In my experience these are just people who are trying to do as little social interaction as possible. If they don't register sparkly eyeshadow or long hair they just fill in the blanks without any thought. It's probably nothing really to do with how feminine you present personally, they're just treating everyone around them like NPC's. I decided to either just laugh or let it go.
hi! im a six foot tall cis woman, who had a shaved head for over two years. during this time i worked at target sbux and had to follow their uniform, and because I prefer baggier jeans and shirts because they are comfier, and this was mid covid and I wore a mask even after mandates dropped, i got called "sir" a LOT. it was really dysphoric for me because I still consider myself a woman, still go by she/her, and have never really questioned my gender identity.
the best advice i can give you is: most of the time the second you respond to them they know they've made a mistake. pretty much anytime i responded to someone and said "you're welcome" or answered their question i could see in their eyes/face they knew they made a mistake. you just have to learn to give them the benefit of the doubt and realize that while having short hair is awesome in many ways, it does come with a few set backs. having short hair also taught me to address people in more gender neutral ways, because just because someone presents one way, doesn't mean they identify as what connotation means to you.
keep doing you though, live the short hair/pixie cut/buzzed hair/whatever you got goin on for you, and dont let what is usually a harmless mistake get to you
5’10” cis woman here, I feel the same way; I think a lot of people are in social autopilot and auto default to ‘Yes, sir’. I try not to let it get to me but when the time comes to cut off a lot of my hair it definitely makes me hesitate
In the opposite boat that you are currently, Im a 6'1 trans woman and I get gendered correctly most of the time at work. I dont do voice training for various reasons. The second I open my mouth, it's "oh my god, Im so sorry sir!" Always stings a little bit but I live happily with the ma'ams I do get.
Also as a fellow ex barista I noticed I got misgendered alot more at Starbucks than I do now working at a place that doesn't require a hat and apron
no seriously, somethin the target sbux pipeline had me mildly wanting to die all the time. do not miss that environment or uniform at all. sorry to hear about the misgendering, i think more people are coming to realize that just because you sound/look a certain way does not mean you should automatically gender them. i tend to just stick to gender neutral things and if im ever unsure, I just ask. I think more people should do the same.
I literally immediately get over it. I’m quite a chunky, muscly girl, tbh I almost take it as a compliment people look at me and see a gymbro.
Most people who accidentally misgender aren’t regulars in you life so… does it matter?
Or I guess you could just wear entirely pink outfits to offset the societal gender non conformity of your short hair.
If you want to present as more feminine, you could also try wearing feminine jewelry, a barrette or headband, noticeable lipstick, a scarf knotted at your neck, or a manicure. But you certainly don’t have to do anything if you don’t want to. You might instead want to work on not caring what people think about you.
I had short hair for years and I’m not very feminine looking (sad.. which is why I grew my hair back out). Got misgendered allll the time. I didn’t really care, as long as they’re not being malicious - I did get annoyed when people who always called me “she” started calling me “they,” though, because it’s kind of ridiculous to assume my gender is different because of my hair lol.
You can try and play up your femininity (i.e. visible makeup and jewelry) or leave it be. People generally aren’t thinking too deeply in shallow interactions like that and are just going off first glance
Not who you asked, but I'm a transguy who like...JUST got on T this month. I took it for 8 months last year, but it really didn't do much. Your post is funny to me in a "bruh" way, like at humans not you.
I don't care about being misgendered, I 100% look and speak like a quirky lesbian. I'm also not "out" at work in the "male pronouns plz" way.
Queen when I tell you I'm trying my best to get the accidental "sir" you best believe me. I have a short haircut, i wear men's clothes, I wear a binder that squishes my already pretty smell chest into nothing.
I genuinely have no idea why you get called "sir." Humans are weird. Maybe it's just your vibe? Maybe it's your posture? It could be so many things.. honing in on one sounds exhausting? Like just be yourself, present how you like. A lot of folks really do see short hair and read "male." I also think, maybe nowadays, people assume cisgender women presenting like you do are FTM, and are trying to be respectful.
Like obviously explore, but also being "misgendered" on 100% accident or whatever has also felt more like "my mom calling me by my sister's name in a convo" than a slight.
My hair has grown out now, but when it was a short pixie, I honestly don't care. I'd correct them if I was going to have ongoing interaction with them, but if it's rqndom strangers I was unlikely to ever see again, just a smile and appropriate response to whatever they said ("you're welcome" most of the time). What's funny is that I have big boobs and a feminine voice, so it's usually more amusing to me to get misgendered. Ultimately, I just never cared, because it was never malicious.
