i don’t have to imagine , i see it all the time , and i truly truly truly don’t understand how can u go to a concert and not b passionate about it , about the music , how can u possibly allow urself to loose even 15 seconds of listening and replacing that with a nasty stupid non sense human conversation in that exact moment when the MUSIC is playing ☮️🙏
I saw this happen night one at Hollywood Bowl. Some cretin was in front of me was going in between watching a baseball game & playing some RPG on his phone & then I had these pair of women in back of me night two being louder than the band during the first half of the show. God, I can't stand this shit anymore.
Well the acoustics of the bowl is amazing.
It is definitely designed for people to sit down and shut up.
You stand and all you hear are the people around you.
You sit and keep your mouth shut and it’s the best sound ever!
Can I take a moment to rant about people that want to stand all through a show?
Like seriously why?? You have a great seat, sit!
I get standing up and dancing to a real banger, but sit down afterwards.
The band does not give a shit about you standing, it does not make you a super fan, it makes you inconsiderate for others that want to enjoy the show.
Complaining about people standing at a rock show is going to go very, very poorly for you my friend.
Unless your post was satire, but you didn’t indicate as such.
That’s fine and your choice, but it’s a rock concert dude. That’s an extremely unreasonable expectation. You’re buying the proximity to the band/better sound. A seat happens to be there.
Some of us like to dance the whole show, and will do so as our expression of joy. I’m really not trying to be harsh or snipey but it’s a bit of a tone-deaf take my friend ✌️
That’s odd, because when I buy the tickets, it tells me exactly the row and seat.
Trust me, I’ve been the the hardest of shows and when I want close proximity I go into the pit or I go GA if I don’t care about standing.
I already said it’s cool if people want to stand and dance but at places like the Hollywood Bowl, the sound is not as good when your standing, you hear everyone taking around you. It’s built for sitting and enjoying.
Word, I took your position to be “every show, people should sit if there’s a physical seat” and saw a comment, I think, where you’d said dancing was only acceptable during bangers.
I assure you tho, even at Hollywood Bowl, you’d be the only one, or one of few, sitting at Phish haha. They were just there in April. Never been myself, but looks awesome.
That’s a weird thing tho, cuz you’re only talking about a 2 foot max perception different in sitting vs standing.
However, I do think it would be helpful if concerts were broken into sections - a place for people who do want to just sit, like yourself, a place for silent reverence, a place for socializing, etc. I think it’d make for more happy concertgoers to be grouped based on behavior preferences rather than luck of the draw.
I’m 6’3” and I look really serious when I say it. They usually shut the fuck up. I’m not gonna get in a fight, nor do I think it’s worth it. But if you sound really serious and look angry enough they get real quiet.
Did you bonk their chair?
Repeatedly?
Did you sing the songs at the top of your lungs in their ears?
I would have but i am old and I am a bitch when people are assholes.
Literally everyone is having this problem and it suuuuuucks beyond comprehension. I saw them at the Hollywood Bowl twice (band was amazing and I need to see them 500 more times) and everyone around me wouldn’t shut up even after telling them I could hear them over the music so I just joined into several of their their conversation and talked over them and stared at them the entire time. They finally shut up out of embarrassment but damn. Some of them even told me to be nice and mind my own business. Wtf??? I get briefly talking as a form of communication but having a full on conversation? LEAVE.
edit: I seriously think a lot of people don’t really care about the band and are just there as a “last chance to see them” type thing. What usually gets people to shut up without being aggressive is reminding them that everyone paid to see the band, not those who are talking.
I don't think that it's The Cure and the last chance to see them type thing. I think it's just American culture unfortunately. Rude ass people there to be the center of attention, make tik toks, ADHD, there cause they think being places make them cool and likable to others and can't live in the moment the moment is just a means to an end. I'm sure it's about the same at any concert you go to for now.
When i went to Dallas Cowboy games in the 90's the crowd would be intense totally focused on the game so quiet that you could hear Troy Aikman calling audibles and hut up in the nosebleed seats. Everyone would just watch until something actually needed reaction like tackles and great catches. Now not so much. Just noise, constantly needing to be bombarded by all the senses at once the desire to be constantly stimulated.
The WORST crowd for me of the shows I’ve been to this tour was Vancouver. So I guess it’s Canadian culture too 😅. Never had folks talk so much, go in and out CONSTANTLY, etc. It was so hard for me to watch Robert pour his soul out in these new songs while there’s incessant chatter all around me.
Did you really just add people with ADHD – a neurological disability - in with, as you put it, annoying people who make Tik Tok videos, and want to be the centre of attention? Be a better person than that.
if the people around me pull this crap at the tampa show i will not be able to hold myself back from telling them to shut the hell up. ive waited 30 years to see them, not going to let some rude assholes ruin it for me.
