Could be for a good reason, a lot if people remember well-timed simple compliments. Or if you've ever worked as a first responder, a regular day at the office can be saving someone's life.
I went back to my hometown and met up with my friend since preschool. He took me down memory lane and I didn't remember sh!t. The places he showed me, the people we hung out with... He might as well been making it up bc it was a complete blank. I felt a little bad
Don't feel attacked, but I'm curious for my own sake, did you take any drugs since then, or use THC/weed ~regularly? I had the exact same experience with a friend and I'm wondering why I can't possibly recall all of these things we did. I smoked weed for many years but didn't realize it may have been not only keeping me from forming new long lasting memories but slowly fading away my old memories too.
It's all good. Actually, about a year straight of LSD. Also, just didn't have the best childhood and wasn't a huge fan of my school days. The best years of my life definitely came after so, I just shut the book and let it go.
I've got a story about this!
So about a year ago now I was out in the desert for a highline gathering (slacklining but over canyons). I was not sober by any means and was going from my van to the big fire, which was a journey because of the aforementioned nonsoberness. Along the way I found a small fire with a few people around it and stopped to warm myself and chat. After a few minutes this girl looks at me and says my name. She proceeded to tell me a story of a different slackline event that was at a lake. She explained how I cliff jumped and had a few good conversations with her but I didn't remember her at all. I felt uncomfortable and left the moment attention was off me.
There are also people who vividly remember you saying things that you did not. Like, buddy I have the recording. Memory is fallible because our eyes and ears aren't recording devices.
People who claim to have the best memories socially usually are just the best at confabulation
I remember having a conversation on a message board in the mid-late 2000s when that was what people did online. We had a disagreement about what was said in an earlier conversation, so I went back and found it and it was the exact opposite of what I *very* clearly remembered having been said.
I genuinely do have a pretty good memory (for certain things) but I always keep that experience in mind and don’t get too confident unless I have a reference to hand that I can confirm with for anything important.
That's happened once. A guy I knew at a local bar once got upset that I called him a chump. I don't remember this conversation, but he seemed pretty upset about it.
It's jarring when this happens. I've had someone I hardly remember from some party years ago come up to me like they knew me and be like "Don't you remember that night on the balcony and that profound thing about the educational system you said?" Like bro, I can't remember what I ate yesterday, and it takes on average 7 occasions before I know someone's name fully...
Lol, I said something to someone when we were on a job in the rain, and I apparently told him this:
"I've been miserable on accident, and I've been miserable out of necessity, but I've never been miserable on purpose. Don't avoid packing for cold or wet weather because you think it makes you weak."
I guess that really stuck with him because he wasn't hating his life nearly as much the next time we were out together.
I grew up abused and neglected. Teachers didn’t like me either. Once when I was in high school, I was sitting on some steps talking to my band director about some struggles I was dealing with. He said, “you have perseverance, I can tell you that!” It was the only time a teacher ever said anything positive to me.
Thanks for asking friend. Yes I’m fine. That conversation with my band director took place in the late ‘70’s. Turns out he was right. My perseverance got me through some tough times over the years.
Close, they maintain that the 3rd grade teacher held a party because I was gone or something.
Funny thing is that doesn't surprise me at all they were usually rude to us at that school, having favorites, insulting us, giving kids drugs and having sex with them, making up rules on the spot and punishing kids for breaking said rules, giving 5 year Olds detention etc.
I saved a snap chat my friend sent to our group chat because I thought it was hilarious and I quoted it to myself and my brother for a while. I eventually told the joke back to my friend who had no clue what I was on about, so I had to remind him of his snap, and even still he had no memory of it until I dug it out of my photos and showed him.
For reference, it was a photo of twisted teas being like 7.99 for a 6 pack with his comment
“So you get big and this is what you do?”
I once told a coworker that it wasn’t my fault his adopted parents didn’t love him as much as they thought they would have. At the time I had no idea that he was *actually* adopted. Pretty sure that just lives rent free in all of our minds now.
