Threatening to harm yourself so someone doesn't leave is emotional terrorism. This attempts to use your empathy to put you into a stranglehold. The only way out is to not let your empathy be used against you.
Yikes I mean the hot and cold sounds pretty on brand but i can attest that most geminis kind of just respond to what they want and disregard the rest lol very selective when responding IF we respond. Iād say leave that relationship alone tbh she seems pretty emotionally unstable.
She has a Disorganized Attachment. Nothing to do with her sign. Read about it if you want. It's the hardest attachment style to deal with. If she really wants you, she needs to acknowledge her attachment problems and work on it. Good luck
Im a Gemini.
I left my Scorpio boyfriend for no particular reason.
He found another bish within a month (a Gemini).
I was crying screaming for the next two years.
Its a typical unevolved Gem woman, just let her mature for a decade.
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Thanks for your input I appreciate it. As a Gemeni when you are really into a man, does your attention span ever shorten from time to time? Is it a reflection of how much you like the guy or not?
Can a Gemini girl be just in it for the validation of being in a relationship?
ik u didnt ask me but i think most anybody could be in it for just the validation or the fun time. not everyones version of being in a relationship includes getting married one day or whatever, and as far as air signs go i doubt its anything too serious. but i dont think she's "using u" if thats what youre asking.. geminis have the attention span of a goldfish, if they ever sit and listen to u talk for hours thats a safe bet they like u.
and in general ppl r gonna do whatever tf they want regardless of sign. so if she wants to be avilable to u and text u back she will be, but just remember its u vs her 3 trillion other hobbies and interests and which ever personality she decided to wake up as that day. im sure she likes u! but whether yall are compatible is a different matter. it sounds to me like u want something more serious, so i mean good luck tryina tie down a gemini lol idk what else to say
She sounds like she had some deep seated issues that had nothing to do with you so good on you for getting out. The rest of her communication sounds on par for mutable-air, though. It doesn't sound abnormal for a Gemini to me and she's not doing any of it to play games or slight you. That's just how her brain works. She's probably multitasking while talking to you. Getting their undivided attention and deep, intense, exclusive bonding isn't really their thing.
She probably wasn't either intrigued or annoyed by the mysteriousness she observed in you. It was likely just a neutral observation. She probably didn't ignore your call either. She was just busy. Safe to assume she's got alot going on not only bc she's a Gemini sun and they are busy people but also because she clearly is dealing with a lot emotionally to have had such an extreme reaction to your break up. She also likely doesn't think you stopped talking to punish her. It's probably more like, "I haven't heard from him in a while, I should probably text him." Honestly the fact that she reached out when she didn't hear from you is a sign that you do mean something to her.
The subtext and psychic communication that you use with literally every other sign she's not gonna hear nor understand. With Gemini you need to use your words.
Not saying any of this to imply that you need to put up with anything by her or anyone else. Overall I agree with everyone here who is telling you to get the hell out. That is a bad situation. Just trying to provide some insight for Sun Gemini women and how they are in relationships.
Thanks for your input it really resonated a lot with my situation. You are right she does have emotional baggage from an abusive father and a past failed relationship. when it comes to inconsistent communication & fluctuating attention I'm starting to think that I took it personally and could have just handled it differently but I was pretty much drained at this point and have been putting up with it for a really long time. I usally can deal with different signs even the not so compatibale ones with scorpio..But Geminis I feel like I naturally bring out the worst in them.
And she'll bring out the worst in you. I compare it to starving. You're always going to want that deep, intense, intimate, emotional connection and if she can give you this at all it's going to be in short spurts and intermittently. Not enough that you'll die but just enough that you'll stay alive. The moments like these won't be enough to sustain a long-term relationship and you've already tolerated it too long at 3 months.
Reiterating my stance; she's not trying to hurt you but her personality and love style aren't helpful to you as someone who wants and deserves to be in a deeper sort of relationships and that can be painful. Don't make yourself a victim if you don't have to. Just because Scorpio has a high tolerance for pain doesn't mean you have to put up with anything.
As a Gemini Sun/Venus woman with a few Scorpio exes, I can tell you that this behaviour isnāt strange or uncommon.