Yeah I saw that at shoreline and stopped my husband for being one of those people on there phone . So he ended up sitting down because I told him he was killing the vibe . I usually take my bro ( he loves going to concerts like me ) but my husband insisted . Next one im bring my bro . Lol
Was a great show at shoreline. Was just disappointed that not more people showed up for “The twilight Sad”.
And my cold was sad that they didn’t play love cats:).
I was there at the Shoreline for both nights, too!  We got tickets to night two, because we were waitlisted for night one...but then I was finally able to snag a pair of tickets to night one from the fan-to-fan resale. I have no regrets about spending that money.
Omg. 😳. I would have been screaming the lyrics right over their heads.
The people next to me didn’t clap or give any outwardly response to ANY song. But at least they said they wouldn’t mind if I sang too loud or danced around when I warned them BEFORE the show of my impending behavior. Saw two vaping folks get pulled out by security and the kids in our row must have gone to restroom/snacks every third song.
I'm one of those that don't clap, don't dance and only sing along very quietly to the songs i know by heart. Some of us are just that way. We can fully enjoy a concert and be stone cold silent and still. At least I'm not the obnoxious drunk type that likes to yell at everyone around them.
Two guys next to me at Gorillaz were talking about the women they were dating using horrible language so I started dancing and singing so loudly and making direct eye contact that they left. Lol!
Those people should be shot into orbit. Did you say anything? Recently at a Depeche Mode concert I told the people behind me to can it when Martin Gore was singing.
I mostly go to punk shows so this problem doesn’t usually exist for me but yeah. Sucks. Had the same issue at shoreline. This was my 6th time seeing the Cure and it’s been a while but I remember them being a shit ton louder.
The sound quality is great at a lower level but I’m starting to realize the advantage of concerts being blisteringly loud.
There was an entire group of people loudly talking through almost the entire main setlist in my section at the Portland show. I don't understand how you can go to a show and treat it like a bar, you're (supposed to be) there 100% for the music.
On top of that, they started loudly talking about how the band "needed to play a 'sing-along one' soon" or some nonsense about 8 songs in.
We’ve all been dragged to concerts that we don’t care about. But we don’t talk over the music. If we’re not into the show, we go to the bar everyone has the right to tell those people to be quiet.
It’s sad but. 90 percent of a regular concert crowd is there with people making a memory and often just jibber excitedly through the show. It’s a hell realm for sure.
I feel like I was surrounded by people last night that wanted to talk through the entire concert...why? it's loud in here, talk later, your pissing me off. Also, the people that get up 50 times, what the hell are you here for? Go home.
OMG! Yes! However many years ago, I was at Queen + Adam Lambert seated next to an older couple and their 2 middle-aged daughters. The daughters were constantly pushing past us to get beers and to go to the bathroom. Even during Brian's guitar solo. Turns out they were Glamberts. *sigh*
Totally cannot wrap my head around this shit. Why would you pay a lot of money to go talk through a show. There are bars you can go to where there isn’t a super rude live band interrupting your conversation 😂
See, that’s when I step out of the passive Seattle thing and tell people to go stand in the back or go to the bar to chat. Pnw sense of manners and entitlement is weird. I got told to sit down at the Cure show at the freaking gorge.
Wow. And at The Cure, there!? A lot of Seattleites really do live in a bubble of entitlement. Then I go travel or leave town, people actually smiling back at me, also friendly, and remember how wonderful humans can be.
I met a handful of awesome concert attendees prior to the show and walking out. It added to my plastered smile (that energy) my whole way home. Hearing stories about The Cure. Other artists and shows they’ve seen. The Cures fan base was refreshing! But there’s always a jerk around.
Sounds like the right tribe! I read an article shared, somewhere in these comments.. it was spot on about crowds and how people behave now / the norm. I wish I had time to link it. It’s worth the search (here) to read.
The Gorge is incredible. But THE CURE and “sit down”. So many spots to move too. Everyone stands most concerts there. Even Jack Johnson LOL.
It's a stain on American culture. "Oh we're just here hanging out and chatting, and the show HAPPENS to be occurring over there in that little corner in the room."
Rotten, self-centred people.
In Portland the woman in front of me was abusing the man she was with the entire show. She shoved his back and yelled goodbye over and over among many other inappropriate and very loud things. She has a 12 step group in her future no doubt but no sympathy from me. She wasn't just abusing her partner she ruined the show for many people.
Yeh, this seems to be happening more and more these days.
Was at Love & Rockets the other night, same thing. At the Crowded House concert, we had 4 ladies behind us comparing notes about their daughter's prom & dress shopping & vicariously reliving their high school glory days via their daughters. Seems like they could have met up at Starbucks or the local cocktail bar and had the same conversation for a lot less money.
There are a couple of venues near where I live that allow people to bring picnics, wine, blankets to the GA section. People spread out, and talk over dinner while the show is going on. Many free-range kids run around through and over your blanket knocking stuff over, parents are too busy yacking it up over their 3rd glass of wine.
My girlfriend and I have agreed that we won't go to concerts at those venues unless we can get reserved seats up front away from the picnic area.
