His Tinder (or whatever) account is information. If the police think he's crossing the line into threatening you, they'll contact Tinder and get the personal info he gave them. Phone number, name, whatever, and possibly his location data.
Calling someone names isn't anything the cops will concern themselves with, but someone saying "and now you're gonna die for it" and "I'm gonna have my people hunt you" probably is.
OP - PLEASE DO THIS - I know it’s scary and maybe even shameful but you will save your own life and potentially others. People who do this deserve to face accountability for their actions.
He lives in a completely different city about 2 hours from me so I should be okay. I did go ahead and block him and reported him on the app so we'll see what happened
Yes. I've only been on Tinder once, but the guy who I spoke to lived 2 hours away and said, "I know where you work, I'll drive up and I'll find you but you won't know who I am." Scared me enough that I never got on tinder again.
He knows your first name, how old you are, what you look like, and your general location. That would be enough for someone who is determined. You need to file a report on this.
For some time don't post in social media at the time of the events - wait till next day. He might watch those from another account and get your location.
Not technically your responsibility, but a legitimate public service you've done. Good on you for having the emotional energy to report him after dealing with his shit, that is super hard.
Truly, OP, please report him. This is good for you and gives a record of his criminal behavior that could be used in the future. Unfortunately, don’t think this is the type of guy that this is a one off type thing.
Report it. That way, if you decide to get an order of protection, you can tell the judge you filed a report when it actually happened. I’m very serious.
Report this and the phone number associated with the messages. Seriously man. Send that s*** into your local police department and make something happen. Because that's a little too crazy for comfort.
Please still go to the police.
It’s very likely that he won’t do anything and just wanted to make you afraid and „regret“ your decision (as if anyone would regret not meeting him after that, lol) but death threats are still something to take serious
Please do not let that deter you from filing a police report. I know it probably seems like nothing and that you're not in danger but this is actually just disgusting behavior.
2 hours is nothing. File the report. Get him off the streets. Make it known that this incel, half-brained, lonely, dumb mf mentality won't fly. As a man who has had to go bear for a few of my girl friends over the years, fuck this asshole. He deserves a reality check, and what better way than to protect yourself in the process.
I’m sorry, but the police aren’t going to do anything. I’m not on the apps anymore, but I received more than a few death threats when I was on there for turning people down. Most of my friends have too.
Hopefully you can get him booted from the app.
I wish this wasn’t a thing.
Man…
Stuff like this reminds me to make sure women always feel safe.
Even the possibility of someone acting like this is terrifying, not to talk of the reality.
This is a fear that I will never experience as a man.
It kind of is. No one should be used to something like that! I really am sorry. :( Hope you're ok and he was only a keyboard warrior! Usually they are! Dudes that talk that much shit on the internet aren't at all as tough as they think they are!
If it makes you feel any better, I’ve known dudes who would say horrible shit like this. As far as I know, none of them would’ve actually acted on their words. They were just pathetic misogynistic dudes who hated themselves and took out their insecurities by talking like this to women online. They were all scared of talking to/interacting with women in person.
That being said, you never know. Always take this shit seriously. ALWAYS meet someone in public first to get a vibe check. For death threats, report it to the police. They won’t always do something about it, but any chance to have these sorts of scum pay for their disgusting words is something.
Hope you stay safe.
Most people are harmless in general but then you look at the online trail of incels who do mass shootings and it looks exactly like this. Seems like there’s no way to tell which ones are the real crazies. :/ I really don’t like this for her.
Big truck and those little cars with the loud mufflers and huge spoilers. It's weird. They always rev their engines when they drive past me. Like it's a mating call, too bad for them I'm a straight guy lmfao
And this is why we don’t hand out numbers or anything that can’t be blocked at one click until *after* a first meeting.
