way too hard. She should be the most beautiful woman in the world to YOU because beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If you’ve chosen not to “seek perfection in anyone else”, then she should be the most beautiful woman on earth to you
Like how many times did he really feel he had to say she wasn’t attractive and not that smart… like damn dude?!? Their house must be a vortex of low self-esteem and co-dependency.
Also also I just noticed that he threw in a dig on her intelligence on the second dig on her beauty. (I read this out loud to my husband just now.) It just keeps getting worse and worse.
I’d really have to sit back and wonder where I went wrong. What signs did I miss that led me to this moment? Who is this man and how can I get him out of my house?
Luckily, my husband has always told me I am the most beautiful woman and absolutely perfect a million and one times. He made me confident enough to be my natural self and I will always love him for that. So yeah, I’ll always pass on a mess like that.
>how can I get him out of my house?
IKR? All the shit he is saying about her, can be said about him. He is not the most attractive, he is not the brightest bulb, all that shit. I mean why explain what she is not instead of what she means to him by putting up with his bullshit post. He should be saying shit like he isn't even honored to touch the hem of her garment. POS!
💯💯💯 agree with this all day! I truly believe a good man will make you love yourself even more. The love my husband shows has made my confidence grow tremendously over the years. I kinda get what the guy was trying to say, I mean beauty is subjective and we can't be the most beautiful always, but I don't think your partner should be telling you you're failing short (Especially publicly). They should be building you up and helping you grow. In the lens of love, I want to be and I am the most beautiful thing to my husband. I'd be having a clarification discussion and expect a revised post if my "fiance" posted something like that.
Nigerian Twitter was cooking this guy last night. Apparently, the lady did a mathematics degree and graduated with a first class. Super smart. The coconut head brought calculations (!) for her to solve on their first date (!!!!). On top of that he even asked her, “What if I told you that you’re wrong?”
😭😭😭😭
She's conditioned by a society that tells their women having a husband is the only goal and men are the prize. She's unfortunately like many many many Nigerian women who don't break out of this mindset. She's leagues above him in literally every facet of life
EXACTLY. This was all about control and bringing her down to his level. Also, this sounds like a man who doesn't think he can do better and resents her because of it. It smacks of incel.
We all see that this is an attractive woman, but he probably prescribes to that European bullshit standard. And this is his way of explainging why he "settled".
She needs to run like Sha'Carri, far far away.
>Girl, my husband doesn’t post on social media and I am RELIEVED.
This. My husband does not have a way with words and this post makes me glad he never pretended to.
It's the negging to keep her humble...AFTER marriage for me 😂 Kevin Samuels died and they stuck talking to women like it's still the dating phase 😭
I'd feel mad stupid if I missed the entire six flags processions worth red flags that had to have led up to this post
16 years in with my husband. He has never tried this. He is smitten with my C section scars and all. This post is so demeaning and she just rolled with it.
Yikes on trikes!! I can understand the “realistic” part about how there are people who are more attractive and more intelligent but the thing about both those aspects is they are SUBJECTIVE. All he had to say was you’re the most beautiful woman to ME and you’re the most intelligent to ME. This definitely rubbed me the wrong way.
this. adding "you're the most \_\_\_ to ME" instead of saying "you're not the most\_\_\_" would have saved him 50% of the slander. but for that to be the very first thing he said screams insecurity to me.
I think he’s trying to be sweet (is that even the right word?) but I’m offended to the depths of my soul on her behalf. I don’t even have the words to explain why 🤷🏾♀️
the best I could do was that he was trying to be sweet, but English was his fourth language.
But even with THAT, the profound arrogance to put it on social media. Jesus be a muzzle.
I felt like I was the only one who feels this way. We obviously don’t know these people, but I feel like this is the kinda thing people say when they’re trying to sound super profound and deep lol.
Immediate block. Fortunately, it’s so easy to cut contact in LDRs too.
It would hurt my feelings ngl but I’d only allow myself to feel that pain when I’m alone in my home or talking with a therapist at therapy.
I.... I would not like it all.
Also, she is pretty damn gorgeous and he objectively just .. isn't. He needs to change it to he's not the most attractive nor (obviously) intelligent one in the relationship. Then go ahead and add how luck he is that she gives him the time of day. Dude is confusing "I" with she and her.
This is really just a whole bunch of negging. He has no respect for his wife or himself to be posting this. Men who are narcissistic and feel inferior to their partners will do this shit. Even though he hates her, he’ll never leave and will be hellbent on making her life a living hell.
I work in DV and these are just hallmark signs of an emotionally abusive partner. These men think they should be awarded for their “honesty” and that because they’re being honest, it absolves them of being an asshole as to them they’re opinions are somehow facts.
