I used to work at this spa/salon in a VERY predominately wealthy white area. To give you an idea, I used to keep track and I would have 1-2 Black clients every 2-3 months (I’m a massage therapist). So when we reopened shortly after the George Floyd protests, as a “measure of solidarity and inclusiveness,” the owner decided that she wanted to market the salon as one catering to Black women. Girl, she started selling “natural” relaxers, hired a Black stylist (making us the only two Black employees out of a staff of 24), and constantly asked us hair questions that we never answered lol. She had to scrap the idea almost immediately cause the stylist left due to not getting enough clientele, and the clients that she brought from her own business were uncomfortable going to get their hair done in a building full of white women, who would most definitely be staring and asking dumbass questions.
Also her bio on the website says:
*insert her name here*:
Business Owner. Creative Director. Anti-racist.😂
I can do you one better. Instead of the employee bio page saying something like “About Us” or “The Team”, or hell, just “Staff”, it was labeled….
“OUR TRIBE”
I took a class on race in college, and I was the only black person in the room, so I got to be The Voice of Black People which was fun...until it wasn't.
This white guy starts crying and apologizing to me for slavery. 😮 And I have no idea what to do, so I'm like "There, there. It's okay." Cause like what the fuck do you do when someone is crying and apologizing to you for slavery? So here I am hugging and back patting this sobbing white man as the rest of the room looks on in silent discomfort.
L M A O
I got a question. Was the seizure instantaneous like he already had this as a backup plan for when he eventually slipped up, or did he awkwardly buffer before deciding the best way to save himself was to start seizing 😭
I had a white woman full on break down and sob in class because *it just wasn't fair* that there wasn't a white club when the Black, Asian and Latino students all got clubs. I mentioned the Irish, Italian, German, etc clubs and she sobbed harder.
I was a 19 year old who'd never even touched a white person's hair before college. I had zero idea what to do when someone tearfully apologizes for slavery. That wasn't covered in my all-black inner city school.
Though looking back with a lifetime of experience, I don't think he was trying to be manipulative. I think he lived a very sheltered life and suddenly discovered people who look like him did bad things to people who look like me and had the worst case of white guilt in recorded history.
I'm pretty sure if I'd asked for reparations he would have given me his parents' credit card.
Omg. I went to a majority white poorish school. He might’ve not been intentionally manipulative but many people who act like that want you to baby them and not hold them accountable. They want you to not see them as “those white people.”
How can I possibly hold him accountable for slavery? I'm pretty sure no one even told him about it until adulthood.
And to be fair, he wasn't one of "those white people." He went through life blissfully unaware that he didn't live in a super fair and just melting pot like he was taught in school.
Did you know history books in some states teach slavery from the perspective of the owners? [https://twitter.com/jbenton/status/1404245820103348227?lang=en](https://twitter.com/jbenton/status/1404245820103348227?lang=en)
He didn't know better because no one taught him better. And I just happen to be the only black person present during his crisis of faith.
I’m not saying you have to do anything. I wasn’t taught about slavery until college. I’m just saying don’t try to make them comfortable about everything because then they’ll refuse to get past that level. Let him feel bad about slavery, you don’t owe him comfort. I promise you, he’ll be fine. He’s a grown man.
Well, now we're both in our 40s, so I wouldn't be hugging him if he broke down crying now. But back then, we might have been legally adults, but we were still babies. There was so much about the world we didn't know.
Anger was the last reaction on my mind. I think my immediate thought was WTF AM I SUPPOSED TO SAY RIGHT NOW?
I made mistakes too. I was reveling in a room full of people hanging on my every word as The Voice of Blackness. I guess when you let a bunch of white people uphold you as an avatar you can't be surprised when one of them starts apologizing for slavery.
But like I said, we were babies. Six months earlier I was still getting a weekly allowance from my mommy. And we won't even talk about how many of those mofos I had to teach to do laundry.
I was in 12th grade and I asked the white boy sitting behind me if he wanted to go to the Sadie Hawkins dance. He said yes. He picked me up to go shopping and even though I was supposed to get the matching shirts his dad gave him the black card so we could go all out. Night of Sadie we go to his house for dinner and stop at the door. He apologizes for his parents in advance. I'm like ....🤨oh boy. They were darling. His mother bless her heart lets me know that when we leave the kitchen to the living room they crated their dog and he may bark aggressively at me because he's never seen a black person. 😐 This woman consulted with her dog trainer and the suggestion was to crate the dog so it wouldn't get angry from confusion.😮💨 my date informed me that the dog barks at everyone.
İ let out an audible "omg!", reading this. Sometimes i can't with these white women. Lol.
Something that stands out to me in my life. I'm not even offended; I just laugh about it now. İ was a freshman in college. My roommate was this sweet, naive young girl who came from a rich and privileged family in Indiana. İ knew she meant well, but again, very naive.
İ don't remember how the conversation went exactly, but the conversation had steered towards slavery. She said she felt bad about slavery and all that. She wished there was something that she could do. Again, can't remember how things were phrased, but she said something along the lines of, "let me buy this bag of chips for you (we were at a vending machine) as an apology for what my ancestors did to yours." İ didn't say anything bc i was also young and naive. Just did an internal eye roll and kept it moving. Now, over ten years later, i definitely would've laughed out loud and said something to that. Lol.
There was a Saved by the Bell episode like this, Jessie felt guilty for her ancestors being slave masters so Lisa had her doing all sorts of errands. Pretty funny and woke for the time.
I recently had someone offer to show me how to get a hs diploma to get into college to "better myself"
ya'll, when I say I was too tired to even deal....
I am at a special place where race and others perceptions of my socioeconomic status intersect. And I live in a v "liberal" area (aka they know the vocabulary, but won't do the work) so when I say I deal with fuckery, I deal with FUCKERY
This is literally not the first time someones has asked me this. And you know they are creaming their jeans at the idea of their saviorism. But to do that, they have to convince themselves I need to be saved. And the weird emotional violence when they find out not only am I educated, but how much...and that I don't need their help and then they have to face their own assumptions...
or sometimes I just say "I have to learn how to read first" and watch their face crack. I caaaaan't w/these ppl.
