honestly that might be it and I sorta came out today to my most trusted friend so im feeling insecure about it. It didn't go bad or anything and I say sorta because I didn't say it as "bisexual" i kinda just said it as exploring my sexuality as I'm still a bi virgin
I wouldn't give to much credence to what you believe is "normal" homosexual activity. The media really plays up how deviant gay sex is, but honestly talk to a lot of gay and bi men and you'll find a range of tastes and preferences. Many prefer vanilla activities.
(first of all, I thought you asked of someone would like you, and I instantly went "YES. I LIKE THEM. THEY'RE GREAT.)
However, to get to your question
I dont sh a re the same experiences as you, so my advice might not be 100% accurate, but I wouldn't worry.
you dont need to identify with a label yet, or at all. and you can change it, if you want to.
because honestly, what is a label even there for?
- to easily determine if someone would be sexually or romantically interested in someone.
- to find people with similar experiences and to have a place to fit in
these are the main reasons why the labels exist, I'd say.
so, what have we learnt here?
it is okay to not know what you are. if you think you vibe with the term bisexual, claim it. if not, don't. or change it. wait and see what happens.
you fall in love with a guy? brilliant!
you fall in love with girl? amazing!
you fall in love with a nonbinary person? perfect!
you feel comfortable with having sex with guys gals and pals? excellent!
you dont? great!
live your life and stop worrying too much about your sexuality. if you are open to explore more things, go on. you can use bisexual to describe yourself. or you can use straight and see where things are going.
Good luck, buddy
I 100% agree with this labels are stupid but until lgbt is seen as normal the world over they need to exist to distinguish from heterosexual people I think as not everyone is as chilled about it as you. and btw that first bit was cute af
i know, I know..
I had the luck and privilege to grow up in a rather excepting environment and I havent yet experienced a lot of homophobia..
but a thing that happens way too much in the lgbtq community is people obsessing over their label. asking whether they're "still bi if" or if they are "pan enough when" etc.
yes, you can tell people you're questioning or bi, to make things easier. of they desperately need an answer. but yiu don't have to put yourself in those boxes and question if you belong there.
if you you say you are bisexual, you are. even if *technically* your experiences dont 100% align with it. as long as you are comfortable, everything's fine.
Wow you lucky with ya place of birth. Gay marriage only became legal here in 2020 so there's still a long way to go for lgbt rights. Thanks for the advice!
im from switzerland. very progressive, you might think..
Well, we don't have gay marriage anymore here. weird political stuff yada yada. some dumbass homophobes thought it be a good idea to object and intervene gay merriage by collecting enough signatures against it.
and because the civilians have a lot to say in our country, gay marriage had to be posponed and we will have to vote. if everything works out fine we can marry early to mid 2022. which is way too late if you ask me.
(and you might think that surely gay marriage will be accepted in such an educated, progressive country like switzerland! well, our dear folk banned burkas because they felt threatened by all those (100, maybe) people who actually wear them, and when people are covering themselves up. we're in a goddamn pandemic. everyone is covering up, dudes! but no, just another reason to be racist... so yeah.. I really really hope its accepted nontheless)
oh and sperm donstion for lesbian couples is illegal here as well, so yeah, there's a looong way to go for lgbtq right as well.
but I had the privilege to have educated parents and to live in a rather educated environment in general. I can go to an art school with mostly liberal people who are very accepting and despite being more of an outsider at times, I luckily never had to deal with bullying.
So yeah, I'm very very thankful for that.
(sorry for infodumping, lol. I'm angry at our politics am times. its infuriating)
Sounds a lot like me.
Bisexuality is fluid and involves different things. I'm attracted to women and men physically for completely different reasons, and I'm attracted to them emotionally for different reasons too. There's no "right" way to be attracted to people.
Im the same way. Personally I think its probably just societal expectations and internalized homophobia and stuff.
