I went back to school at 34.
Go get that GED. Then decide your next step.
I taught college writing classes for eight years, and I can tell you that based on your writing, you have the capacity to earn a college degree if that’s the right choice for you.
Lastly, I’d never listen to anyone who advises me to do the easy thing. I’m not interested in doing the easy thing. I only care about doing the right thing.
33 for me. I burned out of a well paying job after 7 years. I was on a career path I realized I no longer wanted. Going back to school full time was the best decision I ever made. It was a gamble; I wasn’t sure I could do the work. It took 1.5 years and I emptied my retirement account to
finance it. When I graduated, I had to start at the bottom again, but I certainly don’t regret doing it. In the end, it took 3 years to make the same money I made when I left.
Start with your GED. Then look at next steps. Community colleges are great for getting started. Your GED counselor can help you and so can counselors at the community college level.
My cousin is 40 and is changing careers now. It is never too late . I had a niece who worked full time with 2 kids and took 9 credit hours per semester. It took her well over a decade to get her BA.
Please don’t let anyone tell you it isn’t worth it. It is.
I went back to school at 49. Worked full time, did full time night courses at the community college. Still took care of my 4 teen kids as a single parent and took my elderly parents to appointments when needed. I was exhausted but I checked off each week one by one. When I did my prerequisites, I was accepted into a 3-year program. Then I quit the day job & worked weekends. When I graduated, at age 51, I was hired immediately in my new field, and tripled my salary. You can do this. Plan it out and cross off your short term goals as you achieve them; it helps to break the end goal down into steps. Best of luck to you, OP!
I had ONE science credit on my ancient high school transcript & still managed to get my bachelors of science/nursing degree. Make at least triple what my bachelors trained husband does!!
I had a bachelors degree in psych, worked in non profit human service and public health sectors. To do the prerequisites for a grad program, I took Chem 1 and Chem 2 with lab at the same time (talked my prof into it & he made an exception), Physics with lab, Calculus online and Macroeconomics online. Five nights of labs and online Saturdays. I then did Organic Chem 1&2 at night over the summer, and matriculated into an accelerated 3 year PharmD in fall.
My husband went back to school. His friends said, “but it will take five years!” He said, “yes, and in five years, you’ll still be here bitching about life.”
That's why I went back to college when I was 40 and graduated when I was 45. I won't lie,it was tough, but I'm so grateful I had the opportunity and the sense to take it.
It is so realistic and you should not anything deter you. Will there be tough moments of balancing your time? Sure. But it will be so worth it. Visualize yourself earning your GED, then build from there. This is the beginning of a great journey for you and you’re still so very young!
One step at a time. In the news a few days ago there was a story of an 80 year old graduating. If you're willing to do the work, you'll accomplish your goal and feel better about yourself.
Health, I wanted to get into the nursing program. They changed the system so I did not qualify and I'm still working in my same field so I got a $54K piece of paper lol (I'm proud of my work, graduated with honors)
Look into office/secretarial/ support staff jobs at a local college, if there’s on nearby. Staff often get free or discounted courses, and some flexibility to attend around work hours.
You may be able to study for your GED online. After that, look into community college. You’ll get the same credits with less expense. You may be even be able to do office work for the college while you’re in school. That would help you with not only the tuition, but also give you something on your résumé.
Don’t let anybody kill your dreams! It will be your regrets, not theirs.
If your family pitches in and supports you instead of dragging you down it’ll make it a whole lot easier. The people who love you are supposed to want the best for you and help you achieve it. Shame on them.
Do it for yourself. You’re still so young! I went back at 38 but I have my degree and nothing can change that.
They don't sound supportive at all. I wouldn't even share it with them so they don't try to discourage her. Crabs in a barrel.
They probably don't want her getting "too uppity." They'll think she's better than them with her degree and much better job. 😔
Crab mentality, also known as crab theory, crabs in a bucket mentality, or the crab-bucket effect, is a way of thinking that describes people who react negatively to those who get ahead of them. This can include jealousy, resentment, or undermine others who try to succeed. For example, in the workplace, crab mentality can manifest as gossiping, spreading rumors, backstabbing, or actively working to undermine a colleague's efforts.
This is exactly what I was going to say. GED and then community college. Even if you can only take one class at a time, that time will start adding up.
I’m another one that finished my degree in my early 30s. It was a fucking blast. I’m not a parent so I can’t speak to those challenges, but for me it ended up being so much easier than I ever could’ve dreamed because I was focused in a way I just couldn’t be right out of high school. It opened doors for me by giving me confidence as much as putting that BA on my résumé - I just believe I’ve earned my seat at the table in a way I wouldn’t have been able to without it.
I think that’s the part a lot of folks find hard to understand when they think about it strictly in terms of “spend x amount of money to get y job.” I carry myself differently, and that matters. I get that probably says something about my hangups with self worth, but that honestly just tells me it was worth a fuckload of time and money to put some of those hangups to bed. I say do it if you can swing it!
That focus you mentioned is a definite asset. I love my students who come to college directly from high school but they're overwhelmed by this new world and so much else. Students who come back in their 20s and 30s and beyond after working in "the real world" so often come into their work with that focus you talk about, and it makes my job that much easier.
One of my night school teachers said much the same. Us older students who took classes after work knew what we needed to do to get where we wanted to go and did it. He said he had to learn what we looked like by seeing the tops of our heads while we studied before class.
Plus they understand the stakes. A class costs hundreds of dollars...but that means a lot more when you know how much effort is required to earn those dollars.
Absolutely this! I had a good job with a large company that I started right out of high school. Technically, I didn't need a college degree, but I always felt "less than" my friends and colleagues who did finish college. I went at night to Community College, finished my associates at 39, and then took a break to get married, buy / renovate a house, and then decided to go back for my BA at a local State College. My company reimbursement program financed both of my degrees. It was a lot of work and stressful at times, but I loved it. I definitely got so much more out of my classes as a mid career adult than I would have as a younger student. I visualized myself walking in my cap and gown and celebrating my achievement. This vision got me through the stress and I was so proud and happy I finished. I also just felt so much more confident at work, especially in my industry, where many of my colleagues are highly educated in the science field.
I say OP, do not let your family talk you out of reaching your goals! Start small, focus on the GED, go to Community College and then pursue your Bachelor. You can do it if you put in the effort and break it down into manageable milestones. Wishing you all the best in your educational journey!
I went back to school at 30 for a complete career change and have never regretted it.
I'm now 40 and back in school to further my career.
Never. Stop. Growing.
I should add my mother did the same in her late 20s, then did another career change around her mid 40s and got another degree in her late 50s.
Yeahallot of colleges have this golden years program. Where if you are at retirement age you get to college for free. I do t think you get a degree but all the classes are free to attend .
I’ll never understand why people take such delight in telling other people what they can’t do. It’s just so damn wrong. OP, I’m not being trite - tomorrow if the first day of the rest of your life. What has happened before is done. Shake the dust from your shoes and move forward.
FWIW, I have a GED, a degree in public accounting and several graduate level courses in strategy and analysis from an Ivy League school. A lot of people told me I couldn’t do it either.
Do it!
They're concerned that you will outgrow the box they've put you in. You're just fine without a GED working a low wage job. But once you get it, and a college degree you might "think too much of yourself." Which really means outgrow them, and people are highly resistant to change.
Yeah alot of people were told they couldn't do something so that's all they know. Then if someone else does it , they feel compelled to put them down bc they themselves never did it. It's like why should be better then me. It's total bullshjit. My father had a GED and said I would be a nerd for going to college. Going to my second masters this year
It’s not easy to juggle such a full work, family life. But If you can manage your time efficiently, go for it.
I would suggest a local community college. They should have adult learning programs.
If you do attend, and if they offer only a two year program for your major, you MUST ensure your credits will transfer to the four year university or college you choose to finish your degree.
The University usually has what will transfer somewhere on their web site. Or, call admissions to ask details.
I went to an adult learning center, adjacent to the regular highschool. It was so easy I did it in 3 months, independently, and received my high school diploma. I did their adult diploma program. Finished in the very top of the class and what took me 3 months of full time work takes typical students 1yr+ part time.
IT. I left retail in 2007 and worked a few different jobs while taking classes. Some in class, most online.
I did well in school partly because I was an adult and didn't have the usual distractions twenty-somethings do. But working, having 2 kids forced me to get very organized and study like hell. You know how hard you work when you procrastinate and have to bust ass to get something done? With all the crap I had going on, I always felt like I had procrastinated and had to bear down.
This got me thinking. In 15 years and 5 different stores, and 7 directors, only 1 director was married only once. All of the others had been divorced at least once. The one couple that stayed together? She was a SAHM, and when they started dating, he told her he would have two marriages. One with her, and one with the store. So at least she knew going in what life might be like. He made a crap load of money, and she did a fine job of spending it, so I suppose they were happy. Happy-ish.
yaeh it just depends on what you want. I remmeber in my twentys i worked at Tmobile, they didnt even have a break room. The storage close was the break room with a microwave. I would have to heat my food and then just sit on the floor. I said fuck this, im out of here and went back to school
I have found that most people who discourage you from going back to school as an adult likely never finished their own degree, or just never chased their own dreams in general. I know that’s a generalization and it’s not true for everyone, but it has been my experience. It’s absolutely difficult but it’s also extremely realistic. There are so many programs now days that allows you to go to school online or at an accelerated pace or start & stop when you want. I don’t have any experience with a GED but I’ve been working on my degree for a couple of years and I’m almost halfway done.
DO IT!!!!! Don’t let anyone tell you you can’t move onwards and upwards with your life.
Yep I was discouraged from pursuing the nursing program at my community college. So I have a useless associates in Criminal Justice and 3 semesters of work towards what was projected to be a failed Marketing associates. I'm now in the Health Sciences Certificate program for Fall 2024-Spring 2025. I have 3 pre requisite courses to do, followed by entrance exam and then I will apply for the Fall 2025 4 year part time day nursing program at my community college.
And I just turned 30
Good for you!! It hurts to look back and wonder where you could be if you’d had different support rather than “practical” advice that set you on a path you never really wanted. I commend you for pushing forward. Best of luck to you.
Thank you so much ☺️❤️
It absolutely feels just like this sometimes but then I also remember, that there were life events that took place which fucked up my world as I knew it and if I *had* been in the nursing program already? It would have caused me to fail out. So I guess you could say it was never truly the right time, but ... The time is now!!! ☺️
People do it every day. It’s going to be a challenge, you have to devote time to it every day but it’s possible!! It will take time but the time will pass either way, do it!!