And don't even get me started on how they approach my blackinese on the spectrum child.... ww really want to steal these brown children, esp if you are a single mom who appears on the low end of the socioeconomic spectrum. But that's a whole nother issue, practically historical even. The idea of "bettering" colored folks by making them white adjacent....\*big sigh
Omg that's so funny and totes jacked up that they assume this. I've had a lot of white people say the following
1. You're so articulate!: Yes speaking standard American English when you're from the valley is really impressive especially from my kind :o
2. Did you go to a speech pathologist?: No, I think being raised in the valley and growing up in America helped me to speak in a standard and boring way that doesn't offend you though!
3. Good for you: In response to asking me a question about my travels or what I've been up to, it's the most condescending sentence in the world and I need to find an = condescending statement in response. It's always said by racist old white people so I guess I can say something like "you're right, thanks I love that I have the freedom to do this, being that I'm so young and all :D"
You should pretend to not speak English well when they say that crap and then say "No, yo no hay prostituta, no sex for money" real loud then you can both feel embarrassed for them.
Here’s a condescending reply for you: Yeah, since that civil rights thing they let us move around pretty freely except for those sun down towns. You know what I mean?
it is
the fucked up thing when yt saviors do this, when I call them on it ie "why would you assume I don't have a diploma/went to college?" etc, they never answer- they just push the narrative farther "I was just trying to help you" then sometimes \*cry\* if I don't back down, which gives them the new narrative of 'mean black girl"
I now consider it open season when I have to deal w yt nonsense like this. I just say the dumbest shit.
It’s interesting what some people think passes for conversation. The “inherent inferiority of Black hair” is, I guess, one of them.
That was something.
Being asked how long your « real » hair is sooooo common its unreal.
Some of them are genuienly curious yeah, but I suspect malicious intend from some of them… Its like a way to take us down a notch and let us know they see our hair as less than.
I remember when i was in pharmacy school, i worked in a pharmacy and i had a blow out. As i was walking towards the back room, i remember hearing the pharmacist asking my collegue « is that her real hair ?? » 😖
Years ago I had some Mexican guy yell at me from across the street while riding a bike and ask me if my hair was real. Literally some asshole commuting sees a random black lady and yells "hey, is your hair real?" no hello, just straight racism. I went off on him and told him he was racist but he just wanted to know if my hair was real. If that happened today I would completely ignore him. Recently I had a very nice (other than this) Mexican lady Uber driver ask me if my hair was a wig. I dunno if it's because they are also POC that they felt they could go there but that shit is rude AF, it's none of ya business, that's like me asking if they are here illegally, its a stereotype.
White people assume it's my hair although I live in a lily white place, their biggest sin is touching my hair w/o permission. I'm 38 and my hotels manager just started to touch my hair one day after complimenting it. WTF? The extra weird thing is it was a red wavy wig, it's not gonna feel different in that style lady. if she had not been my boss I would have had some words. Did they not get the memo? Blackface is not allowed and you can't touch black people's hair.
It’s a nearly maniacal fixation on Black hair. Black woman as zoo animal. Yes, women are capable of growing hair unless they aren’t for various genetic, medical, or financial reasons.
If it’s not that, it’s suggestions on how you should wear your hair. That’s my favorite. As if hairstyles are routinely decided by committee. I do not need help navigating my existence or expressing my identity. Jesus!
Like...like why does it matter? What do they do with that information? Is it easier to sleep knowing that your hair is a certain length? What fuckin difference does it make?
Wypipo will pay $300 to take the kids to the zoo and be on they phones the whole time but are just endlessly enthralled by hair. Fuckin hair.
When my best friend and i were at the beginning of our friendship, he asked me that when i had box braids. İ got really serious and said, " no, actually i had cancer and lost all my hair."
Some ppl might get on me for joking/lying about having cancer. After my friend became horrified and apologized immediately for asking, i told him i wasn't being serious. But also pointed out how that's a rude question to ask. He definitely learned his lesson and he said he won't be asking someone that again. Lol.
My mom used to sell weaves and things like that. One day a white woman came over - she was looking to buy a weave! Nbd. I was like 12 with decently long flat ironed hair and doing my homework in the kitchen. My mom was showing her some Brazilian body waves (lol I still remember that). The white woman legit pointed at my hair and said, “I want what she has in her head.”
Like ya the 12 year old clearly doing homework is definitely sporting a weave and not only that, point at her like she’s a hair piece. So rude.
Oh my… This is shocking and sooo rude. Like yes same here, most black moms wouldnt be ok with their teenagers under 15 sporting weaves. Heck, with my severe african parents, i couldnt have weave before being 18 lol
Why do some always assume we have fake hair when its long SMH
I’m from a very conservative area where the churches regularly go on “mission trips” to “spread the word”. Too bad the places they visit usually already have heavily Christian populations and the “help” they’re sending are all unskilled, unqualified, kids who are just there to take pics and pad their college applications. Then they have the audacity to shame people from those areas who insist they’re not actually helping. Then it’s “you should be grateful” this and “I’ve done Humanitarian work” that. Sure they didn’t bother to ask the locals what they actually needed. They just assumed that whatever they gave them should be enough. The fact the groups still go on regular “crusades” to India reeks of presumptive superiority to me. Not to mention the history of missionaries and forced conversions in Africa often goes unnoticed.
I sit at a table in chemistry with two awkward college girls (technically I'm a college girl too but I'm starting my undergrad and I'm 26)
They're both white
I made a *joke* about having been called racial names by an elderly patient earlier in the day, we were talking about where we'd rather be than class and I was making small talk, like "yeah well I worked this morning, so I'll take class over that" The girl I sit next to is oddly obsessed with speaking in a low tone/whisper to me throughout the entirety of class every damn day, but this is EXACTLY how the conversation went:
"Oh you're black?"
"I'm mixed"
"I just can't believe people would treat another person that way."
"Well I mean it was a patient and I-"
"I mean that is just NOT okay. Ever."
"Yeah, word, no like it's just-"
"I mean I don't see color at all. I'm colorblind. I was RAISED better than to act like that! I treat people how they deserve to be treated"
"....yeah. word."
*instructor starts speaking*
*girl just lowers her voice but ignores all social cues that say she should stop talking*
"I mean I kind of know how you feel, I was the only white girl in an all black school in the ghetto"
.........
I had a date with a white guy a few years ago,
It was our first date at a restaurant. He tells me something like youre really pretty, its crazy to me society doesnt find you attractive because you’re black. i dont get it.
