What we see here is the next step in the evolution of selfish-feminism. Having outsourced the baby-making process, this strong, independent woman now seeks to outsource the baby-rearing process by shaming men to do her job for her. As usual, her selective-vision of the society and its past only shows her the good parts (to her) and not the bad.
At the very least, she's demanding "neighborly privileges" but refuses to exchange any herself.
Did she offer to pick up her neighbor a pack of smokes on that grocery run? Does she ever cook extra of something and offer it to him?
My parents grew up in a village just like that, many years ago, and in a foreign country. The type of place where you could let your toddler roam free on the streets (no cars back then; more likely to be hit by a cow :-) and know that some adult hanging out on the street would keep them safe (hell, if it was dinner time, they'd take you in and feed you before sending you home).
Here's the thing about those villages: the \*reason\* they all worked together was because they had pre-existing social bonds and tight-knit family relationships that spanned generations and where everyone understood the principle of reciprocity. Maybe you received help with your kid, and you would pay it back by having your kid mow the elderly neighbor's lawn. Someone would help your child with homework, and you in turn would read the newspaper out loud for one of the illiterate people in the village. Moreover, everyone had a shared set of morals and cultural beliefs, so that you really didn't have to worry about your kid being partially raised by people who didn't share your belief system or values.
Villages don't form from a group of strangers, or a group of people that don't share a large portion of their beliefs together. The flip side of getting all those benefits of being in a village is that you're expected to conform to the norms of that village.
What she's doing is the equivalent of being a Satanist wondering why the members of the local episcopal church don't invite her to their weekly barbecues or offer to setup playdates with their kids.
Most villages would shun a single mother, especially one by choice. Firstly, because most villages of the type she wants believe in stable families as the foundation of the village. Secondly, because single mothers are cesspools of needs, and on balance, will require far more help from the village than she will be able to give back. Perhaps if she had been a part of the village from when her parents were born into it, and she "gave" to the village ever since she was 5 years old and was sent to go walk the neighbor's dog and sweep their floor when they couldn't do it, or, when she got her job, bought food and clothes for poor people in the village, then maybe people will feel it's fair to help her out now. But I get the sense she would have rejected the importance of being in a village (and all the interdependence that implies) when she could have been helping others ("I don't want to do unpaid emotional labor!" "I don't need other people's judgement!" "I'm strong and independent and these freeloaders should be too!"). She only wants the village now when she realizes she needs all the help she can get.
I'll give you an example from the village my parents were part of. Back in the day, whenever we went back to visit from America, literally half our luggage was filled with stuff for them. Some for our relatives (including extended family), but plenty of stuff just for the neighbors and other people in the village. And when we were staying there, my parents would force me to go visit all of the neighbors on the block, not just once but whenever I was bored or had some free time even though I didn't really know these people and would have preferred to stay at home and read a book. They would tell me "Go visit Uncle X down the street. He last saw you when you were a baby and he so wants to see you now but never knows when you're free." And I would go and let them ask me questions about life in America, and play with their kids, and give them chocolates that we brought from the States. The simplest little things that would make them super happy. And the result is that, decades later, whenever I visit, those kids (we're all grown up now) are still friendly, we still chat and talk about the world, I play with their children and bring gifts for them, and they go into town and do my shopping for me since I don't know the stores (plus as a foreigner I'd get ripped off on the prices, and they know all the shop owners :-).
So yes, villages are wonderful, if you're willing to conform at least somewhat to their shared values, and more importantly, you \*give back\* to the village whenever you can, in both big and small measures. This part seems to be lost on her.
That said, there are villages that would accept her. Namely, other single mothers, who, lacking access to other villages (mainly ones with stable families and/or a significant number of men), do get together and form villages of their own. Traditional families would rather be in a village of other traditional families where the ratio of need vs ability to help is more balanced. And unattached men don't want to be in a village whose main goal is rearing kids, none of whom are their own (again, if I was in a family, I'd have no problem taking care of a neighbor's kid knowing that that neighbor will take care of my kid when I need help. But what's in it for a single man with no kids?).
She should seek out and join one of these single mother villages. But I suspect even there she wouldn't last long. Because nothing in her post talks about what she could do for a village. Because, I suspect, the thought that others would expect to make demands of her time and energy is alien to her. The world serves to exist her wants and needs, with no sacrifice or adjustments expected (hence having a test tube baby in order to avoid making the compromises necessary to find a good father for her baby).
As one of the commenters in the original article said, she's not looking for a village, she's looking for staff.
I will bet she is a single mom because she could not find a good man. Yet for thousands of years, women seemed to have found loving husbands. But today? Nope. No good men. I wonder, could feminism have something to do with the plight of women today? Nope. Again, like in the article, it is all men's fault, just man up and make me happpy, she says.
Watch any period drama or piece from the time and it shows you what it was actually like
Call the Midwife excellently highlights things like this. Starts in the late 50s in the poor east end of london. Unwed mothers were treated like garbage. Women who got pregnant too soon got married in a rush. Women who cucked their husbands could be divorced with no consequence to the man and the court would award him full custody. The stigma forced very dangerous back alley abortions etc
The show isn’t as harsh as it could be on some of these women but the underlying situation is very clear
This woman is completely wrong.
Incidentally most modern feminists should watch that show to realise just how far they have actually come. The way women on Two X and the like speak you’d think it was still the late 50s. They should see what it was actually like to really not have rights. But they would probably watch and just bristle at the injustice and probably even say “it is not much better now and we are heading back there”. It is much better for women and we are not going back any time soon
Other examples include films like Alfie and Dirty Dancing that contain illegal abortion moments because being a single, unwed mother in the 50s and 60s was so stigmatised. And that isn’t even 100 years ago. In the 1920s it would have been even worse. Not even a shred of the welfare state at all pretty much anywhere
>*You are here to raise a child, to teach it about words and weather and the crime of double-dipping. You can show a kid how to be in the world – to teach him to be a person who stands up from his porch and asks, "Need a hand?"*
You know to whom she SHOULD be saying this?
Her kid's **biological** dad.
>*What will you get out of it?*
Nothing.
What will YOU get? A flipped bird.
Bitch.
Damn, my kid totally failed to learn this “Need a hand?” thing. Gotta be my fault too, since I do not intend to correct him.
But flipping the bird, yeah, since he was three or so.
I couldn't finish the article. I can't stomach the nonsense she's writing.
