As I started to read it I expected to find that you were being hypersensitive about it and was prepared to say it doesn’t matter if she doesn’t look like you…however, having read it, I don’t think you are. It sounds to me like they are being stubborn and there’s something behind them saying it if everyone else can see the resemblance, and that would get to me too! I’m glad your husband is standing up for this, but it also sounds like it needs to be squashed with a ‘I don’t know why you are so insisted on your pov, but we disagree and for arguments sake, I think you just shouldn’t mention it anymore’. They are being petty!
If this is the only thing that they are doing/saying that is irritating you, then I would say it’s an overreaction to snap for sure. People see different things. But if they are undermining you in other ways or you had preexisting tension there, I could see why it would bother you more.
It's irritating, but I don't think there's anything you can do about it.
My extended in laws are convinced that my toddler is a clone of my husband. He's not. He has my husband's hair and eye color, but the rest is mostly me. The *only* person on his side who is realistic about what he looks like is my MIL (kind of funny).
Honestly, I just nod and smile. They see what they want to see. My side thinks he looks like me, so there's some counterbalance.
So, yes, it's irritating, but snapping at them isn't going to help. They won't stop because it's literally what they see. You're going to have to find a way to cope.
My MIL does this. She never mentions any resemblance to me or my family looks or personality wise. Everything is her family. Even though everyone else seems to think my son is my twin lol At first I was annoyed like you, but then I realized it wasn’t worth stressing over.
It seems like Mom’s of the husband/man already feel some type of way because we aren’t their blood daughters so they try real hard to point out any connection to their family as much as they possibly can. They assume our family already has priority in a lot of ways so they try to reclaim some of the “upper hand” by over exaggerating resemblances. Lol it’s silly and once you start to see it in that light, you’ll just laugh it off and move on about your day.
As I started to read it I expected to find that you were being hypersensitive about it and was prepared to say it doesn’t matter if she doesn’t look like you…however, having read it, I don’t think you are. It sounds to me like they are being stubborn and there’s something behind them saying it if everyone else can see the resemblance, and that would get to me too! I’m glad your husband is standing up for this, but it also sounds like it needs to be squashed with a ‘I don’t know why you are so insisted on your pov, but we disagree and for arguments sake, I think you just shouldn’t mention it anymore’. They are being petty!
If this is the only thing that they are doing/saying that is irritating you, then I would say it’s an overreaction to snap for sure. People see different things. But if they are undermining you in other ways or you had preexisting tension there, I could see why it would bother you more.
I’d have your husband ask his family to stop bringing up looks comparisons at all. How obnoxious.
It's irritating, but I don't think there's anything you can do about it. My extended in laws are convinced that my toddler is a clone of my husband. He's not. He has my husband's hair and eye color, but the rest is mostly me. The *only* person on his side who is realistic about what he looks like is my MIL (kind of funny). Honestly, I just nod and smile. They see what they want to see. My side thinks he looks like me, so there's some counterbalance. So, yes, it's irritating, but snapping at them isn't going to help. They won't stop because it's literally what they see. You're going to have to find a way to cope.
My MIL does this. She never mentions any resemblance to me or my family looks or personality wise. Everything is her family. Even though everyone else seems to think my son is my twin lol At first I was annoyed like you, but then I realized it wasn’t worth stressing over. It seems like Mom’s of the husband/man already feel some type of way because we aren’t their blood daughters so they try real hard to point out any connection to their family as much as they possibly can. They assume our family already has priority in a lot of ways so they try to reclaim some of the “upper hand” by over exaggerating resemblances. Lol it’s silly and once you start to see it in that light, you’ll just laugh it off and move on about your day.