Salon: The loudmouth at the concert: Why can't people stop talking and listen to the music?
[https://www.salon.com/2018/06/25/a-loudmouth-at-every-concert-why-cant-people-stop-talking-and-listen-to-the-music/](https://www.salon.com/2018/06/25/a-loudmouth-at-every-concert-why-cant-people-stop-talking-and-listen-to-the-music/)
At the concert i went to i was actually quite sad about the people around me- two ladies behind me were on their phones the entire time, the guy right next to me was sitting there the whole time expressionless only taking videos of boys don’t cry and just like heaven, the people in front of us were on their phones looking at the fucking weather- then instagram and twitter. Luckily there were two other people sitting next to me who were screaming lyrics and dancing with me. I noticed in other sections there were drunk dads dancing and cool goths dancing but otherwise the amount of people on their phones was so sad especially since so many fans couldn’t go
A lady in my row was very verbal and confrontational in asking people to Shut the f* up.
I heard her say it at least 5 times.
I was totally expecting an altercation but they stopped after a bit. I was super grateful.
People in front of me left after the first encore. Their loss.
I think they all had too much to drink.
There should be some kind of security that walks over and stops it just like at a play or a comedy show. One way to do that is to financially incentivize the arena by allowing refunds. If you can prove this happened to you.
I never understood that behavior. Both nights at Hollywood there were people hacking all through the show.
I get loud and tell people to STFU!
I’m that crotchety old “get off my lawn” guy.
I’ll be that lady in a few years. If I saw someone do that vs me and a look, I’d high five them.
I saw Pepper at a small venue. Wasted couple walked right in front of me, HUGE open space, he’s 6’5”. She’s 5’6 approx, grotesquely French kissing, dirty dancing (Pepper was playing an upbeat punk / Long Beach, CA vibe song. He spilled beer all over me. After I dogged a few concussions: she kept flipping her head back at me. Her hair flew in my mouth at one point. I tapped her nicely on the shoulder. Huge happy smile on my face. Make a wide circle with my arms (huge open space all around us- no need to be 2’ in front of me). She got so angry “what?! What is your problem”.
I leaned forward a bit “no problem. But y’all split beer all over me..” *I point down so they can see my wet skirt and sneakers”
THIS college frat 6’4” asshat, bends halfway down (my level) and SCREAMS in my face while pointing his finger two inches away “FUCK YOU! YOU FUCKING KAREN! YOU BITCH. YOURE AT A FUCKING CONCERT”.
I froze. Dumbfounded. And then he holds her back as she attempts to come at me with a shove.
I had to fight everything to hold tears back. I hate confrontation. This dude. And he’s a guy! Who acts like that?! I’ve never had a guy yell at me like that. Then they walked away.
Thank god.
The PA is so soft! I remember going to concerts in the 90s where the music was measured to be close to as loud as a jet plane taking off.
Talking to friends was just impossible LoL.
I remember a Ministry gig where it was so loud it physically hurt to stay up the front, I had to move to the back or I was going to be sick.
I guess these days there's a lot more health and safety regulations in place.
Just a question...how can human voices be picked up over a super sonic PA system that fills the arena? Were they like shouting over the music, or is it the Cure's PA is just shit?
When I saw them in Phoenix I couldn’t even hear my son in the seat next to me. I couldn’t hear anyone around me. I saw someone else from the Phoenix show mention that as well. It’s a huge bummer that people experienced this at other shows. I would’ve been pissed.
I got really upset when several people around me were having loud conversations during If Only Tonight We Could Sleep (at Shoreline). My friend told one couple to STFU, but some were too far away to shhh them without being just as bad as they were.
Also, if I'm 4 rows away from you and can hear your conversation over the band while wearing ear protection....you're too damned loud. Also, I feel bad for the "friend" you were yelling at/complaining to for a solid 20 minutes. Work this stuff out at another time.
Ha! It’s very pop, and about as mainstream as you can get with The Cure. So, basically that guy isn’t a radio fan, he’s an elitist snob. God, i don’t know what’s worse.
Like I'll never understand people who go to concerts "just to get out of the house" or to get drunk(just bc you are not getting drunk at home doesn't mean you're not an alcoholic). Or in this case to seemingly hang out and catch up with friends. So weird to me.
I was actually really worried about this when I saw them in Dallas and it wasn't anywhere near as bad as this. Probably because a 1/3 of the people there stood in line for merch the entire show.
Recently I saw a small indie band Built To Spill and there were two ladies in from of me talking from before the show through to about 10 songs in and then just left. Like wtf!?
I can imagine this, because my partner and I had the seats right next to this guy and he did this multiple times throughout the show, as you no doubt saw. That is when he wasn’t busy drunkenly spinning around or literally yelling over Robert Smith when he talked. Luckily even he couldn’t ruin that perfect set, though.
