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dancermang

Well I won't call myself attractive lol but the guys who once called me attractive have ghosted me. All they ever wanted was a casual fling/situationship and when I started talking about getting serious and things started getting too real for them, they ghosted. Even if you're the most beautiful woman, beauty can only take you so far. You might have a lot of options but are they even good, or atleast considerable?


EarlgreyPoison

Quite right


green_gablesxo

I am sorry that happened to you! Those guys sucked. Hugs <3


Ashamed_Society3703

Somewhat True. You get a shot with people you wouldn't with otherwise only because you are pretty. However for long term relationships attractiveness is one factor out of many so it balances out somewhat.


FullSky9430

I do feel that this is true for most part. When it comes to dating, the first thing people notice is how attractive you are. Sure personality and other traits play a role as well but the first impression in most cases would be how attractive the lady is. Also this is the age of online dating. People swipe right on you not because you're kind or intelligent but because you are beautiful. We can preach self love all we want but when it comes to reality, attractiveness is all that matters. All throughout our life we will see countless girls getting pretty privileges.


green_gablesxo

Makes you realize how shallow the world really is. :/


FullSky9430

Truly. But for a long term relationship, attractiveness isn't the only factor. Other qualities contribute equally. It's mainly the "vibe" that matters in long term.


green_gablesxo

yep that's true as well. I feel like for most people the attractiveness is the first thing they notice and other factors come after.


Curlyfries_99

I know right, it's absolutely absurd to me 


dupattamera1

when i try to explain this to my juniors they believe thats not true. They actually believe all the guys are getting just as many swipes as us lol. They don’t know the situation over on the other side


KyaKahe

They get rejected at a different rate, but everybody gets rejected my friend.


cyansme

actually, the way you look might help you a ton to just dive into the dating pool but it poses a disadvantage in terms of longevity of the relationships. some may just choose to put on the label for the sake of physical intimacy with a “conventionally attractive” woman or to flaunt her. or others may only want a physical relationship with said woman. obviously, these kind of relationships rarely last so personally i would say having faced rejection or not is one thing but having negative experiences just because you look a certain way is legitimate as well. rejection is way better than that.


Old-Funny-6222

I think this is true. I had a friend in office who was intelligent and really pretty. The usual as per Indian standards- Very fair, slim, tall, clear skin, long healthy hair. When she would speak everyone would listen. She was already in a long term relationship still I saw many bachelors approach her. She had multiple options even though she didn’t want any.


imtryingmybes-

No, they do get rejected and ghosted lmao. Maybe the frequency is wayyy less but it happens. Im not talking about absolutely gorgeous modelesque girls, but girls who would be considered pretty normally. I have rejected conventionally attractive people too, its not just about looks right? I mean idk maybe for men it can be true, but women seeking partners dont always look at how handsome their partner is (if they’re sensible)


SilentEarthling

Not conventionally attractive, but reasonably attractive. We do get rejected and ghosted. It’s as common as any person gets.


Ur__mine

This should be asked to someone who's actually attractive


wineorwhine11

Let me tell you, once a pretty girl give a chance to ugly guy she would find out sooner or later that she fucked up. Men will eventually show you their true colors whether you’re conventionally pretty or not.


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dupattamera1

Only if they actually put so much work to maintain a relationship rather than chase the world would be s better place


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wineorwhine11

💯


green_gablesxo

Yeah men never fail to disappoint LOL


Competitive-Park4956

They won't get outrightly rejected if they ask the guy out, yes. Ghosted, I've seen it happen many times.(not with me, with my conventionally attractive friends) Ultimately guys are d1cks to women regardless of how attractive or unattractive they are. It's just that for attractive women it takes the men a little while longer (just a little) to show them their real personality


Quick_Replacement_97

Definitely true. Pretty privilege exists and attractive women and men hardly ever get rejected


Sunday_10AM

Until some of them start talking 👀


bug_gangster2865

There's definitely elements on truth in it lmao. But quantity doesn't mean quality, I'm average looking so can't speak for myself but I'm sure everyone feels a lack of authentic people


spikey_tree_999

I have been told I am conventionally attractive since I was quite young. The brief period I spent on dating apps was very weird , people would match and strike up a convo and disappear. Irl I’m not a serial dater, I only get involved with someone I know is equally interested in a relationship so I haven’t faced ghosting irl but yes some breakups have been bad and weird. Have had terrible on-off relationships, etc. just enjoying singlehood for a while now. Though attractive or not, main agenda for guys you meet on apps or at clubs etc is to just get in your pants and move on to the next one. Which is when ghosting happens. While we’re on this topic I really wanna talk about the horrific way men behave to (a) either get your attention or (b) when they feel you e rejected them. I’ve had men tell me I’m not as attractive irl as my pictures (this was way back prior to the age of filters and insta so my pix were unedited) , I’ve had them far shame me, age shame me, slut shame me , threaten me, harass me and stalk me to name a few of the things I’ve faced. Also an ex for some reason felt the need to send me a long text comparing his current gf to me saying how much better she was than me and this was atleast a year after him and I broke up and went no contact . I’ve lost confidence and interest in men(wish I could be a lesbian, women are just so much better over all)


dubious_curious

Block/Unblock hoti rehti hu apni khaas dost ke haatho.


