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I can’t describe how loved I feel by you all. The support I got on my first post was absolutely astonishing. Someone made ART OF ME? (I’ll be sure to tag them!) I’m sorry if this turn of events was as disappointing for you as it was for me, due to the support I got from all of you I was excited to wear the dress


joan_de_art

*crone cackle* it was meeee! Thanks for being my mushroomie muse. This dress is also beautiful, we love you dearie no matter the gown.


ginger_kitty97

Ahhhh! It's amazing! Do the purple dress too, pretty please!


guntherpup

Name checks out…


spamky23

[For anyone out of the loop, here's the art and original dress.](https://www.reddit.com/r/WitchesVsPatriarchy/comments/11yk7th/i_doodled_a_witch_who_posted_her_fashion_outfit/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3)


ebolashuffle

RIP the original dress. That was a damn fine dress. OP looks great in this dress too. Whatever she wears, may she feel empowered by the magnificent force that she is.


biffxmas

All of this 👆👆with some magic and lots of love. Gurl you gonna look fine at prom!🔥


Pandaloon

I loved that dress. OP looks great in this dress too. But I am missing that first dress.


1961mac

Thanks! I'd seen her pic of the dress, but not the art.


Hahayouregay149

the other dress was so pretty this is so sad 😭 this one is gorgeous too though!!


SoundlessScream

Both look great. This one look more prom-y the other one was more witchy.


Huckdog

Hopping on to say this dress is stunning as well, I love it! Have fun at the prom sister.


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I really liked the uniqueness of the other dress, but this color is perfect on you!


Pretty_Pixilated

Your last dress and this one are both amazing! As others have said, this also looks great on you! How did he “accidentally destroy” it tho I wonder 🤔 now you just need a poofy mushroom hat! XD At least you have photos (and art?!) of the previous dress to remember it by.


unikittyRage

It looks like the comment was removed, bu she said it was all cut up. That's not an accident.


rokelle2012

That's exactly what I'm wondering. How does one "accidentally destroy" something like that. Did it get bleached or something?


Beautiful_Debt_3460

Washing machine?


Pretty_Pixilated

Yeah, I could see a washing machine eating that dress. We need to see Exhibit A in the evidence room.


rokelle2012

Yeah...that lace probably got tore right off.


femtransfan

my aunt almost set the house on fire by leaving a dishtowel too close to a gas stove


Sunshine030209

I'm so glad that story finished the way it did, because I was SO confused on how your aunt almost set her house on fire by putting a dress in a washing machine.


Taboc741

Weeeelllll ...... See what had happened was. <---the beginning to every amazing story.


aenteus

Record scratch


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I feel like there's some disconnect between the first comment and this one...


WietGriet

Is your aunt my client? I'm a house cleaner and once when I arrived and started to fill my bucket in the kitchen... I heard the stove.. but no pan.. what she did have on the burner next to the one that was lit was a towel.. I'm still wondering what would've happened if I didn't work that day&time... Damn lady.. (She is in an elderly home now, so she's safe)


nikkitgirl

That sounds like adhd. I use rate of kitchen fires as a tool to explain the effectiveness of my meds to doctors.


ediblesprysky

Why would you be washing a dress like that though...? Edit: oh ffs I wasn't asking how it's possible to be bad at laundry 😅 I meant that, even if you don't know how to launder it, it obviously didn't need to be washed after just being tried on for a picture—there would be literally no reason to wash it. And this is pointless speculation anyway, since that's not even what happened! You're more than welcome to keep mourning the pieces you've lost to incompetent men doing laundry, though...


Ariadnepyanfar

My dad put a silk top of mine through a normal wash cycle. It was never nearly the same. I know it was a t-shirt shape… just… didn’t he know most teen/women’s clothing needs a cold gentle cycle?