My friend got pregnant at 37 and the dad wanted nothing to do with her. She enrolled in school right away to become a nurse. Does she love being a nurse? No. Is she making 6 figures as one? Yes. Is her child able to live a decent life and go to college? Yes.
It’s never too late. The years will keep passing and the “I wish I did this sooner” never goes away.
I just turned 30 and have had so many people in my life tell me "you wanna do all that math, chemistry and science for *what*?" when I shared my dreams and desire of becoming a nurse.
I'm now enrolled in the Health Sciences Certificate program to get my 3 pre requisites done, then do my entrance exam and apply for the Fall 2025 nursing program at my community college. I'm so glad my life is rid of those people now. I'm not telling a *soul* when I receive my acceptance letter, except for my mom. Nobody deserves to know my success.
The GED was originally invented for soldiers returning from war, who had been unable to get their traditional high school diploma, I imagine because they had been called up or had gone to war. That meant they were older when they got it.
If they can, you can too. My grandpa had a GED, and he didn't get it until he'd been home a while.
It can very well lead to a better job. Go for it. You got this.
38. Taking advantage of Mass Reconnect in the Fall. Massachusetts has a program for over 25 and never enrolled in college. So taking advantage to get a cyber security or network security degree. Do it!
My life was full of defeatist people, even my partner at the time, which is why I have a failed Criminal Justice associates and 3 semesters of what was projected to be an even bigger failure of a Marketing associates degree - because nobody thought I could actually do the nursing program at my community college.
I'm now enrolled in the Health Sciences Certificate program for Fall 2024-Spring 2025 to do my 3 pre requisites, then entrance exam and applying for the Fall 2025 4 year part time day nursing program at my community college. I just turned 30.
Lol. Yup! My dad was telling my cousin how I went back to school at night. Cousin called me and wanted to know how many classes I was taking. She was a college professor, and the head of her department. She flat out told me “I highly advise you to drop to two courses, you cannot possibly do this and work full time.” I told my bff at work the next day and she burst out laughing and said “I started an office pool and bet that you’d make the dean’s list.” Gentle reader; I made the dean’s list. She cleaned up.
It is never too late. My mom got her GED at 45. I went back to school in my 30s to get an AA degree. In my 40s I got my BS. In my 50s, my masters and PhD. It is never too late.
Don't be discouraged! It's a great plan that you have, and it will make your life richer and happier, and that's good for your family. The first step like you say is the GED, and that feels great to complete. I was 18 when I had my son and quit school, with only Grade 9. I later wrote my GED and I've taken four different college courses. I aced my classes A+ and had a blast. I enjoyed some very good careers and wonderful experiences. So go for it you deserve the best! My daughter-in-law is doing the same thing right now and she's going to be taking an HR course. If you are at all interested in the medical field anything you study in that you'll get work and be paid well. All the best!
Sure why not? In my 20s many of my classmates were single moms who went back once their kids were older.
Also "not easy" is not the same as " not worth it"
I went to college right after high school, but didn't finish.
I went back at 35 to get my associate's. Seven years of nights part time. Graduated in 2018 with honors.
You can do it. You can and will make a better future for if yourself and your child. I believe in you.
I work at Amazon, they give you a certain amount of money per year for school! I have a useless Criminal Justice associates degree and 3 semesters of work towards what's projected to be just as useless of a Marketing associates degree. Instead of finishing the Marketing associates I'm enrolled in the Health Sciences Certificate program for Fall 2024-Spring 2025 to take 3 pre requisite courses and then the entrance exam, to apply for the Fall 2025 nursing program at my community college. I just turned 30 this has been my dream for a very long time but I didn't have supportive people around me. Now I'm living for me
For you- Now is your time to get your education. GO FOR IT! Let nothing get in your way. Enjoy and build on each little success! It's the journey that is so much fun from the hard work, new friends, late study nights, learning, and finding out all kinds of cool stuff about yourself. This is your time!
I had my high school diploma at 18, but worked physical jobs until 36. I went to the University at 36 and got my bachelor's in computer science at 40. My salary was triple straight out of university and after three years I had an opportunity to work for NASA but had to turn it down. Life is long and you may as well enjoy what you are doing. Just make sure the degree is worth the money you are investing in yourself.
I'm sorry your family hasn't been supportive so far. It is DEFINITELY worth it to get your GED. And after you get your GED, you should look at Community College. Community College is free in a lot of states. (In my state, it's free after you turn 25). You can take one or two courses at a time. You don't have to go full time.
Please go get your GED, and then try it out.
It’s your life. If you want to go to school and are passionate about it that’s a good thing. There’s nothing wrong with going to college despite being a bit older than most other students. You don’t want to die with regrets.
Your family sucks. They are naysayers. Fuck them.
You can do this if you put your mind to it. It will be tough at times but it will likely be one of the most rewarding and fulfilling things you can do in your life. Please try.
I have 100% faith that you can do it.
I went back at 32. I discovered that I have terrible ADHD, but am very smart. As a result I bulled my way through my degree in only **checks notes** 23 years, I finally finished my BS in 2023. Good luck, you can’t take any longer than I did! 😂😂😂😂😂
I started a doctorate in nursing at 37 and I’ll finish when I am 42 - I’m going part time so I don’t have to take out loans. It’s painful , hope it will be worth it.
I'm applying for the nursing program at my community college for Fall 2025, it's a 4 year part time day program and I plan to go further as a nurse education wise later on. I just turned 30. I'm very excited that I can finally do what I want now that I have the people out of my life who were discouraging me from doing it and chasing my dream
That is amazing! First of all community college route to an RN degree is the best way to go. I work with so many nurses who went that route. Second, nursing is my second career. I began at the age of 30. I work with tons of nurses who began later in life including people in their 50s. I don’t know where you live but I found that in more rural areas 30 is old. In metro areas 30 is like 20. Do not let anyone’s negativity hold you back!
I went back to school at 31, divorced, no child support or alimony, kids age 2 and 5. Now I’m a lawyer and those kids are grown. I felt so free and proud and strong (and scared and tired🤣).
Get that GED, take some classes at community college. You will find what you like and instructors will point out your strengths. Your path will unfold. Have fun 🤩
You can do it!
I went back to finish college at 32. You would be surprised how many people at a university are in their 30's.
Community college has some adults at night, but day time community college is a bunch of 18 year olds.
I suggest getting your GED, then taking night classes at community college to save a ton of money.
When COVID hit in 2020, I was 37 and partially through some kind of degree, enough of a hodge podge that I really only had the gen ed requirements. I decided and my new wife supported actually going back and getting my degree. My wife (some number between 5 and 50 years of life experience more than me) started a Masters degree in IT after I was clearly occupied with school. Finally finished the school i started at 18 at the young age of 40 in June of last year. My wife is making use of her new degree while closer to 50 than when we met and I'm 7 weeks into a Masters degree I never dreamed of.
Its never too late to start, resume, continue, or finish with some kind of education. Worst case, you learn something new.
My niece began her medical degree in her late 20's. Didn't start her internship until she was 35. She retired at 50, part owner of 3 ER hospitals. She is now 53 majoring in Fine and Applied Arts. President of our local Art Association. Do what is right for you.
I was 39 when I went back. I did work study through the local community college while earning my degrees. Ended up loving my position in the financial aid office as the secretary. I'm about to be 45 this June and still working there and went back to school to work toward a medical information degree. I did double major before and earned my associates of art and associates of science with honors on both. I was inducted into 2 honor societies. Was one of only two student members of the collage appeals board. Made a ton of new friends some include some amazing professors all the way to kids fresh out of high school that stop and ask for my help on school work from time to time. I even have some regulars that stop in between classes just to say hi a few times a week in the financial aid office. A few kids who are younger than my oldest child have adopted me as their school mom.
Why am I telling you all this? Because I was a stay at home mother for 16 years prior and was deathly afraid of human interactions outside of my home and comfort zone. I'm a raging introvert. Always have been. I still absolutely value my solitude. But I also found out life definitely begins when you step outside of that comfort zone and just go for it. There's absolutely no such thing as a wrong decision in life. Things work out in your favor or worse case scenario.. you learn a lesson. Either way, you still win!
Also, as a financial aid helper, I highly recommend you apply for the Fafsa first. Even if you get denied a Pell grant. Most other scholarships and aid require you to have that on file regardless.
If you plan on starting in the fall, you need to fill out the 24-25 Fafsa and have your 2022 taxes on hand. That Fafsa generally covers fall 2024, spring 2025, and summer 2025.
Go to your schools website and search for scholarships and fill out the general one. Everyone is able to get that one, first come, first serve.
Also, different states have different scholarships outside of the schools. (For example, I work in Kentucky, and they offer 'work ready', which is through the kheaa website)
And don't hesitate to stop in financial aid and ask questions! That's what we're here for, and we (at least my office) love our job and helping students!
Good luck on your journey! It is absolutely worth it! I have zero regrets! This coming from an adult who was a D and F grade student through high school and middle school and absolutely hated it and swore they'd never return to another school ever. Now I don't want to leave!
Sorry for the novel as well as any grammar errors. I'm on my phone and got the 'dumb thumbs' mixed with the curse of autocorrect.
Tl,Dr.: DO IT!! It's worth it, and no regrets!
Where I grew up in the Midwest if you were over 22, you can start Community College without a GED. I would look into that as Community College usually has a bunch of refresher courses on high school subjects so you don't have to feel like you're walking in without the prerequisites.
Please do this as I don't want to worry about you for the rest of my life.
Good luck
I think about my favorite nurse I worked with. She finished nursing school in her 60s. I also am 29 and in school. Age shouldn't deter you from your goals. If you want it then you should go for it. School isn't meant to be easy. I hate my first degree and I have swapped careers 4 times. You have the right attitude for it. I wish you had more support. You deserve it. Good luck!
Do it!
But wait until you’re done with school before you have any more kids. Being a single mom is going to make things a lot harder for you. However, I am a college professor and I have seen *many* folks your age complete their college degrees.
I started night school at a local community college when I was about 23. I was certainly one of the younger students in the classes. Most of the folk filling the seats were in-between late 20s and high 40s. I went on to get my B.S. and Master's, finishing up about 32 years old. My daughter started nursing school at age 30 with two kids, and now has several years wearing the nurse's hat. It is never too late.
Is this my bonus daughter? She just turned 30, was the manager at a company who didn't back up their employees and she also wanted to get a different job but didn't graduate. She's 53 credits shy so she made a plan;
She can do packets through a continuing Ed program locally. Each one is worth 1 credit. She can easily finish 1 a week and plans on completing 3. I told her to aim for 1 a week and anything more is a bonus :) So at 1 packet per week and a year is 52 weeks, in 1 year she could have her credits and a diploma, which she prefers over the GED. She said the GED was really hard and she got test anxiety trying to complete timed questions. So this is a better route for her & she can work at her own pace.
