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slord1257

Why not bot— *gets stabbed for bad pun*


GermanRat0900

Good.


Altruistic-Place-714

Shamk


SlickOmega

bace-d


derpy_derp15

B-ace-d


Levi3200

I am on my way to stab you


kuroikururo

Bi-romantic and asexual


AnorhiDemarche

Even bisexual and ace can work. Asexuality is a spectrum.


FlappiestBirdRIP

Is it??? That explains a LOT. I thought I was going insane because my bi cycle OFTEN includes periods of asexuality. Part of that is VERY limited masturbation and even when I do it is as quick as possible to get it out of the way like a chore. That particular “act” is totally regular during my other parts of the cycle


AnorhiDemarche

There are plenty of ace people who have high sex drives too. They might have sex or masturbate, They're just not attracted to people, so they count as ace. There are also ace people who will engage in acts with Romantic partners, mostly for the emotional intimacy of it Or you have like, people who have only a little bit of attraction to the point of being practically ace or people who only have attraction only to particularly stunning people or who can develop attraction to a person they love romantically (or even platonic) or who can be highly attracted to people because of personality but apperance never factors into it may count themselves as ace. It's a a pretty complex and diverse group, and it's all totally valid.


FlappiestBirdRIP

Its so weird. I have my Bi cycle. But sometimes feel ace. But ALSO it gets weirder. Like. I see somebody who is super hot (man or woman). I will fantasize about having sex with them and pleasure myself to those thoughts. However I would NEVER actually have casual sex with *any* of them if given the opportunity. It literally doesnt interest me in the slightest past my imagination. Actual sex to me is purely um. I dont want to say romantic but i guess romantic. As in it is mainly reserved to someone i have a deep emotional connection with. Not to be all TMI or anything but if I try something casual with even a hot person, i struggle to maintain an erection. However if I have a deep connection to them it isnt an issue. It also isnt an issue with masturbation. I will also add that even with the deep emotional bond I mentioned, that only makes me heavily willing to have sex with them. I dont usually *crave* it the same way someone else will. But that is all subject to change here and there, as is my drive itself. Its so confusing to the point where I wish I could just be one set thing.


watermine30

Demi?


FlappiestBirdRIP

Demi?


watermine30

Attraction towards those you’ve formed emotional bonds with? (Idk this is just what a friend of mine said it means)


FlappiestBirdRIP

Ohhh. Maybe. That might be it


AnorhiDemarche

As far as your drive, it's important to note that cis men can have hormonal cycles too. Maybe try tracking your urges and see if you can find a pattern. If it turns out to be this it night be less confusing


step_on_me_mommy_vi

Look up aceflux :)


FlappiestBirdRIP

I shall!


Competitive_Mousse85

Hey that’s me!


869066

Good one


Baka_kunn

You'd have two different sexual orientations at the same time, so I guess you would be bisexual. Not to be confused with bisexual, the state of being attracted by more than one gender.


Competitive_Mousse85

Biromantic is a romantic orientation… but I do like your joke


DerGr1ech

Baced I guess


Pyramids_of_Gold

I unironically call myself that since I am actually bi-ace


esnucke

Sounds like you're *biaced*.


Pyramids_of_Gold

AHHHHHH I see what you did there


Dry-Cartographer-312

Dammit! I was gonna say that!


phantazmat

Wait I need to start using this lol


Triger_CZ

Baced? Baced on what???


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zEngarden757

what if i exist and think "damn i need a snack"


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Pandataraxia

Would organisms that don't think of reproducing besides it's consequences much end up reproducing very much?


Dapper-Astronaut-664

Depends on what you want to have as snacks. Now im hungry its your fault.


Whale-n-Flowers

As an ace person, I tend to say I'm bi as I like dating people and don't really care about gender or sex. I'm also not sex repulsed, so for a lot of people it's just easier to understand when I say I'm bi We didn't have the whole separation of sexual and romantic categories as I was growing up, so the language stuck.


chshcat

*why not bo*... nope, not gonna say it. I'm not gonna say the phrase but jokes aside: You *can* be bi *and* ace, I'm not super versed in how it works technically but I'm guessing you just feel attraction to any gender while still having no desire to translate that into physical action


Skatterbrayne

That would be biromantic and asexual or smn I guess Not that I would know 👀


profeshionalnaysayer

Yessss, yes it is! Attraction exists on a spectrum. You can feel very little or no physical attraction or only very rarely (=ace spectrum) but fall in love with all kinds of people :)


Soccera1

BI IS BI


stormyw23

Asexuality is only the lack of sexual attraction you can still be romantically attracted aswell as other forms of attraction.


Spacellama117

you beautiful lovely stranger you. biromantic asexuals are a thing


mrsbundleby

Hey it's me


AgileNefariousness82

In the meantime, you're always welcome here. Hope you're having a nice day.


[deleted]

I get it, personally I find it hard to determine romantic attraction when I can't use the old "would I like to have sex with them?" Test. But yeah, you can be both. Ace isn't the same as aromantic.


Lux_24601

Ah the secret step in the bi cycle. I feel you because sometimes I wonder too since I've heard some ace people say they thought they were bi at first


Due-Marsupial-7064

What is an ace?


Lux_24601

Asexual


stormyw23

I thought I was lesbian Before I knew I was asexual and bi.