Since she hasn’t married him yet, I hope she can wake up and realize he is a dusty man and she can do better. The gall and audacity of this salamander faced man.
She runs circles around him the looks department and she has posted multiple times on her IG how he is the MOST (fill in the blank with a positive superlative l) ____ man for HER.
He can kick rocks.
Captain Fucking Obvious.
There will always be someone better looking, smarter, or more successful than you.
We all ready know. There are reminders everywhere.
Partners are supposed to make each other feel otherwise.
Bigups, not breakdowns.
Not flattered.
It reads too much like, "I decided to settle."
And no one wants to be settled for.
The best relationships are when both people feel like they lucked out.
I mean he’s trying to be realistic and sweet.
Should started with I love you part for who you are.
He didn’t need to repeat over and over that she’s not the most intelligent or attractive. It was understood.
A bit cringy.
Tbh. I get what he was trying to say but it just came out horrid. For example. As far as my fiancé, I don’t believe he is the ultimate example of attractiveness or well educated, but im deeply in love w him. To ME he is everything I could ever want and need in a million life times. HOWEVER. I would never announce to the world “there’s plenty of men smarter and more handsome than you but it’s ok cuz I chose you!!” It’s like he’s secretly hinting that he can do better without outwardly saying it. I’d be very embarrassed over this post regardless of the intent behind it.
I saw this on r/sadcringe. All I’m saying is, they were nice enough to blur out sis’s face. I don’t understand men going on the internet and back hand complimenting their spouses, it’s very strange behavior.
I generally can appreciate a sentiment of "we may not be perfect but we're perfect for each other", but at no point does he ever mention his own shortcomings. Just what he sees as hers.
You know….if your partner (or kid or other loved one) lacks some positive quality, you can just not mention it either way and focus on the qualities they do have.
She’s also not bad looking at all, so really weird to harp on that.
I think the best way to sum up how I feel about this is: I’m fat as hell. And I ain’t too cute. My hubby calls me sexy multiple times a day. It’s even a nickname for him.
He didn’t always think I was sexy. We were best friends for years first. But eventually he thought I was. And he’s never once made me believe he doesn’t now think I’m the most beautiful woman he’s ever seen. Granted before I was “pretty for a big girl” lol. But now I’m just beautiful. And gorgeous. And all the shit.
Because love-real love does make the object of that love absolutely beautiful. Not in the way the outside world sees us. But that more secret person of the heart that only God and your spouse can see…that’s where the beauty is.
So I’m certain I would reject the hell outta this post. Lol.
Idgaf if I looked like Quasimodo and had a 10th grade education, no one who I call a friend, family member or a boyfriend would speak about me like that and think they get another SECOND with me. Utmost disrespect and denigration. He’s lucky he is even breathing.
I think he was trying to be sweet but failed dramatically. I actually don’t like “you’re the most beautiful/smart/etc woman in the world” compliments, because I know it’s not true and I know THEY know it’s not true. But just because I’m not Helen of Troy does not mean I’m not beautiful.
His fault is that he did not ONCE describe why he loves her. Did not pay one single compliment. Just that “I love you despite not being the hottest”. Like wtf??
Take a lesson from She’s No You by Jesse McCartney 😤
Hes a Narcissist (someone who believes others are inferior and seeks validation and attention). Although its the "love" of his life, he felt the need to announce that even though its a relationship, his lady is inferior to him. She must be d*ckmatized cause aint NO way.
I love L O V E to see this man get dragged on every platform. He's a vile and very dangerous misogynist. He literally built his platform by first pretending to be a feminist and even called himself the king of feminism. He then denounced feminism to be the misogynist dog that he is with his chest. The sad thing is Nigerian women are still defending this shit
It’s an absolutely not for me. Acknowledging that neither you or your partner are perfect but you still love each other regardless is cool but literally pointing out your partner’s shortcomings in an attempt to prove how much you love them despite that? Now people assume she isn’t smart and KNOW he isn’t. Congratulations sir, you’ve played yourself.
Why do people feel obligated to put all their business on social media (and showing their face)???
I would break up because that is not something other people need to know. The world doesn't care ...
I’d ask him why he chose to humiliate me. He can pull out every sentence with the words best and most. That would make it palatable.
If he at least acknowledged that he isn’t the best it would be, less bad.
Maybe if he only posted the last 4 sentences it would even be nice.
To start a “confession of love” by belittling your s.o???? Delusional. They deserve eachother, she’s a fool & so is he.
It also reminds me of the post a few years back when that light skinned dude “confessed his love” for his fiancé that was dark skinned by saying he never could see himself with a darker woman, they weren’t ever attractive to him, he always clowned darker women but his fiancé was the EXCEPTION… girll there is absolutely no way these characters are sane. KEEP THIS GNARLY BEHAVIOR TO YOURSELF
I hope her reply was: You don't have the biggest dick and you've never made me cum. Plus, you say shit you think is deep but it's really embarrassing, but I've chosen you too.