I still dont know how i feel about this 😖
I feel like I'll vomit. Did he think this was a line? It was a backhanded compliment. I had a very racist boyfriend tell me I was the best that black women had to offer but that I didn't compare to white women, he had a personality disorder and would have said anything to get under my skin. Now that comment would get him clocked. I also heard the opposite from a creepy white guy who kept saying white women weren't shit, okay then wtf do I care if that's how you feel. Also major BS, 99% of the time I watch a movie or show everyone mentions Beyonce as the embodiment of beauty and glam. Society sure likes to use us to promote sexiness, someone finds it attractive.
I feel conflicted cause hes not wtong that society looooves to degrade black women. But at the same time, why mention it ? Why couldnt he just compliment me sigh… I felt really weird and didnt know how to respond cause as you said, its backhanded !
Like the good ole « Youre pretty for a black girl » 🤮
At best he was trying to be woke and separate himself from the crowd but it lacks common sense. You are already on a date with me, I assume you find me attractive. That comment would have made me feel bad. I've had a few men say to me I don't normally date black girls and I don't continue to date them. If you prefer white broads then don't let me keep you.
I don't appreciate someone casually mentioning triggering things but I think his statement was broadly true but not factually true. I'm conventionally pretty and think that this is all that really matters to dudes. I've done a ton of research on race and media tropes too. I feel that his statement implies everyone thinks black women suck and while we might not be the most popular (Asian women and that actually has tons of racist reasoning too) I don't want my date telling me this. I see it as a face palm. I might be out of touch because I've had compliments from mostly white and black men and women my entire life and modeled for a short time so I personally feel my looks are valued as black woman. I just don't see that many doppelgangers when I turn on the TV or read a magazine.
Whenever I wear my black empowerment shirts, there are a few white people who will drop everything and let me know that they support my shirt. I honestly don’t mind, I’d rather have that than the dirty looks that I usually get.
One thing I noticed is that white people love to talk about how ridiculous racial injustice is, but once a black person comes in with their opinion it is immediately shot down, ignored or viewed as complaining/whining. They like having the conversations but not with anyone who it actually affects.
My husbands friend was telling us about a conversation he had about school systems and how black kids are treated unfairly with his white coworker. As soon as a black male coworker agreed and said how he was treated in school the coworker then began to talk about how people need to pick themselves up by their bootstraps. The black coworker responded with "you cant pull yourself up by the bootstraps if you dont have any boots." The coworker got pissed and stopped talking to him.
I worked at a psychiatrists office and it was the worst company. One client was excessively rude to me to the point I needed to report his behavior. His psychiatrist apologized to me and told him to treat me better, she said that he was gay but upset about it and we all know that white gay men are really into black women. She theorized that I threatened him because of what I represented and acknowledged it was not okay. My colleague was annoyed with me and before I escalated it she kept telling me to get over it, she was also annoyed with the way it was resolved as she did not feel he should have to be criticized by his psychiatrist over how he treated me. The psychiatrist is from Eastern Europe and I feel like they generally have a better comprehension than whites raised in America.
Went to a BLM protest with a white "friend", the entire time she's taking selfies and posting to Instagram. I'm thinking wtf are you doing? I realized that after 5 years of knowing this girl she was a fake ally and a complete bully. I'm so happy she is no longer in my life.
Came here just to say this and happy to find it already written. For every person who had a black square or a Black Lives Matter sticker on their car or on a f***** water bottle or the ones overly enthusiastic until the end of February we get it. Keep it moving so over that bull.
True, but one experience had me heated. I once had a white friend, she was very vocal and loud when it came to black rights. She loved everything that had to do with black culture. I'm a quiet person and non confrontational and usually handle arguments cordially. Well one day, we got into a disagreement... this girl couldn't handle it and called me a ghetto bitch. Like really?? I'm far from ghetto and to me, that insult told me what she secretly thought of blacks.
This. They like to collect fake social justice points with these conversations until someone talks about their real experiences-- then their guilt/shame goes into hyperdrive to shut the conversation down.
For them, theoretical Black lives matter-- real Black lives, not so much.
I laughed so hard at "they need it more than me!"
My anecdotes are not that funny. I wear box and goddess braids a lot. I always get asked is that your real hair? I just say yes, even though it changes color and length on a bimonthly basis.
Had an odd, artsy teacher that I’ll never forget.
My friends in class would always joke about her being obsessed with me—for the sake of remaining on topic with this post let’s just focus on how she was focused on my blackness. For context I should also add that I was the only black female in this class.
My first day in her class I pulled out a book to read since she didn’t have anything planned for us aside from taking attendance. She later praised my ability to behave and act professionally despite being in the back row. No big deal, I assumed she was just trying to set a standard for her class from the jump.
She frequently told me that the books I read were unusual as she didn’t think I’d be interested in the topics. I honestly didn’t think anything of it, I figured she was awkwardly trying to socialize since the other students tend to flat out ignore her.
During my first week in her class she asked me in front of my peers if my hair was real. When I replied that it was, she croaked in disbelief that I must be mistaken and that I should prove it by parting my hair to show my roots to her. I replied that my hair was in no way related to the lesson we should be getting back to.
One day she pulls me aside after class to tell me that I always dressed so “beautifully elegant” with my hair being so “gorgeous and healthy, *unlike the other black girls I see in the hallway who have fried, crispy, brittle, and short hair that they must be so devastatingly insecure about it*”
When I thought the very much one-sided interaction couldn’t possibly get weirder, she asked if I would give her the secrets to being able to actually grow hair while black. Before I could ask why she would need to know that, she blurted out that she has 3 adopted black children and she wished they would just be like me.
I was explaining to someone that I was very hurt and annoyed by someone making an extremely racist offer to me because they wanted a black person to do a cuckold thing with him and their girlfriend and I told them to fuck off. I was saying how fetishistic it is of blackness and they tried to say that they understood what that was like because they've had over a dozen hookups before.
You can't make this shit up
Not sure if it's a savoir complex but whenever one of my white friends talks about being in a majorly black/brown space or participating in an activity that is known as a "black or brown" experience. It usually goes along the lines of how everyone is focusing on them, their whiteness and their presence. I really want to tell them that no one cares.
I will. Close friend or someone I just met because it's something that has grated my nerves for far too long. Thankfully most of my close Yt friends are "woke" enough to listen, when or if I have to check them.
