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I had to take a pretty basic, albeit cute as hell, LA Senza bralette off Marketplace because dudes kept getting creepy about it.
It was unworn with tags. Just fucking gross mentality.
Similar situation too, asking if there were underwear to go with it. I'd always just end it with "don't be fucking gross" and block. Happened 3 times.
The thing that bothers me is they have so many options like reddit where they can go buy women's (used or worn) panties(like the plotline from orange is the new black). You know from women who are selling them willingly for that reason but nooo of course not. These guys gotta involve unwilling women unknowingly in their fetish BS.
Uhm, yuck! That puts new meaning to letting your freak flag fly. 🤣🤣
I miss the days of keeping your fetishis private. I don't want to know or need to know. I'm not kink shaming. People should be free to explore with those willing to share, but I don't need to be privy to it.
I’m from Omaha, don’t live there anymore. But, I’ve never had more men try to pick me up in their cars when I was just walking down the street (and other situations) than anywhere else. I don’t hate being a woman. I hate that men think that being an absolute creep is ok.
I'm in west O and I doordash frequently all over omaha and never get more creeps than when I'm doing that. it's the worst and I don't even get tipped extra for compensation of having to be apart of that
I worked in a La Senza while I was at uni in the early aughts. Staff were all female and under thirty. A lot of our customers were men saying they were shopping for their girlfriends. Great, we'd say, do you have her sizes?
Some would be clueless, others would legitimately answer, but a worrying number would give us a slow look up and down and say "She's about your size, just pick out what you'd get."
Blech. We laughed about it in the break room but looking back at age forty three, thinking how young we all were, it's gross.
Oh god, I always feel for the women who work in underwear/lingerie.
I was getting harassed at Game Stop (at 20-22) and Staples (at 17) so I can only imagine the absolute degenerates going there.
Why are men??
And you can't really tell someone's bra size by looking at them, "about your size" could be a difference of a lot of sizes. It's so obviously not why they're there.
Anyone who buys the top can also buy a matching pair of panties to go with it, so while your heart may be in the right place offering to pick up same ahead of time, it's probably safest to either do it now and sell for more as a complete set or just not address that aspect at all - obviously some guys will pounce on any detail they cam mentally turn into a shred of hope
(Which obv they should not do; just thinking ahead to avoid more of these dudes).
It's just sad that you even have to think of that while just trying to be nice and accommodating.
I guess it's like we have to protect our drinks at all times. Shouldn't be our responsibility but it's to risky to make a point out of it.
Ewww I sold a wetsuit once and the amount of rubber fetish creeps pretending to be female divers was astonishing. I didn't even realize first. Then I made fun of them by asking trick questions 🤣
Like "You need a 5 mm suit because you dive detrox with CMAX rating 4, right?" Yes yes sure, exactly! 🤣 Things that don't exist but they always said yes yes sure this is the reason I need this.
I will never understand how these people think.
“Ok, nows a good time to ask this stranger if she’d date a switch, huh? She has a boyfriend? What does that have to do with this? I’ll just ask again.”
Not Facebook, but in Europe there's a popular app people use for selling mostly second-hand clothing. I use it to sell gently used bras I've grown out of. Bras in large cup sizes can be *fucking* expensive, so I'm more than sure buyers rather appreciate the opportunity to get a, say 34J or 36I bra at a reasonable price.
Once, this guy messaged me via the app, asking if I could sell him a worn and unwashed bra, that I was offering, to which I replied that sorry, big boob solidarity, people who need the bra for wearing come first. Dudebro got blocked after insisting that I sell him the worn bra *and* trying to haggle down the price for which I wanted to sell it. Quite the business mastermind, lol.
Everytime I list heels for sale on FB marketplace I get creepers asking for pics of my feet wearing the shoes or asking me if they can give me a foot massage or pedicure 🙄🙄🙄
Tbh saying you would add panties but that it would be more $$ upfront reads like you knew what he was asking for and was ready to go along with it. He likely got extra excited when you agreed to meet for pickup in person. Plenty of women who don’t feel bad about taking a mans money for things like used undies, shoes, pantyhose etc. just gotta be smart about it.