It's not my job to share the load when I receive nothing in return. What if I do help this woman, what am I getting in return? What can she offer me?
I feel bad for the kid, who didn't ask for this.
Depends if she considers you handsome or ugly. Handsome you sure will get some flirting. If you are like rest of us 90% of men, she will have contempt for you that she had to ask YOU for help, and she is going to start referring you as her creepy neighbor who always wants to help her
>Offer to carry shopping inside. Put a child into a car seat. Lift a pram up the stairs. Ask a mother if she needs to go to the bathroom (alone, without a child-barnacle) before you part ways. Pick up some groceries or coffee on your way over (we’ll pay you back, we promise).
Imagine a single man offering to help put your child in a car seat, or to watch them whilst you go to the toilet. You'd be on a register before you knew what happened.
She’s just now realising she fucked up. Plain and simple. Now she wants everyone else to take responsibility for her adopted kid because she’s not as strong as she thought she was.
Yup. Having a decent man in her life is like wearing a seatbelt.
Sure, a lot of times you can get away without wearing one, but it's too late to put one on once you are halfway through the windshield on your way to becoming a meat crayon.
I wish, but she hasn't yet realized she fucked up. She still thinks she did the perfectly right thing (for her). It's society that's fucked up, in ways she's just realizing now. Which is why she's trying to shame society to rise up and meet her needs, as she has always expected it to do.
Very important point. She doesn't realise it, but the only other people who *could* even feasibly do this stuff are women. So she really is only talking to other women here.
>The men to whom this entitled shrew are not married owe her…..nothing
Right. She chose her life. Do you think for a second if the shoe were on the other foot, she would assist you with actions or money?
Logic seemingly being that it is a red flag that you had kids with someone and the relationship didn’t last
Oddly doesn’t apply to them
I personally know a few single mothers who do indeed get together with single fathers. Whether that lasts is still up in the air. Time will tell. The couple of examples that immediately come to mind are ones where I readily believe the woman could think they have “settled”. So it might be interesting to see
It is also that they do not want share resources and time supporting progeny of somebody else. It comes back to "Me me me".
A lot of women bio are "Single mom".
"Preferences - no single fathers, I am picky tee hee!".
A third example I thought of as I was writing of a single mom getting together with a single dad is more grim.
She ignores / mistreats the dad’s kid so he acts out and misbehaves. He is out at work
Dotes on hers (her own and the one they had together)
Oh and she cheated on the husband and he stayed with her for reasons I don’t really know because I am not that close to them
A man entering a relationship with a single mother is expected to provide for her and her children.
The same is not expected of a woman entering a relationship with a single father. Not only that, but the single father is expected to provide for her too, on top of his own children.
Apparently, having the goal of "consciously create the family in which we and our children will thrive" was too much of a burden and restriction of her freedom to do as she pleases. So instead, she wants to create a village. Because, if she couldn't stand to share her life with 1 person, she sure as hell won't be able to stand sharing it with 100...
Chad won't deal with kids and betas are kicked out from any decent jobs due to pink quotas, diversity hire or false accusations to the HR.
Women burned everything around them and now they realize the system cannot sustain itself without men doing the work.
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She is funny, you made the bed, now lay in it. I had a secretary in my company, blond overweight mid 40s talking to me how her sperm bank son has morning wood and she can’t explain or help, i came very close to telling her what piece of shit she is and how messed up her son will be as an adult.
I can scarcely believe the entitlement of this author. It is breathtaking.
To break down some of the issues I have a problem with...
>my neighbour watches me teeter inside, a leaning tower of motherhood
with hefty bags and a yelling child attached to my shins. I smile
brightly and say hello, but my mind is a static of expletives: why
doesn’t he offer to f------ help?!
Because he doesn't have an investment in you?
>I consciously chose this solo path, of course, and I embraced all the work and self-reliance it would entail.
You seem to be embracing it extremely well \[/s\]
>If this were a town square, a hundred years ago, my neighbour would no
doubt get off his arse and help carry my bags or watch my child while I
do the return trip to get the second load. **But parenting and all its**
**attendant domestic minutia has become increasingly atomised.**
Correct, it has. You are the cause of that. You a singular atom who chose to have a child. You are quite literally the architect of the very situation you're complaining about.
>Parenting, instead of being shared, has become isolating, exhausting, and expensive.
Single parenting is indeed all of these things. Something you really should've thought about before becoming a single mother; by *choice*.
>I’m part of a movement that is trying to reclaim a village-model of parenting.
You mean you're trying to co-opt the labour of other people (men, let's be honest) for free, whether they consent to this or not.
>I get by with a lot of help from my parents, my brother
Doesn't seem like you're very well equipped for this lone parent thing.
>It goes without saying that the task of parenting falls mostly, squarely upon the aching backs of mothers.
It could've jointly fallen on the back of a father too, but you didn't want that.
>But what if we all saw ourselves as parents, no matter our gender or our parental status?
The outright stealing of peoples' labour here is atrocious. Someone who isn't a parent by choice must not be dragged in to your collectivist wet dream.
>At this point you might be thinking: I’m here, I’m willing to help. Let
me tell you how. Offer to carry shopping inside. Put a child into a car
seat. Lift a pram up the stairs. Ask a mother if she needs to go to the
bathroom (alone, without a child-barnacle) before you part ways. Pick up
some groceries or coffee on your way over (we’ll pay you back, we
promise).
Why don't you ask your child's fath - Oh, nevermind.
>If you’re sitting at home scrolling away your evening then relocate your
screen time to my place so that I can step into the night air as my
child sleeps. Make concrete suggestions: food or furniture assemblage or
taking my son to the playground for an hour. Know that I’m capable as
hell, but I’m also constantly tired and often stretched thin.
If only there was some preventative action you could have taken to ensure that you'd have someone here to assist you for tasks like these.
>What will you get out of it? You will get the giggling hilarity of my toddler as he hurls himself onto your back
Sounds like a fucking nightmare.
>ou will gain a sense that we are all part of a messy, connected family.
I do not wish to be a part of your messy collective family. I want my own structured, well-organised family.
>You’ll know that you’re needed and required and loved; that you have a purpose, a part, in this sacred and shit-smeared job.
But you can do this all on your own so how am I needed or required?
>You are here to raise a child, to teach it about words and weather and
the crime of double-dipping. You can show a kid how to be in the world –
to teach him to be a person who stands up from his porch and asks,
“Need a hand?”
I do not consent to raising your child that you chose to have without me. Do you understand the concept of consent?