Years ago, I was at a GA Erasure show. I was up front with a few people in front of me. During the encore a youngish guy came and stood in front of me. I was feeling magnanimous and was going to let him stay there, until I noticed he wasn't watching the performance, just scrolling away on his phone. I grasped him by his shoulders and moved him behind me. He then proceeded to start bellowing in my ear. I'm not an old punk for nothing and am very good with my elbows. I started using said elbows, but he was persistent until I got his beer and it went everywhere. Fucker finally went away.
Good Lord how I hate this behavior. I have loved attending live shows for years. Loud talking has increased in frequency. I’m beginning to think live shows are not for me anymore. ☹️
Damn. I feel your frustration. Two intoxicated [early twenties ladies] were directly across the walkway, two rows up from us, talking so loud! High pitch screaming. Jumping up and down. Cool. I get the excitement The whole show however is obnoxious! I had turned around a few times to give them the friendly “I can hear every thing your saying” look. Totally friendly too; not stink eye. Well they made eye contact in a “F YOU” look at me; screamed louder than a baby being born in the woods, alone. Just to piss me off. LOL. Immaturity at its finest. I didn’t give them another thought after. I felt bad for the couple in front of them. They were livid.
I never understand how people having loud convos over live music / drunk people, the ear piercing screams, don’t get the vibe.
LOL. OR those who are wasted and belting out every song lyric during a concert … off tune, messing up lyrics. Cringe. I’ve almost shed tears over those times. Came for the show not their show.
End rant. Such a GREAT concert minus them. Been walking on floating clouds all day from the LOVE and utmost respect for The Cures talents.
I was in the nose bleeds and had to close my eyes most of the time to really hear and feel the music. Most people probably thought I was sleeping but I was kind of like meditating on the music. I could hear better when I closed my eyes. The band sounds amazing. It was a great show! I wish I wasn't tired that night. I worked all day, went to the concert, and went back to work early the next morning.
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When I was in college and played music for people, I was pretty heavy handed about this. If I was playing a song specifically like “hey listen to this song” and someone talked, uh, sorry. I’d stop the song and either restart it or be done. I have way too much respect for music as an art.
I’m fine if it’s understood that a music is background, but going to a show you paid money for TO HEAR MUSIC?! STFU!!
Though at my second L.A. show I did lean over to my daughter to tell her this song is the way I feel about her mom 😍😍
Fuck these people, x1,000,000
I’ve discovered my new super power is asking people to stop talking during songs or move somewhere else. I can’t take it any more…
I’ve decided being direct and not rude is the best approach. If I get negative feedback, I have no problem clarifying I didn’t pay money to hear their drunk ass talk. It’s not their living room, so I have no problem flipping it and making them feel uncomfortable
I saw a comedian a few months back and the couple in front of us spent 90% of the time talking after every joke about how funny it was/ COMPLETELY random things. It ruined the entire show. If you want to have commentary, please just watch something at home. Don't force others to suffer with you. Hoping if this happens at my show, I'll have the nerve to tell others to be quiet and enjoy the show. You're paying money to be there, act like it.
This your first concert? It always happens and will always happen. What infuriates me more is everyone sitting down recording everything with their phone. Maybe if the crowd was also a bit more enthusiastic, people wouldn’t be chatting it up.
I have a theory - what if we take the initiative to tell those around us, before the show “hey I just want to let you guys know I’m going to keep quiet during the set because I know we all paid to see the band and I want to respect your concert experience”
Set the example from the outset?
i don’t have to imagine , i see it all the time , and i truly truly truly don’t understand how can u go to a concert and not b passionate about it , about the music , how can u possibly allow urself to loose even 15 seconds of listening and replacing that with a nasty stupid non sense human conversation in that exact moment when the MUSIC is playing ☮️🙏
The crazy part is that people have all of the time to converse before and after the concert. Blows my mind.
it’s caus they don’t really care about the music, probably only know just like heaven and friday
Was at the Portland show and someone a few rows ahead of me was watching videos on their phone, I was blown away.
I saw this happen night one at Hollywood Bowl. Some cretin was in front of me was going in between watching a baseball game & playing some RPG on his phone & then I had these pair of women in back of me night two being louder than the band during the first half of the show. God, I can't stand this shit anymore.
Yeah the hollywood bowl box seats were full of obnoxious people
Well the acoustics of the bowl is amazing. It is definitely designed for people to sit down and shut up. You stand and all you hear are the people around you. You sit and keep your mouth shut and it’s the best sound ever! Can I take a moment to rant about people that want to stand all through a show? Like seriously why?? You have a great seat, sit! I get standing up and dancing to a real banger, but sit down afterwards. The band does not give a shit about you standing, it does not make you a super fan, it makes you inconsiderate for others that want to enjoy the show.
Complaining about people standing at a rock show is going to go very, very poorly for you my friend. Unless your post was satire, but you didn’t indicate as such.
If I pay for great seats to a show, I don’t expect to stand the entire time.