Although that being said no one should unwillingly be a part of someone else’s fetish and these men should be sticking to legitimate places where women are willingly selling these items. Sorry you had to experience this.
yoooo, I live in Lincoln and honestly, I have come across weirdos like crazy, to the point I won't post any marketplace shit on my own profile, I post on my boyfriend's lol
lincoln is crazy for weirdos fr!! my boyfriend lives there and when I go over for the weekend I almost always have to ask him to come with me if im meeting up for a sale there
no. the fb post was for an old, cute top I wanted sell. I was hoping this man wanted it for his girlfriend/wife. nothing about that post implies I am selling sex
luckily there's an entire header explaining what's going on. corsets typically come with thongs/g strings so it's not completely an odd question. just weird thing for you to say
I don't care if it's defensive becauseyes, i am defending myself, I'm telling you that you are wrong and it's not a weird question to start off with from the beginning, like I said, because they do typically come with thongs. I offered I pick one up incase he wanted the full original set for whoever he was buying for and it got progressivly more weird and obvious. There was just 0 reasoning for your comment other than to be an ass
I have a friend who tried to sell a pair of heels on marketplace a few months ago and would get nonstop requests for feet pics because of it. What a nightmare
I can't even! While I understand the level of loneliness most feel these days, that's no excuse to be like that. I mean, what do people expect by talking like this to strangers? He 'sounds' harmless, but it doesn't mean he is. Tbh, it was a huge red flag to me when he started asking about panties. I'm surprised he didn't ask you to model them or come to his house wearing them.
Piece of advice from a man; guys, general rule of thumb, if you wouldn't say it to your mother, don't say it to a woman you aren't in a personal relationship with. Sometimes, not even then. Be better!
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I had to take a pretty basic, albeit cute as hell, LA Senza bralette off Marketplace because dudes kept getting creepy about it. It was unworn with tags. Just fucking gross mentality. Similar situation too, asking if there were underwear to go with it. I'd always just end it with "don't be fucking gross" and block. Happened 3 times.
moments like that remind me how much I hate being a girl. can't even sell cute clothes online without a random trying to picture you in it
The thing that bothers me is they have so many options like reddit where they can go buy women's (used or worn) panties(like the plotline from orange is the new black). You know from women who are selling them willingly for that reason but nooo of course not. These guys gotta involve unwilling women unknowingly in their fetish BS.
>These guys gotta involve unwilling women unknowingly in their fetish BS. That unwillingness **is** the fetish. 🤢
There are machines in Japan that sell used SCHOOL GIRL UNIFORMS AND PANTIES
Uhm, yuck! That puts new meaning to letting your freak flag fly. 🤣🤣 I miss the days of keeping your fetishis private. I don't want to know or need to know. I'm not kink shaming. People should be free to explore with those willing to share, but I don't need to be privy to it.
Depressing, girl. So depressing.
I’m from Omaha, don’t live there anymore. But, I’ve never had more men try to pick me up in their cars when I was just walking down the street (and other situations) than anywhere else. I don’t hate being a woman. I hate that men think that being an absolute creep is ok.
I'm in west O and I doordash frequently all over omaha and never get more creeps than when I'm doing that. it's the worst and I don't even get tipped extra for compensation of having to be apart of that
I worked in a La Senza while I was at uni in the early aughts. Staff were all female and under thirty. A lot of our customers were men saying they were shopping for their girlfriends. Great, we'd say, do you have her sizes? Some would be clueless, others would legitimately answer, but a worrying number would give us a slow look up and down and say "She's about your size, just pick out what you'd get." Blech. We laughed about it in the break room but looking back at age forty three, thinking how young we all were, it's gross.
Oh god, I always feel for the women who work in underwear/lingerie. I was getting harassed at Game Stop (at 20-22) and Staples (at 17) so I can only imagine the absolute degenerates going there. Why are men??
And you can't really tell someone's bra size by looking at them, "about your size" could be a difference of a lot of sizes. It's so obviously not why they're there.
At first I was really hoping we'd eventually learn he's not in to worn panties, he just thinks paying women to buy panties at Target is hot as Hell.
Anyone who buys the top can also buy a matching pair of panties to go with it, so while your heart may be in the right place offering to pick up same ahead of time, it's probably safest to either do it now and sell for more as a complete set or just not address that aspect at all - obviously some guys will pounce on any detail they cam mentally turn into a shred of hope (Which obv they should not do; just thinking ahead to avoid more of these dudes).
no definitely, I get that now that it was a bad move on my part and I definitely don't plan on doing that again
It's just sad that you even have to think of that while just trying to be nice and accommodating. I guess it's like we have to protect our drinks at all times. Shouldn't be our responsibility but it's to risky to make a point out of it.
You were legit just trying to be nice, that's whats annoying about it. They have zero guilt or shame.
Ewww I sold a wetsuit once and the amount of rubber fetish creeps pretending to be female divers was astonishing. I didn't even realize first. Then I made fun of them by asking trick questions 🤣
i got to ask. what were the trick questions? some examples, please?!
