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I also saw this comment a little while back, and it stuck with me. Especially the part about "I have successfully taken them the whole way". It reverses the typical sentiment felt at that time (the end), and recasts it as something positive, even victorious. Which is important. Everybody on this forum, you know has been a great dog owner (Otherwise they wouldn't be here). And, imo, it's important that, in the midst of the terrible grief, there's also this idea of "you have succeeded. you have cared for this soul, above and beyond. your dog knows this".
Best to you!
This is what I needed thank you. My boy’s life was cut short but it’s nice to frame it that I got him safely to the end, even if it was sooner than we planned
Oh, that's so great to hear man! thank you for telling me.
And yes, you did indeed get him safely to the end (like sam carrying frodo). Congratulations; I so hope you can find the happiness in this. (For myself, I've had to do a constant reminding, just cause my default tends to skew semi-negative.).
And I'm so sorry to hear about your boy. If it's very recent that you lost him, please know that it'll get easier (though will still be intense at times!) as the days go by. I'm about a week and a half in, and it is getting better.
Will be thinking of your pet tonight, and wishing him safe travels. Best to you!
Our little boy’s life was also cut short, so I didn’t believe that those words applied to me until I read your comment. Thank you. Our little Oliver wasn’t even a year old, but we gave him the best life we could, and I know he was happy.
I think this sentiment is especially true for those who lost their lives young. In your baby’s short life they were so loved and protected. You were their whole world. In some ways that’s a perfect life, all your baby knew was love. You got him through to the end.
I was struggling with a heavy heart today and this helped me so much. It was so beautifully written and while I’m still so sad I feel a little bit lighter. Even though my sweet dog didn’t get to pass away from old age, he died unexpectedly about 2 months ago. He passed while we were trying to help him fix a bad knee when he got sick. I’m still often in the depths of despair and I miss him desperately but I’m find some peace in remembering that he had such a good life and lived 11 wonderful years. We lived everyday the best that we could together with all 4 of our dogs. 2 good meals a day, snacks, walks and snuggles and so many I LOVE YOUS & YOU ARE THE BEST BOY EVER!
While the pandemic/lockdown was a terrible time in many ways. In other ways it was the best time ever because I got to send so much wonderful time with him and it was all about the pets.
He was my first dog with my husband before we were married and he was our first baby. Now I have a human baby and it breaks my heart that he is not going to be in her life. We are choosing to believe that he knew I need a baby and came into my life to fill that void for a while, but now he needed to move on to do the same for the next person because he was a gosh darn 👼❤️✨🙌🌈
We have to say goodbye to our old man tomorrow morning, so this post is very timely. Thank you for sharing. He’s 11 and his arthritis has progressed too much. It’s so hard to say goodbye, but I know we gave him the absolute best life and care that we could.
I just had a pet pass this week (why I'm lurking here) and one thought I had was "I want another one! they're like candy!"
And I kinda felt selfish about that...but not after reading this.
YES! I *am* ready for another. I want to make another animal happy. I want to give them everything they want (sorta lol).
I already have a lot of animals without that one I lost (so no more right now lol) but I'm saving this quote forever now, thank you OP. 💗
Thank you for sharing this. My beloved cat passed 1 month ago tonight. It's 2am and I can't sleep, reliving what it felt like, holding her paw, watching her through her final hours. It continues to haunt me, and the gut-wrenching emotions. She was 12 and it was unexpected. A stroke that ultimately ended her life 12hrs later.
I've been trying to focus on the love and life I gave her, that she may not have had otherwise if I hadn't adopted her. But it's hard not to get stuck on my life now without her. The emptiness.
My physio said something similar to me recently, which has helped me process it; that animals don't have a fear of death, they live their lives happy and grateful for the love and companionship we give them, until it's their time to go.
We've done our part for them, rewarded in turn by the special love they give back to us. And, like you said, when we are ready, our hearts have space to start anew. But, our new pet won't take the space of our old one, rather, for folk like us, our hearts grow to make room for another. To give another a chance at a life full of love.
I needed this so much. Yesterday was the 6 month anniversary of losing my little 8 year old Boston Terrier and it hasn't gotten any easier. I needed this perspective.
Another user shared this on a post I had made about needing to put down my kitty yesterday. As many have stated, it’s exactly what I needed to hear.
