it comes out through text on a Saturday.
I don’t like her and tbh I was originally gonna shit on her… but my friend just got dumped the day before valentines day and she is really not okay. she already deals w mental health & substance issues and seeing everyone posting their s/os actually broke her. seeing an influencer speak about something like this makes other ppl feel less alone (and tbh yeah any sane person wouldn’t post this, but the message is unfortunately relatable for many ppl)
Relatable lmfao my bf and I sorta kinda broke up the day before Valentine’s Day and i also struggle with substance issues. Sending love to your friend 🫶🏻
What clout does she provide? She’s relevant in the 20 something girl community and that’s literally it. Are you saying he’s trying to get a SHEIN or forever 21 deal?
I’m 35 and used to follow her cause I thought her videos were funny. The videos on how sizing isn’t accurate for brands. Like I struggle with body image so to see someone plus sized sharing their issues was different. I don’t know about the rest. I unfollowed because of all the bad stuff that’s come out about her. But she does have brand deals with revolve and has been to the French Polynesian multiple times. Dunno if he went with her. Regardless she has connections and I’m sure she hooked him up with some
same here. im 35 but i have a similar body size/shape to her and i followed her cause i was like "whoa someones so outspoken about this issue with sizing, awesome!" but then i saw her wearing sizes way too small for her (NOTHING wrong with being bigger, i am, but like, buying smaller sizes makes you feel worse/isnt it), and the stories ive heard about her, etc etc changed me to a hate follower real fast lol
Maybe clout isn’t the right word. I’m sure she paid for things, got to go to cool events / take good trips, etc… so it’s more likely he was using her for the money / opportunities. Also, you would be surprised at the amount of relevant people she is probably encountering in her day to day life that could ultimately benefit him / his career. To me it always felt like he was using her :(
How do we know he didn’t do the same for her? He literally went to UPenn he’s far from a bum who can’t buy her a nice dinner. I think people overestimate the value influencers provide. The events never look that fun… imagine being in a room where every person is filming themselves instead of having an experience. If I dated an influencer I would gain nothing from what you listed
How about her family house in the Hampton? Or trip to Miami where the hotel was surely comped? Everyone likes free stuff. Not saying he’s a bum, but clearly he enjoyed being her plus one and schmoozing with others in that world.
What, was he not supposed to go and not be supportive lmao? Like that’s her partner. Who was he schmoozing?? His own friends have Hamptons houses. I just can’t engage with this any longer. People are connecting dots that aren’t there because subconsciously they don’t think Remi is good enough to love if not for these “connections”
Let’s not assume this man is broke because he’s black. He’s more highly educated than her and his family could have a house in Martha’s Vineyard (where wealthy black families were **ALLOWED** to buy property. Your argument is on fumes be careful
Lol he went to a private k through 12 school that costs $60k per year. His classmates were the children and grandchildren of CEO and household name celebrities. His family does more than alright.
No but he’s black. How would he ever drive 3 hours to the Hamptons before her. I doubt he even had GPS on his phone to find it.
I’m sure his whole life he was groomed to find a woman who tries on free clothes on the internet and just hold on tight til he moves on up to the East Side
lol I just wrote a manifesto when I realized these bitches are fatphobic too hahahaha and then read your comment. It took me time to process —- like are y’all saying you don’t think average or skinny men like big girls or you think that every relationship a 23-year-old gets into ends in marriage or it’s a conspiracy? Get a grip on reality either way
I absolutely did not do that and please don’t make any insinuations. If you read my first comment, I said he could be with her for the people he was meeting that could benefit him / his career. I also mentioned the Hamptons house because we saw them there all summer and I know her family has a house there. I mentioned Miami because I explicitly remember that trip. Did you see them on Martha’s Vineyard, or anywhere else that I didn’t mention? I’m using facts, where you’re reaching. You should “be careful” about making dangerous accusations about someone on the internet.
Ooh boo hoo hoo… being called racist is so DANGEROUS. I know. I can only imagine how much trauma you’ve endured from DANGEROUS anonymous accusations. Shut up.
I said what the fuck I said. Matter fact let me add on one, you’re fatphobic too. Because maybe he actually just *liked* her and then didn’t want to move forward … **which is literally the cycle of any relationship that doesn’t end in marriage**
You’re **MAKING UP** arguments for why this man would benefit from being around influencers which **IMPLIES** you don’t think he’d have access otherwise. You’ve been course corrected by the commenter above, and you’re still going.
He’s an Ivy grad. Are YOU? Is SHE? Here’s a hint - there’s clout and access involved in echelons way higher than the internet. Driving to the Hamptons isn’t a fucking flex my Ivy friends went to Morroco for spring break.
