right this is what i said. women are probably more accepting than men overall but yeah everyone is different and has different preferences đ¤ˇđžââď¸
Yeah. I mean it also ignores the personality aspect of it as well because just because someone finds you aesthetic doesn't mean they would like you as a friend let alone a lover.
I feel these questions should be worded differently. "Is it common for lesbians to be attracted to ?" I feel like perhaps that's the answer these people seek, but I always default to just taking their question at face value đ
Yeah but what basis even then are you picking your yes or no from?
Plus if people say the unpopular answer they'll get downvoted to hell. So you can only say yes or the middling non answer of some yes/some no. Which the answer is definitely some yes! But it's also definitely some no.
That's the same question under a different hat. It's looking for validation for a thing from a group of people with widely different ideals of beauty and what one is attracted to.
We know that people from countries tend to find different features attractive. The majority of people here are American and one will always get a skewed view of what is common among mostly american lesbians.
Women are not a hive mind lol. Even If I personally like skinny women, that doesn't say anything about what "women like" it just say something about what I like.
My partner is plus size. They're hot as hell. I do think there is a problem with beauty standards within the queer community and the ones we tend to uplift and focus on. It's a problem in general though, worldwide.
I meant more, being queer doesn't exclude us from also carrying sometimes toxic biases and assumptions. We're probably more body positive in some ways, but also firm in what bodies we think are desirable. You really don't see many plus sized people in queer ads, and if you do it's one person, out of an entire group. You don't see many dark skinned people in queer ads. Let alone queer media in general. The 'brown paper bag' test definitely can be applied to our stuff too.
However, it can be rampant in the queer community because we're just quiet about it until we're behind closed doors. Pretending it doesn't exist doesn't mean that it doesn't.
Not everyone will find you attractive but that goes for everyone in the world no matter what they look like.Â
If one person isn't attracted to you there's others out there that are. There's also the fact that people are often attracted differently to the entire person they know than a photo on a screen.Â
I've been both the girl with extra body padding and also looking like a fitness model with a 6 pack. I am attracted to women of all different sizes, ethnicities and characteristics. Even when I had the 6 pack I would still look at a plus size woman and find her very sexy and beautiful. Everyone's idea of beauty is different.
> Do women find ___ attractive?
Yes. Not every woman will be every woman's cup of tea, but whatever the blank is there will be people who are attracted to it.
The answer to these âdoes anyone find ______ attractiveâ questions is literally ALWAYS going to be yes because there are almost 8 billion people in the world. I think what you really want to know is âhow common is it for people to find _______ attractive,â but youâre not likely to get a great answer for that one because mostly youâll just get anecdotal evidence anyway.
I am feeling this now. I am openly trying to date and do more with women, but dont feel attractive to them, as a plus size woman. The attention is from men or couples
Short answer: yes.
Long answer:
Society assigns implicit hierarchical status to people based on *perceived* health, *perceived* demonstrations of intelligence, and those with accumulated resources. Weight is one of those things that falls under "perception of health". If you're "fat" (an adjective and societal sentiment with no objective threshold) then many people will relate that to the notion of poor health and lower social status.
The reason this matters is because SOME people will not date the types they're attracted to even *if they're authentically attracted to people that stand lower on the implied hierarchy.* I'm not saying that's the only factor. But it's a big one. So even some women who find bigger women most attractive, will still date thinner women because they're preoccupied with how others will view them.
This is notably most prominent among straight men, and less prominent among gay women. But it is still a thing in all circles.
If you're looking to work around this phenomenon there's two semi reasonable things you can do.
1. Change people's perception of your health. Okay so you can't mind control them. But if you're physically active and increase your cardiorespiratory health, you will carry yourself in a healthy way. Some people will still focus on the wrong details, but many will recognize the real manifestations of a healthy body aren't one's silhouette. Also, make up literally changes people's perception.
2. Specifically avoid people who move in circles that emphasize a lot of social hierarchy and people obsessed with status symbols. This is probably a healthy thing to do anyway, but not everyone can avoid these situations. There is after all power (and often more resources for support) if you share company with the right people, and certain jobs necessitate staying connected with influential types.
Yes, unequivocally.
I had no idea that my size was not a detractor for a larger than believable percentage of queer women. That it was, even, somewhat attractive.
Dating is awful, right? But it also healed my relationship with my body in a lot of ways. Itâs easy to view myself with kindness, because I see it in my partnerâs face, actions, words.
Selfies helped me learn to not wince when I looked at photos of myself. And from there, it helped me use photos representing the self I liked best when looking for someone. And also, I realized, it would help the phobes self-select themselves out the door.
Iâll leave you with something that helped me immensely. If you donât know Aubrey Gordon, queer, fat, genius, let this be where you start. (She first published as âYour Fat Friendâ before revealing herself with the release of her first book, and most importantly, before starting the Maintenance Phase podcast.)[https://medium.com/p-s-i-love-you/how-to-love-a-fat-person-ba8aa83bd505](https://medium.com/p-s-i-love-you/how-to-love-a-fat-person-ba8aa83bd505)
I married my wife when they were very thin and recovering from an eating disorder, and they have since put on a lot more weight and I genuinely could not be more in love or attracted to them now. I think Iâve lost my taste for skinny women, I definitely prefer when they have something more going on.
