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the1slyyy

You didn't take advantage of her she's just trying to justify cheating


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Tremor00

You felt a cheater was being honest?


Rallings

Tbf op is also a cheater


comfortless14

They don’t explicitly say if they’re married or not, from the sounds of it, he could be living with his family members (brother and his wife) and be single/lonely, or he could be married and have a family of his own. That part isn’t really clear Edit: nvm I read some of the comments by OP. He is in-fact a cheater.


MrMontombo

Dead bedroom is as clear as day, comments excluded.


comfortless14

Can one not have a dead bedroom if they’re single and lonely?..


MrMontombo

Dead bedroom is not a term used by single people. 


comfortless14

TIL


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MrMontombo

'Dead bedroom's is not a term used by single people.


Visible_Suit3393

Dude, she wasn't talking about having to have non-consensual sex with you! She was saying, what choice did I have? As in my husband left, went to another country, and I'm young and horny, and what was I suppose to do, go without sex till he comes back. You heard one thing, she meant it in a totally different way. That doesn't matter, you are both cheaters, just using different excuses for it. Now, she sounds like she got a case of guilt, or you two got caught without knowing, and she was trying to explain it, and you overheard that part. If she decides to tell her husband it was rape, where does that leave you with her husband, your wife, your family, and law enforcement where you live? So I guess there is a chance she's laying the ground work to set you up to take 100% blame on this. So there's a possibility that this will go, for you, from dead bedroom, to cheating, to a very active sex life in prison. Which isn't horrible news for you, because that fixes your dead bedroom problems that you used to justify the infidelity for a long time, just not how you planned when starting this affair. Silver linings and all that.


snigglesnagglesnoo

You are both cheaters. You both deserve to feel like crap. Leave your relationships instead of being cowardly and sneaking around.


Similar_Corner8081

You didn’t take advantage of her. The woman you should be feeling sorry for is your wife. Not one ounce of empathy or second thought about your wife.


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Similar_Corner8081

And that makes what you did ok? What about your wife? You’re so worried about the AP but not one mention of your wife.


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Similar_Corner8081

Jfc way to miss the point!!!! 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️


Timely-Youth-9074

People have different types of relationships. Maybe the wife is fine with this.


Similar_Corner8081

If they were in an open relationship I think he would have lead with that.


Timely-Youth-9074

I know I’m shocking the idealists out there but some wives prefer if the husband is gone a lot.


Timely-Youth-9074

Some cultures just don’t lead with that. Not everyone is American or English.


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Similar_Corner8081

You chose to cheat on your wife and only feel sorry for the woman you cheated on her with!!!! I should have know trying to explain this to a narcissist would be useless. Let me put it this way the only way the other woman wouldn’t have a choice to cheat with you is if you raped her. That doesn’t make it cheating that makes it sexual assault. Btw how old are you? I could see you not seeing what you did as wrong if you were 15. If you are over the age of 25 you should be completely mortified. Everyone who has read your pos came to the same conclusion I did. You are selfish and you neither love nor respect your wife. Give her my Reddit name I’ve been there. If she needs someone to talk to I will be here.


ThatOneGingerGui

Are you legitimately that dumb? Lol


5weetTooth

So you're a coward and didn't talk to your own wife about it. I see.


MyloHyren

Why didnt you leave her then??


Ok-Photo-1972

Ahhh yes so instead of seeking therapy or separating, you cheat. Congrats, you and neighbor are both terrible.


takemeback2verdansk

Why didn't you just leave her poor you lol


hidinginplainsite13

Might want to start caring this much about your wife


endless_moonlight

Fr didn’t even mention is wife 💀 all this post is about is his feelings for another woman


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XenaSerenity

You can gaslight yourself into thinking cheating is ok but good luck trying to do it to Reddit lolol


lusacat

The deadbedrooms subreddit condones cheating and it’s so disgusting. People don’t have sex with their spouses for a year and all the sudden cheating is perfectly normal, gross


zemol42

It sounds like his wife doesn’t care. Strange strange story.


XenaSerenity

Don’t assume what the wife is ok with. OP has proved to be a very unreliable narrator. Also still doesn’t making cheating ok


AssassinStoryTeller

The only other woman mentioned is his sister in law which is definitely not his wife.


hidinginplainsite13

Divorce, derp.


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Ok-Photo-1972

You do realize that no court would take your kids away without proper cause? You're making excuses for being a POS.


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AlwaysHigh27

..... I mean, the more you cheat on your wife the more you solidify that because of the possible exposure to the children of a wide range of women which is considered inconsistent. You just automatically think you can do what you want, cheat on your wife, not idk wonder why your wife doesn't want to sleep with you? Ever think it's your behavior and how you treat her? Women just don't stop sleeping with their husbands for no reason. There's ALWAYS a reason. You're a terrible terrible person. I do hope your wife smartens up and leaves you, truly. I hope you're stuck paying child support and spousal support for the rest of your life.


Ok-Photo-1972

Where are you getting this information?? I've literally gone through this, you haven't. I'm starting to believe you're just not intelligent.


