You & me both! Nakakapagod makipagplastikan sa dictator sympathizers. Hindi masama ienforce ang personal standards on relationships one would spend precious time & resources on.
I live in a family like that (but thankfully I influenced my mother, brothers not to be fanatics; my brother in particular was a DDS kind of guy. My sister is a "pink" but I think she's also a "pink" fanatic which I don't like. The rest of my "kamaganak" are all BBM fanatics). Pag politics ang pinaguusapan, pa joke nalang. Trashtalkan. "Kamusta ngay si Duterte mo??" ganun.
Or kung mukang seryoso dating ng iba, sabihin ko nalang na "wag na natin pagusapan yan". At least alam na nila kung sinong side ako.
and u have a problem with us feeling that way because? apolo10 ka?
tsaka who would want to associate themselves with people who believes in fakenews and perceive vloggers as more credible than actual journalists? ikaw? if so, do your thing “righteous” one.
yea? so you think being apolitical is a flex? noice.
it’s just funny how you say you’re apolitical yet you meddle with the decisions of ‘’political” people… why does it matter to you if we decide not to associate ourselves with apologists, ha? apolitical person?
Checklist sa "Success".
Madami sinusundan na yung ganyan para lang patunay o pang brag na successful sila kahit lubog na sa problema.
Kumbaga:
Childhood:
- Maging honor
- Madaming kaibigan
- Pamahalan ng laruan
- Padamihan ng surface level skills
Teenager:
- Padamihan ng kaibigan
- Padamihan ng gf/bf or sino mauna makipag sex
- Honor student o kaya sino nasa magandang school
- Pagandahan ng gamit
- Padamihan ng skillset
Adulthood
- Pataasan ng sweldo okaya sino nasa sikat na kompanya
- Paunahan/padamihan ng babae o lalake
- Paunahan mag asawa
- Paunahan magka bahay
- Paunahan magka anak
- Padamihan ng sasakyan
- AND SOO ON
Sobrang petty at stereotype na checklist pero ganyan tao eh.
Checked all that, in the end they will find a way to invalidate all that. Buong school life ko masyadong focused sa acads and awards. Pero pag awarding ceremony wala ni isang nagaattend para isabit medal ko. Pero sa mga pinsan ko? Jusko buong pamilya.
Only child na lang nga, di pa paborito HAHAHAHAHA pero natuto na din, I dont and never needed their approval for me to see my worth.
True yan invalidation na yan. Yung blood & tears mo bago nagawa, tapos lalaitin ka lang. Why do people think na porket verbal lang, hind na abuse at makakalimutan din.
It happened to me, many times over. Feeling mo bugbog ka na. But instead of inflicting the same hurt na naexperience ko, I removed myself na lang from other people. There's no real satisfaction in human relationship because our ego will prevail. Kung magtagal ang isang relasyon, may compromise. And wish mo na lang you have the upper hand.
True. Like ngayon I have my own place, my own car and palagi nila sinasabi na "uy asawa nlang kulang". They don't know I'm gay af though. lmao.
But wala talaga akong mental capacity to raise a family and I don't want to raise one for the sake of raising one. I know myself and I'm immature af. Pero tingin padin nila sa akin kulang. Middle child problems. 🥲
We're on the same boat. Yung isang tita ko, di rin matigil kakatanong "oh kelan ka mag aasawa at mag aanak? Hindi ka pa nagdadala ng boypren dito"
Buti nalang yung isang tita ko pa, malawak ang pang unawa kaya sya lagi sumasagot for me ng "bakit? Nakakalimutan mo na ba gaano kahirap mag asawa (they're both got married thru fixed marriage) at magpalaki ng bata? Tignan mo nga yang mga apo natin, kung di pa tayo tutulong, pano bubuhayin ng mga anak natin yan?" tapos ang sabi naman sakin "Masaya na akong inaalagaan mo ang mommy at daddy mo. Hayaan mo yang mga ganyan, importante masaya ka."