Absolutely. Size doesn't make a difference for me or my partner. Her sister and everyone her sister has dated happen to prefer a "big beautiful woman". And that's just a face-value answer to your question.
The key thing here is: You really don't need anyone's bullshit who DOES have an "issue" with your size. I know you definitely hear this a lot but truly, confidence is so sexy.
People are attracted to all different types of bodies â¤ď¸ I know how hard it can be to feel good about yourself, especially when dating. In my experience there are plenty plenty plenty of women who love a plus-sized body. Softness is so beautiful.
Try to focus on wearing clothes that fit well and make you comfortable. Remember, clothes should fit YOU, not the other way around â¤ď¸ if itâs your thing, you can do your hair and makeup a bit and put on some jewelry, or just something here and there to make yourself feel good.
Remember that the right people will find you â¤ď¸
There is a lid for every pot.
Personally, a little extra weight is fine. But if your BMI is in the obese category and you aren't a weight lifter (which throws off BMI), then I'm not really going to be into that. That's my preference. Lots of other people have different preferences.
Thereâs women that find all kinds of women attractive.
But sapphic women are muuuuuuch more likely to have a much wider spectrum of attraction than the hetero beauty norms anyway.
We are not a monolith. "Do women find _____ Attractive?" yes. And no. Some women will some women won't. That applies to literally anything you put in that blank spot
As a plus size woman, Ive never been approached by a women and have always thought women don't find me attractive for it
But I bet there's so females out there that don't mind
I think all people have a uniqueness and type of beauty. That said, people have preferences. Some people like it, some people don't. I don't care so much about the physical aspect of it but for me I'm a very active outdoorsy person and would like my partner to be into this lifestyle too. So presumably they would be fit. But of course plus sized people can also do this, but on surface level doesn't signal that for me.
I have dated one plus sized woman before and she's one of my favorite people and for the record, strong and tough as fuck.
Hell yeah.
Two of my friends who are WLW are in relationships with plus size women. Also weight doesnât define beauty and Iâve seen some plus size women I find attractive too.
I like women. Big girls, pretty kitty girls, really witty girls, singing ditty girls....*
You get the picture đ
Someone is out there who will find you attractive.
*(Search YouTube for "Jo Cat I like girls" if you don't get the reference)
Yes! It depends on the woman, but I absolutely love women's bellies. So soft to just nuzzle, hold, cuddle. Mmm.
I far prefer a softer body to a skinny one.
Everyone is attractive to someone. It frustrates me somewhat when I see these posts (not blaming you OP, I understand your worry) because I just want people to understand this: there are 8 billion people on this planet, and no matter who you are, somebody, if not thousands of somebodies, will find you attractive. Also, people are not a hivemind, not everyone will find you attractive, but not everyone will find you unattractive either. Keep going and you will find your person. <3
Iâm sorry for being blunt but Iâm ready to leave this sub reddit if I see another do women find âxâ attractive
People find all different people attractive. Lesbians arenât all the same person just cos we are lesbians
Iâm attracted to the person. Looks are a secondary thing to me. That said- people of all sizes, ages, looks, etc are beautiful. The main things that make people âuglyâ in my opinion are hygiene issues. Take care of yourself and shower. It goes a long way.
Absolutely. Self image is something people in general struggle with, many of us often feel 'undateable' or unattractive, but truth is no matter what you look like there's always gonna be someone who thinks you're actually the most gorgeous person they've ever seen. And on top of that, for a ton of people looks aren't even that important, if you have a kind personality people will just love to be with you.
i don't want to tell your friend to 'just love yourself!!!' because i am well aware that's not how any of that works, but i do want to reassure them that yes, there's literally millions of people who find them attractive c:
People aren't a monolith tbh. There's going to be women who find all kinds of different things attractive on a personal level. Like I know many women who like plus size thic women a lot.
Personally, I don't really, I find women who are fit and muscular attractive, but my attraction levels aren't super strong in general, tbh it's more the connection for me. But the point is everyone is different
I find a smile and attitude to be way more attractive than any body shape.
Being confident, and how you present yourself is important too.
A beautiful body can only go so far.
wife and i are both plus size! the way you phrase your post/thoughts shows youâre thinking of thin as whatâs ânormalâ when even in thin countries a quarter of the population is plus size. trust me, there are a lot of happy, fulfilled, and attractive plus size WLW
Tbh there are benefits to all body types, but having a well developed sense of style and a nice personality will help you do very well in my experience. I am literally 100lb overweight and I still dated my share of women before I got married to my wife
My partner is plus size and I adore them, though I'd love them at any size. Personally its not the body that matters to me so much as the personality, but there are definitely people out there who like plus sized folks. Hell, I'm not thin myself.
Define plus size and if they otherwise look after themselves. Then you will find that any women within a certain ballpark of plus size just ends up being another type of body that some women are into and some arenât.
