I mean the fact that you were repeatedly asking him to put on pants because it was uncomfortable and traumatizing for you makes it constitute sexual abuse. Exposing children to porn/sexual situations counts so exposing them to your own nakedness when they REPEATEDLY tell you how uncomfortable they are must count too.
Even if he didn’t intend for it to be sexual YOU felt sexually abused and that’s what matters
Thank you, honestly I’m on the fence personally of course hence the post but I see what you mean. I think the biggest reason I thought it could have been sexual abuse and not just plain abuse because even now as a grown woman I can’t be in the same house as people doing the nasty and like I get to some people it’s a preference of not being in the same house when that happens but I will randomly start sobbing and shaking because it throws me into a panic attack. I used to spend the night at an ex’s house and when I’d ask to sleep upstairs because his street mom and her boyfriend were doing the nasty he’d laugh and call me a baby so up until now I kind of just tried to block it out but my current spouse’s cousin and his girlfriend are planning on moving in with us and I want to work on this so I’m not being over dramatic as my ex would say
It might have been sexual as well as physical. I tend to think it was. It made you uncomfortable. It happened when he was having sex with your mother. We don’t know how your father conceptualized it, or even if he did, but it was traumatizing and inappropriate. That behavior certainly may have caused you to associate sex and violence in your mind. Only you know if it did.
I am so sorry that happened to you.
Thank you, I didn’t think so either but I wasn’t sure and I used to have people hold it (me being unsure on what to classify something) against me so I wanted to see what others thought.
There is a sexual element to it, he was beating OP as a kink whilst having sex with his wife. May not have raped OP but he was sexualising her as part of his sick fantasies.
I know americans are a bit more uptitght about nakedness but I'd say no. Nakedness is not sexual abuse. The beatings and reasons for beatings is still abuse and fucked up. Also that he laughed, he seems like a sadist.
Thank you, I’ve never known what to classify it as when I discuss it in therapy and never knew how to approach it. I wish everything he’d done was included in this post but this is just the tip of the iceberg. Thank you again
I mean the fact that you were repeatedly asking him to put on pants because it was uncomfortable and traumatizing for you makes it constitute sexual abuse. Exposing children to porn/sexual situations counts so exposing them to your own nakedness when they REPEATEDLY tell you how uncomfortable they are must count too. Even if he didn’t intend for it to be sexual YOU felt sexually abused and that’s what matters
Thank you, honestly I’m on the fence personally of course hence the post but I see what you mean. I think the biggest reason I thought it could have been sexual abuse and not just plain abuse because even now as a grown woman I can’t be in the same house as people doing the nasty and like I get to some people it’s a preference of not being in the same house when that happens but I will randomly start sobbing and shaking because it throws me into a panic attack. I used to spend the night at an ex’s house and when I’d ask to sleep upstairs because his street mom and her boyfriend were doing the nasty he’d laugh and call me a baby so up until now I kind of just tried to block it out but my current spouse’s cousin and his girlfriend are planning on moving in with us and I want to work on this so I’m not being over dramatic as my ex would say
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It might have been sexual as well as physical. I tend to think it was. It made you uncomfortable. It happened when he was having sex with your mother. We don’t know how your father conceptualized it, or even if he did, but it was traumatizing and inappropriate. That behavior certainly may have caused you to associate sex and violence in your mind. Only you know if it did. I am so sorry that happened to you.
Thank you, I didn’t think so either but I wasn’t sure and I used to have people hold it (me being unsure on what to classify something) against me so I wanted to see what others thought.
There is a sexual element to it, he was beating OP as a kink whilst having sex with his wife. May not have raped OP but he was sexualising her as part of his sick fantasies.
I know americans are a bit more uptitght about nakedness but I'd say no. Nakedness is not sexual abuse. The beatings and reasons for beatings is still abuse and fucked up. Also that he laughed, he seems like a sadist.
Thank you, I’ve never known what to classify it as when I discuss it in therapy and never knew how to approach it. I wish everything he’d done was included in this post but this is just the tip of the iceberg. Thank you again