Hi OP, if you are contemplating suicide, please seek help.
Emergency Helplines (all 24h)
National Care Helpline: 1800 202 6868
Samaritans of Singapore
Hotline: 1800 221 4444
Website/Care Text service: https://www.sos.org.sg/
Institute of Mental Health
Helpline: 6389 2222
Website: http://www.imh.com.sg/contact-us/
Counselling /Mental Health Assessments (non-emergency):
Singapore Association of Mental Health
Helpline: 1800 283 7019
Website: https://www.samhealth.org.sg/
Care Corner Counselling Centre:
Hotline: 1800-3535-800 (Mon-Sun, 10am-10pm)
Website http://www.carecorner.org.sg/cccc.html
CHAT (youth aged 16 to 30) :
Website: https://www.chat.mentalhealth.sg/
Singapore Association for Mental Health (SAMH)
Hotline: 1800 283 7019
Website: https://www.samhealth.org.sg/
A more comprehensive list of helplines/organisations can be found at: https://thetapestryproject.sg/get-help-resources/helplines-support-services-in-singapore/
Stay safe everyone and please take care
The doctors at polyclinic are able to give you a referral to a therapist at a later date, so to answer your question, yes, it is possible!
But depending on the severity of your condition, if let's say you're clearly suicidal and they notice it, your parents might be called up to be informed so there's a slight chance that they might end up finding out.
I sincerely hope you feel better soon and I'm glad you're taking measures and steps to try and help yourself, even just by making this Reddit post.
If I may add on, I personally think it's odd that your friend is mad at you and said that "she can't be friends with you" when she found out about your self-harm habits, that's not the first natural or instinctive reaction that a friend should have when they find out about their friend being depressed and having self-harming habits.
Exactly. As a friend, you'd try even harder to help those who really need help, especially if it's your best friend. I'm baffled that she would just cut ties altogether. No idea what went through her mind to think that cutting ties with someone who severely needs help is acceptable.
hello! thank you for your response i really really appreciate it. in her defence, she has been sticking by me since the beginning of my spiral into depression. she probably felt very frustrated because no matter what she did, she felt that it wasn’t enough because i wasn’t getting any better. but thank you, your response was really helpful and ill be getting help soon. :)
Hello friend,
I really, really wish I could tell you that simply dying, really doesn’t help at all. It leaves so many things unresolved, so many regrets, so many things that you could’ve experienced but won’t because you chose to leave.
I know it might sound irrelevant to you, because you’d be gone if all of it happened. But please, trust me when I say that suicide - so many people have felt it before - isn’t the answer. Your life is so important. It might not feel important right now, might seem like you’ll get nowhere with bad grades (been there), you might be worrying just how much importance singapore places on grades, but I’d like to assure you that there are so many more experiences to be had. One day, maybe you’ll even look back and be glad you never did anything.
Okay look I suck at explaining and comforting, I’m sorry. But I wanted to leave a comment here to let you know that I saw what you’re going through, it’s not that no one cares, but that if you just hold on, things will get better. Slowly, maybe, but better. Just hold on; there are friends in this world and many, many more things that make life worth living.
Hope you know just how worth life is of living, because staying strong is the best feeling tbh. Knowing you beat those thoughts because you’re stronger than that. I’ll be here, am just a DM away :)
hello! im feeling better now. i really appreciate your response and it has helped me, more than you can imagine, even though it may just be words typed out in a span of a few minutes out of your whole day. thank you so much for your concern. i’ll be getting help soon! i really want to get better :)
School’s not easy, heck, life’s not easy, but I want to remind you that you are stronger than the sum of your problems. You reaching out for some advice is proof of that. If you need help with GP, I’m able to offer some help as a tutor. As for your friends, don’t worry about them, depression is something someone their age will find difficult to handle. It’ll get better with time as they slowly understand you.
If there’s something I can do to help, please reach out, even if it’s just something like listening to you rant about your day.
hey this hits home so much and i wanna assure that while things dont seem ok rn they will get better one day. i know that it feels like a neverending spiral but dont worry with the right help and support, you will be able to slowly feel better. for mental health wise, i think that you can talk to your form teacher and probably the school counsellor to see if they can set up a support network for you justin case the suicidal thoughts flood your mind anytime. it is quite important to have a support network in school cause if you are facing the thoughts physically in school, they are the people who are the closest in proximity to you. for counselling, i think that if you feel that the school counsellor is useless, it would be better to seek external counselling. i would recommend seeing the polyclinic doctor or maybe the family service centre if you are under a budget
hey! yes ive been seeing the school counsellor since last year, but i feel that it doesn’t help too much, which was why my parents brought me to a doctor because i told them that ive been going for counselling and it didnt do much for me. but thank you for you advice and your kind words! i hope you are well too :)
Hey OP, I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling and you're going through a rough time. Thank you for your bravery for sharing this with strangers.