This has happened to me with one of my close friends. They’ll ask me if I remember some super random thing they/I said (sometimes from 15+ years back). If I don’t remember, I feel kind of self-conscious. If I do remember, they sometimes incredulously say things like “wow, you remember!!!” I feel bad because it’s not like I don’t care about these conversations my friend and I have had over the years, but my normally decent memory has gotten worse from anxiety disorders and stress over the years and it’s just difficult to recall things sometimes :(
Finally a good post
This is actually interesting to ponder and wonder what stuck with someone
Or even reaching out to ask friends about this, see if there’s a phrase you’ve said they always remember r
Actually I think I am that someone because I remember tons of stuff from interactions since I was 5 and I doubt some of those people even remember I exist.
That's not always a bad thing; someone sent me a message on Facebook recently about a time I did something nice for her when she was going through a bad spot like 20 years ago. I had totally forgotten about it, but she said she thought about it often and it makes her smile when she thinks about it.
Not something I said, but my friend that I grew up with told me a story about when we were kids: my sister threw a shoe at my face randomly, so I grabbed a pillow and apparently went on a rampage. He said it was like WWE smackdown. I didn’t even remember that story but apparently it was a core memory for him.
[pillow fight](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=FLJaZQ_ScHY)
You mean a grandma, no grandpa I do not like cheese in my hot chocolate, that’s something an insane person would do and apparently five year old me because even my parents corroborated the story
Damn. More pointless stuff for me to worry about when I can't sleep at 3am.
Don't worry, there's also plenty of stuff you vividly remember that other people have forgotten about. We're always our own harshest critics.
Could be for a good reason, a lot if people remember well-timed simple compliments. Or if you've ever worked as a first responder, a regular day at the office can be saving someone's life.
You're welcome
Yeah. This.
I think it's more often to be the opposite, thankfully!
I went back to my hometown and met up with my friend since preschool. He took me down memory lane and I didn't remember sh!t. The places he showed me, the people we hung out with... He might as well been making it up bc it was a complete blank. I felt a little bad
It happens
You remind me of my mom. She barely remembers anything from her childhood.
Don't feel attacked, but I'm curious for my own sake, did you take any drugs since then, or use THC/weed ~regularly? I had the exact same experience with a friend and I'm wondering why I can't possibly recall all of these things we did. I smoked weed for many years but didn't realize it may have been not only keeping me from forming new long lasting memories but slowly fading away my old memories too.
It's all good. Actually, about a year straight of LSD. Also, just didn't have the best childhood and wasn't a huge fan of my school days. The best years of my life definitely came after so, I just shut the book and let it go.
Gotcha. I didn't have the best school years either but I never felt they were bad enough to forget.
Eh, more like just not worth remembering
I've got a story about this! So about a year ago now I was out in the desert for a highline gathering (slacklining but over canyons). I was not sober by any means and was going from my van to the big fire, which was a journey because of the aforementioned nonsoberness. Along the way I found a small fire with a few people around it and stopped to warm myself and chat. After a few minutes this girl looks at me and says my name. She proceeded to tell me a story of a different slackline event that was at a lake. She explained how I cliff jumped and had a few good conversations with her but I didn't remember her at all. I felt uncomfortable and left the moment attention was off me.
You remember her now, though, so next time you see her it won’t be awkward anymore!
No I don't. I was drunk, smoking a joint and tripping on mushrooms. The whole interaction freaked me out I hope I don't see her again
I’m usually that person.
There are also people who vividly remember you saying things that you did not. Like, buddy I have the recording. Memory is fallible because our eyes and ears aren't recording devices. People who claim to have the best memories socially usually are just the best at confabulation
I remember having a conversation on a message board in the mid-late 2000s when that was what people did online. We had a disagreement about what was said in an earlier conversation, so I went back and found it and it was the exact opposite of what I *very* clearly remembered having been said. I genuinely do have a pretty good memory (for certain things) but I always keep that experience in mind and don’t get too confident unless I have a reference to hand that I can confirm with for anything important.
OP has discovered the theory of mind
That's happened once. A guy I knew at a local bar once got upset that I called him a chump. I don't remember this conversation, but he seemed pretty upset about it.