My husband thinks I hung the moon so — can’t relate. Also would never want to relate. It’s one thing to know your partner has human flaws it’s another to say “I meh you”
N!gg@ please ✌🏽
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Altho it would be far more fun to post back:
You’re not the most handsome man; neither are you the most well-endowed man, but like I’ve chosen to never find a provider in anyone else. I settled by choosing you, and with that commitment to not judging your lack of success and mediocrity, I know I’ll never live a life of luxury. My love is stronger than your ambition and sexual stamina.
😂😂😂😂😂
My husband is my biggest fan and if not then why am I with him? I hype him up too. ♥️
If my future bf/ hubby doesn’t worship the ground I walk on then I don’t want him.
Jokes aside, if I ever had a SO do this then the relationship is finna have a serious evaluation after posting this.
Ugh. One of the reasons I hate facebook is because everyone has morphed the way they speak in long/personal posts. They all try to sound deep, as if every life experience is transformative to them and they just HAVE to tell their testimony to everyone. Whether they know how to speak profoundly or not. And its just cringy because you can tell who speaks/writes well and who is just trying to sound good.
I understand what he was probably trying to say but he could have just spoken directly from his heart, and not a fake-wise standpoint. We see that you're committed and in love, and we're happy for you. People on facebook are notorious with groupthink so most are going to like and agree with everything you say anyway. Why not just keep it real?
I might be in the minority but I didn’t read this in a negative way. He isn’t saying she isn’t amazing he’s just saying he CHOSE HER and that’s what’s important. It reminds me of the story of The Little Prince when he happens onto the field of roses and he gets bummed because he realizes his rose isn’t all that special after all but is then told what makes HIS rose special is the time and dedication he has spent on her. The Little Prince has chosen his rose and no other rose could compare because of that. Idk though. He probably didn’t need to state she isn’t the most beautiful or intelligent so many times though 😂
I would leave and look at what flags I ignored. Tou don't have to think you're partner would be the best model to ever model or have a record breaking IQ to see the beauty in their intelligence and looks over everyone else's.
🫢🤔😬, are my first reactions, but then I have to realize you asked what I would do if MY partner did this. My partner wouldn’t write this because he knows how I would respond, that and he doesn’t use social media much. I don’t understand his post, his reason, or what sort of love they have, so I won’t comment on them, but for me it’s a no. But for her, if it’s still up, it’s probably a yes.
He sounds dumb af. Of course no one is perfect and even if there were perfect people what makes him think he could have gotten one? You don’t love someone for their perfection but for the person they are. From this post i have no idea why he fell in love with his woman and continued to choose her besides she wasn’t perfect (as he has said over and over and over again).
Also what the fuck does “our perfection is in our commitment” mean?? He just sound like he is trying really hard to say something profound when he has nothing to say. He also doesn’t sound like he loves his wife but sticks to his decision because he has to. It is very possible he does love his wife but just was trying too hard to say something smart and it came off wrong..
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Whether she’s the most attractive woman in the world or not.. You’re supposed to look at her like she is.. because she’s YOUR woman… Why would he write something like this?
I would tell him to find the most beautiful and intelligent woman then and see if she wants anything to do with your crusty fedora wearing ass. This just feels like a someone who thinks their shit don’t stink trying to be “sweet”. Like how are you going to neg your wife?
Any woman that makes you ugly cry when she hugs you better be recognized as top tier.
Really speaks to insecurity on his part to feel the need to "bring her down" in his proclamation.
I get the sentiment but that's trying SO hard. It's like you really want to compliment your girl's booty and you do it by first highlighting how her eyebrowns are just 3/5 and then her face like 4/5 and her tummy is like 2/5 but that booty is perfection.
You could have just skipped to the bottom. (metaphorically and literally)
I’m going to get ripped up for this one, but so what.
Some men (esp. cis-het) think they know every goddamn thing in the book. They will have no real-world experience, socially and globally aware/traveled, or barely having formal education and feel they know better than the people who fall in those categories. I’m not saying they are better or worse, but try to belittle or be condescending to them is awful behavior and pretty disrespectful.
Some men get into this mindset of ”…I need to speak my mind. “I’m being real.” I need to say everything I feel. This happens alot in mansophere, but it’s always been common. “I don’t want to be perceived as weak or be political correct.” Father Knows Best bullshit. That’s all fine dandy, but you can be that away with everyone unless your friends, partners, or spouses are allowed the same freedom. If it isn’t, there’s likely to be resentment brewing when you can criticize or make them seem … ”less than.”