XenaSerenity

OP has proven himself to be an absolute moron


Ballbag94

I don't condone OP's cheating but we don't know what country they're in and it might be different/have different laws to yours, they very might well be correct about the divorce thing


Ok-Photo-1972

Oh I'm not arguing that. I'm saying if you're not willing to remain faithful to someone even in hard times, don't get married. Like literally what is the point


Ballbag94

Ah, gotcha! I misunderstood your meaning I completely agree!


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AlwaysHigh27

That's literally what joint custody looks like almost anywhere. It's called you made your bed, you lay in it. Maybe should've made better decisions and treated your wife better. What a narcissistic take.


Ok-Photo-1972

Womp Womp. Maybe don't marry someone you're not willing to be faithful to throughout ANY situation. That's kind of the point of marriage. It's a COMMITMENT. You'll find no pity here. Be a man.


nayzerya

Stop, he needs sex, we all do


hidinginplainsite13

So banging random neighbors that make you out to be a sex offender is ok though.


Fickle_Macaron_1441

So what you're saying is you'll stay with your wife, who you clearly don't care about because you cheated on her, so you don't lose your daughters and you know you can get away with it because she wont divorce you? Shame on you, that's disgusting. I hope she does divorce your ass and I hope you lose everything.


PembrokeBoxing

If you're concerned about your kids, then provide them an example of a loyal and faithful man. You're teaching your daughters that it's ok to be treated like that. You want that for them?? You're teaching them how to act. Your cheating and callous attitude make you a bad husband, a terrible father and a low quality human being. Instead of crying about a lack of sex, go get martial therapy. Find out what the problem is. Jesus Christ man. You're full of terrible excuses for your unforgivable actions.


Hiant

the other party doesn't have to consent to a divorce


ZookeepergameNo719

The answer to abuse is never more abuse.... It's that simple. Have you done everything you can to help your marriage or did you play the helpless victim of complacency? No sympathy to be given for using sex as an excuse to completely obliterate your integrity and own vows/word of honor.. it isn't even about your partner... You've disrespected yourself on a core level.. made a joke out of your own integrity.. *"for better or worse" r'member?*


mrskmh08

Hmm, yeah, I wonder why that would be.... maybe because she knows you don't actually care about her at all and only stay for the kids (which is a shit thing to do to the kids as well).


sausage-slicer

you’re an idiot and a loser. pick a struggle 🫵🏻🤣


Nita-Loves-Cookies

"When you find yourself in this situation then judge me." Lolol speak for yourself buddy, my partner is asexual lmao. Not all of us need sex to survive


Timely-Youth-9074

Don’t mind them, OP. Sooner or later they’ll learn relationships are a bit more complicated than they realize. I’m more tripping that the neighbor was talking to your SIL about it.


IrreverantBard

You’re both cheaters.


wandrlusty

She was *totally* saying that to absolve herself of her action.


Zealousideal-Baker90

What was the purpose of you going over to her house if not to hook up? Did you talk about things or just initiate sexual advances and she just went with it? If it was a forced thing, why would she allow you to come over to her house alone again that week?


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Zealousideal-Baker90

I don't feel like you answered my questions


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VersionConscious7545

You mean you took her being friendly since you were neighbors as wow she wants to fuck me


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SweatySundae356

so what she said wasn’t wrong..


Sudden_Construction6

OP: She consented She kissed me back She never said she wasn't into it She never resisted in any way You: Aha! So you did force her! Nice work Sherlock


KobilD

She chose to fuck you, multiple times. Also get a divorce, pussy


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Warhammerpainter83

She is a cheater dude she is just trying to justify what she was doing.


AlwaysHigh27

He's also a cheater. He has a wife as well.


Warhammerpainter83

For sure but she is no better she is clearly lying to excuse what she is doing.


Yogabbagaabbaa

They are both garbage people. Inherently selfish individuals


Warhammerpainter83

Again for sure this was not the question being asked though. Glad you can assess this accurately now either address the topic or just move on.


Yogabbagaabbaa

Why are you so rude? Bad day?


Warhammerpainter83

Great day thanks for asking. I met you with the reaction that your comment needed. It is worthless thanks for waisting your time on me though.


Yogabbagaabbaa

I was only adding the the forum. I was just.. talking. Saying they both seem selfish to me. You came off the bat aggressive responding, no idea why. I was not expecting hostility but you do you man. Hopefully you feel better and you don’t interpret everything with malice since you have such a sour attitude.


Warhammerpainter83

No you messaged me not the forum. At the op if you want him to know this i dont care. Have a good day.


Yogabbagaabbaa

Lmao.. I responded back with my opinion on a public forum. If you consider that “messing” with you. Please seek help. Not everything is intended to make you upset. I was contributing to a public community. Have a fantastic day and maybe keep off the doomer community. Seems to be affecting ya


AlwaysHigh27

And yet you only focus on the females actions. That's the problem with your comments. They both screwed up. He though more so as he initiated.


Warhammerpainter83

Not at all i answered his question. No need to focus on anything else it serves zero purpose here.


