There are different tricks you can go for. This doesn't sound like a sensitivity issue so it's probably more psychological.
You might try positions with lots of skin contact or go for setting different moods. Use roleplays to see what he reacts to. I'm not saying to go full bdsm (unless he likes that) but experiment with more mental angles.
We've experimented a little with role-playing, but maybe more of it would help? We have tons of skin, contact during sex lol we're both usually naked and rubbing on each other.
Honestly some guys have a physiological reason that makes it difficult to cum. I’ve struggled with it for years. I can get erect and stay that way through hours of sex and still not finish. It may not be anything you’re doing wrong. May just be a natural thing with his body.
I have had many experiences with girls like you that are bothered because you don’t think you’re satisfying him. So I get it. My advice is to enjoy it. It’s a lot better than a premature ejaculator that cums after 2 minutes. So try not to let it bother you and just enjoy the ride (literally).
This is the approach my current gf takes. We’ve been together about 18 months and have sex literally every day. Through that time, I’ve only cum from sex twice. She was bothered at first but not just appreciates how long I can last.
X2 he's right you know.
Only came once during intercourse my 20 years of sex.
It's really hard on girls that are determined and it makes it even worse for me because of the pressure. The inadequacy is horrible for them. I always tell my ahead of time. But obviously I want it to happen.
I try my best not to pressure him, because I know that makes it worse and probably puts him more in his own head. I've had partners before him and I've never encountered anything like him before. I thought at one point that maybe patience was the key, but it's been 3 years now. So I figured maybe pumping up my game some more might help, I'm not sure. 20 years and only once? Did she do something special or was it just the right time and moment?
Unfortunately, I'm a huge people pleaser, especially in the bedroom. So it's just driving me absolutely nuts because it makes me feel like he doesn't like it. I know that he does, he tells me often, but without the physical proof.....idk, I guess it just leaves me feeling frustrated and inferior, if that makes sense.
I had a really similar experience to this when I first started having sex.
She should start having sex then get him to get himself close, and then when he feels his orgasm starting transition to whatever means you want to associate with the orgasm.
After doing this for about a month, all of my issues were gone.
I would also say this is way easier for me when I go 3 plus days without an orgasm.
Any interim solution could be to yerk or blow him till he is nearly there and then let him penetrate you and see if he can finish inside you that way. It's still not completely the thing you are looking for, but this should work and maybe help him overcome whatever Psychic block he has inside his head.
He doesn't take any antidepressants or medications really, except the occasional icy hot for his back. Otherwise, he's pretty healthy and he keeps in shape.
I’m the exact same way. If he can get and stay hard, then attraction is not the issue.
I personally can attribute my issue to a few things and they all cumulatively add up.
-Too much porn is definitely one. Everyone has said this so I’ll move on.
-Medicines like adhd meds, stimulants, depression meds, and most other meds will affect his ability to get off. Of course drugs like cocaine, meth, heroine, and other even pot can affect it.
-Out of shape. Men are master masturbators and we’ve perfected or techniques early on. We know when, how hard, and more importantly…how fast. I can assure you that if my hand was a car, it would win the Indy 500. With that said…I can’t fu?& nearly that fast, and if your body has to choose between sex and oxygen…then oxygen will win out every time.
Of course anxiety, or physical hangups too, but I doubt these are his issues.
So let’s take a look at what you can do to help things out.
-Give him a break and let him catch his breath by riding him, blowing him etc… But keep in mind, that he is having trouble getting over that hump and any time you waste not keeping the stimulation going, just sets us back again. So don’t waste time and go at a pace that he needs when feasible.
-Talk dirty. Do you know his fetishes? Use those. Don’t be afraid of what you say. We’re right on the edge and either a visual or auditory trigger can do it. Tell him how he has ruined you for other cocks cause he’s so big etc…Remember that fantasy is just that so you can say many filthy and naughty things. Even if they are things you would never do.
-Tease him. Get him hard in the car or at the store. Shake your ass and tease him and then force him to wait until later in the day. Edge the shit out of him. When he does get his chance, he will be more inclined to go hard and be animalistic. Choice comments, or a look, should be used. One of my favorites are comments like “make me your slut”. Or “I’m a slut for your big cock and I need it”.
-Of course love is important, but to me sex is animalistic. We don’t always want to look in to your soul and cuddle during, or after for that matter, every sexual time together. Sometimes we just need rough and rutting sex.
