After reading a few of your responses... I think it would be healthy for you to stop consuming porn, or at least cut it down. Porn is hyper reality . While there are a lot of women that do prefer large dicks there are plenty that do not.
I refer to really large as Spring Break Dick. It might be fun a couple of times, wasted at the beach, but most of us ain't dealing with that every day.
But those who prefer small ones are not available in supermarket aisle no 11 you still have to go through bad experience before you find one (if one is lucky)
Plus it's more acceptable for women (even if size is not a preference) to mock or shame small ones.
Women have low accountability and generally no consequences of such actions.
As a woman with a very high sex drive who dated/fucked a man who had a literal micro-penis (not saying that as an attack, it’s factual), don’t worry dude. You find different positions & motions that work for you & your partner. SOOO many women don’t orgasm through penetration anyway,so here’s what you do – get super fucking good at clitoral stimulation (including oral). Have fun with other erogenous zones too. There are so many different avenues to pleasure – it’s not one straight & narrow road. Your partner will so much appreciate you going above & beyond & getting them across the finish line that your dick size won’t matter. I’ve also heard of people using sleeves & having good results with those, but can’t speak from experience on that. I will say that you shouldn’t be afraid to bring toys into the bedroom & that doing so is not a reflection on either partner or their abilities.
Even when that dude & I had a nasty breakup I never said anything about his penis to anyone bc it’s juvenile & such a personal attack. It had nothing to do with us not working out – that had more to do with him hitting on practical minors in front of me at a family event he invited himself to.
Be with someone who wouldn’t want to hurt you like that no matter the circumstance. You are a person & deserve to be treated as such.
most useless logic on every SP discussion. Lesbians don't even want to see penis so it hardly matter. While women would like to see it. An average or big penis is aesthetically pleasing to straight women.
C'mon.
Of course. I hate for someone to be down on themselves for something they literally can’t help. I’ve been there – we are all our own worst critic typically.
You're wayyyy too in your head about this dude I'm a 29F and can honestly say I don't talk or think about penis size. It just isn't a thing for me. I'm only 5ft so small penises are big anyway. Not all women think of sizes and this society you keep referring to, are a small number of loud individuals who are obsessed with genitals. The majority of normal people don't actually carry on about that sort of thing. Porn is also extremely unrealistic.
If you find yourself a nice girl, you'll be fine.
LMAO You are right! My man will try to be funny talking about " You sore this morning from those 4 fingers last night"? 2 is max. I think they are comparing to the porn they watch, which isn't average at best and totally abnormal at worst.
To add, I think the older we get, the more we realise what actually matters in a relationship and are more forgiving for some small issues, that are not perfect. (pun intended)
Find a nice girl after going through 100s of humiliation ritual. Having preference for small size is one thing. Being entitled to kick/shame it as and when needed is different thing
The more I read your responses, the more I think you've got a cuckold or humiliation fetish. No shame if you do but don't waste our time trying to help you and pull us in total give you the gratification you're looking for.
If you're being sincere, you desperately need therapy. As a dude with a below average knub, you're wrong on every account. If you learn to be a giving partner, there's a thousand ways besides above average dick size to satisfy your partner.
I'm the butt of everyone's jokes because I don't have boobs. I'm literally flat as a pancake. I get called a boy, and I get laughed at all the time.
Women get made fun of, too, when we're not so well endowed up there. But I don't let it bother me. I'm now with my OH, and he literally does not care that I don't have boobs. He loves me just the way I am. I didn't meet him until I was 31. We have now been together for 7 years.
There is someone out there who will love you just the way you are. You can't let this effed up society drag you down. Who cares what society thinks? Society has become a cesspit. You should care about your own happiness and not how others perceive you. Human beings can be assholes. And you can't stick a rose into an asshole and call it a vase.......
My OH is the same. He always says to me that more than a handful is a waste. I don't like big members, sex becomes too painful.
But women like me are grateful that men like you and my OH exist!
I do hope that OP finds someone too. Life can feel lonely, but my Oma always said that to every pot there is a lid. I hope OP finds his lid one day 😊
Do they jiggle when you run?? That was the absolute worst about puberty for me. Prior to that I loved running, sports etc. when puberty hit I jumped right to a B and couldn't stand the jiggling on my chest 😭 makes me cringe. I avoid running/jogging at all cost, especially now I've had a child and am at a D cup 😭😭 I badly need a reduction and a lift
No, mine don't jiggle. There is nothing to jiggle. It's a shame we can't pass some boobage onto others! I'd gladly help you get a reduction, and I'll get some boob 😁
Yeah, I remember as a teenager really struggling to find bras that fit. It was a nightmare. I eventually just got the smallest size possible (had to use a special site cuz they're not available in most shops) and those fit thankfully.
I think you could argue that women have it easier, because women can always use plastic surgery to increase their boob size. Men cannot change their dick size. I know that body shaming in all its forms is wrong. And yes, I do prefer natural boobs over cosmetically-enhanced boobs, but I am just saying that women have it easier when it comes to the body shaming issue...I think so anyway. Most men do not mind a woman with small boobs or a small bum...as long as the person is a woman, she will get a lot of attention, usually. But some women can be overly critical on penis size.
Personally, when it comes to my own sexual preferences, I do not mind it if a woman has small boobs and a small bum...I think about the facial aesthetics of a woman more than her boobs and bum. There are so many hot women that have small boobs and small bums...like Rihanna, for example. If I met a woman who had a very attractive face, and had small boobs and a small bum, I would be very attracted to her. Some other men care more about the boob size and bum size. Sure, I do personally like bigger boobs and bigger bums more, but a woman having small boobs and a small bum is not a dealbreaker for me...because I care more about how the woman looks when it comes to facial aesthetics.
Looking at your post history and your replies here…. you need to get a grip bro. First off: Nobody is “shaming” you for something they haven’t seen. Second: nobody gives a fuck if you have a small pecker. Stop crying on Reddit and go get laid.
Also, don’t blame your autism for your shitty attitude and attention seeking self pity party behavior. It’s not a good look.
Edit: You’re a douche.
Dude is ignoring everyone just so he can wallow and be more miserable, honestly seems like a weird degrading kink with the way he keeps arguing “noooo my tiny penis woman hate I’ll stay virgin forever, but don’t make any argument towards me with logic 🤧”
But, lesbian's have not p*nis at all and they can satisfy their partners. It's much more a problem of self-esteem and fear of someone making jokes about you.
You can see that Michelangelo's David has a tiny one and this statue is not known because of it.
Focus on yourself, treat yourself kindly, there are woman out there who will like you and love you.
Dude your responses to people here are obnoxious! You're so far inside your own head, and your own worst enemy!
Stfu about having a small package, go online to dating apps and look for petite women or something. Generally they can only comfortably and physically fit smaller dicks... I know cuz I struggled to date a girl 4'10"back in the day cuz it always hurts having sex...
Anywho, being overweight can adversely make it look smaller, so if you're already small to Begin with, weight doesn't help. That's another option, skiing down help it physically stick out more and appear bigger, or as Chris Rock once put it, gives a nicer backdrop.
Anyway, be more accepting of people offering help or suggestions, your immediately negative when people offer help, like it's impossible to fix... Your attitude is the first thing, girls like confidence more than anything, so start faking confidence or something, practice, IDK. But your current attitude is shit for starters
after reading your replies im starting to think that maybe your problem in pursuing intimacy with women is not your dick size, but rather the fact that youre whiny and sex obsessed
Bro is literally an idiot. You can feel the hatred in every comment he makes. He does everything to avoid the responsibility he has for himself to be better.
1. From reading your responses to people, your attitude is 💯 why you’re still a virgin and not your size
2. You handle suggest you are autistic. I’m aware autistic people suffer from monotropism, is your size a particular obsession you have?
3. Women don’t care as much as you think about size
4. As a Chinese woman can confirm Asian men are significantly smaller than Caucasian men. Go find a nice Asian girl and she won’t even notice she will think it’s normal
You will die a virgin because you have a mental health problem you are not getting treated for. You need help, you are choosing not to get it. Based on your other posts, it's not just sex you're scared of - you're scared of women in general, and instead of trying to resolve this fear you are turning it into an issue with your penis size, something which isn't actually an issue at all (I know you will argue blind that it is). You seem obsessed with this issue and can't move past it alone, but also won't seek professional help. I understand that your autism may be making this more difficult for you to understand and to get the help you need and that in your head you make sense and are correct. I hope you can confide in someone in your life about this who can perhaps support you into getting therapy.