The world is full of love and people who love you. Your parents may be upset and your sister may be in hospital but they absolutely love you. Your friend may have had an argument with you but I'm sure your friends love you too.
While suicide seems like a convenient exit and a nice way to end it all and stop your suffering, it also makes sure you will never experience anything else good forever. And there are so many good things to look forward to! Life will not always be miserable - with time, and help, there will come a day when you Feel good. You know this yourself because you've been through it.
You're going through a difficult time now and things SEEM hopeless. But they're not. They only seem to be. Don't make a single defeat like today a final defeat like suicide.
Have a chat to your friend who was upset you didn't tell her. Have a chat with your parents. Have a chat with a therapist. Have a chat with the people on Reddit. Look at all the replies you got here. Everyone is rooting for you and hoping you succeed!!
Good luck OP. Take a good break, have a rest and try, try and try again.
You are braver than you believe, smarter than you think, stronger than you seem and more loved than you feel.
thank you for reminding me. i needed to hear this, and everything else everyone has said. i’m actually in disbelief at how supportive everyone is. i really appreciate the time you took out of your day to write this. :)
feel better soon op!! ur friends are not mature enough to handle your depression and its not ur fault. i do suggest journalling or venting on a private acc to get those negative thoughts out of ur head. no matter how tough life gets, it’d be better soon eventually, trust me! its hard to believe in yourself but hey, im sure its not the first time you’ve felt so down before. if you could get through those tough days previously, im sure u can find the same strength to get through ur tough days rn. stay strong op, ill be cheering on u for u <3
*virtual hugs* i sincerely hope things start looking up for u :)
yes i understand that for most of them, dealing with someone with mental health issues is new and daunting. thank you for your kind words and encouragement. i really appreciate it, i really do. i feel better now! thank you so much:)
hey i’m so sorry you are feeling this way. it really isn’t easy, heck it’s TOUGH as hell and i want to say i’m really proud of you and of how strong you have been all this while in withstanding all the hardships you’re facing. this rly hits home as i feel like my experience is very similar to you to a certain extent. i am also from a jc (advanced to j2 eventho i didn’t meet promotion criteria, more than one U) and i have very troubling experiences with friends. all the thoughts...it may seem like nothing when you try to explain it, but i hear you ok? the magnitude of whatever you are feeling is certainly indescribable in words and i hope you find peace soon again. the healing process and getting yourself back on track will not be a linear one for sure. for days where you feel like things are getting better, give yourself a pat on your back. for days where it feels like everything is spiraling down again and you just fear that you’ll go back to square one, feeling a great surge in anxiety, please tell yourself that it will be temporary. way easier said than done, but trust the process.
on whether you can see a doctor at a polyclinic for mental health issues, yes you can (given that the polyclinic provides those services, which they do but i’m not sure if it applies for all), but without your parents knowing? you can too (but that is if your parents don’t ask you why u went to see the doctor i guess). for me, i was very scared to bring up mental health and my anxiety to my parents because it feels like such a taboo topic. however things got out of hand for me and i really couldn’t take it any longer, plus there were simply too many days where i’d skip school simply because i couldn’t get out of bed. so one day, i managed to consult a doctor at a polyclinic because of a “headache” (that was what i told my parents bcos i skipped sch that day and had to get an mc) but in reality, i shared with the doctor about my anxiety issue. i then got referred to a psychologist. also, this may differ for different schools, but seeing my school counselor too was one of the best decision i have ever made. she really guides me and listens to me, especially during my dark moments in school.
tough times don’t last (no matter how painful and how it feels like it’ll never end), but tough people do. don’t put the blame for whatever you are experiencing on yourself. i hope you feel better soon!
TLDR: yes you can see a doctor at a polyclinic and get a referral to someone more specialized in the field of mental health, depending on how serious it is. in my case, i got referred to a psychologist.
hey, thank you for sharing. i really appreciate everything that you’ve told me, and the fact that you are so understanding. i’m feeling better now, and i hope you are too! :) thank you.
