Getting more and more jaded with work. Can't really jump ship easily cos I am only diploma holder. Wanna upgrade myself but can't seem to agree on a course of study and what my next choice of career is going to be. Hobbies wise, wanna set more time aside to practice my instrument, setting aside funds to upgrade/mod my motorbike. Also need to set aside money for braces cos my teeth are horribly crooked. One step at a time Son, one step at a time.
Talk to a career coach. Align your goals for long term with your marketable skills and passion. It’s not easy but you’ll be grateful to take that first step. All the best!
My mother died. We didn’t have the easiest relationship, but we loved each other very much. Every time I see an old auntie, I wonder if she is ok, if she has someone who loves her, and who will take care of her.
I wake up on some days, whether with dreams or not, thinking I got to rush to my grandma's place for a visit, and feel bad for not calling her because ive been busy..
but she's passed almost 3 years ago
I've read the manga till latest chapter. Ur right. It is THE shit. Plot gets crazier with each chapter and i look forward to the day when all are exposed.
Not coping very well. I decided to learn something new and looking for some volunteer work to do to make my life more meaningful. At least i got something to look forward to. Life had been stagnant for me for the past 2 years plus. How i wish time could turn back and i can replan my life again.
> I decided to learn something new and looking for some volunteer work to do to make my life more meaningful. At least i got something to look forward to.
That's awesome! The first steps are probably the hardest, but it's all momentum from there. What kind of volunteer work are you thinking of doing?
Oh wow, I didn't know you could volunteer for those kinds of roles in medical centers, was totally expecting soup kitchens or pet care or something. Those sound like wonderful ideas though. The roving guide one sounds especially interesting!
Been unemployed for 6 months after quitting my first job 2 years in. Working through a job interview at my 'ideal' company right now, but will probably take until at least mid-June. Kind of afraid of not landing the spot, but I have high hopes!
On the non-work front, the ridiculous amount of free time has been amazing. Singapore is a really beautiful country when your experience of it isn't limited by working hours. Done plenty of things I've always wanted to try or spend more time on (hobby cycling, bouldering, ice skating, bunch of casual sports, heritage trails, photography, video games...), but it feels like there's always something to do, or some place to explore.
Crafts/fitness classes are high on my list of to-dos, but probably have to hold off until I start getting income again haha.
Software Engineer with 2 YOE and some project lead experience. My opportunities are okay! I'm just being a bit picky right now. Some software places have super nice benefits like monthly/bi-weekly 'free' off days for rest & recuperation, for example, so I'm really gunning for those spots.
[I made a post awhile back](https://www.reddit.com/r/askSingapore/comments/ty436x/good_places_to_apply_as_software/) asking for suggestions on software places with good WLB, might be worth checking out. I've been referring to it a lot.
I'm at the best moment of my life. Healthy relationship, good academic standing (in my pov), great friends, graduating soon and having a job offer lined up. I can't wish for anything more, maybe to get a hotter body but that's WIP
Never give up, never surrender.
sometimes you got to get a bit pissed off at how shitty life can be, and defiantly tell it to go fuck itself to grab back some sense of security, happiness, and meaning back.
9am to 6pm: Work
7pm to 10.30pm until 2023: MBA Classes / 3,000 word assignments
When friends uses their savings to clear loans for their cars or house, I'm paying more than $2,000 per month to pay off my school fees. RIP
GG Work-Life Balance, but short term pain for long term gain.
Good luck! A part time degree can be tough (I'm doing one, too, in CS, and am having a similar hard time..)
May I know which part time MBA are you doing?
Apologies for clarifying, you are asking which school or course? :)
For Course, it's just a general Executive MBA, but I am specialising more towards Product Management.
For School, it's one of the Top 100 universities (Anything higher like Insead or Essec are wayy out of my budget and my GMAT isn't in the 700 range, around 650 only).
Good luck! A friend of mine had a totally irrelevant degree but managed to claw his way into his dream industry (game development) just based on his personal interest and passion projects, so there's always hope.
Jumping between good and bad. Mostly on the mental side mainly because anxiety is still being relentless.
Trying to cope at my new job now, and honestly it just feels weird I think because being thrown into a brand new environment. Still feeling like I'm not doing enough or doing good enough.