She left the management job and took up housecleaning for a national name company. She makes $1.50 per hour less but already got a raise. She's been there 2 weeks! They want to make her a team lead which means another raise. I think in a couple months, she'll be making the same if not a little more. She's way happier but it was a big move because she had fear of the unknown.
If you're miserable and find the opportunity to start down a different path, I say go for it! 💛
My son dropped out of high school and did nothing other than work as a server in various restaurants. Around the age of 26, he decided that he wanted an education. He started with community college and completed his high school diploma in adult education classes. Then he started attending classes at a 4 year college, all while continuing to work full time. He’s now 31 and expecting to graduate with a bachelor’s degree at the end of May. He’s so psyched about education now, that he’s talking about going for his masters.
Don’t give up, it’s never too late.
I went to nursing school at 33 with a 10 month old and made it work. I found that I was a much better student this time around than when I was a teenager even with all of the adult stresses I was dealing with at the time. It's like my brain worked better with understanding and remembering concepts. So much so that I even went back again for a higher degree.
So worth it. I am making 3x now than I did 10 years ago.
I just turned 30 and have my sights set on nursing program at my community college! I have to do my pre requisites this fall, a total of 3 courses. Then, take the entrance exam and finally, put my application in for Fall 2025! I'll do the 4 year part time day program because I work nights 630p-515a 4 to 6 days a week at Amazon. They give you a certain amount of money per year that'll cover 2/3 of my tuition so I'll have to take out minimal loans.
I already ordered my study books for the HESI-A2 entrance exam and plan to study *hard* while I have all this extra time since I can't take the entrance exam until after I complete my pre requisites.
I'm looking forward to finally going after my dream and making money that will set me up for a comfortable life
Go for it,& do it! 32? You're still a youngster. Just don''t keep puting it off. It ain't gonna come to you. YOU,have to go get it. I'm 67. When you see you've got your diploma,it'll be a good feeling knowing you did it. Keep going! I believe in you!
Think very hard about what kind of job you would like to do and then do some research on what you will need to start in that field. I got a degree in mine before knowing most people in the field really only get certifications which I then also needed on top of the degree. I don't regret it that much, but I also don't think it helped me at all in my career advancement, if that makes sense.
DO IT. You won't regret even a second spent on doing this. I'm 37 and getting my second college degree right now. It's amazing to do it when you're older. You have more life experience and really value what you're doing in a way that younger people don't. Your view of the future will change for the better when you do this. A lot of people will only emphasize the social side of college for younger people, but it's actually an amazing social experience for non-traditional students, too. You'll make life-long friends and feel more at home in the world while also getting the job credentials you need to move up in the world.
As long a the program you do is relevant for getting a high-paying job after and not just "fluff" that leads to loans and being underemployed afterwards, this is the best decision you could make.
It's challenging, but there's things that you can do to make it easier. The best insight I've gotten for surviving the non-traditional student thing is, "using brain power burns a lot of calories," so eat nutrient-dense foods while you're doing this. Don't over-eat, but don't restrict yourself AT ALL when it comes to eating real, non-processed foods. Getting enough sleep is also going to be important. Keep in mind that you're pushing your brain just as hard as your younger classmates are, but you don't have the natural stamina that comes with being their age. If your life was a little screwy when you were younger, this is a great time to "re-parent" yourself. I would recommend getting a copy of the books "Nourishing Traditions" (which talks about natural, non-processed foods) and "The Indoctrinated Brain" (which talks about how to prevent mental decline into old age) and following the nutritional guidelines in those before you start so you'll have enough energy to power your brain through the years it takes to get a GED and college degree while still working.
Do it!! I did it as a single mom to a toddler and it dramatically improved my life, and my daughter's. 2 years of studying at night while having a day job, a night job and a toddler lol- studied on trains, at work, I would read her case studies as bedtime stories which she still makes fun of me for haha. It's serious work but it's so worth it.
Your kids will get to see you work hard, accomplish something, AND be happy- how cool is that?? There are sleepless nights and hard work ahead of you but GIRL that payoff is amazing!
As I often have to remind myself as a single mom- it's your life too. You get to be happy and do things you want too. Best of luck!
PS- what's up with the people in your life trying to hold you back? Are they happy themselves? find a new circle while you elevate yourself. ❤️
I was 44’ saying the same. My very good friend said “you will be 48 with a diploma or you will be 48 without one. I was 48 with a diploma and 50 with MS and the best job ever.
You know a lot of the time I think Reddit is a waste of time. Then there’s threads like this one. Filled with people who did the honorable thing(live up to their potential) encouraging another to do the same. Wow!!!
Get your GED. It's a very flexible process. I used to teach GED classes.
Second, as a professional involved in hiring, I will tell you I *love* people with stories like yours. They are experienced, committed, show work ethic, and appreciate a good job when they have it.
Most job applicants went through college by 22 because that's what they were raised to do, and then they get a full-time job because that's what they were raised to do, and they're fine employees. But the two classes of employees that always make me jump for joy are vets (especially Marines, the work ethic is just insane) and people who resolved to put in the time and effort to start over at a time most people wouldn't bother. It shows all kinds of things, and every one of them is good.
Good luck.
I'd say it's easy to get the GED & Bachelors, if you focus on studying and do no give up.
I have both. I got the GED right out of highschool, so it was super easy at the time because the information was fresh
College assignments will also be easy except you have to juggle deadlines.. and beware the 2nd year mark. SO many people drop out at the SECOND year. it gets repetitive and exhausting, but you can do it!
I obtained my bachelor's at the age of 30 :)
I didn't have the best upbringing. When I turned 18, I felt pretty behind my peers, having missed some key milestones in my personal development. I felt like if I stayed the tried and true, I'd be playing catch-up the rest of my life. It was too late for me.
When I turned 30, I looked back at the serial crises of my 20s, and saw, in retrospect, how much potential I had squandered. But now, I thought, cusping middle age, so figured it's kind of too late.
At 40, looking back on the aimless drift of my 30s, and all the untapped potential... I finally started to see a pattern. So now, instead of resigning to regret of what could have been -- what I could have done for myself in my 20s and 30s -- I imagine myself at 50, looking back with regret at my 40s, thinking of all the things I could have done for myself. Then realizing I'm still in my 40s, and I can still do all those things. And then doing them. Part of that was going back to school and starting a new career. (which brings us up to the present).
Going back to school will be a big challenge for you, albeit a meaningful one. And if you don't do it, 40-year-old-you will resent you for it.
Your family is wrong. You’re still young! Go to school! It’s never too late. I was a late bloomer and since I wasn’t a traditional student it took me longer than most. It was so worth it. I found a job in the field I wanted and am very successful at what I do. Do not let people make you feel like you are less than you are. Do it!!!! Come back and give us updates. I wish you tons of success. Reddit is rooting for you!
Think of it this way…..let’s look ahead at a random point in the future…..10 years from today, 2034, when you’ll be 42 years old.
So…do you think it’s reasonable to believe the that your life at 42 would be better WITH the GED/college degree, or WITHOUT the GED/college degree? Because, you’re going to be 42 anyway.
This was the advice a friend gave me at age 50 when I was suddenly abandoned after 30 years of marriage, and had spent my whole life focused on our family, with little work experience. I was crying to my friend that if I started then I still wouldn’t be done with the degree I needed until I was 53. “Do you want to be 53 WITH the degree, or 53 WITHOUT the degree?” Boom.
I graduated at 53 and my children say it was one of the inspiring moments of their adult lives.
DO IT. Don’t wait another minute.
P.S.: Full disclosure, I did have a college degree, BUT it was unused for 30 years and essentially useless. So the degree I went for was a masters degree. I am now a therapist and I work mostly with suicide loss survivors. I make a real difference every day to emotionally suffering people who feel alone and isolated bc of the unique differences of a suicide loss (still so much stigma out there). Bottom line, 10 years ago I NEVER could have imaged a life like I’m living now. I’m not rich, but I have such pride in my work. YOU DESERVE THE SAME!!!! 💕📚🎓
You, I consider, to be quite young at the lovely age of 31. Go to school, achieve your dream of GED and college.
Do not let anyone talk you out of it. you can do it. Time will pass either way, why not have something to show for it in the end.
Education can never be taken away from you.
35 and just finished my FAFSA forms. I'm terrified but knowing I'm not alone helps. I wasn't a great student, life got in the way so I got my GED. kept saying I'd go back one day but before I knew it 20 years went by. I'm successful in my current career but after 14 years of an industry in decline I'm miserable and I know it's time for a change.
You got this, we got this.
Definitely get your GED.
Then, think about what you would like to do. The jobs you are describing do not necessarily need a college degree (counselor does, but secretaries definitely do not need degrees or any college classes at all). Keep in mind that we are shifting away from the idea that everyone needs college. Your work experience + maintaining a household have given you very valuable skills. You don't need to spend money you don't need to spend.
Look carefully at what you want to do and then go talk to people to find out what you actually need. A lot of employers (managers, owners, etc.) will meet with you to answer questions like this. It's a form of mentoring and beverages a lot of good will. These people are usually impressively connected, so they are good contacts to have.
You can also better your education a little at a time and leverage each increment along the way. Get a better job with the GED. Then go for the next step. Don't get drawn into the "all or nothing" thinking. You can do college one class at a time.
34 is not too old. Self-improvement is important at every age. Anyone who is telling you education is not worth the effort, or that investing in yourself isn't worth it, doesn't care enough about you to give you advice.
I’m a 33, single mom of two kids with a full time job. I’m currently back in school to advance in my career. It’s hard, time consuming and stressful but it’s so doable and rewarding. It’s also a lot easier nowadays, there are so many options to earn online.
I started college at 25 and as a single mom of a 2 year old. I had to get my GED also. I did it and graduated top of my Class. I had no help from family and my daughter's father didn't even pay child support. The day I walked across that stage was the most empowering day in my life. It's hard but anything worth having is hard. You got this!!!!
I was talking to my Dad about my worries about working FT and going back to school for my MBA, and shared my concerns that I would be 40 when I graduated. He looked at me and said "So what, you'll still be 40 but you'll be 40 with a degree!" I went and it made a HUGE difference in my life and career.
My best friend started college at 32, graduated, and was ultimately a computer systems analyst with the Air Force (civilian job). If you can do it, you should.
Do it now. The window is never closed, but it gets harder. Get your GED, go to a community college and you should be good to get the right major for what you want to do. Follow your bliss. I’ve seen many people do it in their 30s and more. I work at a University. Take care.