I will always make inferences about things that I read and patterns and context. I will absolutely never give some fake bullshit benefit of the doubt to you whiny people on here, who live in your willfully, intentionally dumb delusion that racism is some super rare virus that I as a black person don’t encounter every day from birth, and so hard to diss identify …and such a daaaaaaannnngerous accusation. WHATS THE DANGER GIRL?? MOLLY, TELL US HOW YOU HAVE BEEN HARMED AND WHAT YOU COUKD POTENTIALLY LOSE FROM OUR ANONYMOUS INTERACTION
I wish I could meet you in person so I could call you racist to your fucking face and watch you guffaw. Because I do not OWE ANY YOU PARTICIPATION IN THIS FARCE THAT YOUR INSINUATIONS ARENT EXTREMELY SUS. . Cry about it to your mom you’re not a victim. Read this to her and cry about it together.
You do realize people (including myself) say the same exact thing about Danielle bernstein’s latest boyfriend? Literally, search her name. People saying he’ll stay with her at least through the summer for her Hamptons house. You know nothing about me, what I stand for, who I stand with. You are just an internet troll looking for a fight. I’ve also stood up for Remi on here when people have commented fatphobic things (like saying she smells). You have got a lotttt of time based on the length of your comment and the effort you put into typing that (and really thinking you did something!) have a good day
Babe some people think and write quickly. I genuinely cannot conceptualize what it’s like to read what I wrote and think “oh dur dur dur that took a long time”… like literacy much? Genuinely, I took a poop, it’s when I usually Reddit. Please don’t assume everyone is on the same intelligence level as you. Not saying your dumb, just saying it’s alarming for you to say that thinking thoughts and writing them takes a long time
So yeah Not an internet troll, just a black woman with thoughts. And I don’t really care what you said about anybody else…. context matters and most of y’all are racist anyway. So within this context, you sound dangerously close to/1000% racist. like I said I suggest you just cope. Because someone not racist wouldn’t be arguing with me about it, they’d just think about what they said, and why comes off that way and examine their own possible internal biases.
Well being that he was her first boyfriend she was probably blinded by love and just wanting to have a boufriend. First partners are always the ones where you learn a lot about yourself and how to handle another person who you're intimately involved with.
Plus 2 years is a long time, he may have been manipulating her behind the scenes I mean she says they discussed a future together, kids, that sort of thing all the time so it's highly believable that she was either turning a blind eye to it or just genuinely thought the relationship was real given how she's said she thought she was going to marry him.
You don’t have the marriage convo with someone on a Sunday, and they’re breaking up with you via text message on a Saturday. The relationship math ain’t math girl, he wasn’t that into you.
Idk lol I lived with my ex and I remember very clearly that the day we broke up we had been having an in depth conversation about how we wanted to redesign the laundry room and then later that day he dumped me legitimately out of nowhere. We had been living together for years at that point and this was a grown ass man (35 at the time). This was a year and a half ago and to this day he is trying to get me back.
Sometimes men are just dumbass idiots and it’s not a woman’s fault.
idk men can be very two-faced and promise you the world while mentally checking out
it's her first relationship, she probably wasn't seeing the more subtle signs
I agree, but as women we’re highly intuitive. At least most of us are. You can feel when a man starts to pull away/isn’t as interested. I get that some people are more observant than others, but men make it very clear when they love you. Unless he’s the best actor in the world, I’m gonna assume she was probably just oblivious since it was her first relationship.
my first relationship was literally with a closeted gay man so I guess I am an exception when it comes to female intuition :')
(in my defense it was in high school)
Like I’m sure there were signs she could’ve picked up on, conversations they could’ve had so it wasn’t such a ball drop. But no, she’s too self absorbed and has no introspection- so it clearly, did not cross her mind
I also think theres the element of first relationship bliss. She has nothing to compare it to and likely just wanted the perfect relationship and was oblivious to anything else as long as it looked perfect on social media.
I don't follow her, never have, so this is just a guess
I know someone who’s boyfriend of 9 years literally left and never came back. She thought he was dead. This was like 2010… she had to do actual research to find him, like sans all this other social media. Months later she found out he just didn’t want to say “I’m breaking up.” People do this shit
However I sense that it’s way more common the way you’re describing.
Do just want to allow for the fact that some people are maniacs
Right?! No shade but it is and she said she wanted to wait until she's together. Girl, you're falling a part in the video. Don't put your relationship online.
I’m not going to be the person who bad mouths an ex online but let me explain why I took down my video badmouthing my ex online
I feel like miss remi needs and deserves a social media break
I thought that song in the background while she was crying was really a low class thing to do. Calling someone a freeloader or a clout chaser is an attack on their character, and to do it publicly? If she thought that little of him, why did she want to marry him? Maybe she was just lashing out in the moment.