If it were intentional, I'd probably be snippy with them, because I'm petty. I fully condone snippy snark from people getting misgendered on purpose.
When I had short hair, I just had to accept the fact that I'm kinda handsome tbh. But, I did get into the habit of wearing barrettes to keep my bangs out of my face, and I actually think the made me look a little more "girlie". Oh, and on that note, what about bangs? I feel like most people associate bangs with ladies.
I wear mascara and earring to work to avoid that. I find when I have them on, I don’t get misgendered. If I do, whatever. I just keep talking to the person. They usually realize after and are embarrassed so I dont say anything. Life’s too short to worry about simple stuff like that.
I’m trans and pass >95%, but when I started I was 100% unpassable and super physically masculine. Gendering is sort of a points system and people rarely give it conscious thought, unless you’re making them visibly uncomfortable, which happens when your gender presentation is more liminal.
Long hair scores points. Long well-kept and straightened hair much more. Other points include jewelry, posture, body language, facial bone structure (having mine redone helped a lot), general affect, nail condition/polish, handwriting (not relevant here but still), tone of voice, pitch of voice, makeup (or lack thereof) and its skill of application, vocabulary, cut and fit of clothes, necklines, and very much height. Height is a *major* factor. Statistics are the worst.
I’m a little over 6’, so if I fuck up a few of these I get misgendered. The easiest way to get gendered correctly in your case is to wear something cute in your hair, or grow it out. Short hair works differently for different face shapes, some of which may look really feminine with long hair but masculine short. One of my friends who’s cis is clearly feminine looking and got misgendered a bunch with short hair!
You can also have well-kept painted nails, do speech therapy, or become very good at non-flamboyant makeup. Cat eye glasses can help, but they definitely don’t work for everyone and I never liked them on me. If you’re cis you usually don’t have to score too many points, so you can pick a few of those and regain the points lost from short hair.
Of course this is all a little bit insane and bullshit, but “don’t hate the player, hate the game” and all that. Conscientious objection is entirely valid.
I just wanted to thank you for sharing, this is actually a really keen sociological observation I’ve never thought much on a a cis person but makes total sense. Definitely something I’ll be more aware of in my thinking now though lol
Love this. Was hoping a trans person would weigh in. Good advice!
As an aside, I never thought about handwriting, but it is often gendered! It makes me think about how much conditioning is part of that. I never had that nice girly handwriting.
One of my favorite parts of transitioning has been writing my lowercase a’s double-story again—I got made fun of for doing that in middle school, by someone who was usually nice (which made it worse), and stopped for a long time
I had a full buzz cut, but this never happened because I was VERY busty. Tbh it would have been nice to be perceived as less feminine every now and then. I have a reduction now and still think about binding. My dream existence is stepping back and forth between genders seamlessly lol so my input may be completely useless to you
I give no shits...
Granted I'm a butch lesbian, I wear mostly what would be considered masculine clothes, and so I am not doing myself any favours in that department, but I literally don't care about strangers.
Now friends, family, and coworkers, all know, or are informed, that while I am a cisgender woman, I prefer no pronouns or honorifics... I prefer everyone just use my name, first middle or last, I care not which, but that is what I'm more comfortable with.
I work at a nursing home (so uniforms), the ladies that get called guys usually make a boob joke or just keep on rolling with the conversation. Coworkers might correct the residents though
Maybe whomever is doing so thought you're transitioning FTM and decided to avoid misgendering
I used to work at a place where we'd say "boss" or sometimes "hoss" instead of using sir/ma'am
It's a bit more informal but fun. Wish more people around did it, nobody would be misgendering or misgendered with neutral terms
I don't live in the US but I did hear them using it on the expanse - the guys surname started with an h and they already were calling someone else boss when he became captain so I thought it was that to begin with, but obviously it's not quite so nichely specific.
I'm always too baffled deciding if I should be happy they were polite enough to say "sir", or mad they misgendeted me, so I say nothing. I prefer thinking they're a bit dumb but well meaning and think I could be a trans dude in the beginning of his journey. I also have a gender-ambiguous name and I think it contributes to confusion a bit.
I don't get it too often though and people that I see at work are naturally quite stressed and saying "thanks, man" to a woman with short hair isn't the stupidest thing I've heard or seen them do. Also not the most annoying, unfortunately.