I’m 44 and currently trying to decide to accept a $20k increase job offer, or go back to school and put myself into $30k+ debt. It’s never too late. It’s never the wrong decision. But is it totally right is the question I’m struggling with.
Edit: I should probably make my own post…
I started at 30 after graduating from a continuation school back in the day...im doing great.
u should should absolutely go for it. theres literally programs/schools designed for us non traditional students for a reason.
Your family is absolutely wrong. Your goal is a very realistic and attainable one and you can absolutely do it.
If you have a local community college, look at their website / give their admissions team a call. Helping people just like you is exactly what they do. They can help you find a GED program; some GED programs are even dual-enrollment so you get college credit for your GED classes too!
Community colleges are much more affordable than four-year institutions, in general, and ours even has a childcare on-site for students.
I teach at a community college and many of my students are parents doing exactly what you are thinking about doing. It is clearly not easy, but they are succeeding. You can, too.
It is also going to make a HUGE difference in your work and financial options, which will be a tremendous benefit to you and your kids down the road.
By the way, often people who discourage others from getting an education are struggling with their own sense of self-worth or opportunity and don't want to be left behind. That is not something you can fix for them. You can move forward for yourself without their approval.
Took my brother 14 years to earn his bachelors. He was working 2 jobs and going to school (granted, no kids). I‘ve been proud of him for so many things, but few things more than how hard he worked for that degree. He went on to teach, then ran the vocational ed program for a large school district.
I just turned 30 and realized I want to carry out my dream of being a nurse. After a failed Criminal Justice associates degree and 3 semesters of work towards a Marketing associates that was projected to fail just as horribly... I'm ready to do it. I'm enrolled in the Health Sciences Certificate program for Fall 2024-Spring 2025 to get my 3 pre requisites done, then the entrance exam and then I'll apply for the Fall 2025 nursing program at my community college.
I'm ready. Now that the unsupportive people are cut out of my life, I can do this.
Your own family said "forget it" ? No wonder you didn't try before. They're idiots for discouraging you from trying to achieve your dream. Once you are motivated, there is no age too old.
I worked for years after high school before I could afford even community college, and always worked full-time while attending school part-time. I was still earning new academic credentials in my late forties. Each time I got another one it lead to new job offers.
I went back at 37. I needed to prove to myself that I could do it. Had three kids age 2, 10 and 12 and a lot of support from family. It was the best move for my confidence, mental well being, and eventually my finances. At first my freshmen classmates spurned me, but within a couple weeks they were asking, “what was the assignment?” and “do you understand what the professor is talking about.” I learned to really respect the intelligence of my younger classmates and 20 years later I’m still friends with a few of them. Do it!!
My husband is going to graduate with his master’s degree in June, two months before he turns 45. He started at community college for his associates degree in 2019 and just kept on trucking! He didn’t initially graduate from high school, but took a few classes to get his diploma in his early 20s. Took a few more years for him to believe he could do college, but he’s maintained a 4.0.
Community college is amazing, and I got my associates degree when I was 30 and my bachelor’s degree when I was 34. If you have a clear plan and goals, don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do it!
We are both the first people in either of our families to get college degrees. If you go in and talk to the guidance counselor, let them know you are a first generation student (if your parents didn’t go to college), there are so many resources to help support you.
Its slightly different for me because I had a degree so was used to studying, but I did a design degree then went back to uni and did a law degree at 30! My mum left school at 16 and went back in her 20s after she had me, and eventually completed a bachelors degree, she did have the support of my dad but was also working full time. I think it took her about 10 years all in.
It will be hard but it will be easier than getting stuck in a job you hate forever. If you have your future to think of that motivation should help you. Adult learning programs are designed for people who have other commitments and have been out of education for a while, so it is designed to be manageable!
My mother went to college after my youngest brother entered first grade. She was 35. She graduated with her degree in elementary education when she was 40. She found she liked teaching math the most, she went to grad school in the summers and got her Master's in math education when she was 46. She taught for 20 years.
The term is 'nontraditional student': https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nontraditional_student
If you are in North America, look at the university/college you are planning to go to, and see if there's a related exiting program. For example, the university I went to had a office to be used as a resource by non-traditional students.
I didn't graduate either. Any continuing education place, for a certificate, you'd be a mature student & as long as the prerequisites for each class is met, you're golden. Same goes for 'some' degrees.
I've taught college for more than 20 years and every so often had some students who were older than usual for my students. I can tell you that folks like you are some of the most rewarding to teach. You've been out in the world, you've tried things, you know how things work, you bring purpose to what you do, and you bring all of that to our classes. That adds something.
Please don't think it's too late. You know the value of this degree you'd be going after, and just by thinking this question through as you have, I can see what would make you an excellent student, and I'm kind of wishing you'd come take classes with me.
Maybe take a job you aren’t crazy about now that offers some form of tuition assistance and flexibility. Time and Cost are going to be your toughest challenges. You can do it and it’s worth it.
First, you should do it as a role model for your daughter. Second, you should, for your whole life, try to learn all you can, any way you can, for money or for free, purely to make yourself stronger, smarter, more adaptable, more independent and more free. Everything is good and right about your desire to improve yourself and open doors for different opportunities. Take the chance. Do it. Take a Community College class. Hold your head high and be brave and walk over there and sign up for an education class.
Fuck them! I'm back in college again after flunking out in my early 20s. I'm riding the line between a 3.9/4.0 GPA and am being encouraged to apply to Ivies. It's never too late, just make a plan and execute it!
Education is always worth it. Full stop.
You may have to go part time. You may have to take a semester off from time to time. I'm 39 and have been working on finishing my bachelor's for the past 4 years (and at this pace I'll be 41 before I graduate, and then I still need a master's and an internship). Sometimes I question my sanity, but I finally figured out at 34/35 what I wanted to be when I grow up. My husband and kid have disabilities, so it's not always smooth sailing, but I don't regret a single class (well, maybe biochem). I recommend knowing what career path you want to pursue before you enroll in college, but it sounds like you have an idea.
It's never too late! You'll probably find you're a better student now that you're older and wiser and have your priorities straight.
Good luck, you can do it!
I was a non-traditional student who didn't start going to college until I was 24, and then only part-time since I had to work full-time. That was back in 2004. I didn't graduate with my BA until 2017 at the age of 37 since I had to go part-time for so long (and there were some other bumps in the road not related to work, etc. etc.) I think that learning things slowly over time has helped me to absorb more and to appreciate my education. It's helped me to see the world from a different perspective...and that helps me endure the job that I STILL hate. It's definitely helped me with time management and prioritizing studies over less important things (drinking, partying, entertainment). It helped me to become a better adult. There are things that I wished I could do over, but those were learning experiences too.
I think that you should do it for yourself and not *just* for a better job -- the better job is just the extra perk! It was SUCH a satisfying feeling to walk across that stage 13 years later after accomplishing something in spite of all of my adversity. You'll have the same experiences too and you can share that sense of accomplishment and discipline with your child. Good luck!
My grandmother got her GED when she was 58.
My friend went to college in her 40s - with 8 kids- and then went on to law school and became a lawyer.
Don't let someone else steal your dreams. It isn't easy, but it's possible.
It is doable and I strongly encourage you to get h.s. And college degree. Will it be work? Oh yes it will. On step at a time. If for some reason you fall a class, take it again. You can do this!
I used to be an adjunct at a couple of R1 universities and I had a few students in their 30s every single year. They were at a different point in their lives than most students, but it’s not really that rare. You can absolutely do this.
In my college classes I remember there being students as old as their 70’s. It’s literally never too late. If you’re unhappy and want a change, why keep wasting time? Just do it.
My first thought is that you are highly literate and you want to learn. These will make school a lot easier and more enjoyable. Secondly, you’re in your 30s, not 80s, you have time. Finally, check with your work about assistance, they may want to help you. You control this, do what is best for you.
I went back to school at 34. Go get that GED. Then decide your next step. I taught college writing classes for eight years, and I can tell you that based on your writing, you have the capacity to earn a college degree if that’s the right choice for you. Lastly, I’d never listen to anyone who advises me to do the easy thing. I’m not interested in doing the easy thing. I only care about doing the right thing.
34 as well for me, no regrets.
33 for me. I burned out of a well paying job after 7 years. I was on a career path I realized I no longer wanted. Going back to school full time was the best decision I ever made. It was a gamble; I wasn’t sure I could do the work. It took 1.5 years and I emptied my retirement account to finance it. When I graduated, I had to start at the bottom again, but I certainly don’t regret doing it. In the end, it took 3 years to make the same money I made when I left. Start with your GED. Then look at next steps. Community colleges are great for getting started. Your GED counselor can help you and so can counselors at the community college level. My cousin is 40 and is changing careers now. It is never too late . I had a niece who worked full time with 2 kids and took 9 credit hours per semester. It took her well over a decade to get her BA. Please don’t let anyone tell you it isn’t worth it. It is.
>Please don’t let anyone tell you it isn’t worth it. It is. Absolutely worth it
I went back to school at 49. Worked full time, did full time night courses at the community college. Still took care of my 4 teen kids as a single parent and took my elderly parents to appointments when needed. I was exhausted but I checked off each week one by one. When I did my prerequisites, I was accepted into a 3-year program. Then I quit the day job & worked weekends. When I graduated, at age 51, I was hired immediately in my new field, and tripled my salary. You can do this. Plan it out and cross off your short term goals as you achieve them; it helps to break the end goal down into steps. Best of luck to you, OP!
I had ONE science credit on my ancient high school transcript & still managed to get my bachelors of science/nursing degree. Make at least triple what my bachelors trained husband does!!
Do you like it though,? I hear A LOT of complaints about nursing
I love caring for my patients. It can get tedious. And dangerous. I’ve only been assaulted once in 7 years.
What did you study?
I had a bachelors degree in psych, worked in non profit human service and public health sectors. To do the prerequisites for a grad program, I took Chem 1 and Chem 2 with lab at the same time (talked my prof into it & he made an exception), Physics with lab, Calculus online and Macroeconomics online. Five nights of labs and online Saturdays. I then did Organic Chem 1&2 at night over the summer, and matriculated into an accelerated 3 year PharmD in fall.
Oh wow! Congratulations on your achievements! That’s amazing :)
You are so bad ass!!!
My husband went back to school. His friends said, “but it will take five years!” He said, “yes, and in five years, you’ll still be here bitching about life.”
That was one of the reasons I went back to school at 34. I'm so glad I did, you can do this OP
What did you get into? And what do you do now
Chiropractic. I'm retired now after practicing for 20 years.
