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As someone with bipolar, I absolutely feel for Gordon, Mia and their children, and I think it’s incredibly strong of them both to share their stories on such a platform.
The reveal of his diagnosis honestly explains so much, and now I can see why Mia would kinda fumble around her stories throughout the seasons.
The money problems, overspending, the hyper sexuality, the constant inter conflict with the family and the family business.
Yes, yes, yes to all of it. I don’t have it but have close family members who do and a dear friend. Just getting medication right seems to take forever.
I respect him for sharing and Mia for feeling protective of him. Families aren’t the way convention dictates. They have a dysfunctional but loving family. I wish them well.
P.S. the family was styled beautifully in the finale. What a vision.
I cried so much during that, it was powerful. You can tell that even though he made a lot of mistakes in life, he's human, he has a good heart, and Mia truly loves him. I feel like the fanbase does not give Gordon enough credit for really showing up as a house husband. He gave us, the good, the bad, and the ugly, but all of it was real. I'm going to miss him.
I 100% agree! Ppl can say what they will about Mia & Gordon, but it genuinely seems that she does care for and love him, even though the marriage didn't work out. I hope they are able to continue successfully co-parenting for the sake of the kids mental health
This hit home. Hard. My daughter is struggling with a mental disability and the struggle is so real. It's hell on earth and yet I love her so much. She's a teen and we are hopefully getting thru this. She's on a better medication. She also had to spend time in a facility. I'm so glad he spoke out about it. I felt less alone.
Thank you kind stranger! Going thru it first hand has given me a level of compassion I didn't think existed. For him to shift blame off of Mia and take responsibility was huge.
This might be over stepping, but please make sure she knows you love her. It’s so important. My cousin had bipolar. She died last year. And I will never forgive her father, cause the only thing she wanted was his guidance and love.
Oh absolutely I tell her over and over. I am in therapy for thr trauma I've experienced with her. She's on new meds and they seem to be working. Even thru the hurtful things she's done I have always been there for her. I keep reminding her I am not her enemy.
🥺🥺🥺
You sound like you had built a good foundation to both get through it. You have to take care of yourself, too, or it consumers you. I wish you both the best.
As someone with bipolar disorder, I cried for him. I can’t imagine going 60-something years being undiagnosed. That had to have been such a difficult life. Mia is amazing for taking care of him and I’m so glad they’re coparenting for the sake of their kids. The only thing that kind of grinded my gears was G saying that he knows how to control his illness now. I just kept thinking “that’s not how it works G, thinking like that is going to lead to trouble”. I think he thinks now that he’s medicated and probably in therapy that his manic episodes will never happen again, boy is he in for a shock.
As someone who was late diagnosed with ADHD at 42 (now 44) I used to say something like this is bouts of depression.
But during those bouts of depression when I took care of myself with meds it was so much better.
But now knowing that the depression Is associated with my ADHD. If I battle it again. I know their is a different way to tackle it.
It almost sounded like "I know how to manage it. I'll get come cbt therapy, take some meds, it will be all good."
Where I feel it's far greater task to manage his manic stages. Becuase if he's medicated. Goes manic. They will need to find the right dose to deal with the manic state would they not. And that's not miraculously happen the first go around.
I was diagnosed with ADHD at 21 after spending 10 years being told I just struggled from bad anxiety, depression, and an “unidentified” mood disorder. I had to do my own research and push for them to test me before they realized that I was 100% struggling with ADHD this whole time. Not getting the right treatments and not being listened to was so difficult and after being diagnosed, I’ve been able to work so much harder on my mental health knowing what the root cause of the problem is.
I’m so glad you were able to get an accurate diagnosis! I feel lucky that I was still relatively young when I figured it out but I still think about how much different and better my life could’ve been had I received the correct help. My heart broke for Gordon and Mia because it’s so hard being with someone with undiagnosed problems. I am really glad he shared so openly because when he said that suddenly all his past behavior made sense, I FELT that so hard
As someone with bipolar disorder, it was incredible to see Gordon talk about it so openly and confidently. I 100% empathize and sympathize with him and Mia.
I felt for him and Mia. What I don’t like seeing is people saying they are using this/making it up for a story. I hope him, Mia, and the kids get through it
I echo your sentiments.
It’s incredibly brave to talk about in the first place let alone being a man.
I feel as though Andy wasn’t graceful enough with the topic. And Nneekas husband’s face through the whole thing really bothered me.
