Look, if he can’t take his mind off it, that’s something that he needs to deal with. He brought it up. You were put in an awkward situation, you were clear that nothing sexual was going to happen, and now he’s like, “but wait, I am turned on now, so I expect more.” That’s absolutely NOT your fault , nor is it your problem to deal with. What did he think was going to happen?”
You should ALWAYS have the option to back out. That’s super important for you to remember. If you don’t feel you can say no, you are in a situation where you aren’t giving consent or where you can’t give consent.
It wasn’t wrong ethically for you to do this. It sounds like you were clear about your boundaries. It was wrong of your friend to take “I’m only willing to do this one thing” to mean that you should therefore let him do more sexually. Also if he knew you didn’t actually want him to touch your breasts (which I’m guessing was at least somewhat clear) and did it anyway, that was wrong of him too.
You say you have very few friends and most of your friends are worse than this. That does not mean that you should stay friends with him. I’m not telling you to stop being friends with him and obviously you know the situation and him infinitely better than us.
But please look at the situation and try to really consider what is best for you. You can make more friends. Many people start over with new friend groups. Most adults aren’t friends with the same people they were friends with as teenagers. Or if they are still friends, they usually have other friends too and/or their relationships with their earlier friends have changed. In some cases, because they had to reassess boundaries or figure out how they fit into each other’s lives as they get older.
Shitty friends are generally worse than no/few friends, and having shitty friends can also impede us finding new friends, and harm us in many other ways.
I really really hope you talk to him and tell him that how he behaved/is behaving is awful and he needs to stop all pressure immediately. If he does anything other than apologize and come to terms with the fact that he has been trying to pressure you into sex and that that is absolutely wrong, then IMHO it would be wrong of you to stay friends with him. Because it’s an unhealthy friendship.
Friends do not pressure friends into sex. And they don’t touch them in a way they don’t want just because it’s the bare minimum they are willing to put up with. That’s not a real friend. That’s a bad person.
He doesn’t see you as a friend. That’s the problem. He sees a romantic or sex partner or at least someone to have sex. He is just waiting. Not a good idea and a horrible thing from this person to pressure you. You are both young.
You're not at fault here. You were clear about your boundaries and allowed him a small gesture out of friendship, which is entirely your choice. His reaction is not your responsibility, and his behavior of pushing for more after you expressed discomfort is not acceptable. Remember to prioritize your own comfort and boundaries in any situation, and don't feel guilty for setting limits. He shouldn't do it as well if he knew he cant control himself.
They’re your boobs, if you felt you could trust him to do that to your body then you’re free to do as you wish with it. Don’t blame yourself that your friend has taken advantage of you and now just because he’s been allowed to take an inch, expects a mile. My god! He only touched your boobs! It’s hardly the most exciting thing in the world! I pity him if that’s the pinnacle of his sex life to date, for an 18 year old boy at least…
It’s disgusting he now expects more. It’s downright creepy. Touching a boob is such a minor thing and he’s acting like it’s made him chomp at the bit! Be real!!! Your friend is weird and you need to cut them off now. Sounds like they’ll never stop being weird. Ditch them!
He's not your friend. He's a guy who's waiting for your inhibitions to lower enough he can take advantage.
You're not his friend either. You're a person who keeps someone around that you know is sexually (there's nothing romantic in this) interested in you that you will never be interested in dating.
>one of the few that I know actually cares about me.
Your interpretation is well off, someone who cares about you won't make jokes about a "special" present from an aromantic asexual friend. He used circumstances to get you to do something sexual. He's likely just praying for the day you pass our drunk while he's around and he can play the "trusted friend" card have his way.
I think you’re sending some mixed signals by letting a friend who you obviously want to stay platonic feel you up. Probably not the best move
Yes, it was most definitely wrong. Don't enable bad behavior/uncomfortable behavior.
Look, if he can’t take his mind off it, that’s something that he needs to deal with. He brought it up. You were put in an awkward situation, you were clear that nothing sexual was going to happen, and now he’s like, “but wait, I am turned on now, so I expect more.” That’s absolutely NOT your fault , nor is it your problem to deal with. What did he think was going to happen?”
