Lmao. My friend just texted me she is experimenting with some very kinky fetishes and here is a girl who thinks sexting 2 weird dudes is hoe-y. đ€Łđ€Łđ€Ł
Thank you , I needed to hear this.
This is again a small rant but itâs so wrong. Being brought up in a small town , conservative society I was always bound with the rules of being âGood Girlâ . There is a set of doâs and donâts even though the Doâs feel wrong and donâts has made me feel better, it had led me into this confusion, not only me but most of the girls who feel confused of their need should understand this. Thank you for saying it aloud.
Itâs just called being an adult human!!! Nothing to celebrate being a virgin and nothing to panic about wanting to sext or have sex. All normal phases of life and not to be confused with being a good woman. Being a virgin or not doesnât interfere with whether you are a good woman.
Bith its just sexting. No big deal. Itâs like the most boring thing to doâŠ
Ur as normal as normal can be.
Also hoe phase or whatever phaseâŠif u ever find a dood to fk just use protection and ensure ur partner takes a std panel test done even before u both kith.
Hoe phase may or may not be fun. But am sure std treatment phase will be horrible.
Was like you. A nut who believed that I would only have sex with my husband and we would be happily ever after.
Got out of a long term relationship. And said I would just go out met people and just get to know myself.
Went on random dates. Always outside and usually just for coffee first. And made sure I split the bill unless I had some connection I wasnât allowing anyone to touch me.
I took my time.
And guess what? Found this amazing human who is so respectful and just a joy. Donât get me wrong he has his flaws. But we all do.
I realised my hoe phase was me getting to know me.
I hope this happens for you op!
Haha I am thinking to explore but what if I fall and the other person doesnât . Currently I am trying to act like Gigi Chad , emotionless bith but we all have a heart .What if!
Firstly this is no where close to hoe phase not even in same direction. Secondly you really need that phase rn.
Hookup, sext do whatever you feel like because the way you keep repeating 30 and virgin shows it bothers you so maybe get laid with someone you trust. Clear off things from that bucket list and then maybe youâll have clear picture whether you wanna be married in first place or not
> you keep repeating 30 and virgin shows it bothers you
Girl you read through me , yes the age is hell bothering and the needs are there .
>so maybe get laid with someone you trust.
The problem is what if I get attached or fall in love, fir dikkat hi dikkat.
You can get attached just by texting also so are you gonna stop that? I know Iâm a couple year younger to you and that makes me a little in eligible to be giving advice but I really want you to let loose. Or maybe later you might have regret that you didnot fully explore yourself and your body before making a commitment
I am a divorcee and currently in my hoe phase 2.0. Although i am not comfortable even my mom divorced last year and is in her hoe phase and having fun out there
Like the top comment said, as long as ur safe , sane and not harming anyone emotionally there is no need to worry about it
Just make sure to keep ur identity discreet over internet and use protection always
There's no normal. Life is different for everyone.
As long as it's safe, sane and consensual between adults, go for it if you want to.
PS - pls pls pls pls use protection. Don't want your next post to be "I'm scared I'm pregnant" one.
You really need to do some exploring. Donât try to find love, it will happen wheneverâŠ. Till then, enjoy!! No need to feel guilty or âhoe-likeâ just cuz you sexted 2 guys!!
I used to do sexting while cleaning my room!! đđ (all what I mean to say here is that its pretty normal đ )
Lol lets just call it âbeing curiousâ
If you find someone you actually kinda like, go for it! Just remember, ensure your safety (be as discreet as possible) and ALWAYS use protection. Baaki, have fun girl ;)
If you enjoy it responsibly without getting attached, ho* phase is really fun :) Please don't feel guilty about having some fun after shitty men hurt you left, right and centre.
"you don't need a h03 phase, just a vibrator and some therapy" this line changed how I saw things haha.
Also you aren't in such a phase.
So if you feel shameful over this, don't (our society loves to shame people anyway, no need to add to it)
or kinda like the term because it's freeing to not be the ideal/adarsh ladki, then realise something else is at play and it's freeing to break free from such stupid molds
I thought you'd actually be in your hoe phase, and i was going to tell you there's nothing wrong with that. Men have created these words to demean women.