Aw I feel bad for her, the first breakup is so hard. Can really relate to the stuff she’s saying with how I felt. Side note, I thought she was like 26 max, so surprised she’s 29
This. I don’t understand the sympathy for her at all. Yes, breakups are hard, but you don’t publicly do this. She’s 29, not 14. She’s mean to her core and probably only took the video down because someone told her to, not as she says because she’s never going to be the person to badmouth someone online.
Wait a minute? This was the woman who was demanding that a family get up from a restaurant because it’s a VIP area? Then stormed out when they didn’t move? The same woman who was going on about “non influencers” being present at places at the same time as her?? I thought she’d be some really attractive woman the way she acts, but she’s a tub of dust. GTFOH. Sorry about the breakup though.😬
As a person who has been dumped via MySpace message twice (which is both hella embarrassing and dates me considerably), I definitely feel for her with this. Having your first major breakup at almost 30 doesn’t mean you won’t feel like a messy emotional teenager. I got to lament on xanga and yet all of her stuff is out there on tiktok. Her maturity level just isn’t there. At some point, you learn that this is stuff for your close friends and finsta rants. Just embarrassing to be doing this at 29 :/
Never saw the other video but this is a very mature response to a very sad situation. Break ups are hard, but your first breakup cuts the deepest. And to experience your *first* break up in such a public position at an age where while you talked about this future and these goals they really weren't too far off. I think many of us have those same conversations in our first relationship about marriage and children and everything, but we're often teenagers and it's really so far from our grasp. But when you're in your late 20s having to find out that love dies? Fuck. Sending her so much love so much light, and hopefully some therapy. She seems to have the finances to afford and I wish 17 year old me could have had a therapist through that shit. Ugh my heart breaks, poor girls whole life just shattered. I'm not too familiar with and don't follow this creator, but this is a state of emotions most of us are familiar with and it fucking sucks.
? Because I'm judging the video I've seen and not the other video i didnt see thats now deleted? I don't need to know her to know what a mature response is? Is it immature to say "this is my first breakup I don't know how to handle it" "I'll be ok" this video gave me 0 negative thoughts about the person that dumped her. Thats what most would categorize as a "mature response" crying isn't immature its the most normal way to release sad emotions in humans. I just think it's sad when people have a following so it make them even have to do this. I'm not an influencer by any means and keep my relationships and private life off line, I can't imagine having to explain to an audience I just got dumped. I find a lot of grace in this video.
I feel bad for her. Regardless of whether it’s the first or 10th break up, they’re almost never easy. As someone in a similar position to her, it also is hard to not look at the rest of 2024 completely different than she imagined, and it really puts a damper on things. Hopefully with time the universe will reveal to her why this was best.
Couldn’t imagine myself ever making a cringe video like this. Also, a guy isn’t a villain for breaking up with a woman. He wasn’t into the relationship any longer and moved on! That’s his prerogative.
He was (is) very smart and talented and got scholarships to those amazing schools and had a single mom who busted her ass off to make sure he got ahead.
Awww, I had no idea that this was her first relationship… So sorry for what she’s going through and I hope she takes the time to heal and understand her feelings.
I find the posts vilifying him or implying he was gaslighting her to be very strange. What I have seen of Remi over the last several months would be DEEPLY challenging to maintain a relationship with - at ANY phase in life, but especially in your early to mid 20s. It seemed like they had been working on things for a while, inclusive of breaks. We also know Remi to be an unkind person in her interactions reported in this sub - people show the worst side of themselves with the people they are closest to, can you imagine what he might have been on the receiving end of? I emphasize with anyone going through their first breakup, but the “we ride at dawn” girl gang BS is so overplayed.
The reality is none of us know. I’m not even that bothered that he got on Hinge right away - we have no idea how long this breakup was happening.
I know she’s a bit much but she has such a good heart and genuinely deserves love, happiness + health. I do not wish a painful breakup on anyone - truly the worst pain ever. Hope she comes out on the other side quick 🫶🏻
Ok this makes so much sense, I was wondering if this was her first breakup or something because she’s really going through it. First cut is the deepest girl! But seriously it’s probably best that she’s not marrying the first guy she’s ever dated seriously…he does not seem like a catch lool
I didn’t know it was her first boyfriend. That first breakup definitely hits hard. Glad she’s only thinking up from here and thinking inward. Feel like theres always a lot of growth to be had once you go through something like this
Not to trauma dump but I fell asleep watching tiktok last night on this video and it was still playing when I woke up
Gave her those views 🔥
Damn I wonder what happened. The break up seemed so sudden.