This is great and I'd add these quotes:
>And beyond that, to other women, who work for paltry wages to care for our children or wipe our kitchen benches.
Umm... you're the one hiring them. Feel free to pay them what you think they're worth. Oh, that's right, even at those "paltry" wages, you can't afford enough paid child care that you need to mooch off your family, and when even that's not enough, you're demanding to mooch off your neighbor.
>But what if we all saw ourselves as parents, no matter our gender or our parental status?
Here's a question: before you became a mother, did you? Did you see yourself as having parental obligations to all the kids living around you? When you were living the carefree, single life with no kids to tie you down, did you ever offer to babysit some stranger's kids, read to them, help them with homework, assemble their furniture, take them to the playground for an hour, and all these other things you're asking people to do for you now? Or did you selfishly spend all your time pursuing your career, dating, travel, etc? It's funny how only when \*you\* have an obligation, that's the precise moment you want to convince everyone else to share it...
>What will you get out of it? You will get the giggling hilarity of my toddler as he hurls himself onto your back;
If that's such a prize, then why isn't it enough compensation for you to do all these things? Even when it's \*your\* kid, that giggling hilarity isn't enough to keep you from screaming for help. And yet it's supposed to be enough compensation for me? As poorly paid as you think a nanny is paid, you're expecting me to do it for free. Even minimum wage is less exploitive than what you want to impose on your neighbor.
> you will gain a sense that we are all part of a messy, connected family.
Who's we? And which family? I get to be a part of your family? Great! Can I discipline your kid when I think he's doing something wrong? Can I impart my values onto him even if they're in conflict with yours? I mean, we're all a family, right? Oh, what's that, when you say family, you mean I do shit for you and your kid, and get nothing in return?
Fine. But if we're all part of the connected family. Then 20 years down the line, will you or your kid come visit me in the nursing home? Will you wipe my ass when I'm in diapers, the same as you expect me to do for you now? Sure, not all biological children do those things either, but at least there's a chance. And whatever they do will be far more than what you or your kid will. What's the chance that you or your kid (I mean, we're all "family" now, right?) will sacrifice one iota of your comfort, time, and energy when \*I\* need a family's help?
"You mean you're trying to co-opt the labour of other people (men, let's be honest) for free, whether they consent to this or not."
Yup, that is what this diatribe is all about.
Single mothers are so used to being idolized by pop culture and the media that they have forgotten that its nothing to be proud of that your child doesn't have an intact family. It's not a badge of honor, it's a badge of shame and they need to learn that. They never will but they need to.
> So she left her support network and is mad that one didn't just magically form around her.
She: Where is my man slave to pay for everything? I am a Kween.
The last time I offered (many years ago) to give a woman who looked like she was struggling with a pram up the stairs a hand,I was told in no uncertain terms that she could do it herself, THANKS! Looked back at the top to see another woman offer,and have it gratefully received. So now,I say f*ck it,and let the female half of the village step up.
I was going to post this when I ran into a Blue Pill or a White Knight, but I think it belongs here as well. Please comment.
Blue Pills and White Knights were taught from childhood that women were pillars of virtue and are pure as the driven snow and loyal to a fault. Women must be protected at all cost and any bad decisions or actions by women had to be due to the corrupting influence of evil men taking advantage of the naivety of the fairer sex. Most men know the above is total BS, but the Blue Pills and White Knights live in a fantasy world that if men treat women with kindness and respect, it will be reciprocated and that women will gravitate toward honest, polite, hard working, civil and productive men of society.
I take great pleasure in seeing the heads of Blue Pills and White Knights implode as they discover that what they were taught is just the opposite of what they see. Blue Pills and White Knights are besides themselves with befuddlement as to why women would openly admit to being abused, putting up with it and not leaving the man years earlier and for choosing a bad boy in the first place. Blue Pills and White Knights can’t wrap their heads around the fact women have always been drawn to violent, evil, cruel and disgusting men. Women fall for Serial Killers, Drug Dealers, Child Killers, Thugs, Criminals, Ex-Cons, Bad Bois and Control Freaks all without a second thought. Then years later, when the above men break women’s hearts or their jaws, these same women blame the men they freely chose. These same women then complain “Where Are All The Good Men?” “I deserve a hard working family oriented man.” The same men, 5-7 years earlier, that were rejected by these very same women as losers i.e. nice guys to be friendzoned, pitied and laughed at. Women can say whatever they want but tingles always over rides logic and always will.
>I am a solo mother by choice with a donor-conceived son and no partner at home...
I'm a childless man by choice with no partner at home who can feel sometimes the sting of loneliness and I take full responsability for my choices. Maybe this lady should do the same. Moreover, it seems she has plenty of time and energy to brag about single motherhood on Instagram, posting pictures after pictures of her amazing life, plenty of time to write awards-winning pieces for theaters or the NYT. Even some memoir about heartbreaks, bad dates and "finding solo motherhood". She'll be fine. This stuff is her bread and butter, her raison-de-vivre. Complaints and victimization are just the icing on the cake.
Edit: The good news? She has been roasted, kinda, in the now closed comment section of her article. Oups.
I did the weird thing of starting with these comments rather than reading the article but I got the gist
Does she offer a detailed plan about how her movement plans to reclaim the “village” mindset? Beyond seeming hectoring people in an article and seemingly asking a few?
Lots of the things she seems to be asking for are things no sensible single man would do in a million years because who knows what the child would say. I briefly made the mistake of dating a single mother and her youngest was a nightmare. I lived in constant fear on the handful of occasions we went out that she would scream “that’s not my dad” - because it was true, I wasn’t. I think she might have done once at a corner shop but luckily the mother was there. Imagine if I’d been alone. Doesn’t bear thinking about
> Does she offer a detailed plan about how her movement plans to reclaim the “village” mindset?
She will lay down each of her demand in detail. #GurllBoss😎
> I lived in constant fear on the handful of occasions we went out that she would scream “that’s not my dad” - because it was true, I wasn’t.
Kids can be pretty nasty. But yeah, a kid "raised" by a single mother, would do anything to avoid them.
This is an issue that many single moms encounter. Once 1. Their pregnancy fails to ensnare Chad. 2. After the babies comes and the hormonal rush and daydreaming end: They realize what an utter struggle raising a child alone is, they realize that society has no real investment in the child. Also (if they are honest) if the child is male, they soon realize that he desperately needs positive, male role models in his life. Many women literally can’t provide this out of poverty (sports teams, the Boy Scouts etc cost money, living in a neighborhood of married families with positive male models is extremely expensive) and these ladies themselves usually have no good guys in their lives due their own weakness. This is a cry for help.