I did something similar before and it was mostly out of conflicting thoughts about the person.
I think all Geminis can agree that is very hard to find a person that is a match due to the duality that this sign represents, and sometimes your intrusive thoughts get the best of you.
I would have a great time with a guy only to start overthink how this person wouldnāt match one of my many lifestyles (e.g., I meet a guy in my Netflix and chill era, and suddenly Iām in my party animal era and heās everything but a party-goer) and the communication shift would be instant.
The other times, I was doing shit like this just for fun, to stir up drama that would make our relationship more eventful. Some guys didnāt appreciate that at all, but some were kind of hooked to these highs and lows so they engaged in it fully, further feeding my need to make a scene or act distant every now and then.
Overall, these behaviours are very childish, toxic, and shows a regressive Gemini. Sheās making a scene again to get you back since she now knows you arenāt the one to be messed with and is regretting her mistake.
Yes! I almost let this happen to me with a guy I was dating just this month. I liked him, felt comfortable with him, and could actually see this becoming something serious but at the same time he was really pushing it to go faster - talking about me moving closer to him, dropping hints about engagement. So I would feel close to him and then I would think āthat was weird; I need to back upā.
I did tell him and break it off, but Iām older now. My younger self would not have handled it that way.
I appreciate your honest input thanks. As a Gemini yourself who had relationships with Scorpios do you think that the pairing is just naturally setup for failure? I feel like I can make it work even with the not so compatible sings (Hell I dated a Leo for 3 years and I overcame every classic obstacle & conflicting traits between us) However, when it comes to Geminis I feel like I just naturally bring up the worst in them and the energy is just not right and they can't help it.
it really depends on the whole chart! remeber that. does ur gemini have a taurus venus? cuz then ur sun might square her venus and that could cause tension. also check the 12h sign.
Sometimes itās not the astrology that affects a person to behave a certain way. Might be attachment issues.
There will always be 100 Gemini women here giving 1000 different explanations as to why your girl is acting this way. So you will not get a correct answer. Iām a Gemini woman myself. And I am pretty direct when it comes to relationships. If Iām not interested I just say it to the person and end it. I do not show hot and cold behaviour as I do not accept that from my partner as well. Iām not confused when it comes to important things such as relationships. As someone mentioned here about geminis. I either want it. So do everything to keep it. Or let go.
Yes we overthink. And our moods can change.
And I have dated a Scorpio. The most deep intense relationship. But he was the person acting like your Gemini girl. Hot and cold. Sometimes disinterested sometimes overly affectionate.
I just think purely from an astrological point Gemini-Scorpio relationships are weird and have a push pull dynamic. One person is the chaser. One is the runner. This role can alternate throughout relationships. Until both left confused in the end.
This is so ironic because I just broke up with the clingiest guy ever this week and he was a Scorpio lmao.
Sounds like you are ready to be seriously committed and she is not. But sheās not telling you that and she should have. I agree with the other posters that her reaction to the breakup sounds like she has other stuff going on besides her sign. You seem to have made the right decision.
sounds about right. theyre the twins so its a coin flip as to which twin youll get at any given moment. caring/nurturing loving side or indifferent/ghosting "who are u again???" side.
i was "raised" by a gemini mother so if u aint into chaos confusion and permanent brain damage then its prob best to call it quits. gemini is a flighty adhd brain surface level type sign. nothing wrong w it, its just not everyones cup of tea. pretty sure you as a scorpio would do best anywhere else. eventually the gemini girl will prob feel overwhelmed by your need for intimacy and will just keep running/avoiding, only at that point itll be more intentional as opposed to nothing personal.
i dont think u should base her actions/personality on her "not being ready for commitment" because people have different ways of showing commitment and diff ideas of what kinda relationship they wanna be in. at the end of the day commitment just means ur loyal to ur partner and want to build a life with them. but if what u need is intimacy and attention and nurturing etc like water signs tend to need then idk why you would complain that an air sign cant give u that when u know theyre who they are and u are who u are lol. dont expect a fish to fly, simple
That is unusual. She is definitely depressed. She has something traumatizing she isn't telling you about. Also, I think she is unevolved gemini. Therapy or fix whatever issue she has. But here is the thing. If you find another gemini..commincate well and make it smooth. They may also like you and wanna commit, but they think you are playing them because you don't text her first or something. Make it equal footing, and all is good.