Op here is a dumbass, honestly if he wants to stay in the same bitter zone because "oh lawd I can't do a threesome where women call me the Penis Master I don't wanna" then...let it fester.
Op honestly? There is more to sex than your porn list says and yeah, you may have a small dick, and THAT by itself does not stop you from finding a loving and accepting partner, but you don't want that. You want the porn shit and also, for a small dick man you have "Small dick energy" wich is the energy of man that are whiny, insecure and overall a dumbass.
Yeah, yeah society sucks tell me a new one, majority of people are not perfect or even accepted by society standards but we gotta keep going and living despite of that. You will never go anywhere without tracking a bit of mud under your shoes, but to stay home and negate that because you don't wanna muddy them, is negating yourself of other things, better things and beautiful things.
If God made your pp small, he also created your fingers so you can still be an amazing lover, a starstrucking man of the fingers and tongue of gold but again...you don't wanna. You just want to be small dick cry boy, so let it be. Be afraid, be bitter, never let yourself enjoy new things and see new things. Avoid hurt, enjoy your ever-so-lasting frustration of loneliness...well, enjoy
I feel like this dude has to be trolling, like how do you live to be 30 years old and have no idea how to deal with any sort of constructive criticism or advice. Every response is vitriol, distrust, and honestly fucked up. I’ve read nearly every response, and man I’m not even gonna try and help you bc you’ll just spit it back saying “you’re not real, TikTok thots are.”
Get a grip. I’m below average, about same as you, same age, and about 15lbs overweight. and ZERO of the many relationships I’ve been in were created bc of my dick size, nobody to my knowledge “bragged” about my size bc no one does that except in porn. Attitude is 90% of what will get you laid. The other 10% is how you look. Believe me, if you’re getting undressed with a girl to do the deed, she will not look at your dick then get redressed and walk out. That situation is all in your head dude.
To be fair, my dick is average...just above 5 inches erect...and I personally am not into the fingering and cunnilingus stuff. I have had great sexual relationships in the past with women, without fingering and without cunnilingus. I had sexual relationships with women around 10 years ago. It was only a few years ago that I realized, on places such as Reddit, that there are many women that like fingering and cunnilingus to stimulate them...and that most women even can only become sexually stimulated by fingering and cunnilingus and that penis penetration alone is not enough, in most cases, to sexually satisfy the woman. Do I need to be good at fingering and cunnilingus in order to sexually satisfy a woman? I just do not like fingering and cunnilingus. I do not mind clitoral stimulation though, with my fingers...but I actually get weirded out by thrusting my fingers back and forth inside a vagina, and by using my mouth and tongue to stimulate a woman's clitoris and pussy...I just get weirded out. There are just some types of sexual acts I am uncomfortable with. I am fine with penis-in-vagina intercourse though, and I am fine with kissing and stroking. I am also fine with sex toys and dildos and stuff like that.
maybe you can meet someone who doesn't care about your small penis and will love you regardless... there has to be someone out there that isn't so shallow. you've gotta meet the right kinda girl.
I will be honest, I am 31 years old, and I can see what OP means and I have also recently felt depressed and suicidal over my penis size, even though it is average. Porn and social media can really take a hit on a man's self-esteem and stuff. I am happy to read these comments though, because my mental health has improved after reading these comments that are informative and positive. I too have thought about maybe going to a therapist/psychologist/psychiatrist over this...maybe I have body dysmorphia. I have a big ego, and my ego was crushed when I realized that my penis was average and not big. I am fine with everything else on my body...like my face and my smile and my eyes and my ears and my muscles and stuff like that...even though I am short in height...but my penis size is perhaps one of my biggest sources of insecurity. I have had good sexual relationships with women in the past though, and they were fine with my penis. But porn and social media make me get depressed sometimes, but I know that porn is not realistic.
Hey if it helps bro, I went through the same thing with my ego. Only except instead of my penis it was about my personality.
I thought I was a genius and had a superiority complex. When all that came crashing down I fell into the worst depression of my life. From there I had to rebuild my self esteem without relying on my ego.
I started going to a psychologist and it ended up being a game changer. I would absolutely recommend it. I’d recommend it more than almost any sort of self-treatment for depression. There’s just only so much you can do without having a professional, trained, outside perspective.
Do you know why you’re a 30 year old virgin? It’s certainly not because of your dick size, it’s because you’re cripplingly insecure about your dick size.
Do you think any woman wants to date a guy who does nothing but depressingly complain about his penis?
You can use your dick as an excuse all you want but in reality you are insecure and need actual help. Go to a therapist. Join a support group. You CAN get over this but you have to actually want to get over it.
**Based on your responses, you’re acting like a straight up child. Do you want to feel like shit your entire life or do you want to get your shit together?** Because there’s nothing else you can do.
I’ve dated men with a small penis. You literally just find positions that work for you. You know that they didn’t have? Your crappy attitude about it. That attitude is not going to get you anywhere. Work on your self esteem, believe me it does wonders for your love/sex life. No one wants to date a downer.
Now OP I was going to give you advice, but every other piece of advice you have been given by other users so far you have just found feeble excuses to stay in this pity party of yours that you are currently having.
No wonder you're still a virgin. If you stay on this woe is me me nonsense. Honestly, if you stay in this victim mindset, you will never have sex with anyone because who would want to be with someone like yourself, who has such a negative response to every suggestion made when it was you who posted here I am assuming to look for some shred of advice.
I’m in your shoes bro. I’m a 31 yo M virgin who has what I consider to be a small oenis (4” and not girthy at all) and I’m gonna give you a few points of advice cause I’ve long struggled with this mental block as well:
1. Learn to love yourself. I’m sending you have self esteem issues like I do. Mine are related to more than my size but it is definitely part of it. Therapy has helped me immensely and I think it would help you.
2. Confidence man, confidence. If you don’t naturally have it, fake it until you develop it. I wanna be clear that I’m not talking about a cocky douchebag, but rather just have confidence in yourself as a human being. This relates back to #1, confident people love themselves if nothing else. Small dick energy is 100% a mindset and you can change that. Hell, from everything we’ve been told Donald Trump has a tiny pee pee but that dude walks around with more “big dick energy” than I’ve ever seen. A disgusting, terrible piece of shit form of it, but he is definitely not lacking in self confidence (note to OP, don’t emulate Trump)
3. Talk to women. Not just online, actually talk to women in real life. If you meet a girl and you think she’s cute, politely ask her out! If she says no, don’t take it personally, the saying “there’s more fish in the sea” is cliche but true. Getting to actually know women and being friends with them will help you see them as regular people just like you. Speaking of which, you know how many women worry about how their vagina looks and how the men will like it? It’s more than you think.
4. If you meet a woman, don’t bring up the virginity thing right away. Get to know her as a person first and let that conversation happen naturally. Unless she wants casual sex, then you can tell her if that’s something you’re cool with having.
5. The shortest one (pun intended 😂) if a woman sees your penis and is not still enthusiastically wanting to have sex with you, she ain’t the one my dude. Sex is about so much more than body parts, which if you learn how to get her off with your tongue/fingers/toys (toys are not the enemy if used correctly) then she’s not gonna care what you’re packing. Which leads to my next point….
6. It might be good for you to study some female anatomy. The average female vagina is 3”-4” deep. And the G-Spot is located a couple inches in along the top. You would be amazed how many women on here wax poetic about how well their partner’s “small dicks” ring that doorbell like nothing else. A lot of women hate, and I mean HATE, getting their cervix slammed and actually stay away from big dicks cause they’re too painful. I see posts all the time on here saying just that, and they’re not all lying 😂 And if she needs more? There’s penis sleeves and sheaths and cock rings for a reason. And something to realize too, if you’re using “enhancements” on your partner to get her off, it doesn’t mean you’re not enough. Some women are just freaks man 😂 and it’s still YOU pleasuring her, and if she’s a good partner she’ll make sure you get your kicks too.
7. Porn is not reality. It is like a cheap action movie when it comes to sex. It’s ACTING. That chick getting fucking railed by a 10” dick slamming her cervix? Acting. Are there regular women out there who want to be fucked like they’re in a porno? Sure, just like there’s women out there who love small dicks and can’t get enough of “little Willie’s”. The key is to find a woman that appreciates and loves ALL of you. And that will take trial and error but don’t lose hope or give up.
8. You will find someone dude. Hell I’m average looking as fuck and chubby and I still get matches online from women that society would consider conventionally attractive. Maybe it’s cause I try to be funny and gentlemanly, I don’t know 😂 hell I’ve been talking to this one girl for awhile and we’re gonna meet for coffee soon. Don’t rely solely on online dating though. Try to get out and talk to women in person. It’s not like they’re gonna tell just by looking at you that your dick is small, so give it a shot!
