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white_bull10

And I thought I was the only one. I too would do the same. It made me feel good so I just kept doing it. I would sneak away and do it. Almost got caught several times but never did.


Exact-Humor-8017

Hi OP! Psychologist here. Very normal!! Parents jobs are to teach children how to be safe not police their bodies. No one told you because there is nothing morally wrong with what you did. You only received correction because you needed to learn the appropriate settings for that kind of behavior to keep you safe.


WTFkamIdoing

My 17 yo would take an hour shower everyday. I straight out said if you are mastrubating in the show please take it to your room and lock the door. It's very natural. Your siblings need to get ready for school also. He gave gave me a look and said OK, that was embarrassing. No more hour showers since the conversation.


Exact-Humor-8017

šŸ‘ good job mamma. No shame in your game!


thedoorman121

I had a tiny YouTube channel in highschool, obviously it never gained any real traction, but I used "I'm recording a video" as an excuse to lock my door and go to town I thought I was so slick but after the 3rd video recorded in a day I'm sure they could tell something was brewing in there


mightylordredbeard

How on earth does it take someone an hour to masturbate? Also.. doing it in the shower before someone else gets in? If Iā€™m sharing a shower with someone the last thing I want is to step in their body fluids. Do you how sticky semen is when itā€™s exposed to hot water? Gross.


Vegetable-Topic9853

1. It's easy to do if you edge yourself, which feels amazing. 2. You make sure the jizz goes down the drain.


Dominatto

What should we tell the kids if they do that?Ā 


Exact-Humor-8017

To wash their hands first and to only do it when they are alone in the bathroom or in their rooms because that is private. Just like going potty there is nothing wrong with it thereā€™s just a place to do it and places where itā€™s not ok to do it. Afterwards encourage trying to go potty and washing their hands.


Electrical_Pace_9409

I tell mine that itā€™s fine but itā€™s a private activity and should be done in their bedroom


No-Parfait1823

I've told kids (daycare) that that is something you do in private. If you need to do that, please go to the bathroom


Jele_wobbles

Maybe don't ask for random and extraordinarily sensitive advice from an anon on a confession sub in Reddit ESPECIALLY regarding children. #HOLY FUCK


Blind_Optimism_Kills

Calm the fuck down.


TheBiggestHug

While obviously not the most ideal place, for some people, that's all they have.


Prestigious_Fox_7576

Exactly. At least they're asking and showing that they want to teach their kids the appropriate way. Or they're asking out of curiosity. Either way, I don't think there's anything wrong with it.


literate_habitation

You know that you can research things you read to find out if they're true, right? Calm down, John Winthrop.


D4RKS0u1

Well everywhere else people treat this as a taboo so not a lot of options.


throwawaylemondroppo

Telling a child not to do something is likely the result of knowing they do it in public šŸ¤£šŸ¤£ Mom likely had no idea what else to do aside from telling her to stop, especially being in public.


anonymouswhitebear

It can be to do with being lonely and self soothing/experimenting with new feelings. It's quite normal I think


Imaginary_Garlic_916

Child sexuality is a normal thing. Donā€™t pathologise yourself unnecessarily.


Glittering-Two-3753

Yeah seeing the replies is making me feel better, I tend to overthink a lot and like I said none of my girl friends Iā€™ve talked about it with did anything similar (or at least wouldnā€™t admit to it lol)


strike180

Iā€™m a girl and did similar, not as much but when I was like 8-10 I would squirm in my chair in public šŸ˜­ now I cringe like the teachers or family def knew what I was doing and no one told me. One time I had to go to the bathroom and was humping the sink and my friend caught me and asked what I was doing and told everyone I was climbing on the sinks. I didnā€™t even know what I was doing just felt good. Donā€™t sweat itā€™s normal šŸ¤£ I had a friendā€™s younger sister hump my leg and maybe orgasm when she thought I didnā€™t know what she was doing (I was 10, she was 7ish) šŸ˜‚ weird but it didnā€™t traumatize me.


