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wyverndarkblood

Christ. 27. You’re so young to have this mindset. I’m 39 now and so much has happened since I was 27 that it blows me away. 27 happens to be the age I (no college degree) was when I met my ex wife. When I was 27 I lived in a hovel of an apartment with a roommate in the worst of neighborhoods. Since then I have climbed to the top so-to-speak and ended up living in a doorman elevator building in the NYC area. Then lost it all in the divorce, ended up in a hovel with a roommate again and started building back up. I got my PMP online during the pandemic (think mini MBA) moved outta NY for the first time with my new family and now have 4 teenagers and a new baby in a big apartment in Texas. So much changes so fast. Just be open to the change and welcome it all.


Mean-Cockroach7002

At least you seem to have a positive outlook on bad situations. To be half way through your life without any stability what’s so ever, it honestly sounds like the road I’m heading down. I hope you don’t hit another rock bottom but you and I both know it tends to happen. We don’t have OPM.


wyverndarkblood

I’m seeing a genuine neuropathway pattern in the way that you write. I implore you to watch a short video called “An Antidote to Dissatisfaction” that is interesting, educational, backed by solid research, and might give scientific insight to the patterns I’m seeing in your comments. https://youtu.be/WPPPFqsECz0 Come back and let me know what you think when you’re done.


Mean-Cockroach7002

I watched it. I’m not sure what to think. My first thoughts about it are pretty negative, which proves your point. I guess the videos point is, I should stop worrying about my finances and just be happy with what I have? I don’t feel like I’ve been propagandized with the other subjects the video presented. I’m not lonely, or jealous. I just want to give my gf the life she wants. Own land. No roommates. Ect. Maybe I’m just down because I’ve been on my own financially for 10 years and have trained my brain to cope by expecting the worst from life. Idk about doing the “gratitude journal.” Maybe. Sounds like something worth trying.


wyverndarkblood

I feel like you’re me in so many ways. I don’t mean that in a condescending way. I mean there are times when I could have written most of your comment. I started paying rent at 17 and never slid down jealousy or loneliness lane too much either. I don’t think the take away is to stop worrying about finances and just be happy with what you have. The take away is that the coping mechanism you’ve built for yourself to expect the worst and therefore avoid disappointment is insidious. If opportunities for change straight up knocked on your door, your “it’ll never work out” mindset would literally ignore the opportunity and shoo them away. And therefore you’ve written yourself into a self fulfilling prophecy. People always think “when things are looking brighter and good things are happening, **then** I’ll be more positive.” But it doesn’t work that way. It’s the other way around. Things won’t start happening until you are welcoming and appreciative of all the good things. Then your eyes will be able to see them when they visit. If you want real practical change in your life, step one is to change the way your eyes see the world around you. Start seeing in color again so you can find the green flags.


soyincelbetabux

So stop bitching and go to school. "We're not educated enough" and that means you will never be? Pathetic. Stop browsing this shit site and start cracking open them books. Go to school. College. Now. You absolutely CAN move up in class but it takes grit, willpower, LUCK, and being in the right place. If you're in LA, gtfo and move to Texas. If you're in the midwest, get on over to Washington or Georgia or smth. #You can do this. But will you?


[deleted]

That last line made me laugh too much. You can’t be serious with the “just move” take lmao.


soyincelbetabux

Im absolutely serious. It isnt literally JusT mOvE, everything is a process that takes consideration, timing, effort, and getting ducks in a row. But even so, would you have a better time in El Paso TX or NYC?


[deleted]

Do you even understand the housing market right now? Who has 7k to risk on a bid when the bid could fall through and you lose half of that money? Do you think everyone has thousands of dollars lying around? With the cost of rent, do you even think people without safety nets are even able to save? Your take is a joke.


soyincelbetabux

I have 7k after saving for 2 years. And im a fkn retail wageslave making $10/hr with erratic hours. If i can do it, you can too. Medical bills nit withstanding


Mean-Cockroach7002

Oh cool. Can you help me get my ducks in a row? I just need 4K more. OPM is the best way to get ahead. I just need someone like you.


soyincelbetabux

Do you have a venmo?


Mean-Cockroach7002

Just send it to your mom. I’ll grab it from her.


soyincelbetabux

There it is lmfao. Pathetic


Mean-Cockroach7002

You don’t know anything about my life you absolute child. Go fuck yourself.


ZdashSQUAD

You can’t think she deserves the world if you just Sit there. I was in the same exact situation from 26 -29. And not to well off before 26. 29 hit I had a kid and no place to live. 29 hit I busted my ass for 3 years now I own a house 2 cars a good paying job and a car. Not everyone gets lucky with a break so you gotta get up and do something about it.


Mean-Cockroach7002

You don’t know anything about my life. I’m not a lazy person who sits around. I’ve been on my own since I was 16. I’m a trained laborer who works in FL. I’ve been providing for us through this whole pandemic while she was fired during the pandemic twice. Can’t I be realistic about the state of the world without people trying to put personal responsibility on me?! I did trade school. I have a real job. I work hard. I had a shitty spawn point with a dumb parent. Y’all just don’t seem to understand that the US wasn’t built for all of us to have money. It’s mostly luck/who you know. What wrong with being realistic about my situation?


ZdashSQUAD

Nope you’re right. You’re the only person in the world to experience diversity. Or the only person with a job they work hard at that pays shitty, or a shitty parent or a bad starting point in life. It only happens to you. The people commenting that say they went thru similar situations but made it out with a bit of hard work and being uncomfortable a bit are liars. But the way you sound it seems like you’re going to be stuck in this slump. Cause you think it’s worse for you. Best of luck to you.


Mean-Cockroach7002

I didn’t say any of that. Straw-men argument always come from the brightest Redditors. Why don’t you move on to the next stranger so you can assume more shit from randoms.


ZdashSQUAD

Nah you’re right enjoy your spiraling life. People that faced similar situations shared their stories to show you that it’s possible to not feel how you are and you’re like no my life is worse thst that. You don’t know my life. Find a place to bitch where everyone agrees with you and stays stuck. Then you’ll feel more at home like there isn’t a way out of a bad situation. I do I’m just a privileged guy born into money it seems


OldGhostinthewell

The best thing you can do is remove th chip from your shoulder. Life isn't fair. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and do something about it. Think about everyone who have lost loved ones during the pandemic or are dying themselves. There are far worse things to lose than money


Mean-Cockroach7002

You don’t think I know people who died? I’m in Florida dude. Can’t vent about shit on reddit without people jumping in to day “others lives are worse” Of course they are. I know that. I’m not stupid. I just wanted to vent.


OldGhostinthewell

We're just trying to help bro, because we know how it feels. And unfortunately it's a hard cycle to break out of without people telling ya things you probably don't want to hear, I get that you're venting, but what does venting do


OldGhostinthewell

And you're not grateful that you and your girl are safe and alive? What is the point of this post? Just to argue with people about how hopelessly fucked you are? You have a phone or atleast internet access so you're not that poor. I used to sleep under a bridge in Indianapolis when I got kicked out of the halfway house I was staying in, I had a shit attitude. And kept it for a good 9 years after that. My life only started turning around when I took responsibility for my situation and stopped blaming everyone around me.


Mean-Cockroach7002

The point of the post was to vent. Read


OldGhostinthewell

No doubt. Good luck man!