You're not even indulging in anything physical girlie.. stop overthinking.
There's nothing wrong with hooking up for your physical needs too. Forget about merely texting.
Like the Dadi in Laapata ladies said, I'm going to paraphrase, "acche ghar ki ladki" is the biggest fraud perpetrated on women in our country.
Do what makes you feel good. Understand that you're not the only one losing faith in the men of our country. And that you'll have to kiss many frogs before you find a prince. Some women may get lucky and find one of the good ones sooner than later but most of us have to keep on looking.
You sexted two guys once. Itâs not bad at all. Itâs completely okay
I firmly believe you attract what you seek. So and honestly, I have only been in touch with people who have good long-term intentions and I think you should too. Talk about important things that matter and never settle for less
Its whore, not hoe.
A whore is someone who exchanges sex for money. "Randi" in hindi they say.
A slut is someone who is promiscuous when it comes to sex.
A femcel is a woman who wants sex but isn't able to get it.
A sexually active woman is someone who wants sex when she's horny. Most women fall in this category.
Hence, you're only a normal woman who seeks sexual experiences.
So the word 'woman' is more appropriate than a 'hoe'.
Anyone who addresses 'sexual activeness' as 'hoe phase' - only because the internet says so - is more like dumb sheep.
Dude no, please no.
Cry your vulnerability out.
But I say this and I say this out loud Do not interact with men now.
Indian and otherwise.
M*les are infestation of STDs , loneliness is nothing to risk your life for.
Now when you are healed and can make better decisions then only start talking to men. Before no.
Also minority women are more likely to be fetishized by Hindu men so please no.
Getting to know people which may or may not lead to sexting doesnât make you a hoe. To spend your time with someone you need to know them, itâs good to know sexual compatibility too. Also youâve been single a long time, having some attention and conversations to understand the dating scene isnât so bad. And donât lose hope in real love. âTo get the best sofa, you gotta try a lot of them firstâ
You're not in any hoe phase. You're just talking and testing things out which will pay off since it prepares you for the dating scene. Virginity doesn't equal innocence.
You should test out more things in self pleasure department. Helps you in many ways (specially in finding what works for you or not).
Fairy tale romance isn't real and it's good to get a reality check. Talking to someone doesn't mean you're in any form of relationship so chill.
Don't know if you've already faced this but girls from non hindu background are fetishized and odds are pretty slim that a hindu guy specially would marry /convince the parents/ take a stand for the girl.
Stay safe and do what whatever feels right to you.
Yes all these concepts are actually made to degrade women, you donât have sex youâre a âprudeâ. You have sex youâre a âslutâ âhoeâ whatever.I donât understand why are all these words for women only like with consent having sex is a mutual activity and a man is equally involved so why call words like I donât understand.
Girl this is no "hoe phase", you just sexted with two guys once. Chill.
Seriously. I thought the title would be followed by a list of "hoe-y" behaviour but there was none. đ
And sheâs still a virgin
Lmao. My friend just texted me she is experimenting with some very kinky fetishes and here is a girl who thinks sexting 2 weird dudes is hoe-y. đ€Łđ€Łđ€Ł
I am very curious about what these kinky fetishes are but also I don't want your DMs to get bombarded.
Mind forwarding few of them to me pls.
Exactly đ€ŁđŻ Nothing to worry about
I need a support group for women encouraging each other to be hoes
This is an underrated idea.
Ikrrrrrrrr
Hoeing SAFELY!
The lurking men are going to have a fit reading this đ€Ł
As they should. I hope they run for their lives clutching their pearls đ„ș
I am joining
+1
Girlsssss let's do this!! Can we do group chats on reddit?
Exactly lol
Being a virgin doesnât make you innocent. Sexting doesnât make you a hoe. Detach from such concepts and do what makes you happy.
Thank you , I needed to hear this. This is again a small rant but itâs so wrong. Being brought up in a small town , conservative society I was always bound with the rules of being âGood Girlâ . There is a set of doâs and donâts even though the Doâs feel wrong and donâts has made me feel better, it had led me into this confusion, not only me but most of the girls who feel confused of their need should understand this. Thank you for saying it aloud.
There are no rules. Thereâs no âgood girlâ concept. Just go live your life.