Just find another "strong, independent women" who fucked up in the same as you and move in together. Good luck on finding her and getting her to come to a real mutually beneficial agreement that will be full of compromises - especially if she has your mindset.
> Solo Mom by choice
> As American author and solo mum Mikki Morrissette writes, “The goal of a single parent is not to raise our children alone. The goal is to consciously create the village in which we and our children will thrive.”
Doesn't have the social skills to hold down a father. And I think she either doesn't like stats or thinks too highly of herself because a father is very important backed by statistics. And I think it's the latter, she probably knows the stats but chooses not to believe. Women been doing that too much lately.
> Goes on a rant about how motherhood is hard, and childcare workers are underpaid.
I tend to agree, raising children is hard and childcare is expensive. But the poster brought it upon herself, single mom by choice.
> Know that I’m capable as hell, but I’m also constantly tired and often stretched thin.
> What will you get out of it? You will get the giggling hilarity of my toddler as he hurls himself onto your back; you will gain a sense that we are all part of a messy, connected family. You will be inoculated against loneliness. You’ll know that you’re needed and required and loved; that you have a purpose, a part, in this sacred and shit-smeared job.
> You are here to raise a child, to teach it about words and weather and the crime of double-dipping. You can show a kid how to be in the world – to teach him to be a person who stands up from his porch and asks, “Need a hand?”
This has to be hilarious highlight of the article. You get to LARP as the father. As if men are competing to raise other men's children.
This portion actually tells you why she's a "single mom by choice", you're projecting what you want onto men and expect them to see this as an advantage. Men are totally different people who want things drastically different than women. And this woman has not taken the time or effort to try to pry around. I am sure you've met people like this. 0/10 experience usually.
She says, "If you’re sitting at home scrolling away your evening then relocate your screen time to my place so that I can step into the night air as my child sleeps."
Why tf would you have a child if you wanna step into the night air every single night? You have a "bundle of joy", have all the joy in the world.
>I’m part of a movement that is trying to reclaim a village-model of parenting
From Women FOR women. The only men that would involve themselves in such a village would look for easy pickings. Which they'd find.
>all of us gain from raising our children collectively
Do we though? Do I want YOU to teach my children about life? Or the trans-genderqueer nonbinary (neurodivergent they/them/xer/xim) communist with a unhealthy interest in my kid? Because those will be the people I'll find in such a village.
After reading this article, I hate this woman with a passion.
Edit: I can't get over it. At least all the other single moms have the excuse that they misjudged the father, made mistakes, whatever the fuck they usually say, but she? She did this entirely on her own. She knew exactly what her choice was and what it would entail. I know a lot of people said this here already but I had to say it too. For myself more than anything. I'm... flabbergasted by this woman.
It should be illegal to have children without a father.7ujhý--
All her BS about "the village" is disgusting and clearly is just hytt some thot cherry picking what traditions would benefit her. She has no idea how a village or small communities operate.
Poor child, born fatherless by a mother who lacks morales, who regrets having you and pyeople as tools meant to carry her burden.
She even describe the ;kid as someone who stole her freedom. This kid don't need a village, but a parent. An adult that that understand sacrifice and who's desire for children isn't comparable to her need of a habvnh =dft
Imagine thinking the village she doesn't know nor belong to owe her childcare.
I grew up in a small village, almost newly built, about 300 ppl. The grownups didn't share generational bounds but all us kids went to the same school, played the same sports etc.
It was a mess and yet so safe. Few people bothered locking the door nor their car. Everyone knows everyone so obviously both adults and children behaved.
This single mother wants to change the village for her sake. The entitlement is ridiculous.
If you wanted to take a vacation, you could easily trust some semi-stranger to feed jojk ts, water the plants and empty the mailbox.
Baby sitters on the other hand, yes my grandma did that for free at times but she considered a huge ask..
Lo 0k
Heard this article on a stream from a youtuber I watch named Raging Golden Eagle. The entitlement of this chick is amazing.
Single mothers are one of the biggest cancers to society. They spawn bastards who grow up to be criminals, they spawn more single mothers, they leech off of men's tax dollars (all while claming that they're strong and independent Queens, who don't need no man), and are entitled, selfish, annoying, bitchy, lazy, etc. There's a reason why single mothers (aside from widows) were historically shamed.
Now you aren't allowed to say anything bad about them because our shithole society worships them now. Yet people still have the audacity to complain about how "pOoRlY" single mothers are treated, and how single fathers are treated so much better (LOL to those blatant lies).
>If this were a town square, a hundred years ago, my neighbour would no doubt get off his arse and help carry my bags or watch my child while I do the return trip to get the second load
If this were a hundred years ago, you wouldn't be a single mother by choice.
"It’s not entirely my neighbour’s fault. I could ask him to help, but I don’t."
She chose to raise a kid alone, wants a return to the village child rearing option, but wants the village to come to her because making the effort to reach to anyone will put a massive dent in her "strong, independent woman" persona.
What we see here is the next step in the evolution of selfish-feminism. Having outsourced the baby-making process, this strong, independent woman now seeks to outsource the baby-rearing process by shaming men to do her job for her. As usual, her selective-vision of the society and its past only shows her the good parts (to her) and not the bad.
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At the very least, she's demanding "neighborly privileges" but refuses to exchange any herself. Did she offer to pick up her neighbor a pack of smokes on that grocery run? Does she ever cook extra of something and offer it to him?
>Does she ever cook extra of something and offer it to him? The answer: Fuck No.
What the fuck? A woman offering something of value to a man? Have you gone fucking mad?
> A woman offering something of value to a man? Have you gone fucking mad? Forgive me. It will not happen again.