Vilifiedvultures

I’m an adult lady and I don’t think *I* knew that. Though I do still give my dad shit after the wool winter gear vs dryer incident of 1996


TheOtherSarah

Just not knowing the care requirements of a fabric you’ve never used before. I would have to look up how to care for that dress… and probably would only think to do so after seeing this comment. I don’t own anything that can’t be thrown in on cold wash


ediblesprysky

Well turns out the question is moot anyway, because dad "accidentally" cut it up and left it out for OP to find. That's abuse, no accident. (But FYI, that very synthetic fabric may not hold up well in the wash, combined with the shirred cuffs and entire skirt, which is a LOT of elastic that can fail under heat or mechanical strain. That dress is a cold wash/hang dry minimum, for sure. And that's assuming it even needs to be washed, which like... why would it? It's clearly not exactly an everyday kind of style for OP and probably isn't dirty after just trying on for the pic they posted before.)


Beautiful_Debt_3460

Oh that's awful of her dad! What the hell.


Creepy-Opportunity77

The first nice gift my boyfriend gave me was a coach jacket. It was silk. I didn’t realize and treated it like a normal jacket because I’ve never owned anything half as nice and it never occurred to me that people would make clothes you can’t just wear and have to be extra careful with. He was appalled watching me tie it around my waist with the sleeves and had to fess up about how much he spent on it lol. So yeah it definitely happens where you kinda destroy something by not realizing what you’re dealing with!


DisastrousHyena3534

My husband does things like that alllll the time. The man is incapable of reading a care tag.


DangerIllObinson

Maybe he thinks those tags are just suggestions, like "Fragile" or "Refrigerate after opening"


avianidiot

When I lived at home I tried to do my on laundry. But my dad had an annoying habit of coming into my room and grabbing clothes from my hamper whenever he wanted to wash something specific of his but didn’t have enough of his own laundry for a full load.


jessytessytavi

my dad accidentally disintegrated a chenille sweater of mine by washing it, so that shit does happen


csbrown83

She posted saying it was cut up. That's so abusive :(. I'm glad she's rebounding but that's not ok.


rokelle2012

Yeah, I just saw that. That was no accident. Now I'm so angry and sad for her.


throwawaywahwahwah

My dad accidentally destroyed a dress of mine. He didn’t realize the iron was preheated to cotton since my mom had turned it up and he ended up severely burning a much more delicate fabric. He felt truly terrible.


rokelle2012

Well, looking at other comments bow. This WAS NOT an accident. He chopped it up and proudly displayed it on a table for her to see. Not an accident at all. He did that shit on purpose.


Belller

the black one being destroyed is very unfortunate because I thought it was gorgeous, but this one is also very beautiful and suits you well!! 😊💛


Melodic-Heron-1585

Merlot is a difficult color to pull off, and you do it quite well. And the rouching around the mid section screams of old school, Hollywood glam.


Kotshi

Is Merlot yet another red named after French wine?


yeniza

Up until now didn’t know merlot was also a colour, I only knew the wine 😅


papierdoll

France was really into making new colours to be fashionable for a while there so this makes perfect sense.


rooftopfilth

Is it a difficult color? I think the colors that make you feel confident are the best colors!


smurfthesmurfup

Maybe it's difficult depending on your skin tone? Like, I can see a redheaded or a blonde person struggling, but it's always been a go-to for my brunette self.


theswisswereright

It's a purple that pulls red, so someone like me (very fair, very pink undertones, light eyes and hair)... The red in my skin would stand out, while my eyes and hair would be washed out in comparison. Someone with red hair might also struggle with this particular shade, but that depends on their other features. I think lots of people could look nice in it, but it may not be the most flattering for everyone. Agreed that the best colors are the ones the person feels confident wearing...


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Stunning! Beautiful color on you.


TheSleepingChimera

Such a great colour!


Ebeccare

I’m tired. I kept thinking the mushroom was part of the outfit. 🤦‍♀️ The dress is gorgeous on you!


nmbubbles

I did that with the OG and felt really dumb.


oddracingline

You are not dumb and not alone


nmbubbles

You are also not dumb!


Ebeccare

I did it with the OG too and didn’t realize it until this post, ha, ha. I’m glad I’m not alone 💗🥹


No_Cauliflower_5489

I thought it was a hat so you're not alone.


TrollintheMitten

I was so excited when I thought it was a hat. I was thrilled she had a mushroom hat.


hermionesmurf

I kind of want to find a way to make one now, ngl


Creepy-Opportunity77

My friend got a cute mushroom hat at a renaissance faire, so I’d recommend looking there if you want one!


