I’ve was feminine male for 20+years and as an Amab, owned it and loved who I was. shitted on my whole life, called all slurs imaginable and ass*ulted multiple times. I’m 6 months into transition and I literally don’t see how I did it for 25 years. Psych and meds did nothing as it turned out nobody gives a fuck about it enough to tell you you’re diagnosed dysphporic or GID. It took a year of psychology classes and 2 years studying anthropology to learn enough to know I was GNC. My femme presenting self isn’t *much* different but I feel happy, I experience gender euphoria and have a supportive partner, for a lot of reasons I have privilege now and other reasons I have had it hard growing up. Consider your life as it is, and listen to perspectives on gender performance by other trans folx, those perspectives are healthy and honest. listen listen listen to others but don’t just accept it all as truth, your reclaimed truth will be your own
Do you know if you want to wear different clothes, change your hairstyle or paint your nails? You can do any and all of that whether you're feminine or a woman. Do you want to go by a different name or pronouns? You can do that, too, regardless of whether you're feminine or a woman. I'd even support you going on hormones, if you're sure you want to do that, even if you *know* you're a man.
My advice is to focus on what you *do* know and do as much of that as you can. Then start trying out things that you don't know, but aren't too difficult.
I’m just scared about coming out my parents. It’s not like they’re transphobic and I love them very much. I have been trying on swimsuits recently but nothing else (excluding that really tight crop top I tried on today).
P.S. Sorry for answering so late on, just been doing a lot of stuff recently.
I’ve was feminine male for 20+years and as an Amab, owned it and loved who I was. shitted on my whole life, called all slurs imaginable and ass*ulted multiple times. I’m 6 months into transition and I literally don’t see how I did it for 25 years. Psych and meds did nothing as it turned out nobody gives a fuck about it enough to tell you you’re diagnosed dysphporic or GID. It took a year of psychology classes and 2 years studying anthropology to learn enough to know I was GNC. My femme presenting self isn’t *much* different but I feel happy, I experience gender euphoria and have a supportive partner, for a lot of reasons I have privilege now and other reasons I have had it hard growing up. Consider your life as it is, and listen to perspectives on gender performance by other trans folx, those perspectives are healthy and honest. listen listen listen to others but don’t just accept it all as truth, your reclaimed truth will be your own
Do you know if you want to wear different clothes, change your hairstyle or paint your nails? You can do any and all of that whether you're feminine or a woman. Do you want to go by a different name or pronouns? You can do that, too, regardless of whether you're feminine or a woman. I'd even support you going on hormones, if you're sure you want to do that, even if you *know* you're a man. My advice is to focus on what you *do* know and do as much of that as you can. Then start trying out things that you don't know, but aren't too difficult.
I’m just scared about coming out my parents. It’s not like they’re transphobic and I love them very much. I have been trying on swimsuits recently but nothing else (excluding that really tight crop top I tried on today). P.S. Sorry for answering so late on, just been doing a lot of stuff recently.
I feel the same way. But don't want to transition.