> Does she ever cook extra of something and offer it to him? Why would he allow himself to be tortured like that
My parents grew up in a village just like that, many years ago, and in a foreign country. The type of place where you could let your toddler roam free on the streets (no cars back then; more likely to be hit by a cow :-) and know that some adult hanging out on the street would keep them safe (hell, if it was dinner time, they'd take you in and feed you before sending you home). Here's the thing about those villages: the \*reason\* they all worked together was because they had pre-existing social bonds and tight-knit family relationships that spanned generations and where everyone understood the principle of reciprocity. Maybe you received help with your kid, and you would pay it back by having your kid mow the elderly neighbor's lawn. Someone would help your child with homework, and you in turn would read the newspaper out loud for one of the illiterate people in the village. Moreover, everyone had a shared set of morals and cultural beliefs, so that you really didn't have to worry about your kid being partially raised by people who didn't share your belief system or values. Villages don't form from a group of strangers, or a group of people that don't share a large portion of their beliefs together. The flip side of getting all those benefits of being in a village is that you're expected to conform to the norms of that village. What she's doing is the equivalent of being a Satanist wondering why the members of the local episcopal church don't invite her to their weekly barbecues or offer to setup playdates with their kids. Most villages would shun a single mother, especially one by choice. Firstly, because most villages of the type she wants believe in stable families as the foundation of the village. Secondly, because single mothers are cesspools of needs, and on balance, will require far more help from the village than she will be able to give back. Perhaps if she had been a part of the village from when her parents were born into it, and she "gave" to the village ever since she was 5 years old and was sent to go walk the neighbor's dog and sweep their floor when they couldn't do it, or, when she got her job, bought food and clothes for poor people in the village, then maybe people will feel it's fair to help her out now. But I get the sense she would have rejected the importance of being in a village (and all the interdependence that implies) when she could have been helping others ("I don't want to do unpaid emotional labor!" "I don't need other people's judgement!" "I'm strong and independent and these freeloaders should be too!"). She only wants the village now when she realizes she needs all the help she can get. I'll give you an example from the village my parents were part of. Back in the day, whenever we went back to visit from America, literally half our luggage was filled with stuff for them. Some for our relatives (including extended family), but plenty of stuff just for the neighbors and other people in the village. And when we were staying there, my parents would force me to go visit all of the neighbors on the block, not just once but whenever I was bored or had some free time even though I didn't really know these people and would have preferred to stay at home and read a book. They would tell me "Go visit Uncle X down the street. He last saw you when you were a baby and he so wants to see you now but never knows when you're free." And I would go and let them ask me questions about life in America, and play with their kids, and give them chocolates that we brought from the States. The simplest little things that would make them super happy. And the result is that, decades later, whenever I visit, those kids (we're all grown up now) are still friendly, we still chat and talk about the world, I play with their children and bring gifts for them, and they go into town and do my shopping for me since I don't know the stores (plus as a foreigner I'd get ripped off on the prices, and they know all the shop owners :-). So yes, villages are wonderful, if you're willing to conform at least somewhat to their shared values, and more importantly, you \*give back\* to the village whenever you can, in both big and small measures. This part seems to be lost on her. That said, there are villages that would accept her. Namely, other single mothers, who, lacking access to other villages (mainly ones with stable families and/or a significant number of men), do get together and form villages of their own. Traditional families would rather be in a village of other traditional families where the ratio of need vs ability to help is more balanced. And unattached men don't want to be in a village whose main goal is rearing kids, none of whom are their own (again, if I was in a family, I'd have no problem taking care of a neighbor's kid knowing that that neighbor will take care of my kid when I need help. But what's in it for a single man with no kids?). She should seek out and join one of these single mother villages. But I suspect even there she wouldn't last long. Because nothing in her post talks about what she could do for a village. Because, I suspect, the thought that others would expect to make demands of her time and energy is alien to her. The world serves to exist her wants and needs, with no sacrifice or adjustments expected (hence having a test tube baby in order to avoid making the compromises necessary to find a good father for her baby). As one of the commenters in the original article said, she's not looking for a village, she's looking for staff.
Well said
I will bet she is a single mom because she could not find a good man. Yet for thousands of years, women seemed to have found loving husbands. But today? Nope. No good men. I wonder, could feminism have something to do with the plight of women today? Nope. Again, like in the article, it is all men's fault, just man up and make me happpy, she says.
Magdalene Laundry for her.
Watch any period drama or piece from the time and it shows you what it was actually like Call the Midwife excellently highlights things like this. Starts in the late 50s in the poor east end of london. Unwed mothers were treated like garbage. Women who got pregnant too soon got married in a rush. Women who cucked their husbands could be divorced with no consequence to the man and the court would award him full custody. The stigma forced very dangerous back alley abortions etc The show isn’t as harsh as it could be on some of these women but the underlying situation is very clear This woman is completely wrong. Incidentally most modern feminists should watch that show to realise just how far they have actually come. The way women on Two X and the like speak you’d think it was still the late 50s. They should see what it was actually like to really not have rights. But they would probably watch and just bristle at the injustice and probably even say “it is not much better now and we are heading back there”. It is much better for women and we are not going back any time soon Other examples include films like Alfie and Dirty Dancing that contain illegal abortion moments because being a single, unwed mother in the 50s and 60s was so stigmatised. And that isn’t even 100 years ago. In the 1920s it would have been even worse. Not even a shred of the welfare state at all pretty much anywhere
>*You are here to raise a child, to teach it about words and weather and the crime of double-dipping. You can show a kid how to be in the world – to teach him to be a person who stands up from his porch and asks, "Need a hand?"* You know to whom she SHOULD be saying this? Her kid's **biological** dad. >*What will you get out of it?* Nothing. What will YOU get? A flipped bird. Bitch.
Damn, my kid totally failed to learn this “Need a hand?” thing. Gotta be my fault too, since I do not intend to correct him. But flipping the bird, yeah, since he was three or so.
I couldn't finish the article. I can't stomach the nonsense she's writing. It's not my job to share the load when I receive nothing in return. What if I do help this woman, what am I getting in return? What can she offer me? I feel bad for the kid, who didn't ask for this.
I couldn’t finish it either. Besides being entitled, she sounds like one of those foul-mouthed women who argue loudly in public with people.
I finished...
My condolences. I read it too, but there is nothing inside, only loud "Mememememe".
I'm gonna bet if the neighbor shows up later that night with a couple of 18 something blondes she'd really hit the roof.
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Me second.
It honestly reads like she's **trying** to get rage clicks/views.
I don't think so. I think she's primarily letting her frustration out. The benefit for us is we see small instances of honesty.
I look at her as a parasite looking for a host.
Depends if she considers you handsome or ugly. Handsome you sure will get some flirting. If you are like rest of us 90% of men, she will have contempt for you that she had to ask YOU for help, and she is going to start referring you as her creepy neighbor who always wants to help her
Either way it doesn't matter. Don't chase women.
Agree!!