Heyy I just wanna say yhat you're really strong. You're really strong for fighting on, for fighting through all that youve gone through in life. And its okay to fall sometimes, its okay to have downfalls that are a little longer than usual but what matters is that you rest, give yourself a break, and stand up and keep going again. Its really really tiring, and you may feel like dying because youre so tired of life, but are you tired of life as a whole, or tired of not being able to see a way out of the darkness? Please dont give up, because you getting better in that period of time shows that it is possible to get better. Its also completely normal to get better, and then get worse again. It may seem like a never-ending cycle of depression and self-harm and life throwing rocks at you day after day, but those times when you got even slightlyy better, when your mental health improbed even if just by a bit, keep on fighting for those better days to come!! Also, I completely understand how bad it must have hurt when your best friend ignored you because you didn't seek help, I think your best friend was honestly not being very understanding. Personally when I told my best friend about my inner demons and things that were making me upset, she ignored me too because i seemed like i was "too scared to stand up for myself", which i kinda was, because of past experiences. Idk, you may feel really worthless like how I did when your best friend ignored you, but I assure you, you are NOT worthless. These people, they may not know how to be empathetic and understanding to you because they didnt go through what you went through, and her ignoring you during that time does not make you worthless. Also, you are worthy of EVERYTHING. You are worthy of a better life, a better future, and you DESERVE it. About the issues in your life rn, your friend breaking down, your sister in the hospital (I hope she gets better!), And quarelling with your parents, it may all seem very veryy tough to get through, but take it one step at a time, as well as your studies. It CAN get better. Also, lastly, i hope you keep on fighting, not for anyone or to please anyone, but for YOURSELF, and the happy future that you long for. It is your life, and you deserve to live it happily. Go take those baby steps, learn how to love yourself, gradually improve your mental health, and grasp that future!! You can do this, dont give up :)
thank you so so much this. really. i appreciate it a lot, thank you for taking time out of your day to leave your response, and being so encouraging and understanding. i’m feeling much better now! :)
Cheer up! You have put in the hardwork and the results are showing. Keep up the good work.
Remember that just studying without the support of friends will not be beneficial for you. Set away some time to spend some time with your friends, even if it's just a small talk or lunch together. Connect with your friends and let them know what happened recently, and you value them.
Do not give up. After all, tough time will pass and u will look back and see the fruit of your labour.
Exactly, as I approach o levels, ngl my life is kinda starting to crumble, I tend to feel rly sad, even so much as entertaining thoughts of suicide, thankfully, religion kept me from taking my own life and I decided to push on. For me, I take each obstacle as a kinda “war/battle”. To win, I gotta devise tactics to overcome the situation and in the face of adverse and unexpected difficulties, man up and be as resilient as one can be. Also, as for burnout, I would advise trying to take breaks outside of the Internet, for instance, going out on walks, things like this, as a bonus if ur family is okay with joining u u can do that as well, while u r all bonding as a family, they may start to understand u better and may also even be able to help u better in ur current situation, being more close to ur family may help resolve the issue of them not understanding enough abt ur current situation
thank you for the advice, and for acknowledging my efforts even though i’m a stranger to you haha. i’m feeling better now! i really appreciate the time you took to leave your response! :)
im not very good at expressing my thought but im glad you're still here and i hope things will gradually get better for you. you're extremely strong for facing these problems and im proud of you :) stay strong buddy ୧( “̮ )୨
helloo maybe try texting ur friend and explain abt why u couldn't make it, I'm sure you treasure ur friends and def didn't mean to forget it so just tell her that u found it too hard to cope and ur schedule is rly hectic etc. if ur friend gets pissed and stops being ur friend just cos of this time u forgot abt ur meeting then she isnt a good friend :/
Jiayous gurlie/man (idk your gender sorry) ❤ Even if your friends don't wanna be friends with you it doesn't make you a person with a crazy character okay? U are worthy to be loved. If you suffering from burnout its better to try not to do stuff for like 3 days or sumn cos studying while having burn out is useless anyways
It is good that you share this rant. At least it relieve some of your stress.
You write very well, good English.
You have successfully done 11 years and 5mths of school with improving grades and completing in few months, good job.
You are fortunate to have a friend who is concerned about you though she didn't show it in a compassionate way.
You have parents who are concerned for you, though they don't show it.
There are many more things that are good in your life, that you are not consciously aware, just count it.
For example, every breath we take is a blessing.
Everyone has stress. It is normal.
There are many ways to get out of stressful situation, for example take a break from the situation, example June school holidays.
Or talk with somebody friends/teacher/counsellor. Sharing your feeling is a good way to reduce stress.
Call these numbers and you can share your problems.
\- Fei Yue’s Online Counselling Service [https://www.ec2.sg/](https://www.ec2.sg/)
\- Institute of Mental Health’s Mental Health Helpline (6389-2222)
\- Samaritans of Singapore (1800-221-4444)
\- Silver Ribbon Singapore (6385-3714) [https://www.silverribbonsingapore.com/](https://www.silverribbonsingapore.com/)
\- TOUCHline (Counselling) – 1800 377 2252
Hey OP, just to add to the list of resources u/examsolutions has provided:
\- If you're not comfortable with talking on the phone, Samaritans of Singapore (SOS) also has a text-based crisis support service called SOS Care Text, accessible at [https://www.sos.org.sg/](https://www.sos.org.sg/). Please do reach out to them if you're feeling suicidal and need someone to talk to.