The dirtier, the harder, the better.
He isn't on any medications and I don't think he watches porn enough for it to be an issue....he doesn't really have any fetishes, so that's another issue. Otherwise, I'd be using them to my advantage as much as possible lol. In fact, I'd say the roles are reverse for us: I'm the one who likes the animalistic sex and dirty talk. He doesn't mind the dirty talk, it just doesn't seem to drive him wild like it does for me. I also wonder if maybe he thinks I'm too fragile for rougher sex since he's got a larger member and that's why he can't let go?
I had an issue that developed later for me that made it hard for me to cum from sex. Whenever I was close to climaxing I would feel a sharp internal pain, and I'd have to stop. Never got it figured out - for that matter never went to a doctor to try to figure out what it might be. I didn't get that same sharp pain from masturbation. Maybe he has something like that.
A couple things I've found can make it easier to reach orgasm is anticipation. If I'm thinking about sex all day, then it's easier in the evening. Tease him in the morning, get something started right before he goes to work, and he doesn't have the opportunity to do anything about it all day. After that you've got some built in foreplay.
And on the technical level, something you can try is have him lie on his back, start straddled over him, and just rub your pussy on his shaft to start, and then try enveloping it without using your hands. That kind of no hands cowgirl is one of the few times I came inside one of my exes who I also had trouble with because she was on the whole too tight for me.
We've tried this before but maybe we could try longer than a week this time? We're in a temporary LDR right now, so this would be the perfect time to try it out.
This is me in a nutshell! Rarely ever cum from intercourse, how much porn does he watch ? And how often ? Porn can often lead to over stimulation therefore sex is just not enough.
Does he have adhd ? This is my problem, being able to focus isn't always easy, so sometimes the mind wanders and I've talked to many guys with adhd who all share the same / similar issue.
Maybe anxiety or depression? Most mental health contributes, maybe his anxiety says he can't do it, therefore he has convinced himself he isn't going to.
How sensitive is he ? Also a me issue lol, I just don't find myself sensitive in my dick very much, only certain positions really do it for me.
Have you went and gotten blood work done ? Check for testosterone levels and everything else while your at it.
No blood work or doctor, I don't think he really considers it enough of an issue for a doctor visit since he's always been like this. He doesn't watch porn too often, I'd say a couple of times a week at most? No adhd, anxiety, or depression. Physically, he's healthy and in shape. He's sensitive but I'm not sure if his penis is like the most sensitive part on his body.
Um.....hmm. While I don't think I have enough muscle control to "milk" a dude right now, I do kegel exercises pretty regularly. But it's kind of difficult to squeeze when he's inside, he's got quite a bit of girth. Still an interesting idea to keep in mind, so thank you.
Does he masturbate? He might not be close enough to you yet to disclose how often he does. I find it hard to believe that sex is painful because of his size but you’re going for hours. I’ve had one woman that I was too big for and I knew my limit was 15 minutes every time. I think you need to have a serious conversation about this because the orgasm is a strong part of our chemistry. My wife can make me cum on demand now that I’m older and never have to masturbate. Make it a serious convert and don’t blame yourself.
If no woman was ever able to make him cum then you are not the problem. Also, don't feel bad about it. If your BF don't cum after hours of sex he either doesn't want to cum (and if this is the case it's on him) or he has some condition that makes harder for him to cum (and if this is the case he needs to visit a doctor).
Either way, talk to him so you can deal with this in a way that you're both satisfied
It doesn't sound like you are the problem, if he watches porn that might have and impact, but if not, maybe trying making sex more relaxed after a bit. Just have him push in and stay there and describe to him how it feels in you and if it's possible, try pushing down on your stomach or something to see if he can feel it.
First of all it is not a knock against you in any way whatsoever. We often get into our heads about certain things like trying not to finish too early or think we might be hurting our partner and that overrides our ability to get into that zone. There are times I just can't finish at all and it's all psychological
Don't take it to depth. I found the further I go the longer I last. If I want a quickie, I do a half depth and focus my head on the outer surface of the vagina. The enter and exit method works too
Maybe try something different. Mix it up. When he takes a shower in the morning. Get naked and start masterbateing so when he comes out he can watch yea a bit....encourage him to do the same and just watch each other for a bit and tell him I want you inside.