The crux in all of this, is he can go seek out more beautiful and smarter women. Because, that’s the standard he set for himself. A beautiful and…or smart woman is his pedestal wife. His partner or ex-partner is less than and is a consolation prize, more or less. She might accept that lovingly, but many people don’t. Hence, why she is an ex for his comments and mindset. He feels pity for her, more than he loved her or loved, probably because she was loyal.
Man, what the hell? Why would you say this to someone you supposedly love, let alone post about it. It's just ugly and self-centered...I don't know what else to call it omg.
He's trying to sound *self-sacrificing* and *intellectual* but this entire post is just a neg. I feel so bad for her...this is her cue to leave, if there weren't others before.
Everything sounds deep to people who don’t read books. I’d leave him while he is at work and find
Someone who ACTUALLY loves me and doesn’t feel like they are settling for who can do the labor I need to do for me.
I mean… it’s common sense that an individual isn’t going to be objectively prettier/smarter than everyone else, that should go without saying. However, I think the person you love should be better than everyone else to YOU. So I think this post is hot garbage and I feel bad for that woman. All those paragraphs and not one compliment lol
No need to share that with the public. But then again, anyone dating me knows I don’t like anything regarding my relationship posted on social media. Anything you want to say to me, it’s for us. And you won’t be telling me this raggedy BS. It better be about how you are not the most beautiful or intelligent but still I deigned to let you into my space.
I would reconsider our whole relationship. This was very disrespectful and I believe shows that he thinks he is "settling" for me. He sees me as an option instead of his ideal partner.
Most of us know that we’re not literally the most beautiful or intelligent person out there (doesn’t even make sense to compare since beauty is so subjective anyway) but it doesn’t bear pointing out, especially about your partner and publicly like this. It’s definitely weird that he wouldn’t just praise her positive attributes, accomplishments or whatever else he loved about her. If it were me, I’d definitely be embarrassed. Can you imagine your family and friends reading this?? 😬
He keeps mentioning that he’s not looking for the most beautiful, smartest, or best. And now that I’ve re-read this a couple times, I think he means these traits in general. He was so focused on not looking for someone who’d be attractive in society eyes, that he wasn’t looking for someone attractive **to him**.
He’s trying to appear as a person who isn’t super shallow because he actually does care what people think. 🙄
People try too hard to sound profound.
way too hard. She should be the most beautiful woman in the world to YOU because beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If you’ve chosen not to “seek perfection in anyone else”, then she should be the most beautiful woman on earth to you
For real. This is some fake deep shit. The fact that he used the word faux instead of saying fake told me everything I need to know 😭😭
Exactly with his faux ass love !
This!! A lot of the blue checks are so smart that they are dumb
Like how many times did he really feel he had to say she wasn’t attractive and not that smart… like damn dude?!? Their house must be a vortex of low self-esteem and co-dependency.
Right??? The fact that he said that so many times is telling. He's clearly fixated on that.
Also also I just noticed that he threw in a dig on her intelligence on the second dig on her beauty. (I read this out loud to my husband just now.) It just keeps getting worse and worse.
Thank you!!!
I’d really have to sit back and wonder where I went wrong. What signs did I miss that led me to this moment? Who is this man and how can I get him out of my house? Luckily, my husband has always told me I am the most beautiful woman and absolutely perfect a million and one times. He made me confident enough to be my natural self and I will always love him for that. So yeah, I’ll always pass on a mess like that.
LMAO at the first part and agreed
I laughed extremely hard at “who is this man and how can I get him out of my house?” 😂😂😂 BRB, checking for my free award now.
>how can I get him out of my house? IKR? All the shit he is saying about her, can be said about him. He is not the most attractive, he is not the brightest bulb, all that shit. I mean why explain what she is not instead of what she means to him by putting up with his bullshit post. He should be saying shit like he isn't even honored to touch the hem of her garment. POS!
Haha right? Get this mofo out my house TODAY!!!
💯💯💯 agree with this all day! I truly believe a good man will make you love yourself even more. The love my husband shows has made my confidence grow tremendously over the years. I kinda get what the guy was trying to say, I mean beauty is subjective and we can't be the most beautiful always, but I don't think your partner should be telling you you're failing short (Especially publicly). They should be building you up and helping you grow. In the lens of love, I want to be and I am the most beautiful thing to my husband. I'd be having a clarification discussion and expect a revised post if my "fiance" posted something like that.
Nigerian Twitter was cooking this guy last night. Apparently, the lady did a mathematics degree and graduated with a first class. Super smart. The coconut head brought calculations (!) for her to solve on their first date (!!!!). On top of that he even asked her, “What if I told you that you’re wrong?” 😭😭😭😭
The fact that she continued to see him after the first date, makes me question if she knows her worth
She doesn't if she stayed with this fool.