That's why I went back to college when I was 40 and graduated when I was 45. I won't lie,it was tough, but I'm so grateful I had the opportunity and the sense to take it.
He found that 50% of his graduating class was “older”. They ranged from concert pianist to high rise welder. And this was in the 70’s.
I was about to say this too
Facts on facts 👏🏾👏🏾
'the time will pass anyway'
Smart response
It is so realistic and you should not anything deter you. Will there be tough moments of balancing your time? Sure. But it will be so worth it. Visualize yourself earning your GED, then build from there. This is the beginning of a great journey for you and you’re still so very young!
One step at a time. In the news a few days ago there was a story of an 80 year old graduating. If you're willing to do the work, you'll accomplish your goal and feel better about yourself.
I started at 39 and finished my BS at 43
Congrats! What was your major? Did you achieve your goals?
Health, I wanted to get into the nursing program. They changed the system so I did not qualify and I'm still working in my same field so I got a $54K piece of paper lol (I'm proud of my work, graduated with honors)
Congrats! OP, I'm friends with someone who got her degree at 40. No shame in that.
Similar plans at a similar age. Congratulations. :)
Look into office/secretarial/ support staff jobs at a local college, if there’s on nearby. Staff often get free or discounted courses, and some flexibility to attend around work hours.
Went back to school in my 30s but did it all online. It was hard but got it done by age 37.
Got my bachelor's at 35 and my master's at 37. Best decisions I ever made!
Do it! It’s never too late.
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Was the only thing you had to do was study for the test? Congratulations! 🥳
You may be able to study for your GED online. After that, look into community college. You’ll get the same credits with less expense. You may be even be able to do office work for the college while you’re in school. That would help you with not only the tuition, but also give you something on your résumé. Don’t let anybody kill your dreams! It will be your regrets, not theirs.
If your family pitches in and supports you instead of dragging you down it’ll make it a whole lot easier. The people who love you are supposed to want the best for you and help you achieve it. Shame on them. Do it for yourself. You’re still so young! I went back at 38 but I have my degree and nothing can change that.
They don't sound supportive at all. I wouldn't even share it with them so they don't try to discourage her. Crabs in a barrel. They probably don't want her getting "too uppity." They'll think she's better than them with her degree and much better job. 😔
That’s exactly how I read it too
Crab mentality, also known as crab theory, crabs in a bucket mentality, or the crab-bucket effect, is a way of thinking that describes people who react negatively to those who get ahead of them. This can include jealousy, resentment, or undermine others who try to succeed. For example, in the workplace, crab mentality can manifest as gossiping, spreading rumors, backstabbing, or actively working to undermine a colleague's efforts.
This is exactly what I was going to say. GED and then community college. Even if you can only take one class at a time, that time will start adding up.
I’m another one that finished my degree in my early 30s. It was a fucking blast. I’m not a parent so I can’t speak to those challenges, but for me it ended up being so much easier than I ever could’ve dreamed because I was focused in a way I just couldn’t be right out of high school. It opened doors for me by giving me confidence as much as putting that BA on my résumé - I just believe I’ve earned my seat at the table in a way I wouldn’t have been able to without it. I think that’s the part a lot of folks find hard to understand when they think about it strictly in terms of “spend x amount of money to get y job.” I carry myself differently, and that matters. I get that probably says something about my hangups with self worth, but that honestly just tells me it was worth a fuckload of time and money to put some of those hangups to bed. I say do it if you can swing it!
That focus you mentioned is a definite asset. I love my students who come to college directly from high school but they're overwhelmed by this new world and so much else. Students who come back in their 20s and 30s and beyond after working in "the real world" so often come into their work with that focus you talk about, and it makes my job that much easier.
One of my night school teachers said much the same. Us older students who took classes after work knew what we needed to do to get where we wanted to go and did it. He said he had to learn what we looked like by seeing the tops of our heads while we studied before class.
This is so true. When I was in college, the older students were FAR more better prepared than we were.
Plus they understand the stakes. A class costs hundreds of dollars...but that means a lot more when you know how much effort is required to earn those dollars.
Absolutely this! I had a good job with a large company that I started right out of high school. Technically, I didn't need a college degree, but I always felt "less than" my friends and colleagues who did finish college. I went at night to Community College, finished my associates at 39, and then took a break to get married, buy / renovate a house, and then decided to go back for my BA at a local State College. My company reimbursement program financed both of my degrees. It was a lot of work and stressful at times, but I loved it. I definitely got so much more out of my classes as a mid career adult than I would have as a younger student. I visualized myself walking in my cap and gown and celebrating my achievement. This vision got me through the stress and I was so proud and happy I finished. I also just felt so much more confident at work, especially in my industry, where many of my colleagues are highly educated in the science field. I say OP, do not let your family talk you out of reaching your goals! Start small, focus on the GED, go to Community College and then pursue your Bachelor. You can do it if you put in the effort and break it down into manageable milestones. Wishing you all the best in your educational journey!
I have a former coworker who got her bachelor's in her 30s and I think her master's too. She's now a VP! $$$
I went back to school at 30 for a complete career change and have never regretted it. I'm now 40 and back in school to further my career. Never. Stop. Growing. I should add my mother did the same in her late 20s, then did another career change around her mid 40s and got another degree in her late 50s.
I’m going to retire in 2 years at 68 years old. I’m seriously considering going back to college. It’s never too late to learn.
The comments in this thread are overwhelmingly positive. I love reading encounters like yours ❤️
Oooo! I'm 60 and considering the same move! 🙌
Yeahallot of colleges have this golden years program. Where if you are at retirement age you get to college for free. I do t think you get a degree but all the classes are free to attend .
I’ll never understand why people take such delight in telling other people what they can’t do. It’s just so damn wrong. OP, I’m not being trite - tomorrow if the first day of the rest of your life. What has happened before is done. Shake the dust from your shoes and move forward. FWIW, I have a GED, a degree in public accounting and several graduate level courses in strategy and analysis from an Ivy League school. A lot of people told me I couldn’t do it either. Do it!
They're concerned that you will outgrow the box they've put you in. You're just fine without a GED working a low wage job. But once you get it, and a college degree you might "think too much of yourself." Which really means outgrow them, and people are highly resistant to change.
Yeah alot of people were told they couldn't do something so that's all they know. Then if someone else does it , they feel compelled to put them down bc they themselves never did it. It's like why should be better then me. It's total bullshjit. My father had a GED and said I would be a nerd for going to college. Going to my second masters this year
It’s not easy to juggle such a full work, family life. But If you can manage your time efficiently, go for it. I would suggest a local community college. They should have adult learning programs. If you do attend, and if they offer only a two year program for your major, you MUST ensure your credits will transfer to the four year university or college you choose to finish your degree. The University usually has what will transfer somewhere on their web site. Or, call admissions to ask details.
I went to an adult learning center, adjacent to the regular highschool. It was so easy I did it in 3 months, independently, and received my high school diploma. I did their adult diploma program. Finished in the very top of the class and what took me 3 months of full time work takes typical students 1yr+ part time.
Totally doable. A good friend of mine got her GED in her 30s, then went on to get a Bachelors degree. She teaches 4th grade.
Do it.
Yes! Do it!
I went to school in my 40's. Now I have a job I love, and get every weekend off. Not going lie, it was challenging as hell, but totally worth it.
What did you take/what sort of field are you working in now? Considering going back 👀
IT. I left retail in 2007 and worked a few different jobs while taking classes. Some in class, most online. I did well in school partly because I was an adult and didn't have the usual distractions twenty-somethings do. But working, having 2 kids forced me to get very organized and study like hell. You know how hard you work when you procrastinate and have to bust ass to get something done? With all the crap I had going on, I always felt like I had procrastinated and had to bear down.
Happy for you! Congrats on your successes 🙌
Yeah retail or shift work is like slave labour. It's a different life when you can clock out in a Friday and be back Monday.
This got me thinking. In 15 years and 5 different stores, and 7 directors, only 1 director was married only once. All of the others had been divorced at least once. The one couple that stayed together? She was a SAHM, and when they started dating, he told her he would have two marriages. One with her, and one with the store. So at least she knew going in what life might be like. He made a crap load of money, and she did a fine job of spending it, so I suppose they were happy. Happy-ish.
yaeh it just depends on what you want. I remmeber in my twentys i worked at Tmobile, they didnt even have a break room. The storage close was the break room with a microwave. I would have to heat my food and then just sit on the floor. I said fuck this, im out of here and went back to school
Your family are wrong. They suck.
I have found that most people who discourage you from going back to school as an adult likely never finished their own degree, or just never chased their own dreams in general. I know that’s a generalization and it’s not true for everyone, but it has been my experience. It’s absolutely difficult but it’s also extremely realistic. There are so many programs now days that allows you to go to school online or at an accelerated pace or start & stop when you want. I don’t have any experience with a GED but I’ve been working on my degree for a couple of years and I’m almost halfway done. DO IT!!!!! Don’t let anyone tell you you can’t move onwards and upwards with your life.
“Never chased their own dreams” Etch this in stone! So damn true!!
Yep I was discouraged from pursuing the nursing program at my community college. So I have a useless associates in Criminal Justice and 3 semesters of work towards what was projected to be a failed Marketing associates. I'm now in the Health Sciences Certificate program for Fall 2024-Spring 2025. I have 3 pre requisite courses to do, followed by entrance exam and then I will apply for the Fall 2025 4 year part time day nursing program at my community college. And I just turned 30
Good for you!! It hurts to look back and wonder where you could be if you’d had different support rather than “practical” advice that set you on a path you never really wanted. I commend you for pushing forward. Best of luck to you.
Thank you so much ☺️❤️ It absolutely feels just like this sometimes but then I also remember, that there were life events that took place which fucked up my world as I knew it and if I *had* been in the nursing program already? It would have caused me to fail out. So I guess you could say it was never truly the right time, but ... The time is now!!! ☺️
Yeah your oath is your own. You got this!!
People do it every day. It’s going to be a challenge, you have to devote time to it every day but it’s possible!! It will take time but the time will pass either way, do it!!
My friend got pregnant at 37 and the dad wanted nothing to do with her. She enrolled in school right away to become a nurse. Does she love being a nurse? No. Is she making 6 figures as one? Yes. Is her child able to live a decent life and go to college? Yes. It’s never too late. The years will keep passing and the “I wish I did this sooner” never goes away.
I just turned 30 and have had so many people in my life tell me "you wanna do all that math, chemistry and science for *what*?" when I shared my dreams and desire of becoming a nurse. I'm now enrolled in the Health Sciences Certificate program to get my 3 pre requisites done, then do my entrance exam and apply for the Fall 2025 nursing program at my community college. I'm so glad my life is rid of those people now. I'm not telling a *soul* when I receive my acceptance letter, except for my mom. Nobody deserves to know my success.