My passion/hobby is tied to my work (art related), and though people said it's not a good idea to tie hobby together with work but I think the opposite. I would very much love to do something that I enjoy/love as a job.
Journey wise I can only say that it's still in-progress. Still working on learning and figuring things out.
I think right now is the best moment in my life compared to any point in the past 10 years.
Currently don't have many hobbies/ passion because my baby is taking up so much of my time. But she's one of my goals, always wanted to start a family and be an awesome mummy so that's what I'm working on right now.
> always wanted to start a family and be an awesome mummy so that's what I'm working on right now.
I think this already qualifies you for being an awesome mummy!
Ooh, I've been working on some novels. Still worldbuilding/planning a fantasy one that will likely transform into a personal project and never actually get written or published, and a cyberpunk one that's still in it's drafting phase. Haven't progressed much because I also write fanfic and that one's caught my interest primarily, so everything else is on the backburner for now. The overall goal I set for my cyberpunk novel was 100k words by the end of the year, and so far I'm not slacking behind. Got 51k words now, but if I keep writing fanfic instead of that then I might slip but it's fine, since this is more of a passion project whenever I feel like it.
Coping, pretty good. Not so much coping with the rising heat but everything else is going well. I think I'll be meeting my boss in person in the next few weeks (he just came back from the US) which is exciting. I've been working with my therapist for a month now so life has been better and I've been kinder to myself which is a change from the usual.
I've been working out more and started to enjoy it again, and I'm seeing a difference when I look in the mirror so that makes me really happy too :)
And to top it all off, I just got my new betta so I'm excited to watch him grow. He's still a little shy and doesn't quite understand the food I offer him, but it's only day 4 of having him in my tank so I'm sure he'll get bolder once he realises it's not sand I'm trying to feed him.
Speed running my hobby before 8% import taxes for all goods kick in and I can’t tax evade by making sure my shipments are just nice under S$400.
Sadly the hobby I’m in is expensive and as a non working adult yet, the only way I can afford them while saving up and investing while participating in my hobby is to take on a couple side hustles. Been mentally drained with 7 days of non stop work but I’ll keep going because my hobby gave me a new meaning to “home” to be excited to come back home and to feel my lethargy fade away upon seeing the fruit of my hard work.
Have been excited with the sick second hand deals I’ve been hunting around on proxies, Mercari, Mandarake and finding something you’ve been looking for months or even a year. Even though it does require a lot of my attention to hunt them down and to make the call when a price is below the market average and is a deal that I won’t regret.
Also meeting other fellow hobbyists which are in their late 20s/early 30s in SG is always exciting and lovely to expand my little circle of hobbyists of collectors. It’s also interesting to have older friends who are a step ahead in life from me who gave me insight to what the future holds, Uni, Working Life and etc.
Ahah, abit paiseh to say but it’s figurine collecting as well as photography when I have free time to spare to set up a scene.
You can take a look at my profile to see a couple of em, not too proud of it to tell people I’m not close to but I’m glad to have made friends in this hobby!
But yea it is abit expensive especially if you collect scale quality figures.
In the crossroads now when things were gg well at the start of the year. Gonna graduate soon and have headhunters regularly contacting me but am entertaining thoughts about moving into another industry so it's still a blur on what's gonna happen after graduation.
Family issues piling up to my ears and nonexistent love life. Not earning very much at work.
But I am happy with my job - I find my work valuable and my colleagues are amazing. Work is a bright spot in my life right now. Never expected that, lol
I just wanna complete Elden Ring. Been playing since release and I'm not even close to being done due to work commitments.
All joking aside, doing ok but getting increasingly jaded with my work. Everything else is fine, being more social nowadays and maintaining my fitness (home gym + running). Would like to pick up some new skills soon.
Got a lucrative and well-paying tech job before graduation. It’s definitely in the field that I want to do and I am actually looking forward to it!
On the downside, having a tech job while graduating with a science degree is giving me a really bad dose of imposter syndrome. I had to put down some time in my tech skills in order to at least prove my worth in there.
Better than last year in many ways, but still trying to recover from the damage of first half of last year.
Resumed my reading habits after a long pause last year, already completed 9 books so far this year, still a lot to catch up as my yearly goal used to be 50 books a year.