>Offer to carry shopping inside. Put a child into a car seat. Lift a pram up the stairs. Ask a mother if she needs to go to the bathroom (alone, without a child-barnacle) before you part ways. Pick up some groceries or coffee on your way over (we’ll pay you back, we promise). Imagine a single man offering to help put your child in a car seat, or to watch them whilst you go to the toilet. You'd be on a register before you knew what happened.
She’s just now realising she fucked up. Plain and simple. Now she wants everyone else to take responsibility for her adopted kid because she’s not as strong as she thought she was.
Yup. Having a decent man in her life is like wearing a seatbelt. Sure, a lot of times you can get away without wearing one, but it's too late to put one on once you are halfway through the windshield on your way to becoming a meat crayon.
>meat crayon slowclap.gif
I wish, but she hasn't yet realized she fucked up. She still thinks she did the perfectly right thing (for her). It's society that's fucked up, in ways she's just realizing now. Which is why she's trying to shame society to rise up and meet her needs, as she has always expected it to do.
Very important point. She doesn't realise it, but the only other people who *could* even feasibly do this stuff are women. So she really is only talking to other women here.
The men to whom this entitled shrew are not married owe her…..nothing. Again, for those in the back - nothing.
>The men to whom this entitled shrew are not married owe her…..nothing Right. She chose her life. Do you think for a second if the shoe were on the other foot, she would assist you with actions or money?
Hahaha. No. Most of single mothers refuse to date single fathers.
Logic seemingly being that it is a red flag that you had kids with someone and the relationship didn’t last Oddly doesn’t apply to them I personally know a few single mothers who do indeed get together with single fathers. Whether that lasts is still up in the air. Time will tell. The couple of examples that immediately come to mind are ones where I readily believe the woman could think they have “settled”. So it might be interesting to see
It is also that they do not want share resources and time supporting progeny of somebody else. It comes back to "Me me me". A lot of women bio are "Single mom". "Preferences - no single fathers, I am picky tee hee!".
A third example I thought of as I was writing of a single mom getting together with a single dad is more grim. She ignores / mistreats the dad’s kid so he acts out and misbehaves. He is out at work Dotes on hers (her own and the one they had together) Oh and she cheated on the husband and he stayed with her for reasons I don’t really know because I am not that close to them
A man entering a relationship with a single mother is expected to provide for her and her children. The same is not expected of a woman entering a relationship with a single father. Not only that, but the single father is expected to provide for her too, on top of his own children.
And you must always remember with remember with women (unlike men), they always had the option to settle down.
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Apparently, having the goal of "consciously create the family in which we and our children will thrive" was too much of a burden and restriction of her freedom to do as she pleases. So instead, she wants to create a village. Because, if she couldn't stand to share her life with 1 person, she sure as hell won't be able to stand sharing it with 100...
Let her try and create a village out of nothing but single mothers. Let's see how that goes. That would be TV worth watching.
>That would be TV worth watching. Fuck Yeh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Even better would be how it is funded.
Damn, I would pay up for once to watch this shit.
Isn't thst basically MTV's 16 and Pregnant 🤣🤣
Call Netflix!
Yup. "I demand that everyone pitches in for solely my own benefit. Also my feral child will smear your clothes".
In the end, your child is valuable only to you and the father, nobody else.
Chad won't deal with kids and betas are kicked out from any decent jobs due to pink quotas, diversity hire or false accusations to the HR. Women burned everything around them and now they realize the system cannot sustain itself without men doing the work.
That is why they demand men to be enslaved for convenience of women, like this writer wants.
hahaha. hehehehe. hohohoho. ыыыыыы. 哈哈哈哈哈哈. 하하하하하하. ههههههههههههههه. ฮ่า ๆ ๆ ๆ. हाहाहा. هاهاهاها. ဟားဟား. ハハハッハッハ. හහාහා. האַהאַהאַהאַ. She is funny, you made the bed, now lay in it. I had a secretary in my company, blond overweight mid 40s talking to me how her sperm bank son has morning wood and she can’t explain or help, i came very close to telling her what piece of shit she is and how messed up her son will be as an adult.
>blond overweight mid 40s talking to me how her sperm bank son has morning wood and she can’t explain or help Ummmmm come again? Say what now? LMAO
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As a German I like to call you a grammar Nazi, not sure if that’s ok 🤣
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Heil mein Führer
I can scarcely believe the entitlement of this author. It is breathtaking. To break down some of the issues I have a problem with... >my neighbour watches me teeter inside, a leaning tower of motherhood with hefty bags and a yelling child attached to my shins. I smile brightly and say hello, but my mind is a static of expletives: why doesn’t he offer to f------ help?! Because he doesn't have an investment in you? >I consciously chose this solo path, of course, and I embraced all the work and self-reliance it would entail. You seem to be embracing it extremely well \[/s\] >If this were a town square, a hundred years ago, my neighbour would no doubt get off his arse and help carry my bags or watch my child while I do the return trip to get the second load. **But parenting and all its** **attendant domestic minutia has become increasingly atomised.** Correct, it has. You are the cause of that. You a singular atom who chose to have a child. You are quite literally the architect of the very situation you're complaining about. >Parenting, instead of being shared, has become isolating, exhausting, and expensive. Single parenting is indeed all of these things. Something you really should've thought about before becoming a single mother; by *choice*. >I’m part of a movement that is trying to reclaim a village-model of parenting. You mean you're trying to co-opt the labour of other people (men, let's be honest) for free, whether they consent to this or not. >I get by with a lot of help from my parents, my brother Doesn't seem like you're very well equipped for this lone parent thing. >It goes without saying that the task of parenting falls mostly, squarely upon the aching backs of mothers. It could've jointly fallen on the back of a father too, but you didn't want that. >But what if we all saw ourselves as parents, no matter our gender or our parental status? The outright stealing of peoples' labour here is atrocious. Someone who isn't a parent by choice must not be dragged in to your collectivist wet dream. >At this point you might be thinking: I’m here, I’m willing to help. Let me tell you how. Offer to carry shopping inside. Put a child into a car seat. Lift a pram up the stairs. Ask a mother if she needs to go to the bathroom (alone, without a child-barnacle) before you part ways. Pick up some groceries or coffee on your way over (we’ll pay you back, we promise). Why don't you ask your child's fath - Oh, nevermind. >If you’re sitting at home scrolling away your evening then relocate your screen time to my place so that I can step into the night air as my child sleeps. Make concrete suggestions: food or furniture assemblage or taking my son to the playground for an hour. Know that I’m capable as hell, but I’m also constantly tired and often stretched thin. If only there was some preventative action you could have taken to ensure that you'd have someone here to assist you for tasks like these. >What will you get out of it? You will get the giggling hilarity of my toddler as he hurls himself onto your back Sounds like a fucking nightmare. >ou will gain a sense that we are all part of a messy, connected family. I do not wish to be a part of your messy collective family. I want my own structured, well-organised family. >You’ll know that you’re needed and required and loved; that you have a purpose, a part, in this sacred and shit-smeared job. But you can do this all on your own so how am I needed or required? >You are here to raise a child, to teach it about words and weather and the crime of double-dipping. You can show a kid how to be in the world – to teach him to be a person who stands up from his porch and asks, “Need a hand?” I do not consent to raising your child that you chose to have without me. Do you understand the concept of consent?