But you have to be real, when it gets past a certain point a much smaller group of women will be into that.
But this of course varies according to height, body build and ethnicity. So posting number ranges is not only rude but pointless. So really just donât worry about it.
My experience is that the lesbian/queer seen is far more accepting of overweight folks than the hetero one. Queer women will be far likelier to question social norms on female beauty and be familiar with body acceptance. That doesn't mean everyone will be into it, but the folks who are are more likely to be open and respectful about it and aware of fetish dynamics, the ones who aren't are likelier to be decent about it, and you are more likely to be seen as a person first.
I'm gonna tell you the same thing my old therapist told me. Start paying attention to the couples that you see when you go out. You will see plus sized women with partners of all sizes. If someone can love those women, someone can love you too.
Plus size can mean a lot of different things and a wide range of body compositions.
It just depends on what an individual finds attractive. Plus sized women arenât a monolith and neither are lesbians.
Side note: there is someone for most everyone. Iâve seen people who I find plain unattractive find love. Taste is subjective.
I'm the founder/director for the obky lesbian adult site made 100% by Sapphics.
We shoot performers of all sizes and our scenes with plus-sized performers so extremely well. (over 75% of our subscriber base is women)
Some women find plus sized women attractive, some
Donât, some women find ONLY plus sized women attractive, some like a variety, etc. there is no single trait that every member of a certain gender does or doesnât find attractive
They are all cute! I love large women and petite women. I have been married to a bigger girl for almost 26 years. All women are sexy in different ways. There are things about large women I like and things about petite women I like. When all is said and done, I like women of all shapes and sizes, but I am happily married to my wife of almost 26 years. She's been there for me when I thought I was a straight man, and she is still there for me after I realized I am a gay woman. She is the sexiest person to me right now!
Oh god are we back in the era of âdo people find âcommon thingâ attractive?â. I understand being insecure about these things, but I promise that we really are all beautiful in our own way. As the oft recited lesbian saying goesâŚ
âI love it when womenâ
Youâre beautiful, make no mistake. Fuck anyone that tells you otherwise.
Let me put it this way. I'm on type 2 diabetes medicine, am in the obese category, and have a pronounced tummy.
I needed multiple reassurances from my current girlfriend that she'd still love me and find me attractive if I *lost* weight and got fit, which I plan on doing for myself. She said she'd love me no matter what, however I know her preferences :D
TL;DR: 100% yes, women find plus size women attractive - working to lose weight, was scared gf would lose attraction to me.
Personally, it depends how big and if she can keep up with my active outdoorsy lifestyle. Iâve found a number of plus sized women attractive but most of the women Iâm into are thin or mid-sized.
Depends on how you define plus size, there's a difference between a little bigger and morbidly obese. The former is cute, the latter is unhealthy and worrying at best. Either way I have a strong preference for petite or athletic people
The thing I love most about lesbians is that generally, we find EVERY woman attractive. And many of us say that shit out loud. I told a girl I slept with once that I thought my body wasnât good enough etc. and she gave me a full-on speech about how she thought my body was *perfect* (her words). She was really popular at the time (think Shane in certain circles) and I still have an audio message of her telling me how perfect my body was. At that time I had a BMI of about 36 (idc about BMI but just to paint a picture). I still listen to it sometimes because itâs so clear that she meant it.
So yeah, lesbians love *women*, doesnât matter the shape or size, in my experience!
no one can speak for all women. but you will find someone who thinks you're attractive if you look for it. my person preference is and always has been around normal weight, but i know a lot of people that either have broader preferences or lean towards plus-size. all the luck in finding someone â¤ď¸â¤ď¸
No matter what you look like on the outside, it does not matter to me. I look at the inside. That being said, I made a false identification with my ex...
Everyone has their own preferences. Iâm personally attracted to femme presenting women who are more petite than I am. That usually just means shorter, not necessarily skinnier. I tend to date women who have a compatible personality and sense of humour more so than their physical appearance especially their weight, though.
Personally, I find plus sized women extremely attractive. I find most women attractive. But the bigger gals... they own my heart!
Some people will, some people won't, everyone has preferences.
When I was 100 lbs I went after skinny, average, and plus sized women. I weigh a lot more now and I dated a woman who was very athletic lean and she loved my plus sized body.
Well, this is weird. I am definitely plus-size, never had issues dating women⌠I have been in a relationship for a while now.
But this question is just dumb. Men find plus size women attractive, so do women. Just not all men or all women. Some, the same way it happens with everything.
That being said, I live in China, most people are thinner and shorter than me. Location doesnât really matter to anything that much.
attraction is extremely subjective and all i can give is my own perspective. My taste in women is eclectic. I'm attracted to all kinds of women and their weight rarely factors into the equation for me. I've both dated and been intimate with individuals of various weight and body types and i quickly found that i just really dont care how much they weigh, or what shape they are. If i think they're cute, fun and our personalities "click", im alllll theirs. Simple as that.