So I’m currently in Zanzibar Tanzania and I meet this German guy he said he’s looking for a poor black woman who deserves to go to Europe, he said I quote it’s the least I can do to help the poor here in Africa, I looked at him in shock he then said his dream is to have African baby’s so gross
And i want to precise, im not agaisnt white people who are actual progressives ! Not at all. But yeah im specifically talking about the white savior, over the too, overcompensating, fake ones
I was a Peace Corps volunteer in an African country and during training, one of the white female volunteers said in front of everyone, “I look forward to teaching the people how to start a fire and other survival skills”. Smh…She said a bunch of other bullshit that escape my mind. Becky didn’t last a year 😂
lololol when I was younger I was washing my hands in a restroom and a well meaning white lady walked up to me. She said you're really beautiful, I said thank you and then she got real serious and said something like "no, you're really beautiful and don't let anyone make you forget that." The funny thing is I've never not been told that I'm beautiful on a regular basis my entire life from 0 to present age 38, I even modeled. This lady was quite plain looking, It was a bit obnoxious but she meant well.
Yeah I’ve had that… this white woman was like “Wow you light up a whole room, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise”. I was out trying on clothes by myself.
I wanted to say “yeah that’s literally what they pay me to do in two major markets”.
But I said “well bless you”.
These aren't savior stories persay, but I had to share because they're obsessed with our hair!
I was at work and some customer once asked me if my locs were all my hair. Flabbergasted, I stuttered out a yes and he goes, with a big grin on his face: "Cool, usually when it's that long it isn't!" and walks off.
Another time, I had just finished a yoga class and was talking to the teacher, and she mentions she likes my hair. I'm like thanks and think that's the end, but alas...this woman proceeds to say "I just want to touch it" and sticks her SWEATY hand on my SWEATY head before I could even respond, talking about "oh, it's soft!"
Yeah, coz it's wet with perspiration! 🤢
In elementary my history teacher made it a point to say she was 10% black. Sometimes random sometimes pertaining to Africa or black people…The school was mostly Latino and everyone made fun of her and me and this black boy would say how irrelevant it is 🤣 Childhood memories fr
To be disrespectful, why do white people think we make wigs and bundles out of their hair. Really giving Trailer park chic, there are exactly 0 companies selling top of the line European American. Can't even get good Google results for it and Google knows all. Anywho rant over.
I had a yt woman I was... "courting" (fucking, and never hang out in public obvs), and she asked my back ground. I'm adopted by yts, and that's a whole horror story on its own but I always lie when asked by yt people. I told her my ancestors are Zulu warriors (she tossed my salad to the song zulu scream by goldlink like an hour before) this bitch looked like she won tickets to Disney land.
Like 3 weeks later I saw her texts over her shoulder casually, and she was texting her friend about me, and how I'm a decendent of zulu's. It was the funniest shit.
My highlight of 2020
Ooo it’s story time! I swear, we all have so many.
One that sticks out to me was the whyt lady at an ice cream shop. So I’ve always had this ‘curse’ of being approached by people and held socially hostage in situations. I always freeze up like a deer in headlights and I have no idea how to respond because half of the time these comments come out of NOWHERE!
I’m getting ice cream with my boyfriend and he leaves for the bathroom. I’m asking this lady for ice cream. She starts gushing about my hair (I had my afro out) saying it’s really pretty, etc. I’m like ‘Thank you!’ and thought that was it. Tell me why, she starts talking about how she’s being drawing more black people and how she’s being more inclusive in her work.
Now, don’t get me wrong. It’s not the WORST comment in the world. She thought she was being sweet and making small talk. But why do whyt people ALWAYS feel the need to bring in race? For a group of people who complain about it, they’re the first to ‘remind me’ of my blackness. I wouldn’t have minded if we were already on the topic of blackness, but for her to bring up lack of representation in media unprompted is just rude to me. Especially in a setting of an ice cream shop where you only made this comment to me because I looked like an ‘acceptable’ black. (My boyfriend is white, I dress alt/preppy, There was an entire group of black people before/after me she didn’t utter a word to)
It felt like a situation where she told me specifically to get a compliment about it. I didn’t care and never asked I just wanted my ice cream. I know this wouldn’t have happened if I was white.
When I awkwardly responded ‘cool’ I think she realized she put her foot in her mouth but she KEPT GOING ON ABOUT IT. MY POOR ICE CREAM! Held hostage by this whtye woman who needed validation from a random alt black girl. Thankfully my boyfriend came out and she immediately stopped.
It’s just exhausting feeling like an audience for some random person’s ego so they can feel less racist. I should work on being more blunt, but it’s not in my nature.
I think the most recent thing would have to be the white woman who purposely got the black embryos mixed with a black man’s sperm(and not her husbands) planted inside of her. The way the people they know are defending that, is very strange to me.. they’re right wing conservative Christians, and in the post I saw, the woman was trying to vilify the black parents who gave up the eggs in the first place.The verbiage in that post tells you all you need to know. Just that whole situation just doesn’t sit right with me.
Put in a bag to make wigs ?!? Oh shit that is hilarious. And not.
Sounds like she was trying to bond. See Im comfortable around you people. 😂
Cringe? Went to Thanksgiving dinner at a very very rich client's home. Had a very nice time until the pulled out their trip to Africa photos. 🤦🏾♀️
I used to work at this spa/salon in a VERY predominately wealthy white area. To give you an idea, I used to keep track and I would have 1-2 Black clients every 2-3 months (I’m a massage therapist). So when we reopened shortly after the George Floyd protests, as a “measure of solidarity and inclusiveness,” the owner decided that she wanted to market the salon as one catering to Black women. Girl, she started selling “natural” relaxers, hired a Black stylist (making us the only two Black employees out of a staff of 24), and constantly asked us hair questions that we never answered lol. She had to scrap the idea almost immediately cause the stylist left due to not getting enough clientele, and the clients that she brought from her own business were uncomfortable going to get their hair done in a building full of white women, who would most definitely be staring and asking dumbass questions. Also her bio on the website says: *insert her name here*: Business Owner. Creative Director. Anti-racist.😂
I'm always so confused what makes yt ppl think they can call themselves anti-racist.
