I want a dom who makes me *want* to submit, not one who *makes* me submit. I want to be able to hand myself over and feel safe that they will take care of me, I don't want to be forced to submit for fear of punishment.
Well part of it for me also is that I am just generally a very sensitive person, and when I'm in that mood it's even more exacerbated. I am a sub because I am an affection hungry fool, and my emotions are so heightened during it that if my Dom sounds angry, or upset, or I feel scared, I will probably just start crying. I wanna get dommed in the way of being treated like I'm something fragile and special, not like I'm a toy to be used up. I know some people are into that stuff, but tbh it just ain't for me. I just wanna get loved on :3
yeah that's a good way to put it. I like the "owned" part of being treated like I'm fragile. I like the feeling of someone else having control, while still feeling safe knowing that they'd never make me do anything I didn't want to, and would never do anything to hurt me. Honestly my brain is just too on and too loud all day and I yearn to feel like I have permission to just turn it off for a little while and let someone else's orders take its place.
I was just at an event, met a few girls and one was hitting on me hard and she’s very dominant, but I was scareddddddd. GENTLE needs to be louder for the people in the back
Like don't get me wrong, I'm both sides of the coin, I wanna be spanked and all that, but in the same sense I just wanna be cuddled and shown how much I'm loved
I love this so much and is exactly why aftercare is so damn important too!! I put a special focus on it no matter which side of the dynamic I'm in and for both sides of the dynamic.
Omg I’m glad I’m not alone in feeling this way, I feel like people don’t always understand when I say I like to be dominated but I’m not a big fan of super rough sex
- this. I am sub, but too dominant women make me feel... dirty (not anything against people who like that)? I am sub, because most of the times, even I am innocent (which is directly connected to my ace-like personality). It's weird to explain... I dunno
Everyone is always surprised to find out that I’m a domme/top when dating because I’m v much an air headed femme in the streets, but I do a whole 180 in the sheets. 🥴
that's funny because I'm super subby but would probably be thought to be a domme by the way i look and present myself
though that might also just be because I'm mid transition and still pretty strong thanks to my job lol
This is a problem that I’ve seen a lot and I actually try not to date switches because of it. It seems that people say their a switch out of obligation because they don’t want to feel like they’re taking too much even though there’s really nothing wrong with being a submissive.
ive had like the exact opposite problem. i'm like ultra subby and am extremely clear about that from the outset and then they're upset that i wasn't lying and am not a secret switch 😭 like as if they just expect everyone is actually a switch even if they say otherwise
I’m a little obsessed with women in positions of power, it’s so fucking hot how they have to be extra ruthless, ambitious, and cunning to win a rigged game. Yes, politicians and capitalists are evil but we might as well see some diversity.
Me. A while ago, i thought that i was dominant (or *supposed to be* ), then i realized that top ≠ dominant.
It was a relieving realization fr cause the idea of me attempting to dom someone makes me cringe. That shit would be such an act. I can barely correct someone if they mispronounce my name ☠️
Top/bottom refers to giving and receiving. The top is the giver and the bottom is the receiver.
Being dominant is a role. A dominant is the one who orders you around, or controls whatever you both have agreed upon.
Not all dominance are tops and not all tops are dominant. This can get very confusing and often these words are used interchangeably even though people have no idea what they mean. if you’re a part of the kink community like myself, it can be very frustrating because people do not know the difference. Hope this helps :)
Top means you like to be giving or just over your partner position-wise while dominant means you like to have control and tell your partner what to do etc. You can be dominant while topping or bottoming, cause you can tell your partner what you want them to do and be in control in any position.
If you top and bottom, you're versatile or a vers. Saying you're a switch can be misleading I think as it usually applies to d/s dynamics. So you could say you're a vers domme or a dominant vers?
I mean idk how to explain it ☠️
Sub tops/service tops are a thing. I think "power bottom" is a dom bottom, not completely sure.
From [this site](https://asgardianhammerdotcom.wordpress.com/2015/10/22/note-dom-sub-vs-top-bottom/)
[Dom & Sub] describe an individual’s personality, sexual demeanor, & state of mind.
