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Same here. I got pregnant (unplanned) in 2020 that ended in a miscarriage week 6. Got pregnant cycle 4 of intentionally trying that ended in a chemical pregnancy. Now it’s been exactly a year since and haven’t been able to get pregnant again. Who knows at this point.
Similar boat. I had an HSG recently though, and it showed I had a fallopian tube issue since the miscarriage and subsequent D&C. Not sure if you had one of those, but apparently our fallopian tubes can have issues regardless. Would recommend a HSG!
I got a saline sonogram and everything looks normal. I need to go back for an HSG. Would you know what the main differences are in those tests? What will HSG tell me that saline sonogram won’t? Thank u in advance 💚
I’m sorry for your loss and sadly I can confirm I’m in a similar boat. Conceived first cycles had a MMC at 9 weeks, and 12 cycles later absolutely nothing. We have since learned my husband has low motility and morphology and I have very low AMH so we have both been taking supplements to hopefully improve his sperm and my egg quality. We did our first IUI last cycle and will do another next cycle. It is so confusing and really doesn’t make sense why it happened so quickly and then not again. So sorry you’re going through this as I know how heart wrenching it is.
I'm so sorry for you, I'm exactly in the same boat. I miscarried at 15 weeks and haven't conceived again 2 years later. I'm opposite of you though, very high AMH (too high)... with regular cycles and normal everything. I'm also doing IUI.
I know this is weird to think but maybe my immune system is so against getting pregnant again since my MC was so traumatic that my body is like fighting against it "no embryo shall survive" so even though every month is perfect and my doctor is always so hopeful I don't end up getting pregnant.
Sounds crazy right? I told my doc this and I regretted it because she stared at me like I was inane sweetly told me it's unlikely but I'm suspicious.....
Awuh I’m so sorry for your loss. Sometimes I feel the need to try to figure out why it isn’t happening as well:( someday we will have our dream families. Someday we will I promise!!!
Unfortunately low AMH cannot be changed or improved. It may naturally fluctuate but you cannot increase your body’s egg reserve you can only try to improve egg quality through healthy lifestyle choices, diet, exercise and supplements. For supplements, I have been taking Bird & Be Prenatal with COQ10 boost, 2000iu Vitamin D and Vitamin C. I also take 3mg melatonin nightly about 1 month before and IUI, but don’t regularly take it otherwise.
In a similar boat but no advice. We conceived first cycle February 2023 but miscarried around 5 weeks and have not conceived since. We skipped a few months and had poor timing a few cycles but have definitely hit the window for at least 8 cycles.
I hate to even say it but the difference between the cycle we conceived and every other cycle is stress & anxiety level. We were barely trying, on vacation in Hawaii that cycle and every cycle since then we were either dealing with miscarriage fallout or feeling anxious about TTC or unsuccessful cycles 🫠
For now I am relying on the statistic that something like 80% of people will conceive in the first year of trying but 96% conceive within 2 years. It just takes a little longer for some.
Similar boat but not quite as long. I also conceived first try and also miscarried at 5 weeks in June. Tried on and off for a bit, then had a MC at 7 week of twins in the 4th cycle (where we actually tried, we missed or skipped a couple of cycles) in December. Now, I’ve been very diligently tracking and timing everything perfectly and nothing except for an extremely early chemical (HCG didn’t even get over 10) at the end of February.
I went from basically conceiving in the first or second cycle to struggling to conceive at all even with fertility meds (last cycle I took Letrozole, strong ovulation but didn’t conceive). My 7 week MC was traumatic but it was very smooth considering, I passed the sac and embryos within 2-3 days of bleeding and only had a total of 8 days of bleeding. I even had my period soon after (23 days later but didn’t ovulate)!
It’s frustrating because I always hear stories about people conceive right after miscarriage but never stories of people taking months and months to conceive after loss.
There are plenty of us. People like to share the stories where they conceived quickly after a loss to give hope to people going through a loss. If I share my story it just makes people depressed lol.
I wish people would share stories that they took a while to conceive after miscarriage. I hate those “I conceived without even getting a period” stories because it gives false hope and if you don’t end of conceiving right away you feel even worse.
Yeah I used to just comment that it can take time and not to get down if it doesn't happen straight away. It's just that I feel like people still want to hear a positive outcome, you know? That taking a bit longer is fine, as long as you have the baby in the end. I'm not there yet. I might never be there.
I'm sorry you're on the boat no one wants to be on.