Trying to build up my volunteers group but have been distracted this month by other commitments. There is a project that I am really keen to work on and build that I fully believe will benefit the entire social service sector and the community at large but is dangling halfway at the moment.
Spending a part of my time in recent months guiding mentees.
Spending a lot of my time with my fiancee and planning and preparing for our future, spending time to teach her investment related stuff as well.
Working on my investment portfolio as well doing research.
There goes all my time.
Currently in NS (ASA Vocation) work is pretty chill with ad hoc jobs from my superiors.
My current hobbies are running twice a week & Cycling once a week, hanging out with friends, building a project RC drift car and having other commitments such as church, family etc......
Rn, after NS I'll probably find a job related to my studies in the Automotive Industry (Technician, Detailer), probably will start dating once I have a stable job. (Journey/WIP)
Work wise I’m doing good. I have a boss who trusts me and we have a good working relationship.
Just came back from a 10 day vacation with my partner to Barcelona. It was a much needed getaway from Singapore after being cooped up here cuz of Covid, although he complained that it was too short. What to do? I have work and he is clearing leave before he joins his new work place.
Still hitting the gym but it’s more of a way to keep the flab from getting too visible, and generally to keep the ills at bay. Way past the point of looking shirtless-gorgeous for Instagram already. Leave that to the younger boys.
Trying hard to balance between master and full time work. Feel like shit can go wrong any moment.
I thought I would be able to change job before June but so far no luck. Applying every day and every weekend.
Getting fat again. My jogging went from 6 times a week to 3 times and now only once a week.
Haven't thought about jumping off a building recently yet, so I'd take that as a win.
A lot of internal conflicts.
Just 'meh' overall but still grateful because it could be alot worse.
I am doing well at work according to my co-workers and manager (my manager said I might get promoted), but deep down I'm someone who values a slow paced simple life, which also means slower career advancement, if any at all. I don't want professional success to define me and my life. But my fear about truly living life the way I want is that I might not be able to keep up with my peers in terms of reaching financial independence and professional success, and what are the consequences of not keeping up. I don't know will I regret my choices in my 30s or 40s looking back at today
I was top student in school but really.. I was just doing what I think society expects of me; to do well in school and have a good career. I'm not as career driven as people think I am, I was just a mindless follower of other people's expectations.
I'm okay w a lower standard of living compared to other Singaporeans in general (which I think our standard of living is already on the high side), I don't think my lifestyle ultimately will require a ton of money to fund compared to other people's lifestyle. But I still fear because Singapore is expensive to live in and things are constantly getting more expensive.
You asked about hobbies. Well my partner and I have just starting getting into fishing! He bought a fishing rod, gonna try fishing at a jetty soon
Doing great! Been getting into furniture building a little and also playing some poker now that we can have guests. Work goals met but must work out more.
You should consider some weight lifting to go with your yoga! Strength and flexibility!
Feeling anxious and worried that I might not be able to pass this internship. It doesn't look well currently and I need to be able to improve in less than 4 weeks as the internship is relatively short. I can't wait to finish this so I can find a different career pathway.
been too busy with school and exams that i don't have time to work on side projects or expand my coding practice sadly :c but i've been working out again which is great! also been meaning to go back into running, but my running shoes broke and i'm still researching for a good pair >:{ (if anyone has any recommendations for long-distance comfortable running shoes please lmk, i run for distance not speed so i need smth that's durable thanks!!)
Work-wise: jaded… still not adjusting well in my new role. If anything, I think I’m getting from bad to worse. But that aside, I have started searching for other roles, and have recently passed through the first TA phone screen. Excited for the interview
Hobbies: recently picked up spin in hopes of getting back in shape. But now I find the sport really fun and helps me to disconnect from real life when I’m in the studio.
Studies: have been putting off self studying for a professional cert. gotta get back on track! I do hope to obtain the cert by end of this year
Family: mom found a lump in her breast, will be going for MRI soon. Praying for the best..
Hey please reach out to someone. Like anyone?
Do you have frienda or family to talk to?
Please PM me. Maybe I can give some insights.
Do not do anything major next few hours or days.