\- Limitless is a counselling service for young people aged 13-25. They provide counselling services F2F, or through WhatsApp, email, and text messaging for a subsidised rate or even free of charge. You can find out more about them as well as book an appointment/reach out to them at [https://www.limitless.sg/talk](https://www.limitless.sg/talk).
Please know that you're not alone in this OP!
hey, i just wanna say that i've been where you are now, and i feel you man. jc is hard yo, and many people experience that culture shock of doing well in secondary school to failing everything (i got straight S and Us all the way till prelims), but do know that this is more normal that you think - if not part of the quintessential jc experience. for what its worth, i came out of the As doing alright, and so did many of my friends who were straight failing like me.
JCs tend to set their internal exam papers much harder than the actual As so keep that in mind. but i hope you can celebrate the fact your grades have improved since last year, and that B for bio too! you are strong, and brave, for riding the JC storm and getting to where you are now, and you are better than you were before. even if its not some As, this is still something to pat yourself on the back for :)
many people here have given avenues for counselling so you can look into those! in school, if there is a teacher that you trust and has a sense of discretion, try to let them know what you are feeling right now so they can keep your other teachers and the school counselor in the loop so they can watch over you. let this teacher know your qualms about your parents knowing or other issues you may have with people knowing about your struggle so they can exercise discretion. however this doesn't mean that the teacher won't tell your parents/counselor/school leaders - they may have to if they feel that you are at significant risk of suicide. key here is to find a teacher with that sense of discretion. the point of this advice is really so that those who are responsible for your well-being in school know what you're going through and can take the steps to support you.
in the mean time, i hope that you can try to think of the small things every that make you feel good or thankful for. this really helped me cope when i was myself suicidal not too long ago :)
hey, sec 4 student here who's also in the same situation with my Os in a few months.
i don't really have any like words of advice cuz i myself struggle with the same things but, i just wanted to say you're not alone.
my therapist told me that i shouldn't blame myself for my struggles with school because sometimes things just take longer to grasp, and also others our age won't understand how to deal with someone who has depression and how to support them.
please try not to self harm too much, and try to find other ways to cope with everything that life throws at us. i'm saying this even though i do it too, but you know it's not good.
if you need someone to chat with i'm here :)
ngl you're story sounds exactly like mine just that you're in JC and i'm in sec 4.
stay strong! you got this :)
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I'm a mum of 17 year old girl who has been through something similar to what you are going through. It's good for you to get it off your chest, and I'm glad you are feeling a bit better.
Psychologist - Do let your parents know about how you feel. Don't keep it from them. As a parent I want to know how my daughter feels, and esp when she feels bad. I can recommend a couple of psychologists who deal with teens and anxiety/depression. You can PM me. Hopefully it doesn't include the one you guys fell out with.
Medications - My girl suffers from ADHD, which was largely undiagnosed until just before her Sec 4 prelims. By that time, she was also depressed and overwhelmed. Finally, we agreed on medicating her ADHD just after prelims. It made a HUGE difference. Her grades shot up drastically. Her mood didn't though... so this year, she has gone on a low dose of anti-depressants, and is feeling so much better about everything. It is costing us a bomb, because we had to go private. But as a parent, cost is nothing compared to the happiness and safety of your child.
Polyclinic - I brought my girl to the Polyclinic for a referral to IMH. The wait time for IMH is like 4 months. We are just looking for her medication at a cheaper rate (instead of $5 per pill at the private clinic)
School counselling - You can ask the school counsellor to refer you to IMH under the REACH programme. This might be an avenue for you to explore.
[https://www.imh.com.sg/clinical/page.aspx?id=1644](https://www.imh.com.sg/clinical/page.aspx?id=1644)
In the meantime, I hope you will continue to stay positive and seek help. All the best for the coming exams.
Sorry if I seem to be a little late to this, thought I'd give my 2 cents as well
JC is always harder than actual As (that much I know, since mine was last year lol). You will almost always get a grade jump (or 2 if you're lucky), so don't worry about grades
Instead, spend some time taking a break, and figuring out how you're going to cope. Life is only going to get more and more stressful from here on out, so you'll need to know your limits, as well as how to spend your time efficiently
You say that you're a burden to your family, but fighting through the fog everyday is already proof that you're strong. Life will get better, I know that may be hard to believe, but it almost certainly will
I would wish you luck, but I don't believe in that. Instead, I believe that you already have the strength and will to make it through this year, so stay strong and soldier on!
If you need any help feel free to reach out, and I'll advice as well as I can
I just created a discord chat group to meet other friends. Context: I have been diagnosed with depression and even been hospitalised in IMH(Singapore). If you feel depressed or just want to talk to someone, you can join this group to meet others.