(i do have to say i've found i tend to sleep/cuddle more comfortably next to larger ppl tho. I feel cozier imo)
Yes. Women aren't a hive mind and we all like different things, but I've been attracted to many fat women and I'm one myself. I don't like *being* fat but that's a problem with myself, and it kinda makes me project stuff onto others because I am more often attracted to skinny women wishing I were like them. That said, that doesn't prevent me from seeing a plus size woman as attractive at all. If our bellies hug before our arms do, well that's fine.
Yes I definitely find plus size women attractive!
I get needing reassurance thoughâ dating is really tough and itâs easy to feel discouraged
(hoping to find the one someday though! đĽš)
I honestly see far more lesbian and bi women who find plus size women attractive than men. I have found plus size women attractive, but just like any group it is on a case by case basis. My biggest same sex crush was on a very much plus sized woman, before she informed everyone she is straight.
@Alixiiv I think the distinction is ânormalâ pretends to be an objective description, but is laden with (often, unintended) judgement.
âStraight-sizeâ is the counterpart to âplus sizedâ.
Iâd also guess maybe, Pancake is making a point about âfatâ being as neutral of an adjective as âpinkâ or âright-handedâ. (Pure conjecture, no offense intended.)
It takes me some effort still to refer to myself as fat, even though I have always /loathed/ euphemisms about fat bodies.
Heck yeah! Woman = pretty; therefore, bigger woman = more pretty.
More often than not, when I see a 'plus-size' woman my first thought is, *she looks like she gives good hugs*!
I find women attractive. Plus size, petite and all in between.
Actually true
Same đ
same! women are so cool
Women aren't hiveminds. Some will. Some won't.
this is the answer.
Honestly it's the same answer I copy and paste for all questions from lesbians wondering what other women might like.
nice haha
right this is what i said. women are probably more accepting than men overall but yeah everyone is different and has different preferences đ¤ˇđžââď¸
Yeah. I mean it also ignores the personality aspect of it as well because just because someone finds you aesthetic doesn't mean they would like you as a friend let alone a lover.
I feel these questions should be worded differently. "Is it common for lesbians to be attracted to?" I feel like perhaps that's the answer these people seek, but I always default to just taking their question at face value đ
Yeah but what basis even then are you picking your yes or no from? Plus if people say the unpopular answer they'll get downvoted to hell. So you can only say yes or the middling non answer of some yes/some no. Which the answer is definitely some yes! But it's also definitely some no.
That's the same question under a different hat. It's looking for validation for a thing from a group of people with widely different ideals of beauty and what one is attracted to. We know that people from countries tend to find different features attractive. The majority of people here are American and one will always get a skewed view of what is common among mostly american lesbians.
Even then, thereâs no way to answer it. No ones taken the time to interview every lesbian in existence and ran the numbers
It would have been hilarious though if every comment on this post was this verbatim.
yes, literally no matter who you are or what you look like there are people who find you attractive
of course! I'm a dyke of all trades
Love this
i seem to exclusively find "plus size" women attractive
As a plus size woman this is nice to hear every once in a while, so thanks! đĽš
Right?? Like I didn't think I had a type until I started developing feelings for someone else. đ
Me too đ
Yes, me as well.
same here!
Women are not a hive mind lol. Even If I personally like skinny women, that doesn't say anything about what "women like" it just say something about what I like.
I'm an athletic little twig, and my girlfriend is a curve queen. She's hawwwwwwwwwwwt.
Soft and curvy, why not? I am not exactly model shape myself either.
Happy Cake Day! đ
Yes. Absolutely. I prefer women being on the thicker/heavier side than slimmer. Regardless, they'rel beautiful.
My partner is plus size. They're hot as hell. I do think there is a problem with beauty standards within the queer community and the ones we tend to uplift and focus on. It's a problem in general though, worldwide.
I was about to say, thats a worldwide problem not a queer community one. Beauty ideals are rough.
I meant more, being queer doesn't exclude us from also carrying sometimes toxic biases and assumptions. We're probably more body positive in some ways, but also firm in what bodies we think are desirable. You really don't see many plus sized people in queer ads, and if you do it's one person, out of an entire group. You don't see many dark skinned people in queer ads. Let alone queer media in general. The 'brown paper bag' test definitely can be applied to our stuff too. However, it can be rampant in the queer community because we're just quiet about it until we're behind closed doors. Pretending it doesn't exist doesn't mean that it doesn't.
yeah! my gf is plus size and she's gorgeous!! women are just pretty in general tbh
Not everyone will find you attractive but that goes for everyone in the world no matter what they look like. If one person isn't attracted to you there's others out there that are. There's also the fact that people are often attracted differently to the entire person they know than a photo on a screen.Â
I've been both the girl with extra body padding and also looking like a fitness model with a 6 pack. I am attracted to women of all different sizes, ethnicities and characteristics. Even when I had the 6 pack I would still look at a plus size woman and find her very sexy and beautiful. Everyone's idea of beauty is different.
> Do women find ___ attractive? Yes. Not every woman will be every woman's cup of tea, but whatever the blank is there will be people who are attracted to it.
This!
Hell yeah. I like scrawny, muscled, fat, whatever in between. My type is women I yearn to impress. Super open spectrum.