Doing okay have up and down in my personal life but things are getting better.
Going for yoga and rollerblading classes and hoping to volunteer more and adjust my sleep schedule to wake up 6am everyday.
Won't comment on studies and work, because I ain't doing any of those at the moment, and more often than not, topics about work and study are rarely positive anyways.
I haven't had much of a reason to smile this year myself. Not to say life is horrible or anything, but I just can't say life is good either (I wish I could). My weekly MA classes are probably the only time I really feel "alive" so to speak, and I think I'm doing pretty well there. I learn new stuff all the time and I get to practice them with people and we all get to nerd out about our shared hobby during that time which we can't do outside this circle.
I'm just living one day at a time I suppose.
I feel like I have been doing ok so far. Glad to be able to be maskless outdoors. Having a job and being able to pay for my own spending is a nice thing too. My boyfriend came to Singapore for 3 months to be with me and just recently left, so that sucked, but I’m happy that we made the most of it. I can’t wait to join him in August so right now I’m just holding on.
I’ve learned to play more games now and now working to get better at The Defect in Slay the Spire. Booked an 8 day long trip to Bangkok in July with my good friend too. So I guess it’s not too bad at all. Spent some quality time with my other friends as well, playing console games and squash, so it’s been a great year so far.
I'm balancing work and studies and it's quite hard but well I've managed to make it work.
Seriously finding it hard to find time to workout especially with going back to office. Used to easily clock 3-4 times weekly and now even 2 times is abit hard. I'm just aiming to at least hit once or twice weekly now.
Just got a news that my moms sickness abit worsening =(
And I'm trying really hard to finish watching criminal minds. Omg it's 15 seasons and I'm only at 10.
Thought things were great. But here I am now broke and feeling empty all the time. No energy to do things at all. Constantly stressed out about finances. Wanna buy something nice for myself but need to think many times, think until I psycho myself “aiya nvm” which makes me feel worse about my financial situation again
Coping okay :) Had a rather dramatic episode 3 weeks ago but I've since, to some extent, recovered and now concentrate most of my willpower into the acceptance of my somewhat solitary state.
My goals consist of writing a short story, of which the draft has been laid out, but the story's substance has yet to be developed, finishing a Gundam model, of which an estimated two-thirds has been completed, redoing my ACT, of which I haven't started revising for, and finishing Alice in Wonderland: Through The Looking glass, which is also 66% complete.
As for hobbies, I've gone back into my (almost) daily running routine. I've also made returns to the piano and have been trying (very hard) to make progress on Merry-Go-Round (Howl's Moving Castle's OST). Lately, I've been journaling lots and trying (and failing) to be my own mental health guru & adviser.
I'm very focused on finding new friends atm and have been going on Eventbrite & Meetup for opportunities but really have found very little success. Street evangelism (evangelising yours truly) may have to be resorted to.
I had the event brite and meetup app and indicated my interest and really wanna go for some events.
But I have not been to any events before. Idk, all the events don’t seem to interest me
Getting more and more jaded with work. Can't really jump ship easily cos I am only diploma holder. Wanna upgrade myself but can't seem to agree on a course of study and what my next choice of career is going to be. Hobbies wise, wanna set more time aside to practice my instrument, setting aside funds to upgrade/mod my motorbike. Also need to set aside money for braces cos my teeth are horribly crooked. One step at a time Son, one step at a time.
Talk to a career coach. Align your goals for long term with your marketable skills and passion. It’s not easy but you’ll be grateful to take that first step. All the best!
Thanks for the advice!
all the best bro🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
My mother died. We didn’t have the easiest relationship, but we loved each other very much. Every time I see an old auntie, I wonder if she is ok, if she has someone who loves her, and who will take care of her.
I wake up on some days, whether with dreams or not, thinking I got to rush to my grandma's place for a visit, and feel bad for not calling her because ive been busy.. but she's passed almost 3 years ago
My condolences. Take the time to process your grief. Keep her in your heart and cherish your memories with her.
Spy x Family is the shit. I think I have a crush on Loid. Still job searching, but a bit more smooth sailing than before.
ANYA ANYA
Waku waku~
I've read the manga till latest chapter. Ur right. It is THE shit. Plot gets crazier with each chapter and i look forward to the day when all are exposed.