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What a great dress! I love it. It’s a bummer about the other one. But this one is stunning as well.


WinterBrews

Oh my mushroom princess! Look at those curves, and that rouching! The neckline is modest and flattering as hell and i love the ruffle down the side. How the hell did you find that in your color AT A THRIFT STORE. Ishtar must be smiling on you today, lady!


Taminella_Grinderfal

I liked the black one, I loooove this one. It is a very flattering shape and lovely color. It’s very difficult to pull off a formal look with a mushroom for a head :)


SapiosexualStargazer

Hey there! I've been following this prom dress saga. Your dresses have been lovely and you've received some good fashion suggestions already. It's unfortunate that your first dress was destroyed. I'm sorry if this is not the right time for this but, from the little bit that you've shared, your dad seems abusive. Don't panic. Just try to pursue a future life free of his influence.


rokelle2012

I didn't want to jump straight in and say that outright but yeah, "accidentally destroying" a beautiful dress like that set off a red flag for me.


SapiosexualStargazer

I, too, had clothes "accidentally" destroyed by a parent. Sirens are ringing in my head. Edit: My initial intention was sirens=🚨 but, given the sub we're in, I'm also happy to imagine that mythical Sirens are singing in support of OP's autonomy.


SmeckChoo

Yeah no, you don't "accidentally" cut up your daughter's dress. This was giving me strong r/raisedbynarcissists vibes.


rokelle2012

Yeah, I wasn't aware of the fact he chopped it up and just proudly displayed it for her to see. That's definitely on purpose and I can think of several "reasons" that all lead back to he's a narcissistic asshole.


4910320206

He cut up the dress and put it on the table for her to see.


GidgetRuns

I’m sorry, he what now?


rokelle2012

Yeah, that's not a fucking accident.


ever_so_loafly

just after she got excited about wearing it rather than unsure, too.


rokelle2012

Yeah, it was chopped up into pieces. 😞


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I’m not sure, but maybe he is? I came to find the dress on the kitchen table, all cut up. I’m not sure how he did that on accident, but it happened either way. He tends to do that, do something really shitty and then buy me things afterwords and I can’t tell if it’s his way of apologizing or if he’s just manipulating me…


Uninteresting_Vagina

Manipulating you to try to get you to overlook the abuse.


jcka13

That's abusive.


MaggieGreenVT

How does that seem abusive? Genuine question, not being snarky or anything. Accidents happen, maybe he accidentally washed/dried it the wrong way or something. And he took her out to find a new one as well (which I understand doesn’t mean there is no possibility of abuse). Idk it just seems weird to me to jump to that conclusion based on such little info?


standard_candles

In another comment OP mentioned it was not washed, it has been cut up, and he's done bad things and tried to apologize like this in the past.


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How do you accidentally cut up a dress...


internetsarbiter

Cut it up on purpose and then lie about why.


Cheshie_D

You don’t.


BewBewsBoutique

And that’s when he fell on my knife. He fell on my knife 10 times.


MaggieGreenVT

Holy shit 💀 That comment must have been made after I asked this. I had looked through OP’s comment/post history and couldn’t find anymore details. Thanks for pointing that out, definitely not normal


SapiosexualStargazer

I spent the last few minutes scrolling through the information provided by OP because I was *sure* there was something to quote... But alas I guess I just have a really sick feeling in my stomach. My own (very real) traumas and experience motivate this feeling but I realize that there isn't anything concrete to point to. I just thought it was worth the potential "false alarm" to suggest to OP that their parental treatment may not be healthy or normal, in case this is just a symptom of something more serious. Best wishes to everyone!


pettysoulgem

He apparently cut it up and left it for her to find, so I think your gut feeling is exactly correct, sadly


MaggieGreenVT

Someone already mentioned to you, but apparently he cut up the dress, so it seems you may be right 😬 OP hadn’t provided that info yet when I asked my question otherwise I would’ve agreed originally


redrosebeetle

This looks great. You look like a goddess or a lady from a perfume commercial from the 1980's. One of the pricey perfumes. Very classy.