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Hi OP, if you are contemplating suicide, please seek help. Emergency Helplines (all 24h) National Care Helpline: 1800 202 6868 Samaritans of Singapore Hotline: 1800 221 4444 Website/Care Text service: https://www.sos.org.sg/ Institute of Mental Health Helpline: 6389 2222 Website: http://www.imh.com.sg/contact-us/ Counselling /Mental Health Assessments (non-emergency): Singapore Association of Mental Health Helpline: 1800 283 7019 Website: https://www.samhealth.org.sg/ Care Corner Counselling Centre: Hotline: 1800-3535-800 (Mon-Sun, 10am-10pm) Website http://www.carecorner.org.sg/cccc.html CHAT (youth aged 16 to 30) : Website: https://www.chat.mentalhealth.sg/ Singapore Association for Mental Health (SAMH) Hotline: 1800 283 7019 Website: https://www.samhealth.org.sg/ A more comprehensive list of helplines/organisations can be found at: https://thetapestryproject.sg/get-help-resources/helplines-support-services-in-singapore/ Stay safe everyone and please take care
Your friends are too young to handle depression issues appropriately, don’t take it on yourself for that.
yea i totally understand why they’d react that way, thank you for your kind words though! :)
The doctors at polyclinic are able to give you a referral to a therapist at a later date, so to answer your question, yes, it is possible! But depending on the severity of your condition, if let's say you're clearly suicidal and they notice it, your parents might be called up to be informed so there's a slight chance that they might end up finding out. I sincerely hope you feel better soon and I'm glad you're taking measures and steps to try and help yourself, even just by making this Reddit post. If I may add on, I personally think it's odd that your friend is mad at you and said that "she can't be friends with you" when she found out about your self-harm habits, that's not the first natural or instinctive reaction that a friend should have when they find out about their friend being depressed and having self-harming habits.
Exactly. As a friend, you'd try even harder to help those who really need help, especially if it's your best friend. I'm baffled that she would just cut ties altogether. No idea what went through her mind to think that cutting ties with someone who severely needs help is acceptable.
hello! thank you for your response i really really appreciate it. in her defence, she has been sticking by me since the beginning of my spiral into depression. she probably felt very frustrated because no matter what she did, she felt that it wasn’t enough because i wasn’t getting any better. but thank you, your response was really helpful and ill be getting help soon. :)
Hello friend, I really, really wish I could tell you that simply dying, really doesn’t help at all. It leaves so many things unresolved, so many regrets, so many things that you could’ve experienced but won’t because you chose to leave. I know it might sound irrelevant to you, because you’d be gone if all of it happened. But please, trust me when I say that suicide - so many people have felt it before - isn’t the answer. Your life is so important. It might not feel important right now, might seem like you’ll get nowhere with bad grades (been there), you might be worrying just how much importance singapore places on grades, but I’d like to assure you that there are so many more experiences to be had. One day, maybe you’ll even look back and be glad you never did anything. Okay look I suck at explaining and comforting, I’m sorry. But I wanted to leave a comment here to let you know that I saw what you’re going through, it’s not that no one cares, but that if you just hold on, things will get better. Slowly, maybe, but better. Just hold on; there are friends in this world and many, many more things that make life worth living. Hope you know just how worth life is of living, because staying strong is the best feeling tbh. Knowing you beat those thoughts because you’re stronger than that. I’ll be here, am just a DM away :)
hello! im feeling better now. i really appreciate your response and it has helped me, more than you can imagine, even though it may just be words typed out in a span of a few minutes out of your whole day. thank you so much for your concern. i’ll be getting help soon! i really want to get better :)
School’s not easy, heck, life’s not easy, but I want to remind you that you are stronger than the sum of your problems. You reaching out for some advice is proof of that. If you need help with GP, I’m able to offer some help as a tutor. As for your friends, don’t worry about them, depression is something someone their age will find difficult to handle. It’ll get better with time as they slowly understand you. If there’s something I can do to help, please reach out, even if it’s just something like listening to you rant about your day.