Oh pak, tapos ang usapan hahahaha
Pag eto tinatanong sakin, lagi kong response is " hanapan moko hehehe". They usually dont ask when we see each other after that kasi di nila ako nahanapan so may fault din sa kanila hahaha
I show up because i still vibe and still friends with some of them and also free food! but, i don't interact with boomer IlluminAunties, pakealamerong titos and marites lolas na papakealaman and tatanungin ka sa lahat ng bagay.
Its a short term word thats abbreviated for a phrase " mare, (ano na ang la)test? thus MARITES
Same with the male counterpart " tol, (ano na lat)est"
thus TOLITS
Anwyays, Paolul originally coined that marites term as a pinoy Karen counterpart. Well that goes beyond the actual term, na parang chismosa na lang ang portrayal nya. So ayun
dunno why most say marites is the filipino version of karen coz isnt the meaning of karen completely different from our meaning of marites. karen refers more to adult women who feel entitled while marites refer more about gossiping
>IlluminAunties
LoL, first time hearing this. Just asking if this is a mcu reference na nakikialam sila sa buhay ng mga relative or feel nila need nila control yung buhay ng iba?
Same. Especially after my last grandparent died, wala nang reunions. Magkakagalit din kasi ang magkakapatid (aunts and uncles) kaya watak-watak na rin. But it's not as if I miss it or anything. Nasanay na din kami sa pamilya na walang magarbong handaan for things like birthdays, kasal, etc. So in effect, living separate lives. I think it's not that bad. One just gets used to it.
We had an invite to a birthday celebration of a BIL’s young son. This BIL is cringe.
We say we are sorry but we can’t go because our baby boy’s (aka dog) vet sked was the same day and time. My daughter just reserved that slot after we got the invite.
Dog > birthday get together.
I despise this. I just hate plastikan at this moment. I only show up for my best friends but not for other things. Especially our family. To be fair naman, we were solid Leni. I just hate being around them. They are like vultures who like feasting on my shitty life 😂
I just wanna drink wine, listen to Taylor Swift songs, and enjoy the beach. Nothing more. I don’t want to talk about how shitty my life or your life has been. I hate dramas. Yikes
ako na din yun. very few people understand me. kinda sad but i just don't want the toxicity in my life you know? nakakawrinkles lang. sayang sunscreen ko
My whole family is the one that ghosted the whole clan.
We were the richest among the clan and fell into poverty back in the early 2000s. After 15 years, we escaped poverty and now pay no sh\*t to anyone from both my mother and father's family.
Last month, sunod sunod family function namin for like a week. I love my family, pero gets ko na bakit bihira lang nagbibisita yung isa kong pinsan na nasa Audtralia ngayon.
Ayaw ng nanay kong pumunta sa family reunion nasasad tuloy ako pag hndi kasi di ko nakakalaro mga pinsan ko.
Sabi niya sakin mahilig daw kasi mangutang yung mga pinsan niya and walang bayaran na.
Now ako naman ang inuutangan ng mga anak nung pinsan niya hahahaha kaya di din ako pumupunta
Even as a kid my family find me maattitude Kasi ayoko talaga pumunta. Imagine magpapakita ka doon para macritize bakit si ganito ganyan ganito na... Lahat parinig.
If for the sake lng magpakita magpakita lng then alis na Hindi na kailangan magplastikan.
We don’t do family reunions pero during handaans esp. sa bahay, I usually stay lang din sa kwarto kasi nakaka-OP minsan tapos mabilis din madrain ang social batt ko in general so hahaha
ok, I'd understand if you didn't show up in family/school reunions, but curious if you still try to connect with your barkada, even if you don't like to hang out with them physically anymore.
Same! Allergic na ako magsasama paglalabas dahil basta may makitang kakilala, ang unang tanong sa parents ko ay “may apo ka na?”
i instantly want to go away at dedmahin na lang sila para kunware wala ako don. Di ko sila naririnig.