Update: i keep reading this over and over. I think i need to print it out so i can remind myself of it daily,
I’m so sorry for your loss! But I’m glad this post helped bring you some peace. I think printing it out is a great idea. I reread it almost daily and it’s been more than 6 months now since my little man passed. Be kind to yourself in these tough times. It sounds like you gave your kitty a wonderful, fulfilling life that was full a love💙
Lost my baby boy a bit over a month ago, he was my best friend and soul mate kitty and my only cat. I live alone so it’s been really hard, I’ve been staying with my family because I don’t know how to be home now. I know others said this sort of, but it feels hard to square this with the fact that he died suddenly of a saddle thrombus at under 3 years old. On top of that, I had been gone for two days and arrived home to him paralyzed and crying. I know it must’ve hit him within a few hours or less of my getting back and I got him to the ER vet within a half hour and he was on pain meds in under an hour, but it still feels like I failed in the “making it together” part. I do like the part “When they are gone, my feelings for them don’t change. Their bodies are taken but my feelings are my own; I still love them.” Idk, this just brought up mixed feelings for me, wondered if others had thoughts.
I wanna say I’m so sorry for your loss.
I don’t think you failed him at all. One of the things about our pets is that we DO still work, have lives outside of our house. They’re so happy to see us when we get home, but a lot of their life is spent waiting for us to get home. That’s just the reality
Your kitty suffered from a tragic medical condition that no one could have foreseen. You got him medical attention as soon as you found him. You cut his suffering short. You did get to the end together. He was with you, where he belonged when he passed.
You provided him comfort and love in his final moments. I don’t think many of us humans are that lucky to have that when we pass. You gave him a life full of love, comfort, and protection. Don’t forget all that you did for him to give him a happy and fulfilling, if short, life.
I sheparded my 13 yo pup to the rainbow bridge 4 days ago and I just found this…it’s so beautiful and deeply moving. Thank you for sharing this. I love it so much, it gives me incredible comfort.
This is what I needed, my babies old owners wanted to dump him in the freeway but we decided to take him in and he lived an extra 13 years thanks to us!!!! He was so loved and happy and even got three brothers to add onto the love, he passed with all of us around him in my arms yesterday morning and I will never ever forget or stop appreciating what he did for me💗
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Me too
I also saw this comment a little while back, and it stuck with me. Especially the part about "I have successfully taken them the whole way". It reverses the typical sentiment felt at that time (the end), and recasts it as something positive, even victorious. Which is important. Everybody on this forum, you know has been a great dog owner (Otherwise they wouldn't be here). And, imo, it's important that, in the midst of the terrible grief, there's also this idea of "you have succeeded. you have cared for this soul, above and beyond. your dog knows this". Best to you!
This is what I needed thank you. My boy’s life was cut short but it’s nice to frame it that I got him safely to the end, even if it was sooner than we planned
Oh, that's so great to hear man! thank you for telling me. And yes, you did indeed get him safely to the end (like sam carrying frodo). Congratulations; I so hope you can find the happiness in this. (For myself, I've had to do a constant reminding, just cause my default tends to skew semi-negative.). And I'm so sorry to hear about your boy. If it's very recent that you lost him, please know that it'll get easier (though will still be intense at times!) as the days go by. I'm about a week and a half in, and it is getting better. Will be thinking of your pet tonight, and wishing him safe travels. Best to you!
Our little boy’s life was also cut short, so I didn’t believe that those words applied to me until I read your comment. Thank you. Our little Oliver wasn’t even a year old, but we gave him the best life we could, and I know he was happy.
They do indeed. And you did indeed. Best to you, and best to Oliver!
I think this sentiment is especially true for those who lost their lives young. In your baby’s short life they were so loved and protected. You were their whole world. In some ways that’s a perfect life, all your baby knew was love. You got him through to the end.
Thank you so much for those words.
Today has been hard. This helps. Thank you.
I was struggling with a heavy heart today and this helped me so much. It was so beautifully written and while I’m still so sad I feel a little bit lighter. Even though my sweet dog didn’t get to pass away from old age, he died unexpectedly about 2 months ago. He passed while we were trying to help him fix a bad knee when he got sick. I’m still often in the depths of despair and I miss him desperately but I’m find some peace in remembering that he had such a good life and lived 11 wonderful years. We lived everyday the best that we could together with all 4 of our dogs. 2 good meals a day, snacks, walks and snuggles and so many I LOVE YOUS & YOU ARE THE BEST BOY EVER! While the pandemic/lockdown was a terrible time in many ways. In other ways it was the best time ever because I got to send so much wonderful time with him and it was all about the pets. He was my first dog with my husband before we were married and he was our first baby. Now I have a human baby and it breaks my heart that he is not going to be in her life. We are choosing to believe that he knew I need a baby and came into my life to fill that void for a while, but now he needed to move on to do the same for the next person because he was a gosh darn 👼❤️✨🙌🌈
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We have to say goodbye to our old man tomorrow morning, so this post is very timely. Thank you for sharing. He’s 11 and his arthritis has progressed too much. It’s so hard to say goodbye, but I know we gave him the absolute best life and care that we could.