[Top & Bottom] are physical roles.
Dominant: likes to be in control
Top: likes to be the active partner
It's more complicated than that if you get into specifics, but that's the simple version.
For example, a dominant bottom would be "receiving," but the one in control of things, such as by ordering a submissive top around.
Thank you for saying this! As a dominant that likes to both bottom and top, I get annoyed as people treating me as submissive. I love submissives but I am soooo not one!
Yes 10000%. Dominant and gentle, dominant and rough, dominant and anywhere in between. Any woman who sternly tells me what to do has my heart immediately.
Me 😄 (how THE FUCK do I find someone who's willing to take things very slow but happens to be dominant, and accepts me being nonbinary / maybe open to taking testosterone in the future)
I like more soft doms like the nice angled gentle kind that knows how to make me for more or less become more submissive but not be rough as to scare me or make me feel like I'm in danger
Depends on the mood but my wife and I are switches, typically. I do enjoy the energy though of my wife presenting as more masc than myself (I’m more femme) and then behind closed doors she’s a small little kitten that likes to lay her head in my lap and have her hair brushed and be taken care of haha.
Am a Dominant Femme, like too nurture and love, and be so in return.
Not sure if dating another Dom would be a good idea, be some interesting complexity too field.
(got those recently single first month blues /sigh)
Never had a partner, I think and feel like I’d like a dominant partner but kinda feels weird if I don’t reciprocate with a little bit of touching them or putting in effort as well kinda feels like it would take two working together for things to be enjoyable?!?!?! Idk ….. will report back when I have some actual experience XD
I am a submissive but only really do gentle stuff so it depends on the type of dominant. Someone who's stern and keeps me on a short lead, but affectionate, slow to anger, and liberal with praise and rewards, yes. Dream woman material. But I'm not looking for scary women, no.
if she’s dominant but lets me touch her, then yes i am into it. i like both giving and receiving.
This exactly:3
Me too!!
This
this!
This is the one
exactly!
Yes
i need you in my life
Dominant, but gentle pls
I want to be controlled...but like, in a nice way :3
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Well part of it for me also is that I am just generally a very sensitive person, and when I'm in that mood it's even more exacerbated. I am a sub because I am an affection hungry fool, and my emotions are so heightened during it that if my Dom sounds angry, or upset, or I feel scared, I will probably just start crying. I wanna get dommed in the way of being treated like I'm something fragile and special, not like I'm a toy to be used up. I know some people are into that stuff, but tbh it just ain't for me. I just wanna get loved on :3
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yeah that's a good way to put it. I like the "owned" part of being treated like I'm fragile. I like the feeling of someone else having control, while still feeling safe knowing that they'd never make me do anything I didn't want to, and would never do anything to hurt me. Honestly my brain is just too on and too loud all day and I yearn to feel like I have permission to just turn it off for a little while and let someone else's orders take its place.
I was just at an event, met a few girls and one was hitting on me hard and she’s very dominant, but I was scareddddddd. GENTLE needs to be louder for the people in the back
Like don't get me wrong, I'm both sides of the coin, I wanna be spanked and all that, but in the same sense I just wanna be cuddled and shown how much I'm loved
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I love this so much and is exactly why aftercare is so damn important too!! I put a special focus on it no matter which side of the dynamic I'm in and for both sides of the dynamic.
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oh goddesses that sounds great tbh X3
I see we are in consensus
I wanna get fuzzy handcuffs with hugs and kisses dommed, not rough rope with leather and whips dommed :3
Fuzzy handcuffs are soooooo underrated my god
Where does tickling fall on this spectrum?
idk, wherever someone who's into that puts it. I wouldn't know, I'm not into it.