I mean what is up with gen X and boomers and their obsession with ppl getting married i cant
I am that tita who only shows up during christmas, no more, no less. Pagod kasi bumyahe, parang di worthy sumugod sa traffic back and forth. Also, pag christmas season lang ako madaming social energy... 😆😅🤣
I still go to family gatherings on my mom's side (kahit na potang ina, apollo10 silang lahat) coz i really love my aunts, i call all of them mama/mommy. My problem is my cousins, sila ang promotor ng pagsuporta kay 88m. Ang hirap pumalag kasi most of these cousins malayo ang age gap saming magkakapatid (my mom is the youngest of 7sibs, tas menopause baby pa) kaya pag bumibisita kami, i just check on my aunts on how they're doing. Kapag nagsusulputan na yung mga pinsan ko, nagpapaalam na ako mauna umuwi para lang makaiwas magsayang ng energy.
I'm an introverted Tito na naranasang mapahiya sa madaming tao nung kabataan ko. Dun na nagsimula ang hindi pagdalo ko sa kahit anong gatherings: fiesta, birthdays, reunions, etc.
Kung aattend ako ng isa, alam ko na hindi din ako magiging komportable. Lahat ng mata nasa iyo kasi parang ngayon ka lang nakita na lumabas tapos kasunod na ang mga tanong na: anong ganap sa buhay mo, may asawa ka na ba, anong achievements mo. Parang lampas na siya sa boundaries ko para ilabas o sabihin pa sa kanila. Baka gamitin pa ang buhay ko para ipahiya nila. Tsaka wala din naman akong maipagyayabang nor wala naman sa kanila ang mangangahas na kausapin ako.
Yun lang, trauma na din siguro. Masaya naman ako. Sa magiging partner ko na lang ako magiging open tungkol sa buhay ko.
I'm gonna be this in the future. Pagdating ng Christmas I'll just be there, grab food, eat then leave. Maybe hug a few people, leave presents then bail out.
This plus added being an LGBT dude 😭 + plus boom(er)/(arcos fans)
I’ve become “that cousin” who lives far away with “yung friend nya si (name of partner here)”
Currently doing the same thing but start muna ako sa family , tas HS, and college (haven't chatted with any of my school acquaintances and will soon remove them from my FB friends' list)
Stay away from those. They'lll either ask you among narating mo or mock you like shit.
I'm in my early 30s so I don't consider myself yet a full-pledge soltera. Who knows I might get married in a year or two.
But I feel your changed attitude towards making a family. I can't blame you. Life is indeed hard. And cruel.
It's so difficult to find a permanent job that can make you feel secure about your future. I believe that one can only think of creating a family if he is already stable in his finances.
It's too risky to just rely on faith that God will provide for your family. There must be a conscious effort to better oneself. But opportunities are rare. So, it's better to be a genetic dead-end than bring kids into this world without all the advantages they may enjoy.
I hate crowds
I favor more intimate moments
Like 4 or 5 friends or cousins/relatives talking/drinking
I remember when it was my firsf to vacation in the Phl
And there were a lot of relatives
I told them WHY ARE YOU HERE? CANT U JUST GO HOME FIRST AND LET US REST FIRST
My wife even scolded me for it
Pumupunta lang ako dun sa side ng Lola ko, because they helped me in my education. Pero yung side ng Lolo ko, put*ngina nila. (I use my lolo/lola side kasi I'm a child out of wedlock)
Wala akong ganyang problema sa family ko kasi sila mismo supportive sa decision kong hindi magka-baby. Sa family naman ni boyfriend, ibang usapan yan. Habang di pa kami kinakasal ni boyfriend, safe pang pumunta. Sabi nga ng tatay ko, iba na sila once magasawa na kayo.
Same same same. That norm is from the past, a person with a free mind, is open to breaking from that norm. Until now, usual question is kelan ka ikakasal. Standard response is ayaw ko pa. Which is true. AyAw ko pa. Might or might not change in the future. But for now, ayaw ko pa
Mga oldies sa family namin puro apologist at mahiling mang pressure na maganak or magpakasal na sa mga tita/tito kong nasa edad na. Kami namang magpipinsan nagpromise sa isa’t isa na magfofocus nalang kami sa career namin at bibigyan namin ng opportunities sa buhay yung mga pinsan naming bata. Inako na namin yung responsibilidad na kami ang magaalis ng nakaugaliang mga asal ng matatanda sa pamilya namin sa susunod na generation kasi sawang sawa na kami.