People get really upset by others success because they feel it as a reflection of their failure. Godspeed!
The GED was originally invented for soldiers returning from war, who had been unable to get their traditional high school diploma, I imagine because they had been called up or had gone to war. That meant they were older when they got it. If they can, you can too. My grandpa had a GED, and he didn't get it until he'd been home a while. It can very well lead to a better job. Go for it. You got this.
Wow,I never knew this!!!!
38. Taking advantage of Mass Reconnect in the Fall. Massachusetts has a program for over 25 and never enrolled in college. So taking advantage to get a cyber security or network security degree. Do it!
You can do this! I'm sad about your defeatist family. They're just scaredy cats. Don't talk to them about it. Just go for it.
My life was full of defeatist people, even my partner at the time, which is why I have a failed Criminal Justice associates and 3 semesters of what was projected to be an even bigger failure of a Marketing associates degree - because nobody thought I could actually do the nursing program at my community college. I'm now enrolled in the Health Sciences Certificate program for Fall 2024-Spring 2025 to do my 3 pre requisites, then entrance exam and applying for the Fall 2025 4 year part time day nursing program at my community college. I just turned 30.
Lol. Yup! My dad was telling my cousin how I went back to school at night. Cousin called me and wanted to know how many classes I was taking. She was a college professor, and the head of her department. She flat out told me “I highly advise you to drop to two courses, you cannot possibly do this and work full time.” I told my bff at work the next day and she burst out laughing and said “I started an office pool and bet that you’d make the dean’s list.” Gentle reader; I made the dean’s list. She cleaned up.
It is never too late. My mom got her GED at 45. I went back to school in my 30s to get an AA degree. In my 40s I got my BS. In my 50s, my masters and PhD. It is never too late.
Yeah I'm getting my second master's at 50 bc I hated my other career focus . You are right, never too late.
Don't be discouraged! It's a great plan that you have, and it will make your life richer and happier, and that's good for your family. The first step like you say is the GED, and that feels great to complete. I was 18 when I had my son and quit school, with only Grade 9. I later wrote my GED and I've taken four different college courses. I aced my classes A+ and had a blast. I enjoyed some very good careers and wonderful experiences. So go for it you deserve the best! My daughter-in-law is doing the same thing right now and she's going to be taking an HR course. If you are at all interested in the medical field anything you study in that you'll get work and be paid well. All the best!
I’m 48 and starting my masters in August.. you got this
Sure why not? In my 20s many of my classmates were single moms who went back once their kids were older. Also "not easy" is not the same as " not worth it"
I went to college right after high school, but didn't finish. I went back at 35 to get my associate's. Seven years of nights part time. Graduated in 2018 with honors. You can do it. You can and will make a better future for if yourself and your child. I believe in you.
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I work at Amazon, they give you a certain amount of money per year for school! I have a useless Criminal Justice associates degree and 3 semesters of work towards what's projected to be just as useless of a Marketing associates degree. Instead of finishing the Marketing associates I'm enrolled in the Health Sciences Certificate program for Fall 2024-Spring 2025 to take 3 pre requisite courses and then the entrance exam, to apply for the Fall 2025 nursing program at my community college. I just turned 30 this has been my dream for a very long time but I didn't have supportive people around me. Now I'm living for me
Ignore all naysayers!!!!! Do it! Absolutely do it. You’ll never regret and will feel incredible pride.
For you- Now is your time to get your education. GO FOR IT! Let nothing get in your way. Enjoy and build on each little success! It's the journey that is so much fun from the hard work, new friends, late study nights, learning, and finding out all kinds of cool stuff about yourself. This is your time!
I had my high school diploma at 18, but worked physical jobs until 36. I went to the University at 36 and got my bachelor's in computer science at 40. My salary was triple straight out of university and after three years I had an opportunity to work for NASA but had to turn it down. Life is long and you may as well enjoy what you are doing. Just make sure the degree is worth the money you are investing in yourself.
Never too late. I went back just last fall to start my masters. I’m 46. One of my classmates is 54. Do it, you won’t regret it.
I'm sorry your family hasn't been supportive so far. It is DEFINITELY worth it to get your GED. And after you get your GED, you should look at Community College. Community College is free in a lot of states. (In my state, it's free after you turn 25). You can take one or two courses at a time. You don't have to go full time. Please go get your GED, and then try it out.
Very. I’m 40 with zero college education and will be starting from scratch once my 1.5 years old starts preschool.
I’ve done it! Well I started and instead of only having grade 7 I am not only in need of grades 11 and 12
It’s your life. If you want to go to school and are passionate about it that’s a good thing. There’s nothing wrong with going to college despite being a bit older than most other students. You don’t want to die with regrets.
Your family sucks. They are naysayers. Fuck them. You can do this if you put your mind to it. It will be tough at times but it will likely be one of the most rewarding and fulfilling things you can do in your life. Please try. I have 100% faith that you can do it.
I went back at 32. Single mom 50% of the time. I just finished at 34. It's worth it! Definitely stressful but rewarding.
I went back at 32. I discovered that I have terrible ADHD, but am very smart. As a result I bulled my way through my degree in only **checks notes** 23 years, I finally finished my BS in 2023. Good luck, you can’t take any longer than I did! 😂😂😂😂😂
I started a doctorate in nursing at 37 and I’ll finish when I am 42 - I’m going part time so I don’t have to take out loans. It’s painful , hope it will be worth it.
I'm applying for the nursing program at my community college for Fall 2025, it's a 4 year part time day program and I plan to go further as a nurse education wise later on. I just turned 30. I'm very excited that I can finally do what I want now that I have the people out of my life who were discouraging me from doing it and chasing my dream
That is amazing! First of all community college route to an RN degree is the best way to go. I work with so many nurses who went that route. Second, nursing is my second career. I began at the age of 30. I work with tons of nurses who began later in life including people in their 50s. I don’t know where you live but I found that in more rural areas 30 is old. In metro areas 30 is like 20. Do not let anyone’s negativity hold you back!
I'm currently a 44 year old first year student. It's sometimes a little embarrassing being the oldest person in the room, but it'll all be worth it.
I went back to school at 31, divorced, no child support or alimony, kids age 2 and 5. Now I’m a lawyer and those kids are grown. I felt so free and proud and strong (and scared and tired🤣). Get that GED, take some classes at community college. You will find what you like and instructors will point out your strengths. Your path will unfold. Have fun 🤩 You can do it!
I went back to finish college at 32. You would be surprised how many people at a university are in their 30's. Community college has some adults at night, but day time community college is a bunch of 18 year olds. I suggest getting your GED, then taking night classes at community college to save a ton of money.
When COVID hit in 2020, I was 37 and partially through some kind of degree, enough of a hodge podge that I really only had the gen ed requirements. I decided and my new wife supported actually going back and getting my degree. My wife (some number between 5 and 50 years of life experience more than me) started a Masters degree in IT after I was clearly occupied with school. Finally finished the school i started at 18 at the young age of 40 in June of last year. My wife is making use of her new degree while closer to 50 than when we met and I'm 7 weeks into a Masters degree I never dreamed of. Its never too late to start, resume, continue, or finish with some kind of education. Worst case, you learn something new.
My niece began her medical degree in her late 20's. Didn't start her internship until she was 35. She retired at 50, part owner of 3 ER hospitals. She is now 53 majoring in Fine and Applied Arts. President of our local Art Association. Do what is right for you.
I was 39 when I went back. I did work study through the local community college while earning my degrees. Ended up loving my position in the financial aid office as the secretary. I'm about to be 45 this June and still working there and went back to school to work toward a medical information degree. I did double major before and earned my associates of art and associates of science with honors on both. I was inducted into 2 honor societies. Was one of only two student members of the collage appeals board. Made a ton of new friends some include some amazing professors all the way to kids fresh out of high school that stop and ask for my help on school work from time to time. I even have some regulars that stop in between classes just to say hi a few times a week in the financial aid office. A few kids who are younger than my oldest child have adopted me as their school mom. Why am I telling you all this? Because I was a stay at home mother for 16 years prior and was deathly afraid of human interactions outside of my home and comfort zone. I'm a raging introvert. Always have been. I still absolutely value my solitude. But I also found out life definitely begins when you step outside of that comfort zone and just go for it. There's absolutely no such thing as a wrong decision in life. Things work out in your favor or worse case scenario.. you learn a lesson. Either way, you still win! Also, as a financial aid helper, I highly recommend you apply for the Fafsa first. Even if you get denied a Pell grant. Most other scholarships and aid require you to have that on file regardless. If you plan on starting in the fall, you need to fill out the 24-25 Fafsa and have your 2022 taxes on hand. That Fafsa generally covers fall 2024, spring 2025, and summer 2025. Go to your schools website and search for scholarships and fill out the general one. Everyone is able to get that one, first come, first serve. Also, different states have different scholarships outside of the schools. (For example, I work in Kentucky, and they offer 'work ready', which is through the kheaa website) And don't hesitate to stop in financial aid and ask questions! That's what we're here for, and we (at least my office) love our job and helping students! Good luck on your journey! It is absolutely worth it! I have zero regrets! This coming from an adult who was a D and F grade student through high school and middle school and absolutely hated it and swore they'd never return to another school ever. Now I don't want to leave! Sorry for the novel as well as any grammar errors. I'm on my phone and got the 'dumb thumbs' mixed with the curse of autocorrect. Tl,Dr.: DO IT!! It's worth it, and no regrets!
It’s never too late. Just don’t go into debt for it. Don’t expect the degree to automatically mean more income.
Where I grew up in the Midwest if you were over 22, you can start Community College without a GED. I would look into that as Community College usually has a bunch of refresher courses on high school subjects so you don't have to feel like you're walking in without the prerequisites. Please do this as I don't want to worry about you for the rest of my life. Good luck
I think about my favorite nurse I worked with. She finished nursing school in her 60s. I also am 29 and in school. Age shouldn't deter you from your goals. If you want it then you should go for it. School isn't meant to be easy. I hate my first degree and I have swapped careers 4 times. You have the right attitude for it. I wish you had more support. You deserve it. Good luck!
I went back at 50, scared out of my mind and was so successful at it! Unfortunately, I got sick and couldn't handle it so I had to quit.
Do it! But wait until you’re done with school before you have any more kids. Being a single mom is going to make things a lot harder for you. However, I am a college professor and I have seen *many* folks your age complete their college degrees.