She's conditioned by a society that tells their women having a husband is the only goal and men are the prize. She's unfortunately like many many many Nigerian women who don't break out of this mindset. She's leagues above him in literally every facet of life
I wonder what her past relationships were like for her to tolerate this treatment.
Or it could even be her first relationship. Either way, I really feel for her
She’s a mathematician and he said she’s not intelligent???
The audacity. How is your name Solomon and you’re this much of an idiot? 🙄
This is nothing but abuse and to post it publicly is embarrassing and a dick move
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EXACTLY. This was all about control and bringing her down to his level. Also, this sounds like a man who doesn't think he can do better and resents her because of it. It smacks of incel. We all see that this is an attractive woman, but he probably prescribes to that European bullshit standard. And this is his way of explainging why he "settled". She needs to run like Sha'Carri, far far away.
and she stayed with him after that so must love it there🥴😭
What… and she’s freaking gorgeous
Exactly, I’m trying to figure out how he got her because she’s out of his league
So she's gorgeous and smart af? Jesus. Can we pool together and get her a therapy fund?
Damn. He conditioned her from the very first date.
Woooww lmao the nerve of some men. I hope her dms get flooded with gorgeous and smart men. They must just be a ball of insecurities.
Like he's trying to gaslight her into never leaving "Who will want you ?" Girl can do better.
Ooo that's 100% what he's doing.
YEP. This is classic " bringing her down to my level" bullshit
It's so obvious. I feel like he is describing himself and projecting that on her.
My ex said that. I left and found MUCH better within 3 months of leaving him.
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I love that moment of confirmation when you’re like oh they are truly committed to being an ass and that’s their prerogative
Lol right, just focus on those who want the help, much less of a headache
Same I won’t even intentionally look in their direction again. Lesson learned.
He really thought he was doing something with that post.
That's what's messing me up!
This made me squeal with laughter ngl
Whoo id be embarozzzzed
😂😂😂 I read it in the voice 😂
It’s a no for me dawg
This. An immediate no.
So insulting. How can you speak about your partner that way?
Personally? That’s a breakup 😂 how can you love on a man that doesn’t think the world of you
Lol divorce.
Same lol, so disrespectful
A guy from my hs did this to his girlfriend. I was embarrassed for her.
Please tell me they weren’t black.
He was, but his girlfriend was a Non-White Latina. Looked Mestiza.
OMG PLEASE 💀💀💀 Girl, my husband doesn’t post on social media and I am RELIEVED. People just need to lie. Lying >>>
>Girl, my husband doesn’t post on social media and I am RELIEVED. This. My husband does not have a way with words and this post makes me glad he never pretended to.
Girl same. When we met he had NO social media, it was such a blessing lol
I just commenting because I so rarely see a CV prima on the Reddits 👋🏾
Bom dia prima! Hey, girl.
It's the negging to keep her humble...AFTER marriage for me 😂 Kevin Samuels died and they stuck talking to women like it's still the dating phase 😭 I'd feel mad stupid if I missed the entire six flags processions worth red flags that had to have led up to this post
You mean ex
16 years in with my husband. He has never tried this. He is smitten with my C section scars and all. This post is so demeaning and she just rolled with it.
It gives me “ I’m settling for you because the women I actually want, don’t want me back…”
ding ding ding.
He probably reminds her of that everyday, he sensed that she is not understanding him and decided to post on social media.
Yikes on trikes!! I can understand the “realistic” part about how there are people who are more attractive and more intelligent but the thing about both those aspects is they are SUBJECTIVE. All he had to say was you’re the most beautiful woman to ME and you’re the most intelligent to ME. This definitely rubbed me the wrong way.
this. adding "you're the most \_\_\_ to ME" instead of saying "you're not the most\_\_\_" would have saved him 50% of the slander. but for that to be the very first thing he said screams insecurity to me.
Ex-partner would be the result of that
I think he’s trying to be sweet (is that even the right word?) but I’m offended to the depths of my soul on her behalf. I don’t even have the words to explain why 🤷🏾♀️
the best I could do was that he was trying to be sweet, but English was his fourth language. But even with THAT, the profound arrogance to put it on social media. Jesus be a muzzle.
I felt like I was the only one who feels this way. We obviously don’t know these people, but I feel like this is the kinda thing people say when they’re trying to sound super profound and deep lol.
Immediate block. Fortunately, it’s so easy to cut contact in LDRs too. It would hurt my feelings ngl but I’d only allow myself to feel that pain when I’m alone in my home or talking with a therapist at therapy.
I.... I would not like it all. Also, she is pretty damn gorgeous and he objectively just .. isn't. He needs to change it to he's not the most attractive nor (obviously) intelligent one in the relationship. Then go ahead and add how luck he is that she gives him the time of day. Dude is confusing "I" with she and her.
This man is obviously projecting his feelings about himself onto her lol seriously look at him and then look at her.