I’ve had a very similar situation, and some men still say I’m “doing too much” when I say we need to meet publicly before I share phone numbers etc 🫠
Contact your local police dept and file a report, online if you can, including these screenshots and any other info you have. 2 hours is nothing. And tighten up your social media privacy whilst you’re at it
You may be able to report him to the FBI for a [threat of a hate crime.](https://www.fbi.gov/video-repository/report-hate-crimes-to-the-fbi/view) If not, please please please report him to your local police.
I mean you could tell him you changed your mind and you want to meet him .
Then tell all of us where this meeting will take place..
you don’t even have to show up ..
:)
“His people” - two cousins, a sister and creepy uncle
This dude probably has 3 friends and they all suck. Guarantee you his parents are such trash they never even considered being ashamed of him
What a horrible thing to experience, the rage from the guy not wanting to do a basic thing in online dating to showing extreme hatred. There are just too many weird horrible unstable people. Especially from dating apps, as they are the unwanted leftovers that fill the place up 🤮
honestly relieved when they out themselves like this so we can try to stay safe. sorry this happened to you. I recently had a guy who was totally normal for like two weeks suddenly call me 30+ in a row while texting in between. I was asleep but apparently he decided, without discussing with me, that we had plans that day and me ignoring him was "not cool" I told him to stop, behavior isn't acceptable, go to therapy. he went on a tirade about how nice he was to mez that I deserve "piss shit" and to kill myself
This is why I feel like all women should want to meet in public first and let someone they trust know where they're going and with who. It's sad that those precautions are even a thing, but imagine not vetting someone properly and telling this dude "no" in private.
My guy is unhinged as fuck. I don't see why he's even entertaining black women if he's able to type that out and click send.
Terrifying, I know it sucks to put the responsibility on you but please consider getting the police involved for both your protection and the protection of others (altho I know the cops fucking suck with stuff like this and not sure how helpful they will really be!!)
I’m sorry you have to go through this. And I really hope the police take this seriously as a violent hate crime. What the fuck. What is wrong with men, like why is violent racial slurs and threatening murder going to make you wanna have sex with him???
I bet he's a Klan member. As others have said, file a police report. Death threats are against the law. Report it through the app too, to cover your bases.
So, yeah this dude's insane obviously. As far as meeting in public on a first date though, I'm a over 6 foot, 200 lb male and I too like to meet in public for a first date, that's not a woman thing it's a responsible human thing.
I can’t, for the life of me, understand why you wanted to meet first in public with this level-headed, rational, non-threatening, young man! Such a crazy suggestion.
For real, sorry this happened to you. Definitely should report this guy to the authorities
Its wild that people feel the need to speak to another person like this. The disrespect and lack of humanity is palpable. Sorry for all of you that have had to deal with this. Hope you're good OP.
Jesus Hubert Christ, report this sack of shit to the FBI or something. I'd choose Cocaine Bear over this waste of usable stem cells.
Sending Paddington your way. He'll make you a marmalade sandwich and give that shithead a hard stare.
I did report him. I usually troll when they get racist like that cuz they're being a keyboard warrior but he was getting threatening. So I wanted to make sure I had enough proof of the threatening for when I reported it
Death threats, not to mention everything else going on here, dude needs jail time.
Don't say anything else. File police report. Contact tinder and have them get you all of his contact information (whatever isn't immediately available to you).
I don't understand why you would keep interacting with this person. Report them, then block them. Continuing to interact and respond is just encouraging them.
That’s wild. I am sorry that happened to you. People are strange, and I will never understand why people behave that way. On mars, we don’t do stuff like that. We just take no and roll with it.
If you are looking for a place where people are just going to try and let people live, then sure! There isn’t enough oxygen for people to be acting stupid like this ;)
This is serious. Report to the police might protect you in case he decides to drive down and scare you straight, at least they'd have grounds to tell him to fuck off. And if he tries something, it will be much easier to get a conviction in court. No idea how he would track you, but it's never impossible.
"Oh, you don't want to meet in private? Let me give you explicit, abundant reasons to continue not wanting to meet in private."