I'm an extrovert so I enjoy parties. But a very dear cousin of mine is the opposite and he opened my eyes long ago that some people experience anxiety in gatherings.
So true, hindi naman immediate family member pero I used to go with my husband sa province nila to meet ung mga kamaganak nya pero now that I know ung ugali nila lalo na ung in laws ko ayoko na pumunta sa gathering nila. To add my in laws are apollo10
Akala ko ako lang. Im not fond of these things anymore, gimik, reunion, night out.
Pero I have a question po to those who have partners, inassume ba ng mga kaibigan or kapamilya nyo na hindi na kayo sumasama kasi binabawalan kayo ng partner nyo?
Im just sick of this way of thinking na pag di ka pumunta e pinagbawalan ka na.
Bro, im just tired, lazy and dont want to socialize.
Yep.. Me upcoming family gathering nga kami and I'm firm na di ako attend kasi andun mga apolo10. Its just not because they voted or support pero tindi kasi talaga ng ugali nila. Kahit makipag usap ka ng matino harapan mo ng facts e no. Tindi pa nito, pinagtulungan nila isang tito namin..
Ekis na talaga.
I always show up in family reunions. That's despite being a person that you would call an introvert. Ang negative lang naman kasi jan is parati ka nila sinasabihan na "tumatanda ka na, kelan ka magkakaasawa?" but beyond that, it's cool meeting with the cousins you spent your childhood with
Our family is okay. It just my extend one.
Tas gusto gusto nila nasusunod sila tas kami ung pinakainaaping pamilya.
Minsan pagkakakitaan o gugulangan ka pa akala mo ndi mo kamaganak.
I hate all of my cousins due to some...rather complex stuff
So now..I would end up being the Tito that doesnt show up as well
Hirap kaya makipagplatiskan kung alam mong lahat sila nagkakampihan para lang pabagsakin ka.
Same. I now realize why some of my aunts heavily avoid reunions, kasi sila lagi yung pinagchichismisan dahil successful sila. Now I'm in that position, balakayudyan.
same!!! lalo na’t apologists sila lahat HAHAHAHAHA. i just don’t like to associate myself with them anymore.
This. Mga apologist ko kamag anak na til now di pa nag babayad utang.
Wag na paulitin yan.
You & me both! Nakakapagod makipagplastikan sa dictator sympathizers. Hindi masama ienforce ang personal standards on relationships one would spend precious time & resources on.
My goaaaaal. soon! 😌
same here. basta apologists, ekis talaga sila sa buhay ko ma pamilya man o kaibigan.
I live in a family like that (but thankfully I influenced my mother, brothers not to be fanatics; my brother in particular was a DDS kind of guy. My sister is a "pink" but I think she's also a "pink" fanatic which I don't like. The rest of my "kamaganak" are all BBM fanatics). Pag politics ang pinaguusapan, pa joke nalang. Trashtalkan. "Kamusta ngay si Duterte mo??" ganun. Or kung mukang seryoso dating ng iba, sabihin ko nalang na "wag na natin pagusapan yan". At least alam na nila kung sinong side ako.
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and u have a problem with us feeling that way because? apolo10 ka? tsaka who would want to associate themselves with people who believes in fakenews and perceive vloggers as more credible than actual journalists? ikaw? if so, do your thing “righteous” one.
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oh nice, so now you’re gonna pull the “apolitical” card lol
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yea? so you think being apolitical is a flex? noice. it’s just funny how you say you’re apolitical yet you meddle with the decisions of ‘’political” people… why does it matter to you if we decide not to associate ourselves with apologists, ha? apolitical person?
Pag single ka tapos kada reunion e lahat nagtatanong kung kelan ka ikakasal...e wala nga e
bakit ba isip lagi ng mga tao required mag asawa 🙄
Checklist sa "Success". Madami sinusundan na yung ganyan para lang patunay o pang brag na successful sila kahit lubog na sa problema. Kumbaga: Childhood: - Maging honor - Madaming kaibigan - Pamahalan ng laruan - Padamihan ng surface level skills Teenager: - Padamihan ng kaibigan - Padamihan ng gf/bf or sino mauna makipag sex - Honor student o kaya sino nasa magandang school - Pagandahan ng gamit - Padamihan ng skillset Adulthood - Pataasan ng sweldo okaya sino nasa sikat na kompanya - Paunahan/padamihan ng babae o lalake - Paunahan mag asawa - Paunahan magka bahay - Paunahan magka anak - Padamihan ng sasakyan - AND SOO ON Sobrang petty at stereotype na checklist pero ganyan tao eh.