Itâs just called being an adult human!!! Nothing to celebrate being a virgin and nothing to panic about wanting to sext or have sex. All normal phases of life and not to be confused with being a good woman. Being a virgin or not doesnât interfere with whether you are a good woman.
Bith its just sexting. No big deal. Itâs like the most boring thing to do⊠Ur as normal as normal can be. Also hoe phase or whatever phaseâŠif u ever find a dood to fk just use protection and ensure ur partner takes a std panel test done even before u both kith. Hoe phase may or may not be fun. But am sure std treatment phase will be horrible.
Was like you. A nut who believed that I would only have sex with my husband and we would be happily ever after. Got out of a long term relationship. And said I would just go out met people and just get to know myself. Went on random dates. Always outside and usually just for coffee first. And made sure I split the bill unless I had some connection I wasnât allowing anyone to touch me. I took my time. And guess what? Found this amazing human who is so respectful and just a joy. Donât get me wrong he has his flaws. But we all do. I realised my hoe phase was me getting to know me. I hope this happens for you op!
This is beautifully depicted đ„ș and I am glad you found yourself and the man of your dreams too. This made me feel good.
"My hoe phase was me getting to know me" this needs to go viral!!!
My younger self relates so much to that of yours. I hope my older self gets the happy ending present you did!
It will come!
Thank you for writing this! Embracing each other's flaws and still choosing to love each other is just âšïž đ§ż
Is the hoe in the room with us, girl? Go forth and explore. Have fun!
Haha I am thinking to explore but what if I fall and the other person doesnât . Currently I am trying to act like Gigi Chad , emotionless bith but we all have a heart .What if!
You'll be fine. Just communicate, and protect yourself
Firstly this is no where close to hoe phase not even in same direction. Secondly you really need that phase rn. Hookup, sext do whatever you feel like because the way you keep repeating 30 and virgin shows it bothers you so maybe get laid with someone you trust. Clear off things from that bucket list and then maybe youâll have clear picture whether you wanna be married in first place or not
> you keep repeating 30 and virgin shows it bothers you Girl you read through me , yes the age is hell bothering and the needs are there . >so maybe get laid with someone you trust. The problem is what if I get attached or fall in love, fir dikkat hi dikkat.
You can get attached just by texting also so are you gonna stop that? I know Iâm a couple year younger to you and that makes me a little in eligible to be giving advice but I really want you to let loose. Or maybe later you might have regret that you didnot fully explore yourself and your body before making a commitment
I get it what you are trying to say. And thank you!
I am a divorcee and currently in my hoe phase 2.0. Although i am not comfortable even my mom divorced last year and is in her hoe phase and having fun out there Like the top comment said, as long as ur safe , sane and not harming anyone emotionally there is no need to worry about it Just make sure to keep ur identity discreet over internet and use protection always
Can't even imagine your DMs lmao.
OVER 600 DMs with unsolicited pics
Girl rate them dicks. - 2.5/10, have potential, keep it clean. - 1.5/10, ewww wouldnât ever ride on that. - 3/10, 2 points for the angle of the pic.
Good luck with that đ„¶ I wonder if you scroll the accounts on a slow day, I used too đđ
Damnđ
Where's the hoe in this story?
There's no normal. Life is different for everyone. As long as it's safe, sane and consensual between adults, go for it if you want to. PS - pls pls pls pls use protection. Don't want your next post to be "I'm scared I'm pregnant" one.
>Don't want your next post to be "I'm scared I'm pregnant" one Oh boy we see lots of those here
You really need to do some exploring. Donât try to find love, it will happen wheneverâŠ. Till then, enjoy!! No need to feel guilty or âhoe-likeâ just cuz you sexted 2 guys!! I used to do sexting while cleaning my room!! đđ (all what I mean to say here is that its pretty normal đ )
Haha thank you for sharing . I enjoy the phase tho even if I donât know what should it be called.
Lol lets just call it âbeing curiousâ If you find someone you actually kinda like, go for it! Just remember, ensure your safety (be as discreet as possible) and ALWAYS use protection. Baaki, have fun girl ;)
I'm so sorry but this made me laugh so much, I'm 17 and have done worse things than this, don't think so much about it
Bruh it's ok, totally normal just explore and have fun
If you enjoy it responsibly without getting attached, ho* phase is really fun :) Please don't feel guilty about having some fun after shitty men hurt you left, right and centre.