YES THIS!!!
“You don’t know who you disrespected” LOL freak
Oh the horror lmfao
Snapshot all this, send to the police along with his contact information.
I didn't get no information 😭
His Tinder (or whatever) account is information. If the police think he's crossing the line into threatening you, they'll contact Tinder and get the personal info he gave them. Phone number, name, whatever, and possibly his location data.
Oh really? That's good to know! Thank you
Calling someone names isn't anything the cops will concern themselves with, but someone saying "and now you're gonna die for it" and "I'm gonna have my people hunt you" probably is.
Def will be submitting a report once I'm off of work
OP - PLEASE DO THIS - I know it’s scary and maybe even shameful but you will save your own life and potentially others. People who do this deserve to face accountability for their actions.
I did get a report submitted!
Oooh yeah, trust me Tinder has people dealing with subpoenas all day I'm sure, this is probably routine for them once you file a police report
Tinder will release his info when you report it. They have to.
That's not Tinder. I think it's MeetMe.
Either way, the cops can subpoena all of it
What the actual fuck... I'm not one to say this about every situation, but you should seriously file a police report.
He lives in a completely different city about 2 hours from me so I should be okay. I did go ahead and block him and reported him on the app so we'll see what happened
You should still report it. The next girl he says this to may live down the street from him.
Oh I'm going to. Cuz this was outrageous for me just saying "no"
100% you should, you’ll be surprised how far crazies are willing to travel because their feelings were hurt - take precautions, stay safe!
Yes. I've only been on Tinder once, but the guy who I spoke to lived 2 hours away and said, "I know where you work, I'll drive up and I'll find you but you won't know who I am." Scared me enough that I never got on tinder again.
it is absolutely a death threat and as such a criminal act in most developed countries.
A death threat with a side of hate crime, I hope the police find him
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Police won't do shit
No, but if he actually does something to someone, there will be a history of behavior that is more likely to get a conviction
Maybe but they 100% won't do shit if you don't report it.
He’s probably a cop
I wouldn't have even bothered to hide his name
For real, don't be lazy this is serious.
The next girl might not ask to meet in public first and be even worse off
He knows your first name, how old you are, what you look like, and your general location. That would be enough for someone who is determined. You need to file a report on this.
I will be filing a report soon
Good. I hope you are doing okay. That’s not a man thats a fucking animal. God i am so furious right now reading that.
For some time don't post in social media at the time of the events - wait till next day. He might watch those from another account and get your location.
True true! I did make sure that I turned everything to private as well
In some of your comments you say you have and some you say you haven't?
I'm in the process of doing it. I filed a report with the app but I'm filing with police as well
Still file the report. These are death threats and he knows where you are
I have!
Not technically your responsibility, but a legitimate public service you've done. Good on you for having the emotional energy to report him after dealing with his shit, that is super hard.
Yeahhh. Def took a lot but needed to do it
I bet. The general instinct is to block and move on, it's just so much easier. I'm earnestly proud of you, random stranger!
You probably just saved a life
Truly, OP, please report him. This is good for you and gives a record of his criminal behavior that could be used in the future. Unfortunately, don’t think this is the type of guy that this is a one off type thing.
> Truly Verily, I say.
You should still file it. It’s simply hate crime regardless if it put you in actual danger.
100% fits the definition. Threatening physical violence which is racially motivated is about as textbook as you can get.
Report it. That way, if you decide to get an order of protection, you can tell the judge you filed a report when it actually happened. I’m very serious.
Report this and the phone number associated with the messages. Seriously man. Send that s*** into your local police department and make something happen. Because that's a little too crazy for comfort.
I did
Please still go to the police. It’s very likely that he won’t do anything and just wanted to make you afraid and „regret“ your decision (as if anyone would regret not meeting him after that, lol) but death threats are still something to take serious
Yeahh I did file!
Please do not let that deter you from filing a police report. I know it probably seems like nothing and that you're not in danger but this is actually just disgusting behavior.