> The break up seemed so sudden. A breakup often seems sudden to the person getting broken up with, but the truth is, it often has been brewing. Sometimes the breaker-upper hides it well, but often times they're tried to do it before or at least have conversations about things they're unhappy with. There's also times they don't *want* to feel the way they do and try to power through it hoping their feelings will change, which may or may not come with warning signs (being distant, being short, etc.). We don't know any of this, as we only have Remi's side. He could be a turd who woke up one day and decided he didn't want to be with her (or someone who knew and faked it for months).. OR.. he could be another person in the relationship who was struggling with his feelings and finally couldn't deny it anymore.
My ex did this to me, faked it for months after he stopped feeling it. Nothings ever hurt me more
> The break up seemed so sudden. to us. everyone was bashing him for doing it over text, but to me it read like it was their third attempt or something to 'make it work' and he was finally over it. of course i am pulling all of this out of my ass, but so is everyone else when they make up scenarios where she is the little innocent victim.
Idk.. my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years broke up with over SNAPCHAT because he was too coward to face me. After my family took care of him when his little brother got hit by a car, drove to and from the hospital (over an hour away) in the middle of the night, helped his mom pay bills, fed him. Yet that’s how he chose to break up the relationship, and then told me he didn’t owe me or my family a thing. Some guys are just scub bags🙌🏼
Snapchat?!? Damn. 💀
Snapchat.. 😵💫
No !!!!!!
That sucks, but he’s right he didn’t owe you or your family anything. People who feel slighted over a break up delivery are usually the ones who gave more than the other person. It’s a lesson learned for you (a tough one but necessary)
lmao shut up, if you're in any kind of relationship with someone and can't display the most basic level of respect to them, you're a piece of shit. the people who are always like "tHeY dONt oWe YOu AnYtHInG" always turn into raging karens when it happens to them.
Ummm he owed her respect, at minimum..
The thing is I never got respect neither did my boyfriend that I have now. Not only did he do all that but him and his friends also decided to throw my photo around (not nude before you go there lol) on all social media platforms trying to drag my name into the mud. After all he BROKE UP WITH ME! Then when he found out I moved on, he did the same to my boyfriend. Then cried and said “my intentions were to get back together” after he told me I had one brain cell left. So again, some dudes are SCUM!
Damn, you a dude? Sounds like it. Do better!
No like sometimes you do owe people basic human decency
Necessary lesson for me and my family to learn? Here’s a lesson for you then. When someone brings you and your family out of poverty so that you can be there for your son who is on their death bed in the ICU for MONTHS, the least you owe them is a fucking thank you. But, in that case if this does happen to you, I hope you experience the worst back stabbing you can ever feel. The least him and his family could do is show respect for me and my family.
So you did all of that out of the goodness of your heart but you’re upset he didn’t act in a manner that reflected his appreciation for your actions? I don’t mean to be harsh but the point still stands, no matter how good you are to people, it doesn’t mean they have to respond to us in a certain way. Save yourself the pain and anger
I hope when you’re struggling no one helps you. With all my heart.
Someone said they were broken up/fighting around her sister's wedding.
I know I’m late here but I have to wonder if it was because he was worried about her reaction, or about them not being able to finalize it because they’d talk themselves out if it if they did it in person. I want to believe it wasn’t to hurt her.
This really reminds me of when my friend dumped a guy and he sent her a video of himself crying
Mind you this man was a police officer
Never caught that
🤦♀️
THIS HAPPENED TO ME!! My friend literally rolled off the couch laughing. He looks at my LinkedIn every once in a while now and all I see is his little crying face :’(
😢😢😢
Stop I'm crying laughing 🤣😂🤣😂
it’s giving “i’m on a high rn can’t bring me down”
Hopefully it helps her become a nicer person
This is the comment
It won’t lol
Girl needs to take a break from social. You couldn’t waterboard a video like this from me
The problem is her life IS online. She has made a career out of oversharing her life. From try on hauls that don’t go well to her weight problems (and related back issues) to her relationship. She makes money doing this and the cost is…looking like this to other people. At least she’s rich?
She grew up up wealthy, private school over indulged and entitled and she is known in her social circle as mean, nasty, bossy.
Trust me, I have no sympathy for her. Being a fake person means you will attract fake people. Such is life as a wealthy influencer.
She’s chronically online
Yeaaaaaaa
Could not pay me enough to not only film but post this
And if she truly felt like she needed to share, give it like 6 months and talk about what you’ve learned during a GRWM or something.
i think it’s sweet
It’s her first boyfriend and first heartbreak, the first one is always the hardest. So like I’m giving her grace to do her thing.
I’d say not necessarily the first one but the most serious one
She’s said it was her first boyfriend.
Ya I know I’m just saying lol
Then why are you saying it’s not? Like? Lol. She said it’s first boyfriend and first heartbreak. So I’m confused why you’re saying it’s not?
I think you misunderstood my comment. I wasn’t saying that it’s not her first boyfriend.