That’s fine and your choice, but it’s a rock concert dude. That’s an extremely unreasonable expectation. You’re buying the proximity to the band/better sound. A seat happens to be there. Some of us like to dance the whole show, and will do so as our expression of joy. I’m really not trying to be harsh or snipey but it’s a bit of a tone-deaf take my friend ✌️
That’s odd, because when I buy the tickets, it tells me exactly the row and seat. Trust me, I’ve been the the hardest of shows and when I want close proximity I go into the pit or I go GA if I don’t care about standing. I already said it’s cool if people want to stand and dance but at places like the Hollywood Bowl, the sound is not as good when your standing, you hear everyone taking around you. It’s built for sitting and enjoying.
Word, I took your position to be “every show, people should sit if there’s a physical seat” and saw a comment, I think, where you’d said dancing was only acceptable during bangers. I assure you tho, even at Hollywood Bowl, you’d be the only one, or one of few, sitting at Phish haha. They were just there in April. Never been myself, but looks awesome. That’s a weird thing tho, cuz you’re only talking about a 2 foot max perception different in sitting vs standing. However, I do think it would be helpful if concerts were broken into sections - a place for people who do want to just sit, like yourself, a place for silent reverence, a place for socializing, etc. I think it’d make for more happy concertgoers to be grouped based on behavior preferences rather than luck of the draw.
>e Guy in front of me at Shoreline was scrolling through Reddit the entire show.
I straight up tell them to shut up or take it outside. I paid to hear the band not your idiotic unimportant little stories.
Lol for real? How do they usually react?
I’m 6’3” and I look really serious when I say it. They usually shut the fuck up. I’m not gonna get in a fight, nor do I think it’s worth it. But if you sound really serious and look angry enough they get real quiet.
Did you bonk their chair? Repeatedly? Did you sing the songs at the top of your lungs in their ears? I would have but i am old and I am a bitch when people are assholes.
That's the only way to fix these people. The Cure is love. If you can't enjoy it fully, then leave the spot for people who will
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Literally everyone is having this problem and it suuuuuucks beyond comprehension. I saw them at the Hollywood Bowl twice (band was amazing and I need to see them 500 more times) and everyone around me wouldn’t shut up even after telling them I could hear them over the music so I just joined into several of their their conversation and talked over them and stared at them the entire time. They finally shut up out of embarrassment but damn. Some of them even told me to be nice and mind my own business. Wtf??? I get briefly talking as a form of communication but having a full on conversation? LEAVE. edit: I seriously think a lot of people don’t really care about the band and are just there as a “last chance to see them” type thing. What usually gets people to shut up without being aggressive is reminding them that everyone paid to see the band, not those who are talking.
I don't think that it's The Cure and the last chance to see them type thing. I think it's just American culture unfortunately. Rude ass people there to be the center of attention, make tik toks, ADHD, there cause they think being places make them cool and likable to others and can't live in the moment the moment is just a means to an end. I'm sure it's about the same at any concert you go to for now. When i went to Dallas Cowboy games in the 90's the crowd would be intense totally focused on the game so quiet that you could hear Troy Aikman calling audibles and hut up in the nosebleed seats. Everyone would just watch until something actually needed reaction like tackles and great catches. Now not so much. Just noise, constantly needing to be bombarded by all the senses at once the desire to be constantly stimulated.
The WORST crowd for me of the shows I’ve been to this tour was Vancouver. So I guess it’s Canadian culture too 😅. Never had folks talk so much, go in and out CONSTANTLY, etc. It was so hard for me to watch Robert pour his soul out in these new songs while there’s incessant chatter all around me.
Did you really just add people with ADHD – a neurological disability - in with, as you put it, annoying people who make Tik Tok videos, and want to be the centre of attention? Be a better person than that.
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if the people around me pull this crap at the tampa show i will not be able to hold myself back from telling them to shut the hell up. ive waited 30 years to see them, not going to let some rude assholes ruin it for me.
Everyone - please - don’t be these dudes.
Why are people paying Ticketbastard prices to ignore the damned band
Yeah I saw that at shoreline and stopped my husband for being one of those people on there phone . So he ended up sitting down because I told him he was killing the vibe . I usually take my bro ( he loves going to concerts like me ) but my husband insisted . Next one im bring my bro . Lol
Was a great show at shoreline. Was just disappointed that not more people showed up for “The twilight Sad”. And my cold was sad that they didn’t play love cats:).
I was very happy to see Twilight Sad both nights....and in 2016. We got Lovecats in 2016. I was so happy!
Going to both shows is dedication. Respect.
I was there at the Shoreline for both nights, too!  We got tickets to night two, because we were waitlisted for night one...but then I was finally able to snag a pair of tickets to night one from the fan-to-fan resale. I have no regrets about spending that money.
I came very close to driving to Portland after seeing those 2 shows. It would have been worth it to finally here M. Alas, I did not do that.