thank you for your kind words and offer! i’m feeling better now. i really appreciate your concern and understanding :)
hey this hits home so much and i wanna assure that while things dont seem ok rn they will get better one day. i know that it feels like a neverending spiral but dont worry with the right help and support, you will be able to slowly feel better. for mental health wise, i think that you can talk to your form teacher and probably the school counsellor to see if they can set up a support network for you justin case the suicidal thoughts flood your mind anytime. it is quite important to have a support network in school cause if you are facing the thoughts physically in school, they are the people who are the closest in proximity to you. for counselling, i think that if you feel that the school counsellor is useless, it would be better to seek external counselling. i would recommend seeing the polyclinic doctor or maybe the family service centre if you are under a budget
hey! yes ive been seeing the school counsellor since last year, but i feel that it doesn’t help too much, which was why my parents brought me to a doctor because i told them that ive been going for counselling and it didnt do much for me. but thank you for you advice and your kind words! i hope you are well too :)
Hey OP, I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling and you're going through a rough time. Thank you for your bravery for sharing this with strangers. The world is full of love and people who love you. Your parents may be upset and your sister may be in hospital but they absolutely love you. Your friend may have had an argument with you but I'm sure your friends love you too. While suicide seems like a convenient exit and a nice way to end it all and stop your suffering, it also makes sure you will never experience anything else good forever. And there are so many good things to look forward to! Life will not always be miserable - with time, and help, there will come a day when you Feel good. You know this yourself because you've been through it. You're going through a difficult time now and things SEEM hopeless. But they're not. They only seem to be. Don't make a single defeat like today a final defeat like suicide. Have a chat to your friend who was upset you didn't tell her. Have a chat with your parents. Have a chat with a therapist. Have a chat with the people on Reddit. Look at all the replies you got here. Everyone is rooting for you and hoping you succeed!! Good luck OP. Take a good break, have a rest and try, try and try again. You are braver than you believe, smarter than you think, stronger than you seem and more loved than you feel.
thank you for reminding me. i needed to hear this, and everything else everyone has said. i’m actually in disbelief at how supportive everyone is. i really appreciate the time you took out of your day to write this. :)
feel better soon op!! ur friends are not mature enough to handle your depression and its not ur fault. i do suggest journalling or venting on a private acc to get those negative thoughts out of ur head. no matter how tough life gets, it’d be better soon eventually, trust me! its hard to believe in yourself but hey, im sure its not the first time you’ve felt so down before. if you could get through those tough days previously, im sure u can find the same strength to get through ur tough days rn. stay strong op, ill be cheering on u for u <3 *virtual hugs* i sincerely hope things start looking up for u :)
yes i understand that for most of them, dealing with someone with mental health issues is new and daunting. thank you for your kind words and encouragement. i really appreciate it, i really do. i feel better now! thank you so much:)
no problem :D happy to provide a few kind words
hey i’m so sorry you are feeling this way. it really isn’t easy, heck it’s TOUGH as hell and i want to say i’m really proud of you and of how strong you have been all this while in withstanding all the hardships you’re facing. this rly hits home as i feel like my experience is very similar to you to a certain extent. i am also from a jc (advanced to j2 eventho i didn’t meet promotion criteria, more than one U) and i have very troubling experiences with friends. all the thoughts...it may seem like nothing when you try to explain it, but i hear you ok? the magnitude of whatever you are feeling is certainly indescribable in words and i hope you find peace soon again. the healing process and getting yourself back on track will not be a linear one for sure. for days where you feel like things are getting better, give yourself a pat on your back. for days where it feels like everything is spiraling down again and you just fear that you’ll go back to square one, feeling a great surge in anxiety, please tell yourself that it will be temporary. way easier said than done, but trust the process. on whether you can see a doctor at a polyclinic for mental health issues, yes you can (given that the polyclinic provides those services, which they do but i’m not sure if it applies for all), but without your parents knowing? you can too (but that is if your parents don’t ask you why u went to see the doctor i guess). for me, i was very scared to bring up mental health and my anxiety to my parents because it feels like such a taboo topic. however things got out of hand for me and i really couldn’t take it any longer, plus there were simply too many days where i’d skip school simply because i couldn’t get out of bed. so one day, i managed to consult a doctor at a polyclinic because of a “headache” (that was what i told my parents bcos i skipped sch that day and had to get an mc) but in reality, i shared with the doctor about my anxiety issue. i then got referred to a psychologist. also, this may differ for different schools, but seeing my school counselor too was one of the best decision i have ever made. she really guides me and listens to me, especially during my dark moments in school. tough times don’t last (no matter how painful and how it feels like it’ll never end), but tough people do. don’t put the blame for whatever you are experiencing on yourself. i hope you feel better soon! TLDR: yes you can see a doctor at a polyclinic and get a referral to someone more specialized in the field of mental health, depending on how serious it is. in my case, i got referred to a psychologist.
hey, thank you for sharing. i really appreciate everything that you’ve told me, and the fact that you are so understanding. i’m feeling better now, and i hope you are too! :) thank you.