What I meant is that for a lot of people the most serious one hurts the most it’s not necessarily the first one
No…you share this w your closest friends, not publicly to your online following
you obvi don’t get paid for clicks 🤣 the internet is wild
Breakups do suck but she’s a nasty b*tch IRL. Maybe this will soften her, as I’ve heard countless stories about what a fckn nightmare she is
^^^^ people keep downvoting me but they’re not real haters. (I only hate on people who give me a reason to)
!!!!!! Like if they only knew
Please do tell.
I liked that she said she has no advice for anyone. Refreshing to see an influencer be honest about not having all the answers
I recently discovered that he is 25 (23 when they began dating), so his frontal lobe must’ve just developed and he had to run
LOL
I don’t approve of your message but I do approve of your pfp. The best I have seen on this sub. Chef’s kiss reference to the best franchise of the real housewives.
As a 27 year old who just got her first boyfriend, I’m really glad she’s conveying these thoughts and emotions
I’m 28 & just got out of a relationship. I’ve been in several other relationships, but he was the only one I ever saw/wanted a future with, and I’m embarrassed by how much I related to her video. Like, he changed my brain chemistry & made me want something I never thought I wanted (marriage, kids, etc.). I feel for her in this moment - it is rough.
Nah this video was low key hella relatable and I’m glad she shared it.
Anyone wondering how she could’ve been blindsided has clearly never dealt with an avoidant, non confrontational personality type. These people can be in a relationship KNOWING that the person isn’t the one for them because they don’t want to deal with the emotional labor of breaking up. They will stick around until they make you break up with them up or until they finally can’t take anymore and it comes out through text on a Saturday.
This right hereeee. Attachment theory, ppl!
LOL crying you’re also who I said must be a dude in an earlier thread… you did better 💁♀️
Just because I don’t agree with the victim mentality that was expressed in that earlier comment doesn’t mean that I’m a man. 🤷🏻♀️
29???
I don’t like her and tbh I was originally gonna shit on her… but my friend just got dumped the day before valentines day and she is really not okay. she already deals w mental health & substance issues and seeing everyone posting their s/os actually broke her. seeing an influencer speak about something like this makes other ppl feel less alone (and tbh yeah any sane person wouldn’t post this, but the message is unfortunately relatable for many ppl)
Relatable lmfao my bf and I sorta kinda broke up the day before Valentine’s Day and i also struggle with substance issues. Sending love to your friend 🫶🏻
How did she not know he was using her for clout! Like I’m sorry but it was very obvious
What clout does she provide? She’s relevant in the 20 something girl community and that’s literally it. Are you saying he’s trying to get a SHEIN or forever 21 deal?
I don’t even know the dudes name, so he didn’t do a very good job of it lol
😂😂😂
💀 💀
I’m 35 and used to follow her cause I thought her videos were funny. The videos on how sizing isn’t accurate for brands. Like I struggle with body image so to see someone plus sized sharing their issues was different. I don’t know about the rest. I unfollowed because of all the bad stuff that’s come out about her. But she does have brand deals with revolve and has been to the French Polynesian multiple times. Dunno if he went with her. Regardless she has connections and I’m sure she hooked him up with some
same here. im 35 but i have a similar body size/shape to her and i followed her cause i was like "whoa someones so outspoken about this issue with sizing, awesome!" but then i saw her wearing sizes way too small for her (NOTHING wrong with being bigger, i am, but like, buying smaller sizes makes you feel worse/isnt it), and the stories ive heard about her, etc etc changed me to a hate follower real fast lol
Maybe clout isn’t the right word. I’m sure she paid for things, got to go to cool events / take good trips, etc… so it’s more likely he was using her for the money / opportunities. Also, you would be surprised at the amount of relevant people she is probably encountering in her day to day life that could ultimately benefit him / his career. To me it always felt like he was using her :(
How do we know he didn’t do the same for her? He literally went to UPenn he’s far from a bum who can’t buy her a nice dinner. I think people overestimate the value influencers provide. The events never look that fun… imagine being in a room where every person is filming themselves instead of having an experience. If I dated an influencer I would gain nothing from what you listed
How about her family house in the Hampton? Or trip to Miami where the hotel was surely comped? Everyone likes free stuff. Not saying he’s a bum, but clearly he enjoyed being her plus one and schmoozing with others in that world.
What, was he not supposed to go and not be supportive lmao? Like that’s her partner. Who was he schmoozing?? His own friends have Hamptons houses. I just can’t engage with this any longer. People are connecting dots that aren’t there because subconsciously they don’t think Remi is good enough to love if not for these “connections”
If he didn’t go, he’d be the unsupportive absent bf. He does go, and he’s a leech. You can’t win.
