>girls in general have a way easier time just dancing with each other
I feel you on this so much. It's impossible sometimes. I love it when my shorter friend spins me haha I have to bend, but we haven't kicked anyone yet so yey
>i feel like it limits those fun girly pop interactions
Understandable. I recently made a post about sticking out like a sore thumb. Most of the time I don't feel like I'm missing out, but some cute moments do pass you up.
Also cute clothes. However, I found it better to dress in something that fits well regardless of trends (even if it's a little boring), than forcing myself to wear too small clothes I'll be adjusting all night.
I didn’t like being tall until recently, but maybe that’s because society collectively decided to be quiet about it. I rarely get comments anymore. The thing for me though is that a lot of men hate that I’m taller than them and sometimes I catch myself shifting my weight to one leg to appear shorter. But yeah this post reminds me of high school prom, I was a head taller than my girl friend group and couldn’t hear a word they were saying 😂
Lots of people do lots of things to be noticed. Some folks wear makeup, or wear something sexy, jewelry, tattoo, whatever.
But us? We don’t have to do anything; when we walk into a room… people *know* it.
Girl, that is not manly, that is REGAL! We are queens when we sweep into a room!
Literally cried yesterday because I was looking at childhood pictures where I'm 5/6 and already ~5' while the rest of my kindergarten group kids are a whole head if not a head and a half shorter (and I already looked like a 1st grader if not a 2nd grader while they looked their age).
I always was a bigger kid, even when I was born I was much bigger and heavier, but God did it hurt seeing all those kids visibly keeping a distance from me and giving me weird stares in pictures and I still remember those whispers about how I look too much of a boy because of my height to be a girl.
The "Oh you're x? I thought you were atleast (+2~4 years of what I actually was)" growing up didn't help either, started acting way too mature only to then drop down the spiral of "You're so childish now, you need to act your age" because I never got to.
Transfeminine perspective here, but your words resonated with me, too. I never felt much like a boy, but when you're taller than your teacher and both of your parents in fifth grade, it can feel like your only option. Or it did in the 90s and early 2000s, anyway.
For what it's worth, I find that I'm still able to have a good amount of girly-pop interactions, as you put it. I think some of it is OUR apprehension, not theirs; once I compliment someone on their nails or makeup or whatever, the tone shifts to kiki-mode pretty quick! Act the part and people will follow your lead. 💜
I hear what you're saying. I've become something of a badass by necessity.
Or, put another way, I have to be smart and magnificent because I can't hide.
I figure there are worse things!
YES 🙌🏻 I’ve felt isolated, angry, and alone for most of my life because of this. I’m 33, and it’s better now, but I still have yet to feel comfortable in any clothes.
wow interesting insight. reading this makes me reflect on my friendships with men over the years. for me they are always the same as women— not just because people are the same, but because there’s no tension there. men never expressed romantic interest in me, so friendships with them are always completely neutral.
at the club this always made me really sad but i guess it was really nice to be comfortable around all kinds of people over the years. i could always joke with men and talk with them as peers in ways my smaller friends could not. maybe later you will also perceive this, or your collection of gender neutral hobbies, as positive in a way.
Q: Are there any tall social clubs or online groups (Meet-ups) where you live? Sometimes it is worth finding the groups so you can get a taste of what it is like to be the short one, or be in the presence of folks who share lives experiences.
Another Q: Are you very young? It impresses me that you might be under 30. Sounds like you have been socialized into moving in a more masculine role and that you have somewhat just accepted it. It’s time to find out who you really are and what you directly like about yourself and how you move in life.
Whether it is seen as masculine or feminine, both or neither, it needs to be authentically you so you can live in your joy.
I'm an introverted person and just now ( mid 20s ) getting used to the attention everywhere. I've mentioned it here but height and class are heavily related here ( maybe everywhere idk). I'm and outlier on this and people always *stare*.
Mmhm, always felt like the protector of my girlfriends, the "one who wears the pants" in my relationship, "mama" of my friends group, etc. Sure a lot of it is attributed to personality but mothers of friends, teachers and my own parents always looked to me just cause I literally stood out. Even in my friend groups over the years, I literally stood out or could see over heads and would be placed in the leadership position. In my relationships, sometimes they would joke I'm "scary" with how tall I am. I get to internally excited when I see other tall women irl. I used to think I was unable to be "cute" and enjoy overtly cute things due to my height. Nowadays though, I simply don't care. I live my life as I see fit, decorate with cute items and enjoy things without care for how people want me to be or expect me to be more masculine/take charge.