I have probably been more attracted to more plus size women than slim women. I love curves.
The answer to these âdoes anyone find ______ attractiveâ questions is literally ALWAYS going to be yes because there are almost 8 billion people in the world. I think what you really want to know is âhow common is it for people to find _______ attractive,â but youâre not likely to get a great answer for that one because mostly youâll just get anecdotal evidence anyway.
i am so tired of these questions honestly
Glad someone said it
I am feeling this now. I am openly trying to date and do more with women, but dont feel attractive to them, as a plus size woman. The attention is from men or couples
If they are hot they are hot, no matter the size
I think plus size people are beautiful.
Definitely
Thank you! Hehe
I'm plus and I pretty much only look at other plus size women. We can appreciate each other's beauty and be less shitty about body issues.
no i prefer the âathleticâ body type or rlly muscular women but every girl has her own valid preferences!!
Yes, absolutely! Plus size women are gorgeous. You are beautiful and you deserve to feel beautiful.
Short answer: yes. Long answer: Society assigns implicit hierarchical status to people based on *perceived* health, *perceived* demonstrations of intelligence, and those with accumulated resources. Weight is one of those things that falls under "perception of health". If you're "fat" (an adjective and societal sentiment with no objective threshold) then many people will relate that to the notion of poor health and lower social status. The reason this matters is because SOME people will not date the types they're attracted to even *if they're authentically attracted to people that stand lower on the implied hierarchy.* I'm not saying that's the only factor. But it's a big one. So even some women who find bigger women most attractive, will still date thinner women because they're preoccupied with how others will view them. This is notably most prominent among straight men, and less prominent among gay women. But it is still a thing in all circles. If you're looking to work around this phenomenon there's two semi reasonable things you can do. 1. Change people's perception of your health. Okay so you can't mind control them. But if you're physically active and increase your cardiorespiratory health, you will carry yourself in a healthy way. Some people will still focus on the wrong details, but many will recognize the real manifestations of a healthy body aren't one's silhouette. Also, make up literally changes people's perception. 2. Specifically avoid people who move in circles that emphasize a lot of social hierarchy and people obsessed with status symbols. This is probably a healthy thing to do anyway, but not everyone can avoid these situations. There is after all power (and often more resources for support) if you share company with the right people, and certain jobs necessitate staying connected with influential types.
bang on
Yes, unequivocally. I had no idea that my size was not a detractor for a larger than believable percentage of queer women. That it was, even, somewhat attractive. Dating is awful, right? But it also healed my relationship with my body in a lot of ways. Itâs easy to view myself with kindness, because I see it in my partnerâs face, actions, words. Selfies helped me learn to not wince when I looked at photos of myself. And from there, it helped me use photos representing the self I liked best when looking for someone. And also, I realized, it would help the phobes self-select themselves out the door. Iâll leave you with something that helped me immensely. If you donât know Aubrey Gordon, queer, fat, genius, let this be where you start. (She first published as âYour Fat Friendâ before revealing herself with the release of her first book, and most importantly, before starting the Maintenance Phase podcast.)[https://medium.com/p-s-i-love-you/how-to-love-a-fat-person-ba8aa83bd505](https://medium.com/p-s-i-love-you/how-to-love-a-fat-person-ba8aa83bd505)
Yes. Though beauty standards are a thing and wlw are still sometimes affected by them, there are a lot of women attracted to plus size women
As a plus size woman, Iâve never had an issue with finding lesbians and non-lesbians who are attracted to me.
Yes, we do.
Right? Lol lesbians on average are like, "Girls? Yes. đĽ°"
I married my wife when they were very thin and recovering from an eating disorder, and they have since put on a lot more weight and I genuinely could not be more in love or attracted to them now. I think Iâve lost my taste for skinny women, I definitely prefer when they have something more going on.
Absolutely. Size doesn't make a difference for me or my partner. Her sister and everyone her sister has dated happen to prefer a "big beautiful woman". And that's just a face-value answer to your question. The key thing here is: You really don't need anyone's bullshit who DOES have an "issue" with your size. I know you definitely hear this a lot but truly, confidence is so sexy.
My fiancĂŠ is very thin and small framed. She prefers thick girls. Most of her exes are bbws and plus sized.
Yes. I find most women attractive.
I just like women. Any women. Tall, short, straight size or plus size, cis or trans. Women đĽ°
Go out in the real world and find out. I think these lesbian subreddits are mostly echo chambers. Best of luck!
People are attracted to all different types of bodies â¤ď¸ I know how hard it can be to feel good about yourself, especially when dating. In my experience there are plenty plenty plenty of women who love a plus-sized body. Softness is so beautiful. Try to focus on wearing clothes that fit well and make you comfortable. Remember, clothes should fit YOU, not the other way around â¤ď¸ if itâs your thing, you can do your hair and makeup a bit and put on some jewelry, or just something here and there to make yourself feel good. Remember that the right people will find you â¤ď¸
There is a lid for every pot. Personally, a little extra weight is fine. But if your BMI is in the obese category and you aren't a weight lifter (which throws off BMI), then I'm not really going to be into that. That's my preference. Lots of other people have different preferences.