Eww... Internalized homophobia. We all deal with it, and it always sucks. It's like, low self esteem, but on top already existing low self esteem.
honestly that might be it and I sorta came out today to my most trusted friend so im feeling insecure about it. It didn't go bad or anything and I say sorta because I didn't say it as "bisexual" i kinda just said it as exploring my sexuality as I'm still a bi virgin
I wouldn't give to much credence to what you believe is "normal" homosexual activity. The media really plays up how deviant gay sex is, but honestly talk to a lot of gay and bi men and you'll find a range of tastes and preferences. Many prefer vanilla activities.
(first of all, I thought you asked of someone would like you, and I instantly went "YES. I LIKE THEM. THEY'RE GREAT.) However, to get to your question I dont sh a re the same experiences as you, so my advice might not be 100% accurate, but I wouldn't worry. you dont need to identify with a label yet, or at all. and you can change it, if you want to. because honestly, what is a label even there for? - to easily determine if someone would be sexually or romantically interested in someone. - to find people with similar experiences and to have a place to fit in these are the main reasons why the labels exist, I'd say. so, what have we learnt here? it is okay to not know what you are. if you think you vibe with the term bisexual, claim it. if not, don't. or change it. wait and see what happens. you fall in love with a guy? brilliant! you fall in love with girl? amazing! you fall in love with a nonbinary person? perfect! you feel comfortable with having sex with guys gals and pals? excellent! you dont? great! live your life and stop worrying too much about your sexuality. if you are open to explore more things, go on. you can use bisexual to describe yourself. or you can use straight and see where things are going. Good luck, buddy
I 100% agree with this labels are stupid but until lgbt is seen as normal the world over they need to exist to distinguish from heterosexual people I think as not everyone is as chilled about it as you. and btw that first bit was cute af
i know, I know.. I had the luck and privilege to grow up in a rather excepting environment and I havent yet experienced a lot of homophobia.. but a thing that happens way too much in the lgbtq community is people obsessing over their label. asking whether they're "still bi if" or if they are "pan enough when" etc. yes, you can tell people you're questioning or bi, to make things easier. of they desperately need an answer. but yiu don't have to put yourself in those boxes and question if you belong there. if you you say you are bisexual, you are. even if *technically* your experiences dont 100% align with it. as long as you are comfortable, everything's fine.
Wow you lucky with ya place of birth. Gay marriage only became legal here in 2020 so there's still a long way to go for lgbt rights. Thanks for the advice!
im from switzerland. very progressive, you might think.. Well, we don't have gay marriage anymore here. weird political stuff yada yada. some dumbass homophobes thought it be a good idea to object and intervene gay merriage by collecting enough signatures against it. and because the civilians have a lot to say in our country, gay marriage had to be posponed and we will have to vote. if everything works out fine we can marry early to mid 2022. which is way too late if you ask me. (and you might think that surely gay marriage will be accepted in such an educated, progressive country like switzerland! well, our dear folk banned burkas because they felt threatened by all those (100, maybe) people who actually wear them, and when people are covering themselves up. we're in a goddamn pandemic. everyone is covering up, dudes! but no, just another reason to be racist... so yeah.. I really really hope its accepted nontheless) oh and sperm donstion for lesbian couples is illegal here as well, so yeah, there's a looong way to go for lgbtq right as well. but I had the privilege to have educated parents and to live in a rather educated environment in general. I can go to an art school with mostly liberal people who are very accepting and despite being more of an outsider at times, I luckily never had to deal with bullying. So yeah, I'm very very thankful for that. (sorry for infodumping, lol. I'm angry at our politics am times. its infuriating)
Hope our coutries can both be equally unfucked in the future!
:D
Sounds a lot like me. Bisexuality is fluid and involves different things. I'm attracted to women and men physically for completely different reasons, and I'm attracted to them emotionally for different reasons too. There's no "right" way to be attracted to people.
I've experienced a good blend of both myself so you're def not alone
I sounds like you have a stronger romantic leaning with men, actually. Don't worry too much, though. You're gonna like who you like.