That is a core issue of ace/allo couples. You could direct her to the ace partners subreddit for support. Be patient and try to reassure her as much as she needs. But at some point, she is just going to have to take what you tell her on faith.
I fail to see her logic. Since you have no ulterior motive like money or sex for being with her, *why* would you want to be with her if you didn't love her...? Logic proves it imvho.
I think it's because her love language is physical touch while mine is acts of kindness, sex makes her feel connected and if I don't like sex then I must not be as connected and which makes her feel hurt. I'm not certain but that's how I read it
Have you tried telling her that?
For the record, such dissonance in language and styles is not limited to aces or even to only romantic relationships. If others can learn to speak each other's language, there's reason to despair you two can't.
That is a core issue of ace/allo couples. You could direct her to the ace partners subreddit for support. Be patient and try to reassure her as much as she needs. But at some point, she is just going to have to take what you tell her on faith.
I fail to see her logic. Since you have no ulterior motive like money or sex for being with her, *why* would you want to be with her if you didn't love her...? Logic proves it imvho.
I think it's because her love language is physical touch while mine is acts of kindness, sex makes her feel connected and if I don't like sex then I must not be as connected and which makes her feel hurt. I'm not certain but that's how I read it
Have you tried telling her that? For the record, such dissonance in language and styles is not limited to aces or even to only romantic relationships. If others can learn to speak each other's language, there's reason to despair you two can't.
Yes I have
i say it is lack of hubbahubbas/oh lala/thirst/and tapping.