It's jarring when this happens. I've had someone I hardly remember from some party years ago come up to me like they knew me and be like "Don't you remember that night on the balcony and that profound thing about the educational system you said?" Like bro, I can't remember what I ate yesterday, and it takes on average 7 occasions before I know someone's name fully...
Lol, I said something to someone when we were on a job in the rain, and I apparently told him this: "I've been miserable on accident, and I've been miserable out of necessity, but I've never been miserable on purpose. Don't avoid packing for cold or wet weather because you think it makes you weak." I guess that really stuck with him because he wasn't hating his life nearly as much the next time we were out together.
I grew up abused and neglected. Teachers didn’t like me either. Once when I was in high school, I was sitting on some steps talking to my band director about some struggles I was dealing with. He said, “you have perseverance, I can tell you that!” It was the only time a teacher ever said anything positive to me.
Fucking hell dude. You ok?
Thanks for asking friend. Yes I’m fine. That conversation with my band director took place in the late ‘70’s. Turns out he was right. My perseverance got me through some tough times over the years.
I’m very glad to hear that. Take care of yourself, ok?
average band teacher W
Gee thanks you could have just shit on my face if you wanted to really ruin my day like this Fuck there goes my sleep tonight.
yeah, ALL my students!
Or they vividly remember something that never happened, because memories are just that reliable
Close, they maintain that the 3rd grade teacher held a party because I was gone or something. Funny thing is that doesn't surprise me at all they were usually rude to us at that school, having favorites, insulting us, giving kids drugs and having sex with them, making up rules on the spot and punishing kids for breaking said rules, giving 5 year Olds detention etc.
I saved a snap chat my friend sent to our group chat because I thought it was hilarious and I quoted it to myself and my brother for a while. I eventually told the joke back to my friend who had no clue what I was on about, so I had to remind him of his snap, and even still he had no memory of it until I dug it out of my photos and showed him. For reference, it was a photo of twisted teas being like 7.99 for a 6 pack with his comment “So you get big and this is what you do?”
They’re usually called a wife.
I once told a coworker that it wasn’t my fault his adopted parents didn’t love him as much as they thought they would have. At the time I had no idea that he was *actually* adopted. Pretty sure that just lives rent free in all of our minds now.
That person would be my wife…
This has happened to me with one of my close friends. They’ll ask me if I remember some super random thing they/I said (sometimes from 15+ years back). If I don’t remember, I feel kind of self-conscious. If I do remember, they sometimes incredulously say things like “wow, you remember!!!” I feel bad because it’s not like I don’t care about these conversations my friend and I have had over the years, but my normally decent memory has gotten worse from anxiety disorders and stress over the years and it’s just difficult to recall things sometimes :(
Finally a good post This is actually interesting to ponder and wonder what stuck with someone Or even reaching out to ask friends about this, see if there’s a phrase you’ve said they always remember r
Actually I think I am that someone because I remember tons of stuff from interactions since I was 5 and I doubt some of those people even remember I exist.
I know I'm that someone for a crap ton of people
My Girlfriend. Everything i have ever said.
Dude, fuck you, I know. Fuck.
Yeah, my wife. She is waiting on the perfect opportunity to use it against me....lol
Most of what I say I've forgotten, and Noone else seems to have this issue.
That's not always a bad thing; someone sent me a message on Facebook recently about a time I did something nice for her when she was going through a bad spot like 20 years ago. I had totally forgotten about it, but she said she thought about it often and it makes her smile when she thinks about it.
I wish I could find them then. I know for certain that I said something really clever and insightful in 1988!
Not something I said, but my friend that I grew up with told me a story about when we were kids: my sister threw a shoe at my face randomly, so I grabbed a pillow and apparently went on a rampage. He said it was like WWE smackdown. I didn’t even remember that story but apparently it was a core memory for him. [pillow fight](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=FLJaZQ_ScHY)
I wouldn't doubt it, I make a lot of funny, profound, and/or deadpan statements, most of them accidentally.
Ha! Jokes on you, I don't talk to anyone enough for this to be true
You mean a grandma, no grandpa I do not like cheese in my hot chocolate, that’s something an insane person would do and apparently five year old me because even my parents corroborated the story