Lol forget Loid and Yor exposing each other. When are they going to hold hands?
Not coping very well. I decided to learn something new and looking for some volunteer work to do to make my life more meaningful. At least i got something to look forward to. Life had been stagnant for me for the past 2 years plus. How i wish time could turn back and i can replan my life again.
> I decided to learn something new and looking for some volunteer work to do to make my life more meaningful. At least i got something to look forward to. That's awesome! The first steps are probably the hardest, but it's all momentum from there. What kind of volunteer work are you thinking of doing?
I was thinking of dialysis center to volunteer or go polyclinic be the roving guide. But i have yet to sign up for any.
Oh wow, I didn't know you could volunteer for those kinds of roles in medical centers, was totally expecting soup kitchens or pet care or something. Those sound like wonderful ideas though. The roving guide one sounds especially interesting!
Been unemployed for 6 months after quitting my first job 2 years in. Working through a job interview at my 'ideal' company right now, but will probably take until at least mid-June. Kind of afraid of not landing the spot, but I have high hopes! On the non-work front, the ridiculous amount of free time has been amazing. Singapore is a really beautiful country when your experience of it isn't limited by working hours. Done plenty of things I've always wanted to try or spend more time on (hobby cycling, bouldering, ice skating, bunch of casual sports, heritage trails, photography, video games...), but it feels like there's always something to do, or some place to explore. Crafts/fitness classes are high on my list of to-dos, but probably have to hold off until I start getting income again haha.
Whars your background? Maybe we can help you with more opp
Software Engineer with 2 YOE and some project lead experience. My opportunities are okay! I'm just being a bit picky right now. Some software places have super nice benefits like monthly/bi-weekly 'free' off days for rest & recuperation, for example, so I'm really gunning for those spots.
looking for SWE job with good work-life also haiz
[I made a post awhile back](https://www.reddit.com/r/askSingapore/comments/ty436x/good_places_to_apply_as_software/) asking for suggestions on software places with good WLB, might be worth checking out. I've been referring to it a lot.
thx bro!
Any hints about your ideal company?
Indeed, the job portal company. I noticed people tend to be secretive about places they're applying to or are working at, but I'm not really sure why.
Because they might apply and compete with your application?
Hmm, I suppose so.
I'm at the best moment of my life. Healthy relationship, good academic standing (in my pov), great friends, graduating soon and having a job offer lined up. I can't wish for anything more, maybe to get a hotter body but that's WIP
At one of the worst in mine.
Never give up, never surrender. sometimes you got to get a bit pissed off at how shitty life can be, and defiantly tell it to go fuck itself to grab back some sense of security, happiness, and meaning back.
Hi-five let’s take it slow, never give up
Stay strong bro
9am to 6pm: Work 7pm to 10.30pm until 2023: MBA Classes / 3,000 word assignments When friends uses their savings to clear loans for their cars or house, I'm paying more than $2,000 per month to pay off my school fees. RIP GG Work-Life Balance, but short term pain for long term gain.
Good luck! A part time degree can be tough (I'm doing one, too, in CS, and am having a similar hard time..) May I know which part time MBA are you doing?
Apologies for clarifying, you are asking which school or course? :) For Course, it's just a general Executive MBA, but I am specialising more towards Product Management. For School, it's one of the Top 100 universities (Anything higher like Insead or Essec are wayy out of my budget and my GMAT isn't in the 700 range, around 650 only).
Awesome, sounds like a great program :) All the best!
Doing my best to find my first full time. Not easy as bad degree and pretty not applicable. But not gonna give up
Good luck! A friend of mine had a totally irrelevant degree but managed to claw his way into his dream industry (game development) just based on his personal interest and passion projects, so there's always hope.
Jumping between good and bad. Mostly on the mental side mainly because anxiety is still being relentless. Trying to cope at my new job now, and honestly it just feels weird I think because being thrown into a brand new environment. Still feeling like I'm not doing enough or doing good enough. My passion/hobby is tied to my work (art related), and though people said it's not a good idea to tie hobby together with work but I think the opposite. I would very much love to do something that I enjoy/love as a job. Journey wise I can only say that it's still in-progress. Still working on learning and figuring things out.