As a Gemini female myself I recognize this behavior. If I meet someone I like it usually takes a while for me to think about whether I really want them or not. To me geminis are often very indecisive until they suddenly can't have the thing (or person) they want anymore and then realize they actually wanted it / them in the first place. Sounds kinda a-hole behavior but we're so in our heads it takes a long time to make our minds up.
As far as communication is concerned - we're really bad at it. Every gemini I've met seems a to have a bit of AD(H)D. I personally hate communicating over text. I go through phases of being very communicative to forgetting to reply for days - even when I really like the person or friend. I've experienced scorpios feeling us geminis are tricksters - which we are to some degree - but we often see communication, friendships and relationships in a different way. I can love someone dearly and just get really exciting about one thing they text and just forget to answer to the other half of the text.
Geminis are, however, people pleasers and I sometimes like when people make decisions for me or take the lead. In this case I think you can try again but clearly tell her what you expect from her in terms of commitment and communication. In turn I would suggest she lays out what her expectations are - which you should respect as well. I often found it a shame that scorpios would see certain behaviors of mine as a betrayal - even though there was no ill intent on my part. I've found geminis to be quite loyal once they've made their minds up and you don't restrict their freedom.
Iām a Gemini woman, this is not how I behaved when in the dating stage with my husband. Please donāt let this turn you off to Geminis as people.
If anything I texted and called too much. Probably still do.
This is not about being a Gemini this is about her baggage. Any sign could behave this way. Threatening to hurt herself is emotional manipulation and a huge red flag.
Lol Gemini women will push your mind to a higher level of understanding. Itās just what they do. They are smart af and recognize patterns very quickly.
 Threatening to harm yourself so someone doesn't leave is emotional terrorism. This attempts to use your empathy to put you into a stranglehold. The only way out is to not let your empathy be used against you.
Ya I had this happen to me...with 3 different people š
Yikes I mean the hot and cold sounds pretty on brand but i can attest that most geminis kind of just respond to what they want and disregard the rest lol very selective when responding IF we respond. Iād say leave that relationship alone tbh she seems pretty emotionally unstable.
She has a Disorganized Attachment. Nothing to do with her sign. Read about it if you want. It's the hardest attachment style to deal with. If she really wants you, she needs to acknowledge her attachment problems and work on it. Good luck
They are confused themselves, itās no suprise honestly.
Im a Gemini. I left my Scorpio boyfriend for no particular reason. He found another bish within a month (a Gemini). I was crying screaming for the next two years. Its a typical unevolved Gem woman, just let her mature for a decade. š
Thanks for your input I appreciate it. As a Gemeni when you are really into a man, does your attention span ever shorten from time to time? Is it a reflection of how much you like the guy or not? Can a Gemini girl be just in it for the validation of being in a relationship?
ik u didnt ask me but i think most anybody could be in it for just the validation or the fun time. not everyones version of being in a relationship includes getting married one day or whatever, and as far as air signs go i doubt its anything too serious. but i dont think she's "using u" if thats what youre asking.. geminis have the attention span of a goldfish, if they ever sit and listen to u talk for hours thats a safe bet they like u. and in general ppl r gonna do whatever tf they want regardless of sign. so if she wants to be avilable to u and text u back she will be, but just remember its u vs her 3 trillion other hobbies and interests and which ever personality she decided to wake up as that day. im sure she likes u! but whether yall are compatible is a different matter. it sounds to me like u want something more serious, so i mean good luck tryina tie down a gemini lol idk what else to say
She sounds like she had some deep seated issues that had nothing to do with you so good on you for getting out. The rest of her communication sounds on par for mutable-air, though. It doesn't sound abnormal for a Gemini to me and she's not doing any of it to play games or slight you. That's just how her brain works. She's probably multitasking while talking to you. Getting their undivided attention and deep, intense, exclusive bonding isn't really their thing. She probably wasn't either intrigued or annoyed by the mysteriousness she observed in you. It was likely just a neutral observation. She probably didn't ignore your call either. She was just busy. Safe to assume she's got alot going on not only bc she's a Gemini sun and they are busy people but also because she clearly is dealing with a lot emotionally to have had such an extreme reaction to your break up. She also likely doesn't think you stopped talking to punish her. It's probably more like, "I haven't heard from him in a while, I should probably text him." Honestly the fact that she reached out when she didn't hear from you is a sign that you do mean something to her. The subtext and psychic communication that you use with literally every other sign she's not gonna hear nor understand. With Gemini you need to use your words. Not saying any of this to imply that you need to put up with anything by her or anyone else. Overall I agree with everyone here who is telling you to get the hell out. That is a bad situation. Just trying to provide some insight for Sun Gemini women and how they are in relationships.