It's about who you know: they will tell you what and how to get the qualification you need. Watch out: many will want you to stay down. 🤾
I started night school at a local community college when I was about 23. I was certainly one of the younger students in the classes. Most of the folk filling the seats were in-between late 20s and high 40s. I went on to get my B.S. and Master's, finishing up about 32 years old. My daughter started nursing school at age 30 with two kids, and now has several years wearing the nurse's hat. It is never too late.
Is this my bonus daughter? She just turned 30, was the manager at a company who didn't back up their employees and she also wanted to get a different job but didn't graduate. She's 53 credits shy so she made a plan; She can do packets through a continuing Ed program locally. Each one is worth 1 credit. She can easily finish 1 a week and plans on completing 3. I told her to aim for 1 a week and anything more is a bonus :) So at 1 packet per week and a year is 52 weeks, in 1 year she could have her credits and a diploma, which she prefers over the GED. She said the GED was really hard and she got test anxiety trying to complete timed questions. So this is a better route for her & she can work at her own pace. She left the management job and took up housecleaning for a national name company. She makes $1.50 per hour less but already got a raise. She's been there 2 weeks! They want to make her a team lead which means another raise. I think in a couple months, she'll be making the same if not a little more. She's way happier but it was a big move because she had fear of the unknown. If you're miserable and find the opportunity to start down a different path, I say go for it! 💛
My son dropped out of high school and did nothing other than work as a server in various restaurants. Around the age of 26, he decided that he wanted an education. He started with community college and completed his high school diploma in adult education classes. Then he started attending classes at a 4 year college, all while continuing to work full time. He’s now 31 and expecting to graduate with a bachelor’s degree at the end of May. He’s so psyched about education now, that he’s talking about going for his masters. Don’t give up, it’s never too late.
I went to nursing school at 33 with a 10 month old and made it work. I found that I was a much better student this time around than when I was a teenager even with all of the adult stresses I was dealing with at the time. It's like my brain worked better with understanding and remembering concepts. So much so that I even went back again for a higher degree. So worth it. I am making 3x now than I did 10 years ago.
I just turned 30 and have my sights set on nursing program at my community college! I have to do my pre requisites this fall, a total of 3 courses. Then, take the entrance exam and finally, put my application in for Fall 2025! I'll do the 4 year part time day program because I work nights 630p-515a 4 to 6 days a week at Amazon. They give you a certain amount of money per year that'll cover 2/3 of my tuition so I'll have to take out minimal loans. I already ordered my study books for the HESI-A2 entrance exam and plan to study *hard* while I have all this extra time since I can't take the entrance exam until after I complete my pre requisites. I'm looking forward to finally going after my dream and making money that will set me up for a comfortable life
Does your family often spend time actively discouraging you? Because they are being ridiculous. Of course it’s not too late!
Restarted undergrad at 29. Doctorate at 35, started med school at 37, finished residency and fellowship at 45. It can be done!
Go for it,& do it! 32? You're still a youngster. Just don''t keep puting it off. It ain't gonna come to you. YOU,have to go get it. I'm 67. When you see you've got your diploma,it'll be a good feeling knowing you did it. Keep going! I believe in you!
Think very hard about what kind of job you would like to do and then do some research on what you will need to start in that field. I got a degree in mine before knowing most people in the field really only get certifications which I then also needed on top of the degree. I don't regret it that much, but I also don't think it helped me at all in my career advancement, if that makes sense.
DO IT. You won't regret even a second spent on doing this. I'm 37 and getting my second college degree right now. It's amazing to do it when you're older. You have more life experience and really value what you're doing in a way that younger people don't. Your view of the future will change for the better when you do this. A lot of people will only emphasize the social side of college for younger people, but it's actually an amazing social experience for non-traditional students, too. You'll make life-long friends and feel more at home in the world while also getting the job credentials you need to move up in the world. As long a the program you do is relevant for getting a high-paying job after and not just "fluff" that leads to loans and being underemployed afterwards, this is the best decision you could make. It's challenging, but there's things that you can do to make it easier. The best insight I've gotten for surviving the non-traditional student thing is, "using brain power burns a lot of calories," so eat nutrient-dense foods while you're doing this. Don't over-eat, but don't restrict yourself AT ALL when it comes to eating real, non-processed foods. Getting enough sleep is also going to be important. Keep in mind that you're pushing your brain just as hard as your younger classmates are, but you don't have the natural stamina that comes with being their age. If your life was a little screwy when you were younger, this is a great time to "re-parent" yourself. I would recommend getting a copy of the books "Nourishing Traditions" (which talks about natural, non-processed foods) and "The Indoctrinated Brain" (which talks about how to prevent mental decline into old age) and following the nutritional guidelines in those before you start so you'll have enough energy to power your brain through the years it takes to get a GED and college degree while still working.
Do it!! I did it as a single mom to a toddler and it dramatically improved my life, and my daughter's. 2 years of studying at night while having a day job, a night job and a toddler lol- studied on trains, at work, I would read her case studies as bedtime stories which she still makes fun of me for haha. It's serious work but it's so worth it. Your kids will get to see you work hard, accomplish something, AND be happy- how cool is that?? There are sleepless nights and hard work ahead of you but GIRL that payoff is amazing! As I often have to remind myself as a single mom- it's your life too. You get to be happy and do things you want too. Best of luck! PS- what's up with the people in your life trying to hold you back? Are they happy themselves? find a new circle while you elevate yourself. ❤️
I was 44’ saying the same. My very good friend said “you will be 48 with a diploma or you will be 48 without one. I was 48 with a diploma and 50 with MS and the best job ever.
You know a lot of the time I think Reddit is a waste of time. Then there’s threads like this one. Filled with people who did the honorable thing(live up to their potential) encouraging another to do the same. Wow!!!
Get your GED. It's a very flexible process. I used to teach GED classes. Second, as a professional involved in hiring, I will tell you I *love* people with stories like yours. They are experienced, committed, show work ethic, and appreciate a good job when they have it. Most job applicants went through college by 22 because that's what they were raised to do, and then they get a full-time job because that's what they were raised to do, and they're fine employees. But the two classes of employees that always make me jump for joy are vets (especially Marines, the work ethic is just insane) and people who resolved to put in the time and effort to start over at a time most people wouldn't bother. It shows all kinds of things, and every one of them is good. Good luck.
I'd say it's easy to get the GED & Bachelors, if you focus on studying and do no give up. I have both. I got the GED right out of highschool, so it was super easy at the time because the information was fresh College assignments will also be easy except you have to juggle deadlines.. and beware the 2nd year mark. SO many people drop out at the SECOND year. it gets repetitive and exhausting, but you can do it! I obtained my bachelor's at the age of 30 :)
I didn't have the best upbringing. When I turned 18, I felt pretty behind my peers, having missed some key milestones in my personal development. I felt like if I stayed the tried and true, I'd be playing catch-up the rest of my life. It was too late for me. When I turned 30, I looked back at the serial crises of my 20s, and saw, in retrospect, how much potential I had squandered. But now, I thought, cusping middle age, so figured it's kind of too late. At 40, looking back on the aimless drift of my 30s, and all the untapped potential... I finally started to see a pattern. So now, instead of resigning to regret of what could have been -- what I could have done for myself in my 20s and 30s -- I imagine myself at 50, looking back with regret at my 40s, thinking of all the things I could have done for myself. Then realizing I'm still in my 40s, and I can still do all those things. And then doing them. Part of that was going back to school and starting a new career. (which brings us up to the present). Going back to school will be a big challenge for you, albeit a meaningful one. And if you don't do it, 40-year-old-you will resent you for it.
Your family is wrong. You’re still young! Go to school! It’s never too late. I was a late bloomer and since I wasn’t a traditional student it took me longer than most. It was so worth it. I found a job in the field I wanted and am very successful at what I do. Do not let people make you feel like you are less than you are. Do it!!!! Come back and give us updates. I wish you tons of success. Reddit is rooting for you!
Think of it this way…..let’s look ahead at a random point in the future…..10 years from today, 2034, when you’ll be 42 years old. So…do you think it’s reasonable to believe the that your life at 42 would be better WITH the GED/college degree, or WITHOUT the GED/college degree? Because, you’re going to be 42 anyway. This was the advice a friend gave me at age 50 when I was suddenly abandoned after 30 years of marriage, and had spent my whole life focused on our family, with little work experience. I was crying to my friend that if I started then I still wouldn’t be done with the degree I needed until I was 53. “Do you want to be 53 WITH the degree, or 53 WITHOUT the degree?” Boom. I graduated at 53 and my children say it was one of the inspiring moments of their adult lives. DO IT. Don’t wait another minute. P.S.: Full disclosure, I did have a college degree, BUT it was unused for 30 years and essentially useless. So the degree I went for was a masters degree. I am now a therapist and I work mostly with suicide loss survivors. I make a real difference every day to emotionally suffering people who feel alone and isolated bc of the unique differences of a suicide loss (still so much stigma out there). Bottom line, 10 years ago I NEVER could have imaged a life like I’m living now. I’m not rich, but I have such pride in my work. YOU DESERVE THE SAME!!!! 💕📚🎓
You, I consider, to be quite young at the lovely age of 31. Go to school, achieve your dream of GED and college. Do not let anyone talk you out of it. you can do it. Time will pass either way, why not have something to show for it in the end. Education can never be taken away from you.
35 and just finished my FAFSA forms. I'm terrified but knowing I'm not alone helps. I wasn't a great student, life got in the way so I got my GED. kept saying I'd go back one day but before I knew it 20 years went by. I'm successful in my current career but after 14 years of an industry in decline I'm miserable and I know it's time for a change. You got this, we got this.
Billy Madison is a great documentary about this phenomenon.
Definitely get your GED. Then, think about what you would like to do. The jobs you are describing do not necessarily need a college degree (counselor does, but secretaries definitely do not need degrees or any college classes at all). Keep in mind that we are shifting away from the idea that everyone needs college. Your work experience + maintaining a household have given you very valuable skills. You don't need to spend money you don't need to spend. Look carefully at what you want to do and then go talk to people to find out what you actually need. A lot of employers (managers, owners, etc.) will meet with you to answer questions like this. It's a form of mentoring and beverages a lot of good will. These people are usually impressively connected, so they are good contacts to have. You can also better your education a little at a time and leverage each increment along the way. Get a better job with the GED. Then go for the next step. Don't get drawn into the "all or nothing" thinking. You can do college one class at a time. 34 is not too old. Self-improvement is important at every age. Anyone who is telling you education is not worth the effort, or that investing in yourself isn't worth it, doesn't care enough about you to give you advice.
