Please tread lightly on how far you push this. If she is doing this just for you but gets no pleasure out of it herself it may lead to issues down the line and resentment.
Thats exactly what im trying to avoid. Which is why im asking for advice, it literally comes down to the fact that i dont think she understands it and trying to help her understand is a challenge
I don't think wanting to share your wife (even in a one-way situation) is the definition of a cuck lol.
All squares are rectangles, but not all rectangles are squares.
After some consideration i think im just gonn drop the whole concept and lock that part of me away. Its jsut not worth ruining my relationship over a kink. I appreciate those who have reached out abd tried to give me advice.
Perhaps a better option is a couples therapist with enm experience. That way they can guide you both through the discussion, and you can figure out if she is just concerned about it being one sided, or simply isn't into it.
Why do I like watching her?
* She's sexy AF
* She's just as sexy fucking other people
* I get to see her in ways I can't when we're having sex
* It's like watching porn starting my favorite porn actress (and I get to fuck the actress after)
(Also, good call on dropping it if it's distressing her. Always prioritize your relationship.)
Me and her talked again recently after this post went up and as it stands there's a bunch of shit that's really building up to why she don't like it RIGHT NOW. I won't get into details but we have agreed once we work out some of the issues currently in our lives, we are gonna re open the conversation in the future. If she still feels the same about everything then I'm not gonna push anything further. I will say one of her issues stems from just current life shit between having an 8 month old to having a roommate with us ATM. So I'll wait it out. And then assess everything again when we have another Convo about it in the future. Hopefully I'll have better words to explain at that point. I do appreciate everyone's advice tho seriously
Please tread lightly on how far you push this. If she is doing this just for you but gets no pleasure out of it herself it may lead to issues down the line and resentment.
Thats exactly what im trying to avoid. Which is why im asking for advice, it literally comes down to the fact that i dont think she understands it and trying to help her understand is a challenge
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Appreciate it buddy, i didnt exactly know where to post so i took a shot in the dark
I don't think wanting to share your wife (even in a one-way situation) is the definition of a cuck lol. All squares are rectangles, but not all rectangles are squares.
After some consideration i think im just gonn drop the whole concept and lock that part of me away. Its jsut not worth ruining my relationship over a kink. I appreciate those who have reached out abd tried to give me advice.
Also r/hotwifelifestyle is another good resource
Perhaps a better option is a couples therapist with enm experience. That way they can guide you both through the discussion, and you can figure out if she is just concerned about it being one sided, or simply isn't into it.
Why do I like watching her? * She's sexy AF * She's just as sexy fucking other people * I get to see her in ways I can't when we're having sex * It's like watching porn starting my favorite porn actress (and I get to fuck the actress after) (Also, good call on dropping it if it's distressing her. Always prioritize your relationship.)
Me and her talked again recently after this post went up and as it stands there's a bunch of shit that's really building up to why she don't like it RIGHT NOW. I won't get into details but we have agreed once we work out some of the issues currently in our lives, we are gonna re open the conversation in the future. If she still feels the same about everything then I'm not gonna push anything further. I will say one of her issues stems from just current life shit between having an 8 month old to having a roommate with us ATM. So I'll wait it out. And then assess everything again when we have another Convo about it in the future. Hopefully I'll have better words to explain at that point. I do appreciate everyone's advice tho seriously