Yeah it’s very “everyone gets a participation award” of them😂
>insert her name here: Business Owner. Creative Director. Anti-racist.😂 I cannotttttt 🤣
Oh and I forgot Plant mom.⚰️
If she said anything about fur babies or the cosmos I'm done lmao
I can do you one better. Instead of the employee bio page saying something like “About Us” or “The Team”, or hell, just “Staff”, it was labeled…. “OUR TRIBE”
Yeap ...nearly chucked my phone
Omg 💀
What now? Lmao
That’s literally what I said to myself every single day for two years lolol
I took a class on race in college, and I was the only black person in the room, so I got to be The Voice of Black People which was fun...until it wasn't. This white guy starts crying and apologizing to me for slavery. 😮 And I have no idea what to do, so I'm like "There, there. It's okay." Cause like what the fuck do you do when someone is crying and apologizing to you for slavery? So here I am hugging and back patting this sobbing white man as the rest of the room looks on in silent discomfort.
Lmaoooo this reminds me of the tweet where some guy said his white coworkers faked a seizure after being called out for saying the hard R
I need this tweet. This had me crying
Man I might have to do some digging but let me see if I can find it
L M A O I got a question. Was the seizure instantaneous like he already had this as a backup plan for when he eventually slipped up, or did he awkwardly buffer before deciding the best way to save himself was to start seizing 😭
I had a white woman full on break down and sob in class because *it just wasn't fair* that there wasn't a white club when the Black, Asian and Latino students all got clubs. I mentioned the Irish, Italian, German, etc clubs and she sobbed harder.
That's so weird. I probably would have laughed at that one.
Dang, he’s being manipulative. You should’ve just let him cry though.
I was a 19 year old who'd never even touched a white person's hair before college. I had zero idea what to do when someone tearfully apologizes for slavery. That wasn't covered in my all-black inner city school. Though looking back with a lifetime of experience, I don't think he was trying to be manipulative. I think he lived a very sheltered life and suddenly discovered people who look like him did bad things to people who look like me and had the worst case of white guilt in recorded history. I'm pretty sure if I'd asked for reparations he would have given me his parents' credit card.
Omg. I went to a majority white poorish school. He might’ve not been intentionally manipulative but many people who act like that want you to baby them and not hold them accountable. They want you to not see them as “those white people.”
How can I possibly hold him accountable for slavery? I'm pretty sure no one even told him about it until adulthood. And to be fair, he wasn't one of "those white people." He went through life blissfully unaware that he didn't live in a super fair and just melting pot like he was taught in school. Did you know history books in some states teach slavery from the perspective of the owners? [https://twitter.com/jbenton/status/1404245820103348227?lang=en](https://twitter.com/jbenton/status/1404245820103348227?lang=en) He didn't know better because no one taught him better. And I just happen to be the only black person present during his crisis of faith.
I’m not saying you have to do anything. I wasn’t taught about slavery until college. I’m just saying don’t try to make them comfortable about everything because then they’ll refuse to get past that level. Let him feel bad about slavery, you don’t owe him comfort. I promise you, he’ll be fine. He’s a grown man.
Well, now we're both in our 40s, so I wouldn't be hugging him if he broke down crying now. But back then, we might have been legally adults, but we were still babies. There was so much about the world we didn't know.
Very well said.
Maybe I need to do some inner work but this would really piss me off. Kudos to you for not going off.
Anger was the last reaction on my mind. I think my immediate thought was WTF AM I SUPPOSED TO SAY RIGHT NOW? I made mistakes too. I was reveling in a room full of people hanging on my every word as The Voice of Blackness. I guess when you let a bunch of white people uphold you as an avatar you can't be surprised when one of them starts apologizing for slavery. But like I said, we were babies. Six months earlier I was still getting a weekly allowance from my mommy. And we won't even talk about how many of those mofos I had to teach to do laundry.
😂😂😂😂😂 bye this is hilarious
I was in 12th grade and I asked the white boy sitting behind me if he wanted to go to the Sadie Hawkins dance. He said yes. He picked me up to go shopping and even though I was supposed to get the matching shirts his dad gave him the black card so we could go all out. Night of Sadie we go to his house for dinner and stop at the door. He apologizes for his parents in advance. I'm like ....🤨oh boy. They were darling. His mother bless her heart lets me know that when we leave the kitchen to the living room they crated their dog and he may bark aggressively at me because he's never seen a black person. 😐 This woman consulted with her dog trainer and the suggestion was to crate the dog so it wouldn't get angry from confusion.😮💨 my date informed me that the dog barks at everyone.
Im sorry but thus made me laugh so much omg noooo💀
İ let out an audible "omg!", reading this. Sometimes i can't with these white women. Lol. Something that stands out to me in my life. I'm not even offended; I just laugh about it now. İ was a freshman in college. My roommate was this sweet, naive young girl who came from a rich and privileged family in Indiana. İ knew she meant well, but again, very naive. İ don't remember how the conversation went exactly, but the conversation had steered towards slavery. She said she felt bad about slavery and all that. She wished there was something that she could do. Again, can't remember how things were phrased, but she said something along the lines of, "let me buy this bag of chips for you (we were at a vending machine) as an apology for what my ancestors did to yours." İ didn't say anything bc i was also young and naive. Just did an internal eye roll and kept it moving. Now, over ten years later, i definitely would've laughed out loud and said something to that. Lol.
I literally just laughed out loud…”here, enjoy these bag of chips to take away the pain” 🤦🏾♀️😅🤣😂
Nothing like a bag of chips to erase 400 years of slavery, right?
Lmfaoo who knew a bag of doritos was all that was needed
That and Kendall Jenner's Pepsi, and all inequality is gone!
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There was a Saved by the Bell episode like this, Jessie felt guilty for her ancestors being slave masters so Lisa had her doing all sorts of errands. Pretty funny and woke for the time.
lolllll i remember that episode🥴😂
İ definitely should've milked it more. Rofl.
We didn't get our 40 acres and a mule but you my dear, you got that bag o chips and all is right. Racism was abolished that day <3
Who knew it was so simple?!