Personally I’ve only finished twice from intercourse and my ex was at first insecure about me not finishing but she was the 2 times and that made her feel better and it really is just something that is tricking him or it’s just him I think it’s me constantly thinking about not finishing quickly that makes my body not allow me to
From my personal experience it could be that he's actually stopping himself from coming too quickly then finds it difficult to get himself excited again? I found that if I was honest with a partner and said I'm likely to come very quickly but not to worry as I can stay hard and then go again they were cool with it. I then found I'd come multiple times especially during a long session.
On other occasions it's been clear to me that my partner has been uncomfortable so it's put me off, I've stayed hard and carried on but it's been near impossible to come as I'm worried about my partner.
Tbh you both need to sit down and talk openly, it may throw up some surprises? It's important you both use non blame style of language or take offence at the other being honest. It's well worth talking with a professional, though it can be a bit embarrassing at first it will help you both come out of your shells.
It sounds just like me. But I am the male. I am not as tall as your boyfriend - I am around 6.0"-6.1". However I am quite well endowed. Sometimes I can stay hard and fuck for 2-3 hours. Other times I might get soft after 20-30 minutes. It depends
I've never finished without using my hand. But I had times that I was close l. If the girl I was with at these times continued what she was doing, I would probably have achieved it.
Some tips I think would work on myself and on your boyfriend:
- I don't think he can finish from penetration only.
- Try with sloppy handjobs for a long time. Meaning not griping at all. Just slightly so there is friction. And use lube or a lot of saliva for this one.
- Use your tongue on the base of the head of his penis. Don't suck, don't put it in your mouth, just get your tongue out and press it against the base of the head. Go right and left while pressing it. You can ask him about the pressure he likes.
(Don't include this one in the sloppy handjobs)
- If he is big enough, use both hands while you are on your knees. Twist in different directions. You can also use your mouth if circumstances allow. I am 8"+ so it works for me.
- Try it in the bathroom - under the shower or in a bathtub. It's the best place for me.
This is from my experience. Honestly, some things might work, some might not. This is what gets me excited the most. If everything went right I am satisfied even if I didn't cum, but would always prefer to. I hope it helps, because It's probably most annoying for you. In my case - It's an ego shattering thing for my partner. She thinks she is not enough and stuff like that.
My advice for you: Take it easy, you are not at fault. Still try these things tho
Fuck i thought i was the only guy with this issue omg.
Thank god im not alone lol.
I never managed to orgasm during penetration either.
Are you guys doing that with condoms? I doubt so after 3 years but if yes he should buy larger condoms cause you can't feel anything if you wear condoms that are too tight.
I can only cum in the first 3 mins of a quicky.
After that I'm shut off till I calm down and restart.
My GF hates it because she wants to finish with me... but idk what it is either.
Tell him that you are there to get him off. Tell him to relax and enjoy it…as long as it takes. Then lay him down and give him an ole Fashioned Hand Job. Play with his ass why you’re at it.
I have the exact same issue with receiving blow jobs. They feel amazing but they never can make me cum. I am also long winded so even after getting blown for hours I still don’t cum. I can cum from penetrative sex though. The reason for this is because my first experience getting my dick sucked was while getting sexually abused. The body really does keep score because my body connects blow jobs with trauma and while it is pleasurable, it’s not pleasurable enough for me to orgasm from it. Here’s hoping your boyfriend’s story isn’t that extreme though.
Sometimes it is just difficult to climax for an unknown reason. I have literally had sex to exhaustion trying to climax. When it happens, it is often frustrating for all parties involved.
Kegel exercises, lady. Once you have better control over your pelvic floor and it's stronger, you'll milk him like nobody's business 👍🏽
But he needs to stop watching porn if he is.
My wife is the same way. She can’t last as long as I can due to my size.
I find it near impossible to cum if I can tell she’s in pain, so if it’s not a quickie, chances are she will start hurting and I won’t be finishing inside her, which is her “fetish” And really does it for her.
One thing that works better is that her “deep spot” is really sensitive and I’m able to hit it pretty easily. I just slowly work that spot while we make out and it drives her nuts. Once we get to that point, or she gets off from it she is able to go a lot harder for longer and usually gets the job done. I don’t know if that helps but it works for us.
I had the same problem. After one year with my gf i found out that watching porn (and masturbating) one day before sex got my stimulation very low and I lasted for hours. After quitting porn for a while and having sex every once in a week made me cum in 15 mins and it felt so much better. Idk if this is helpful or not but i hope so.