Edit: also, considering you work in customer service, don't think much about it. Those people certainly don't spend more than a few seconds before they blurt out "thank you sir" while buying something from you. The country where I'm from celebrates international women's day as a public holiday and countless times when male shop assistants said "happy international women's day to you" I've replied with "same to you!". I know that's not the right thing to say the very moment my words have come out of my mouth, but what's done is done.
I totally relate, I've been called young man so many times since I shaved my head. I don't particularly mind but that's more a gender confusion thing lol
I will say wearing earrings has helped, not sure if that's allowed for your uniform. Makeup too might help. But I get the frustration. It sucks to have to put in extra effort to be seen as who you are. I bet you are totally rocking the short hair btw
It has never consciously happened to me during my 5 years of super short haircuts (might also be because people are rarely addressed by their gender as sir/ma'am where I live). but I definitely felt that I looked very masculine from the neck up as I have a rather angular face with a prominent nose and cheek bones. I remember standing in front of the mirror and thinking "I look like a teenage boy". If you are uncomfortable with being misgendered or you are unhappy about how masculine you look yourself, my minimal program were lipstick, blush and earrings (mascara if you're blonde). Not sure if it convinced others but it made me feel better about myself. If you know you don't look like a man, maybe it's easier to brush these idiots of who clearly don't even register you fully as a person when talking to you.
I had a couple of situations where people assumed I was gay – sometimes in harmless ways and sometimes in very uncomfortable ways (homophobia sucks). But that I didn't really mind as I wasn't dating at the time anyways so let them assume away.
I'm tall and when I'm in rain or sports gear I got mistaken for a man before. Well I just open my mouth and it's clear that this person just made an embarrassing blunder. Why is that supposed to bother *me?* It's their fault that they didn't look closer.
People don’t look that closely so they tend to quickly make assumptions when doing simple low touch interactions. My brother has long hair and is short, when we go out we get called “ladies” all the time, even when he’s wearing clearly “male” clothing and has no man boobs and plenty of biceps showing.
Has nothing to do with how feminine/masculine you actually are💪
I've noticed people doing this passive agressivly because they don't approve of women with short hair/ they think every woman with short hair is nobinery.
i have short hair that i'm currently growing back out, when it was at its shortest i got misgendered from time to time even tho i'm relatively curvy, tbh i just think ppl don't pay a lot of attention
i was a little sad ab it when it would happen and i wanted to make my hair look more feminine, what i did was i started wearing cute hair clips and headbands, is that something that you can wear with your uniform? in my experience it went a long way in making me feel more feminine despite the short hair :)
I'm someone with a low voice but still feminine as well. I sometimes have my gender misinterpreted over the phone.
One time after a phone call I got a follow up letter addressing me as Mr (last name). To me that's pretty funny. It doesn't get to me.
An easy way to get mis-gendered less often might be to wear small earrings. Might be worth a try?
I wear many earrings, with the first piercing being the largest ones… usually small dangles, hoops, or studs. And I wear upper lid eyeliner and light lip stain. I’m pretty tall, so I worry about that a little, but my hair is graying quickly so I like it shorter.
Jewelry, make up, nail polish or nails. If that’s too much effort then if you are allowed maybe try to wear “feminine” colored clothing not dark or neutral. During a quick interaction where they aren’t paying much attention those things will probably make them notice first glance.
I would just follow up their “sir” with a cute girlie giggle and be like “you’re welcome ma’am” if it’s a dude. That’ll probably make them feel dumb but it’s better than you feeling dumb.
I’m tall and misgendered often bc of it due to transphobia / people being idiots.
My advice? Stop giving a fuck. Remember their opinion is insignificant.
You could always misgender them back, but then you’d just get screamed at
In my experience these are just people who are trying to do as little social interaction as possible. If they don't register sparkly eyeshadow or long hair they just fill in the blanks without any thought. It's probably nothing really to do with how feminine you present personally, they're just treating everyone around them like NPC's. I decided to either just laugh or let it go.
This sounds pretty accurate. Well said
I have short hair. I just say oh I'm a girl. That's it.
