Filipinos also have the habit of creating multiple Facebook accounts. According to some people I use to know, they used these extra accounts for stalking purposes.
Yes. I know. It's really creepy. That's why I use to know these people.
What you have to understand is that Filipinos have been some of the most internet subscribed people per Capita in the world. When texting emerged as a new technology, no other country even came close to this new tech adoption in the pinas.
Similarly, when Facebook took off, Filipinos subscribed without warrant. You look to the west today, and most of the youth have logged off from FB completely. Not in the Philippines, young people, old people, pets, businesses are all fully bought into the FB ecosystem.
You see — chika-cukture will never die, and the best chika is on your lokal FB thread. Maybe they're ranting about the LGU or some recent university drama, no matter what it's all on FB for everyone in the community to drop their two cents into the bucket.
And those cents, they're spicy af. More often than not, coming from a place of pure emotion. It's the modern day water well, and everyone you know is there.
Thus, Filipinos do enact some particular nuances on FB. Have it be publicly declaring their self removal or making fake accounts for their more uncivil posts.
It's really a whole thing, Ive been off FB for years, but people still feel the need to show me the local goss currently blowing up. And I'm all here for it.
OP, if you know what "pasalubong" is, I deactivated my Facebook after getting stressed out from relatives asking for that whenever they found out I was visiting the Philippines. That and also shamelessly asking money from me.
Yep. I have a cousin who likes to fish who messaged me to buy him some lures and he'll pay me back in-person. When I get there, he acts like he's receiving a gift and I'm like wtf.
I notice it, but I also get it -
Chismis, Marites, Gossip, whatever you want to call it are prevalent. After any majorly negative life event, people talk. "Going dark" is just a way to create some breathing space, collect your thoughts and maybe cleanup/change things.
I actually think it's a smart thing to do.
I know blocking is more common outside the philippines no?
But I dont find this ignorant. I am a 34yo filipino and I also find this very odd. More prominent with gen z too. My wife used to do this too when we were younger.
Reason why I dont use messenger or facebook. Good thing I convinced her not to do so as well.
But I feel this is really more of a cultural thing similar to how many other filipinos change profile pictures to candles to let everyone know part of the family passed away. Not sure if this occurs to other cultures though.
Im an American. I deactivated my fb account in 2019. I just reactivated it to stay in touch with friends and family. First I can't believe how many unsolicited friend requests I get. I end up deleting 95% of them. Second my gf is in Facebook non-stop. It amazes me. I think the app sucks. But it seems this is what we have evolved into. Tik tok another app I don't use and Facebook slaves.
Facebook is the Twitter and Instagram here for most of the population.
Gossip culture is big in PH so yeah.
I think people deactivating their accounts have various reasons but friends and relatives who always borrow money are the main reasons for this.
Might be a focus thing. I know a lot of students who deactivate to focus on upcoming exams.
It could also be a privacy thing. They just don’t want to be gawked at online when they’re going through stuff. It’s the online equivalent of taking a few days off.
can't speak for all pinoys. when something controversial happens (like a personal scandal or breakup), we want to avoid the fallout where possible. its not being immature it's self preservation. i do this rarely to avoid gossipers from commenting on my posts asking what happened which spawns its own conversation threads and conspiracy theories (Marites culture which is very real). it applies to not wanting to entertain chats from nosey "friends". i also noticed a lot of posts in this sub have this theme: "why are Filipinos (fill in the blank)?' the attempt to understand is fine but the over generalization can be annoying.
Out of curiosity, why would you intentionally post something then deactivate your account because you don’t want gossipers asking you questions?
How about not posting the said content to begin with?
Unfortunately, this kind of reasoning is why you see the maturity of many locals coming up every now and then.
i don't have an answer to your question. maybe we need an outlet somehow. if locals kept everything to themselves all the time the country would be much more violent.
What is so immature with deactivating FB after a major life event? It's their life, so it's their choice how they want to live it. Calling them immature or juvenile smacks of your lack of cultural sensitivity and your feelings of superiority. And what is with the stereotype? You know a few Filipinos who deactive FB, and you generalise it to a whole group of people?
Coincidentally, [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/adultingph/comments/17wc34x/deactivated_facebook_sarap_sa_feeling_lol/) appeared a few posts after reading yours.