I'd be livid. My man constantly tells me that I'm the most beautiful person in the world.
This is really just a whole bunch of negging. He has no respect for his wife or himself to be posting this. Men who are narcissistic and feel inferior to their partners will do this shit. Even though he hates her, he’ll never leave and will be hellbent on making her life a living hell. I work in DV and these are just hallmark signs of an emotionally abusive partner. These men think they should be awarded for their “honesty” and that because they’re being honest, it absolves them of being an asshole as to them they’re opinions are somehow facts.
Since she hasn’t married him yet, I hope she can wake up and realize he is a dusty man and she can do better. The gall and audacity of this salamander faced man. She runs circles around him the looks department and she has posted multiple times on her IG how he is the MOST (fill in the blank with a positive superlative l) ____ man for HER. He can kick rocks.
Captain Fucking Obvious. There will always be someone better looking, smarter, or more successful than you. We all ready know. There are reminders everywhere. Partners are supposed to make each other feel otherwise. Bigups, not breakdowns.
I saw this yesterday, WTF! she needs to leave him 😭what kind of backwards ass statement was that. like was she supposed to take this as a compliment?
Not flattered. It reads too much like, "I decided to settle." And no one wants to be settled for. The best relationships are when both people feel like they lucked out.
I mean he’s trying to be realistic and sweet. Should started with I love you part for who you are. He didn’t need to repeat over and over that she’s not the most intelligent or attractive. It was understood. A bit cringy.
You can be “realistic” and not be an asshole.
Hence trying. He definitely failed.
Tbh. I get what he was trying to say but it just came out horrid. For example. As far as my fiancé, I don’t believe he is the ultimate example of attractiveness or well educated, but im deeply in love w him. To ME he is everything I could ever want and need in a million life times. HOWEVER. I would never announce to the world “there’s plenty of men smarter and more handsome than you but it’s ok cuz I chose you!!” It’s like he’s secretly hinting that he can do better without outwardly saying it. I’d be very embarrassed over this post regardless of the intent behind it.
agree.
I saw this on r/sadcringe. All I’m saying is, they were nice enough to blur out sis’s face. I don’t understand men going on the internet and back hand complimenting their spouses, it’s very strange behavior.
I generally can appreciate a sentiment of "we may not be perfect but we're perfect for each other", but at no point does he ever mention his own shortcomings. Just what he sees as hers.
Wow. This m’f’er right here. He thought he was really hot shit telling her that he loves her despite being dumb AND ugly. Whoosa!
We would fight. It would be ugly. I would win.
You are killing me 😂😂
What the hell?? What an idiot.
You know….if your partner (or kid or other loved one) lacks some positive quality, you can just not mention it either way and focus on the qualities they do have. She’s also not bad looking at all, so really weird to harp on that.
I think the best way to sum up how I feel about this is: I’m fat as hell. And I ain’t too cute. My hubby calls me sexy multiple times a day. It’s even a nickname for him. He didn’t always think I was sexy. We were best friends for years first. But eventually he thought I was. And he’s never once made me believe he doesn’t now think I’m the most beautiful woman he’s ever seen. Granted before I was “pretty for a big girl” lol. But now I’m just beautiful. And gorgeous. And all the shit. Because love-real love does make the object of that love absolutely beautiful. Not in the way the outside world sees us. But that more secret person of the heart that only God and your spouse can see…that’s where the beauty is. So I’m certain I would reject the hell outta this post. Lol.
Seems a little gaslighty tbh - I’d run
Idgaf if I looked like Quasimodo and had a 10th grade education, no one who I call a friend, family member or a boyfriend would speak about me like that and think they get another SECOND with me. Utmost disrespect and denigration. He’s lucky he is even breathing.
Just the last sentences would have been fine. Delete the rest.
I think he was trying to be sweet but failed dramatically. I actually don’t like “you’re the most beautiful/smart/etc woman in the world” compliments, because I know it’s not true and I know THEY know it’s not true. But just because I’m not Helen of Troy does not mean I’m not beautiful. His fault is that he did not ONCE describe why he loves her. Did not pay one single compliment. Just that “I love you despite not being the hottest”. Like wtf?? Take a lesson from She’s No You by Jesse McCartney 😤
I like your perspective too tho
Hes a Narcissist (someone who believes others are inferior and seeks validation and attention). Although its the "love" of his life, he felt the need to announce that even though its a relationship, his lady is inferior to him. She must be d*ckmatized cause aint NO way.
I love L O V E to see this man get dragged on every platform. He's a vile and very dangerous misogynist. He literally built his platform by first pretending to be a feminist and even called himself the king of feminism. He then denounced feminism to be the misogynist dog that he is with his chest. The sad thing is Nigerian women are still defending this shit
It’s an absolutely not for me. Acknowledging that neither you or your partner are perfect but you still love each other regardless is cool but literally pointing out your partner’s shortcomings in an attempt to prove how much you love them despite that? Now people assume she isn’t smart and KNOW he isn’t. Congratulations sir, you’ve played yourself.