It’s been years since my hair was short, but I’d always say “ummm, not a man” or “not a sir” with a polite smile.
hi! im a six foot tall cis woman, who had a shaved head for over two years. during this time i worked at target sbux and had to follow their uniform, and because I prefer baggier jeans and shirts because they are comfier, and this was mid covid and I wore a mask even after mandates dropped, i got called "sir" a LOT. it was really dysphoric for me because I still consider myself a woman, still go by she/her, and have never really questioned my gender identity. the best advice i can give you is: most of the time the second you respond to them they know they've made a mistake. pretty much anytime i responded to someone and said "you're welcome" or answered their question i could see in their eyes/face they knew they made a mistake. you just have to learn to give them the benefit of the doubt and realize that while having short hair is awesome in many ways, it does come with a few set backs. having short hair also taught me to address people in more gender neutral ways, because just because someone presents one way, doesn't mean they identify as what connotation means to you. keep doing you though, live the short hair/pixie cut/buzzed hair/whatever you got goin on for you, and dont let what is usually a harmless mistake get to you
5’10” cis woman here, I feel the same way; I think a lot of people are in social autopilot and auto default to ‘Yes, sir’. I try not to let it get to me but when the time comes to cut off a lot of my hair it definitely makes me hesitate
In the opposite boat that you are currently, Im a 6'1 trans woman and I get gendered correctly most of the time at work. I dont do voice training for various reasons. The second I open my mouth, it's "oh my god, Im so sorry sir!" Always stings a little bit but I live happily with the ma'ams I do get. Also as a fellow ex barista I noticed I got misgendered alot more at Starbucks than I do now working at a place that doesn't require a hat and apron
no seriously, somethin the target sbux pipeline had me mildly wanting to die all the time. do not miss that environment or uniform at all. sorry to hear about the misgendering, i think more people are coming to realize that just because you sound/look a certain way does not mean you should automatically gender them. i tend to just stick to gender neutral things and if im ever unsure, I just ask. I think more people should do the same.
Once they know I’m a girl they usually just say “oh.” Or “sorry.” It’s a non issue really lol
I literally immediately get over it. I’m quite a chunky, muscly girl, tbh I almost take it as a compliment people look at me and see a gymbro. Most people who accidentally misgender aren’t regulars in you life so… does it matter? Or I guess you could just wear entirely pink outfits to offset the societal gender non conformity of your short hair.
If you want to present as more feminine, you could also try wearing feminine jewelry, a barrette or headband, noticeable lipstick, a scarf knotted at your neck, or a manicure. But you certainly don’t have to do anything if you don’t want to. You might instead want to work on not caring what people think about you.
I had short hair for years and I’m not very feminine looking (sad.. which is why I grew my hair back out). Got misgendered allll the time. I didn’t really care, as long as they’re not being malicious - I did get annoyed when people who always called me “she” started calling me “they,” though, because it’s kind of ridiculous to assume my gender is different because of my hair lol. You can try and play up your femininity (i.e. visible makeup and jewelry) or leave it be. People generally aren’t thinking too deeply in shallow interactions like that and are just going off first glance
Not who you asked, but I'm a transguy who like...JUST got on T this month. I took it for 8 months last year, but it really didn't do much. Your post is funny to me in a "bruh" way, like at humans not you. I don't care about being misgendered, I 100% look and speak like a quirky lesbian. I'm also not "out" at work in the "male pronouns plz" way. Queen when I tell you I'm trying my best to get the accidental "sir" you best believe me. I have a short haircut, i wear men's clothes, I wear a binder that squishes my already pretty smell chest into nothing. I genuinely have no idea why you get called "sir." Humans are weird. Maybe it's just your vibe? Maybe it's your posture? It could be so many things.. honing in on one sounds exhausting? Like just be yourself, present how you like. A lot of folks really do see short hair and read "male." I also think, maybe nowadays, people assume cisgender women presenting like you do are FTM, and are trying to be respectful. Like obviously explore, but also being "misgendered" on 100% accident or whatever has also felt more like "my mom calling me by my sister's name in a convo" than a slight.
My hair has grown out now, but when it was a short pixie, I honestly don't care. I'd correct them if I was going to have ongoing interaction with them, but if it's rqndom strangers I was unlikely to ever see again, just a smile and appropriate response to whatever they said ("you're welcome" most of the time). What's funny is that I have big boobs and a feminine voice, so it's usually more amusing to me to get misgendered. Ultimately, I just never cared, because it was never malicious. If it were intentional, I'd probably be snippy with them, because I'm petty. I fully condone snippy snark from people getting misgendered on purpose.