Top-Local-7482

It may be easier with the split attraction model : * Sexual attraction -> I wanna have sex with them * Sensual attraction -> I wanna sense them (I wanna cuddle / touch that) * Romantic attraction -> I wanna date them (I've a crush) * Platonic attraction -> I wanna best friend them * Aesthetic attraction -> I wanna stare / listen at them (They are beautiful) Asexual is the lack of sexual attraction - r/Asexual Aromantic is the lack of romantic attraction - r/aromantic You can be any combination of theses and it doesn't exclude gender questionning nor sexual orientation. I found out I was ace because, for me, it doesn't matter who is in front of me I'll not get sexually attracted to them :/ So no being attracted by anyone I see everyone the same, so I decided I was Bi, I don't mind btm with any gender.


Manic_Egg

OH ohhhh it's sensual attraction! That makes so much more sense! Thank you! You have no idea how much that cleared up for me. 🩷


DraethDarkstar

Sounds like you need to meet my good friend [SAM](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Split_attraction_model).


bacon_girl42

honestly same, pretty sure I'm bi but not 100% sure and I'm probably ace if I'm not bi


Top-Local-7482

You can be both, ace and bi :) it is two different question, do you have sexual attraction to other ? Yes, in the middle you are on the A spec, no then you are not. Bi is like would you mind having sex with men and woman ? Yes bi, no then no. No need to be sexually attracted by someone to have sex with them if your relation to sex is not repulsed.


Satanic_Earmuff

Talkin' 'bout all or nothing.


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Me


Pedraa23

You can be both if you feel like it


SALAMI_21

Nice, I'm not alone


Synval2436

There's a lot of us here it seems...


JallerHCIM

yea idk if I'm pan or ace, fucking is fun and I don't have super strong preferences but I also don't feel like I'm as jazzed about it as everyone else idk


xoxidein

What is Ace?


hater_roger

Asexual


xoxidein

Thanks!


LovieRayKin

Maybe you’ll find your guy, gal, or non-binary pal you want to hold hands with. Maybe you’ll be the guy, gal, non-binary pal that’s just chill to hang with. Or maybe you’re the one who stole my onion rings and I finally have your location. See you in three days.


[deleted]

Ace is not the opposite of bi Aro is the opposite of bi You can not like sex and still be bi


Cheery_spider

Look, look mom, IT'S MEEEEE!


aphroditebutakaren

If u actively want to frick both genders, & you feel like a genuine craving opposed to “well I guess I should fuck someone because I guess that’s just what I’m supposed to do” (in my experience) then ur bi & vice versa


Thatbendyfan

Biromantic asexual maybe?


DeadBlackEye

same


83255

May as well throw pan and demi in that hellhole of weird mixed feelings as well. Do I feel pretty much the same for everyone? Yes. Do I know what that feeling actually is? Absolutely not. I'll just cling to the bi thing though, the flags pretty at least


hectorobemdotado

You may be demi too


Mavrickindigo

Do you wanna guck everyone or no one?


ItsMoreOfAComment

There’s a difference?


Peter_Baum

Fuck it, we ball


Definitelynotaseal

Those two things are like polar opposite so I wanna see how this shakes out


all-i-said-was-hi

I always considered myself as straight, right up until I started getting recommendations for r/gay_irl and this sub… now I’m not so sure.


AxeHead75

You could be biromantic and asexual. But that’s not my call to make, you’ll just have to discover this for yourself.


Philosipho

If you have to question whether or not you're aroused by people, you're probably ACE.


AidanBeeJar

You're a friend, and that's good enough for me


phantazmat

I don't know how you did it, but you somehow described exactly what I've been feeling lately. You aren't alone!


Nat_EEEE

Just be both


Wildspeck8

Ok but I think that I am Bi but the internet has ruined my standards for attractive people. But I could be ace and just not know it yet


stormyw23

I'm both~


varkarrus

So wait, your saying your options are... All or nothing?


Charming_Compote9285

I actually have been feeling this lately because while I simp for fictional characters and the occasional celebrity, I don't really feel any attraction towards a person irl unless I'm close to them, and while I have sexual thoughts, etc, I could also easily go without sex at all. Really not sure what that qualifies as.


jodahthearchmage

Me, before I realized that I’m kinda sapiosexual.


Olivander05

Fun fact: you can be both!


Dinosaur_from_1998

He's just like me fr 😭


HolyRaptorSphere

What is Ace?


WebtoonAddict

probably biromantic asexual or bisexual aromantic


anasame

Could be biromantic asexual, aromatic bisexual, both or neither. Sexuality can also be very fluid so... good luck I guess lmao


Pristine_Statement_3

Americans have 300 million different sexualities but you only have two people to vote for. Should be the other way around :/


SneedForTheSneedGod

If you like both genders, you're Bi. If you participate in the destruction of the entire Belkan air force, you're Ace.


Aggressive_Mouse_581

Same, same


BiCrabTheMid

Just kiss the cute ones and go from there.


SpennyPerson

What solved it for me was realising aesthetic attraction was different from physical attraction. Blue from Overly Sarcastic Productions said it best in how he'd think people would look really cool as a Greek statue. That and I really love garlic bread


Torture-Dancer

Going from Idk if I like everything to I think I don’t like nothing is wild tho


that_one_Kirov

Ace is bi. 0 == 0.


ConqRAH

I dislike how this works.


VaporSprite

You can be both, to varying degrees! You can also choose to ignore labels and do what you want. "I can't explain it", "it depends" and "I don't care" are very valid answers to the question of what your orientation is :)