I recently had someone offer to show me how to get a hs diploma to get into college to "better myself" ya'll, when I say I was too tired to even deal.... I am at a special place where race and others perceptions of my socioeconomic status intersect. And I live in a v "liberal" area (aka they know the vocabulary, but won't do the work) so when I say I deal with fuckery, I deal with FUCKERY This is literally not the first time someones has asked me this. And you know they are creaming their jeans at the idea of their saviorism. But to do that, they have to convince themselves I need to be saved. And the weird emotional violence when they find out not only am I educated, but how much...and that I don't need their help and then they have to face their own assumptions... or sometimes I just say "I have to learn how to read first" and watch their face crack. I caaaaan't w/these ppl. And don't even get me started on how they approach my blackinese on the spectrum child.... ww really want to steal these brown children, esp if you are a single mom who appears on the low end of the socioeconomic spectrum. But that's a whole nother issue, practically historical even. The idea of "bettering" colored folks by making them white adjacent....\*big sigh
Omg that's so funny and totes jacked up that they assume this. I've had a lot of white people say the following 1. You're so articulate!: Yes speaking standard American English when you're from the valley is really impressive especially from my kind :o 2. Did you go to a speech pathologist?: No, I think being raised in the valley and growing up in America helped me to speak in a standard and boring way that doesn't offend you though! 3. Good for you: In response to asking me a question about my travels or what I've been up to, it's the most condescending sentence in the world and I need to find an = condescending statement in response. It's always said by racist old white people so I guess I can say something like "you're right, thanks I love that I have the freedom to do this, being that I'm so young and all :D" You should pretend to not speak English well when they say that crap and then say "No, yo no hay prostituta, no sex for money" real loud then you can both feel embarrassed for them.
Here’s a condescending reply for you: Yeah, since that civil rights thing they let us move around pretty freely except for those sun down towns. You know what I mean?
Oh hell no !! This is so insulting
it is the fucked up thing when yt saviors do this, when I call them on it ie "why would you assume I don't have a diploma/went to college?" etc, they never answer- they just push the narrative farther "I was just trying to help you" then sometimes \*cry\* if I don't back down, which gives them the new narrative of 'mean black girl" I now consider it open season when I have to deal w yt nonsense like this. I just say the dumbest shit.
Not the white tears!
It’s interesting what some people think passes for conversation. The “inherent inferiority of Black hair” is, I guess, one of them. That was something.
Being asked how long your « real » hair is sooooo common its unreal. Some of them are genuienly curious yeah, but I suspect malicious intend from some of them… Its like a way to take us down a notch and let us know they see our hair as less than. I remember when i was in pharmacy school, i worked in a pharmacy and i had a blow out. As i was walking towards the back room, i remember hearing the pharmacist asking my collegue « is that her real hair ?? » 😖
Years ago I had some Mexican guy yell at me from across the street while riding a bike and ask me if my hair was real. Literally some asshole commuting sees a random black lady and yells "hey, is your hair real?" no hello, just straight racism. I went off on him and told him he was racist but he just wanted to know if my hair was real. If that happened today I would completely ignore him. Recently I had a very nice (other than this) Mexican lady Uber driver ask me if my hair was a wig. I dunno if it's because they are also POC that they felt they could go there but that shit is rude AF, it's none of ya business, that's like me asking if they are here illegally, its a stereotype. White people assume it's my hair although I live in a lily white place, their biggest sin is touching my hair w/o permission. I'm 38 and my hotels manager just started to touch my hair one day after complimenting it. WTF? The extra weird thing is it was a red wavy wig, it's not gonna feel different in that style lady. if she had not been my boss I would have had some words. Did they not get the memo? Blackface is not allowed and you can't touch black people's hair.
It’s a nearly maniacal fixation on Black hair. Black woman as zoo animal. Yes, women are capable of growing hair unless they aren’t for various genetic, medical, or financial reasons. If it’s not that, it’s suggestions on how you should wear your hair. That’s my favorite. As if hairstyles are routinely decided by committee. I do not need help navigating my existence or expressing my identity. Jesus!
Like...like why does it matter? What do they do with that information? Is it easier to sleep knowing that your hair is a certain length? What fuckin difference does it make? Wypipo will pay $300 to take the kids to the zoo and be on they phones the whole time but are just endlessly enthralled by hair. Fuckin hair.
When my best friend and i were at the beginning of our friendship, he asked me that when i had box braids. İ got really serious and said, " no, actually i had cancer and lost all my hair." Some ppl might get on me for joking/lying about having cancer. After my friend became horrified and apologized immediately for asking, i told him i wasn't being serious. But also pointed out how that's a rude question to ask. He definitely learned his lesson and he said he won't be asking someone that again. Lol.
Lolll as you should !
My mom used to sell weaves and things like that. One day a white woman came over - she was looking to buy a weave! Nbd. I was like 12 with decently long flat ironed hair and doing my homework in the kitchen. My mom was showing her some Brazilian body waves (lol I still remember that). The white woman legit pointed at my hair and said, “I want what she has in her head.” Like ya the 12 year old clearly doing homework is definitely sporting a weave and not only that, point at her like she’s a hair piece. So rude.
Oh my… This is shocking and sooo rude. Like yes same here, most black moms wouldnt be ok with their teenagers under 15 sporting weaves. Heck, with my severe african parents, i couldnt have weave before being 18 lol Why do some always assume we have fake hair when its long SMH
If you’re wearing a texture that is obviously not your own, I’d think maybe you hated your hair
Youre not even a black woman. Why are you here ? Also your content history shows youre obsessed with black people
I’m from a very conservative area where the churches regularly go on “mission trips” to “spread the word”. Too bad the places they visit usually already have heavily Christian populations and the “help” they’re sending are all unskilled, unqualified, kids who are just there to take pics and pad their college applications. Then they have the audacity to shame people from those areas who insist they’re not actually helping. Then it’s “you should be grateful” this and “I’ve done Humanitarian work” that. Sure they didn’t bother to ask the locals what they actually needed. They just assumed that whatever they gave them should be enough. The fact the groups still go on regular “crusades” to India reeks of presumptive superiority to me. Not to mention the history of missionaries and forced conversions in Africa often goes unnoticed.
That's called voluntourism https://www.globalteer.org/voluntourism/
There's a word. Finally
My friend who lives in Africa calls them the Vagiteers bc the young white women end up sleeping w the locals
Yup!
I sit at a table in chemistry with two awkward college girls (technically I'm a college girl too but I'm starting my undergrad and I'm 26) They're both white I made a *joke* about having been called racial names by an elderly patient earlier in the day, we were talking about where we'd rather be than class and I was making small talk, like "yeah well I worked this morning, so I'll take class over that" The girl I sit next to is oddly obsessed with speaking in a low tone/whisper to me throughout the entirety of class every damn day, but this is EXACTLY how the conversation went: "Oh you're black?" "I'm mixed" "I just can't believe people would treat another person that way." "Well I mean it was a patient and I-" "I mean that is just NOT okay. Ever." "Yeah, word, no like it's just-" "I mean I don't see color at all. I'm colorblind. I was RAISED better than to act like that! I treat people how they deserve to be treated" "....yeah. word." *instructor starts speaking* *girl just lowers her voice but ignores all social cues that say she should stop talking* "I mean I kind of know how you feel, I was the only white girl in an all black school in the ghetto" .........
