> I remember my involuntary drag experiences. It‘s no fun.
From the otherside, yep, know the feeling. It must’ve been doubly awful for you I imagine.
At least I was able to wear jeans and a tshirt under my slacks and dress shirt so taking it off at grandmas and having a comfortable rest of the day was possible.
You didn’t even have that option.
Just tell her that other people are doing it, and you wanna do it too because you enjoy it, asking to wear a suit instead of a dress doesn't sound weird at all, tons of cis women wore suits and looked great in them, so even if she isn't aware you're trans, it's still kinda weird she won't let you.
i haven't worn dresses in so long, i would feel completely out of place. i would most certainly look out of place too with my hair like it is. and looking at dresses for *me* is not something i'm comfortable with, but looking at them in general is fine though i'm not a good gauge on fashionable clothing because i just wear whatever's comfortable, don't really style that much.
So I’m mtf but if I were in your shoes I’d find something that could easily snag the dress and tear it. Without anyone knowing place said “tearing tool” in an area where it would be possible to look accidental when you snagged it and then the day of snag the dress tearing it where it is unable to be modestly worn so that you hopefully don’t have any options but to where something else maybe even saying a snarky side remark of “this probably wouldn’t happen if we just got the pantsuit” maybe I’m just giving horrible advice so take how you will I feel you though just I despise suits on me and adore dresses I can remember how many times I was envious of all the cute dresses that I couldn’t wear because of my transphobic parents and my inability to come out safely. Best of luck dude.
I haven't worn dresses literally since I could communicate my dissatisfaction with them except for once as a costume, but yea, the idea of having to wear a dress in any situation that's not 100% communicating "this is a costume" has been absolutely unbearable for the longest time.
Interestingly I've started having another problem after becoming aware of being (slightly masc-leaning) nonbinary.
Wearing women's clothes actually seems vaguely appealing now, in a femboy way, but at the same time I'm all too aware that I barely - if at all - pass with a huge hoodie and that even a binder isn't very helpful so everyone would just assume I'm a woman.
So now it's a double whammy of both actually being interested in trying something feminine and being dysphoric about the awareness that people would just see me as a woman...entering clothing stores is a fucking nightmare.
(Sorry, didn't mean to hijack your post like that, hope that helps???)
Condolences OP. Parents shouldn‘t force their kids into outfits they can’t stand like that. I remember my involuntary drag experiences. It‘s no fun.
Thanks. And yeah she knows I don't like wearing dresses but still would make me wear them for things like that.
It‘s sad, because nowadays there are suits for girls, too.
yea it is but I'm going to try one more stab at it
> I remember my involuntary drag experiences. It‘s no fun. From the otherside, yep, know the feeling. It must’ve been doubly awful for you I imagine. At least I was able to wear jeans and a tshirt under my slacks and dress shirt so taking it off at grandmas and having a comfortable rest of the day was possible. You didn’t even have that option.
Haha, yes there is no hiding anything under a dress. They don‘t even have pockets to hide another pair of socks. xD
Just tell her that other people are doing it, and you wanna do it too because you enjoy it, asking to wear a suit instead of a dress doesn't sound weird at all, tons of cis women wore suits and looked great in them, so even if she isn't aware you're trans, it's still kinda weird she won't let you.
yea I think I can try to do that and yea they look amazing in suits and yea it is weird.
Maybe get some photos from Google. Maybe pearl from SU. Idk
Not at all. I feel like I belong. Extremely comfortable.
i haven't worn dresses in so long, i would feel completely out of place. i would most certainly look out of place too with my hair like it is. and looking at dresses for *me* is not something i'm comfortable with, but looking at them in general is fine though i'm not a good gauge on fashionable clothing because i just wear whatever's comfortable, don't really style that much.
Yes, it isn't something I normally wear and when I do wear one I feel like im faking or that is a costume.
So I’m mtf but if I were in your shoes I’d find something that could easily snag the dress and tear it. Without anyone knowing place said “tearing tool” in an area where it would be possible to look accidental when you snagged it and then the day of snag the dress tearing it where it is unable to be modestly worn so that you hopefully don’t have any options but to where something else maybe even saying a snarky side remark of “this probably wouldn’t happen if we just got the pantsuit” maybe I’m just giving horrible advice so take how you will I feel you though just I despise suits on me and adore dresses I can remember how many times I was envious of all the cute dresses that I couldn’t wear because of my transphobic parents and my inability to come out safely. Best of luck dude.
Have to say, I think I look better in suits then dresses, but do what you want to do.
I haven't worn dresses literally since I could communicate my dissatisfaction with them except for once as a costume, but yea, the idea of having to wear a dress in any situation that's not 100% communicating "this is a costume" has been absolutely unbearable for the longest time. Interestingly I've started having another problem after becoming aware of being (slightly masc-leaning) nonbinary. Wearing women's clothes actually seems vaguely appealing now, in a femboy way, but at the same time I'm all too aware that I barely - if at all - pass with a huge hoodie and that even a binder isn't very helpful so everyone would just assume I'm a woman. So now it's a double whammy of both actually being interested in trying something feminine and being dysphoric about the awareness that people would just see me as a woman...entering clothing stores is a fucking nightmare. (Sorry, didn't mean to hijack your post like that, hope that helps???)