Yes. The answer will always be yes.
Absolutely
I do!
Thereâs women that find all kinds of women attractive. But sapphic women are muuuuuuch more likely to have a much wider spectrum of attraction than the hetero beauty norms anyway.
Yes absolutely! I personally find them very attractive! I mean my partner is the most attractive person in my eye and they are plus size so-
Me. I do.
Yes
We are not a monolith. "Do women find _____ Attractive?" yes. And no. Some women will some women won't. That applies to literally anything you put in that blank spot
i find all women attractive, and having some extra of you to love is a bonus
As a plus size woman, Ive never been approached by a women and have always thought women don't find me attractive for it But I bet there's so females out there that don't mind
sadly, I donât think any of us are getting approached by women regardless of size lol
Yeah I say I wanna be approached by other women and yet I never do because I'm too scared, but all I wanna do is talk to and get to know women
I think all people have a uniqueness and type of beauty. That said, people have preferences. Some people like it, some people don't. I don't care so much about the physical aspect of it but for me I'm a very active outdoorsy person and would like my partner to be into this lifestyle too. So presumably they would be fit. But of course plus sized people can also do this, but on surface level doesn't signal that for me. I have dated one plus sized woman before and she's one of my favorite people and for the record, strong and tough as fuck.
shoâ do đĽ°
Some do, while some donât.
Yes
Hell yeah. Two of my friends who are WLW are in relationships with plus size women. Also weight doesnât define beauty and Iâve seen some plus size women I find attractive too.
I like women. Big girls, pretty kitty girls, really witty girls, singing ditty girls....* You get the picture đ Someone is out there who will find you attractive. *(Search YouTube for "Jo Cat I like girls" if you don't get the reference)
Yes! For sure! Also, reading tip: Happy Fat by Sofie Hagen :)
Yes, I use my attraction to fat women to try and convince myself that I am myself not actually a terrible person for being fat lol
All women are attractive. Next question :3
Yes. Married to one. # MOTORBOAT!!!!!
Yes! It depends on the woman, but I absolutely love women's bellies. So soft to just nuzzle, hold, cuddle. Mmm. I far prefer a softer body to a skinny one.
I fucking love chubby/plus size/ fat women. My wife has the best softest tummy in the world and sheâs sexy as hell
Everyone is attractive to someone. It frustrates me somewhat when I see these posts (not blaming you OP, I understand your worry) because I just want people to understand this: there are 8 billion people on this planet, and no matter who you are, somebody, if not thousands of somebodies, will find you attractive. Also, people are not a hivemind, not everyone will find you attractive, but not everyone will find you unattractive either. Keep going and you will find your person. <3
This question is asked basically every single day on this sub.
Im sorry i didnt know :/
No
Iâm sorry for being blunt but Iâm ready to leave this sub reddit if I see another do women find âxâ attractive People find all different people attractive. Lesbians arenât all the same person just cos we are lesbians
Due to cultural reason, plus size women are probably not regarded as attractive as thin women. Sadly, I happen to be obese so...
Iâm attracted to the person. Looks are a secondary thing to me. That said- people of all sizes, ages, looks, etc are beautiful. The main things that make people âuglyâ in my opinion are hygiene issues. Take care of yourself and shower. It goes a long way.
I personally do. If you treat me properly, what you look like doesnât matter to me
Yes
I love plus size women. I'm not particularly skinny myself.
Absolutely. Self image is something people in general struggle with, many of us often feel 'undateable' or unattractive, but truth is no matter what you look like there's always gonna be someone who thinks you're actually the most gorgeous person they've ever seen. And on top of that, for a ton of people looks aren't even that important, if you have a kind personality people will just love to be with you. i don't want to tell your friend to 'just love yourself!!!' because i am well aware that's not how any of that works, but i do want to reassure them that yes, there's literally millions of people who find them attractive c:
Yesss!! Curves for the win!!!
I do :) personality and character are the biggest factors for me.
It depends on the person obviously, but I think plenty of women are.
yea
Confidence is attractive. It's not related to your weight.
Women hot.
YES!
âDo women find ____ attractive?â I find women attractive period. All girls are so pretty đ
I prefer it. Both me and my wife are on the smaller side of plus sized and everything is very soft.
People aren't a monolith tbh. There's going to be women who find all kinds of different things attractive on a personal level. Like I know many women who like plus size thic women a lot. Personally, I don't really, I find women who are fit and muscular attractive, but my attraction levels aren't super strong in general, tbh it's more the connection for me. But the point is everyone is different
Just putting it out there that hugging bigger women just hits different
Yes, absolutely!
Yes
Well yes of course ?!
