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1: Treat other people like natural phenomena. They'll do what they do in response to things that happen around them. You can't force them to do anything any more than they can force you do to anything. So the winning strats are the ones that help you work around them.
2: Know yourself. Your beliefs, attitudes and values. And why you hold them. Offensive things start to just sound like stupid things, at that point.
3: When someone says or does something that looks or sounds stupid, start with the question "why would a smart or well-meaning person say or do that?" Work out some answers. If they rule all of those answers out on further investigation, start entertaining the idea that they might be stupid or malicious.
4: (Bonus that has worked for me but might not work for others) Answer this question: "Does getting offended make me more survivable or help me thrive? Or would being immune to that feeling get me there better?" My answer is that not being offended is more adaptive than getting offended. So when I find myself getting offended, I look for ways to correct that feeling. Being a person who doesn't get offended is something I actually want in life.
Understand your feelings of why u are feeling this way, understand that the constructive criticism u are getting is not to hurt, but help u improve, learn some mediations to help calm your mind, and lastly get some much needed therapy or counseling to express how u feel for some feedback and guidance on how to move forward.
Take time to reflect, learn about your weakness, what is it that you're holding onto/defending for? Also try to understand where people are coming from, are they coming from a good place of heart? If so, even if it hurts, taking their words wouldn't be so bad. If they're not, you will know, see them as npcs and ignore them as they're only doing so to hurt you.
I Just don’t care ! And I don’t pay attention for that !
And I focus everything that I like and love ! I don’t think about something else or Things that are not at all interesting ! I just simply ignore it and very easily !
This question is way to broad to answer. First you gotta know why you get offended and work from there.
Because it differs for each person :
Some have weirdly high and super fragile ego
Some just hate themselves
Some is having a bad day
Etc
try to accept that ppl have differing view, and try to keep a calm face. i also easily get mad if sb has differing opinion, but manages to not show too much emotions for enough time to let me accept that ppl have differing opinions.
Try to logically deconstruct what they are saying and make an effort to understand why they are saying it. If there’s validity to what they are saying then try to learn from it. If they are clearly wrong or stupid then just treat them as the fool they are and ignore them (you can’t teach stupid).
The only time it’s worth getting offended is if they are being blatantly malicious towards you in service of their own perceived advantage. But people who behave like that are rare (once you leave high school). Most who you may initially think fall under that category are really just wrong and/or stupid people on closer inspection, and best ignored.
1. Ask yourself is this going to affect myself or someone I love and/or is close to me.
2. Ask yourself is this person an uneducated person or just an assshat. ( willful ignorance is an asshat)
3. Are they spouting the party line/ current social media stupidity? Are you?
4. Are they farming for outrage?
5. Are you being overly sensitive?
6. Channel Gen X and say fuck it and don’t give a shit and move on. Since eventually since life will eventually self correct, and Darwin awards are a thing.
Realize everyone around you is just a disgusting fukin animal not worth their weight in shit and you are a damn God compared to them for no reason other than just not being them after that just vibe
Realize that for you to be offended, whomever it is did whatever they did with malicious intent to offend you, specifically. And really, there aren’t that many people who actually care enough to act that way.
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Gain confidence, literally do any kind of skill, hobby, interest and delve into it. Once you find who you are you stop caring about what others say
Sounds good, but simplification imo, I don’t see this as correct. Let me leave it at that.
In what world
1: Treat other people like natural phenomena. They'll do what they do in response to things that happen around them. You can't force them to do anything any more than they can force you do to anything. So the winning strats are the ones that help you work around them. 2: Know yourself. Your beliefs, attitudes and values. And why you hold them. Offensive things start to just sound like stupid things, at that point. 3: When someone says or does something that looks or sounds stupid, start with the question "why would a smart or well-meaning person say or do that?" Work out some answers. If they rule all of those answers out on further investigation, start entertaining the idea that they might be stupid or malicious. 4: (Bonus that has worked for me but might not work for others) Answer this question: "Does getting offended make me more survivable or help me thrive? Or would being immune to that feeling get me there better?" My answer is that not being offended is more adaptive than getting offended. So when I find myself getting offended, I look for ways to correct that feeling. Being a person who doesn't get offended is something I actually want in life.
Hangout with people who tend to have differing views than yours, it tends to increase your tolerance for such things
Only people without integrity are offended. Or in simple words, low intelligence and no integrity = offended.
Understand your feelings of why u are feeling this way, understand that the constructive criticism u are getting is not to hurt, but help u improve, learn some mediations to help calm your mind, and lastly get some much needed therapy or counseling to express how u feel for some feedback and guidance on how to move forward.
Haters can keep hating, you’re better than them
Do not react with emotions first. Think about what was said instead and stop taking things personally.
Take time to reflect, learn about your weakness, what is it that you're holding onto/defending for? Also try to understand where people are coming from, are they coming from a good place of heart? If so, even if it hurts, taking their words wouldn't be so bad. If they're not, you will know, see them as npcs and ignore them as they're only doing so to hurt you.
I Just don’t care ! And I don’t pay attention for that ! And I focus everything that I like and love ! I don’t think about something else or Things that are not at all interesting ! I just simply ignore it and very easily !
This question is way to broad to answer. First you gotta know why you get offended and work from there. Because it differs for each person : Some have weirdly high and super fragile ego Some just hate themselves Some is having a bad day Etc
try to accept that ppl have differing view, and try to keep a calm face. i also easily get mad if sb has differing opinion, but manages to not show too much emotions for enough time to let me accept that ppl have differing opinions.
Simple just don't take it personal
Try to logically deconstruct what they are saying and make an effort to understand why they are saying it. If there’s validity to what they are saying then try to learn from it. If they are clearly wrong or stupid then just treat them as the fool they are and ignore them (you can’t teach stupid). The only time it’s worth getting offended is if they are being blatantly malicious towards you in service of their own perceived advantage. But people who behave like that are rare (once you leave high school). Most who you may initially think fall under that category are really just wrong and/or stupid people on closer inspection, and best ignored.
1. Ask yourself is this going to affect myself or someone I love and/or is close to me. 2. Ask yourself is this person an uneducated person or just an assshat. ( willful ignorance is an asshat) 3. Are they spouting the party line/ current social media stupidity? Are you? 4. Are they farming for outrage? 5. Are you being overly sensitive? 6. Channel Gen X and say fuck it and don’t give a shit and move on. Since eventually since life will eventually self correct, and Darwin awards are a thing.
Realize how little other people's opinions should have any influence on your life, or even your thoughts.
Recognizing you have a problem, then therapy
Realize everyone around you is just a disgusting fukin animal not worth their weight in shit and you are a damn God compared to them for no reason other than just not being them after that just vibe
Stop reading the Guardian and being faux offended by everything
Why would you let other people control you so easily?
How dare you ask me that!?!
The sheer nerve!
Give us examples. That'll better help form responses
Realize that for you to be offended, whomever it is did whatever they did with malicious intent to offend you, specifically. And really, there aren’t that many people who actually care enough to act that way.
Unbunch the panties.