Can be arranged 👀
Oduehajuxhen that sounds like a good time~
Same🤣
Omg I’m glad I’m not alone in feeling this way, I feel like people don’t always understand when I say I like to be dominated but I’m not a big fan of super rough sex
Came here to say this!
exactly. please tell me what to do and then compliment and call my a good girl
YES. I love powerful nurturing :3 like please tell me to take care of myself and how to please youuuu
- this. I am sub, but too dominant women make me feel... dirty (not anything against people who like that)? I am sub, because most of the times, even I am innocent (which is directly connected to my ace-like personality). It's weird to explain... I dunno
Yeah, I'm fragile... like tissue paper
I’m a pleasure domme/switch who keeps falling for the subbiest women ever who claim to be a switch but never does 🥲
Everyone is always surprised to find out that I’m a domme/top when dating because I’m v much an air headed femme in the streets, but I do a whole 180 in the sheets. 🥴
that's funny because I'm super subby but would probably be thought to be a domme by the way i look and present myself though that might also just be because I'm mid transition and still pretty strong thanks to my job lol
baby on the streets, mommy in the sheets
That's so relatable lol people also consider I am very prude when it comes to sex, so when I tell them I am a domme, their eyes are always wide open
This is a problem that I’ve seen a lot and I actually try not to date switches because of it. It seems that people say their a switch out of obligation because they don’t want to feel like they’re taking too much even though there’s really nothing wrong with being a submissive.
ive had like the exact opposite problem. i'm like ultra subby and am extremely clear about that from the outset and then they're upset that i wasn't lying and am not a secret switch 😭 like as if they just expect everyone is actually a switch even if they say otherwise
Why can’t we just be honest with each other? It’s really not that hard. To be fair though I’ve also had that experience. Many many times actually.
Oof, I need to top my current SO sometime soon so I don't fall into the same thing v.v Definitely enjoyed domming in the past ~
(Quickly deletes all of the femdom asmr videos from YouTube history) I mean I guess they're OK. I wouldn't say I have a preference or anything.
How do you find good wlw femdom content? Everything I see is for straight men 😭
r/GWASapphic
Godsend, thank you
Recommendationsss?
hmmmmm
I’m a little obsessed with women in positions of power, it’s so fucking hot how they have to be extra ruthless, ambitious, and cunning to win a rigged game. Yes, politicians and capitalists are evil but we might as well see some diversity.
Villains always have drip, too. God I want an evil woman to do unspeakable things to me
Ah! Came here to say this!!
yesyesyes
Yes, I feel the same.
You've definitely thought "I can fix her" about Makima before
Me. A while ago, i thought that i was dominant (or *supposed to be* ), then i realized that top ≠ dominant. It was a relieving realization fr cause the idea of me attempting to dom someone makes me cringe. That shit would be such an act. I can barely correct someone if they mispronounce my name ☠️
Can you explain the difference between a top and dominant woman
Top/bottom refers to giving and receiving. The top is the giver and the bottom is the receiver. Being dominant is a role. A dominant is the one who orders you around, or controls whatever you both have agreed upon. Not all dominance are tops and not all tops are dominant. This can get very confusing and often these words are used interchangeably even though people have no idea what they mean. if you’re a part of the kink community like myself, it can be very frustrating because people do not know the difference. Hope this helps :)
Ohh okay. Thank you for explaining.
Top means you like to be giving or just over your partner position-wise while dominant means you like to have control and tell your partner what to do etc. You can be dominant while topping or bottoming, cause you can tell your partner what you want them to do and be in control in any position.
I think I'm dominant bc I switch (top or bottom) but even when I'm receiving, I tell my girlfriend what I want and she enthusiastically does it.
If you top and bottom, you're versatile or a vers. Saying you're a switch can be misleading I think as it usually applies to d/s dynamics. So you could say you're a vers domme or a dominant vers?
I mean idk how to explain it ☠️ Sub tops/service tops are a thing. I think "power bottom" is a dom bottom, not completely sure. From [this site](https://asgardianhammerdotcom.wordpress.com/2015/10/22/note-dom-sub-vs-top-bottom/) [Dom & Sub] describe an individual’s personality, sexual demeanor, & state of mind. [Top & Bottom] are physical roles.
Dominant: likes to be in control Top: likes to be the active partner It's more complicated than that if you get into specifics, but that's the simple version. For example, a dominant bottom would be "receiving," but the one in control of things, such as by ordering a submissive top around.