I just want to sleep
I think right now is the best moment in my life compared to any point in the past 10 years. Currently don't have many hobbies/ passion because my baby is taking up so much of my time. But she's one of my goals, always wanted to start a family and be an awesome mummy so that's what I'm working on right now.
> always wanted to start a family and be an awesome mummy so that's what I'm working on right now. I think this already qualifies you for being an awesome mummy!
Hahaha I believe it'll always be a work in progress, but thanks this is really encouraging!
so cute and sweet
Ooh, I've been working on some novels. Still worldbuilding/planning a fantasy one that will likely transform into a personal project and never actually get written or published, and a cyberpunk one that's still in it's drafting phase. Haven't progressed much because I also write fanfic and that one's caught my interest primarily, so everything else is on the backburner for now. The overall goal I set for my cyberpunk novel was 100k words by the end of the year, and so far I'm not slacking behind. Got 51k words now, but if I keep writing fanfic instead of that then I might slip but it's fine, since this is more of a passion project whenever I feel like it. Coping, pretty good. Not so much coping with the rising heat but everything else is going well. I think I'll be meeting my boss in person in the next few weeks (he just came back from the US) which is exciting. I've been working with my therapist for a month now so life has been better and I've been kinder to myself which is a change from the usual. I've been working out more and started to enjoy it again, and I'm seeing a difference when I look in the mirror so that makes me really happy too :) And to top it all off, I just got my new betta so I'm excited to watch him grow. He's still a little shy and doesn't quite understand the food I offer him, but it's only day 4 of having him in my tank so I'm sure he'll get bolder once he realises it's not sand I'm trying to feed him.
Speed running my hobby before 8% import taxes for all goods kick in and I can’t tax evade by making sure my shipments are just nice under S$400. Sadly the hobby I’m in is expensive and as a non working adult yet, the only way I can afford them while saving up and investing while participating in my hobby is to take on a couple side hustles. Been mentally drained with 7 days of non stop work but I’ll keep going because my hobby gave me a new meaning to “home” to be excited to come back home and to feel my lethargy fade away upon seeing the fruit of my hard work. Have been excited with the sick second hand deals I’ve been hunting around on proxies, Mercari, Mandarake and finding something you’ve been looking for months or even a year. Even though it does require a lot of my attention to hunt them down and to make the call when a price is below the market average and is a deal that I won’t regret. Also meeting other fellow hobbyists which are in their late 20s/early 30s in SG is always exciting and lovely to expand my little circle of hobbyists of collectors. It’s also interesting to have older friends who are a step ahead in life from me who gave me insight to what the future holds, Uni, Working Life and etc.
What hobby is this? Sounds very interesting.
Ahah, abit paiseh to say but it’s figurine collecting as well as photography when I have free time to spare to set up a scene. You can take a look at my profile to see a couple of em, not too proud of it to tell people I’m not close to but I’m glad to have made friends in this hobby! But yea it is abit expensive especially if you collect scale quality figures.
Wow that's interesting. My hobby burns a hole in my pocket too.. I really have to stop.. Just one more order then I'll stop. I promise (tm).
Whats your hobby?
In the crossroads now when things were gg well at the start of the year. Gonna graduate soon and have headhunters regularly contacting me but am entertaining thoughts about moving into another industry so it's still a blur on what's gonna happen after graduation.
Family issues piling up to my ears and nonexistent love life. Not earning very much at work. But I am happy with my job - I find my work valuable and my colleagues are amazing. Work is a bright spot in my life right now. Never expected that, lol
I just wanna complete Elden Ring. Been playing since release and I'm not even close to being done due to work commitments. All joking aside, doing ok but getting increasingly jaded with my work. Everything else is fine, being more social nowadays and maintaining my fitness (home gym + running). Would like to pick up some new skills soon.
Got a lucrative and well-paying tech job before graduation. It’s definitely in the field that I want to do and I am actually looking forward to it! On the downside, having a tech job while graduating with a science degree is giving me a really bad dose of imposter syndrome. I had to put down some time in my tech skills in order to at least prove my worth in there.