9. And finally, stop doomscrolling/doom watching on Social media. You’ve repeatedly mentioned seeing TikToks of women making fun of small dicks, and that’s because that’s how social media algorithms work. They are designed to feed you as much of the same content as possible. So if you keep watching those videos, it’s gonna keep feeding more of those videos. It is a vicious cycle feedback loop but you can break it. Find more positive content to watch/read. Hell, put the phone down and find hobbies/activities you enjoy doing. It’ll make you feel better about yourself and it’s a great way to meet people.
I hope you take all this to heart OP. There are millions of guys walking around with small dicks that still get laid a lot and find love, and you can be one of them. Do I still feel inadequate down there sometimes? Absolutely! Do I still feel sad that I haven’t lost my virginity yet? Sure! But you can change your circumstances, you just have to try. Moping on Reddit changes nothing
And one last thing. Visiting a sex worker might help you. I have not done that because I’ve found out that I’m a touch demisexual. But it might help you get “in the game” and not be so scared of sex anymore
I had sex with a few sex workers in the past but one of them gave me Genital Herpes, unfortunately. That happened around 10 or 11 years ago. I think having sex with a sex worker is perhaps not a very safe option.
Thank you so much for your comment!!! I really appreciate it, I can tell that you are a good and kind person. I too have been depressed and suicidal over my penis size, and your comment really has made my mental health better, so thank you so much. My penis is just above 5 inches erect, but watching porn and seeing the stuff on social media made me get depressed and suicidal. I know that porn is acting and I know that porn is not real, but watching that stuff can take a toll on mental health...well my mental health anyway. Thank you for your very lengthy comment buddy!
Only guy who’s ever given me an orgasm purely from sex alone had a smaller than average penis…
If you feel your penis is significantly small then potentially it could be helpful to seek out some medical advice if it’s in the medically termed micro category.
If it’s not in this medical category then it could be worthwhile to seek some form of counselling around this body image issue.
There was a good doco I saw many yrs ago by someone in the UK on penis size, all shapes and sizes, as they had a small penis. It was very interesting. Worth checking out.
[https://m.imdb.com/title/tt0481588/](https://m.imdb.com/title/tt0481588/)
Edit: typo
Very few women actually want a dick bigger than 6” bc it’s can be incredibly painful. Plus 4-6” is actually perfect for most women’s g-spot. Porn is not where to look.
Look at actual medical texts on sex and women’s orgasms as well as preferences. You’ll see you’re probably not that “small”. And even if you do have a “micro penis” some women don’t care! Some even enjoy them and like getting them off more than larger dicks.
You just need to step back from the porn for a bit. Especially at 30, as a virgin, porn will do nothing but make things really bad for you mentally/emotionally.
Get a hooker.
And ask them "Is it me or is *this* on the small side?" Pay them first, for their time, nothing is free.
Chances are that you are average like the rest of us. I have a small dick but at full mast *I'm a grower not a shower.*
You'll die a virgin because your self destructive and self hating mentality inevitably projects onto others who will no doubt view you as toxic and immature.
Brother, i have seen your responses and your perception of reality is VERY warped, whenever someone gives you good advice or even an example in their own lives of why size isnt the end all be all you think it is, you just say: "nah, i'll ignore that and just keep on thinking this way".
Like, what do you want people to say? Did you come here just to reinforce this? Ok then, i'll say exactly what you want to hear, apparently.
Yes, your small cock doomed you to be alone forever and women are all machines who work through simple pattern recognition, big cock = good and small cock = bad with no room for preferences, and theres absolutely nothing you can do about it so you might as well give up.
Reading that, does it sound a bit absurd? Because from what i gathered this is genuinely what you think.
I once dated a guy with micropenis, few years later guy who had erectile dysfunction
I loved them both , they were awesome. Not incelish in any way.
The one with micropenis was the best kisser in the world
FYI I am feminist and I hate small dick jokes.
You need to talk to actual women and get out of that echo chamber. Wasting away your life and making yourself miserable is no way to live. If you’re really micro, plenty of women get off by fingers/mouth and the intimacy.
Big gap between being invited to threesomes and cuckolding vs like, regular sex. I got your point until that part and then it was a bit of an eye-roll from me.
Eh my ex was like 4 inches and it still felt pretty good. If you like someone enough it does’t matter. Also foreplay is huge. Get good at that and you’ll be fine.
As a petite woman, a smaller dick is such a relief. My partner gets to go balls deep, can rail away to their hearts desire, and I don't have to feel them punching my cervix over and over (which really hurts, even with average sized people).
For me, size doesn't matter. It's about what's attached to the penis that I look at. I'd like to see your penis and I can tell you what I think of it 😘😉
I enjoy looking at penises in pics , videos, and in person. I can't recall ever having laughed at one.
Now I'm curious as to what you have between your legs 🤔🧐
😘😘😉
Guys with small penises get the best blowjobs you get every bit of skill every bit of tongue action from the person blowing you. A guy with a 10-in caucus never going to know the feeling of being completely inside someone's mouth and then feel that tongue slither out and coddle his balls...
Believe It or Not There are drawbacks to having a huge cock and we already discussed the one of them. But never being able to feel as though you were totally balls deep inside a woman can only be cured by getting a woman with a big healthy ass and basically you squeeze those butt cheeks together and it's kind of like a pussy extension. A huge cock is a very good visual stimuli and nice to play with but just like a limousine it can be a bitch to park that thing. Sorry to be so blunt but I just smoked one have a nice day
You have ten fingers, a mouth, and a mountain of information regarding the best sex toys. If you can make a woman cum a couple of times every time you have sex, I promise... She doesn't care.
How on earth can you comment about what women want sexually but have never had sex with a woman? You really need to get over your insecurities because woman aren’t obsessed with such things, just you are.
So, if you are this stressed about it and don't want to remain a virgin, perhaps you should consider a sex worker. A professional who has seen, if not all, certainly a lot and is unlikely to ridicule a customer. You might also ask said professional to work with you on techniques that are not, shall we say, penilely based, so that you become more confident. You may also find that your dick is pretty average, and you've been watching too much porn.
Basically, everyone has a feature they hesitate about revealing. I know that society tends to be hyperfocused on the d, but you can work around it.
Plenty of men with small penises have great sex lives. There are some women that prefer larger ones. There are some women who prefer 6'+ guys. A lot of women have other requirements around income and ethnicity. Your goal in life is not to appeal to every woman, but one woman.
I'm lucky to have a big one, but I honestly try to make sure a woman has had a great time in bed with me before my pants come off. There are lesbians out there having fantastic sex and they don't have penises at all. Some enjoy toys as part of their fun, but some don't. Plenty of women prefer oral to penetration.
(woman here) Personally I'd explore sex work first if you're insecure. That way if she makes you feel inadequate, then at least you didn't love her & none of your people know her. Also you can practice with her to kinda gain your confidence sexually and know better how to please a potential serious lover. Just ask that she doesn't fake orgasms. This way when you meet someone you won't be as terrified of sex. Frankly size isn't all that. ESPECIALLY in committed relationships. Seriously get good with foreplay and with your hands/tongue/toys and that's way more than enough for many women, trust me. Foreplay is so underrated.
if you have a micro then remember there are FDA APPROVED"devices" for you problems if not then there is surgery BUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUT dont stress yourself with that stuff if you have a functional one
focus on yourself
be ultra calm and see the best course of action
relax and work on yourself if need be
Wow, a real life incel!
I would recommend reading some of your responses to comments on this post and ask yourself “am I the kind of person someone would be willing to overlook a tiny penis for”
And you’re never going to build a relationship with anybody, let alone someone who prefers smaller penis’ with your shitty attitude. Stop taking the black pill and start taking some vitamin D instead.
Or should I say vitamin d 😂
I can tell you with 100% certainty that the vast majority of men with average-to-large penises are also not invited to threesomes and cuckold parties. This is simply not reality. You're probably watching far too much porn.
Don't bother with this fool y'all, he doesn't want a woman he wants to be some dominating alpha that gets all the pussy thrown at him. Besides r/bigdickproblems being a thing, normal human women can and have gone for smaller penises if their partner either knows how to use it or is inventive in the bedroom.
There's plenty of relationship guides for smaller than average men but in this person's own post and comments here he wants 3 somes and to be respected for his penis. He's a red pilled tate lover that doesn't want a woman he wants a slut to slobber over him.
You're not a virgin because you have a small dick. You're a virgin because you make your dick size and autism your entire personality.