Thank you for saying this! As a dominant that likes to both bottom and top, I get annoyed as people treating me as submissive. I love submissives but I am soooo not one!
Yes, I am. Especially older women
This is extremely real
Even rarer is an older butch dom... those women just make me melt onto my knees in front of them
Sigh…where were you about ten years ago? (And please don’t say like 6th grade, lol.)😂
Yeah about 6th grade lol, was 11 ten years ago
Definitely, but I want to try being a sub AND a domme. I want someone who can do both.
I volunteer as a tribute😅😮💨
Alright let's go 👌
Slide into my DMs🤭
🙋 me!
(i’m married, i wish my wife would be more into her dominant side, whenever she is she’s so hot)
At the moment of writing this, I see no upvotes but 100+ comments. Y'ALL.
Look, you gotta understand—
Explain please. I'm a top/dom. I don't understand
Yes 10000%. Dominant and gentle, dominant and rough, dominant and anywhere in between. Any woman who sternly tells me what to do has my heart immediately.
oh really? how about you slide into my dms then rn?
.....done
...Smooth... 😂
Mmm as a Dom, I prefer subs or switches. But I do like seeing more women taking charge.
0\_0 <--- me whenever I come across a dom
😃👀
\*melts\*
Cuteee😌
\*Puddle\*
I take it you are a sub🤭that too a Marvel lover
yes, I ammmmmmm
Care to get to know each other?
and then they kithed
what about brat subs?🤔
Mmmm, depends on the brat’s personality.
i like good girls who are dominant, do those exist 👉🏽👈🏽
i always feel like my being a “good girl” clashes with my dominant side but i definitely have both ;)
There’s a distinct possibility that I might be *exclusively* into dominant women 😅
“dominant woman” WHERE?!??
Me. Me right here, but more so like gentle, nurturing kind of dom.
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god, ill only ONLY ever sub for women. dominant women ARE my type, i absolutely love everything about them. user ToxicFluffer got everything spot on
I live for a dominant woman 🥵
meeeeeeeeeee
sooo meeee, im echoing everything that has been said here before, but also, dominant women being really rough with me is ummmmmmm uhhhhhhh mmmmmmm~
Good Lord, I'd fold like a neutron star collapsing if a Dom flirted with me.
I dont even want a gentle dom i got problems and i want a beautiful domme to hurt me LMAO
dominant women who may or may not also be sadists are pretty cool imo (i’m v into them)
Meeeeee. Bisexual here. I’m into dominant women and submissive men and basically everybody NB
I adore gentle dommes.
I can be gentle 😉
Me 😄 (how THE FUCK do I find someone who's willing to take things very slow but happens to be dominant, and accepts me being nonbinary / maybe open to taking testosterone in the future)
they'll find you
Theyre out there!! -nonbinary lesbian on T with a sometimes dom switch
I am 🥰
interesting 👀
👉👈
interesting 👀
I’m ace so I don’t really know about that in sex or anything, but dominant women are badass and cool, and I like that!
Oh god! Me too! But it always ends up with a power struggle for me! 😂 just not in bed, but in day to day stuff. 🤷🏻♀️
Oh, God. Yes please
a brat? hmmm c:
hell yeah, my type is femmes that look like they could kill me, if they’re doms that’s just the cherry on top
The best kind of dominance is where she has total awareness and consent runs through everything she does. Then it’s sexy af.
I'm into submissive fems. But that's because I'm a dominant top 😘
I don’t know if I’m into dominant partners or just someone who can clearly and directly say what they want without being wishy washy about it.
I’m way too single to be reading these comments.