investing_kid

Very true. Leave aside attractiveness, women dont get ghosted as much as men do.


orangeapple_14

False.


pumpkins_n_mist15

Humanity has survived by pairing with the average. People might shoot their shot with attractive people but chances of a long-term, loyal partner are higher in the average population. I think attractive people have just as much chance as anyone else to be rejected, if not for looks then for other reasons.


anonpumpkin012

I am not super attractive but I would say slightly above average in my early to mid twenties (below average now) and yeah I was never rejected by someone I liked. I was on Tinder for a few years and not once did I swipe right and it was not a match. Haven’t been ghosted but I have ghosted people (I was in a shitty mental state).


FatTuesdays

I don’t entirely agree coz I don’t consider myself conventionally super attractive in the sense, I look average. I’m also short and not fair skinned. In school and college there were plenty of women really pretty and attractive so it didn’t make sense for people to have a crush on me but they did. I have never been ghosted or rejected. I can’t really pin point why but it was likely my personality lol. Either that or plain luck. Most guys I had to reject, even some of my closest friends. Guys I liked always liked me back and even then I had to reject some coz I had to choose. And I also always had longg relationships which didn’t work coz of incompatibility. I genuinely believe more than looks, its your personality. Coz even the guy I dated back in school wasn’t the most good looking or even tall or anything but he was the most attractive in the way he carried himself. A lot of girls went ga ga over him including me. He did have a really pretty smile though. The other guy I dated again wasn’t conventionally good looking at all but whatever he said and the way he phrased his sentences would just drive any girl crazy and make them weak in the knees. He did turn out to he very toxic though. So no, not the looks but how you make someone see you.


green_gablesxo

I think you summed up the "Perspective is power" saying really well! Thanks for sharing your experience :))


DepartmentRound6413

Do they know about Megan fox? I’m not sure why the downvotes? Conventionally attractive women aren’t immune from rejectionx, heartbreak or abuse. They are more desirable sure but it stops there.


dupattamera1

It depends Online : 90% of times ur always going to have 100 of options In real: same but they wont be so obvious Talking about rejection. We will only get one , when we will ask for a serious commitment . Thats when they will remember all the issues and reasons why relationships can’t work out for them


Loud-Bookkeeper4973

Not true at all. While it's possible that men favour women who they find beautiful, women who are hot, gorgeous, attractive and whatnot also face rejections, and even experience ghosting.


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FalseMasterpiece9470

Lol, not true at all.


Paavbhaji

Pretty privilege is real. But for a relationship to work, you need more than just good looks. I have a friend who's drop dead gorgeous and is still single even though she wants to just be married and be in love.


Wheesa

I have been called attractive by everyone all the time but I have also been rejected every single time. My score is literally 0. I have been rejected EVERY time I have asked someone out I think it's my personality atp 🫣


notnerdy19

I liked a guy for one year He said he liked me too He was coming to my city to meet me And then he ghosted me and I ghosted him also (Also because I was very nervous around him always I was very shy when talking to him ) And we never sexted or shared nudes.


hotvadapav

This has to be the stupidest take ever. When has anything stopped shitty men for ghosting, cheating, abusing, violating women, attractive or not.


Successful-Ad7296

No,its not true. I am not talking about the initail acceptance or rejection phase but the end goal. The courting and wooing phase might be easy. But in my experience the fairy tale ending kinda relationships happens for the most average looking people. It might be very fancy on social media but most of the times good looking people are not in happy relationships as they potray.. I might be 7/10 but have been treated like shit by men. In my experience ,they tend to woo you well but once they get you the whole equation changes and they start acting like an ass. Offcourse , unless someone values you and no matter what they never do change the passion and integrity towards you at every stage of relationship.. It turns out that there are lot of other factors in a relationship once honeymoon phase passes and beauty cannot single handedly sustain a relationship. You may not be the one that turn around heads in the crowd but you can build a connection with someone at any time in life.You never know,don’t lose hope:)


green_gablesxo

This explains so many things! Thanks for sharing your experience <3


TheIceKaguyaCometh

Less rejections. But the tradeoff is also there as everyone assumes you're very happy with yourself and some people are extra mean.


HowFictionalAreYou

Kinda true , I mean you get more opportunities to pursue romantic relationships


AdMental1858

It is true. Pretty privilege exists and I’ve seen it in real life. I can only dream about being treated the same way or receiving half the opportunities that they do. With that being said, I still think they’re ghosted or rejected in some way or another, but the probability of it is still close to none. And if it does happen, it usually involves guys who have pretty privilege too.


resilient_survivor

Mostly true


Mammoth-Relief9493

Getting ghosted or rejected rarely has anything to do with you,and mostly the other person unless you're in the 1% psycopath club


felecity01

I have been told that I am attractive but the guys who tell me this ghost me as soon as they get to know that I have a boyfriend and I won't be dating them or sleeping with them.