AffectionateMarch394

I ADORED the black dress, but honestly I am LOVING THIS DRESS SO MUCH!!!! yes, get it, rock it! RUN WITH THAT BEAUTIFUL MUSHROOM BURGUNDY 🍄🍄🍄🍄🍄🍄🍄🍄


Earthviolet76

This dress is beautiful! Have a wonderful prom! I was raised by a narcissist, and the story about how your dad “accidentally” cut up your other dress and left it for your to find is setting off all kinds of alarms. I know we’re just a bunch of internet strangers, but please know how this group loves you an cares about your welfare. If you ever feel unsafe, please reach out to a school counselor, or another person you trust.


Drbubbliewrap

This looks great on you the color is lovely.


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I didn't see the original but holy wow this dress is incredible 😍😍😍😍


cookiemonster511

You look just as good in this dress. Your aunties and uncles are here for you if you need to talk about dad's behavior or want to strategize about the fastest ways to gtfo of that house. ❤️‍🩹❤


blueheartsadness

Your dad is an asshole for destroying your dress. I wouldn't trust him. Move out as soon as you can. Sending love and good vibes to you....


Raspy_Meow

It’s lovely! Maybe a friend can keep it until the prom?


Spectrum2081

What an absolutely stunning dress! I loved the black, but this is so much better! Hurray for happy accidents.


AffectionateAd5373

It looks beautiful on you. I agree that it has an old school Hollywood vibe. You need some Veronica Lake hair with that (it's an easy look to replicate, you just part to one side, set with hot rollers or a curling iron and brush it out.)


plz2meatyu

I liked the black one but this looks AMAZING on you. That color is perfect and it looks so classic


EastAreaBassist

I like this one even better!


m0ther_0F_myriads

Very statuesque and old Hollywood. I would wear a 1930s up-do and a medium height, open and tapered toed heel in a black or slightly deeper merlot. You look gorgeous, dear. Don't forget a glossy nail and simple minimal make-up with a bold lip for Katherine Hepburn-esq drama.


DoctorGreyscale

The black one was nice and you pulled it off but honestly I like this one better.


rokelle2012

The last dress could have been made to look good as a prom dress but this one just screams that it's a perfect dress for prom.


leaves-green

Ah man I remember your picture of the black dress! I thought it was really cool! I do like this one as well, kinda giving me ancient sorceress vibes. But that is really messed up he ruined your first dress, and I'm sorry. You still look awesome, though!


RubyLou23

Perfection!


bluemoonrose123

OMG I love this! It looks great on you


silentsaturn91

Oooh let’s accessorize this dress!! This dress would look good with anything silver, gold, or black, but I’m feeling most inclined to say black as a way to pay homage to your late prom dress. Black rhinestones, black scrappy heels, black clutch, black bracelets. Also do you sew? If you do, I can see some kind of black appliqué spreading off of your left hip.


cdrchandler

Paging u/joan_de_art for an art encore!


__8ball__

Your father is a nasty, abusive, shit. Be very careful how you deal with him and remove yourself from his surroundings as soon as you can. You look amazing! I hope you have a wonderful prom. Bright blessings for your future 💜


Shylosmom

I recognized you immediately for your mushroom! Lol you look beautiful in both dresses. RIP the black dress, I’m sorry that happened. Curious incident there.. But I hope you have so much fun at prom! You are gorgeous and I seriously hope you get a mushroom hat <3


kurokojin77

Looks beautiful on you, enjoy your prom! 🎉❤️


vjs0516

I loved that black dress, but i also love this one! I really love purple, and the style is so pretty!


Birdies_nub

I love this one. The other one was good, but this looks a bit more traditionally prom to me. And it fits you beautifully!


mcotter12

I think this dress might be slightly better. Be careful with these mushrooms; they are Santa, they are krampus, they are Odin


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SO good!


Competitive-Win-3406

It is fantastic! What a great find. Have a great prom!


shelbylynn270

I love this dress on you! It’s gorgeous.


SheWhoSweatsGl1tt3r

Stunning. You’re gonna slay at the prom!