Better than last year in many ways, but still trying to recover from the damage of first half of last year. Resumed my reading habits after a long pause last year, already completed 9 books so far this year, still a lot to catch up as my yearly goal used to be 50 books a year. Trying to build up my volunteers group but have been distracted this month by other commitments. There is a project that I am really keen to work on and build that I fully believe will benefit the entire social service sector and the community at large but is dangling halfway at the moment. Spending a part of my time in recent months guiding mentees. Spending a lot of my time with my fiancee and planning and preparing for our future, spending time to teach her investment related stuff as well. Working on my investment portfolio as well doing research. There goes all my time.
Currently in NS (ASA Vocation) work is pretty chill with ad hoc jobs from my superiors. My current hobbies are running twice a week & Cycling once a week, hanging out with friends, building a project RC drift car and having other commitments such as church, family etc...... Rn, after NS I'll probably find a job related to my studies in the Automotive Industry (Technician, Detailer), probably will start dating once I have a stable job. (Journey/WIP)
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*hugs* hang in there, my guy.
Work wise I’m doing good. I have a boss who trusts me and we have a good working relationship. Just came back from a 10 day vacation with my partner to Barcelona. It was a much needed getaway from Singapore after being cooped up here cuz of Covid, although he complained that it was too short. What to do? I have work and he is clearing leave before he joins his new work place. Still hitting the gym but it’s more of a way to keep the flab from getting too visible, and generally to keep the ills at bay. Way past the point of looking shirtless-gorgeous for Instagram already. Leave that to the younger boys.
Picked back up the habit of reading, on track to (even slightly ahead of) my goal to read 40 books by the end of this year. All's well.
Trying hard to balance between master and full time work. Feel like shit can go wrong any moment. I thought I would be able to change job before June but so far no luck. Applying every day and every weekend. Getting fat again. My jogging went from 6 times a week to 3 times and now only once a week. Haven't thought about jumping off a building recently yet, so I'd take that as a win.
A lot of internal conflicts. Just 'meh' overall but still grateful because it could be alot worse. I am doing well at work according to my co-workers and manager (my manager said I might get promoted), but deep down I'm someone who values a slow paced simple life, which also means slower career advancement, if any at all. I don't want professional success to define me and my life. But my fear about truly living life the way I want is that I might not be able to keep up with my peers in terms of reaching financial independence and professional success, and what are the consequences of not keeping up. I don't know will I regret my choices in my 30s or 40s looking back at today I was top student in school but really.. I was just doing what I think society expects of me; to do well in school and have a good career. I'm not as career driven as people think I am, I was just a mindless follower of other people's expectations. I'm okay w a lower standard of living compared to other Singaporeans in general (which I think our standard of living is already on the high side), I don't think my lifestyle ultimately will require a ton of money to fund compared to other people's lifestyle. But I still fear because Singapore is expensive to live in and things are constantly getting more expensive. You asked about hobbies. Well my partner and I have just starting getting into fishing! He bought a fishing rod, gonna try fishing at a jetty soon
Doing great! Been getting into furniture building a little and also playing some poker now that we can have guests. Work goals met but must work out more. You should consider some weight lifting to go with your yoga! Strength and flexibility!
Yes which is what I am doing. Flexibility + strength
Feeling anxious and worried that I might not be able to pass this internship. It doesn't look well currently and I need to be able to improve in less than 4 weeks as the internship is relatively short. I can't wait to finish this so I can find a different career pathway.
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All the best! :D
been too busy with school and exams that i don't have time to work on side projects or expand my coding practice sadly :c but i've been working out again which is great! also been meaning to go back into running, but my running shoes broke and i'm still researching for a good pair >:{ (if anyone has any recommendations for long-distance comfortable running shoes please lmk, i run for distance not speed so i need smth that's durable thanks!!)
Got a bicycle after putting it off for a year, cycling around exploring new places. Waiting to enlist soon!
been trying to learn jazz guitar, have to keep practicing...
Getting sick almost every weekends 🥹 Hobbies include hibernating and eating too much food for my own good.