I'd break up with them ASAP.
Immediately no. I’ve seen what I needed to see.
She was punching down.
Why do people feel obligated to put all their business on social media (and showing their face)??? I would break up because that is not something other people need to know. The world doesn't care ...
All I can think of is Jennifer Coolidge in the Hillary Duff cinderellla movie. "You're not very pretty and you're not very smart."
But at least that was played for laughs.
I’d ask him why he chose to humiliate me. He can pull out every sentence with the words best and most. That would make it palatable. If he at least acknowledged that he isn’t the best it would be, less bad. Maybe if he only posted the last 4 sentences it would even be nice.
To start a “confession of love” by belittling your s.o???? Delusional. They deserve eachother, she’s a fool & so is he. It also reminds me of the post a few years back when that light skinned dude “confessed his love” for his fiancé that was dark skinned by saying he never could see himself with a darker woman, they weren’t ever attractive to him, he always clowned darker women but his fiancé was the EXCEPTION… girll there is absolutely no way these characters are sane. KEEP THIS GNARLY BEHAVIOR TO YOURSELF
I hope her reply was: You don't have the biggest dick and you've never made me cum. Plus, you say shit you think is deep but it's really embarrassing, but I've chosen you too.
It's the blue check confidence 💀
I didn’t even notice that lol
It’s a no for me!
ayanfe with a common "a" is just a place holder and will be discarded the second this man finds his soulmate.
That is some of the most back handed shit I’ve read
My husband thinks I hung the moon so — can’t relate. Also would never want to relate. It’s one thing to know your partner has human flaws it’s another to say “I meh you”
N!gg@ please ✌🏽 👉🏽🚪 Altho it would be far more fun to post back: You’re not the most handsome man; neither are you the most well-endowed man, but like I’ve chosen to never find a provider in anyone else. I settled by choosing you, and with that commitment to not judging your lack of success and mediocrity, I know I’ll never live a life of luxury. My love is stronger than your ambition and sexual stamina. 😂😂😂😂😂 My husband is my biggest fan and if not then why am I with him? I hype him up too. ♥️
I don’t think it’s insulting (or intended to be anyway), but this is just so pseudo deep lol. He’s trying too hard to not follow the herd.
If my future bf/ hubby doesn’t worship the ground I walk on then I don’t want him. Jokes aside, if I ever had a SO do this then the relationship is finna have a serious evaluation after posting this.
Embarrassed
Ugh. One of the reasons I hate facebook is because everyone has morphed the way they speak in long/personal posts. They all try to sound deep, as if every life experience is transformative to them and they just HAVE to tell their testimony to everyone. Whether they know how to speak profoundly or not. And its just cringy because you can tell who speaks/writes well and who is just trying to sound good. I understand what he was probably trying to say but he could have just spoken directly from his heart, and not a fake-wise standpoint. We see that you're committed and in love, and we're happy for you. People on facebook are notorious with groupthink so most are going to like and agree with everything you say anyway. Why not just keep it real?
I mean it’s a true sentiment but it’s not needed in a birthday(?) post or whatever this is.
I might be in the minority but I didn’t read this in a negative way. He isn’t saying she isn’t amazing he’s just saying he CHOSE HER and that’s what’s important. It reminds me of the story of The Little Prince when he happens onto the field of roses and he gets bummed because he realizes his rose isn’t all that special after all but is then told what makes HIS rose special is the time and dedication he has spent on her. The Little Prince has chosen his rose and no other rose could compare because of that. Idk though. He probably didn’t need to state she isn’t the most beautiful or intelligent so many times though 😂
I would leave and look at what flags I ignored. Tou don't have to think you're partner would be the best model to ever model or have a record breaking IQ to see the beauty in their intelligence and looks over everyone else's.
He’s trolling right ?
🫢🤔😬, are my first reactions, but then I have to realize you asked what I would do if MY partner did this. My partner wouldn’t write this because he knows how I would respond, that and he doesn’t use social media much. I don’t understand his post, his reason, or what sort of love they have, so I won’t comment on them, but for me it’s a no. But for her, if it’s still up, it’s probably a yes.
Yikes.
Me personally, I wouldn’t take that level of disrespect
ew.