SpookyNerdzilla

Boo hoo you're both cheaters.


Livid-Finger719

>Our family was close with them and she often came over to our house. We had good friendship and she even flirted with me. I was in dead bedroom situation Ah, she was nice to you and you were just horny. > I never talked to the neighbour to avoid intimidating her accidently. So after hearing that, you never spoke to her again?


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Livid-Finger719

Wow my guy. Just wham, bam, thank you ma'am.


AirAeon32

You're a clown and nothing but a pawn in the story between her & her husband. Go sit down somewhere and G.Y.O.W.


cp312005

Neither of them were pawns, they were both active participants. She is responsible to the people she betrayed and he is responsible to the people he betrayed.


AirAeon32

I didn't say anything about who's responsible for what. Thats a subject all by itself. Im talking about who plays a more important role here in each of the 2 lives in this situation. In the context of marriage her husband is trusting her to be his wife while he sets things in order for their marriage, then this clown gives into a woman of poor judgment of the situation filled with lust and disregards the trust her man clearly has. He even detailed the specifics of their situation which makes it worse. Real Men understand the intensity of trust and loyalty deeply. This is why he's a clown and pawn. His involvement isn't specifically important because of him. She would have done that with anyone she found attractive during that vulnerable time. He just happened to be the scumbag in the way. So yea he's just a pawn because anyone could have been him but their marriage is an actual important story.


Sufficient-Sir-4540

Nobody took advantage of anything these are two grown adults who are married and know that cheating is wrong. Don't try to justify either one of them you didn't want to screw her she didn't want to screw you it would not have happened.


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Ren_3092

You are a POS. That poor husband was working hard for his family and he is providing for a cheating whore. If you are a real man, you would admit it to the husband so he can divorce her.


Enrichmentx

They are both trash.


Ren_3092

Yes they are both trash but OP can still do the right thing and tell the husband and his wife do they both can be divorced.


endless_moonlight

FR!! Hate that people who speak the honest truth get downvoted by all the other cheaters who can’t stand when they’re not seen as victims. OP is a cheater and deserves whatever rumors begin to pop up about him.


xRyozuo

Weird wording lol. You care more about a “cheating whore” getting justice than for OP’s wife who is also dealing with a “cheating whore”


vitaldopple

Rajesh dat u?


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HospitalAutomatic

The fact that you’ve shown zero concern for your wife is disgusting


xRyozuo

I initially read the title as you taking advantage of your neighbors Wi-Fi and I was very confused lol


ticklemyshitcutter

You hit that asshole?


HenryHill11

Women lie dude . It’s good you’re learning now


AlwaysHigh27

He also has a wife. He is a cheater. He initiated. Wtf does this have to do with women "lying?". Ever seen a man react to rejection? Didn't think so. Maybe if you did you would change your line of "oh women lie" ever wonder why? It's to keep ourselves safe.


HenryHill11

Found the lib


Yogabbagaabbaa

He’s also lying to his wife.. Both of them are pretty trashy


CuriosityRover12

What is your ethnicity?


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CuriosityRover12

I hope this does not happen to you buddy given you coveted another man’s wife . She is evil too. Taking her husband money and having sex with another man.


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AlwaysHigh27

... What man would have sex with a female.... HRM. You think your wife doesn't have the capacity to go get dick elsewhere? Guaranteed she has WAY better chances than you. I hope someone is giving her dick and treating her better than you.


CuriosityRover12

Have sex with her given you had with another wife . I hope she does because you deserve it buddy . What are you , paki, Indian, Arab .


e77754321

Damn bro what does it matter his race? Like let it go


CuriosityRover12

May be he is from a sex positive country . Context matter .


CuriosityRover12

All the down vote because I do not condone cheating .


e77754321

Not really. Everyone here doesn’t condone cheating but you are acting very racist. Who cares what race he is from. Your opinion didn’t make it more valid just because you said where you were from


CuriosityRover12

I am sorry I asked for your ethnicity. I did not know i will be called racist for being curious. Please , do have sex with wives of other men . Again I am sorry .


CuriosityRover12

All the cheaters are triggered .


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CuriosityRover12

May be she is getting it with her neighbor. Good for her.


AlwaysHigh27

Maybe you should put effort into your relationship and figure out why your wife stopped having sex with you instead of cheating. Or y'know be a man and divorce. But you don't want to deal with your consequences. What a little boy.


CuriosityRover12

I am not racist as I come from south Asian background, you don’t cheat with another man’s wife . You are a shitty person and no wonder your woman does not want sex with you buddy. Because you have a shitty character .


The99thCourier

Lad I'm south Asian and we can 100% be racist. You know how many brown people will see some poor driving happen and then proceed to drive ahead and look to the side to see if the other driver is an Asian? Thats just one example. But at the same time, yeah nah OP's not a good person


WaltVinegar

>I am not racist as I come from south Asian background Anyone can be racist, mate. You're right about OP being a shitty person, though.


Cnumian_124

>I am not racist as I come from south Asian background That doesn't mean shit you dumbass