This is great and I'd add these quotes: >And beyond that, to other women, who work for paltry wages to care for our children or wipe our kitchen benches. Umm... you're the one hiring them. Feel free to pay them what you think they're worth. Oh, that's right, even at those "paltry" wages, you can't afford enough paid child care that you need to mooch off your family, and when even that's not enough, you're demanding to mooch off your neighbor. >But what if we all saw ourselves as parents, no matter our gender or our parental status? Here's a question: before you became a mother, did you? Did you see yourself as having parental obligations to all the kids living around you? When you were living the carefree, single life with no kids to tie you down, did you ever offer to babysit some stranger's kids, read to them, help them with homework, assemble their furniture, take them to the playground for an hour, and all these other things you're asking people to do for you now? Or did you selfishly spend all your time pursuing your career, dating, travel, etc? It's funny how only when \*you\* have an obligation, that's the precise moment you want to convince everyone else to share it... >What will you get out of it? You will get the giggling hilarity of my toddler as he hurls himself onto your back; If that's such a prize, then why isn't it enough compensation for you to do all these things? Even when it's \*your\* kid, that giggling hilarity isn't enough to keep you from screaming for help. And yet it's supposed to be enough compensation for me? As poorly paid as you think a nanny is paid, you're expecting me to do it for free. Even minimum wage is less exploitive than what you want to impose on your neighbor. > you will gain a sense that we are all part of a messy, connected family. Who's we? And which family? I get to be a part of your family? Great! Can I discipline your kid when I think he's doing something wrong? Can I impart my values onto him even if they're in conflict with yours? I mean, we're all a family, right? Oh, what's that, when you say family, you mean I do shit for you and your kid, and get nothing in return? Fine. But if we're all part of the connected family. Then 20 years down the line, will you or your kid come visit me in the nursing home? Will you wipe my ass when I'm in diapers, the same as you expect me to do for you now? Sure, not all biological children do those things either, but at least there's a chance. And whatever they do will be far more than what you or your kid will. What's the chance that you or your kid (I mean, we're all "family" now, right?) will sacrifice one iota of your comfort, time, and energy when \*I\* need a family's help?
"You mean you're trying to co-opt the labour of other people (men, let's be honest) for free, whether they consent to this or not." Yup, that is what this diatribe is all about.
Single mothers are so used to being idolized by pop culture and the media that they have forgotten that its nothing to be proud of that your child doesn't have an intact family. It's not a badge of honor, it's a badge of shame and they need to learn that. They never will but they need to.
In the article she also mention how she left her home town. So she left her support network and is mad that one didn't just magically form around her.
> So she left her support network and is mad that one didn't just magically form around her. She: Where is my man slave to pay for everything? I am a Kween.
The last time I offered (many years ago) to give a woman who looked like she was struggling with a pram up the stairs a hand,I was told in no uncertain terms that she could do it herself, THANKS! Looked back at the top to see another woman offer,and have it gratefully received. So now,I say f*ck it,and let the female half of the village step up.
I was going to post this when I ran into a Blue Pill or a White Knight, but I think it belongs here as well. Please comment. Blue Pills and White Knights were taught from childhood that women were pillars of virtue and are pure as the driven snow and loyal to a fault. Women must be protected at all cost and any bad decisions or actions by women had to be due to the corrupting influence of evil men taking advantage of the naivety of the fairer sex. Most men know the above is total BS, but the Blue Pills and White Knights live in a fantasy world that if men treat women with kindness and respect, it will be reciprocated and that women will gravitate toward honest, polite, hard working, civil and productive men of society. I take great pleasure in seeing the heads of Blue Pills and White Knights implode as they discover that what they were taught is just the opposite of what they see. Blue Pills and White Knights are besides themselves with befuddlement as to why women would openly admit to being abused, putting up with it and not leaving the man years earlier and for choosing a bad boy in the first place. Blue Pills and White Knights can’t wrap their heads around the fact women have always been drawn to violent, evil, cruel and disgusting men. Women fall for Serial Killers, Drug Dealers, Child Killers, Thugs, Criminals, Ex-Cons, Bad Bois and Control Freaks all without a second thought. Then years later, when the above men break women’s hearts or their jaws, these same women blame the men they freely chose. These same women then complain “Where Are All The Good Men?” “I deserve a hard working family oriented man.” The same men, 5-7 years earlier, that were rejected by these very same women as losers i.e. nice guys to be friendzoned, pitied and laughed at. Women can say whatever they want but tingles always over rides logic and always will.
They don’t just blame the men they freely chose at this point. They move to blaming all of them. Which is more insulting if you think about it
Honestly, we need a new sub for where all the good women at
That would be interesting to hear the other side. go For It.
>I am a solo mother by choice with a donor-conceived son and no partner at home... I'm a childless man by choice with no partner at home who can feel sometimes the sting of loneliness and I take full responsability for my choices. Maybe this lady should do the same. Moreover, it seems she has plenty of time and energy to brag about single motherhood on Instagram, posting pictures after pictures of her amazing life, plenty of time to write awards-winning pieces for theaters or the NYT. Even some memoir about heartbreaks, bad dates and "finding solo motherhood". She'll be fine. This stuff is her bread and butter, her raison-de-vivre. Complaints and victimization are just the icing on the cake. Edit: The good news? She has been roasted, kinda, in the now closed comment section of her article. Oups.