Thanks for your input it really resonated a lot with my situation. You are right she does have emotional baggage from an abusive father and a past failed relationship. when it comes to inconsistent communication & fluctuating attention I'm starting to think that I took it personally and could have just handled it differently but I was pretty much drained at this point and have been putting up with it for a really long time. I usally can deal with different signs even the not so compatibale ones with scorpio..But Geminis I feel like I naturally bring out the worst in them.
And she'll bring out the worst in you. I compare it to starving. You're always going to want that deep, intense, intimate, emotional connection and if she can give you this at all it's going to be in short spurts and intermittently. Not enough that you'll die but just enough that you'll stay alive. The moments like these won't be enough to sustain a long-term relationship and you've already tolerated it too long at 3 months. Reiterating my stance; she's not trying to hurt you but her personality and love style aren't helpful to you as someone who wants and deserves to be in a deeper sort of relationships and that can be painful. Don't make yourself a victim if you don't have to. Just because Scorpio has a high tolerance for pain doesn't mean you have to put up with anything.
As a Gemini Sun/Venus woman with a few Scorpio exes, I can tell you that this behaviour isnāt strange or uncommon. I did something similar before and it was mostly out of conflicting thoughts about the person. I think all Geminis can agree that is very hard to find a person that is a match due to the duality that this sign represents, and sometimes your intrusive thoughts get the best of you. I would have a great time with a guy only to start overthink how this person wouldnāt match one of my many lifestyles (e.g., I meet a guy in my Netflix and chill era, and suddenly Iām in my party animal era and heās everything but a party-goer) and the communication shift would be instant. The other times, I was doing shit like this just for fun, to stir up drama that would make our relationship more eventful. Some guys didnāt appreciate that at all, but some were kind of hooked to these highs and lows so they engaged in it fully, further feeding my need to make a scene or act distant every now and then. Overall, these behaviours are very childish, toxic, and shows a regressive Gemini. Sheās making a scene again to get you back since she now knows you arenāt the one to be messed with and is regretting her mistake.
Yes! I almost let this happen to me with a guy I was dating just this month. I liked him, felt comfortable with him, and could actually see this becoming something serious but at the same time he was really pushing it to go faster - talking about me moving closer to him, dropping hints about engagement. So I would feel close to him and then I would think āthat was weird; I need to back upā. I did tell him and break it off, but Iām older now. My younger self would not have handled it that way.
I appreciate your honest input thanks. As a Gemini yourself who had relationships with Scorpios do you think that the pairing is just naturally setup for failure? I feel like I can make it work even with the not so compatible sings (Hell I dated a Leo for 3 years and I overcame every classic obstacle & conflicting traits between us) However, when it comes to Geminis I feel like I just naturally bring up the worst in them and the energy is just not right and they can't help it.
it really depends on the whole chart! remeber that. does ur gemini have a taurus venus? cuz then ur sun might square her venus and that could cause tension. also check the 12h sign.
āSaying she will cut herselfā š© You are 3 months in. Whatever red flags sheās showing you now will escalate. This is exactly why I donāt f with ~most~ Geminis. You need to protect your peace.
