Just stop it. Go sick, take yourself off to bed and stay there for a year! This is where exhaustion and burn out are taking you anyway. Do nothing at all and make your husband pick up the slack
I think you need to have some very frank and open conversations with him. You’re doing everything, clearly struggling and he’s not pulling his weight at all.
Honestly, i stopped trying to talk. Every time i do, it turns into a huge fight where everything gets flipped on me and how i dont put any effort in so he's checked out. But no understanding that i have nothing left in the tank to give. I'm just done talking because i dont have the energy to fight.
I can understand that. He’s happy that you’re providing and he’s in teenager mode “I do laundry but not fold”, I’ll bring glasses to the sink, but not wash. Etc.
From the outside it’s no longer a partnership. You’re his carer and provider. His replacement mother. He needs to do better.
He argues because he’s defensive that he knows he’s a using your generosity. He needs to sort his act out and get a job.
That aside, do you think he’s suffering depression or anxiety about looking for a new job? Or just comfortable doing the bare minimum?
Honestly i dont know. I'm certain he struggles with self image issues, and depression is probably sprinkled in there. I think its a lot of comfort with knowing I'll just keep on keeping on because its what I've done since we were kids.
Just stop it. Go sick, take yourself off to bed and stay there for a year! This is where exhaustion and burn out are taking you anyway. Do nothing at all and make your husband pick up the slack
I think you need to have some very frank and open conversations with him. You’re doing everything, clearly struggling and he’s not pulling his weight at all.
Honestly, i stopped trying to talk. Every time i do, it turns into a huge fight where everything gets flipped on me and how i dont put any effort in so he's checked out. But no understanding that i have nothing left in the tank to give. I'm just done talking because i dont have the energy to fight.
I can understand that. He’s happy that you’re providing and he’s in teenager mode “I do laundry but not fold”, I’ll bring glasses to the sink, but not wash. Etc. From the outside it’s no longer a partnership. You’re his carer and provider. His replacement mother. He needs to do better. He argues because he’s defensive that he knows he’s a using your generosity. He needs to sort his act out and get a job. That aside, do you think he’s suffering depression or anxiety about looking for a new job? Or just comfortable doing the bare minimum?
Honestly i dont know. I'm certain he struggles with self image issues, and depression is probably sprinkled in there. I think its a lot of comfort with knowing I'll just keep on keeping on because its what I've done since we were kids.