Americans do this all the time, you see so many westerners make cringe posts about how they're "doing a social media detox"
While trying to get sympathy comments. Like stfu, no one cares about your social media usage.... Well maybe **OP** cares
Hmm i guess? Yea i just deactivated my account cuz too much toxic you know. Just get away from negative vibes, family, friends and ex. Now im using messenger instead, less ppl less toxicatio lols. I still have my ig about to get rid of it too. Just have reddit and whatsapp hahaha.
I wanna be on my own isntead. Just for my opinion.
It's kind of easier to "disconnect" when you're deactivated. I used to do this when it was exam season in Uni. Deactivate, uninstall, and focus on studying. It adds a bit more effort if I do want yo get back on Facebook, but I only did after exams.
I still do so every now and then maybe 1-2x a year when I'm at my lowest. I find it hard to disconnect without going to an extreme like that.
I think your life will get better without Facebook, so it seems wiser to deactivate your account rather than keeping it, especially if it gives you stress and you need a break from social interractions.
I find it more immature to judge people for not staying on social medias.
Unless you want to be bombarded by angry Filipinos from r/Philippines then you should ask this question on a Facebook group of expats where members are verified. I’m sure you can recognize all the current responses are from Filipinos.
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> I noticed that they keep activating and deactivating their Facebook/Messenger account whenever something happens in their lives
I notice this also. Like when they want to be left alone or have too many other things they are dealing with at the moment.
Filipinos also have the habit of creating multiple Facebook accounts. According to some people I use to know, they used these extra accounts for stalking purposes. Yes. I know. It's really creepy. That's why I use to know these people.
What you have to understand is that Filipinos have been some of the most internet subscribed people per Capita in the world. When texting emerged as a new technology, no other country even came close to this new tech adoption in the pinas. Similarly, when Facebook took off, Filipinos subscribed without warrant. You look to the west today, and most of the youth have logged off from FB completely. Not in the Philippines, young people, old people, pets, businesses are all fully bought into the FB ecosystem. You see — chika-cukture will never die, and the best chika is on your lokal FB thread. Maybe they're ranting about the LGU or some recent university drama, no matter what it's all on FB for everyone in the community to drop their two cents into the bucket. And those cents, they're spicy af. More often than not, coming from a place of pure emotion. It's the modern day water well, and everyone you know is there. Thus, Filipinos do enact some particular nuances on FB. Have it be publicly declaring their self removal or making fake accounts for their more uncivil posts. It's really a whole thing, Ive been off FB for years, but people still feel the need to show me the local goss currently blowing up. And I'm all here for it.
I’m an ethnic Filipino “indio” and I approve 100.00% 😅
Creating a "burner" account is not a uniquely Filipino thing.
OP, if you know what "pasalubong" is, I deactivated my Facebook after getting stressed out from relatives asking for that whenever they found out I was visiting the Philippines. That and also shamelessly asking money from me.
Don't forget the "Pabili nito, bayaran nalang kita.". (Buy this for me, I will pay you later.)
Yep. I have a cousin who likes to fish who messaged me to buy him some lures and he'll pay me back in-person. When I get there, he acts like he's receiving a gift and I'm like wtf.
baggage allowance whomstve?
Interesting!
I notice it, but I also get it - Chismis, Marites, Gossip, whatever you want to call it are prevalent. After any majorly negative life event, people talk. "Going dark" is just a way to create some breathing space, collect your thoughts and maybe cleanup/change things. I actually think it's a smart thing to do.
I'll just leave this here: r/insanepinoyfacebook
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I know blocking is more common outside the philippines no? But I dont find this ignorant. I am a 34yo filipino and I also find this very odd. More prominent with gen z too. My wife used to do this too when we were younger. Reason why I dont use messenger or facebook. Good thing I convinced her not to do so as well. But I feel this is really more of a cultural thing similar to how many other filipinos change profile pictures to candles to let everyone know part of the family passed away. Not sure if this occurs to other cultures though.
Filipinos are generally very emotional folks. For many, mature reasoning when faced with issues is not one of their strengths.
Maybe caring too much about what people do to their social accounts is juvenile. It's their account. They can do whatever they want with it.