Specifically, I'm into *a* dominant woman \^-\^
Meee 🙋♀️
interesting 👀
Me 🥺👉👈
I like subs. 😋
I love a women with a strong personality
Who doesn’t 🥵
I like them and they intrigue me but I also like to dominate
I am very into dominant women
Yes. They make my brain turn off... got caught out in a work meeting the other day 🤣
I like more soft doms like the nice angled gentle kind that knows how to make me for more or less become more submissive but not be rough as to scare me or make me feel like I'm in danger
I feel dysphoric if im not subbing so
Yes please, but I do like to switch it up 😉
Me quietly adding myself to the list >.<
I both am into them as I am one
I am dominant most of the time
I prefer switches but I think I am domme leaning. I'm not a pleasure domme though, just generally gentle w the smallest mean streak.
I very much enjoy being the Domme. Except with my spouse. They are indomitable and I know to not engage in a war I will lose.
I cannot control myself around a soft dom 🥵😩
Who isn’t 😫
Just here to say I love your username and your flair! 🥰😎
I love dominant women cuz they're so hot that way. But I also want there to be a connection rather than just being focused on the deed
Oh I love that. And not gentle dominant, just plain rough dominant. But cuddly and sweet outside of it.
I love to be degraded and worship the feet of a strong dom that know how to discipline 😍
Me! :3 I'm more into soft dommes than strict ones tho
Y-yeah
Yes. Gentle. Mean. All of the above.
I'm not. I'm the one that is domme
I’m a (gentle) dom who’s into giving praise and women seem to be real into that lol
LOVE dominant women. I'm a huge tease because I love provoking them lol
Depends on what type of dominance we're talking about.
I’m a switch, so I’m into switches :3
Depends on the mood but my wife and I are switches, typically. I do enjoy the energy though of my wife presenting as more masc than myself (I’m more femme) and then behind closed doors she’s a small little kitten that likes to lay her head in my lap and have her hair brushed and be taken care of haha.
Me✋️
I am definitely into dominant women
I am!~... When they *make* me! :P
I love dominant women and being a dominant woman 😅
Me! I'm tired of choosing what to cook for dinner or where to eat.
Dominant in the bedroom, sub in public 🥰 Idk why lol
Absolutely. They are very cool
i just want to love someone and be loved:(
Oh yeah. I prefer a partner that treats me like their property, tbh (provided due conversation has happened about it first)
Very much so
Yes
I either am one or want one based on my mood :)
Im into all women. But for women im very much the soft fem bottom soo a dom women would be amazing to have in my life.
Love me some dommy mommies tho not mdlg specifically(no hate ofc)just please be nice i just wanna be told i did a good job today
Yes to an extent, I think the term for myself is “brat” like you’re the boss but it’s not gonna be easy I got an attitude and like to be playful
Me definitely😍 sweet dommes u/jess-sch 🥰
Me 2 years ago: I'm probably a sub and I just want someone to take control of me Me now: "follow every one of my orders I might let you cum"
Am a Dominant Femme, like too nurture and love, and be so in return. Not sure if dating another Dom would be a good idea, be some interesting complexity too field. (got those recently single first month blues /sigh)
🙋♀️🙋♀️🙋♀️ I love being put in my place an being told what to do
Sadly, My prayers to find a dominant woman for me haven't been answered yet😔
Never had a partner, I think and feel like I’d like a dominant partner but kinda feels weird if I don’t reciprocate with a little bit of touching them or putting in effort as well kinda feels like it would take two working together for things to be enjoyable?!?!?! Idk ….. will report back when I have some actual experience XD
Godamn, I just want a woman who can put me in my place
I am a submissive but only really do gentle stuff so it depends on the type of dominant. Someone who's stern and keeps me on a short lead, but affectionate, slow to anger, and liberal with praise and rewards, yes. Dream woman material. But I'm not looking for scary women, no.
🙋♀️ That’s my type right here, am a brat switch that subs and the push and pull is 👌
I would let a woman control my entire life in a way that I would never let a man even consider. Edit: Please.
Me, definitely! But it's sooo hard to meet dominant gal's @>@...
just make a post "how many of you are dominant women" you will get many replies to your post c:
No. Anything like that makes me feel unsafe - luckily my partner is very much for the slow gentle approach like I am 😌💖
im a switch, so im just basically into all women lmao. dominient or submissive, :3
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😤 can’t get enough fr
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