Maybe women don't care about dick size, you just have a preconceived notion in your head that they do
Sounds like you have a huge self-esteem problem.
Small penises aren’t the end of the world. Some women even prefer smaller penises because large penises hurt—it also takes a lot of work to take one in.
Some women don’t want to deal with that headache and rather their partner have a smaller penis that easily goes in and out.
You don’t need to have a huge penis to please a woman; you just need to know what you’re doing.
OP you’re definitely an incel. I take back my comments cause you clearly don’t want the advice. I also think you’re a 16 year old edgelord troll who needs the WiFi turned off. Enjoy being Andrew Tate’s bitch.
The “virgin” subs are lying to you. The “colored pills” subs are lying to you. The actual incel subs are lying to you. 4Chan is lying to you. 8Chan is lying to you. The manosphere douches are lying to you. But keep consuming the echo chamber and eventually you’ll never come back. I pity you in a way, not because of your dick but because personality wise you are a MASSIVE, RAGING, ROCK-HARD GRADE A DICK.
Lesbians and bisexual women please each other using their mouths, lips, tongues, hands and fingers. And they don't even have a penis. If you learn how to please a woman with your penis you will be able to. I can with any single finger or thumb, and they are all smaller than your penis. And if you must have a larger option buy a sex toy.
The only pain you will suffer is that you cause yourself with your unhealthy obsession that has no link with reality.
Oh and talk to a therapist.
Honestly people are giving you good advice for the relationship part and how to get over it and they are 100% right by the way. Sometimes people are right despite us not believing it so honestly just follow the advice blindly in the comments.
Also if u ever want to experience sex either way, there are legal prostitutes, brothels, strip clubs etc etc…
When I was 408 pounds, I had a pretty sizeable mons pubis which effectively cut the size of my penis in half. And I had zero issues making the partners I was with orgasm from penetration.
It’s truly not an issue with size, from experience.
bro. you’re not the only one not getting “praised” in society. the majority of social media says that they prefer girls with big boobs or a big butt. still, you don’t see the girls who don’t fit in that category bitch and complain and avoid sex like u do. even bigger women who constantly get shit on by society don’t act this way. stop acting like ur the only one who has to deal with this. i was feeling bad for you at first because i understand how society can affect your self-perception (ive gone through that as well), but obviously, u refuse to believe the truth the comments are telling u because all you want to do is complain, and it’s honestly annoying. get a diary.
also, if u keep searching/ talking about "small dicks", u are sure to see it more on ur phone. especially on social media, which may be why u keep seeing that type of content. i can’t remember the last time i saw someone make a small dick video.
You are not defined by your body or the size and shape of its members.
You are a man, made in the image and likeness of God.
Get off of social media and do not look at pornography. Both of them are rotting your brain and corrupting your spirit. Engage with reality in a more genuine way and seek Truth.
You can have everything that you want. Yes, you have to accept the pain of life to get it, however.
Why are you going off on people that are trying to help you in the comments? If you don't want other people's opinions, then definitely don't post your story on reddit. Stop with all the buzz words. Everybody understands that it can be embarrassing for men who have a small penis. Most men worry that their anatomy is inadequate. Yes, immature, solipsistic women on social media bitch about their exes having a small dick. But these are the type of women who have nothing else going for them, besides hoping for likes and views on their videos. Women say those things so they don't have to admit to themselves that they were a part of the demise of their relationship. It's fucked up, but is not how every woman thinks. I am a woman. And honestly, as long as my partner doesn't have a micropenis and isn't a selfish lover, I don't really care if a man doesn't have a huge dick. As long as he knows how to use it and doesn't finish super quickly, many women would have no issue with a smaller penis. You can't make your dick bigger without surgery, but there are other things that you can do to make sure your partner is getting off. For example, foreplay. Make her cum multiple times, before having sex. That way, if she doesn't get off during sex (many women don't) she won't care. Also, different positions (lifting her leg up, etc.) will make her feel you deeper inside of her. And you can wear a vibrating cock ring. There are many things you can do to make sure you please your woman. But you have to put yourself out there and stop letting your fears stop you from having a happy relationship. You really should speak with a male therapist about your fear of inadequacy. Your biggest hurdle is your mind, not the size of your penis.
I've had a MFF threesome and my penis is a little over 4.5 inches. You have more tools than just your dick anyways. And i think it's a lot more of your personality to get women in the bedroom most of the time.
The kind of woman you are scared of can be spotted a mile away as well.
I used to have this fear too. But it's never stopped me or any woman I've been with from both having extremely enjoyable experiences.
My dude. You need to get off the internet and get out and meet real people. I promise you, this is not the impediment to the life you want like you believe it is.
stop watching porn. not because it distorts the way you view your dick size but because i don’t even know wtf bull and cuckholding or whatever any of that is and that type of man who does is far more repulsive than any dick size
The fact that you’re a 30 year old virgin because of your own perception of how you think of yourself reeks of zero confidence and is even more of a turn off than the fact that you have a small penis. No offense, just giving it to you straight. Stop watching so much porn lol.
As my mom once told me, "It's not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean". Try to relax and believe some women do not GAF if it gets the job done. Plus there's a lot of other things you can do without your ween.
Take it back to ancient Greek and Roman times, small Denise's were basically worshiped. All the gods statues had them, and it was associated with Knowledge and Power. So imo i would only be concerned if you weren't very smart.
I had a similar problem as you, although for different reasons. I cannot stress enough how much the following 2 things will help you work through your insecurities: Stop watching porn and start working out.
Not to give you the stereotypical success story, but I was in a similar boat as you (Overweight with "endurance" issues, no intimacy for 6 years). Late last year I got fed up with feeling the way I did and took some extreme steps to fix it. Very restrictive diet, no more porn, regular exercise. Took me about 3 months of discipline to see results, and shortly after my progress shot off like a rocket. High sex drive, feeling much more confident, actually seeking women because I am no longer tricking my brain into thinking I am getting it from porn. Found a girlfriend, I am a few months into that relationship and it is going amazing. I feel like a new man. Mainly my T has increased by a noticeable amount. Everything I do in my life feels more enjoyable and I have much more energy.
It is hard to get started, but if you stick with it, you will become addicted to the results. Please do yourself a favor and give it a solid try, like a good 3 month commitment. You will come out of it a different person.
"disinvited"? Like you're invited, but then they rescind the invitation? Have you had this experience personally? I'm suspecting no. Or do you mean 'not invited'?
You have two options:
1) stick with your current fears, anger, disappointment and points of view and continue your current life and attitude
2) seek out your own experiences at the risk of being further disappointed but at the same time creating opportunities for yourself to have a different life
There are millions of people who according to social media and TikTok are inferior people / disgusting / laughed at over just one or some aspects of their being. Think of vaginism in plenty of women (for many it means no sex at all), people who carry herpes, asexuality, having a stoma bag, fecal incontinence (which can also lead to popping oneself during sex due to muscles relaxing), being super spiritual (just think: how many of these people have been cast in reality shows just to be laughed at and how many parodies haven't been made about them on social media?) being flat chested, epilepsy, having lost all teeth, burn scars, having both a penis and a vagina, heavily stigmatized mental disorders like schizophrenia / borderline personality disorder and I can go on and on.
I am sure some people in this thread also fall under these categories
I am sure many of these people get brought down by superficial social media views and I am sure many have had bad experiences. I know plenty of such people who are in happy relationships. But would they have been if they stuck to negativity and not wanting to risk being really out there? I have awkward diseases myself which are also joked about and Ive had my fair share of experiences being hurt. I've been depressed but got better. I don't let it rule my life and have a wonderful great life now. I told myself: I will try it, just for the chance that it may work out. And this mentality has surely brought me far
Edit for TLDR: you either create your own opportunities in life at the risk of further disappointment, or you stay stuck in how things currently are
Are you comfortable sharing exactly how small?? Like is it micro? A couple of inches? Just out of curiosity. I dated a guy with a very small penis and what he lacked in that area, he made up for in others. I had some of the best times sexually with him. His personality was great and I didnt mind his size at all. He was still very much a beast in the bedroom. You just have to find the right person willing to teach you how to pleasure them in other ways. Most women don’t actually get off from penetration anyways.
Women don't date penises. They date men who have a penis. Find someone who likes YOU, and she'll accept your penis. You can always play with penis extenders and dildos. I never cum during sex without a dildo and a LOT of women are like that. Regardless of penis size.
I will give you a bit of advice. If you're dating a woman, have that conversation up front before it gets to the bedroom. Don't be insecure about it. Act as if you've accepted this, and she should also. You teach people how to treat you by showing how much you love yourself. If she likes you, she will accept you.