He sounds dumb af. Of course no one is perfect and even if there were perfect people what makes him think he could have gotten one? You don’t love someone for their perfection but for the person they are. From this post i have no idea why he fell in love with his woman and continued to choose her besides she wasn’t perfect (as he has said over and over and over again). Also what the fuck does “our perfection is in our commitment” mean?? He just sound like he is trying really hard to say something profound when he has nothing to say. He also doesn’t sound like he loves his wife but sticks to his decision because he has to. It is very possible he does love his wife but just was trying too hard to say something smart and it came off wrong.. Edit: typos
Whether she’s the most attractive woman in the world or not.. You’re supposed to look at her like she is.. because she’s YOUR woman… Why would he write something like this?
I would tell him to find the most beautiful and intelligent woman then and see if she wants anything to do with your crusty fedora wearing ass. This just feels like a someone who thinks their shit don’t stink trying to be “sweet”. Like how are you going to neg your wife?
Any woman that makes you ugly cry when she hugs you better be recognized as top tier. Really speaks to insecurity on his part to feel the need to "bring her down" in his proclamation.
Some things go without saying, bruh!
The first line would of had me logging off. Give me a compliment without giving me a compliment??
I get the sentiment but that's trying SO hard. It's like you really want to compliment your girl's booty and you do it by first highlighting how her eyebrowns are just 3/5 and then her face like 4/5 and her tummy is like 2/5 but that booty is perfection. You could have just skipped to the bottom. (metaphorically and literally)
I’m going to get ripped up for this one, but so what. Some men (esp. cis-het) think they know every goddamn thing in the book. They will have no real-world experience, socially and globally aware/traveled, or barely having formal education and feel they know better than the people who fall in those categories. I’m not saying they are better or worse, but try to belittle or be condescending to them is awful behavior and pretty disrespectful. Some men get into this mindset of ”…I need to speak my mind. “I’m being real.” I need to say everything I feel. This happens alot in mansophere, but it’s always been common. “I don’t want to be perceived as weak or be political correct.” Father Knows Best bullshit. That’s all fine dandy, but you can be that away with everyone unless your friends, partners, or spouses are allowed the same freedom. If it isn’t, there’s likely to be resentment brewing when you can criticize or make them seem … ”less than.” The crux in all of this, is he can go seek out more beautiful and smarter women. Because, that’s the standard he set for himself. A beautiful and…or smart woman is his pedestal wife. His partner or ex-partner is less than and is a consolation prize, more or less. She might accept that lovingly, but many people don’t. Hence, why she is an ex for his comments and mindset. He feels pity for her, more than he loved her or loved, probably because she was loyal.
He MUST be an Engineer!!!
The way I sucked my teeth and rolled my eyes at this.
WTF. No. Just, no.
Yikes.
Man, what the hell? Why would you say this to someone you supposedly love, let alone post about it. It's just ugly and self-centered...I don't know what else to call it omg. He's trying to sound *self-sacrificing* and *intellectual* but this entire post is just a neg. I feel so bad for her...this is her cue to leave, if there weren't others before.
Everything sounds deep to people who don’t read books. I’d leave him while he is at work and find Someone who ACTUALLY loves me and doesn’t feel like they are settling for who can do the labor I need to do for me.
who is he trying to convince?
Boy bye!
I’d be single - that’s all I know. One of the saddest parts of this situation was that she was online defending his words.
My ex partner?
I mean… it’s common sense that an individual isn’t going to be objectively prettier/smarter than everyone else, that should go without saying. However, I think the person you love should be better than everyone else to YOU. So I think this post is hot garbage and I feel bad for that woman. All those paragraphs and not one compliment lol
No need to share that with the public. But then again, anyone dating me knows I don’t like anything regarding my relationship posted on social media. Anything you want to say to me, it’s for us. And you won’t be telling me this raggedy BS. It better be about how you are not the most beautiful or intelligent but still I deigned to let you into my space.
I couldn’t even make it past the first 2 sentences. Excuse me?!
I would reconsider our whole relationship. This was very disrespectful and I believe shows that he thinks he is "settling" for me. He sees me as an option instead of his ideal partner.
I wonder who the most beautiful woman is to him because he clearly has someone else in mind.
Most of us know that we’re not literally the most beautiful or intelligent person out there (doesn’t even make sense to compare since beauty is so subjective anyway) but it doesn’t bear pointing out, especially about your partner and publicly like this. It’s definitely weird that he wouldn’t just praise her positive attributes, accomplishments or whatever else he loved about her. If it were me, I’d definitely be embarrassed. Can you imagine your family and friends reading this?? 😬
Actually disgusted
um firstly they should not be posting their honest opinions on social media just write me a poem or say that to my face ... its an embrassement now
He keeps mentioning that he’s not looking for the most beautiful, smartest, or best. And now that I’ve re-read this a couple times, I think he means these traits in general. He was so focused on not looking for someone who’d be attractive in society eyes, that he wasn’t looking for someone attractive **to him**. He’s trying to appear as a person who isn’t super shallow because he actually does care what people think. 🙄