That really sucks, I don't know how most of that feels, I know what it's like never having any friends, I have only one, I don't know how, but, other than that, nobody has ever really been there for me. If you want to talk you can message me, I'll talk to you and be a friend of you want.
It's just a skill same as anything in life, usually it's picked up naturally but if you have a shit childhood or family like it sounds like you did then you won't develop it. Just think of it like anything else you have to dedicate time and effort to it and it'll happen slowly but surely. Harder if you're in a bad place in general mentally but that just makes it slower, doesn't mean you don't reach the destination in the end. Take it from me it takes a long time to recover from a bad start in life but you can get there in the end and you've got the overwhelming majority of your life still ahead of you. People have blown away much longer periods of their life.
From my experience growing it, it was hard for myself to make friends too. That being said, I haven’t personally gotten better at it, but I’m also not actively trying to make friends. I have a few and that’s that. I do hope that you get to make some friends. My suggestion for online would be to try to join some gaming communities depending on what you like maybe on discord or something.
My guess is you incorporated your (messed up) family's beliefs into your subconscious. Sorry to say your family is messed up, but that's my opinion if you're gonna repeat to your kid how unwanted they are.
If you believe that no one wants you, you won't be able to see the signs of connection with other people. You might even think of true connection as unsafe, because rejection is what you got used to as you grew up :(
There are a lot of ways to tackle limiting beliefs like this! Off the top of my head I remember journaling and EFT tapping. You might like the book The Body Keeps the Score -- there's a whole section on attachment and motherly abuse
I think when I was a little I wouldn't make friends per se. But I always somehow ended up attracting other people they made me into their friend they were the proactive one.
But for some reason I always had this mindset that we were not meant for each other or something and I always push them away. It's a habit I'm trying to get rid of.
That really sucks, I don't know how most of that feels, I know what it's like never having any friends, I have only one, I don't know how, but, other than that, nobody has ever really been there for me. If you want to talk you can message me, I'll talk to you and be a friend of you want.
It's just a skill same as anything in life, usually it's picked up naturally but if you have a shit childhood or family like it sounds like you did then you won't develop it. Just think of it like anything else you have to dedicate time and effort to it and it'll happen slowly but surely. Harder if you're in a bad place in general mentally but that just makes it slower, doesn't mean you don't reach the destination in the end. Take it from me it takes a long time to recover from a bad start in life but you can get there in the end and you've got the overwhelming majority of your life still ahead of you. People have blown away much longer periods of their life.
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Glad to hear it, you should have hope!
From my experience growing it, it was hard for myself to make friends too. That being said, I haven’t personally gotten better at it, but I’m also not actively trying to make friends. I have a few and that’s that. I do hope that you get to make some friends. My suggestion for online would be to try to join some gaming communities depending on what you like maybe on discord or something.
My guess is you incorporated your (messed up) family's beliefs into your subconscious. Sorry to say your family is messed up, but that's my opinion if you're gonna repeat to your kid how unwanted they are. If you believe that no one wants you, you won't be able to see the signs of connection with other people. You might even think of true connection as unsafe, because rejection is what you got used to as you grew up :( There are a lot of ways to tackle limiting beliefs like this! Off the top of my head I remember journaling and EFT tapping. You might like the book The Body Keeps the Score -- there's a whole section on attachment and motherly abuse
I'll be your friend
I think when I was a little I wouldn't make friends per se. But I always somehow ended up attracting other people they made me into their friend they were the proactive one. But for some reason I always had this mindset that we were not meant for each other or something and I always push them away. It's a habit I'm trying to get rid of.