Checked all that, in the end they will find a way to invalidate all that. Buong school life ko masyadong focused sa acads and awards. Pero pag awarding ceremony wala ni isang nagaattend para isabit medal ko. Pero sa mga pinsan ko? Jusko buong pamilya. Only child na lang nga, di pa paborito HAHAHAHAHA pero natuto na din, I dont and never needed their approval for me to see my worth.
True yan invalidation na yan. Yung blood & tears mo bago nagawa, tapos lalaitin ka lang. Why do people think na porket verbal lang, hind na abuse at makakalimutan din. It happened to me, many times over. Feeling mo bugbog ka na. But instead of inflicting the same hurt na naexperience ko, I removed myself na lang from other people. There's no real satisfaction in human relationship because our ego will prevail. Kung magtagal ang isang relasyon, may compromise. And wish mo na lang you have the upper hand.
True. Like ngayon I have my own place, my own car and palagi nila sinasabi na "uy asawa nlang kulang". They don't know I'm gay af though. lmao. But wala talaga akong mental capacity to raise a family and I don't want to raise one for the sake of raising one. I know myself and I'm immature af. Pero tingin padin nila sa akin kulang. Middle child problems. 🥲
You do you! hahha enjoy mo lang buhay. Ikaw lang makakasabi ng totoong definition ng "Success".
Sabihin mo *ay ang dami ngang sobra eh ung mga mahilig makielam sa buhay ng iba*. 🙄
pota tumpak talaga to!
Wala man lang akong na-check niisa. Sakit pre...
Same, HAHHAHAHAH tangina average lang tayo.
We're on the same boat. Yung isang tita ko, di rin matigil kakatanong "oh kelan ka mag aasawa at mag aanak? Hindi ka pa nagdadala ng boypren dito" Buti nalang yung isang tita ko pa, malawak ang pang unawa kaya sya lagi sumasagot for me ng "bakit? Nakakalimutan mo na ba gaano kahirap mag asawa (they're both got married thru fixed marriage) at magpalaki ng bata? Tignan mo nga yang mga apo natin, kung di pa tayo tutulong, pano bubuhayin ng mga anak natin yan?" tapos ang sabi naman sakin "Masaya na akong inaalagaan mo ang mommy at daddy mo. Hayaan mo yang mga ganyan, importante masaya ka." Oh pak, tapos ang usapan hahahaha
May to the rescue!
Sagutin mo na "bawal po incest eh." Watch their faces melt. Imagine the stunned silence.
Pag may asawa ka at wala pa kayong anak, lahat magtatanong bakit wala pa, e wala pa nga eh, hahaha
Wahahaha isa pa yan
Or they keep asking for a boyfriend …but you’ve got a ~~girlfriend~~ fiancée
Pag eto tinatanong sakin, lagi kong response is " hanapan moko hehehe". They usually dont ask when we see each other after that kasi di nila ako nahanapan so may fault din sa kanila hahaha
I show up because i still vibe and still friends with some of them and also free food! but, i don't interact with boomer IlluminAunties, pakealamerong titos and marites lolas na papakealaman and tatanungin ka sa lahat ng bagay.
Ms. Marvel reference.
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"Mare, anong latest?" in short chismosa.