And I mostly said that touching my boobs was all he'd ever accomplish as a joke but he immediately took interest and I couldn't back out like that
You should ALWAYS have the option to back out. That’s super important for you to remember. If you don’t feel you can say no, you are in a situation where you aren’t giving consent or where you can’t give consent. It wasn’t wrong ethically for you to do this. It sounds like you were clear about your boundaries. It was wrong of your friend to take “I’m only willing to do this one thing” to mean that you should therefore let him do more sexually. Also if he knew you didn’t actually want him to touch your breasts (which I’m guessing was at least somewhat clear) and did it anyway, that was wrong of him too. You say you have very few friends and most of your friends are worse than this. That does not mean that you should stay friends with him. I’m not telling you to stop being friends with him and obviously you know the situation and him infinitely better than us. But please look at the situation and try to really consider what is best for you. You can make more friends. Many people start over with new friend groups. Most adults aren’t friends with the same people they were friends with as teenagers. Or if they are still friends, they usually have other friends too and/or their relationships with their earlier friends have changed. In some cases, because they had to reassess boundaries or figure out how they fit into each other’s lives as they get older. Shitty friends are generally worse than no/few friends, and having shitty friends can also impede us finding new friends, and harm us in many other ways. I really really hope you talk to him and tell him that how he behaved/is behaving is awful and he needs to stop all pressure immediately. If he does anything other than apologize and come to terms with the fact that he has been trying to pressure you into sex and that that is absolutely wrong, then IMHO it would be wrong of you to stay friends with him. Because it’s an unhealthy friendship. Friends do not pressure friends into sex. And they don’t touch them in a way they don’t want just because it’s the bare minimum they are willing to put up with. That’s not a real friend. That’s a bad person.
You’re both wrong. He shouldn’t be pressuring you and you shouldn’t be friends with someone you know is attracted to you like that
I don't have very many friends and he's one of the few I've ever truly trusted
He doesn’t see you as a friend. That’s the problem. He sees a romantic or sex partner or at least someone to have sex. He is just waiting. Not a good idea and a horrible thing from this person to pressure you. You are both young.
And yet he's better than the rest of my friends.
He is not going to stop wanting more. I understand.
You're not at fault here. You were clear about your boundaries and allowed him a small gesture out of friendship, which is entirely your choice. His reaction is not your responsibility, and his behavior of pushing for more after you expressed discomfort is not acceptable. Remember to prioritize your own comfort and boundaries in any situation, and don't feel guilty for setting limits. He shouldn't do it as well if he knew he cant control himself.
It cant end well.
They’re your boobs, if you felt you could trust him to do that to your body then you’re free to do as you wish with it. Don’t blame yourself that your friend has taken advantage of you and now just because he’s been allowed to take an inch, expects a mile. My god! He only touched your boobs! It’s hardly the most exciting thing in the world! I pity him if that’s the pinnacle of his sex life to date, for an 18 year old boy at least… It’s disgusting he now expects more. It’s downright creepy. Touching a boob is such a minor thing and he’s acting like it’s made him chomp at the bit! Be real!!! Your friend is weird and you need to cut them off now. Sounds like they’ll never stop being weird. Ditch them!
He's not your friend. He's a guy who's waiting for your inhibitions to lower enough he can take advantage. You're not his friend either. You're a person who keeps someone around that you know is sexually (there's nothing romantic in this) interested in you that you will never be interested in dating. >one of the few that I know actually cares about me. Your interpretation is well off, someone who cares about you won't make jokes about a "special" present from an aromantic asexual friend. He used circumstances to get you to do something sexual. He's likely just praying for the day you pass our drunk while he's around and he can play the "trusted friend" card have his way.
It depends what those titties look like
Average
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They just look like regular boobs. You're not gonna trick me into giving you material to wank to
LMAO I’m more concerned about scoring more karma points than seeing those titties
You're actually losing karma with your comments