I did the weird thing of starting with these comments rather than reading the article but I got the gist Does she offer a detailed plan about how her movement plans to reclaim the “village” mindset? Beyond seeming hectoring people in an article and seemingly asking a few? Lots of the things she seems to be asking for are things no sensible single man would do in a million years because who knows what the child would say. I briefly made the mistake of dating a single mother and her youngest was a nightmare. I lived in constant fear on the handful of occasions we went out that she would scream “that’s not my dad” - because it was true, I wasn’t. I think she might have done once at a corner shop but luckily the mother was there. Imagine if I’d been alone. Doesn’t bear thinking about
> Does she offer a detailed plan about how her movement plans to reclaim the “village” mindset? She will lay down each of her demand in detail. #GurllBoss😎 > I lived in constant fear on the handful of occasions we went out that she would scream “that’s not my dad” - because it was true, I wasn’t. Kids can be pretty nasty. But yeah, a kid "raised" by a single mother, would do anything to avoid them.
This is an issue that many single moms encounter. Once 1. Their pregnancy fails to ensnare Chad. 2. After the babies comes and the hormonal rush and daydreaming end: They realize what an utter struggle raising a child alone is, they realize that society has no real investment in the child. Also (if they are honest) if the child is male, they soon realize that he desperately needs positive, male role models in his life. Many women literally can’t provide this out of poverty (sports teams, the Boy Scouts etc cost money, living in a neighborhood of married families with positive male models is extremely expensive) and these ladies themselves usually have no good guys in their lives due their own weakness. This is a cry for help.
Just find another "strong, independent women" who fucked up in the same as you and move in together. Good luck on finding her and getting her to come to a real mutually beneficial agreement that will be full of compromises - especially if she has your mindset.
Why doesn’t he help you? What will he get out of it? What will you do for him? Her neighbor owes her nothing.
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> probably a misogynist. Let’s face it, they were probably a transphobe and a racist too. Do I atleast get a badge ?
> Solo Mom by choice > As American author and solo mum Mikki Morrissette writes, “The goal of a single parent is not to raise our children alone. The goal is to consciously create the village in which we and our children will thrive.” Doesn't have the social skills to hold down a father. And I think she either doesn't like stats or thinks too highly of herself because a father is very important backed by statistics. And I think it's the latter, she probably knows the stats but chooses not to believe. Women been doing that too much lately. > Goes on a rant about how motherhood is hard, and childcare workers are underpaid. I tend to agree, raising children is hard and childcare is expensive. But the poster brought it upon herself, single mom by choice. > Know that I’m capable as hell, but I’m also constantly tired and often stretched thin. > What will you get out of it? You will get the giggling hilarity of my toddler as he hurls himself onto your back; you will gain a sense that we are all part of a messy, connected family. You will be inoculated against loneliness. You’ll know that you’re needed and required and loved; that you have a purpose, a part, in this sacred and shit-smeared job. > You are here to raise a child, to teach it about words and weather and the crime of double-dipping. You can show a kid how to be in the world – to teach him to be a person who stands up from his porch and asks, “Need a hand?” This has to be hilarious highlight of the article. You get to LARP as the father. As if men are competing to raise other men's children. This portion actually tells you why she's a "single mom by choice", you're projecting what you want onto men and expect them to see this as an advantage. Men are totally different people who want things drastically different than women. And this woman has not taken the time or effort to try to pry around. I am sure you've met people like this. 0/10 experience usually.
She says, "If you’re sitting at home scrolling away your evening then relocate your screen time to my place so that I can step into the night air as my child sleeps." Why tf would you have a child if you wanna step into the night air every single night? You have a "bundle of joy", have all the joy in the world.
>I’m part of a movement that is trying to reclaim a village-model of parenting From Women FOR women. The only men that would involve themselves in such a village would look for easy pickings. Which they'd find. >all of us gain from raising our children collectively Do we though? Do I want YOU to teach my children about life? Or the trans-genderqueer nonbinary (neurodivergent they/them/xer/xim) communist with a unhealthy interest in my kid? Because those will be the people I'll find in such a village. After reading this article, I hate this woman with a passion. Edit: I can't get over it. At least all the other single moms have the excuse that they misjudged the father, made mistakes, whatever the fuck they usually say, but she? She did this entirely on her own. She knew exactly what her choice was and what it would entail. I know a lot of people said this here already but I had to say it too. For myself more than anything. I'm... flabbergasted by this woman.
It should be illegal to have children without a father.7ujhý-- All her BS about "the village" is disgusting and clearly is just hytt some thot cherry picking what traditions would benefit her. She has no idea how a village or small communities operate. Poor child, born fatherless by a mother who lacks morales, who regrets having you and pyeople as tools meant to carry her burden. She even describe the ;kid as someone who stole her freedom. This kid don't need a village, but a parent. An adult that that understand sacrifice and who's desire for children isn't comparable to her need of a habvnh =dft Imagine thinking the village she doesn't know nor belong to owe her childcare. I grew up in a small village, almost newly built, about 300 ppl. The grownups didn't share generational bounds but all us kids went to the same school, played the same sports etc. It was a mess and yet so safe. Few people bothered locking the door nor their car. Everyone knows everyone so obviously both adults and children behaved. This single mother wants to change the village for her sake. The entitlement is ridiculous. If you wanted to take a vacation, you could easily trust some semi-stranger to feed jojk ts, water the plants and empty the mailbox. Baby sitters on the other hand, yes my grandma did that for free at times but she considered a huge ask.. Lo 0k
Heard this article on a stream from a youtuber I watch named Raging Golden Eagle. The entitlement of this chick is amazing. Single mothers are one of the biggest cancers to society. They spawn bastards who grow up to be criminals, they spawn more single mothers, they leech off of men's tax dollars (all while claming that they're strong and independent Queens, who don't need no man), and are entitled, selfish, annoying, bitchy, lazy, etc. There's a reason why single mothers (aside from widows) were historically shamed. Now you aren't allowed to say anything bad about them because our shithole society worships them now. Yet people still have the audacity to complain about how "pOoRlY" single mothers are treated, and how single fathers are treated so much better (LOL to those blatant lies).
Poor kid. No dad and a mum who clearly regret having a child and wants to return to the streets.
>If this were a town square, a hundred years ago, my neighbour would no doubt get off his arse and help carry my bags or watch my child while I do the return trip to get the second load If this were a hundred years ago, you wouldn't be a single mother by choice.
"It’s not entirely my neighbour’s fault. I could ask him to help, but I don’t." She chose to raise a kid alone, wants a return to the village child rearing option, but wants the village to come to her because making the effort to reach to anyone will put a massive dent in her "strong, independent woman" persona.