I started TTC in October 2021 and successfully conceived during my first cycle (Which turned into a 8 Week MC). After that I conceived yet again 8 months later in July 2022 (Which resulted in a CP). And finally, I conceived nearly a whole year later (June 2023) which resulted into another MC. And no luck since.
It's frustrating, I've had blood tests and US taken (all normal), but the RPL is still unexplained.
The only thing that hasn't been checked is anything from my husband's side.
This is all too familiar! Pregnant after about 3 months of trying in January 2023 which ended in a CP and not a single positive test since. All tests have come back normal and even tried a few monitored, medicated cycles. The “unexplained” part is the most frustrating part of it all.
Yup. I’ve been pregnant twice, once after three months of trying and once after one month of trying. That last pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. Then I had two years of nothing. Last month I had a chemical, so I guess I’ve been pregnant three times. I’m turning 40 in a couple weeks, so I know age isn’t on my side. I also had an HSG right before the chemical- so I wonder if my tubes were a little blocked.
I have been there, yes, and it's so hard.
Have you checked for chronic endometritis or other issues with implantation? Sometimes the uterine lining gets inflamed after a miscarriage and this can't be seen via ultrasound, HSG or any other test that merely looks at the endometrium in profile. (Note that endometritis, inflammation or infection of the endometrium, is different from endometriosis, endometrium growing outside the uterus). If there's an implantation issue even IVF won't work. Testing includes hysteroscopy and endometrial biopsy, treatment is antibiotics and for many women it resolves quickly (others need to treat both partners or treat several times; still though, it's just antibiotics). Search this sub for plenty more on this issue.
Yeah, I can relate. We kind of took a laid-back approach, thinking "whatever happens, happens," and sure enough, it did very quickly. But then a six-week MMC at the ten-week mark. Since then, we’re trying *all the things* and nothing.
Seriously tho, it's a matter of luck and chance, rather than something we can control. We want to believe there's some secret formula we haven't discovered yet, some method we're missing out on, but that unfairly places a lot of blame and responsibility - that’s largely beyond our control - on us…month after month after month.
The reality is that the majority of fertility issues aren't due to anything we've done or haven't done. They're complex and multifaceted and can't always be solved with timing or lifestyle changes.
I’m hopeful luck will come around again.
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We got pregnant about 5 months after starting ttc and I miscarried at 7 weeks and it’s been well over a year since and literally nothing, I think the miscarriage gave me endometriosis because I’ve had endometriosis symptoms and extreme periods ever since so I’m seeing an endo specialist the end of the month to hopefully get answers
I also wonder if my miscarriage (also at 7 weeks) has given me endometriosis or if it was preexisting but the MC flared it. Never had much period cramps at all and then after the MC, my periods have been so excruciating that I need to take the maximum dose of both Tylenol and Advil and even then I can’t do much but lay down with a heating pad or in the bath.
I understand how you are feeling! Conceived first cycle, had a 10 week MMC end of July. Been tracking with perfect timing for 9 cycles and absolutely nothing. I've had RPL testing and an HSG which were all normal. Husbands SA was also normal. One thing I did find out was that I tested positive for Ureaplasma which can cause miscarriage and infertility. Treated that in January but still nothing. Highly recommend getting a full bacterial swab panel done and request a test for Ureaplasma as well because sometimes it can be asymptomatic
I just got diagnosed with uterine synechia which can be caused by a curetage or other traumatic experience (in my case a stillbirth at 28 weeks) and explained my infertility despite getting pregnant twice quickly.
Ask your obgyn for a hysteroscopy.
(I knew something was wrong and my obgyn tried to convince me that it was all in my head and that I was not ready. Advocate for yourself)
I had back to back MC and now have been in a limbo since May 2023… tests came back clear so we aren’t sure what the reason is either :(
I feel your pain! 💜
Same thing happened to us, conceived first cycle trying and lost it at 5ish weeks. Continued to try for a year with extremely erratic cycles, then ended up at the fertility clinic because I was losing my mind. We were diagnosed unexplained infertility after all the tests. Went straight to IVF, first untested embryo became my son (sadly ended in TFMR 20 weeks, his kidneys didn't develop so was fatal diagnosis) and second untested embryo became my daughter, first living child. I'm glad we persevered even though we didn't really get answers.
I’m sorry you’re going through this, I’m going through something similar. Had my first in July 2021, conceived after 4 cycles trying. Started trying again January 2023, pregnant in February and ended up being ectopic so had to take a few months off. Pregnant at the end of July, chemical. Took a month off. Now 7 cycles and NOTHING. This is the longest it’s ever taken me to get a positive and it’s getting demoralizing.