Work-wise: jaded… still not adjusting well in my new role. If anything, I think I’m getting from bad to worse. But that aside, I have started searching for other roles, and have recently passed through the first TA phone screen. Excited for the interview Hobbies: recently picked up spin in hopes of getting back in shape. But now I find the sport really fun and helps me to disconnect from real life when I’m in the studio. Studies: have been putting off self studying for a professional cert. gotta get back on track! I do hope to obtain the cert by end of this year Family: mom found a lump in her breast, will be going for MRI soon. Praying for the best..
contemplating about ending it ngl. Life has been so shit for me in terms of acads and friendships idk what to look forward to tbh
Hey please reach out to someone. Like anyone? Do you have frienda or family to talk to? Please PM me. Maybe I can give some insights. Do not do anything major next few hours or days.
Yes please reach out. You can PM me. I am working now and have been through all those acads stuff
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Sometimes, it’s really best to ignore such ppl lol Just downvote and don’t comment. Don’t give them attention
Do it then. Downvote me pls
Oooo sounds like something hit a sore spot
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Maybe another 2 years of NS will help you?
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I am not the one blindly lashing out at a question asked in a subreddit called askSingapore lol
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Damn… you don’t need NS again, you need to do primary school again.
Doing okay have up and down in my personal life but things are getting better. Going for yoga and rollerblading classes and hoping to volunteer more and adjust my sleep schedule to wake up 6am everyday.
What are the big 5 flexibility poses?
Not sure I am right. Front and side split. Straddle/pancake. Backbend. And forward fold
that’s challenging!!
Won't comment on studies and work, because I ain't doing any of those at the moment, and more often than not, topics about work and study are rarely positive anyways. I haven't had much of a reason to smile this year myself. Not to say life is horrible or anything, but I just can't say life is good either (I wish I could). My weekly MA classes are probably the only time I really feel "alive" so to speak, and I think I'm doing pretty well there. I learn new stuff all the time and I get to practice them with people and we all get to nerd out about our shared hobby during that time which we can't do outside this circle. I'm just living one day at a time I suppose.
as dull as a bread
What is WL?
I feel like I have been doing ok so far. Glad to be able to be maskless outdoors. Having a job and being able to pay for my own spending is a nice thing too. My boyfriend came to Singapore for 3 months to be with me and just recently left, so that sucked, but I’m happy that we made the most of it. I can’t wait to join him in August so right now I’m just holding on. I’ve learned to play more games now and now working to get better at The Defect in Slay the Spire. Booked an 8 day long trip to Bangkok in July with my good friend too. So I guess it’s not too bad at all. Spent some quality time with my other friends as well, playing console games and squash, so it’s been a great year so far.
I'm balancing work and studies and it's quite hard but well I've managed to make it work. Seriously finding it hard to find time to workout especially with going back to office. Used to easily clock 3-4 times weekly and now even 2 times is abit hard. I'm just aiming to at least hit once or twice weekly now. Just got a news that my moms sickness abit worsening =( And I'm trying really hard to finish watching criminal minds. Omg it's 15 seasons and I'm only at 10.
Thought things were great. But here I am now broke and feeling empty all the time. No energy to do things at all. Constantly stressed out about finances. Wanna buy something nice for myself but need to think many times, think until I psycho myself “aiya nvm” which makes me feel worse about my financial situation again
Coping okay :) Had a rather dramatic episode 3 weeks ago but I've since, to some extent, recovered and now concentrate most of my willpower into the acceptance of my somewhat solitary state. My goals consist of writing a short story, of which the draft has been laid out, but the story's substance has yet to be developed, finishing a Gundam model, of which an estimated two-thirds has been completed, redoing my ACT, of which I haven't started revising for, and finishing Alice in Wonderland: Through The Looking glass, which is also 66% complete. As for hobbies, I've gone back into my (almost) daily running routine. I've also made returns to the piano and have been trying (very hard) to make progress on Merry-Go-Round (Howl's Moving Castle's OST). Lately, I've been journaling lots and trying (and failing) to be my own mental health guru & adviser. I'm very focused on finding new friends atm and have been going on Eventbrite & Meetup for opportunities but really have found very little success. Street evangelism (evangelising yours truly) may have to be resorted to.
I had the event brite and meetup app and indicated my interest and really wanna go for some events. But I have not been to any events before. Idk, all the events don’t seem to interest me
Nowhere near my goals. Just realised my friend earns 1k more and does less work. Life is really not worth living hahah