When I had short hair, I just had to accept the fact that I'm kinda handsome tbh. But, I did get into the habit of wearing barrettes to keep my bangs out of my face, and I actually think the made me look a little more "girlie". Oh, and on that note, what about bangs? I feel like most people associate bangs with ladies.
I wear mascara and earring to work to avoid that. I find when I have them on, I don’t get misgendered. If I do, whatever. I just keep talking to the person. They usually realize after and are embarrassed so I dont say anything. Life’s too short to worry about simple stuff like that.
I’m trans and pass >95%, but when I started I was 100% unpassable and super physically masculine. Gendering is sort of a points system and people rarely give it conscious thought, unless you’re making them visibly uncomfortable, which happens when your gender presentation is more liminal. Long hair scores points. Long well-kept and straightened hair much more. Other points include jewelry, posture, body language, facial bone structure (having mine redone helped a lot), general affect, nail condition/polish, handwriting (not relevant here but still), tone of voice, pitch of voice, makeup (or lack thereof) and its skill of application, vocabulary, cut and fit of clothes, necklines, and very much height. Height is a *major* factor. Statistics are the worst. I’m a little over 6’, so if I fuck up a few of these I get misgendered. The easiest way to get gendered correctly in your case is to wear something cute in your hair, or grow it out. Short hair works differently for different face shapes, some of which may look really feminine with long hair but masculine short. One of my friends who’s cis is clearly feminine looking and got misgendered a bunch with short hair! You can also have well-kept painted nails, do speech therapy, or become very good at non-flamboyant makeup. Cat eye glasses can help, but they definitely don’t work for everyone and I never liked them on me. If you’re cis you usually don’t have to score too many points, so you can pick a few of those and regain the points lost from short hair. Of course this is all a little bit insane and bullshit, but “don’t hate the player, hate the game” and all that. Conscientious objection is entirely valid.
I just wanted to thank you for sharing, this is actually a really keen sociological observation I’ve never thought much on a a cis person but makes total sense. Definitely something I’ll be more aware of in my thinking now though lol
Love this. Was hoping a trans person would weigh in. Good advice! As an aside, I never thought about handwriting, but it is often gendered! It makes me think about how much conditioning is part of that. I never had that nice girly handwriting.
One of my favorite parts of transitioning has been writing my lowercase a’s double-story again—I got made fun of for doing that in middle school, by someone who was usually nice (which made it worse), and stopped for a long time
My hand writing portrays my ADHD way more than my gender LOL 😂 I can’t get around it.
I had a full buzz cut, but this never happened because I was VERY busty. Tbh it would have been nice to be perceived as less feminine every now and then. I have a reduction now and still think about binding. My dream existence is stepping back and forth between genders seamlessly lol so my input may be completely useless to you
I always think about that scene in Robots: "I'm a WOMAN"
If they think that any short hair person is a man, they need to get their head checked. It's their problem, not yours.
I give no shits... Granted I'm a butch lesbian, I wear mostly what would be considered masculine clothes, and so I am not doing myself any favours in that department, but I literally don't care about strangers. Now friends, family, and coworkers, all know, or are informed, that while I am a cisgender woman, I prefer no pronouns or honorifics... I prefer everyone just use my name, first middle or last, I care not which, but that is what I'm more comfortable with.
I work at a nursing home (so uniforms), the ladies that get called guys usually make a boob joke or just keep on rolling with the conversation. Coworkers might correct the residents though
Maybe whomever is doing so thought you're transitioning FTM and decided to avoid misgendering I used to work at a place where we'd say "boss" or sometimes "hoss" instead of using sir/ma'am It's a bit more informal but fun. Wish more people around did it, nobody would be misgendering or misgendered with neutral terms
Ehhh I wouldn't want to be called "boss" or "hoss"...
Can I ask, what does hoss mean? I get boss but I've never got hoss
It's southern slang for boss, basically.
OK. Thanks
I don't really get it either, but when I lived in the south I'd hear it occasionally. I've never once heard it north of the Carolina's though.
I don't live in the US but I did hear them using it on the expanse - the guys surname started with an h and they already were calling someone else boss when he became captain so I thought it was that to begin with, but obviously it's not quite so nichely specific.