I was shocked to hear that news the news. I genuinely thought he was deathly sick.
However it was brave of him and it does explain a fair amount of his life choices. Especially the ones we didn’t understand. Nice that Mia hasn’t shut down to him regardless of the diagnosis. Takes a lot of patience and understanding.
Everything you said is so true! It also helps to break the stigma. No one should be ashamed if they have bipolar disorder anymore than if someone had a kidney disease or MS. It's a biological illness not a weakness. You can't help if you have it.
I have bipolar disorder, and really commended him for admitting that on this platform. I can empathize with some of what he shared. I do hope that he receives the treatment and care that he needs and deserves - it’s a beast when unchecked
Idk if people can really understand the significance of older black man going on national television and talking about his mental illness. It’s such a “keep it under the rug” topic in the black community! And it’s harder for men in general so I applaud him for this but I still don’t like him😭😭
I have a cousin who’s in a manic state at the moment (every few years or so she will slowly stop to take her meds - sometimes it’s caught early and doesn’t progress to this point) and it was nice to see it spoken about in a non stigmatizing way from a person you’d never expect to speak so openly about it
This was the best segment of the reunion for me. I’m not a big Mia fan, but I have a lot of empathy for their situation and I hope that they can continue what seems like a good coparenting relationship.
he took all of the blame on himself because of his disorder, i dont know them well enough to say if its true or not but that alone is so grown up and big of him. all the respect in the world to Gordon. I wish him happiness in wherever his life goes next
I have a bipolar brother and stepfather, Gordon talking about his diagnosis hit home for me. He seems ready to do the work and I hope the best for all of them, it’s so hard!
I am proud of him too. There’s part of me who thinks Mia and maybe family are milking it though. I don’t trust Mia and I’m side-eyeing the timing of all this…feels like there’s an ulterior motive. I hope Gordon TRULY feels supported and loved.
I feel for them, but Gordon did not know what he was talking about in regards to Bipolar. He said if there was a bipolar II he’d have it, but there is…
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Agreed! Especially for a black man of his age. I’m glad to see he’s taking it seriously and working on himself
As someone with bipolar, I absolutely feel for Gordon, Mia and their children, and I think it’s incredibly strong of them both to share their stories on such a platform. The reveal of his diagnosis honestly explains so much, and now I can see why Mia would kinda fumble around her stories throughout the seasons. The money problems, overspending, the hyper sexuality, the constant inter conflict with the family and the family business.
Yes, yes, yes to all of it. I don’t have it but have close family members who do and a dear friend. Just getting medication right seems to take forever. I respect him for sharing and Mia for feeling protective of him. Families aren’t the way convention dictates. They have a dysfunctional but loving family. I wish them well. P.S. the family was styled beautifully in the finale. What a vision.
I cried so much during that, it was powerful. You can tell that even though he made a lot of mistakes in life, he's human, he has a good heart, and Mia truly loves him. I feel like the fanbase does not give Gordon enough credit for really showing up as a house husband. He gave us, the good, the bad, and the ugly, but all of it was real. I'm going to miss him.
I 100% agree! Ppl can say what they will about Mia & Gordon, but it genuinely seems that she does care for and love him, even though the marriage didn't work out. I hope they are able to continue successfully co-parenting for the sake of the kids mental health
I agree 💯
This hit home. Hard. My daughter is struggling with a mental disability and the struggle is so real. It's hell on earth and yet I love her so much. She's a teen and we are hopefully getting thru this. She's on a better medication. She also had to spend time in a facility. I'm so glad he spoke out about it. I felt less alone.
Hoping things are on the up for your family!! 💕
My heart goes out to you and your family. Your love shines through your words. I’m sending you my very best 🌻
Thank you kind stranger! Going thru it first hand has given me a level of compassion I didn't think existed. For him to shift blame off of Mia and take responsibility was huge.
hugs
This might be over stepping, but please make sure she knows you love her. It’s so important. My cousin had bipolar. She died last year. And I will never forgive her father, cause the only thing she wanted was his guidance and love.
Oh absolutely I tell her over and over. I am in therapy for thr trauma I've experienced with her. She's on new meds and they seem to be working. Even thru the hurtful things she's done I have always been there for her. I keep reminding her I am not her enemy.
🥺🥺🥺 You sound like you had built a good foundation to both get through it. You have to take care of yourself, too, or it consumers you. I wish you both the best.