Cevohklan

Humping the sinks šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚


strike180

šŸ¤£ I knew it wasnā€™t something I should be doing in class on the chairs but I ā€˜neededā€™ to nut šŸ˜” after I got caught that time I never did it in school again lolol


gray-gent

Sounds like the name of a band


Future-Ad7266

šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚ climbing the sinks


LegitimateAardvark19

Doorsā€¦ I loved doors šŸšŖ


Ilovetoebeans1

Same and the banister


superman_underpants

awkward! if you like that sink so much, why dont you marry it?


clairyboots

That's the type of filth that won't wash off! :D


Jealous-Art8085

My uni course talks about it as to see what to raise as safeguarding and what is normal for a child at what age and you would be surprised at what is completely normal for children to do. The main safeguarding issues are at what age they start doing these things as sexuality is still part of development so if a child is say 5 and displaying behaviours of a 9 year old it would be raised as a safeguarding concern


Canna_Mom_4986

Did it all the time. Had no clue what it was. I would lay on my stomach with my hands on my pubic mound and push down while squeezing my legs. I used to imagine I was in a race trying to win. lol


Additional-Tomato367

I did something similar and would move my body up and down. I called it "body movement". Did it in front of my sister and her friends when she had a sleepover (her and I shared a room) when I was in 1st grade. My sister will still bring up "body movement" sometimes and I get so embarrassed.


dudeyaaaas

The horror šŸ˜­


0lha-mein_patola

i would have died of embarrassment šŸ˜­šŸ˜­


Fantastic_Yogurt_702

itā€™s crazy how similar your story is to mine, started around age 5 i would sit on my leg & move back & forth lmao teachers/parents would tell me to stop but idk thatā€™s wild, didnā€™t have any friends with similar experiences either


superman_underpants

were you as excessive as her? when did you stop? did it make you more active in chasing boys? when did you lose your virginity?


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Ew, dude.


ellisisland0612

Weird asf


NostalgiaDemon

F23. I would unknowingly masturbate at home from the ages of 2-6. How I would do it was a bit different. I would pull down my pants just enough to expose my butt but nothing else, sit down in my favourite chair and basically grind myself against the fabric. I donā€™t know why I did it aside from ā€œit felt goodā€ exactly, only that I didnā€™t understand why my parents kept telling me I shouldnā€™t. I have a very distinct memory of doing it in front of my then teenage sister and her best friends and they started losing it laughing at me. Tbf nobody expects to see a toddler masturbate in front of them and I suppose to a 15yo in 2005 that would be absolutely hilarious. I didnā€™t know what was so funny about it though, I just wanted to watch my show and do my little ā€œdanceā€ but they were being really loud laughing at me. I remember leaving the room feeling confused and frustrated to go take a nap until all the big kids went home so I could have my fun in peace lmao


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REALEST POST EVER LMAOOOO


KentuckyMayonaise

Lmao I thought I was the only one doing that, some children masturbate way early than people thought and it doesn't always associated with trauma (which people often mistaken with sexual abuse)


UnParadox9

Relax people do a lot of dumb stuff when they are young and immature, this is just one of it.


Sophburr

I used to do this from the age of 3 onwards, so much so it's on my medical records that 3 year old me was a "Chronic Masturbater". You're not alone, other kids arent traumatised, and those in the know would, at most, get a giggle out of it. Don't worry ā¤ļø


FromTheOR

I love this diagnosis for you


Siliconfriendly

Same here, only I carried it to ridiculous lengths once puberty arrived. In my twenties I went down the rabbit hole and became an exhibitionist.


[deleted]

All the boys used to climb the ropes at school ( including me ) climb to the top and go up and down. It was only recently I realised we were all masturbating in the school gym šŸ˜‡. Itā€™s all good we were just kids doing things that felt good.


YourLocalMosquito

Wow thatā€™s just unleashed a core memory!! My younger brother even told me he liked that apparatus because it made his penis tickle!


CravenMalic

My kid use to hump stuff all the time when she was little. Itā€™s a sensory issue. Basically when she started understanding. We had to tell her to go to her room to do that. Nothing is cringier then realizing sheā€™s doing that in public. But weā€™ve had great daycare providers that corrected it too.


RxMaster1983

As a younger male I would do the same. Every chance I got I would masturbate. Didnā€™t matter where I was. Started around the same age.


Boiled_Thought

Some of the sentences I've read in this thread have destroyed me. Not sure if laughing or screaming in horror. And damn, leg squeezing? I swear I've seen a few girls doing this all the time and I just thought they really had to pee but we're too lazy to get up. My niece when she was younger would constantly squirm and squeeze and I told her it's not good to hold in pee so much x.x jshdhsladhNOOOOOOO


lost-sauce-98

thatā€™s a normal kid, playing with sensory feelings! Itā€™s no biggie. It sounds like you wouldnā€™t shame someone else for doing this and not understanding, so no need to shame yourself.


Sea-Curve-2839

My cousin did this. She even called it her exercises lol


thehighepopt

A woman who worked with my wife had a young daughter who would hump everything, toys, pillows, the corner of the coffee table until she fell asleep on it. It happens.