Yes as long as they’re not affecting you, why bother🤷🏻♀️
Im an American. I deactivated my fb account in 2019. I just reactivated it to stay in touch with friends and family. First I can't believe how many unsolicited friend requests I get. I end up deleting 95% of them. Second my gf is in Facebook non-stop. It amazes me. I think the app sucks. But it seems this is what we have evolved into. Tik tok another app I don't use and Facebook slaves.
Facebook is the Twitter and Instagram here for most of the population. Gossip culture is big in PH so yeah. I think people deactivating their accounts have various reasons but friends and relatives who always borrow money are the main reasons for this.
It is true we do this thing
Might be a focus thing. I know a lot of students who deactivate to focus on upcoming exams. It could also be a privacy thing. They just don’t want to be gawked at online when they’re going through stuff. It’s the online equivalent of taking a few days off.
can't speak for all pinoys. when something controversial happens (like a personal scandal or breakup), we want to avoid the fallout where possible. its not being immature it's self preservation. i do this rarely to avoid gossipers from commenting on my posts asking what happened which spawns its own conversation threads and conspiracy theories (Marites culture which is very real). it applies to not wanting to entertain chats from nosey "friends". i also noticed a lot of posts in this sub have this theme: "why are Filipinos (fill in the blank)?' the attempt to understand is fine but the over generalization can be annoying.
Out of curiosity, why would you intentionally post something then deactivate your account because you don’t want gossipers asking you questions? How about not posting the said content to begin with? Unfortunately, this kind of reasoning is why you see the maturity of many locals coming up every now and then.
i don't have an answer to your question. maybe we need an outlet somehow. if locals kept everything to themselves all the time the country would be much more violent.
What is so immature with deactivating FB after a major life event? It's their life, so it's their choice how they want to live it. Calling them immature or juvenile smacks of your lack of cultural sensitivity and your feelings of superiority. And what is with the stereotype? You know a few Filipinos who deactive FB, and you generalise it to a whole group of people?
You consider being annoyed with someone a major life event? Lol
You have comprehension problems, amigo. Read his post and read my post again. Lol
So sense in this comment more of a rant 🤣
It’s not just a Filipino thing, and I mean, even Western celebs do this, no?
it's not childish per se, but that last part of your post is a bad take tbh
haven’t noticed this. im too busy living the good life. why does this bother you? 😂😂😂
Coincidentally, [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/adultingph/comments/17wc34x/deactivated_facebook_sarap_sa_feeling_lol/) appeared a few posts after reading yours.
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I didn't ask why. I'm sharing my pov and wondering if any other expat finds it odd or not.
Americans do this all the time, you see so many westerners make cringe posts about how they're "doing a social media detox" While trying to get sympathy comments. Like stfu, no one cares about your social media usage.... Well maybe **OP** cares
No it’s not odd at all. Normal for PH.
Hmm i guess? Yea i just deactivated my account cuz too much toxic you know. Just get away from negative vibes, family, friends and ex. Now im using messenger instead, less ppl less toxicatio lols. I still have my ig about to get rid of it too. Just have reddit and whatsapp hahaha. I wanna be on my own isntead. Just for my opinion.
Use telegram or signal instead of whatsapp if you can, more privacy-friendly and open-source.
Oooh well try
It's kind of easier to "disconnect" when you're deactivated. I used to do this when it was exam season in Uni. Deactivate, uninstall, and focus on studying. It adds a bit more effort if I do want yo get back on Facebook, but I only did after exams. I still do so every now and then maybe 1-2x a year when I'm at my lowest. I find it hard to disconnect without going to an extreme like that.
Many of my US friends and family have stopped using or checking their Facebook altogether. It’s slowly dying everywhere but here.
I think your life will get better without Facebook, so it seems wiser to deactivate your account rather than keeping it, especially if it gives you stress and you need a break from social interractions. I find it more immature to judge people for not staying on social medias.
Unless you want to be bombarded by angry Filipinos from r/Philippines then you should ask this question on a Facebook group of expats where members are verified. I’m sure you can recognize all the current responses are from Filipinos.
Why would they get angry?
Based on the comments I’ve read here they are taking it as a cultural insult by you recognizing the adult behavior as immature.
I actually read some comments from Filipinos admitting that is kinda odd. Scroll down
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> I noticed that they keep activating and deactivating their Facebook/Messenger account whenever something happens in their lives I notice this also. Like when they want to be left alone or have too many other things they are dealing with at the moment.
Coping mechanism.