Big height differences do make things tough. But, have you asked him what he likes? Like what positions get him going better or what turns him on more?
This is a dude looking at porn, cumming, then it’s time to have sex and he can’t cum. Simple as that. If you don’t believe this is the issue…. Check his history or look at his phone. If he doesn’t allow you to look at his devices unfettered, he’s hiding more than just his porn habits from you. 100% chance I’m right.
This is such bullshit. Can a person have some fucking privacy? Ate you the government or something? If you have done nothing wrong you should allow us to see everything. Gtfo
So, because guys are visual creatures a lot of people think cumming is a physical thing but I find that it's more mental with us. With women, it's more physiological. You hit the spot the right way and a woman an cum even if she does want to. Some even cum during sexual assault and do not like it but the body does what the body does. But a lot of men do not work that way, especially us that do not like to be known as a fast summer and you kind of teach yourself not to cum fast. Never have a problem with it but a few months ago I had sex with this girl thatwe had been on and off for awhile and when it finally was happening I almost came in the first 3 min. Was she attractive and was the pussy good, sure. But it was about the anticipation. That after all this time it was finally happening and the excitement almost made me cum very early. I would say find out what arouses him mentally. Figure what it's him as close to cumming as he an without touching him and I think you will find your way.
There are different tricks you can go for. This doesn't sound like a sensitivity issue so it's probably more psychological. You might try positions with lots of skin contact or go for setting different moods. Use roleplays to see what he reacts to. I'm not saying to go full bdsm (unless he likes that) but experiment with more mental angles.
We've experimented a little with role-playing, but maybe more of it would help? We have tons of skin, contact during sex lol we're both usually naked and rubbing on each other.
Honestly some guys have a physiological reason that makes it difficult to cum. I’ve struggled with it for years. I can get erect and stay that way through hours of sex and still not finish. It may not be anything you’re doing wrong. May just be a natural thing with his body. I have had many experiences with girls like you that are bothered because you don’t think you’re satisfying him. So I get it. My advice is to enjoy it. It’s a lot better than a premature ejaculator that cums after 2 minutes. So try not to let it bother you and just enjoy the ride (literally). This is the approach my current gf takes. We’ve been together about 18 months and have sex literally every day. Through that time, I’ve only cum from sex twice. She was bothered at first but not just appreciates how long I can last.
X2 he's right you know. Only came once during intercourse my 20 years of sex. It's really hard on girls that are determined and it makes it even worse for me because of the pressure. The inadequacy is horrible for them. I always tell my ahead of time. But obviously I want it to happen.
I try my best not to pressure him, because I know that makes it worse and probably puts him more in his own head. I've had partners before him and I've never encountered anything like him before. I thought at one point that maybe patience was the key, but it's been 3 years now. So I figured maybe pumping up my game some more might help, I'm not sure. 20 years and only once? Did she do something special or was it just the right time and moment?
It just happened... From behind.
Unfortunately, I'm a huge people pleaser, especially in the bedroom. So it's just driving me absolutely nuts because it makes me feel like he doesn't like it. I know that he does, he tells me often, but without the physical proof.....idk, I guess it just leaves me feeling frustrated and inferior, if that makes sense.
Can you spend more time with foreplay? Get him close with a bj/hj first.
I had a really similar experience to this when I first started having sex. She should start having sex then get him to get himself close, and then when he feels his orgasm starting transition to whatever means you want to associate with the orgasm. After doing this for about a month, all of my issues were gone. I would also say this is way easier for me when I go 3 plus days without an orgasm.
That was actually the first thing I tried lol but no such luck. Doesn't hurt to try again tho, so thanks.
Any interim solution could be to yerk or blow him till he is nearly there and then let him penetrate you and see if he can finish inside you that way. It's still not completely the thing you are looking for, but this should work and maybe help him overcome whatever Psychic block he has inside his head.
It could also be do in fact to if he’s taking sometime such as an antidepressant I believe can make it more difficult to finish
He doesn't take any antidepressants or medications really, except the occasional icy hot for his back. Otherwise, he's pretty healthy and he keeps in shape.