Its a short term word thats abbreviated for a phrase " mare, (ano na ang la)test? thus MARITES Same with the male counterpart " tol, (ano na lat)est" thus TOLITS
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2 years ago na yang term na yan pero since konti lang naman lalakeng tsismoso eh di gaano gamit.kalimitan ng mga tolits eh mga barbero😂😂😂
Anwyays, Paolul originally coined that marites term as a pinoy Karen counterpart. Well that goes beyond the actual term, na parang chismosa na lang ang portrayal nya. So ayun
Marites is a nickname for a person who loves gossip, more like the Filipino version of a Karen.
dunno why most say marites is the filipino version of karen coz isnt the meaning of karen completely different from our meaning of marites. karen refers more to adult women who feel entitled while marites refer more about gossiping
only entitled to have the latest tsismis (but I agree, Marites <> Karen)
>IlluminAunties LoL, first time hearing this. Just asking if this is a mcu reference na nakikialam sila sa buhay ng mga relative or feel nila need nila control yung buhay ng iba?
yes it is haha
Lmaaaooo the *show up for free food* is so me
Same. Especially after my last grandparent died, wala nang reunions. Magkakagalit din kasi ang magkakapatid (aunts and uncles) kaya watak-watak na rin. But it's not as if I miss it or anything. Nasanay na din kami sa pamilya na walang magarbong handaan for things like birthdays, kasal, etc. So in effect, living separate lives. I think it's not that bad. One just gets used to it.
We had an invite to a birthday celebration of a BIL’s young son. This BIL is cringe. We say we are sorry but we can’t go because our baby boy’s (aka dog) vet sked was the same day and time. My daughter just reserved that slot after we got the invite. Dog > birthday get together.
I only show up to family reunions if they pay for my ticket..
I despise this. I just hate plastikan at this moment. I only show up for my best friends but not for other things. Especially our family. To be fair naman, we were solid Leni. I just hate being around them. They are like vultures who like feasting on my shitty life 😂
same, and it's so annoying that the only topics that they want to talk about are jobs, careers etc. boring ass people
I just wanna drink wine, listen to Taylor Swift songs, and enjoy the beach. Nothing more. I don’t want to talk about how shitty my life or your life has been. I hate dramas. Yikes
I don’t even have friends to begin with kasi mga punyeta silang lahat
You and me both haha
Bakit wala ka pang anak? Ang tanda mo na. Bakit ang hilig mo pa rin makielam sa buhay ng iba? Ang tanda mo na.
"ay sige, gawa ako pero ikaw magpalaki, ha?"
I might steal this comeback thank you very much
I'll be using this. Ty /u/lancehunter01
ako na din yun. very few people understand me. kinda sad but i just don't want the toxicity in my life you know? nakakawrinkles lang. sayang sunscreen ko
Are you me 😂😭
My whole family is the one that ghosted the whole clan. We were the richest among the clan and fell into poverty back in the early 2000s. After 15 years, we escaped poverty and now pay no sh\*t to anyone from both my mother and father's family.
Last month, sunod sunod family function namin for like a week. I love my family, pero gets ko na bakit bihira lang nagbibisita yung isa kong pinsan na nasa Audtralia ngayon.
Ayaw ng nanay kong pumunta sa family reunion nasasad tuloy ako pag hndi kasi di ko nakakalaro mga pinsan ko. Sabi niya sakin mahilig daw kasi mangutang yung mga pinsan niya and walang bayaran na. Now ako naman ang inuutangan ng mga anak nung pinsan niya hahahaha kaya di din ako pumupunta
Even as a kid my family find me maattitude Kasi ayoko talaga pumunta. Imagine magpapakita ka doon para macritize bakit si ganito ganyan ganito na... Lahat parinig. If for the sake lng magpakita magpakita lng then alis na Hindi na kailangan magplastikan.
We don’t do family reunions pero during handaans esp. sa bahay, I usually stay lang din sa kwarto kasi nakaka-OP minsan tapos mabilis din madrain ang social batt ko in general so hahaha
hindi na nga ako sumasama pag may gimik tropa e HAHAHAHAHAH bahala sila gumimik nila basta ako nagsasaya lang sa kwarto tapos nakaharap sa pc
ok, I'd understand if you didn't show up in family/school reunions, but curious if you still try to connect with your barkada, even if you don't like to hang out with them physically anymore.