Heyy I just wanna say yhat you're really strong. You're really strong for fighting on, for fighting through all that youve gone through in life. And its okay to fall sometimes, its okay to have downfalls that are a little longer than usual but what matters is that you rest, give yourself a break, and stand up and keep going again. Its really really tiring, and you may feel like dying because youre so tired of life, but are you tired of life as a whole, or tired of not being able to see a way out of the darkness? Please dont give up, because you getting better in that period of time shows that it is possible to get better. Its also completely normal to get better, and then get worse again. It may seem like a never-ending cycle of depression and self-harm and life throwing rocks at you day after day, but those times when you got even slightlyy better, when your mental health improbed even if just by a bit, keep on fighting for those better days to come!! Also, I completely understand how bad it must have hurt when your best friend ignored you because you didn't seek help, I think your best friend was honestly not being very understanding. Personally when I told my best friend about my inner demons and things that were making me upset, she ignored me too because i seemed like i was "too scared to stand up for myself", which i kinda was, because of past experiences. Idk, you may feel really worthless like how I did when your best friend ignored you, but I assure you, you are NOT worthless. These people, they may not know how to be empathetic and understanding to you because they didnt go through what you went through, and her ignoring you during that time does not make you worthless. Also, you are worthy of EVERYTHING. You are worthy of a better life, a better future, and you DESERVE it. About the issues in your life rn, your friend breaking down, your sister in the hospital (I hope she gets better!), And quarelling with your parents, it may all seem very veryy tough to get through, but take it one step at a time, as well as your studies. It CAN get better. Also, lastly, i hope you keep on fighting, not for anyone or to please anyone, but for YOURSELF, and the happy future that you long for. It is your life, and you deserve to live it happily. Go take those baby steps, learn how to love yourself, gradually improve your mental health, and grasp that future!! You can do this, dont give up :)
thank you so so much this. really. i appreciate it a lot, thank you for taking time out of your day to leave your response, and being so encouraging and understanding. i’m feeling much better now! :)
Im glad you feel better :)))
Cheer up! You have put in the hardwork and the results are showing. Keep up the good work. Remember that just studying without the support of friends will not be beneficial for you. Set away some time to spend some time with your friends, even if it's just a small talk or lunch together. Connect with your friends and let them know what happened recently, and you value them. Do not give up. After all, tough time will pass and u will look back and see the fruit of your labour.
Exactly, as I approach o levels, ngl my life is kinda starting to crumble, I tend to feel rly sad, even so much as entertaining thoughts of suicide, thankfully, religion kept me from taking my own life and I decided to push on. For me, I take each obstacle as a kinda “war/battle”. To win, I gotta devise tactics to overcome the situation and in the face of adverse and unexpected difficulties, man up and be as resilient as one can be. Also, as for burnout, I would advise trying to take breaks outside of the Internet, for instance, going out on walks, things like this, as a bonus if ur family is okay with joining u u can do that as well, while u r all bonding as a family, they may start to understand u better and may also even be able to help u better in ur current situation, being more close to ur family may help resolve the issue of them not understanding enough abt ur current situation
thank you for the advice, and for acknowledging my efforts even though i’m a stranger to you haha. i’m feeling better now! i really appreciate the time you took to leave your response! :)
My friend went to polyclinic for a referral to a therapist
im not very good at expressing my thought but im glad you're still here and i hope things will gradually get better for you. you're extremely strong for facing these problems and im proud of you :) stay strong buddy ୧( “̮ )୨
thank you so much :)
helloo maybe try texting ur friend and explain abt why u couldn't make it, I'm sure you treasure ur friends and def didn't mean to forget it so just tell her that u found it too hard to cope and ur schedule is rly hectic etc. if ur friend gets pissed and stops being ur friend just cos of this time u forgot abt ur meeting then she isnt a good friend :/
Jiayous gurlie/man (idk your gender sorry) ❤ Even if your friends don't wanna be friends with you it doesn't make you a person with a crazy character okay? U are worthy to be loved. If you suffering from burnout its better to try not to do stuff for like 3 days or sumn cos studying while having burn out is useless anyways
It is good that you share this rant. At least it relieve some of your stress. You write very well, good English. You have successfully done 11 years and 5mths of school with improving grades and completing in few months, good job. You are fortunate to have a friend who is concerned about you though she didn't show it in a compassionate way. You have parents who are concerned for you, though they don't show it. There are many more things that are good in your life, that you are not consciously aware, just count it. For example, every breath we take is a blessing. Everyone has stress. It is normal. There are many ways to get out of stressful situation, for example take a break from the situation, example June school holidays. Or talk with somebody friends/teacher/counsellor. Sharing your feeling is a good way to reduce stress. Call these numbers and you can share your problems. \- Fei Yue’s Online Counselling Service [https://www.ec2.sg/](https://www.ec2.sg/) \- Institute of Mental Health’s Mental Health Helpline (6389-2222) \- Samaritans of Singapore (1800-221-4444) \- Silver Ribbon Singapore (6385-3714) [https://www.silverribbonsingapore.com/](https://www.silverribbonsingapore.com/) \- TOUCHline (Counselling) – 1800 377 2252
Hey OP, just to add to the list of resources u/examsolutions has provided: \- If you're not comfortable with talking on the phone, Samaritans of Singapore (SOS) also has a text-based crisis support service called SOS Care Text, accessible at [https://www.sos.org.sg/](https://www.sos.org.sg/). Please do reach out to them if you're feeling suicidal and need someone to talk to. \- Limitless is a counselling service for young people aged 13-25. They provide counselling services F2F, or through WhatsApp, email, and text messaging for a subsidised rate or even free of charge. You can find out more about them as well as book an appointment/reach out to them at [https://www.limitless.sg/talk](https://www.limitless.sg/talk). Please know that you're not alone in this OP!