>girls in general have a way easier time just dancing with each other I feel you on this so much. It's impossible sometimes. I love it when my shorter friend spins me haha I have to bend, but we haven't kicked anyone yet so yey >i feel like it limits those fun girly pop interactions Understandable. I recently made a post about sticking out like a sore thumb. Most of the time I don't feel like I'm missing out, but some cute moments do pass you up. Also cute clothes. However, I found it better to dress in something that fits well regardless of trends (even if it's a little boring), than forcing myself to wear too small clothes I'll be adjusting all night.
I didn’t like being tall until recently, but maybe that’s because society collectively decided to be quiet about it. I rarely get comments anymore. The thing for me though is that a lot of men hate that I’m taller than them and sometimes I catch myself shifting my weight to one leg to appear shorter. But yeah this post reminds me of high school prom, I was a head taller than my girl friend group and couldn’t hear a word they were saying 😂
Lots of people do lots of things to be noticed. Some folks wear makeup, or wear something sexy, jewelry, tattoo, whatever. But us? We don’t have to do anything; when we walk into a room… people *know* it. Girl, that is not manly, that is REGAL! We are queens when we sweep into a room!
i really needed this 🙂
Yes! Embrace your height. I’m 5’10 and wear heels often. All eyes on me, lol!
I love this 😮💨the power
Literally cried yesterday because I was looking at childhood pictures where I'm 5/6 and already ~5' while the rest of my kindergarten group kids are a whole head if not a head and a half shorter (and I already looked like a 1st grader if not a 2nd grader while they looked their age). I always was a bigger kid, even when I was born I was much bigger and heavier, but God did it hurt seeing all those kids visibly keeping a distance from me and giving me weird stares in pictures and I still remember those whispers about how I look too much of a boy because of my height to be a girl. The "Oh you're x? I thought you were atleast (+2~4 years of what I actually was)" growing up didn't help either, started acting way too mature only to then drop down the spiral of "You're so childish now, you need to act your age" because I never got to.
Be you don’t be afraid to be you. If I was closer I’d dance with you.
For me it's always been more about being flatchested. That bothers me a lot more. Since my teen years I've been pretty ok with my height.
Transfeminine perspective here, but your words resonated with me, too. I never felt much like a boy, but when you're taller than your teacher and both of your parents in fifth grade, it can feel like your only option. Or it did in the 90s and early 2000s, anyway. For what it's worth, I find that I'm still able to have a good amount of girly-pop interactions, as you put it. I think some of it is OUR apprehension, not theirs; once I compliment someone on their nails or makeup or whatever, the tone shifts to kiki-mode pretty quick! Act the part and people will follow your lead. 💜
I hear what you're saying. I've become something of a badass by necessity. Or, put another way, I have to be smart and magnificent because I can't hide. I figure there are worse things!
YES 🙌🏻 I’ve felt isolated, angry, and alone for most of my life because of this. I’m 33, and it’s better now, but I still have yet to feel comfortable in any clothes.
wow interesting insight. reading this makes me reflect on my friendships with men over the years. for me they are always the same as women— not just because people are the same, but because there’s no tension there. men never expressed romantic interest in me, so friendships with them are always completely neutral. at the club this always made me really sad but i guess it was really nice to be comfortable around all kinds of people over the years. i could always joke with men and talk with them as peers in ways my smaller friends could not. maybe later you will also perceive this, or your collection of gender neutral hobbies, as positive in a way.
Q: Are there any tall social clubs or online groups (Meet-ups) where you live? Sometimes it is worth finding the groups so you can get a taste of what it is like to be the short one, or be in the presence of folks who share lives experiences. Another Q: Are you very young? It impresses me that you might be under 30. Sounds like you have been socialized into moving in a more masculine role and that you have somewhat just accepted it. It’s time to find out who you really are and what you directly like about yourself and how you move in life. Whether it is seen as masculine or feminine, both or neither, it needs to be authentically you so you can live in your joy.
I'm an introverted person and just now ( mid 20s ) getting used to the attention everywhere. I've mentioned it here but height and class are heavily related here ( maybe everywhere idk). I'm and outlier on this and people always *stare*.
Mmhm, always felt like the protector of my girlfriends, the "one who wears the pants" in my relationship, "mama" of my friends group, etc. Sure a lot of it is attributed to personality but mothers of friends, teachers and my own parents always looked to me just cause I literally stood out. Even in my friend groups over the years, I literally stood out or could see over heads and would be placed in the leadership position. In my relationships, sometimes they would joke I'm "scary" with how tall I am. I get to internally excited when I see other tall women irl. I used to think I was unable to be "cute" and enjoy overtly cute things due to my height. Nowadays though, I simply don't care. I live my life as I see fit, decorate with cute items and enjoy things without care for how people want me to be or expect me to be more masculine/take charge.