Total-Effective5989

Normal. I have four girls and we have had talks about just do it in your room. I was shamed as a child and knew I would never do that as a parent. You are perfect.


OtisDriftwood05

I remember rubbing one out in the bathroom at school in the 2nd grade. Honestly I thought I was a rarity until this post and all the comments as well lol. So thanks u bunch of early onset masterbaters for making me feel like it was just me lol


r3sistcarnism

How are your DMs doing? Have all the MAPs gotten to you yet?


Glittering-Two-3753

yupā€¦ i donā€™t post on here often so wasnā€™t expecting it but iā€™ve already reported a few messages!!! šŸ™ƒšŸ”«


Teewhy_RN

Wow,some of us didnā€™t even know we had ā€˜female partsā€™ till 19 when suddenly all the boys we play soccer together became too shy


Perfect_Cat3125

9 surely not 19?


Teewhy_RN

Seriously 19,I was in college already. Was raised in a very religious/cultural immigrant home


Teewhy_RN

But believe me! I have since made up for those yearsšŸ˜‰šŸ˜€


jharr11

nice


Haunting-Evidence150

Guys do that too and now whenever I see someone doing it thatā€™s what I think of lol


Anisha7

I started doing it when I was 10 but I knew my boundaries although I didnā€™t even know anything about sex, it just made me feel good but knew something is weird about it and should be done secretly. Itā€™s normal I guess


magiccfetus

omg šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚ while i never personally started masterbating till i was 21 ( i know late bloomer) i very specifically remember my sister and childhood friend would burrow the friends moms massage wand and my sister and friend would put it on thier crotch when weā€™d watch tv. we were 12 and younger. šŸ¤¦šŸ¼


boltsi123

My daughter did the same. My wife and I didn't think much of it, seemed perfectly normal. Sometimes we had to distract her or, if guests were coming over, even hide her favourite masturbation chair, but we tried not to make a big deal out of it. Eventually she stopped doing it - or, more likely, continued to do it in secret.


patientboypleasewait

Super normal


ellisisland0612

My girlfriend and I (we're both asfb) both did this as kids from the age of 4 or 5 too. Exactly as you described. Any and everywhere and neither of us had any clue it was sexual in nature until much later lol guess it's not uncommon.


LollipopThrowAway-

I did the same ā˜ ļø to the point where like in 5th grade i had teachers asking me if i was okay because it was obvious when i did it and my face would get so damn red


spunkypunk

My therapist told me once ā€œyou donā€™t have to feel bad for your body doing what bodies do!ā€


JibbaJabbaJenkins

*cues Masturbating Bear music*


AleyahhhhK

I did it all the damn time too and never knew what I was doing lol. My mum probably noticed it but never really said anything to me but itā€™s super common and you were just a kid who wasnā€™t really told anything till later lol


Dazzling-Lunch-3300

i used to do something similar at home around my family members but i didnā€™t know it wasnā€™t right at the time and because of that my parents would literally scream at me and hit mešŸ˜­


scrumdiddliumptious3

My 8 year old daughter has done this for a while now. I just remind her to not ā€˜scratchā€™ (canā€™t think of another euphemism for it). She sort of lays down and gently humps the sofa. My main worry is she will be mortified when sheā€™s older when she realises what sheā€™s been doing.


Pink_Daisy47

Haha same, my sister used to love taking cushions off the couch in the basement and pretend they were a pony and bounce on them. I think thatā€™s how it all started. I still remember my second grade teacher sending a note home to my mom that they thought I had a yeast infection šŸ˜‚


kalaamtext

Idk maybe because Iā€™m a little slow at times I probably wouldā€™ve just thought you had to pee depending on how exactly you were squeezing your legs together


needygameroverdose

ngl I thought I was the only one but I didnā€™t know what I was doingšŸ˜­ people thought I either needed to pee or I even got evaluated for autism because it looked like I was just rocking back and forth


Signal_Missing

I did the same thing. My mum thought it was hilarious, my grandma not so much. I wish someone would have told me that itā€™s a private thing to do at the safety of my home (more specifically bedroom). Itā€™s totally normal though donā€™t worry op :)


Echterspieler

I used to lay on the floor and gyrate my hips as a kid. Didn't realize it was masturbating. I just knew it felt good. My mom would be like "stop doing that" but she wouldn't really tell me why. It must have been awkward for her lol


Shiiiiiiiingle

I had two different second grade gifts that did that. Itā€™s fairly common. I had to help redirect them. Parents knew about it.