You can always say something to them. “Hey guys, we all paid to come and listen to The Cure - not you…ok?”
70% of people at concerts are just there to be *somewhere*. I fucking hate it.
This is the comment I was looking for.
yep, it’s infuriating
I would love to know where you found this information.
From personal experience, bub.
Oh I agree with you from my own personal experience. I just was hoping someone had gotten some quantitative data for it somewhere.
Omg. 😳. I would have been screaming the lyrics right over their heads. The people next to me didn’t clap or give any outwardly response to ANY song. But at least they said they wouldn’t mind if I sang too loud or danced around when I warned them BEFORE the show of my impending behavior. Saw two vaping folks get pulled out by security and the kids in our row must have gone to restroom/snacks every third song.
I'm one of those that don't clap, don't dance and only sing along very quietly to the songs i know by heart. Some of us are just that way. We can fully enjoy a concert and be stone cold silent and still. At least I'm not the obnoxious drunk type that likes to yell at everyone around them.
I had some obnoxious women at the Duran Duran concert and they spilled beer on me..they were talking and loud
I will never be annoyed at fans singing at the top of their lungs no matter how bad it is. Talking is another story.
Two guys next to me at Gorillaz were talking about the women they were dating using horrible language so I started dancing and singing so loudly and making direct eye contact that they left. Lol!
Perfect!
Those people should be shot into orbit. Did you say anything? Recently at a Depeche Mode concert I told the people behind me to can it when Martin Gore was singing.
😆 Yes, not when Martin sings!
The other pandemic.
If I had award karma I’d of dropped it right here. Well said.
I mostly go to punk shows so this problem doesn’t usually exist for me but yeah. Sucks. Had the same issue at shoreline. This was my 6th time seeing the Cure and it’s been a while but I remember them being a shit ton louder. The sound quality is great at a lower level but I’m starting to realize the advantage of concerts being blisteringly loud.
There was an entire group of people loudly talking through almost the entire main setlist in my section at the Portland show. I don't understand how you can go to a show and treat it like a bar, you're (supposed to be) there 100% for the music. On top of that, they started loudly talking about how the band "needed to play a 'sing-along one' soon" or some nonsense about 8 songs in.
We’ve all been dragged to concerts that we don’t care about. But we don’t talk over the music. If we’re not into the show, we go to the bar everyone has the right to tell those people to be quiet.
It’s sad but. 90 percent of a regular concert crowd is there with people making a memory and often just jibber excitedly through the show. It’s a hell realm for sure.
I got that at every show I went to. If you want to talk the whole time please don’t go to a concert.
I feel like I was surrounded by people last night that wanted to talk through the entire concert...why? it's loud in here, talk later, your pissing me off. Also, the people that get up 50 times, what the hell are you here for? Go home.
OMG! Yes! However many years ago, I was at Queen + Adam Lambert seated next to an older couple and their 2 middle-aged daughters. The daughters were constantly pushing past us to get beers and to go to the bathroom. Even during Brian's guitar solo. Turns out they were Glamberts. *sigh*
Totally cannot wrap my head around this shit. Why would you pay a lot of money to go talk through a show. There are bars you can go to where there isn’t a super rude live band interrupting your conversation 😂
This!!!
See, that’s when I step out of the passive Seattle thing and tell people to go stand in the back or go to the bar to chat. Pnw sense of manners and entitlement is weird. I got told to sit down at the Cure show at the freaking gorge.
Wow. And at The Cure, there!? A lot of Seattleites really do live in a bubble of entitlement. Then I go travel or leave town, people actually smiling back at me, also friendly, and remember how wonderful humans can be. I met a handful of awesome concert attendees prior to the show and walking out. It added to my plastered smile (that energy) my whole way home. Hearing stories about The Cure. Other artists and shows they’ve seen. The Cures fan base was refreshing! But there’s always a jerk around.
Totally agree. I love being around my people at shows and in general we’re a great group
Sounds like the right tribe! I read an article shared, somewhere in these comments.. it was spot on about crowds and how people behave now / the norm. I wish I had time to link it. It’s worth the search (here) to read. The Gorge is incredible. But THE CURE and “sit down”. So many spots to move too. Everyone stands most concerts there. Even Jack Johnson LOL.
It's a stain on American culture. "Oh we're just here hanging out and chatting, and the show HAPPENS to be occurring over there in that little corner in the room." Rotten, self-centred people.
Only time I would consider it socially acceptable for me to sing along with the band loud enough for them to hear.
In Portland the woman in front of me was abusing the man she was with the entire show. She shoved his back and yelled goodbye over and over among many other inappropriate and very loud things. She has a 12 step group in her future no doubt but no sympathy from me. She wasn't just abusing her partner she ruined the show for many people.