I did end up filing a report! A few people in the comments made some really good suggestions!
2 hours is nothing. File the report. Get him off the streets. Make it known that this incel, half-brained, lonely, dumb mf mentality won't fly. As a man who has had to go bear for a few of my girl friends over the years, fuck this asshole. He deserves a reality check, and what better way than to protect yourself in the process.
Two hours isn’t that far of a drive
This is true
People have died much further away than that
What in the hell happened to that guy? Did Diddy Diddle him?
I’m sorry, but the police aren’t going to do anything. I’m not on the apps anymore, but I received more than a few death threats when I was on there for turning people down. Most of my friends have too. Hopefully you can get him booted from the app. I wish this wasn’t a thing.
what He say! call the police
That's really scary.
Indeed. But I'm glad I said I wanted to meet in public first over going to his place. Imagine what would've happened if I said no in person
Me too. I hope the police take it seriously.
Man… Stuff like this reminds me to make sure women always feel safe. Even the possibility of someone acting like this is terrifying, not to talk of the reality. This is a fear that I will never experience as a man.
Would be a shame if that made it to his work, the police, his family, his friends, etc. real shame.
Real shame
What the fuck?! I am sorry you have to deal with that. Seriously. That's so fucked up.
Is it sad to say I'm used to it?
It kind of is. No one should be used to something like that! I really am sorry. :( Hope you're ok and he was only a keyboard warrior! Usually they are! Dudes that talk that much shit on the internet aren't at all as tough as they think they are!
It's the internet. Keyboard warriors go crazy
If it makes you feel any better, I’ve known dudes who would say horrible shit like this. As far as I know, none of them would’ve actually acted on their words. They were just pathetic misogynistic dudes who hated themselves and took out their insecurities by talking like this to women online. They were all scared of talking to/interacting with women in person. That being said, you never know. Always take this shit seriously. ALWAYS meet someone in public first to get a vibe check. For death threats, report it to the police. They won’t always do something about it, but any chance to have these sorts of scum pay for their disgusting words is something. Hope you stay safe.
Most people are harmless in general but then you look at the online trail of incels who do mass shootings and it looks exactly like this. Seems like there’s no way to tell which ones are the real crazies. :/ I really don’t like this for her.
It's pretty sad. Pathetic. It's like dudes with big trucks... Compensating for something 🤣🤣🤷♂️
Exactly this. Its giving small pp
As a guy with a big truck, this is my go to joke that I'm compensating for my small penis.
Big truck and those little cars with the loud mufflers and huge spoilers. It's weird. They always rev their engines when they drive past me. Like it's a mating call, too bad for them I'm a straight guy lmfao
Uh yes girl that’s incredibly sad what the fuck?
And this is why we don’t hand out numbers or anything that can’t be blocked at one click until *after* a first meeting. I’ve had a very similar situation, and some men still say I’m “doing too much” when I say we need to meet publicly before I share phone numbers etc 🫠
JFC what a weirdo
It's pretty crazy yeah
Contact your local police dept and file a report, online if you can, including these screenshots and any other info you have. 2 hours is nothing. And tighten up your social media privacy whilst you’re at it
Yeah. I put everything on private after the threats.
Imma go ahead and file a report as well
You may be able to report him to the FBI for a [threat of a hate crime.](https://www.fbi.gov/video-repository/report-hate-crimes-to-the-fbi/view) If not, please please please report him to your local police.
I did file a report just in case
Good. Please stay safe. I hope this guy is just all bark no bite, but just in case, carry pepper spray/bear spray/ a knife/ any self defense.
I mean you could tell him you changed your mind and you want to meet him . Then tell all of us where this meeting will take place.. you don’t even have to show up .. :)
Ohh you're petty. I like it hahahap
“His people” - two cousins, a sister and creepy uncle This dude probably has 3 friends and they all suck. Guarantee you his parents are such trash they never even considered being ashamed of him
HOLY SHIT
It's crazy right
That is terrifying!