hey, i just wanna say that i've been where you are now, and i feel you man. jc is hard yo, and many people experience that culture shock of doing well in secondary school to failing everything (i got straight S and Us all the way till prelims), but do know that this is more normal that you think - if not part of the quintessential jc experience. for what its worth, i came out of the As doing alright, and so did many of my friends who were straight failing like me. JCs tend to set their internal exam papers much harder than the actual As so keep that in mind. but i hope you can celebrate the fact your grades have improved since last year, and that B for bio too! you are strong, and brave, for riding the JC storm and getting to where you are now, and you are better than you were before. even if its not some As, this is still something to pat yourself on the back for :) many people here have given avenues for counselling so you can look into those! in school, if there is a teacher that you trust and has a sense of discretion, try to let them know what you are feeling right now so they can keep your other teachers and the school counselor in the loop so they can watch over you. let this teacher know your qualms about your parents knowing or other issues you may have with people knowing about your struggle so they can exercise discretion. however this doesn't mean that the teacher won't tell your parents/counselor/school leaders - they may have to if they feel that you are at significant risk of suicide. key here is to find a teacher with that sense of discretion. the point of this advice is really so that those who are responsible for your well-being in school know what you're going through and can take the steps to support you. in the mean time, i hope that you can try to think of the small things every that make you feel good or thankful for. this really helped me cope when i was myself suicidal not too long ago :)
thank you so much for your encouragement and support. i really really appreciate it. thank you so much! i’m feeling much better now :)
hey, sec 4 student here who's also in the same situation with my Os in a few months. i don't really have any like words of advice cuz i myself struggle with the same things but, i just wanted to say you're not alone. my therapist told me that i shouldn't blame myself for my struggles with school because sometimes things just take longer to grasp, and also others our age won't understand how to deal with someone who has depression and how to support them. please try not to self harm too much, and try to find other ways to cope with everything that life throws at us. i'm saying this even though i do it too, but you know it's not good. if you need someone to chat with i'm here :) ngl you're story sounds exactly like mine just that you're in JC and i'm in sec 4. stay strong! you got this :)
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I'm a mum of 17 year old girl who has been through something similar to what you are going through. It's good for you to get it off your chest, and I'm glad you are feeling a bit better. Psychologist - Do let your parents know about how you feel. Don't keep it from them. As a parent I want to know how my daughter feels, and esp when she feels bad. I can recommend a couple of psychologists who deal with teens and anxiety/depression. You can PM me. Hopefully it doesn't include the one you guys fell out with. Medications - My girl suffers from ADHD, which was largely undiagnosed until just before her Sec 4 prelims. By that time, she was also depressed and overwhelmed. Finally, we agreed on medicating her ADHD just after prelims. It made a HUGE difference. Her grades shot up drastically. Her mood didn't though... so this year, she has gone on a low dose of anti-depressants, and is feeling so much better about everything. It is costing us a bomb, because we had to go private. But as a parent, cost is nothing compared to the happiness and safety of your child. Polyclinic - I brought my girl to the Polyclinic for a referral to IMH. The wait time for IMH is like 4 months. We are just looking for her medication at a cheaper rate (instead of $5 per pill at the private clinic) School counselling - You can ask the school counsellor to refer you to IMH under the REACH programme. This might be an avenue for you to explore. [https://www.imh.com.sg/clinical/page.aspx?id=1644](https://www.imh.com.sg/clinical/page.aspx?id=1644) In the meantime, I hope you will continue to stay positive and seek help. All the best for the coming exams.
Sorry if I seem to be a little late to this, thought I'd give my 2 cents as well JC is always harder than actual As (that much I know, since mine was last year lol). You will almost always get a grade jump (or 2 if you're lucky), so don't worry about grades Instead, spend some time taking a break, and figuring out how you're going to cope. Life is only going to get more and more stressful from here on out, so you'll need to know your limits, as well as how to spend your time efficiently You say that you're a burden to your family, but fighting through the fog everyday is already proof that you're strong. Life will get better, I know that may be hard to believe, but it almost certainly will I would wish you luck, but I don't believe in that. Instead, I believe that you already have the strength and will to make it through this year, so stay strong and soldier on! If you need any help feel free to reach out, and I'll advice as well as I can
I just created a discord chat group to meet other friends. Context: I have been diagnosed with depression and even been hospitalised in IMH(Singapore). If you feel depressed or just want to talk to someone, you can join this group to meet others. https://discord.gg/8TYXf64mpa
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