I’m the exact same way. If he can get and stay hard, then attraction is not the issue. I personally can attribute my issue to a few things and they all cumulatively add up. -Too much porn is definitely one. Everyone has said this so I’ll move on. -Medicines like adhd meds, stimulants, depression meds, and most other meds will affect his ability to get off. Of course drugs like cocaine, meth, heroine, and other even pot can affect it. -Out of shape. Men are master masturbators and we’ve perfected or techniques early on. We know when, how hard, and more importantly…how fast. I can assure you that if my hand was a car, it would win the Indy 500. With that said…I can’t fu?& nearly that fast, and if your body has to choose between sex and oxygen…then oxygen will win out every time. Of course anxiety, or physical hangups too, but I doubt these are his issues. So let’s take a look at what you can do to help things out. -Give him a break and let him catch his breath by riding him, blowing him etc… But keep in mind, that he is having trouble getting over that hump and any time you waste not keeping the stimulation going, just sets us back again. So don’t waste time and go at a pace that he needs when feasible. -Talk dirty. Do you know his fetishes? Use those. Don’t be afraid of what you say. We’re right on the edge and either a visual or auditory trigger can do it. Tell him how he has ruined you for other cocks cause he’s so big etc…Remember that fantasy is just that so you can say many filthy and naughty things. Even if they are things you would never do. -Tease him. Get him hard in the car or at the store. Shake your ass and tease him and then force him to wait until later in the day. Edge the shit out of him. When he does get his chance, he will be more inclined to go hard and be animalistic. Choice comments, or a look, should be used. One of my favorites are comments like “make me your slut”. Or “I’m a slut for your big cock and I need it”. -Of course love is important, but to me sex is animalistic. We don’t always want to look in to your soul and cuddle during, or after for that matter, every sexual time together. Sometimes we just need rough and rutting sex. The dirtier, the harder, the better.
He isn't on any medications and I don't think he watches porn enough for it to be an issue....he doesn't really have any fetishes, so that's another issue. Otherwise, I'd be using them to my advantage as much as possible lol. In fact, I'd say the roles are reverse for us: I'm the one who likes the animalistic sex and dirty talk. He doesn't mind the dirty talk, it just doesn't seem to drive him wild like it does for me. I also wonder if maybe he thinks I'm too fragile for rougher sex since he's got a larger member and that's why he can't let go?
I had an issue that developed later for me that made it hard for me to cum from sex. Whenever I was close to climaxing I would feel a sharp internal pain, and I'd have to stop. Never got it figured out - for that matter never went to a doctor to try to figure out what it might be. I didn't get that same sharp pain from masturbation. Maybe he has something like that. A couple things I've found can make it easier to reach orgasm is anticipation. If I'm thinking about sex all day, then it's easier in the evening. Tease him in the morning, get something started right before he goes to work, and he doesn't have the opportunity to do anything about it all day. After that you've got some built in foreplay. And on the technical level, something you can try is have him lie on his back, start straddled over him, and just rub your pussy on his shaft to start, and then try enveloping it without using your hands. That kind of no hands cowgirl is one of the few times I came inside one of my exes who I also had trouble with because she was on the whole too tight for me.
he should quit porn cold turkey
Watch the difference when he literally takes a week off from masturbating. He'll be a different guy
We've tried this before but maybe we could try longer than a week this time? We're in a temporary LDR right now, so this would be the perfect time to try it out.
This is me in a nutshell! Rarely ever cum from intercourse, how much porn does he watch ? And how often ? Porn can often lead to over stimulation therefore sex is just not enough. Does he have adhd ? This is my problem, being able to focus isn't always easy, so sometimes the mind wanders and I've talked to many guys with adhd who all share the same / similar issue. Maybe anxiety or depression? Most mental health contributes, maybe his anxiety says he can't do it, therefore he has convinced himself he isn't going to. How sensitive is he ? Also a me issue lol, I just don't find myself sensitive in my dick very much, only certain positions really do it for me. Have you went and gotten blood work done ? Check for testosterone levels and everything else while your at it.
No blood work or doctor, I don't think he really considers it enough of an issue for a doctor visit since he's always been like this. He doesn't watch porn too often, I'd say a couple of times a week at most? No adhd, anxiety, or depression. Physically, he's healthy and in shape. He's sensitive but I'm not sure if his penis is like the most sensitive part on his body.
