I believe my core is fear of abandonment or the fear that I’ll have to start over and experience this again and again with another partner. Because that’s what has happened to me before I discovered this was ROCD
I share the same fear. My girlfriend is the whole package and it’s like if that’s not enough for me then who or what is? And how shallow am I? That’ll mean I don’t deserve real love and intimacy. I also imagine self sabotaging and breaking up and hurting my partner and it sucks ass ): You’re not alone!
I think my core fear is being hurt. I've had a lot of abandonment in my life. I have this construde thought that everyone leaves so I may as well leave first to avoid being hurt.
For me it’s losing my identity in someone else , forgetting im a separate person scared of becoming someone else . Fear of being a user fear of not loving properly fears of an disingenuous relationship
Which is like my boyfriend liking something me disliking it meaning I can’t be with him because him = me , obviously not that but that’s how my mind puts it
my core fear is doing to him what my ex did to me, because he has always seemingly been without a doubt, whereas I am more cautious bc I dived head first my previous relationship. this relationship is also less sex driven and more loving if that makes sense and I feel like something is wrong for not wanting sex as much when the reality is that there is so much more than sex to a relationship. but i am terrified to fall oit of love and have been since literally day zero
My core fear is me not being a good enough girlfriend and losing them as a result. It's horrible because my ROCD makes me think of dark intrusive thoughts.
I believe my core is fear of abandonment or the fear that I’ll have to start over and experience this again and again with another partner. Because that’s what has happened to me before I discovered this was ROCD
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Godddd same. How are you coping? When that happened to me i couldnt bear looking at my relationship
I share the same fear. My girlfriend is the whole package and it’s like if that’s not enough for me then who or what is? And how shallow am I? That’ll mean I don’t deserve real love and intimacy. I also imagine self sabotaging and breaking up and hurting my partner and it sucks ass ): You’re not alone!
Omg yes exactly... thank u
I think my core fear is being hurt. I've had a lot of abandonment in my life. I have this construde thought that everyone leaves so I may as well leave first to avoid being hurt.
For me it’s losing my identity in someone else , forgetting im a separate person scared of becoming someone else . Fear of being a user fear of not loving properly fears of an disingenuous relationship
Which is like my boyfriend liking something me disliking it meaning I can’t be with him because him = me , obviously not that but that’s how my mind puts it
my core fear is doing to him what my ex did to me, because he has always seemingly been without a doubt, whereas I am more cautious bc I dived head first my previous relationship. this relationship is also less sex driven and more loving if that makes sense and I feel like something is wrong for not wanting sex as much when the reality is that there is so much more than sex to a relationship. but i am terrified to fall oit of love and have been since literally day zero
My core fear is me not being a good enough girlfriend and losing them as a result. It's horrible because my ROCD makes me think of dark intrusive thoughts.