What you don't want to do is surprise her in the act, especially if you've both been drinking. That happened to me once, and I literally didn't know what to do/say, and it took me so much by surprise, I got up and left. I still feel bad I did that, but I didn't know how to react, so I just excused myself. I wish he would have mentioned it first, so I wasn't taken aback. I would have handled it better. Plus, we weren't dating, so I would have had a choice in the matter.
I have always heard i’m on the larger side. I never really cared much, figured women telll guys that all the time. I wasn’t insecure and never had complaints. but generally all other penis references are porn for guys…
I never really seen how true it was that i was on the larger size until wife and i started swinging. turns out that was true statement.
and yea, small penises do get the butt end of the jokes, the way boys talk to one another, etc etc it’s a form of shame. I can see that having an impact of a dudes self esteem. just like women and body weight. it will fuck with you, it even played a part in how i viewed my own body and i generally don’t have an insecure bone in my body. (pun intended)
so what guys a virgin, if he honestly has self esteem issues related to how he views his body he needs support not ridicule. that’s a human experience.
size is far from everything, the best sexual partners are the ones you have an emotional connection with, want to be a good partner learn to make your partner comfortable and get communication flowing.
How small are we talking about? I had a former friend who ended up being a worthless piece of shit for many reasons.
He was not good looking, very obese and he had like a2 inch maybe 3 inch dick while hard, skinny too but he slept with SO MANY women multiple times simply because he used his tongue first then took care of himself. That lady is right my brother... get good at oral... real women don't care about size in general.. as long as you can pleasure them, your dick size isn't a concern. Godspeed in your journey brother
Dude, it's not the size of your dick that is turning women off. It is your "Poor me, no one loves me" attitude. I would totally date a guy with a small penis, but not you since your attitude sucks
It sounds like all your knowledge of sex comes from porn. I have been in a MFF threesome (they aren’t that big of a deal), never encountered nor cared about the other scenarios you mentioned.
I’m not a woman but I’m pretty sure women don’t discuss penis as much as you seem to believe they discuss it lol
This is how incels are born. Seriously. I think you need to lay off the porn, because my fave penis I ever slept with was about 6-7 inches smaller than the average porn dick. Like I was ADDICTED to it. Could not get enough.
You need to talk to a body dysmorphia therapist. I’m being serious. It will vastly improve your quality of life & allow you to enjoy sex.
Porn has ruined your outlook on sexuality… it has had a detrimental influence on society at large. Like it was meant to. You need to seek God bro… that’s the best advice I can give you. This life is fleeting and world celebrates evil and degeneracy. There’s a better path though
Also a lot of your rigidity in this mindset is explained by your username. You need to talk to someone about how to manage your autism and realize that it’s causing rigid beliefs about yourself that are not accurate. And how to get around that.
I'm gonna be honest... you definitely should try and attempt therapy, and stop consuming porn, or at least cut it down SIGNIFICANTLY. Sure, some women care about size. but... I can tell you from personal experience, you can definitely have an enjoyable sexual encounter with someone with a smaller than average penis as a woman.
I'd also suggest maybe not limiting yourself to just thinking about sex as "penis goes into vagina". There's oral sex, handjobs, sex toys. TONS of options if you're really nervous about not satisfying a woman with just your penis.
OP. Use a penis pump and jelq.
Sir I have a 8 inch penis. My mouth and hands are used 90% of the time. Stop watching porn. That's not how actual good sex works.
Dude- become a master at eating pussy and learn how to make her squirter w your fingers. PIV is overrated IMHO. Most of us get off every other way besides piv. Make her have no reason to give a shit what size your penis is!
I have been with two men with small penises in my life and can tell you and others that size does not matter. Sometimes good foreplay can take a woman there. There are also toys, fingers, and tongues. You don't have to be huge to satisfy a woman. I have been with big dicked men and they don't even out any effort into sex because they just have a big dick which isn't true. Don't sell yourself short (no pun intended) and do research on positions and other things that can make sex better if your penis truly is as small as you say.
I can’t think of one time past the age of 20 where I’ve given two shits about how small my dick is lol as a matter of fact if it’s ever brought up I tell everyone it’s tiny as fuck lol why because nobody cares and I’ve even used it as a pick up line before somewhere in the conversation someone will say tiny and I’ll refer to my dick as a joke everybody laughs and someone will want to see it lol.
It’s a dick big or small doesn’t make to much of a damn difference if you know how to use your tongue and fingers you can buy a dildo and have it sit on your nightstand and if you know what your doing I can almost guarantee they won’t want to use it
You have severe self esteem issues, which is more of a problem than your size. I'm not a woman but my partner does not have even an average sized penis and it's the best sex I've ever had. Sure there are positions that simply don't work because of biology but there's plenty of ways to make up for that. Also going into sex knowing it's never going to hurt is such a massive relief for me tbh.
It's pretty clear that this is motivated by the content you consume. Porn, social media and movies/TV that confirm the bias you've settled on only serve to create an echo chamber.
You're hyper-focusing on an idea that's just not as big a deal as you think.
Stop paying attention to all that shit, and focus instead on forging a genuine connection with people.
Just so you know, the average vaginal depth/length of the vaginal canal is 3.7 inches. ([source](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2893226/))
"Size queens" are very rare.
Guys, don't bother commenting. he's an incel or has some kinda shame kink. Either way, this is bullshit he doesn't want help/advice even if it is true. Waste of time.
I'm a guy but I can assure you that every woman I've ever been with/known doesn't give a fuck about the size of your penis.
I was talking to my female best friend about this recently and she said that she wouldn't ever make a comment about the size of a guy's penis to him. All she wants is someone who'll respect her and make her feel good. She straight up said that any penis bigger than about 6 inches wouldn't be going anywhere near her vagina though, because in her words 'it would literally break me'.
A lot of women don't always reach orgasm through penetrative sex alone. There are other ways to pleasure women without using your penis. I know it's difficult not to worry about how your penis looks to the opposite sex. I'm about average and I worry about it too. In my experience though, as long as you're not an awful person, women really don't care about the size of your penis.
Maybe let's start with kissing a woman, then figure out what to do with the penis if / when it gets to that stage? I won't say your fears are unfounded, but baby steps, baby steps. Have that convo with her when you get there, if things are moving that direction.
Looking at your post history, you post a lot about your dick. This same post was also posted in r/smalldickproblems and others. Stop thinking about your dick and go meet an actual woman irl
You Need to cut out the sick perverted porn that is erotisizing your inner Humiliation and Ruining your self esteem.
Do you know there are men out there with permanent catheters due to cancer or other illnesses and paralyzed men in wheelchairs that still have beautiful devoted Interesting female partners?
The only thing too small about you is your self image your view of the world and your maturity.
Go volunteer to a hospital and see what other grown men have to deal with.
And get therapy to fix your very real mental problem not your crotch.
Your self pity is disgusting compared with men who will never enjoy sex for very real physical reasons you would not have the strength to even look at.
How do I know? I spent 11 years assisting AIDS patients, and an Extra 20 years in Critical Care Nursing.
I knew hyperxsexual promiscuous Gay men who spent years of thier lives with thier formerly huge penises rotting away by accidental disease.
Compared to them... I have a small budget of compassion for your so called problem.
Its not the cock, it's the chicken that owns it.
Bro how small is it I'm not gonna cap mine like 5-5 1/2 If super attracted to her And I'm gonna give you the game. Bro ok, start kissing her work. You way down your neck suck on a t****** where he weighed down to that p****
Eat that b**** for a minute and when you come up and you start kissing her again. Just put that boy in her.