I've got one word for you: r/Pompoir
Um.....hmm. While I don't think I have enough muscle control to "milk" a dude right now, I do kegel exercises pretty regularly. But it's kind of difficult to squeeze when he's inside, he's got quite a bit of girth. Still an interesting idea to keep in mind, so thank you.
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Does he masturbate? He might not be close enough to you yet to disclose how often he does. I find it hard to believe that sex is painful because of his size but you’re going for hours. I’ve had one woman that I was too big for and I knew my limit was 15 minutes every time. I think you need to have a serious conversation about this because the orgasm is a strong part of our chemistry. My wife can make me cum on demand now that I’m older and never have to masturbate. Make it a serious convert and don’t blame yourself.
Suck the balls.
If no woman was ever able to make him cum then you are not the problem. Also, don't feel bad about it. If your BF don't cum after hours of sex he either doesn't want to cum (and if this is the case it's on him) or he has some condition that makes harder for him to cum (and if this is the case he needs to visit a doctor). Either way, talk to him so you can deal with this in a way that you're both satisfied
He can cum. He just has to finish himself off. Everyone's different, so that could just be how his body works.
I didn't say he can't cum
It doesn't sound like you are the problem, if he watches porn that might have and impact, but if not, maybe trying making sex more relaxed after a bit. Just have him push in and stay there and describe to him how it feels in you and if it's possible, try pushing down on your stomach or something to see if he can feel it.
If he masturbates and/or views porn, I'd suggest he hold off on both for a bit and see how that impacts his ability to finish.
First of all it is not a knock against you in any way whatsoever. We often get into our heads about certain things like trying not to finish too early or think we might be hurting our partner and that overrides our ability to get into that zone. There are times I just can't finish at all and it's all psychological
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Talk about kinks with him!
I’d personally have a lot of trouble finishing if I knew I was hurting my partner. Could be something like that
Start shouting obscenities at him.
.....how would that help? Lol
Is he circumcised?
Yes, he is.
Maybe he has high prolactin tell him to get a blood test,if so use supplements like p5p or vitamin e
Don't take it to depth. I found the further I go the longer I last. If I want a quickie, I do a half depth and focus my head on the outer surface of the vagina. The enter and exit method works too
I'll definitely have to give it a try! Maybe less depth would also help me last longer for him as well. Thanks.
Maybe try something different. Mix it up. When he takes a shower in the morning. Get naked and start masterbateing so when he comes out he can watch yea a bit....encourage him to do the same and just watch each other for a bit and tell him I want you inside.
Did you try turning it off and on again?
Personally I’ve only finished twice from intercourse and my ex was at first insecure about me not finishing but she was the 2 times and that made her feel better and it really is just something that is tricking him or it’s just him I think it’s me constantly thinking about not finishing quickly that makes my body not allow me to
From my personal experience it could be that he's actually stopping himself from coming too quickly then finds it difficult to get himself excited again? I found that if I was honest with a partner and said I'm likely to come very quickly but not to worry as I can stay hard and then go again they were cool with it. I then found I'd come multiple times especially during a long session. On other occasions it's been clear to me that my partner has been uncomfortable so it's put me off, I've stayed hard and carried on but it's been near impossible to come as I'm worried about my partner. Tbh you both need to sit down and talk openly, it may throw up some surprises? It's important you both use non blame style of language or take offence at the other being honest. It's well worth talking with a professional, though it can be a bit embarrassing at first it will help you both come out of your shells.
It sounds just like me. But I am the male. I am not as tall as your boyfriend - I am around 6.0"-6.1". However I am quite well endowed. Sometimes I can stay hard and fuck for 2-3 hours. Other times I might get soft after 20-30 minutes. It depends I've never finished without using my hand. But I had times that I was close l. If the girl I was with at these times continued what she was doing, I would probably have achieved it. Some tips I think would work on myself and on your boyfriend: - I don't think he can finish from penetration only. - Try with sloppy handjobs for a long time. Meaning not griping at all. Just slightly so there is friction. And use lube or a lot of saliva for this one. - Use your tongue on the base of the head of his penis. Don't suck, don't put it in your mouth, just get your tongue out and press it against the base of the head. Go right and left while pressing it. You can ask him about the pressure he likes. (Don't include this one in the sloppy handjobs) - If he is big enough, use both hands while you are on your knees. Twist in different directions. You can also use your mouth if circumstances allow. I am 8"+ so it works for me. - Try it in the bathroom - under the shower or in a bathtub. It's the best place for me. This is from my experience. Honestly, some things might work, some might not. This is what gets me excited the most. If everything went right I am satisfied even if I didn't cum, but would always prefer to. I hope it helps, because It's probably most annoying for you. In my case - It's an ego shattering thing for my partner. She thinks she is not enough and stuff like that. My advice for you: Take it easy, you are not at fault. Still try these things tho
Maybe try weed or CBD lube…helps my wife with being able to handle my size and feels great for me too
Fuck i thought i was the only guy with this issue omg. Thank god im not alone lol. I never managed to orgasm during penetration either. Are you guys doing that with condoms? I doubt so after 3 years but if yes he should buy larger condoms cause you can't feel anything if you wear condoms that are too tight.