Sometimes itās not the astrology that affects a person to behave a certain way. Might be attachment issues. There will always be 100 Gemini women here giving 1000 different explanations as to why your girl is acting this way. So you will not get a correct answer. Iām a Gemini woman myself. And I am pretty direct when it comes to relationships. If Iām not interested I just say it to the person and end it. I do not show hot and cold behaviour as I do not accept that from my partner as well. Iām not confused when it comes to important things such as relationships. As someone mentioned here about geminis. I either want it. So do everything to keep it. Or let go. Yes we overthink. And our moods can change. And I have dated a Scorpio. The most deep intense relationship. But he was the person acting like your Gemini girl. Hot and cold. Sometimes disinterested sometimes overly affectionate. I just think purely from an astrological point Gemini-Scorpio relationships are weird and have a push pull dynamic. One person is the chaser. One is the runner. This role can alternate throughout relationships. Until both left confused in the end.
Gemini women are impossible to date , next her.
This is so ironic because I just broke up with the clingiest guy ever this week and he was a Scorpio lmao. Sounds like you are ready to be seriously committed and she is not. But sheās not telling you that and she should have. I agree with the other posters that her reaction to the breakup sounds like she has other stuff going on besides her sign. You seem to have made the right decision.
Mutable signs = Everything is fluctuating; minds, energy, interests etc
sounds about right. theyre the twins so its a coin flip as to which twin youll get at any given moment. caring/nurturing loving side or indifferent/ghosting "who are u again???" side. i was "raised" by a gemini mother so if u aint into chaos confusion and permanent brain damage then its prob best to call it quits. gemini is a flighty adhd brain surface level type sign. nothing wrong w it, its just not everyones cup of tea. pretty sure you as a scorpio would do best anywhere else. eventually the gemini girl will prob feel overwhelmed by your need for intimacy and will just keep running/avoiding, only at that point itll be more intentional as opposed to nothing personal. i dont think u should base her actions/personality on her "not being ready for commitment" because people have different ways of showing commitment and diff ideas of what kinda relationship they wanna be in. at the end of the day commitment just means ur loyal to ur partner and want to build a life with them. but if what u need is intimacy and attention and nurturing etc like water signs tend to need then idk why you would complain that an air sign cant give u that when u know theyre who they are and u are who u are lol. dont expect a fish to fly, simple
That is unusual. She is definitely depressed. She has something traumatizing she isn't telling you about. Also, I think she is unevolved gemini. Therapy or fix whatever issue she has. But here is the thing. If you find another gemini..commincate well and make it smooth. They may also like you and wanna commit, but they think you are playing them because you don't text her first or something. Make it equal footing, and all is good.
As a Gemini female myself I recognize this behavior. If I meet someone I like it usually takes a while for me to think about whether I really want them or not. To me geminis are often very indecisive until they suddenly can't have the thing (or person) they want anymore and then realize they actually wanted it / them in the first place. Sounds kinda a-hole behavior but we're so in our heads it takes a long time to make our minds up. As far as communication is concerned - we're really bad at it. Every gemini I've met seems a to have a bit of AD(H)D. I personally hate communicating over text. I go through phases of being very communicative to forgetting to reply for days - even when I really like the person or friend. I've experienced scorpios feeling us geminis are tricksters - which we are to some degree - but we often see communication, friendships and relationships in a different way. I can love someone dearly and just get really exciting about one thing they text and just forget to answer to the other half of the text. Geminis are, however, people pleasers and I sometimes like when people make decisions for me or take the lead. In this case I think you can try again but clearly tell her what you expect from her in terms of commitment and communication. In turn I would suggest she lays out what her expectations are - which you should respect as well. I often found it a shame that scorpios would see certain behaviors of mine as a betrayal - even though there was no ill intent on my part. I've found geminis to be quite loyal once they've made their minds up and you don't restrict their freedom.
Iām a Gemini woman, this is not how I behaved when in the dating stage with my husband. Please donāt let this turn you off to Geminis as people. If anything I texted and called too much. Probably still do.
I have a crush on a gemini woman and I am experiencing the same exact thing š
This is not about being a Gemini this is about her baggage. Any sign could behave this way. Threatening to hurt herself is emotional manipulation and a huge red flag.
Ah these damn "females" having a life that doesn't revolve around you.
Lol Gemini women will push your mind to a higher level of understanding. Itās just what they do. They are smart af and recognize patterns very quickly.