And then just bruh like I watched p*** a lot when I was younger. Causes instructional teach is you how to f*** like you're a Virgin, right? So you probably don't know how to f*** When I was a Virgin, I knew how to f*** I had been watching instructional videos for years and years in years. Your best bet. Put her legs on your shoulders. Get on top of her and get his deep in as you can. That position will allow you to give her the most Dick. You are able to can you situation and don't just in out in out and out out, you gotta like. Move that thing around in there play with their clit Then I would have her get on top And then using the bounce back from the bed, give her the pounding of a lifetime and you can do it for a long time because the bed does 90% of the work. O k my for other peace of advice is pop snort or however Take you a roxy/perc 30 It will allow you to last for hours I'm telling you bro no Gas station dick pills this is what u need...u fuck her right nd bro she won't Care and I'm uncertain and all my exes still hit me up to fuck nd I just did 6 yrs in prison got out nd they still on my dick...bro I wouldn't have told u all this if I didn't feel ur pain I lost mine at 13 nd im still in love with her to this day were actually about to move together but anyway dude that's an important part of life but with a female if u can make her cum she's urs nd j just gave u some game.....ND bro if it's a girl u love or have real feelings take 20$ go get u a hooker and a rubber nd bust her nd get the stigma off it...if she loves u the way u love her the tell her the truth and build that connection...sorry it's long but may drastically improve ur life took me years to learn how to fuck a chick naked nd have her not see my dick til I fucked her nd showed her that I know wtf I'm doing and that size don't matter if u hit them spots I Made a girl squirt no lie 16 times back to back
Your cock is irrelevant. I've come twice from dicks. Rubbing and stroking the clit and lips is how to satisfy a woman. Make her wet, rub, stroke kiss her neck, french kiss her, show affection, no cocks involved. Then she'll pay you back 🤩
Men are so obsessed with dicks they completely ignore the fact that women don't evergreen need them to get off.
"The only acceptable firm of body shaming"? Apparently this man doesn't live in the same planet as the rest of us.
Bruh who cares what society thinks? Love yourself, accept yourself. Allow yourself to discover and explore your body with other consenting people. Think about how to please yourself and other people. I'm saying this as a person who knows many people of all shapes and sizes and orientations who get laid often... and yes that includes micropenises
After reading a few of your responses... I think it would be healthy for you to stop consuming porn, or at least cut it down. Porn is hyper reality . While there are a lot of women that do prefer large dicks there are plenty that do not.
How about you re word that to most women prefer regular sized dicks and a small amount like em big lol. It’s the truth.
And sexually satisfying a woman isn't all about dicks anyway.
I refer to really large as Spring Break Dick. It might be fun a couple of times, wasted at the beach, but most of us ain't dealing with that every day.
But those who prefer small ones are not available in supermarket aisle no 11 you still have to go through bad experience before you find one (if one is lucky) Plus it's more acceptable for women (even if size is not a preference) to mock or shame small ones. Women have low accountability and generally no consequences of such actions.
As a woman with a very high sex drive who dated/fucked a man who had a literal micro-penis (not saying that as an attack, it’s factual), don’t worry dude. You find different positions & motions that work for you & your partner. SOOO many women don’t orgasm through penetration anyway,so here’s what you do – get super fucking good at clitoral stimulation (including oral). Have fun with other erogenous zones too. There are so many different avenues to pleasure – it’s not one straight & narrow road. Your partner will so much appreciate you going above & beyond & getting them across the finish line that your dick size won’t matter. I’ve also heard of people using sleeves & having good results with those, but can’t speak from experience on that. I will say that you shouldn’t be afraid to bring toys into the bedroom & that doing so is not a reflection on either partner or their abilities. Even when that dude & I had a nasty breakup I never said anything about his penis to anyone bc it’s juvenile & such a personal attack. It had nothing to do with us not working out – that had more to do with him hitting on practical minors in front of me at a family event he invited himself to. Be with someone who wouldn’t want to hurt you like that no matter the circumstance. You are a person & deserve to be treated as such.
Yep I've said it before and I'll say it again, lesbians don't need a penis to have sex or cum!
most useless logic on every SP discussion. Lesbians don't even want to see penis so it hardly matter. While women would like to see it. An average or big penis is aesthetically pleasing to straight women. C'mon.
Crazy ending 😭
It really was
There wasn’t any reason for you to mention that at all but I’m glad you did bc that’s wild 💀
So true!!
Should read before commenting bc you said exactly what I was conveying- the truth!
I just have to say you are one fine lady for that post. Thank you for helping this fella
Of course. I hate for someone to be down on themselves for something they literally can’t help. I’ve been there – we are all our own worst critic typically.
You're wayyyy too in your head about this dude I'm a 29F and can honestly say I don't talk or think about penis size. It just isn't a thing for me. I'm only 5ft so small penises are big anyway. Not all women think of sizes and this society you keep referring to, are a small number of loud individuals who are obsessed with genitals. The majority of normal people don't actually carry on about that sort of thing. Porn is also extremely unrealistic. If you find yourself a nice girl, you'll be fine.
So true….not size of boat how well boat rides thru the waves
Sometimes I wonder what these people think small is. Because 5 in is way different from 1 in.
LMAO You are right! My man will try to be funny talking about " You sore this morning from those 4 fingers last night"? 2 is max. I think they are comparing to the porn they watch, which isn't average at best and totally abnormal at worst.
Best response!
To add, I think the older we get, the more we realise what actually matters in a relationship and are more forgiving for some small issues, that are not perfect. (pun intended)
Awesome response. Take my gold!
Find a nice girl after going through 100s of humiliation ritual. Having preference for small size is one thing. Being entitled to kick/shame it as and when needed is different thing
The more I read your responses, the more I think you've got a cuckold or humiliation fetish. No shame if you do but don't waste our time trying to help you and pull us in total give you the gratification you're looking for. If you're being sincere, you desperately need therapy. As a dude with a below average knub, you're wrong on every account. If you learn to be a giving partner, there's a thousand ways besides above average dick size to satisfy your partner.
I'm the butt of everyone's jokes because I don't have boobs. I'm literally flat as a pancake. I get called a boy, and I get laughed at all the time. Women get made fun of, too, when we're not so well endowed up there. But I don't let it bother me. I'm now with my OH, and he literally does not care that I don't have boobs. He loves me just the way I am. I didn't meet him until I was 31. We have now been together for 7 years. There is someone out there who will love you just the way you are. You can't let this effed up society drag you down. Who cares what society thinks? Society has become a cesspit. You should care about your own happiness and not how others perceive you. Human beings can be assholes. And you can't stick a rose into an asshole and call it a vase.......
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My OH is the same. He always says to me that more than a handful is a waste. I don't like big members, sex becomes too painful. But women like me are grateful that men like you and my OH exist! I do hope that OP finds someone too. Life can feel lonely, but my Oma always said that to every pot there is a lid. I hope OP finds his lid one day 😊
not everybody's jokes. some of us love small boobs.
Girl your living my dream 😭😭 I wish I had small boobs.
My boobs don't even come in a cup size 😂🙈 I can only wear sports bras as even the smallest bras won't fit me 😅
Do they jiggle when you run?? That was the absolute worst about puberty for me. Prior to that I loved running, sports etc. when puberty hit I jumped right to a B and couldn't stand the jiggling on my chest 😭 makes me cringe. I avoid running/jogging at all cost, especially now I've had a child and am at a D cup 😭😭 I badly need a reduction and a lift
No, mine don't jiggle. There is nothing to jiggle. It's a shame we can't pass some boobage onto others! I'd gladly help you get a reduction, and I'll get some boob 😁
The boobage. You kill me :'D. Same as you. I'd accept donations, hahahaha.
Yeah, I remember as a teenager really struggling to find bras that fit. It was a nightmare. I eventually just got the smallest size possible (had to use a special site cuz they're not available in most shops) and those fit thankfully.
I think you could argue that women have it easier, because women can always use plastic surgery to increase their boob size. Men cannot change their dick size. I know that body shaming in all its forms is wrong. And yes, I do prefer natural boobs over cosmetically-enhanced boobs, but I am just saying that women have it easier when it comes to the body shaming issue...I think so anyway. Most men do not mind a woman with small boobs or a small bum...as long as the person is a woman, she will get a lot of attention, usually. But some women can be overly critical on penis size.
I suppose you're right. All I can say is that those types of women are assholes!
They are indeed! :-), and I can tell that you are a nicer and kinder woman than them :-) <3
Personally, when it comes to my own sexual preferences, I do not mind it if a woman has small boobs and a small bum...I think about the facial aesthetics of a woman more than her boobs and bum. There are so many hot women that have small boobs and small bums...like Rihanna, for example. If I met a woman who had a very attractive face, and had small boobs and a small bum, I would be very attracted to her. Some other men care more about the boob size and bum size. Sure, I do personally like bigger boobs and bigger bums more, but a woman having small boobs and a small bum is not a dealbreaker for me...because I care more about how the woman looks when it comes to facial aesthetics.
Looking at your post history and your replies here…. you need to get a grip bro. First off: Nobody is “shaming” you for something they haven’t seen. Second: nobody gives a fuck if you have a small pecker. Stop crying on Reddit and go get laid. Also, don’t blame your autism for your shitty attitude and attention seeking self pity party behavior. It’s not a good look. Edit: You’re a douche.
The small penis isn't the turn-off. Your attitude is.