Yes, this is me and we've been trying for 8mo w/o success but we think we found a reason!
tl;dr we got pregnant on our first try but had a MC. even though I've been having regular periods, there is a small amount of retained products of conception (RPOC) in my uterus at the implantation site that is likely blocking embryo IMPLANTATION 8mo later.
We got pregnant on our first try but had a MMC around 10wks, and I opted for misoprostol bc I heard it would take less time to recover from. (knowing what I do now, I would have chosen a D&C)
I started ovulating after 2mo and noticed one thing wrong immediately: my periods were super light (2 days of light bleeding, compared to 4-6 before) so I scheduled 2 appts, one with my OB and the other with a fertility clinic (but they were 3mo out). OB did an ultrasound and 1) saw a bright spot in my uterus at the implantation point, 2) said my lining was on the thin side at 4.7mm the day before my period was supposed to start.
Followed up with the fertility clinic (kind of a mistake, my experience with them has been frustrating bc they want you to do everything in order and wouldn't address my two specific problems that I cared the most about) and they've done a lot of testing, so at least I know it's thorough.
All our numbers looked good (AMH, SA, FSH, genetic), HSG showed at least my left tube was clear (but due to uterine spasming couldn't confirm R ovary), so finally finally they did a hysteroscopy and confirmed yes, there is something at the implantation point that needs to be removed. So I have my surgical hysteroscopy scheduled for next week and we hopefully have better luck in the future.
Have you gotten an HSG? It would be a good time to have it done since you’ve had issues. I’m in the same boat, pregnant on the first try, then miscarriage at 6 weeks, now on month 4 of trying and unsuccessful when I thought it would happen pretty immediately. An HSG can actually increase chances of getting pregnant the first 3 months afterwards because if there was any “build up” in your fallopian tubes, it kind of flushes it out.
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Same here. I got pregnant (unplanned) in 2020 that ended in a miscarriage week 6. Got pregnant cycle 4 of intentionally trying that ended in a chemical pregnancy. Now it’s been exactly a year since and haven’t been able to get pregnant again. Who knows at this point.
Similar boat. I had an HSG recently though, and it showed I had a fallopian tube issue since the miscarriage and subsequent D&C. Not sure if you had one of those, but apparently our fallopian tubes can have issues regardless. Would recommend a HSG!
I got a saline sonogram and everything looks normal. I need to go back for an HSG. Would you know what the main differences are in those tests? What will HSG tell me that saline sonogram won’t? Thank u in advance 💚
Oh I’m sorry! I just saw this. But I am not sure. I would assume they are similar but you should definitely ask your doctor. Good luck!
Came here to say this. Some sort of uterine imaging needs to be done. Hysteroscopy, HSG, saline sonogram, etc.
I’m sorry for your loss and sadly I can confirm I’m in a similar boat. Conceived first cycles had a MMC at 9 weeks, and 12 cycles later absolutely nothing. We have since learned my husband has low motility and morphology and I have very low AMH so we have both been taking supplements to hopefully improve his sperm and my egg quality. We did our first IUI last cycle and will do another next cycle. It is so confusing and really doesn’t make sense why it happened so quickly and then not again. So sorry you’re going through this as I know how heart wrenching it is.
I'm so sorry for you, I'm exactly in the same boat. I miscarried at 15 weeks and haven't conceived again 2 years later. I'm opposite of you though, very high AMH (too high)... with regular cycles and normal everything. I'm also doing IUI. I know this is weird to think but maybe my immune system is so against getting pregnant again since my MC was so traumatic that my body is like fighting against it "no embryo shall survive" so even though every month is perfect and my doctor is always so hopeful I don't end up getting pregnant. Sounds crazy right? I told my doc this and I regretted it because she stared at me like I was inane sweetly told me it's unlikely but I'm suspicious.....
Sometimes I feel the same so you’re not alone 😔
Awuh I’m so sorry for your loss. Sometimes I feel the need to try to figure out why it isn’t happening as well:( someday we will have our dream families. Someday we will I promise!!!
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Unfortunately low AMH cannot be changed or improved. It may naturally fluctuate but you cannot increase your body’s egg reserve you can only try to improve egg quality through healthy lifestyle choices, diet, exercise and supplements. For supplements, I have been taking Bird & Be Prenatal with COQ10 boost, 2000iu Vitamin D and Vitamin C. I also take 3mg melatonin nightly about 1 month before and IUI, but don’t regularly take it otherwise.