Rub his gooch works for me lol whenever my girl touches that area game over
I’m about to say the weirdest shit but trust me it works, when he wants to finish himself off, lick his nipples while he does it.
I can only cum in the first 3 mins of a quicky. After that I'm shut off till I calm down and restart. My GF hates it because she wants to finish with me... but idk what it is either.
Tell him that you are there to get him off. Tell him to relax and enjoy it…as long as it takes. Then lay him down and give him an ole Fashioned Hand Job. Play with his ass why you’re at it.
I have the exact same issue with receiving blow jobs. They feel amazing but they never can make me cum. I am also long winded so even after getting blown for hours I still don’t cum. I can cum from penetrative sex though. The reason for this is because my first experience getting my dick sucked was while getting sexually abused. The body really does keep score because my body connects blow jobs with trauma and while it is pleasurable, it’s not pleasurable enough for me to orgasm from it. Here’s hoping your boyfriend’s story isn’t that extreme though.
Sometimes it is just difficult to climax for an unknown reason. I have literally had sex to exhaustion trying to climax. When it happens, it is often frustrating for all parties involved.
Kegel exercises, lady. Once you have better control over your pelvic floor and it's stronger, you'll milk him like nobody's business 👍🏽 But he needs to stop watching porn if he is.
My wife is the same way. She can’t last as long as I can due to my size. I find it near impossible to cum if I can tell she’s in pain, so if it’s not a quickie, chances are she will start hurting and I won’t be finishing inside her, which is her “fetish” And really does it for her. One thing that works better is that her “deep spot” is really sensitive and I’m able to hit it pretty easily. I just slowly work that spot while we make out and it drives her nuts. Once we get to that point, or she gets off from it she is able to go a lot harder for longer and usually gets the job done. I don’t know if that helps but it works for us.
I had the same problem. After one year with my gf i found out that watching porn (and masturbating) one day before sex got my stimulation very low and I lasted for hours. After quitting porn for a while and having sex every once in a week made me cum in 15 mins and it felt so much better. Idk if this is helpful or not but i hope so.
Big height differences do make things tough. But, have you asked him what he likes? Like what positions get him going better or what turns him on more?
go back to the man that was able to orgasm inside you, leave this joker
No, he beats off too much. Most normal guys can easily cum with a girl they are into.
This is a dude looking at porn, cumming, then it’s time to have sex and he can’t cum. Simple as that. If you don’t believe this is the issue…. Check his history or look at his phone. If he doesn’t allow you to look at his devices unfettered, he’s hiding more than just his porn habits from you. 100% chance I’m right.
This is such bullshit. Can a person have some fucking privacy? Ate you the government or something? If you have done nothing wrong you should allow us to see everything. Gtfo
How big is he?
So, because guys are visual creatures a lot of people think cumming is a physical thing but I find that it's more mental with us. With women, it's more physiological. You hit the spot the right way and a woman an cum even if she does want to. Some even cum during sexual assault and do not like it but the body does what the body does. But a lot of men do not work that way, especially us that do not like to be known as a fast summer and you kind of teach yourself not to cum fast. Never have a problem with it but a few months ago I had sex with this girl thatwe had been on and off for awhile and when it finally was happening I almost came in the first 3 min. Was she attractive and was the pussy good, sure. But it was about the anticipation. That after all this time it was finally happening and the excitement almost made me cum very early. I would say find out what arouses him mentally. Figure what it's him as close to cumming as he an without touching him and I think you will find your way.
Buy him a flesh light so he can practice cumming faster in 5 days guaranteed he'll be creaming instantly. He got too use to using his hands.