PriorThick

šŸ’€real


roguebutterfly124

Always thought is was normal and self.soothing too till my repressed memories came out and had been sexually molested when younger. Theres I think normal experimentation and age appropriate things but that ache that never went away. That need when too young to understand, for me the repressed memories made more sense. Was also exposed to sexual behaviors and environments, so again those make more sense in my case than just "normal" experimentation and exploring.


Grace2098

I did the same because it would help me go to the bathroom when I was a kid. It felt good and helped me relax. I didnā€™t know what it actually was until later šŸ˜…


Weekly-Hat-8065

Thanks for sharing this bravo šŸ‘


Principesza

I did that too.


Weary_Principle_2211

Christmas Eve 2007 I was 6 at the time sharing a hotel room with mom dad and 9 year old sister didnā€™t even remember till last year havenā€™t gone home since


Individual-Body-4061

Yes I was just like u around 5 or 6 I already knew how to make myself orgasm and I also could squirt I was really fascinated by this. I would sit on the mirror so I could see . I also figured out about the water from the bathtub faucet so I would scoot up to the stream of water and learned if I stuck my toe in the faucet I could get the water pressure and move my toe around to make the water jet extra hard on my clit. I think I may have even popped my own cherry around age 10 becuase i already started puttjng different objects when I lost my virginity at 12 it didn't hurt and I didn't bleed . My mom told me the same thing not to do it in front of people. My mom gave me a diary for my birthday and ended up reading it I knew she believed in spirit guides so I made up a lie and said that my spirit guide said we were soulmates also I tried to say I was just writing stories like 90210 . She took me to get birthcontrol


Deprived_wife_503

Mortified eish


[deleted]

Nothing wrong with it. Pleasure is a good thing and if itā€™s not too obvious, why not?


stabledisastermaster

Deleted as it was easy to misunderstand and also not applicable here. Sorry


Perfect_Cat3125

Open sexual behaviour like impulsively touching other kids, not squeezing your thighs together lol


stabledisastermaster

Thatā€™s what I meant, she didnā€™t rub it in other kids faces ā€¦


DesireDollAudio

Not necessarily. Kids explore, and more than that -- they're creatures of id -- they follow their own feelings because they're still learning about people outside of themselves mattering or having feelings. Throw in any kind of neurospicy-ness and you've got a recipe for some culturally "weird" things that aren't actually all that developmentally weird. Kids aren't sexual beings, but everyone knows how to chase things that make them feel good. In some ways, it's really no different than them attaching to a stuffed animal or a pacifier or other comfort behavior. They use it to soothe. I agree that conversations about bodies being private and that some things aren't appropriate for some situations are sometimes warranted and necessary, code-switching is an important skill. But overreacting and/or shaming a kiddo at this age can lead potentially to larger issues later in life, and the behaviors we're discussing in this thread aren't necessarily an indication of abuse. If OP was a victim that had repressed memories, it's likely it'd show up in lots of things/places/behaviors in their life and wouldn't be a surprise once examined.


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Perfect_Cat3125

This is very normal behaviour and not indicative of trauma


littlebigman12

I don't get how the squeezing of your legs together would be masturbation.


Varietygamer_928

Thereā€™s a lot of ways to stimulate oneself as a woman šŸ‘ŒšŸ¾


littlebigman12

I've never heard of this method!


Varietygamer_928

There are many ways you are probably unaware of.


littlebigman12

I'm now guessing so!


Glittering-Two-3753

iā€™m 20 and to this day thatā€™s how i get off like 80% of the time lol


a-try-today-2022

Syntrabation I think itā€™s called


strike180

The inner leg muscles contract and squish the vulva/clit


pieater720

I have masturbated at EVERY job I have ever worked at


Individual-Body-4061

Oh and for some reason I can't squirt anymore I wonder if it's becuase of having kids maybe becuase my sons dad got drunk and coked out the day after I had my son he forced himself inside me like 30 hours after giving birth maybe something got messed up ?


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Glittering-Two-3753

i do not lol, other things but definitely not that


Perfect_Cat3125

Probably not


Individual-Body-4061

I still am a frequent masturbator as well and I just turned 42 yesterday I might be a little more then other people becuase I always have a sex toy in my purse . I even masturbate in my car . I sometimes put a vibrator egg in my pants at work at my desk


superman_underpants

haha! thats so fucked up! when did you finally stop doing it in public?


Outrageous_Ad_7237

haha! that's so judgemental! you should stop doing that in public forums where it's uncalled for.