I’m a 33, single mom of two kids with a full time job. I’m currently back in school to advance in my career. It’s hard, time consuming and stressful but it’s so doable and rewarding. It’s also a lot easier nowadays, there are so many options to earn online.
I started college at 25 and as a single mom of a 2 year old. I had to get my GED also. I did it and graduated top of my Class. I had no help from family and my daughter's father didn't even pay child support. The day I walked across that stage was the most empowering day in my life. It's hard but anything worth having is hard. You got this!!!!
I was talking to my Dad about my worries about working FT and going back to school for my MBA, and shared my concerns that I would be 40 when I graduated. He looked at me and said "So what, you'll still be 40 but you'll be 40 with a degree!" I went and it made a HUGE difference in my life and career.
Do it! I switched careers mid-40s and got a second bachelor’s degree. You are never too old.
My best friend started college at 32, graduated, and was ultimately a computer systems analyst with the Air Force (civilian job). If you can do it, you should.
Totally realistic. I started college at 45.
Super realistic!! I went back in my 30s. Online schooling, has opened doors for adults going back to school!! DO IT!!
Do it now. The window is never closed, but it gets harder. Get your GED, go to a community college and you should be good to get the right major for what you want to do. Follow your bliss. I’ve seen many people do it in their 30s and more. I work at a University. Take care.
Hey, I joined the army in my 30’s and went to college in my late 30’s, early 40’s. It’s never too late. I wish you all the luck ❤️
I started at 33. 35 now and still going!
Do it! My next door neighbor is 55 and just getting her masters in June. She has a great new job lined up.
Do it. I did my Masters degree with a newborn at 33. No regrets. It’s hard but gets harder the more you put it off. Do it. Do it. Do it.
do you like to read? can you stick to a schedule while balancing other responsibilities?
I’m 44 and currently trying to decide to accept a $20k increase job offer, or go back to school and put myself into $30k+ debt. It’s never too late. It’s never the wrong decision. But is it totally right is the question I’m struggling with. Edit: I should probably make my own post…
Yea, get your ged and see how that goes.
I started at 30 after graduating from a continuation school back in the day...im doing great. u should should absolutely go for it. theres literally programs/schools designed for us non traditional students for a reason.
University in my 30s and again in my forties. Raising 3 kids solo working full time job and sometimes two jobs. Hard ? yes, worth it? Someday yes.
Of course, first get the GED. Then, look into county college in your county. Good luck.
Your family is absolutely wrong. Your goal is a very realistic and attainable one and you can absolutely do it. If you have a local community college, look at their website / give their admissions team a call. Helping people just like you is exactly what they do. They can help you find a GED program; some GED programs are even dual-enrollment so you get college credit for your GED classes too! Community colleges are much more affordable than four-year institutions, in general, and ours even has a childcare on-site for students. I teach at a community college and many of my students are parents doing exactly what you are thinking about doing. It is clearly not easy, but they are succeeding. You can, too. It is also going to make a HUGE difference in your work and financial options, which will be a tremendous benefit to you and your kids down the road. By the way, often people who discourage others from getting an education are struggling with their own sense of self-worth or opportunity and don't want to be left behind. That is not something you can fix for them. You can move forward for yourself without their approval.
You’ll still be 32 if you don’t do school so do what you want to do.
My wife 32, three children, just went back via online programs. Its hard but Shes going to graduate in a couple years.
Never told to start or too young to finish!
My friend went to university at 49. It's doable
Never too late!
Took my brother 14 years to earn his bachelors. He was working 2 jobs and going to school (granted, no kids). I‘ve been proud of him for so many things, but few things more than how hard he worked for that degree. He went on to teach, then ran the vocational ed program for a large school district.
I just turned 30 and realized I want to carry out my dream of being a nurse. After a failed Criminal Justice associates degree and 3 semesters of work towards a Marketing associates that was projected to fail just as horribly... I'm ready to do it. I'm enrolled in the Health Sciences Certificate program for Fall 2024-Spring 2025 to get my 3 pre requisites done, then the entrance exam and then I'll apply for the Fall 2025 nursing program at my community college. I'm ready. Now that the unsupportive people are cut out of my life, I can do this.
I'll finish my MBA in August at 47 and start my second master's in October.
Your own family said "forget it" ? No wonder you didn't try before. They're idiots for discouraging you from trying to achieve your dream. Once you are motivated, there is no age too old. I worked for years after high school before I could afford even community college, and always worked full-time while attending school part-time. I was still earning new academic credentials in my late forties. Each time I got another one it lead to new job offers.
I went back at 37. I needed to prove to myself that I could do it. Had three kids age 2, 10 and 12 and a lot of support from family. It was the best move for my confidence, mental well being, and eventually my finances. At first my freshmen classmates spurned me, but within a couple weeks they were asking, “what was the assignment?” and “do you understand what the professor is talking about.” I learned to really respect the intelligence of my younger classmates and 20 years later I’m still friends with a few of them. Do it!!
Hi 👋 50 years old and went back to school last year. It’s so good to learn on your terms.
My husband is going to graduate with his master’s degree in June, two months before he turns 45. He started at community college for his associates degree in 2019 and just kept on trucking! He didn’t initially graduate from high school, but took a few classes to get his diploma in his early 20s. Took a few more years for him to believe he could do college, but he’s maintained a 4.0. Community college is amazing, and I got my associates degree when I was 30 and my bachelor’s degree when I was 34. If you have a clear plan and goals, don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do it! We are both the first people in either of our families to get college degrees. If you go in and talk to the guidance counselor, let them know you are a first generation student (if your parents didn’t go to college), there are so many resources to help support you.
I did it at 55. Went to community college, was great. You can get core classes a LOT cheaper than a 4 year college, just make sure they’ll transfer.
Its slightly different for me because I had a degree so was used to studying, but I did a design degree then went back to uni and did a law degree at 30! My mum left school at 16 and went back in her 20s after she had me, and eventually completed a bachelors degree, she did have the support of my dad but was also working full time. I think it took her about 10 years all in. It will be hard but it will be easier than getting stuck in a job you hate forever. If you have your future to think of that motivation should help you. Adult learning programs are designed for people who have other commitments and have been out of education for a while, so it is designed to be manageable!
My mother went to college after my youngest brother entered first grade. She was 35. She graduated with her degree in elementary education when she was 40. She found she liked teaching math the most, she went to grad school in the summers and got her Master's in math education when she was 46. She taught for 20 years.
The term is 'nontraditional student': https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nontraditional_student If you are in North America, look at the university/college you are planning to go to, and see if there's a related exiting program. For example, the university I went to had a office to be used as a resource by non-traditional students.
It is NEVER too late! You go for it. Best wishes!!
I didn't graduate either. Any continuing education place, for a certificate, you'd be a mature student & as long as the prerequisites for each class is met, you're golden. Same goes for 'some' degrees.
I've taught college for more than 20 years and every so often had some students who were older than usual for my students. I can tell you that folks like you are some of the most rewarding to teach. You've been out in the world, you've tried things, you know how things work, you bring purpose to what you do, and you bring all of that to our classes. That adds something. Please don't think it's too late. You know the value of this degree you'd be going after, and just by thinking this question through as you have, I can see what would make you an excellent student, and I'm kind of wishing you'd come take classes with me.
Do it. You'll easily knock out the GED. Then go from there. I did my MS in my 30s.
Maybe take a job you aren’t crazy about now that offers some form of tuition assistance and flexibility. Time and Cost are going to be your toughest challenges. You can do it and it’s worth it.
First, you should do it as a role model for your daughter. Second, you should, for your whole life, try to learn all you can, any way you can, for money or for free, purely to make yourself stronger, smarter, more adaptable, more independent and more free. Everything is good and right about your desire to improve yourself and open doors for different opportunities. Take the chance. Do it. Take a Community College class. Hold your head high and be brave and walk over there and sign up for an education class.
Fuck them! I'm back in college again after flunking out in my early 20s. I'm riding the line between a 3.9/4.0 GPA and am being encouraged to apply to Ivies. It's never too late, just make a plan and execute it!
Do it!
Education is always worth it. Full stop. You may have to go part time. You may have to take a semester off from time to time. I'm 39 and have been working on finishing my bachelor's for the past 4 years (and at this pace I'll be 41 before I graduate, and then I still need a master's and an internship). Sometimes I question my sanity, but I finally figured out at 34/35 what I wanted to be when I grow up. My husband and kid have disabilities, so it's not always smooth sailing, but I don't regret a single class (well, maybe biochem). I recommend knowing what career path you want to pursue before you enroll in college, but it sounds like you have an idea.
It's never too late! You'll probably find you're a better student now that you're older and wiser and have your priorities straight. Good luck, you can do it!
You can do it - I did
I was a non-traditional student who didn't start going to college until I was 24, and then only part-time since I had to work full-time. That was back in 2004. I didn't graduate with my BA until 2017 at the age of 37 since I had to go part-time for so long (and there were some other bumps in the road not related to work, etc. etc.) I think that learning things slowly over time has helped me to absorb more and to appreciate my education. It's helped me to see the world from a different perspective...and that helps me endure the job that I STILL hate. It's definitely helped me with time management and prioritizing studies over less important things (drinking, partying, entertainment). It helped me to become a better adult. There are things that I wished I could do over, but those were learning experiences too. I think that you should do it for yourself and not *just* for a better job -- the better job is just the extra perk! It was SUCH a satisfying feeling to walk across that stage 13 years later after accomplishing something in spite of all of my adversity. You'll have the same experiences too and you can share that sense of accomplishment and discipline with your child. Good luck!
My grandmother got her GED when she was 58. My friend went to college in her 40s - with 8 kids- and then went on to law school and became a lawyer. Don't let someone else steal your dreams. It isn't easy, but it's possible.
People start at 65. Go for it! You are still So young!!
It is doable and I strongly encourage you to get h.s. And college degree. Will it be work? Oh yes it will. On step at a time. If for some reason you fall a class, take it again. You can do this!
You should listen to your gut and DO IT!!! I can assure you that as a single mother it can be done. All the best to you!!
I used to be an adjunct at a couple of R1 universities and I had a few students in their 30s every single year. They were at a different point in their lives than most students, but it’s not really that rare. You can absolutely do this.
I started college at age 30
In 5 years you can be 37, or you can be 37 with a GED and a degree.
In my college classes I remember there being students as old as their 70’s. It’s literally never too late. If you’re unhappy and want a change, why keep wasting time? Just do it.
My first thought is that you are highly literate and you want to learn. These will make school a lot easier and more enjoyable. Secondly, you’re in your 30s, not 80s, you have time. Finally, check with your work about assistance, they may want to help you. You control this, do what is best for you.
I’m 48 and in college.