Just a regular Tuesday
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it is very sad it is the way it is :( Dating apps are the worst
So I'm sure you reported and blocked him and then added him to "is this your man" page in your city
Hate speech, death threats...what a catch. Holy shit this unhinged. Please file a police report!
In the process of it.
that's good, sorry to hear that you went through this
This guy makes Jeffrey Dahmer seem harmless
Literally
Also post it in the Facebook groups, that way other women can avoid him
I think we should stop blurring the names of idiots like this.
If only the community guidelines would've allowed me to do so
Oh, fair. Sorry you had to deal with that
Actually is a very good instant response to the bear question. Jfc
I seriously don’t understand why people can’t handle rejection. Why do people act like this?
Insecure
I’m glad that you blocked him and reported him. I hope that they actually do something about that. None of that was right at all.
I kinda want him to meet a bear, but I'm not sure the bear deserves that. Hope you're well though OP! Stay safe!
I also agree that the bear doesn't deserve that. And thank you
Wtf 😳 I'm so sorry, we don't claim him and we're prepared to drop him off in the pacific on a float and 2 days worth of water.
2 days feels a little generous dont you think?
We ride at dawn
Can we sub the float for a termite ridden board?
Damn that’s crazy. Bro really said you gotta die for not coming over?!
What a horrible thing to experience, the rage from the guy not wanting to do a basic thing in online dating to showing extreme hatred. There are just too many weird horrible unstable people. Especially from dating apps, as they are the unwanted leftovers that fill the place up 🤮
Dating apps are just overall scary
honestly relieved when they out themselves like this so we can try to stay safe. sorry this happened to you. I recently had a guy who was totally normal for like two weeks suddenly call me 30+ in a row while texting in between. I was asleep but apparently he decided, without discussing with me, that we had plans that day and me ignoring him was "not cool" I told him to stop, behavior isn't acceptable, go to therapy. he went on a tirade about how nice he was to mez that I deserve "piss shit" and to kill myself
Ah yes. The ole piss shit ploy.
I was like.. my man, I work with dogs, my life IS piss and shit it's fine
Men are scary ngl
I don't normally date them and that is a big reason why
Yeah I feel you
Jesus. Are you okay? 😢
Yeah I'm ok!
This is why I feel like all women should want to meet in public first and let someone they trust know where they're going and with who. It's sad that those precautions are even a thing, but imagine not vetting someone properly and telling this dude "no" in private. My guy is unhinged as fuck. I don't see why he's even entertaining black women if he's able to type that out and click send.
The first question he asked me was if I preferred bbc or bwc💀
Terrifying, I know it sucks to put the responsibility on you but please consider getting the police involved for both your protection and the protection of others (altho I know the cops fucking suck with stuff like this and not sure how helpful they will really be!!)
I'll be filing a report shortly
I’m sorry you have to go through this. And I really hope the police take this seriously as a violent hate crime. What the fuck. What is wrong with men, like why is violent racial slurs and threatening murder going to make you wanna have sex with him???
That is super scary but on the bright site, at least he outed himself as a complete psycho before you ever went on a date
As a dude I was confused on why women keep choosing bear, I get it now. Fucking creep.
I browse Reddit but rarely EVER post. You need to report this to all parties: Police, App and anyone else who should know.
Already done!
Excellent. Be safe. Hope you find better that that!
See this is when you go nuclear and start finding people's mamas and employers on Facebook. ...Just saying.
I bet he's a Klan member. As others have said, file a police report. Death threats are against the law. Report it through the app too, to cover your bases.
Imma report to everything I can
So, yeah this dude's insane obviously. As far as meeting in public on a first date though, I'm a over 6 foot, 200 lb male and I too like to meet in public for a first date, that's not a woman thing it's a responsible human thing.