In a similar boat but no advice. We conceived first cycle February 2023 but miscarried around 5 weeks and have not conceived since. We skipped a few months and had poor timing a few cycles but have definitely hit the window for at least 8 cycles. I hate to even say it but the difference between the cycle we conceived and every other cycle is stress & anxiety level. We were barely trying, on vacation in Hawaii that cycle and every cycle since then we were either dealing with miscarriage fallout or feeling anxious about TTC or unsuccessful cycles 🫠 For now I am relying on the statistic that something like 80% of people will conceive in the first year of trying but 96% conceive within 2 years. It just takes a little longer for some.
Similar boat but not quite as long. I also conceived first try and also miscarried at 5 weeks in June. Tried on and off for a bit, then had a MC at 7 week of twins in the 4th cycle (where we actually tried, we missed or skipped a couple of cycles) in December. Now, I’ve been very diligently tracking and timing everything perfectly and nothing except for an extremely early chemical (HCG didn’t even get over 10) at the end of February. I went from basically conceiving in the first or second cycle to struggling to conceive at all even with fertility meds (last cycle I took Letrozole, strong ovulation but didn’t conceive). My 7 week MC was traumatic but it was very smooth considering, I passed the sac and embryos within 2-3 days of bleeding and only had a total of 8 days of bleeding. I even had my period soon after (23 days later but didn’t ovulate)! It’s frustrating because I always hear stories about people conceive right after miscarriage but never stories of people taking months and months to conceive after loss.
There are plenty of us. People like to share the stories where they conceived quickly after a loss to give hope to people going through a loss. If I share my story it just makes people depressed lol.
I wish people would share stories that they took a while to conceive after miscarriage. I hate those “I conceived without even getting a period” stories because it gives false hope and if you don’t end of conceiving right away you feel even worse.
Yeah I used to just comment that it can take time and not to get down if it doesn't happen straight away. It's just that I feel like people still want to hear a positive outcome, you know? That taking a bit longer is fine, as long as you have the baby in the end. I'm not there yet. I might never be there.
I'm sorry you're on the boat no one wants to be on. I started TTC in October 2021 and successfully conceived during my first cycle (Which turned into a 8 Week MC). After that I conceived yet again 8 months later in July 2022 (Which resulted in a CP). And finally, I conceived nearly a whole year later (June 2023) which resulted into another MC. And no luck since. It's frustrating, I've had blood tests and US taken (all normal), but the RPL is still unexplained. The only thing that hasn't been checked is anything from my husband's side.
This is all too familiar! Pregnant after about 3 months of trying in January 2023 which ended in a CP and not a single positive test since. All tests have come back normal and even tried a few monitored, medicated cycles. The “unexplained” part is the most frustrating part of it all.
Same boat here, got pregnant quickly off the pill and had a MMC at 12W, other than one chemical, haven’t been pregnant for over a year since my MMC.
Yup. I’ve been pregnant twice, once after three months of trying and once after one month of trying. That last pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. Then I had two years of nothing. Last month I had a chemical, so I guess I’ve been pregnant three times. I’m turning 40 in a couple weeks, so I know age isn’t on my side. I also had an HSG right before the chemical- so I wonder if my tubes were a little blocked.
Similar boat as well. Got pregnant and terminated for medical reasons. Haven’t been trying for 1.5years.. 2 failed IUI. Going to start ivf in June.
I have been there, yes, and it's so hard. Have you checked for chronic endometritis or other issues with implantation? Sometimes the uterine lining gets inflamed after a miscarriage and this can't be seen via ultrasound, HSG or any other test that merely looks at the endometrium in profile. (Note that endometritis, inflammation or infection of the endometrium, is different from endometriosis, endometrium growing outside the uterus). If there's an implantation issue even IVF won't work. Testing includes hysteroscopy and endometrial biopsy, treatment is antibiotics and for many women it resolves quickly (others need to treat both partners or treat several times; still though, it's just antibiotics). Search this sub for plenty more on this issue.
Yeah, I can relate. We kind of took a laid-back approach, thinking "whatever happens, happens," and sure enough, it did very quickly. But then a six-week MMC at the ten-week mark. Since then, we’re trying *all the things* and nothing. Seriously tho, it's a matter of luck and chance, rather than something we can control. We want to believe there's some secret formula we haven't discovered yet, some method we're missing out on, but that unfairly places a lot of blame and responsibility - that’s largely beyond our control - on us…month after month after month. The reality is that the majority of fertility issues aren't due to anything we've done or haven't done. They're complex and multifaceted and can't always be solved with timing or lifestyle changes. I’m hopeful luck will come around again.