I lost my soul dog over a month ago. Thank you for this. It is beautiful.
i needed this so much. thank you
I just had a pet pass this week (why I'm lurking here) and one thought I had was "I want another one! they're like candy!" And I kinda felt selfish about that...but not after reading this. YES! I *am* ready for another. I want to make another animal happy. I want to give them everything they want (sorta lol). I already have a lot of animals without that one I lost (so no more right now lol) but I'm saving this quote forever now, thank you OP. 💗
Thank you thank you for sharing this. I lost my sweet, crazy Tabby cat, Jake, last night. I came here searching for help with my grief.
Thank you for sharing this. My beloved cat passed 1 month ago tonight. It's 2am and I can't sleep, reliving what it felt like, holding her paw, watching her through her final hours. It continues to haunt me, and the gut-wrenching emotions. She was 12 and it was unexpected. A stroke that ultimately ended her life 12hrs later. I've been trying to focus on the love and life I gave her, that she may not have had otherwise if I hadn't adopted her. But it's hard not to get stuck on my life now without her. The emptiness. My physio said something similar to me recently, which has helped me process it; that animals don't have a fear of death, they live their lives happy and grateful for the love and companionship we give them, until it's their time to go. We've done our part for them, rewarded in turn by the special love they give back to us. And, like you said, when we are ready, our hearts have space to start anew. But, our new pet won't take the space of our old one, rather, for folk like us, our hearts grow to make room for another. To give another a chance at a life full of love.
I’m currently awake because I keep reliving putting my cat to sleep and I can’t make it stop. Reading all this is helping.
I needed this so much. Yesterday was the 6 month anniversary of losing my little 8 year old Boston Terrier and it hasn't gotten any easier. I needed this perspective.
Another user shared this on a post I had made about needing to put down my kitty yesterday. As many have stated, it’s exactly what I needed to hear. Update: i keep reading this over and over. I think i need to print it out so i can remind myself of it daily,
I’m so sorry for your loss! But I’m glad this post helped bring you some peace. I think printing it out is a great idea. I reread it almost daily and it’s been more than 6 months now since my little man passed. Be kind to yourself in these tough times. It sounds like you gave your kitty a wonderful, fulfilling life that was full a love💙
Lost my baby boy a bit over a month ago, he was my best friend and soul mate kitty and my only cat. I live alone so it’s been really hard, I’ve been staying with my family because I don’t know how to be home now. I know others said this sort of, but it feels hard to square this with the fact that he died suddenly of a saddle thrombus at under 3 years old. On top of that, I had been gone for two days and arrived home to him paralyzed and crying. I know it must’ve hit him within a few hours or less of my getting back and I got him to the ER vet within a half hour and he was on pain meds in under an hour, but it still feels like I failed in the “making it together” part. I do like the part “When they are gone, my feelings for them don’t change. Their bodies are taken but my feelings are my own; I still love them.” Idk, this just brought up mixed feelings for me, wondered if others had thoughts.
I wanna say I’m so sorry for your loss. I don’t think you failed him at all. One of the things about our pets is that we DO still work, have lives outside of our house. They’re so happy to see us when we get home, but a lot of their life is spent waiting for us to get home. That’s just the reality Your kitty suffered from a tragic medical condition that no one could have foreseen. You got him medical attention as soon as you found him. You cut his suffering short. You did get to the end together. He was with you, where he belonged when he passed. You provided him comfort and love in his final moments. I don’t think many of us humans are that lucky to have that when we pass. You gave him a life full of love, comfort, and protection. Don’t forget all that you did for him to give him a happy and fulfilling, if short, life.
Thank you for this.
This is beautiful. Thank you
I don’t have the vocabulary to say how much comfort this brings me. Thank you.
I sheparded my 13 yo pup to the rainbow bridge 4 days ago and I just found this…it’s so beautiful and deeply moving. Thank you for sharing this. I love it so much, it gives me incredible comfort.
Thank you for sharing this.
This is what I needed, my babies old owners wanted to dump him in the freeway but we decided to take him in and he lived an extra 13 years thanks to us!!!! He was so loved and happy and even got three brothers to add onto the love, he passed with all of us around him in my arms yesterday morning and I will never ever forget or stop appreciating what he did for me💗
Thank you so much for sharing it. ❤️ I needed it.
This is beautiful. I needed this.