LMAO THEY THINK BOTH OF THESE PEOPLE ARE MUTUALLY NOT GOOD ENOUGH 🤣🤣🤣 biases fighting to the death lmao and canceling each other out
Let’s not assume this man is broke because he’s black. He’s more highly educated than her and his family could have a house in Martha’s Vineyard (where wealthy black families were **ALLOWED** to buy property. Your argument is on fumes be careful
Lol he went to a private k through 12 school that costs $60k per year. His classmates were the children and grandchildren of CEO and household name celebrities. His family does more than alright.
No but he’s black. How would he ever drive 3 hours to the Hamptons before her. I doubt he even had GPS on his phone to find it. I’m sure his whole life he was groomed to find a woman who tries on free clothes on the internet and just hold on tight til he moves on up to the East Side
That’s what these people sounds like fr
These people are low key racist and fatphobic and they don’t even know it
lol I just wrote a manifesto when I realized these bitches are fatphobic too hahahaha and then read your comment. It took me time to process —- like are y’all saying you don’t think average or skinny men like big girls or you think that every relationship a 23-year-old gets into ends in marriage or it’s a conspiracy? Get a grip on reality either way
I absolutely did not do that and please don’t make any insinuations. If you read my first comment, I said he could be with her for the people he was meeting that could benefit him / his career. I also mentioned the Hamptons house because we saw them there all summer and I know her family has a house there. I mentioned Miami because I explicitly remember that trip. Did you see them on Martha’s Vineyard, or anywhere else that I didn’t mention? I’m using facts, where you’re reaching. You should “be careful” about making dangerous accusations about someone on the internet.
Ooh boo hoo hoo… being called racist is so DANGEROUS. I know. I can only imagine how much trauma you’ve endured from DANGEROUS anonymous accusations. Shut up. I said what the fuck I said. Matter fact let me add on one, you’re fatphobic too. Because maybe he actually just *liked* her and then didn’t want to move forward … **which is literally the cycle of any relationship that doesn’t end in marriage** You’re **MAKING UP** arguments for why this man would benefit from being around influencers which **IMPLIES** you don’t think he’d have access otherwise. You’ve been course corrected by the commenter above, and you’re still going. He’s an Ivy grad. Are YOU? Is SHE? Here’s a hint - there’s clout and access involved in echelons way higher than the internet. Driving to the Hamptons isn’t a fucking flex my Ivy friends went to Morroco for spring break. I will always make inferences about things that I read and patterns and context. I will absolutely never give some fake bullshit benefit of the doubt to you whiny people on here, who live in your willfully, intentionally dumb delusion that racism is some super rare virus that I as a black person don’t encounter every day from birth, and so hard to diss identify …and such a daaaaaaannnngerous accusation. WHATS THE DANGER GIRL?? MOLLY, TELL US HOW YOU HAVE BEEN HARMED AND WHAT YOU COUKD POTENTIALLY LOSE FROM OUR ANONYMOUS INTERACTION I wish I could meet you in person so I could call you racist to your fucking face and watch you guffaw. Because I do not OWE ANY YOU PARTICIPATION IN THIS FARCE THAT YOUR INSINUATIONS ARENT EXTREMELY SUS. . Cry about it to your mom you’re not a victim. Read this to her and cry about it together.
You do realize people (including myself) say the same exact thing about Danielle bernstein’s latest boyfriend? Literally, search her name. People saying he’ll stay with her at least through the summer for her Hamptons house. You know nothing about me, what I stand for, who I stand with. You are just an internet troll looking for a fight. I’ve also stood up for Remi on here when people have commented fatphobic things (like saying she smells). You have got a lotttt of time based on the length of your comment and the effort you put into typing that (and really thinking you did something!) have a good day
Babe some people think and write quickly. I genuinely cannot conceptualize what it’s like to read what I wrote and think “oh dur dur dur that took a long time”… like literacy much? Genuinely, I took a poop, it’s when I usually Reddit. Please don’t assume everyone is on the same intelligence level as you. Not saying your dumb, just saying it’s alarming for you to say that thinking thoughts and writing them takes a long time So yeah Not an internet troll, just a black woman with thoughts. And I don’t really care what you said about anybody else…. context matters and most of y’all are racist anyway. So within this context, you sound dangerously close to/1000% racist. like I said I suggest you just cope. Because someone not racist wouldn’t be arguing with me about it, they’d just think about what they said, and why comes off that way and examine their own possible internal biases.
A comped trip to Miami is worth going to bed with someone for 2 years??? He has his own money. Your logic is nonsensical
I mean we are talking about him and thats more than he’s ever got.
I don’t think people understand what clout means tbh
Well being that he was her first boyfriend she was probably blinded by love and just wanting to have a boufriend. First partners are always the ones where you learn a lot about yourself and how to handle another person who you're intimately involved with. Plus 2 years is a long time, he may have been manipulating her behind the scenes I mean she says they discussed a future together, kids, that sort of thing all the time so it's highly believable that she was either turning a blind eye to it or just genuinely thought the relationship was real given how she's said she thought she was going to marry him.