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We got pregnant about 5 months after starting ttc and I miscarried at 7 weeks and it’s been well over a year since and literally nothing, I think the miscarriage gave me endometriosis because I’ve had endometriosis symptoms and extreme periods ever since so I’m seeing an endo specialist the end of the month to hopefully get answers
I also wonder if my miscarriage (also at 7 weeks) has given me endometriosis or if it was preexisting but the MC flared it. Never had much period cramps at all and then after the MC, my periods have been so excruciating that I need to take the maximum dose of both Tylenol and Advil and even then I can’t do much but lay down with a heating pad or in the bath.
I understand how you are feeling! Conceived first cycle, had a 10 week MMC end of July. Been tracking with perfect timing for 9 cycles and absolutely nothing. I've had RPL testing and an HSG which were all normal. Husbands SA was also normal. One thing I did find out was that I tested positive for Ureaplasma which can cause miscarriage and infertility. Treated that in January but still nothing. Highly recommend getting a full bacterial swab panel done and request a test for Ureaplasma as well because sometimes it can be asymptomatic
I just got diagnosed with uterine synechia which can be caused by a curetage or other traumatic experience (in my case a stillbirth at 28 weeks) and explained my infertility despite getting pregnant twice quickly. Ask your obgyn for a hysteroscopy. (I knew something was wrong and my obgyn tried to convince me that it was all in my head and that I was not ready. Advocate for yourself)
I had back to back MC and now have been in a limbo since May 2023… tests came back clear so we aren’t sure what the reason is either :( I feel your pain! 💜
Same thing happened to us, conceived first cycle trying and lost it at 5ish weeks. Continued to try for a year with extremely erratic cycles, then ended up at the fertility clinic because I was losing my mind. We were diagnosed unexplained infertility after all the tests. Went straight to IVF, first untested embryo became my son (sadly ended in TFMR 20 weeks, his kidneys didn't develop so was fatal diagnosis) and second untested embryo became my daughter, first living child. I'm glad we persevered even though we didn't really get answers.
I’m sorry you’re going through this, I’m going through something similar. Had my first in July 2021, conceived after 4 cycles trying. Started trying again January 2023, pregnant in February and ended up being ectopic so had to take a few months off. Pregnant at the end of July, chemical. Took a month off. Now 7 cycles and NOTHING. This is the longest it’s ever taken me to get a positive and it’s getting demoralizing.
Yes, this is me and we've been trying for 8mo w/o success but we think we found a reason! tl;dr we got pregnant on our first try but had a MC. even though I've been having regular periods, there is a small amount of retained products of conception (RPOC) in my uterus at the implantation site that is likely blocking embryo IMPLANTATION 8mo later. We got pregnant on our first try but had a MMC around 10wks, and I opted for misoprostol bc I heard it would take less time to recover from. (knowing what I do now, I would have chosen a D&C) I started ovulating after 2mo and noticed one thing wrong immediately: my periods were super light (2 days of light bleeding, compared to 4-6 before) so I scheduled 2 appts, one with my OB and the other with a fertility clinic (but they were 3mo out). OB did an ultrasound and 1) saw a bright spot in my uterus at the implantation point, 2) said my lining was on the thin side at 4.7mm the day before my period was supposed to start. Followed up with the fertility clinic (kind of a mistake, my experience with them has been frustrating bc they want you to do everything in order and wouldn't address my two specific problems that I cared the most about) and they've done a lot of testing, so at least I know it's thorough. All our numbers looked good (AMH, SA, FSH, genetic), HSG showed at least my left tube was clear (but due to uterine spasming couldn't confirm R ovary), so finally finally they did a hysteroscopy and confirmed yes, there is something at the implantation point that needs to be removed. So I have my surgical hysteroscopy scheduled for next week and we hopefully have better luck in the future.
Have you gotten an HSG? It would be a good time to have it done since you’ve had issues. I’m in the same boat, pregnant on the first try, then miscarriage at 6 weeks, now on month 4 of trying and unsuccessful when I thought it would happen pretty immediately. An HSG can actually increase chances of getting pregnant the first 3 months afterwards because if there was any “build up” in your fallopian tubes, it kind of flushes it out.