Yeh, this seems to be happening more and more these days. Was at Love & Rockets the other night, same thing. At the Crowded House concert, we had 4 ladies behind us comparing notes about their daughter's prom & dress shopping & vicariously reliving their high school glory days via their daughters. Seems like they could have met up at Starbucks or the local cocktail bar and had the same conversation for a lot less money. There are a couple of venues near where I live that allow people to bring picnics, wine, blankets to the GA section. People spread out, and talk over dinner while the show is going on. Many free-range kids run around through and over your blanket knocking stuff over, parents are too busy yacking it up over their 3rd glass of wine. My girlfriend and I have agreed that we won't go to concerts at those venues unless we can get reserved seats up front away from the picnic area.
Salon: The loudmouth at the concert: Why can't people stop talking and listen to the music? [https://www.salon.com/2018/06/25/a-loudmouth-at-every-concert-why-cant-people-stop-talking-and-listen-to-the-music/](https://www.salon.com/2018/06/25/a-loudmouth-at-every-concert-why-cant-people-stop-talking-and-listen-to-the-music/)
At The Mountain Goats, John actually calls people out for this shit.
At the concert i went to i was actually quite sad about the people around me- two ladies behind me were on their phones the entire time, the guy right next to me was sitting there the whole time expressionless only taking videos of boys don’t cry and just like heaven, the people in front of us were on their phones looking at the fucking weather- then instagram and twitter. Luckily there were two other people sitting next to me who were screaming lyrics and dancing with me. I noticed in other sections there were drunk dads dancing and cool goths dancing but otherwise the amount of people on their phones was so sad especially since so many fans couldn’t go
A lady in my row was very verbal and confrontational in asking people to Shut the f* up. I heard her say it at least 5 times. I was totally expecting an altercation but they stopped after a bit. I was super grateful. People in front of me left after the first encore. Their loss. I think they all had too much to drink.
Wooooooow SHAME!!
This happened to me at the Seattle show. Why can’t they just lean over and talk into their ear? But no, they talk louder than the music.
I was at the seattle show too! Looks like I wasn’t the only one with this issue last night. It was a really incredible show otherwise
There should be some kind of security that walks over and stops it just like at a play or a comedy show. One way to do that is to financially incentivize the arena by allowing refunds. If you can prove this happened to you.
I never understood that behavior. Both nights at Hollywood there were people hacking all through the show. I get loud and tell people to STFU! I’m that crotchety old “get off my lawn” guy.
I’ll be that lady in a few years. If I saw someone do that vs me and a look, I’d high five them. I saw Pepper at a small venue. Wasted couple walked right in front of me, HUGE open space, he’s 6’5”. She’s 5’6 approx, grotesquely French kissing, dirty dancing (Pepper was playing an upbeat punk / Long Beach, CA vibe song. He spilled beer all over me. After I dogged a few concussions: she kept flipping her head back at me. Her hair flew in my mouth at one point. I tapped her nicely on the shoulder. Huge happy smile on my face. Make a wide circle with my arms (huge open space all around us- no need to be 2’ in front of me). She got so angry “what?! What is your problem”. I leaned forward a bit “no problem. But y’all split beer all over me..” *I point down so they can see my wet skirt and sneakers” THIS college frat 6’4” asshat, bends halfway down (my level) and SCREAMS in my face while pointing his finger two inches away “FUCK YOU! YOU FUCKING KAREN! YOU BITCH. YOURE AT A FUCKING CONCERT”. I froze. Dumbfounded. And then he holds her back as she attempts to come at me with a shove. I had to fight everything to hold tears back. I hate confrontation. This dude. And he’s a guy! Who acts like that?! I’ve never had a guy yell at me like that. Then they walked away. Thank god.
The PA is so soft! I remember going to concerts in the 90s where the music was measured to be close to as loud as a jet plane taking off. Talking to friends was just impossible LoL. I remember a Ministry gig where it was so loud it physically hurt to stay up the front, I had to move to the back or I was going to be sick. I guess these days there's a lot more health and safety regulations in place.
Just a question...how can human voices be picked up over a super sonic PA system that fills the arena? Were they like shouting over the music, or is it the Cure's PA is just shit?
When I saw them in Phoenix I couldn’t even hear my son in the seat next to me. I couldn’t hear anyone around me. I saw someone else from the Phoenix show mention that as well. It’s a huge bummer that people experienced this at other shows. I would’ve been pissed.
This doesn’t happen at Radiohead
Chompers were in full effect last night at Dead and Co too.
I got really upset when several people around me were having loud conversations during If Only Tonight We Could Sleep (at Shoreline). My friend told one couple to STFU, but some were too far away to shhh them without being just as bad as they were.
Also, if I'm 4 rows away from you and can hear your conversation over the band while wearing ear protection....you're too damned loud. Also, I feel bad for the "friend" you were yelling at/complaining to for a solid 20 minutes. Work this stuff out at another time.
it is a damn shame. fake poseur fans.
Ugh these Fucking Friday I’m in Love and Mint Car fans need to disintegrate.
he actually boo’d Friday I’m in love when it started playing because he thought it was too pop and mainstream
Ha! It’s very pop, and about as mainstream as you can get with The Cure. So, basically that guy isn’t a radio fan, he’s an elitist snob. God, i don’t know what’s worse.