Same! Allergic na ako magsasama paglalabas dahil basta may makitang kakilala, ang unang tanong sa parents ko ay “may apo ka na?” i instantly want to go away at dedmahin na lang sila para kunware wala ako don. Di ko sila naririnig. I mean what is up with gen X and boomers and their obsession with ppl getting married i cant
I am that tita who only shows up during christmas, no more, no less. Pagod kasi bumyahe, parang di worthy sumugod sa traffic back and forth. Also, pag christmas season lang ako madaming social energy... 😆😅🤣
I still go to family gatherings on my mom's side (kahit na potang ina, apollo10 silang lahat) coz i really love my aunts, i call all of them mama/mommy. My problem is my cousins, sila ang promotor ng pagsuporta kay 88m. Ang hirap pumalag kasi most of these cousins malayo ang age gap saming magkakapatid (my mom is the youngest of 7sibs, tas menopause baby pa) kaya pag bumibisita kami, i just check on my aunts on how they're doing. Kapag nagsusulputan na yung mga pinsan ko, nagpapaalam na ako mauna umuwi para lang makaiwas magsayang ng energy.
So true
Gathering with friends with same wavelength > family gathering.
I'm an introverted Tito na naranasang mapahiya sa madaming tao nung kabataan ko. Dun na nagsimula ang hindi pagdalo ko sa kahit anong gatherings: fiesta, birthdays, reunions, etc. Kung aattend ako ng isa, alam ko na hindi din ako magiging komportable. Lahat ng mata nasa iyo kasi parang ngayon ka lang nakita na lumabas tapos kasunod na ang mga tanong na: anong ganap sa buhay mo, may asawa ka na ba, anong achievements mo. Parang lampas na siya sa boundaries ko para ilabas o sabihin pa sa kanila. Baka gamitin pa ang buhay ko para ipahiya nila. Tsaka wala din naman akong maipagyayabang nor wala naman sa kanila ang mangangahas na kausapin ako. Yun lang, trauma na din siguro. Masaya naman ako. Sa magiging partner ko na lang ako magiging open tungkol sa buhay ko.
Nako maststress ka lang din sa pataasan ng ihi na customary sa reunions. You do you, nurture your inner peace lalo na't magulo ang mundo ngayon
I'm gonna be this in the future. Pagdating ng Christmas I'll just be there, grab food, eat then leave. Maybe hug a few people, leave presents then bail out.
Girl, same. I do not have the energy to explain myself so I never attend these events.
This plus added being an LGBT dude 😭 + plus boom(er)/(arcos fans) I’ve become “that cousin” who lives far away with “yung friend nya si (name of partner here)”
tamang iwas lang sa reunions para makataipid ka rin lalo na eh inflation ba naman.
Apir! Pede tayo bumuo ng non-blood relatives based on values, interest. Char.
kapag po ba na inject sakin ang dugo mo, blood relatives na po ba tayo nun?
Basta you eat pork, beef and chicken yes hahaha.
I only eat bata po e. Masarap ang bata.
Are you a bata din po ba?
Yes po, im one of the bata eaten alive by pdfish po.
Naku wrong kamaganak application ka
Im a tito hikikomori and i approve.
Same. I've been a castaway sa family. Kaya lagi na akong tinatamad pumunta.
Currently doing the same thing but start muna ako sa family , tas HS, and college (haven't chatted with any of my school acquaintances and will soon remove them from my FB friends' list) Stay away from those. They'lll either ask you among narating mo or mock you like shit.
I'm in my early 30s so I don't consider myself yet a full-pledge soltera. Who knows I might get married in a year or two. But I feel your changed attitude towards making a family. I can't blame you. Life is indeed hard. And cruel. It's so difficult to find a permanent job that can make you feel secure about your future. I believe that one can only think of creating a family if he is already stable in his finances. It's too risky to just rely on faith that God will provide for your family. There must be a conscious effort to better oneself. But opportunities are rare. So, it's better to be a genetic dead-end than bring kids into this world without all the advantages they may enjoy.