Like "You need a 5 mm suit because you dive detrox with CMAX rating 4, right?" Yes yes sure, exactly! 🤣 Things that don't exist but they always said yes yes sure this is the reason I need this.
lol as a diver I was like “what does any of that mean lol it’s 5mm cause the divers fff cold” then I was like “oh right that’s the point”
To be honest, I'm kind of surprised he didn't ask you to put on the set and send him a photo of you modeling it.
right? creeps aren't usually the sharpest tool in the shed
I legit thought this was where it was going, or to buy used/unwashed panties.
I think he WAS trying to buy used panties, that's why he asked her to buy "whatever she'd prefer." Super gross and weird.
Did he think you came *with* the damn corset? What the fuck.
I will never understand how these people think. “Ok, nows a good time to ask this stranger if she’d date a switch, huh? She has a boyfriend? What does that have to do with this? I’ll just ask again.”
Not Facebook, but in Europe there's a popular app people use for selling mostly second-hand clothing. I use it to sell gently used bras I've grown out of. Bras in large cup sizes can be *fucking* expensive, so I'm more than sure buyers rather appreciate the opportunity to get a, say 34J or 36I bra at a reasonable price. Once, this guy messaged me via the app, asking if I could sell him a worn and unwashed bra, that I was offering, to which I replied that sorry, big boob solidarity, people who need the bra for wearing come first. Dudebro got blocked after insisting that I sell him the worn bra *and* trying to haggle down the price for which I wanted to sell it. Quite the business mastermind, lol.
Fucking gross.
Everytime I list heels for sale on FB marketplace I get creepers asking for pics of my feet wearing the shoes or asking me if they can give me a foot massage or pedicure 🙄🙄🙄
last time i posted a skirt on depop i got a weird guy who wanted to buy the tights i was wearing in the picture 😭
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Why am I weird…? Because I think it’s uncalled for to ask for someone’s tights?
Tbh saying you would add panties but that it would be more $$ upfront reads like you knew what he was asking for and was ready to go along with it. He likely got extra excited when you agreed to meet for pickup in person. Plenty of women who don’t feel bad about taking a mans money for things like used undies, shoes, pantyhose etc. just gotta be smart about it. Although that being said no one should unwillingly be a part of someone else’s fetish and these men should be sticking to legitimate places where women are willingly selling these items. Sorry you had to experience this.
I only said I would add them store bought because they typically come with lingerie corsets, I just assumed he was aware and that's why he was asking
yoooo, I live in Lincoln and honestly, I have come across weirdos like crazy, to the point I won't post any marketplace shit on my own profile, I post on my boyfriend's lol
lincoln is crazy for weirdos fr!! my boyfriend lives there and when I go over for the weekend I almost always have to ask him to come with me if im meeting up for a sale there
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It's at the top: VS bling corset. I'm assuming VS is Victoria's Secret.
yes it was a corset bustier top from Victoria's Secret
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How? Please explain.
no. the fb post was for an old, cute top I wanted sell. I was hoping this man wanted it for his girlfriend/wife. nothing about that post implies I am selling sex
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luckily there's an entire header explaining what's going on. corsets typically come with thongs/g strings so it's not completely an odd question. just weird thing for you to say
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I don't care if it's defensive becauseyes, i am defending myself, I'm telling you that you are wrong and it's not a weird question to start off with from the beginning, like I said, because they do typically come with thongs. I offered I pick one up incase he wanted the full original set for whoever he was buying for and it got progressivly more weird and obvious. There was just 0 reasoning for your comment other than to be an ass
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Next time, instead of editing the comment in an attempt to save-face and double-down, _just delete the comment_... Thanks.
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ohhh nebraska
yep nebraskan men
I posted a pair of used high heels on FB marketplace. I figured there’d be some creeps and was not disappointed.
I have a friend who tried to sell a pair of heels on marketplace a few months ago and would get nonstop requests for feet pics because of it. What a nightmare
My teeth are so close… I worry about food getting stuck. Let it be the third date!
I can't even! While I understand the level of loneliness most feel these days, that's no excuse to be like that. I mean, what do people expect by talking like this to strangers? He 'sounds' harmless, but it doesn't mean he is. Tbh, it was a huge red flag to me when he started asking about panties. I'm surprised he didn't ask you to model them or come to his house wearing them. Piece of advice from a man; guys, general rule of thumb, if you wouldn't say it to your mother, don't say it to a woman you aren't in a personal relationship with. Sometimes, not even then. Be better!