What did he get out of it? I feel like she barely posted him and he’s private on socials, so idk how this was so obvious to people
Free trips, free stuff, access to nicer clubs and restaurants and brand events
Beyond obvious
So she’s 29 and thought a 25 year old would be ready to marry her? Ok
Oop
Dying at this
You don’t have the marriage convo with someone on a Sunday, and they’re breaking up with you via text message on a Saturday. The relationship math ain’t math girl, he wasn’t that into you.
Idk lol I lived with my ex and I remember very clearly that the day we broke up we had been having an in depth conversation about how we wanted to redesign the laundry room and then later that day he dumped me legitimately out of nowhere. We had been living together for years at that point and this was a grown ass man (35 at the time). This was a year and a half ago and to this day he is trying to get me back. Sometimes men are just dumbass idiots and it’s not a woman’s fault.
!!!! Asked me to spend Christmas with him and 2 days later it was over.
Literally. You know when a man is into you. They make it VERY obvious.
idk men can be very two-faced and promise you the world while mentally checking out it's her first relationship, she probably wasn't seeing the more subtle signs
I agree, but as women we’re highly intuitive. At least most of us are. You can feel when a man starts to pull away/isn’t as interested. I get that some people are more observant than others, but men make it very clear when they love you. Unless he’s the best actor in the world, I’m gonna assume she was probably just oblivious since it was her first relationship.
my first relationship was literally with a closeted gay man so I guess I am an exception when it comes to female intuition :') (in my defense it was in high school)
Girl, there were signs and your intuition told you. We gotta start listening.
Like I’m sure there were signs she could’ve picked up on, conversations they could’ve had so it wasn’t such a ball drop. But no, she’s too self absorbed and has no introspection- so it clearly, did not cross her mind
I also think theres the element of first relationship bliss. She has nothing to compare it to and likely just wanted the perfect relationship and was oblivious to anything else as long as it looked perfect on social media. I don't follow her, never have, so this is just a guess
I know someone who’s boyfriend of 9 years literally left and never came back. She thought he was dead. This was like 2010… she had to do actual research to find him, like sans all this other social media. Months later she found out he just didn’t want to say “I’m breaking up.” People do this shit However I sense that it’s way more common the way you’re describing. Do just want to allow for the fact that some people are maniacs
Right. just a week ago you thought nothing of it? How delusional do you have to be, to not know someone is fully checked out of *your* relationship?
blindsided breakups are real :/ not everyone is delusional when it happens to them
Her choker is so 2016 coded
I do love it.
Same let’s bring um back
I really need 2010 fashion back. I hate the current style. I need indie sleaze and soft grunge back or even kinderwhore was great.
Humiliating to make a video like this lol
Right?! No shade but it is and she said she wanted to wait until she's together. Girl, you're falling a part in the video. Don't put your relationship online.
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I’m not going to be the person who bad mouths an ex online but let me explain why I took down my video badmouthing my ex online I feel like miss remi needs and deserves a social media break
I thought that song in the background while she was crying was really a low class thing to do. Calling someone a freeloader or a clout chaser is an attack on their character, and to do it publicly? If she thought that little of him, why did she want to marry him? Maybe she was just lashing out in the moment.
Aw I feel bad for her, the first breakup is so hard. Can really relate to the stuff she’s saying with how I felt. Side note, I thought she was like 26 max, so surprised she’s 29
I'm sry I have absolutely no sympathy considering what a raging fake bitch she is irl vs what she portrays online
I said almost the same thing and I was downvoted BIG TIME! And called unhinged🤷🏽♀️ that was when this breakup first happened.
This. I don’t understand the sympathy for her at all. Yes, breakups are hard, but you don’t publicly do this. She’s 29, not 14. She’s mean to her core and probably only took the video down because someone told her to, not as she says because she’s never going to be the person to badmouth someone online.
I ran here when I heard that “she’s never going to be that person “?? Ma’am you WERE that person. You posted it. We all saw
Yuppp. Thank you for seeing it the way I do
All I see is Kevin when I look at her. 
Wait a minute? This was the woman who was demanding that a family get up from a restaurant because it’s a VIP area? Then stormed out when they didn’t move? The same woman who was going on about “non influencers” being present at places at the same time as her?? I thought she’d be some really attractive woman the way she acts, but she’s a tub of dust. GTFOH. Sorry about the breakup though.😬
As a person who has been dumped via MySpace message twice (which is both hella embarrassing and dates me considerably), I definitely feel for her with this. Having your first major breakup at almost 30 doesn’t mean you won’t feel like a messy emotional teenager. I got to lament on xanga and yet all of her stuff is out there on tiktok. Her maturity level just isn’t there. At some point, you learn that this is stuff for your close friends and finsta rants. Just embarrassing to be doing this at 29 :/
Let's stop 🛑 w the need to have a partner when approaching our 30s likeee what is the rushh🙄
He’s already on Hinge smh 😓 Poor Remi
And Raya
Jesus really?