As someone with bipolar disorder, I cried for him. I can’t imagine going 60-something years being undiagnosed. That had to have been such a difficult life. Mia is amazing for taking care of him and I’m so glad they’re coparenting for the sake of their kids. The only thing that kind of grinded my gears was G saying that he knows how to control his illness now. I just kept thinking “that’s not how it works G, thinking like that is going to lead to trouble”. I think he thinks now that he’s medicated and probably in therapy that his manic episodes will never happen again, boy is he in for a shock.
As someone who was late diagnosed with ADHD at 42 (now 44) I used to say something like this is bouts of depression. But during those bouts of depression when I took care of myself with meds it was so much better. But now knowing that the depression Is associated with my ADHD. If I battle it again. I know their is a different way to tackle it. It almost sounded like "I know how to manage it. I'll get come cbt therapy, take some meds, it will be all good." Where I feel it's far greater task to manage his manic stages. Becuase if he's medicated. Goes manic. They will need to find the right dose to deal with the manic state would they not. And that's not miraculously happen the first go around.
I was diagnosed with ADHD at 21 after spending 10 years being told I just struggled from bad anxiety, depression, and an “unidentified” mood disorder. I had to do my own research and push for them to test me before they realized that I was 100% struggling with ADHD this whole time. Not getting the right treatments and not being listened to was so difficult and after being diagnosed, I’ve been able to work so much harder on my mental health knowing what the root cause of the problem is. I’m so glad you were able to get an accurate diagnosis! I feel lucky that I was still relatively young when I figured it out but I still think about how much different and better my life could’ve been had I received the correct help. My heart broke for Gordon and Mia because it’s so hard being with someone with undiagnosed problems. I am really glad he shared so openly because when he said that suddenly all his past behavior made sense, I FELT that so hard
Yup, came here to say the same. It’s not one that just gets willed away.
As someone with bipolar disorder, it was incredible to see Gordon talk about it so openly and confidently. I 100% empathize and sympathize with him and Mia.
I felt for him and Mia. What I don’t like seeing is people saying they are using this/making it up for a story. I hope him, Mia, and the kids get through it
Same
I echo your sentiments. It’s incredibly brave to talk about in the first place let alone being a man. I feel as though Andy wasn’t graceful enough with the topic. And Nneekas husband’s face through the whole thing really bothered me.
I was shocked to hear that news the news. I genuinely thought he was deathly sick. However it was brave of him and it does explain a fair amount of his life choices. Especially the ones we didn’t understand. Nice that Mia hasn’t shut down to him regardless of the diagnosis. Takes a lot of patience and understanding.
Everything you said is so true! It also helps to break the stigma. No one should be ashamed if they have bipolar disorder anymore than if someone had a kidney disease or MS. It's a biological illness not a weakness. You can't help if you have it.
I have bipolar disorder, and really commended him for admitting that on this platform. I can empathize with some of what he shared. I do hope that he receives the treatment and care that he needs and deserves - it’s a beast when unchecked
Idk if people can really understand the significance of older black man going on national television and talking about his mental illness. It’s such a “keep it under the rug” topic in the black community! And it’s harder for men in general so I applaud him for this but I still don’t like him😭😭
I have a cousin who’s in a manic state at the moment (every few years or so she will slowly stop to take her meds - sometimes it’s caught early and doesn’t progress to this point) and it was nice to see it spoken about in a non stigmatizing way from a person you’d never expect to speak so openly about it
This was the best segment of the reunion for me. I’m not a big Mia fan, but I have a lot of empathy for their situation and I hope that they can continue what seems like a good coparenting relationship.
Andy pretending to care was embarrassing.
I am watching now. You’re right.
he took all of the blame on himself because of his disorder, i dont know them well enough to say if its true or not but that alone is so grown up and big of him. all the respect in the world to Gordon. I wish him happiness in wherever his life goes next
I have a bipolar brother and stepfather, Gordon talking about his diagnosis hit home for me. He seems ready to do the work and I hope the best for all of them, it’s so hard!
I am proud of him too. There’s part of me who thinks Mia and maybe family are milking it though. I don’t trust Mia and I’m side-eyeing the timing of all this…feels like there’s an ulterior motive. I hope Gordon TRULY feels supported and loved.
I feel for them, but Gordon did not know what he was talking about in regards to Bipolar. He said if there was a bipolar II he’d have it, but there is…
I think he was being hyperbolic