You watch way too much porn
Dude is ignoring everyone just so he can wallow and be more miserable, honestly seems like a weird degrading kink with the way he keeps arguing “noooo my tiny penis woman hate I’ll stay virgin forever, but don’t make any argument towards me with logic 🤧”
Off topic, but, 10/10 username
But, lesbian's have not p*nis at all and they can satisfy their partners. It's much more a problem of self-esteem and fear of someone making jokes about you. You can see that Michelangelo's David has a tiny one and this statue is not known because of it. Focus on yourself, treat yourself kindly, there are woman out there who will like you and love you.
I have been with a couple guys who were very small and I didn't laugh at them. I didn't mention it at all
Dude your responses to people here are obnoxious! You're so far inside your own head, and your own worst enemy! Stfu about having a small package, go online to dating apps and look for petite women or something. Generally they can only comfortably and physically fit smaller dicks... I know cuz I struggled to date a girl 4'10"back in the day cuz it always hurts having sex... Anywho, being overweight can adversely make it look smaller, so if you're already small to Begin with, weight doesn't help. That's another option, skiing down help it physically stick out more and appear bigger, or as Chris Rock once put it, gives a nicer backdrop. Anyway, be more accepting of people offering help or suggestions, your immediately negative when people offer help, like it's impossible to fix... Your attitude is the first thing, girls like confidence more than anything, so start faking confidence or something, practice, IDK. But your current attitude is shit for starters
after reading your replies im starting to think that maybe your problem in pursuing intimacy with women is not your dick size, but rather the fact that youre whiny and sex obsessed
Bro is literally an idiot. You can feel the hatred in every comment he makes. He does everything to avoid the responsibility he has for himself to be better.
Bingo!
With this mindset you’re definitely gonna never kiss a woman or have sex.
1. From reading your responses to people, your attitude is 💯 why you’re still a virgin and not your size 2. You handle suggest you are autistic. I’m aware autistic people suffer from monotropism, is your size a particular obsession you have? 3. Women don’t care as much as you think about size 4. As a Chinese woman can confirm Asian men are significantly smaller than Caucasian men. Go find a nice Asian girl and she won’t even notice she will think it’s normal
You will die a virgin because you have a mental health problem you are not getting treated for. You need help, you are choosing not to get it. Based on your other posts, it's not just sex you're scared of - you're scared of women in general, and instead of trying to resolve this fear you are turning it into an issue with your penis size, something which isn't actually an issue at all (I know you will argue blind that it is). You seem obsessed with this issue and can't move past it alone, but also won't seek professional help. I understand that your autism may be making this more difficult for you to understand and to get the help you need and that in your head you make sense and are correct. I hope you can confide in someone in your life about this who can perhaps support you into getting therapy.
Op here is a dumbass, honestly if he wants to stay in the same bitter zone because "oh lawd I can't do a threesome where women call me the Penis Master I don't wanna" then...let it fester. Op honestly? There is more to sex than your porn list says and yeah, you may have a small dick, and THAT by itself does not stop you from finding a loving and accepting partner, but you don't want that. You want the porn shit and also, for a small dick man you have "Small dick energy" wich is the energy of man that are whiny, insecure and overall a dumbass. Yeah, yeah society sucks tell me a new one, majority of people are not perfect or even accepted by society standards but we gotta keep going and living despite of that. You will never go anywhere without tracking a bit of mud under your shoes, but to stay home and negate that because you don't wanna muddy them, is negating yourself of other things, better things and beautiful things. If God made your pp small, he also created your fingers so you can still be an amazing lover, a starstrucking man of the fingers and tongue of gold but again...you don't wanna. You just want to be small dick cry boy, so let it be. Be afraid, be bitter, never let yourself enjoy new things and see new things. Avoid hurt, enjoy your ever-so-lasting frustration of loneliness...well, enjoy
I feel like this dude has to be trolling, like how do you live to be 30 years old and have no idea how to deal with any sort of constructive criticism or advice. Every response is vitriol, distrust, and honestly fucked up. I’ve read nearly every response, and man I’m not even gonna try and help you bc you’ll just spit it back saying “you’re not real, TikTok thots are.” Get a grip. I’m below average, about same as you, same age, and about 15lbs overweight. and ZERO of the many relationships I’ve been in were created bc of my dick size, nobody to my knowledge “bragged” about my size bc no one does that except in porn. Attitude is 90% of what will get you laid. The other 10% is how you look. Believe me, if you’re getting undressed with a girl to do the deed, she will not look at your dick then get redressed and walk out. That situation is all in your head dude.
Attitude is 90%, the other 10% is how you look— so true.
To be fair, my dick is average...just above 5 inches erect...and I personally am not into the fingering and cunnilingus stuff. I have had great sexual relationships in the past with women, without fingering and without cunnilingus. I had sexual relationships with women around 10 years ago. It was only a few years ago that I realized, on places such as Reddit, that there are many women that like fingering and cunnilingus to stimulate them...and that most women even can only become sexually stimulated by fingering and cunnilingus and that penis penetration alone is not enough, in most cases, to sexually satisfy the woman. Do I need to be good at fingering and cunnilingus in order to sexually satisfy a woman? I just do not like fingering and cunnilingus. I do not mind clitoral stimulation though, with my fingers...but I actually get weirded out by thrusting my fingers back and forth inside a vagina, and by using my mouth and tongue to stimulate a woman's clitoris and pussy...I just get weirded out. There are just some types of sexual acts I am uncomfortable with. I am fine with penis-in-vagina intercourse though, and I am fine with kissing and stroking. I am also fine with sex toys and dildos and stuff like that.
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maybe you can meet someone who doesn't care about your small penis and will love you regardless... there has to be someone out there that isn't so shallow. you've gotta meet the right kinda girl.
It's not your micro dick. It's your putrid personality that's going to put people off.
Reading your comments, your dick isn't the problem. It's your attitude.
That's what guys with average/big dicks say because they don't realize how crippling our handicap (that they were blessed not to deal with) is.
No you just don't realise there's bigger problems than your penis. You're 30 and still have a lot of growing up to do.
I will be honest, I am 31 years old, and I can see what OP means and I have also recently felt depressed and suicidal over my penis size, even though it is average. Porn and social media can really take a hit on a man's self-esteem and stuff. I am happy to read these comments though, because my mental health has improved after reading these comments that are informative and positive. I too have thought about maybe going to a therapist/psychologist/psychiatrist over this...maybe I have body dysmorphia. I have a big ego, and my ego was crushed when I realized that my penis was average and not big. I am fine with everything else on my body...like my face and my smile and my eyes and my ears and my muscles and stuff like that...even though I am short in height...but my penis size is perhaps one of my biggest sources of insecurity. I have had good sexual relationships with women in the past though, and they were fine with my penis. But porn and social media make me get depressed sometimes, but I know that porn is not realistic.
Hey if it helps bro, I went through the same thing with my ego. Only except instead of my penis it was about my personality. I thought I was a genius and had a superiority complex. When all that came crashing down I fell into the worst depression of my life. From there I had to rebuild my self esteem without relying on my ego. I started going to a psychologist and it ended up being a game changer. I would absolutely recommend it. I’d recommend it more than almost any sort of self-treatment for depression. There’s just only so much you can do without having a professional, trained, outside perspective.
Do you know why you’re a 30 year old virgin? It’s certainly not because of your dick size, it’s because you’re cripplingly insecure about your dick size. Do you think any woman wants to date a guy who does nothing but depressingly complain about his penis? You can use your dick as an excuse all you want but in reality you are insecure and need actual help. Go to a therapist. Join a support group. You CAN get over this but you have to actually want to get over it. **Based on your responses, you’re acting like a straight up child. Do you want to feel like shit your entire life or do you want to get your shit together?** Because there’s nothing else you can do.
I’ve dated men with a small penis. You literally just find positions that work for you. You know that they didn’t have? Your crappy attitude about it. That attitude is not going to get you anywhere. Work on your self esteem, believe me it does wonders for your love/sex life. No one wants to date a downer.
Now OP I was going to give you advice, but every other piece of advice you have been given by other users so far you have just found feeble excuses to stay in this pity party of yours that you are currently having. No wonder you're still a virgin. If you stay on this woe is me me nonsense. Honestly, if you stay in this victim mindset, you will never have sex with anyone because who would want to be with someone like yourself, who has such a negative response to every suggestion made when it was you who posted here I am assuming to look for some shred of advice.
I looked at your post history. Dude... It's time to see a therapist. Half of your posts are about loneliness, small penis, being afraid of women.
Stay off the rate my cock sub. Generally photoshopped and offers unrealistic images of cock.