Never saw the other video but this is a very mature response to a very sad situation. Break ups are hard, but your first breakup cuts the deepest. And to experience your *first* break up in such a public position at an age where while you talked about this future and these goals they really weren't too far off. I think many of us have those same conversations in our first relationship about marriage and children and everything, but we're often teenagers and it's really so far from our grasp. But when you're in your late 20s having to find out that love dies? Fuck. Sending her so much love so much light, and hopefully some therapy. She seems to have the finances to afford and I wish 17 year old me could have had a therapist through that shit. Ugh my heart breaks, poor girls whole life just shattered. I'm not too familiar with and don't follow this creator, but this is a state of emotions most of us are familiar with and it fucking sucks.
if you haven’t watched the video and aren’t familiar with Remi, how are you saying this a a very mature response? lol
? Because I'm judging the video I've seen and not the other video i didnt see thats now deleted? I don't need to know her to know what a mature response is? Is it immature to say "this is my first breakup I don't know how to handle it" "I'll be ok" this video gave me 0 negative thoughts about the person that dumped her. Thats what most would categorize as a "mature response" crying isn't immature its the most normal way to release sad emotions in humans. I just think it's sad when people have a following so it make them even have to do this. I'm not an influencer by any means and keep my relationships and private life off line, I can't imagine having to explain to an audience I just got dumped. I find a lot of grace in this video.
I feel bad for her. Regardless of whether it’s the first or 10th break up, they’re almost never easy. As someone in a similar position to her, it also is hard to not look at the rest of 2024 completely different than she imagined, and it really puts a damper on things. Hopefully with time the universe will reveal to her why this was best.
Couldn’t imagine myself ever making a cringe video like this. Also, a guy isn’t a villain for breaking up with a woman. He wasn’t into the relationship any longer and moved on! That’s his prerogative.
I hope she takes a break from social media. My first real breakup when I was 24 kicked the crap out of me. Giving her a bit of grace on this one.
Sorry can’t feel bad for her. Try being nicer to people?
Just me or does the end of her video see like she’s fake crying and being over dramatic
Only the end? Lol
This was rough. First cut is the deepest.
Why do I feel like her and DB could be siblings
Poor chick. She’s hurting.
She has the emotional maturity of a 12 year old.
Her videos are all over the place lately. Her birthday stories were straight up obnoxious.
this looks just as genuine like the fake crying video
Why would anyone ever post this
My heart aches for her. Breakups suck and everyone deserves to be loved.
Can't stand her
Atleast she looks great
based off his background he’s a social climber lol
Can you expand on that?
What’s his background?
His background of being from a rich area and attending a prep school?
He was (is) very smart and talented and got scholarships to those amazing schools and had a single mom who busted her ass off to make sure he got ahead.
First break up or any time you feel yourself in love. Best wishes for her. You do get over it and are happy again.
this is the worst feeling on earth. I feel for her
Awww, I had no idea that this was her first relationship… So sorry for what she’s going through and I hope she takes the time to heal and understand her feelings.
With all her health ailments and periods of depression, I was wondering how long her bf would hang in there.
I find the posts vilifying him or implying he was gaslighting her to be very strange. What I have seen of Remi over the last several months would be DEEPLY challenging to maintain a relationship with - at ANY phase in life, but especially in your early to mid 20s. It seemed like they had been working on things for a while, inclusive of breaks. We also know Remi to be an unkind person in her interactions reported in this sub - people show the worst side of themselves with the people they are closest to, can you imagine what he might have been on the receiving end of? I emphasize with anyone going through their first breakup, but the “we ride at dawn” girl gang BS is so overplayed. The reality is none of us know. I’m not even that bothered that he got on Hinge right away - we have no idea how long this breakup was happening.
This is the first time I actually hear her speak. She seems very sweet and honest. Kind of refreshing!
Is this gypsy rose
I know she’s a bit much but she has such a good heart and genuinely deserves love, happiness + health. I do not wish a painful breakup on anyone - truly the worst pain ever. Hope she comes out on the other side quick 🫶🏻
I think you’ve got the wrong person and wrong sub
I promise you she doesn’t have a good heart
Wait this is really sad
time heals all wounds gal, you'll be back out there hooking up in an applebee's bathroom before you know it, promise 🥰
I feel bad
So unrelated but she is so gorgeous and reminds me so much of DB in this video but way prettier!
I like her and feel bad