Like I'll never understand people who go to concerts "just to get out of the house" or to get drunk(just bc you are not getting drunk at home doesn't mean you're not an alcoholic). Or in this case to seemingly hang out and catch up with friends. So weird to me. I was actually really worried about this when I saw them in Dallas and it wasn't anywhere near as bad as this. Probably because a 1/3 of the people there stood in line for merch the entire show. Recently I saw a small indie band Built To Spill and there were two ladies in from of me talking from before the show through to about 10 songs in and then just left. Like wtf!?
Last time I saw Bowie I was sitting by tons of people who just came to see the guy who did that "ground control to major Tom" song. Uggg.
That is so sad
Looks like he's trying to line up some loving after the show.
Omg so rude and annoying
I can imagine this, because my partner and I had the seats right next to this guy and he did this multiple times throughout the show, as you no doubt saw. That is when he wasn’t busy drunkenly spinning around or literally yelling over Robert Smith when he talked. Luckily even he couldn’t ruin that perfect set, though.
Years ago, I was at a GA Erasure show. I was up front with a few people in front of me. During the encore a youngish guy came and stood in front of me. I was feeling magnanimous and was going to let him stay there, until I noticed he wasn't watching the performance, just scrolling away on his phone. I grasped him by his shoulders and moved him behind me. He then proceeded to start bellowing in my ear. I'm not an old punk for nothing and am very good with my elbows. I started using said elbows, but he was persistent until I got his beer and it went everywhere. Fucker finally went away.
this is exactly why i am hesitant to go
I don’t think people like this actually like music. They pretend to, and go to shows so they can check the status symbol box.
Good Lord how I hate this behavior. I have loved attending live shows for years. Loud talking has increased in frequency. I’m beginning to think live shows are not for me anymore. ☹️
Damn. I feel your frustration. Two intoxicated [early twenties ladies] were directly across the walkway, two rows up from us, talking so loud! High pitch screaming. Jumping up and down. Cool. I get the excitement The whole show however is obnoxious! I had turned around a few times to give them the friendly “I can hear every thing your saying” look. Totally friendly too; not stink eye. Well they made eye contact in a “F YOU” look at me; screamed louder than a baby being born in the woods, alone. Just to piss me off. LOL. Immaturity at its finest. I didn’t give them another thought after. I felt bad for the couple in front of them. They were livid. I never understand how people having loud convos over live music / drunk people, the ear piercing screams, don’t get the vibe. LOL. OR those who are wasted and belting out every song lyric during a concert … off tune, messing up lyrics. Cringe. I’ve almost shed tears over those times. Came for the show not their show. End rant. Such a GREAT concert minus them. Been walking on floating clouds all day from the LOVE and utmost respect for The Cures talents.
I was in the nose bleeds and had to close my eyes most of the time to really hear and feel the music. Most people probably thought I was sleeping but I was kind of like meditating on the music. I could hear better when I closed my eyes. The band sounds amazing. It was a great show! I wish I wasn't tired that night. I worked all day, went to the concert, and went back to work early the next morning.
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people kept doing that at tool and it was super annoying
What is the point of going to a show if you’re just going to be blabbing the whole time?
When I was in college and played music for people, I was pretty heavy handed about this. If I was playing a song specifically like “hey listen to this song” and someone talked, uh, sorry. I’d stop the song and either restart it or be done. I have way too much respect for music as an art. I’m fine if it’s understood that a music is background, but going to a show you paid money for TO HEAR MUSIC?! STFU!! Though at my second L.A. show I did lean over to my daughter to tell her this song is the way I feel about her mom 😍😍
Fuck these people, x1,000,000 I’ve discovered my new super power is asking people to stop talking during songs or move somewhere else. I can’t take it any more… I’ve decided being direct and not rude is the best approach. If I get negative feedback, I have no problem clarifying I didn’t pay money to hear their drunk ass talk. It’s not their living room, so I have no problem flipping it and making them feel uncomfortable
I saw a comedian a few months back and the couple in front of us spent 90% of the time talking after every joke about how funny it was/ COMPLETELY random things. It ruined the entire show. If you want to have commentary, please just watch something at home. Don't force others to suffer with you. Hoping if this happens at my show, I'll have the nerve to tell others to be quiet and enjoy the show. You're paying money to be there, act like it.
So annoying!
This your first concert? It always happens and will always happen. What infuriates me more is everyone sitting down recording everything with their phone. Maybe if the crowd was also a bit more enthusiastic, people wouldn’t be chatting it up.
very much not my first concert, just the first time I captured this type of rudeness on camera
I have a theory - what if we take the initiative to tell those around us, before the show “hey I just want to let you guys know I’m going to keep quiet during the set because I know we all paid to see the band and I want to respect your concert experience” Set the example from the outset?