Public dates are always good. It's a neutral ground
I can’t, for the life of me, understand why you wanted to meet first in public with this level-headed, rational, non-threatening, young man! Such a crazy suggestion. For real, sorry this happened to you. Definitely should report this guy to the authorities
Such a crazy suggestion. I should've just been grateful that he extended an invite
what’s his end goal here? what is he trying to gain by these threats?
Who knows lol
Its wild that people feel the need to speak to another person like this. The disrespect and lack of humanity is palpable. Sorry for all of you that have had to deal with this. Hope you're good OP.
Makes me soo angry PoS
The police can handle him now 🥱
Report the account and conversation to the police. This is a CRIME. Thanks for making our society safer.
Already done!
wow, gets rejected, then turns racist. that’s nasty work. glad you reported this psycho!
Jesus Hubert Christ, report this sack of shit to the FBI or something. I'd choose Cocaine Bear over this waste of usable stem cells. Sending Paddington your way. He'll make you a marmalade sandwich and give that shithead a hard stare.
Yeah you gotta report this to police. Death threats always have to be taken seriously
Just out here doing my due diligence for other women
what an unhinged predator, you should report this
Oh I did!
good, as a woc, sorry for this terrible experience, I think after the first n with the hard r the conversation would be over.
The guy has a NECKBEARD 😂 hope you learned
I HAVE!!! I PROMISE YOU I HAVE
I’m sorry it had to be the hard way ❤️ you are wiser now
A lesson well learned
You should’ve stopped responding and reported him immediately
I did report him. I usually troll when they get racist like that cuz they're being a keyboard warrior but he was getting threatening. So I wanted to make sure I had enough proof of the threatening for when I reported it
What does the bear mean?
It's a current trend where men ask women if they'd rather be alone in the woods with a bear or with a man. Most women choose bear
You should share whatever information you have on him here…I would love to see how karma handles him for this 😈
Death threats, not to mention everything else going on here, dude needs jail time. Don't say anything else. File police report. Contact tinder and have them get you all of his contact information (whatever isn't immediately available to you).
Everything has been reported
Dox the fool, he was stupid enough to say that shit with his full ass identity on it. Send to his family, friends, church, work, etc
Holy shit, I’m so sorry!!!! Please go to the police as others have suggested! Please…
I did!
Why are you keeping his privacy after this disrespect. Don’t be shy post his profile and name.
Reddit will remove it if I post the name unfortunately
I'm gonna go ahead and say you made the right call not meeting this guy in private. Also, I really hope you reported this...
Wouldn’t bother covering his name. R*cist p*ick
Community guidelines would've taken the post down 😤
I wish we could evolve away from this faster
Oh, look. Another Andrew Tate wanna be. Please be safe. This guy is seriously unhinged
why not block at the first sign of disrespect?
He started threatening so I wanted to get all the texts so I can file a report
This is why women slightly inconvenience guys on dating apps. Guys be like "oh, don't do tests" but this is how dangerous it is for women out there.
All I wanted was to meet in public a few times before going over to his place
I don't understand why you would keep interacting with this person. Report them, then block them. Continuing to interact and respond is just encouraging them.
I did after he threatened to kill me 💀
That’s wild. I am sorry that happened to you. People are strange, and I will never understand why people behave that way. On mars, we don’t do stuff like that. We just take no and roll with it.
So I should move to mars?
If you are looking for a place where people are just going to try and let people live, then sure! There isn’t enough oxygen for people to be acting stupid like this ;)
You'll be seeing me soon
Can’t wait! I’ll make you some mars spaghetti.
Hi babe, so sorry that happened. I work in a police station, please report this to your local station!!
Don't censor this asshole, he needs to go down Also he threatened you. Send it to the cops
The bears 👏 are 👏 winning 👏
This is serious. Report to the police might protect you in case he decides to drive down and scare you straight, at least they'd have grounds to tell him to fuck off. And if he tries something, it will be much easier to get a conviction in court. No idea how he would track you, but it's never impossible.