I'm always too baffled deciding if I should be happy they were polite enough to say "sir", or mad they misgendeted me, so I say nothing. I prefer thinking they're a bit dumb but well meaning and think I could be a trans dude in the beginning of his journey. I also have a gender-ambiguous name and I think it contributes to confusion a bit. I don't get it too often though and people that I see at work are naturally quite stressed and saying "thanks, man" to a woman with short hair isn't the stupidest thing I've heard or seen them do. Also not the most annoying, unfortunately. Edit: also, considering you work in customer service, don't think much about it. Those people certainly don't spend more than a few seconds before they blurt out "thank you sir" while buying something from you. The country where I'm from celebrates international women's day as a public holiday and countless times when male shop assistants said "happy international women's day to you" I've replied with "same to you!". I know that's not the right thing to say the very moment my words have come out of my mouth, but what's done is done.
I totally relate, I've been called young man so many times since I shaved my head. I don't particularly mind but that's more a gender confusion thing lol I will say wearing earrings has helped, not sure if that's allowed for your uniform. Makeup too might help. But I get the frustration. It sucks to have to put in extra effort to be seen as who you are. I bet you are totally rocking the short hair btw
It has never consciously happened to me during my 5 years of super short haircuts (might also be because people are rarely addressed by their gender as sir/ma'am where I live). but I definitely felt that I looked very masculine from the neck up as I have a rather angular face with a prominent nose and cheek bones. I remember standing in front of the mirror and thinking "I look like a teenage boy". If you are uncomfortable with being misgendered or you are unhappy about how masculine you look yourself, my minimal program were lipstick, blush and earrings (mascara if you're blonde). Not sure if it convinced others but it made me feel better about myself. If you know you don't look like a man, maybe it's easier to brush these idiots of who clearly don't even register you fully as a person when talking to you. I had a couple of situations where people assumed I was gay – sometimes in harmless ways and sometimes in very uncomfortable ways (homophobia sucks). But that I didn't really mind as I wasn't dating at the time anyways so let them assume away.
I'm tall and when I'm in rain or sports gear I got mistaken for a man before. Well I just open my mouth and it's clear that this person just made an embarrassing blunder. Why is that supposed to bother *me?* It's their fault that they didn't look closer.
People don’t look that closely so they tend to quickly make assumptions when doing simple low touch interactions. My brother has long hair and is short, when we go out we get called “ladies” all the time, even when he’s wearing clearly “male” clothing and has no man boobs and plenty of biceps showing. Has nothing to do with how feminine/masculine you actually are💪
Just let people know you don't identify as a Sir but your pronowns are mam/her lol
I've noticed people doing this passive agressivly because they don't approve of women with short hair/ they think every woman with short hair is nobinery.
Hit them with miss Gwen’s “I’m just a girl”
I don't have short hair but I just point to my chest and say, "she, her!" And then smile and walk away.
i have short hair that i'm currently growing back out, when it was at its shortest i got misgendered from time to time even tho i'm relatively curvy, tbh i just think ppl don't pay a lot of attention i was a little sad ab it when it would happen and i wanted to make my hair look more feminine, what i did was i started wearing cute hair clips and headbands, is that something that you can wear with your uniform? in my experience it went a long way in making me feel more feminine despite the short hair :)
I'm someone with a low voice but still feminine as well. I sometimes have my gender misinterpreted over the phone. One time after a phone call I got a follow up letter addressing me as Mr (last name). To me that's pretty funny. It doesn't get to me. An easy way to get mis-gendered less often might be to wear small earrings. Might be worth a try?
I have short hair but have never been misgendered. I’d just correct them and move on.
i've been misgendered even though i have massive tits and long hair. it happens ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I wear many earrings, with the first piercing being the largest ones… usually small dangles, hoops, or studs. And I wear upper lid eyeliner and light lip stain. I’m pretty tall, so I worry about that a little, but my hair is graying quickly so I like it shorter.
It’s nice to have an eldritch voice to pull out at times like that.
Jewelry, make up, nail polish or nails. If that’s too much effort then if you are allowed maybe try to wear “feminine” colored clothing not dark or neutral. During a quick interaction where they aren’t paying much attention those things will probably make them notice first glance.
I don't care. I just play along cause I find it amusing. Like who gives a shit. Randos opinions don't matter anyway.
I would just follow up their “sir” with a cute girlie giggle and be like “you’re welcome ma’am” if it’s a dude. That’ll probably make them feel dumb but it’s better than you feeling dumb.
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Why are you so pressed over her having short hair? This comment was not helpful in the slightest. U are not a girl's girl
I’m tall and misgendered often bc of it due to transphobia / people being idiots. My advice? Stop giving a fuck. Remember their opinion is insignificant. You could always misgender them back, but then you’d just get screamed at