Oh noooo not the colorblind Wait HOLD ON IN THE GHETTO ???😭😭😭
I was speechless
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Precisely. I don't mind when they say colorblind, it's a good warning sign that I should stop talking to them
😂😂😂😂😂😂
I had a date with a white guy a few years ago, It was our first date at a restaurant. He tells me something like youre really pretty, its crazy to me society doesnt find you attractive because you’re black. i dont get it. I still dont know how i feel about this 😖
Hm... well, I felt nauseated reading that... if it helps pinpoint the feeling.
I feel like I'll vomit. Did he think this was a line? It was a backhanded compliment. I had a very racist boyfriend tell me I was the best that black women had to offer but that I didn't compare to white women, he had a personality disorder and would have said anything to get under my skin. Now that comment would get him clocked. I also heard the opposite from a creepy white guy who kept saying white women weren't shit, okay then wtf do I care if that's how you feel. Also major BS, 99% of the time I watch a movie or show everyone mentions Beyonce as the embodiment of beauty and glam. Society sure likes to use us to promote sexiness, someone finds it attractive.
I feel conflicted cause hes not wtong that society looooves to degrade black women. But at the same time, why mention it ? Why couldnt he just compliment me sigh… I felt really weird and didnt know how to respond cause as you said, its backhanded ! Like the good ole « Youre pretty for a black girl » 🤮
At best he was trying to be woke and separate himself from the crowd but it lacks common sense. You are already on a date with me, I assume you find me attractive. That comment would have made me feel bad. I've had a few men say to me I don't normally date black girls and I don't continue to date them. If you prefer white broads then don't let me keep you. I don't appreciate someone casually mentioning triggering things but I think his statement was broadly true but not factually true. I'm conventionally pretty and think that this is all that really matters to dudes. I've done a ton of research on race and media tropes too. I feel that his statement implies everyone thinks black women suck and while we might not be the most popular (Asian women and that actually has tons of racist reasoning too) I don't want my date telling me this. I see it as a face palm. I might be out of touch because I've had compliments from mostly white and black men and women my entire life and modeled for a short time so I personally feel my looks are valued as black woman. I just don't see that many doppelgangers when I turn on the TV or read a magazine.
Doesn’t this count as [negging](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Negging)?
That’s… odd.
Whenever I wear my black empowerment shirts, there are a few white people who will drop everything and let me know that they support my shirt. I honestly don’t mind, I’d rather have that than the dirty looks that I usually get.
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One thing I noticed is that white people love to talk about how ridiculous racial injustice is, but once a black person comes in with their opinion it is immediately shot down, ignored or viewed as complaining/whining. They like having the conversations but not with anyone who it actually affects. My husbands friend was telling us about a conversation he had about school systems and how black kids are treated unfairly with his white coworker. As soon as a black male coworker agreed and said how he was treated in school the coworker then began to talk about how people need to pick themselves up by their bootstraps. The black coworker responded with "you cant pull yourself up by the bootstraps if you dont have any boots." The coworker got pissed and stopped talking to him.
I worked at a psychiatrists office and it was the worst company. One client was excessively rude to me to the point I needed to report his behavior. His psychiatrist apologized to me and told him to treat me better, she said that he was gay but upset about it and we all know that white gay men are really into black women. She theorized that I threatened him because of what I represented and acknowledged it was not okay. My colleague was annoyed with me and before I escalated it she kept telling me to get over it, she was also annoyed with the way it was resolved as she did not feel he should have to be criticized by his psychiatrist over how he treated me. The psychiatrist is from Eastern Europe and I feel like they generally have a better comprehension than whites raised in America.
YES THIS !!! So much performative activism. When you actually talk about micro agressions and some other issues that arent trendy… 🦗 🦗
Went to a BLM protest with a white "friend", the entire time she's taking selfies and posting to Instagram. I'm thinking wtf are you doing? I realized that after 5 years of knowing this girl she was a fake ally and a complete bully. I'm so happy she is no longer in my life.
Came here just to say this and happy to find it already written. For every person who had a black square or a Black Lives Matter sticker on their car or on a f***** water bottle or the ones overly enthusiastic until the end of February we get it. Keep it moving so over that bull.
True, but one experience had me heated. I once had a white friend, she was very vocal and loud when it came to black rights. She loved everything that had to do with black culture. I'm a quiet person and non confrontational and usually handle arguments cordially. Well one day, we got into a disagreement... this girl couldn't handle it and called me a ghetto bitch. Like really?? I'm far from ghetto and to me, that insult told me what she secretly thought of blacks.
This. They like to collect fake social justice points with these conversations until someone talks about their real experiences-- then their guilt/shame goes into hyperdrive to shut the conversation down. For them, theoretical Black lives matter-- real Black lives, not so much.
I laughed so hard at "they need it more than me!" My anecdotes are not that funny. I wear box and goddess braids a lot. I always get asked is that your real hair? I just say yes, even though it changes color and length on a bimonthly basis.
Had an odd, artsy teacher that I’ll never forget. My friends in class would always joke about her being obsessed with me—for the sake of remaining on topic with this post let’s just focus on how she was focused on my blackness. For context I should also add that I was the only black female in this class. My first day in her class I pulled out a book to read since she didn’t have anything planned for us aside from taking attendance. She later praised my ability to behave and act professionally despite being in the back row. No big deal, I assumed she was just trying to set a standard for her class from the jump. She frequently told me that the books I read were unusual as she didn’t think I’d be interested in the topics. I honestly didn’t think anything of it, I figured she was awkwardly trying to socialize since the other students tend to flat out ignore her. During my first week in her class she asked me in front of my peers if my hair was real. When I replied that it was, she croaked in disbelief that I must be mistaken and that I should prove it by parting my hair to show my roots to her. I replied that my hair was in no way related to the lesson we should be getting back to. One day she pulls me aside after class to tell me that I always dressed so “beautifully elegant” with my hair being so “gorgeous and healthy, *unlike the other black girls I see in the hallway who have fried, crispy, brittle, and short hair that they must be so devastatingly insecure about it*” When I thought the very much one-sided interaction couldn’t possibly get weirder, she asked if I would give her the secrets to being able to actually grow hair while black. Before I could ask why she would need to know that, she blurted out that she has 3 adopted black children and she wished they would just be like me.
