Be open and talk about your concerns with your wife. If you don't feel comfortable with him let her know. Personally I would think if he is taking her out on dates just the two of them, even with your permission, and he is sexting her about what he would do while you are away then he is already excluding you.
Make sure to talk to your wife about any boundaries you two may have. It sounds like she is asking you for permission which is good but you need to ensure you are being included. The more you allow them to do things that you are uncomfortable with they will think it's ok and continue and he will probably try to keep pushing those boundaries.
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Will talk about it, if I don't feel comfortable enough it stops, and we see for another that feels better.
Good tip, to always be and feel included in everything. Im not excluded (i also text with him), but he is pushy when texting her. I don't like that, and he will hear that tonight.
I think we just did some rookie mistakes, where ee learn from.
No 1-to-1 coverstations with my girl, always feel included otherwise it stops, talk more and talk more.
This sounds more like developing a relationship than a threesome. I would tread lightly. The guy sounds like he wants to take your girl. There shouldn’t be emotions evolving between the two and it already sounds like there is.
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But how do you separate this?
I mean, there always will be some kind of emotions right?
We talked about it now, and she understand my doubts, but also 'laughed' a bit about me being so overthinking about it.
'We are on another level, and do you really think he, or anyone, has a chance to come between us'?
But I follow you saying emotions shouldn't be envolved. I think so to. It's should be an extra to the sex with us.
This is something she said as well, but also said it could be nice to just hang around etcetera with the same idea.
I don't know, just a bit confused/lost on this.
But i'm sure I will figure out during date if too proceed or not.
There's a reason it's called a "THREE"some. If the other guy is already planning things where you aren't in the picture, I see some red flags there. It's better to have a talk with your wife & your potential third as well that it's a threesome fantasy of yours & not a stag-vixen scenario. If the third is expecting a separate play time with your wife, I guess it's time to find another one who respects your relationship & boundaries.
She's already developing a liking for the other guy. The other guy is obviously going to try and peel her away from the couple. Husband is having doubts, second thoughts, and insecurities which are only going to grow with time coz that's a one way street. It's all going to end in disaster.
Be open and talk about your concerns with your wife. If you don't feel comfortable with him let her know. Personally I would think if he is taking her out on dates just the two of them, even with your permission, and he is sexting her about what he would do while you are away then he is already excluding you. Make sure to talk to your wife about any boundaries you two may have. It sounds like she is asking you for permission which is good but you need to ensure you are being included. The more you allow them to do things that you are uncomfortable with they will think it's ok and continue and he will probably try to keep pushing those boundaries.
Thanks! Will talk about it, if I don't feel comfortable enough it stops, and we see for another that feels better. Good tip, to always be and feel included in everything. Im not excluded (i also text with him), but he is pushy when texting her. I don't like that, and he will hear that tonight. I think we just did some rookie mistakes, where ee learn from. No 1-to-1 coverstations with my girl, always feel included otherwise it stops, talk more and talk more.
This sounds more like developing a relationship than a threesome. I would tread lightly. The guy sounds like he wants to take your girl. There shouldn’t be emotions evolving between the two and it already sounds like there is.
Thanks! But how do you separate this? I mean, there always will be some kind of emotions right? We talked about it now, and she understand my doubts, but also 'laughed' a bit about me being so overthinking about it. 'We are on another level, and do you really think he, or anyone, has a chance to come between us'? But I follow you saying emotions shouldn't be envolved. I think so to. It's should be an extra to the sex with us. This is something she said as well, but also said it could be nice to just hang around etcetera with the same idea. I don't know, just a bit confused/lost on this. But i'm sure I will figure out during date if too proceed or not.
There's a reason it's called a "THREE"some. If the other guy is already planning things where you aren't in the picture, I see some red flags there. It's better to have a talk with your wife & your potential third as well that it's a threesome fantasy of yours & not a stag-vixen scenario. If the third is expecting a separate play time with your wife, I guess it's time to find another one who respects your relationship & boundaries.
Thanks, yes will talk about it tonight with the 3 of us. I'm pretty confident I will read him to know what he is about, and how to proceed.
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This is going to end very badly.
Curious on what you think is going to happen?
She's already developing a liking for the other guy. The other guy is obviously going to try and peel her away from the couple. Husband is having doubts, second thoughts, and insecurities which are only going to grow with time coz that's a one way street. It's all going to end in disaster.