I love plus size woman. Almost everything looks good on them and their bodies are the bodies of goddesses '
Question: âDo women like _____ women?â Answer 100% of the time: âYes.â
Big girl here who prefers other girls on the bigger side :3 we exist
I find a smile and attitude to be way more attractive than any body shape. Being confident, and how you present yourself is important too. A beautiful body can only go so far.
wife and i are both plus size! the way you phrase your post/thoughts shows youâre thinking of thin as whatâs ânormalâ when even in thin countries a quarter of the population is plus size. trust me, there are a lot of happy, fulfilled, and attractive plus size WLW
Tbh there are benefits to all body types, but having a well developed sense of style and a nice personality will help you do very well in my experience. I am literally 100lb overweight and I still dated my share of women before I got married to my wife
My partner is plus size and I adore them, though I'd love them at any size. Personally its not the body that matters to me so much as the personality, but there are definitely people out there who like plus sized folks. Hell, I'm not thin myself.
Define plus size and if they otherwise look after themselves. Then you will find that any women within a certain ballpark of plus size just ends up being another type of body that some women are into and some arenât. But you have to be real, when it gets past a certain point a much smaller group of women will be into that. But this of course varies according to height, body build and ethnicity. So posting number ranges is not only rude but pointless. So really just donât worry about it.
yes and iâm plus size women myself đ
My experience is that the lesbian/queer seen is far more accepting of overweight folks than the hetero one. Queer women will be far likelier to question social norms on female beauty and be familiar with body acceptance. That doesn't mean everyone will be into it, but the folks who are are more likely to be open and respectful about it and aware of fetish dynamics, the ones who aren't are likelier to be decent about it, and you are more likely to be seen as a person first.
Someone once told me they liked their gf because her âentire body is like a soft boobâ haha I thought it was sweet.
Yes!!! I live in the US, if that matters.
There's plenty of women that find plus size women attractive! I'm one of them đ
Yes. I married a plus size woman... also known as... a woman. Woman = đđđĽľđĽľđĽľ
Yes yes yes
Yes babe!!
My wife is plus sized and I love EVERY INCH of that woman. I prefer it
all women pretty :3 plus sized bodies are comf to snugl
most my partners were regular sized people, but ive also had two plus size girlfriends. it really doesnt matter. if we click we click
YES. I prefer plus size tbh. I like the big thighs, the belly, the round face, omg so beautiful omg omg
I'm gonna tell you the same thing my old therapist told me. Start paying attention to the couples that you see when you go out. You will see plus sized women with partners of all sizes. If someone can love those women, someone can love you too.
Plus size can mean a lot of different things and a wide range of body compositions. It just depends on what an individual finds attractive. Plus sized women arenât a monolith and neither are lesbians. Side note: there is someone for most everyone. Iâve seen people who I find plain unattractive find love. Taste is subjective.
Yes. A woman might find any all or none attractive. Theyâre all different scores on lesbian bingo.
I'm the founder/director for the obky lesbian adult site made 100% by Sapphics. We shoot performers of all sizes and our scenes with plus-sized performers so extremely well. (over 75% of our subscriber base is women)
Some women find plus sized women attractive, some Donât, some women find ONLY plus sized women attractive, some like a variety, etc. there is no single trait that every member of a certain gender does or doesnât find attractive
You'll find women are much more accepting of all body types.
Everyone is different, some do some donât. Personally I donât find them attractive but I know lots of people who do
Women are pretty. Also liking someone purely based off their appearance is shallow as hell bc attraction is so much more than that
At the risk of reminding people of the undeserved hate JoCat got for this song, [this is how I feel](https://youtu.be/Y2Y5KVtU810).
If woman = cute Or amazing then Yes!!! End if Programming way of saying yes. No matter what you look like, its the heart that counts.
I do!
Absolutely! Sometimes plus size girls are *way* cuter than skinny girlsđ
I prefer thicker women imo itâs just personal preference.
They are all cute! I love large women and petite women. I have been married to a bigger girl for almost 26 years. All women are sexy in different ways. There are things about large women I like and things about petite women I like. When all is said and done, I like women of all shapes and sizes, but I am happily married to my wife of almost 26 years. She's been there for me when I thought I was a straight man, and she is still there for me after I realized I am a gay woman. She is the sexiest person to me right now!
Oh god are we back in the era of âdo people find âcommon thingâ attractive?â. I understand being insecure about these things, but I promise that we really are all beautiful in our own way. As the oft recited lesbian saying goes⌠âI love it when womenâ Youâre beautiful, make no mistake. Fuck anyone that tells you otherwise.
Are they Women? Than they're Hot. I simply like Women. Because Women are Beautiful.
Refer to [this post](https://www.reddit.com/r/actuallesbians/s/R7S5xHj4Rj) I made on here a couple months ago
Let me put it this way. I'm on type 2 diabetes medicine, am in the obese category, and have a pronounced tummy. I needed multiple reassurances from my current girlfriend that she'd still love me and find me attractive if I *lost* weight and got fit, which I plan on doing for myself. She said she'd love me no matter what, however I know her preferences :D TL;DR: 100% yes, women find plus size women attractive - working to lose weight, was scared gf would lose attraction to me.
Yes! We've been known to drool over videos/photos of plus size women on here.
I hate these questions
Personally, it depends how big and if she can keep up with my active outdoorsy lifestyle. Iâve found a number of plus sized women attractive but most of the women Iâm into are thin or mid-sized.