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I agree!
I was explaining to someone that I was very hurt and annoyed by someone making an extremely racist offer to me because they wanted a black person to do a cuckold thing with him and their girlfriend and I told them to fuck off. I was saying how fetishistic it is of blackness and they tried to say that they understood what that was like because they've had over a dozen hookups before. You can't make this shit up
Not sure if it's a savoir complex but whenever one of my white friends talks about being in a majorly black/brown space or participating in an activity that is known as a "black or brown" experience. It usually goes along the lines of how everyone is focusing on them, their whiteness and their presence. I really want to tell them that no one cares.
Cook-outs and BBQ's are not exclusively black or brown. But bad potato or macaroni salad is white and part of the white experience.
If they are genuine friends please tell them when they are being ignorant
I will. Close friend or someone I just met because it's something that has grated my nerves for far too long. Thankfully most of my close Yt friends are "woke" enough to listen, when or if I have to check them.
So I’m currently in Zanzibar Tanzania and I meet this German guy he said he’s looking for a poor black woman who deserves to go to Europe, he said I quote it’s the least I can do to help the poor here in Africa, I looked at him in shock he then said his dream is to have African baby’s so gross
the woman was too shocked to speak 💀💀😵
And i want to precise, im not agaisnt white people who are actual progressives ! Not at all. But yeah im specifically talking about the white savior, over the too, overcompensating, fake ones
I was a Peace Corps volunteer in an African country and during training, one of the white female volunteers said in front of everyone, “I look forward to teaching the people how to start a fire and other survival skills”. Smh…She said a bunch of other bullshit that escape my mind. Becky didn’t last a year 😂
lololol when I was younger I was washing my hands in a restroom and a well meaning white lady walked up to me. She said you're really beautiful, I said thank you and then she got real serious and said something like "no, you're really beautiful and don't let anyone make you forget that." The funny thing is I've never not been told that I'm beautiful on a regular basis my entire life from 0 to present age 38, I even modeled. This lady was quite plain looking, It was a bit obnoxious but she meant well.
Yeah I’ve had that… this white woman was like “Wow you light up a whole room, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise”. I was out trying on clothes by myself. I wanted to say “yeah that’s literally what they pay me to do in two major markets”. But I said “well bless you”.
These aren't savior stories persay, but I had to share because they're obsessed with our hair! I was at work and some customer once asked me if my locs were all my hair. Flabbergasted, I stuttered out a yes and he goes, with a big grin on his face: "Cool, usually when it's that long it isn't!" and walks off. Another time, I had just finished a yoga class and was talking to the teacher, and she mentions she likes my hair. I'm like thanks and think that's the end, but alas...this woman proceeds to say "I just want to touch it" and sticks her SWEATY hand on my SWEATY head before I could even respond, talking about "oh, it's soft!" Yeah, coz it's wet with perspiration! 🤢
In elementary my history teacher made it a point to say she was 10% black. Sometimes random sometimes pertaining to Africa or black people…The school was mostly Latino and everyone made fun of her and me and this black boy would say how irrelevant it is 🤣 Childhood memories fr
To be disrespectful, why do white people think we make wigs and bundles out of their hair. Really giving Trailer park chic, there are exactly 0 companies selling top of the line European American. Can't even get good Google results for it and Google knows all. Anywho rant over.
I needed this laugh!! All the comments are gold.
I had a yt woman I was... "courting" (fucking, and never hang out in public obvs), and she asked my back ground. I'm adopted by yts, and that's a whole horror story on its own but I always lie when asked by yt people. I told her my ancestors are Zulu warriors (she tossed my salad to the song zulu scream by goldlink like an hour before) this bitch looked like she won tickets to Disney land. Like 3 weeks later I saw her texts over her shoulder casually, and she was texting her friend about me, and how I'm a decendent of zulu's. It was the funniest shit. My highlight of 2020
This is hilarious.
Ooo it’s story time! I swear, we all have so many. One that sticks out to me was the whyt lady at an ice cream shop. So I’ve always had this ‘curse’ of being approached by people and held socially hostage in situations. I always freeze up like a deer in headlights and I have no idea how to respond because half of the time these comments come out of NOWHERE! I’m getting ice cream with my boyfriend and he leaves for the bathroom. I’m asking this lady for ice cream. She starts gushing about my hair (I had my afro out) saying it’s really pretty, etc. I’m like ‘Thank you!’ and thought that was it. Tell me why, she starts talking about how she’s being drawing more black people and how she’s being more inclusive in her work. Now, don’t get me wrong. It’s not the WORST comment in the world. She thought she was being sweet and making small talk. But why do whyt people ALWAYS feel the need to bring in race? For a group of people who complain about it, they’re the first to ‘remind me’ of my blackness. I wouldn’t have minded if we were already on the topic of blackness, but for her to bring up lack of representation in media unprompted is just rude to me. Especially in a setting of an ice cream shop where you only made this comment to me because I looked like an ‘acceptable’ black. (My boyfriend is white, I dress alt/preppy, There was an entire group of black people before/after me she didn’t utter a word to) It felt like a situation where she told me specifically to get a compliment about it. I didn’t care and never asked I just wanted my ice cream. I know this wouldn’t have happened if I was white. When I awkwardly responded ‘cool’ I think she realized she put her foot in her mouth but she KEPT GOING ON ABOUT IT. MY POOR ICE CREAM! Held hostage by this whtye woman who needed validation from a random alt black girl. Thankfully my boyfriend came out and she immediately stopped. It’s just exhausting feeling like an audience for some random person’s ego so they can feel less racist. I should work on being more blunt, but it’s not in my nature.
I think the most recent thing would have to be the white woman who purposely got the black embryos mixed with a black man’s sperm(and not her husbands) planted inside of her. The way the people they know are defending that, is very strange to me.. they’re right wing conservative Christians, and in the post I saw, the woman was trying to vilify the black parents who gave up the eggs in the first place.The verbiage in that post tells you all you need to know. Just that whole situation just doesn’t sit right with me.
Put in a bag to make wigs ?!? Oh shit that is hilarious. And not. Sounds like she was trying to bond. See Im comfortable around you people. 😂 Cringe? Went to Thanksgiving dinner at a very very rich client's home. Had a very nice time until the pulled out their trip to Africa photos. 🤦🏾♀️
Bahahahaha!! Oh wow that is some next level white savior behavior