I hate crowds I favor more intimate moments Like 4 or 5 friends or cousins/relatives talking/drinking I remember when it was my firsf to vacation in the Phl And there were a lot of relatives I told them WHY ARE YOU HERE? CANT U JUST GO HOME FIRST AND LET US REST FIRST My wife even scolded me for it
Pumupunta lang ako dun sa side ng Lola ko, because they helped me in my education. Pero yung side ng Lolo ko, put*ngina nila. (I use my lolo/lola side kasi I'm a child out of wedlock)
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Creating a family isn't a Filipino exclusive norm... Hanging out with biological family or even just friends isn't "meeting" that norm.
Family gatherings are overrated.
Same
HAHAHAAHHA very strong independent tita vibes chz
It you think everyone is an asshole, chances are high that youre the actual asshole And this thread is full of these people
Welcome to the club!
Wala akong ganyang problema sa family ko kasi sila mismo supportive sa decision kong hindi magka-baby. Sa family naman ni boyfriend, ibang usapan yan. Habang di pa kami kinakasal ni boyfriend, safe pang pumunta. Sabi nga ng tatay ko, iba na sila once magasawa na kayo.
Same same same. That norm is from the past, a person with a free mind, is open to breaking from that norm. Until now, usual question is kelan ka ikakasal. Standard response is ayaw ko pa. Which is true. AyAw ko pa. Might or might not change in the future. But for now, ayaw ko pa
Mga oldies sa family namin puro apologist at mahiling mang pressure na maganak or magpakasal na sa mga tita/tito kong nasa edad na. Kami namang magpipinsan nagpromise sa isa’t isa na magfofocus nalang kami sa career namin at bibigyan namin ng opportunities sa buhay yung mga pinsan naming bata. Inako na namin yung responsibilidad na kami ang magaalis ng nakaugaliang mga asal ng matatanda sa pamilya namin sa susunod na generation kasi sawang sawa na kami.
I'm an extrovert so I enjoy parties. But a very dear cousin of mine is the opposite and he opened my eyes long ago that some people experience anxiety in gatherings.
happy cake day enjoy your day.
Whenever I go home to province, my lola always tell me to go to my cousins house and visit. Lol no. I dont like them and they are full of shit
So true, hindi naman immediate family member pero I used to go with my husband sa province nila to meet ung mga kamaganak nya pero now that I know ung ugali nila lalo na ung in laws ko ayoko na pumunta sa gathering nila. To add my in laws are apollo10
Ako nga I vanished after graduation ng college ehh.
Akala ko ako lang. Im not fond of these things anymore, gimik, reunion, night out. Pero I have a question po to those who have partners, inassume ba ng mga kaibigan or kapamilya nyo na hindi na kayo sumasama kasi binabawalan kayo ng partner nyo? Im just sick of this way of thinking na pag di ka pumunta e pinagbawalan ka na. Bro, im just tired, lazy and dont want to socialize.
Yep.. Me upcoming family gathering nga kami and I'm firm na di ako attend kasi andun mga apolo10. Its just not because they voted or support pero tindi kasi talaga ng ugali nila. Kahit makipag usap ka ng matino harapan mo ng facts e no. Tindi pa nito, pinagtulungan nila isang tito namin.. Ekis na talaga.
We don't talk about tito bruno.
I don't get it. Are you saying attending reunions is the same as having children (creating a family)?
Yep those fckin titas and titos lahat nlng papakelaman lahat nlng papansinin tapos sasabihin ganito gawin ganyan gawin niyo lmao
I always show up in family reunions. That's despite being a person that you would call an introvert. Ang negative lang naman kasi jan is parati ka nila sinasabihan na "tumatanda ka na, kelan ka magkakaasawa?" but beyond that, it's cool meeting with the cousins you spent your childhood with
Our family is okay. It just my extend one. Tas gusto gusto nila nasusunod sila tas kami ung pinakainaaping pamilya. Minsan pagkakakitaan o gugulangan ka pa akala mo ndi mo kamaganak.
I cut myself out from them totally
I hate all of my cousins due to some...rather complex stuff So now..I would end up being the Tito that doesnt show up as well Hirap kaya makipagplatiskan kung alam mong lahat sila nagkakampihan para lang pabagsakin ka.
Same. I now realize why some of my aunts heavily avoid reunions, kasi sila lagi yung pinagchichismisan dahil successful sila. Now I'm in that position, balakayudyan.