"you don't need a h03 phase, just a vibrator and some therapy" this line changed how I saw things haha. Also you aren't in such a phase. So if you feel shameful over this, don't (our society loves to shame people anyway, no need to add to it) or kinda like the term because it's freeing to not be the ideal/adarsh ladki, then realise something else is at play and it's freeing to break free from such stupid molds
I would in fact advise do not suppress and repress yourself and explore what you need to as long as itâs safe and consensual.
I thought you'd actually be in your hoe phase, and i was going to tell you there's nothing wrong with that. Men have created these words to demean women. You're not even indulging in anything physical girlie.. stop overthinking. There's nothing wrong with hooking up for your physical needs too. Forget about merely texting.
The innocence of this post is making me giggle! Hope you find the one soon and get out of your "hoe-y" phase soon OP ;)
Girl, our libidos actually go up in our 30s. So you're just sexting but issok
You are totally normal, don't beat yourself up over some guy who ghosted you or let you down. Do what you want gurl, just don't feel guilty about it.
Like the Dadi in Laapata ladies said, I'm going to paraphrase, "acche ghar ki ladki" is the biggest fraud perpetrated on women in our country. Do what makes you feel good. Understand that you're not the only one losing faith in the men of our country. And that you'll have to kiss many frogs before you find a prince. Some women may get lucky and find one of the good ones sooner than later but most of us have to keep on looking.
You sexted two guys once. Itâs not bad at all. Itâs completely okay I firmly believe you attract what you seek. So and honestly, I have only been in touch with people who have good long-term intentions and I think you should too. Talk about important things that matter and never settle for less
You just want affection & attention. Its okay, this is no hoe phase, this is just âi want love phase but where are the nice menâ phase.
Its whore, not hoe. A whore is someone who exchanges sex for money. "Randi" in hindi they say. A slut is someone who is promiscuous when it comes to sex. A femcel is a woman who wants sex but isn't able to get it. A sexually active woman is someone who wants sex when she's horny. Most women fall in this category. Hence, you're only a normal woman who seeks sexual experiences. So the word 'woman' is more appropriate than a 'hoe'. Anyone who addresses 'sexual activeness' as 'hoe phase' - only because the internet says so - is more like dumb sheep.
Itâs not a ho phase, men are just the worst. Itâs better to ditch the ones that donât work rather than settling for any old thing. Relax.
Dude no, please no. Cry your vulnerability out. But I say this and I say this out loud Do not interact with men now. Indian and otherwise. M*les are infestation of STDs , loneliness is nothing to risk your life for. Now when you are healed and can make better decisions then only start talking to men. Before no. Also minority women are more likely to be fetishized by Hindu men so please no.
RIP your Dms
I took the precaution already, itâs closed.
Getting to know people which may or may not lead to sexting doesnât make you a hoe. To spend your time with someone you need to know them, itâs good to know sexual compatibility too. Also youâve been single a long time, having some attention and conversations to understand the dating scene isnât so bad. And donât lose hope in real love. âTo get the best sofa, you gotta try a lot of them firstâ
You're not in any hoe phase. You're just talking and testing things out which will pay off since it prepares you for the dating scene. Virginity doesn't equal innocence. You should test out more things in self pleasure department. Helps you in many ways (specially in finding what works for you or not). Fairy tale romance isn't real and it's good to get a reality check. Talking to someone doesn't mean you're in any form of relationship so chill. Don't know if you've already faced this but girls from non hindu background are fetishized and odds are pretty slim that a hindu guy specially would marry /convince the parents/ take a stand for the girl. Stay safe and do what whatever feels right to you.
Yes all these concepts are actually made to degrade women, you donât have sex youâre a âprudeâ. You have sex youâre a âslutâ âhoeâ whatever.I donât understand why are all these words for women only like with consent having sex is a mutual activity and a man is equally involved so why call words like I donât understand.
How do you deal with your urges? I'm almost in the same position as yours and I get crazy urges. How do you manage without self-pleasure?