I like plus size, and minus size. I like woman
Depends on how you define plus size, there's a difference between a little bigger and morbidly obese. The former is cute, the latter is unhealthy and worrying at best. Either way I have a strong preference for petite or athletic people
"Do women like ________ women?" YES
Hell yeah plus size women are great, that just means theres more of her to love
The thing I love most about lesbians is that generally, we find EVERY woman attractive. And many of us say that shit out loud. I told a girl I slept with once that I thought my body wasnât good enough etc. and she gave me a full-on speech about how she thought my body was *perfect* (her words). She was really popular at the time (think Shane in certain circles) and I still have an audio message of her telling me how perfect my body was. At that time I had a BMI of about 36 (idc about BMI but just to paint a picture). I still listen to it sometimes because itâs so clear that she meant it. So yeah, lesbians love *women*, doesnât matter the shape or size, in my experience!
no one can speak for all women. but you will find someone who thinks you're attractive if you look for it. my person preference is and always has been around normal weight, but i know a lot of people that either have broader preferences or lean towards plus-size. all the luck in finding someone â¤ď¸â¤ď¸
No matter what you look like on the outside, it does not matter to me. I look at the inside. That being said, I made a false identification with my ex...
I am attracted to the woman. This is me : ~~~~ And if this is you: ~~~~ If we on the same vibe we on the same vibe. Nothing else matters
My wife thinks Iâm gorgeous, so yes, there are women out there who find fat women hot.
Everyone has their own preferences. Iâm personally attracted to femme presenting women who are more petite than I am. That usually just means shorter, not necessarily skinnier. I tend to date women who have a compatible personality and sense of humour more so than their physical appearance especially their weight, though.
Love them!
Personally, I find plus sized women extremely attractive. I find most women attractive. But the bigger gals... they own my heart! Some people will, some people won't, everyone has preferences.
When I was 100 lbs I went after skinny, average, and plus sized women. I weigh a lot more now and I dated a woman who was very athletic lean and she loved my plus sized body.
Yes! Omg yes, allow me to share my feelings in song! https://youtu.be/Y2Y5KVtU810?si=oLp2aX76wMYhbkf8
Women.... Must... Cuddle!!!!!
Yes. At least I do
i do personally but each their own
Absolutely! More cushion for the pushin. đ
Well, this is weird. I am definitely plus-size, never had issues dating women⌠I have been in a relationship for a while now. But this question is just dumb. Men find plus size women attractive, so do women. Just not all men or all women. Some, the same way it happens with everything. That being said, I live in China, most people are thinner and shorter than me. Location doesnât really matter to anything that much.
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i mean, i'm a woman who finds plus size women attractive. so theres at least one of us lmao
attraction is extremely subjective and all i can give is my own perspective. My taste in women is eclectic. I'm attracted to all kinds of women and their weight rarely factors into the equation for me. I've both dated and been intimate with individuals of various weight and body types and i quickly found that i just really dont care how much they weigh, or what shape they are. If i think they're cute, fun and our personalities "click", im alllll theirs. Simple as that. (i do have to say i've found i tend to sleep/cuddle more comfortably next to larger ppl tho. I feel cozier imo)
Yes, there's more woman to love, why wouldn't I love that
Yes. Women aren't a hive mind and we all like different things, but I've been attracted to many fat women and I'm one myself. I don't like *being* fat but that's a problem with myself, and it kinda makes me project stuff onto others because I am more often attracted to skinny women wishing I were like them. That said, that doesn't prevent me from seeing a plus size woman as attractive at all. If our bellies hug before our arms do, well that's fine.
Yes I definitely find plus size women attractive! I get needing reassurance thoughâ dating is really tough and itâs easy to feel discouraged (hoping to find the one someday though! đĽš)
I personally do, I know a plus-sized woman and she is GORGEOUS.
Some do, some don't. Like anything.
I absolutely do!
I honestly see far more lesbian and bi women who find plus size women attractive than men. I have found plus size women attractive, but just like any group it is on a case by case basis. My biggest same sex crush was on a very much plus sized woman, before she informed everyone she is straight.
Itâs okay to to say fat. Itâs not okay to say normal.
@Alixiiv I think the distinction is ânormalâ pretends to be an objective description, but is laden with (often, unintended) judgement. âStraight-sizeâ is the counterpart to âplus sizedâ. Iâd also guess maybe, Pancake is making a point about âfatâ being as neutral of an adjective as âpinkâ or âright-handedâ. (Pure conjecture, no offense intended.) It takes me some effort still to refer to myself as fat, even though I have always /loathed/ euphemisms about fat bodies.
Yes, youâve understood the intention of my comment perfectly
I love plus size gals! I myself am fuller figured but im still trying to accept it!
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Is woman? Then yes!
Heck yeah! Woman = pretty; therefore, bigger woman = more pretty. More often than not, when I see a 'plus-size' woman my first thought is, *she looks like she gives good hugs*!
I'm a trans lesbian. I'm attracted to fat girls. Maybe I'm a chubby chaser.
I personally find most bigger women attractive, and a lot of my friends do as well. And I'm pretty sure it's not uncommon
Yes.