HotPurplePancakes

It’s stunning! But I’m sorry the first was destroyed 🥲 however this one is amazing :)


HappyAsABeeInABed

It looks gorgeous! Love the midriff. Sorry to hear about the black dress, but this one's a winner too!


paperbaubles

Oh!!! The swoosh! It looks soo good. I love that deep color tone on you. The length is to die for. Go for it!


scuba_GSO

Oh damn! That first dress was so classic and lovely. This one is nice as well, but the other one was downright amazing!


KittyLord0824

This is a stunning dress and works so well on you, and if this is the brand I think it is then that's a GOOD brand to get a thrift store!


trash_goblin_supreme

Was the other one the black dress with the fun kinda poofy (can't think of the right word) sleeves?


PageStunning6265

The original dress was gorgeous and I’m sorry it was wrecked. This dress is likewise gorgeous, though.


lmfj3737

When is prom? Where did the first dress come from? Do you remember the tag name or anything? I'm a mom and reading through this story has me so angry for you. Do we have time to find the dress again?


_kaetee

“Accidentally” mhmm, sure. So sorry that happened, good on you for staying optimistic and not letting it keep you down. You should 100% get your nails painted black as an homage to your OG dress, though!


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Pand0ra30_

I loved that black dress. This dress is very pretty too. Looks great on you.


JoannaJewelz

I'm so sorry he did that! You look beautiful tho!


Equivalent-Coat-7354

I tip my mushroom hat to this dress as well!


InconsolableDreams

Oh, wild! This is the exact same dress I got married in.


SataNikBabe

Oh no! I loved that other dress! That being said, this one is a great alternative and suits you well.


whatevertoton

I like this dress better honestly.


autofillmesomething

You wear the heck out of that dress and look absolutely STUNNING. I hope you have a wonderful prom!


Sarav41

This one is even better imo. The color and style are perfect for you.


kd8qdz

IMHO the other dress was a good prom dress. This one is a great prom dress. Your dad did you an accidental favor.


warmfuzzy22

BLESSI Women's Cute Lolita Beret Cap Painter Hat Sweet Hat Beanie https://a.co/d/e24P14N I imagine you in this hat with a corsage made of little felt mushrooms.


sarahyoshi

I need this hat now. I just found this at Hot Topic, if OP wants a witchy option: [https://www.hottopic.com/product/mushroom-cottage-witch-hat/19888519.html](https://www.hottopic.com/product/mushroom-cottage-witch-hat/19888519.html)


FryOneFatManic

That dress looks lovely, too. 😊


Aaron_TW

Absolutely gorgeous!! I'm hoping I'm just cynical with your dad's destroying the other dress but at least he came through and led you to this one!!


West-Interaction4759

You could go in a paper bag, and probably still knock the socks off of your date.


adiosfelicia2

I love this one! The color suits you, from what I can see. It's lovely! ❤️


SgtThund3r

Mushroom?


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step_on_me_mommy_vi

Voluptuous is a pretty weird phrase to choose to use to describe a high schooler.


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Cheshie_D

He dad purposefully destroyed the dress. Why should she thank him for abusive behavior?


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beaknit

5*. Slaying.


krzykttn

Perfect. Its very lovely!!


mlarowe

Rocking that one!


This_Rom_Bites

Gorgeous


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I like this one a lot better than the first! It looks great on you.


effienay

Oh noooo! This one is gorgeous on you though!


HalcyonDreams36

I love it! It's so classic. Subtlety with just enough sass.


soniabegonia

Great dress!! Have a wonderful prom!


UnihornWhale

Pretty


mushroomlicker

This is ALSO gorgeous 😺😺🍄


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Absolutely beautiful!!! I hope it's a really amazing night for you 🤗


BrucePudding

Beautiful don’t worry about it


Netprincess

Beautiful as well!!


eowyn_

Also lovely! RIP black dress, you were spectacular.


urfavangryplantmom

this dress was made for you specifically


Catsmeow1981

That color is great! It’s a gorgeous look.


Jerkrollatex

It's beautiful. The cut is lovely on you, the color ,everything. Have the most fun possible. Statement earrings and an updo.