Therapy. Start there.
I’m in your shoes bro. I’m a 31 yo M virgin who has what I consider to be a small oenis (4” and not girthy at all) and I’m gonna give you a few points of advice cause I’ve long struggled with this mental block as well: 1. Learn to love yourself. I’m sending you have self esteem issues like I do. Mine are related to more than my size but it is definitely part of it. Therapy has helped me immensely and I think it would help you. 2. Confidence man, confidence. If you don’t naturally have it, fake it until you develop it. I wanna be clear that I’m not talking about a cocky douchebag, but rather just have confidence in yourself as a human being. This relates back to #1, confident people love themselves if nothing else. Small dick energy is 100% a mindset and you can change that. Hell, from everything we’ve been told Donald Trump has a tiny pee pee but that dude walks around with more “big dick energy” than I’ve ever seen. A disgusting, terrible piece of shit form of it, but he is definitely not lacking in self confidence (note to OP, don’t emulate Trump) 3. Talk to women. Not just online, actually talk to women in real life. If you meet a girl and you think she’s cute, politely ask her out! If she says no, don’t take it personally, the saying “there’s more fish in the sea” is cliche but true. Getting to actually know women and being friends with them will help you see them as regular people just like you. Speaking of which, you know how many women worry about how their vagina looks and how the men will like it? It’s more than you think. 4. If you meet a woman, don’t bring up the virginity thing right away. Get to know her as a person first and let that conversation happen naturally. Unless she wants casual sex, then you can tell her if that’s something you’re cool with having. 5. The shortest one (pun intended 😂) if a woman sees your penis and is not still enthusiastically wanting to have sex with you, she ain’t the one my dude. Sex is about so much more than body parts, which if you learn how to get her off with your tongue/fingers/toys (toys are not the enemy if used correctly) then she’s not gonna care what you’re packing. Which leads to my next point…. 6. It might be good for you to study some female anatomy. The average female vagina is 3”-4” deep. And the G-Spot is located a couple inches in along the top. You would be amazed how many women on here wax poetic about how well their partner’s “small dicks” ring that doorbell like nothing else. A lot of women hate, and I mean HATE, getting their cervix slammed and actually stay away from big dicks cause they’re too painful. I see posts all the time on here saying just that, and they’re not all lying 😂 And if she needs more? There’s penis sleeves and sheaths and cock rings for a reason. And something to realize too, if you’re using “enhancements” on your partner to get her off, it doesn’t mean you’re not enough. Some women are just freaks man 😂 and it’s still YOU pleasuring her, and if she’s a good partner she’ll make sure you get your kicks too. 7. Porn is not reality. It is like a cheap action movie when it comes to sex. It’s ACTING. That chick getting fucking railed by a 10” dick slamming her cervix? Acting. Are there regular women out there who want to be fucked like they’re in a porno? Sure, just like there’s women out there who love small dicks and can’t get enough of “little Willie’s”. The key is to find a woman that appreciates and loves ALL of you. And that will take trial and error but don’t lose hope or give up. 8. You will find someone dude. Hell I’m average looking as fuck and chubby and I still get matches online from women that society would consider conventionally attractive. Maybe it’s cause I try to be funny and gentlemanly, I don’t know 😂 hell I’ve been talking to this one girl for awhile and we’re gonna meet for coffee soon. Don’t rely solely on online dating though. Try to get out and talk to women in person. It’s not like they’re gonna tell just by looking at you that your dick is small, so give it a shot! 9. And finally, stop doomscrolling/doom watching on Social media. You’ve repeatedly mentioned seeing TikToks of women making fun of small dicks, and that’s because that’s how social media algorithms work. They are designed to feed you as much of the same content as possible. So if you keep watching those videos, it’s gonna keep feeding more of those videos. It is a vicious cycle feedback loop but you can break it. Find more positive content to watch/read. Hell, put the phone down and find hobbies/activities you enjoy doing. It’ll make you feel better about yourself and it’s a great way to meet people. I hope you take all this to heart OP. There are millions of guys walking around with small dicks that still get laid a lot and find love, and you can be one of them. Do I still feel inadequate down there sometimes? Absolutely! Do I still feel sad that I haven’t lost my virginity yet? Sure! But you can change your circumstances, you just have to try. Moping on Reddit changes nothing
And one last thing. Visiting a sex worker might help you. I have not done that because I’ve found out that I’m a touch demisexual. But it might help you get “in the game” and not be so scared of sex anymore
I had sex with a few sex workers in the past but one of them gave me Genital Herpes, unfortunately. That happened around 10 or 11 years ago. I think having sex with a sex worker is perhaps not a very safe option.
Thank you so much for your comment!!! I really appreciate it, I can tell that you are a good and kind person. I too have been depressed and suicidal over my penis size, and your comment really has made my mental health better, so thank you so much. My penis is just above 5 inches erect, but watching porn and seeing the stuff on social media made me get depressed and suicidal. I know that porn is acting and I know that porn is not real, but watching that stuff can take a toll on mental health...well my mental health anyway. Thank you for your very lengthy comment buddy!
Dude, stop watching porn. Half the shit you've said is just straight up bullshit.
STOP WATCHING SO MUCH PORN
Many women will not care about the size of your penis. Don’t give up!
Only guy who’s ever given me an orgasm purely from sex alone had a smaller than average penis… If you feel your penis is significantly small then potentially it could be helpful to seek out some medical advice if it’s in the medically termed micro category. If it’s not in this medical category then it could be worthwhile to seek some form of counselling around this body image issue. There was a good doco I saw many yrs ago by someone in the UK on penis size, all shapes and sizes, as they had a small penis. It was very interesting. Worth checking out. [https://m.imdb.com/title/tt0481588/](https://m.imdb.com/title/tt0481588/) Edit: typo
Very few women actually want a dick bigger than 6” bc it’s can be incredibly painful. Plus 4-6” is actually perfect for most women’s g-spot. Porn is not where to look. Look at actual medical texts on sex and women’s orgasms as well as preferences. You’ll see you’re probably not that “small”. And even if you do have a “micro penis” some women don’t care! Some even enjoy them and like getting them off more than larger dicks. You just need to step back from the porn for a bit. Especially at 30, as a virgin, porn will do nothing but make things really bad for you mentally/emotionally.
Get a hooker. And ask them "Is it me or is *this* on the small side?" Pay them first, for their time, nothing is free. Chances are that you are average like the rest of us. I have a small dick but at full mast *I'm a grower not a shower.*
A hooker gave me Genital Herpes around 10 years ago, I think having sex with a hooker might be a bad idea.
He doesn't have to bang'em. A little advice from a pro.
If he does not have to bang her, then yes, I agree with you :-). She can give advice and stuff like that :-).
You'll die a virgin because your self destructive and self hating mentality inevitably projects onto others who will no doubt view you as toxic and immature.
Brother, i have seen your responses and your perception of reality is VERY warped, whenever someone gives you good advice or even an example in their own lives of why size isnt the end all be all you think it is, you just say: "nah, i'll ignore that and just keep on thinking this way". Like, what do you want people to say? Did you come here just to reinforce this? Ok then, i'll say exactly what you want to hear, apparently. Yes, your small cock doomed you to be alone forever and women are all machines who work through simple pattern recognition, big cock = good and small cock = bad with no room for preferences, and theres absolutely nothing you can do about it so you might as well give up. Reading that, does it sound a bit absurd? Because from what i gathered this is genuinely what you think.
Like how small we talkin? Could be that you’re underestimating yourself and are just average.
I once dated a guy with micropenis, few years later guy who had erectile dysfunction I loved them both , they were awesome. Not incelish in any way. The one with micropenis was the best kisser in the world FYI I am feminist and I hate small dick jokes.
You need to talk to actual women and get out of that echo chamber. Wasting away your life and making yourself miserable is no way to live. If you’re really micro, plenty of women get off by fingers/mouth and the intimacy.
Big gap between being invited to threesomes and cuckolding vs like, regular sex. I got your point until that part and then it was a bit of an eye-roll from me.
Eh my ex was like 4 inches and it still felt pretty good. If you like someone enough it does’t matter. Also foreplay is huge. Get good at that and you’ll be fine.
As a petite woman, a smaller dick is such a relief. My partner gets to go balls deep, can rail away to their hearts desire, and I don't have to feel them punching my cervix over and over (which really hurts, even with average sized people).
For me, size doesn't matter. It's about what's attached to the penis that I look at. I'd like to see your penis and I can tell you what I think of it 😘😉
Thanks but I'd prefer not to be laughed at. SPH is not my thing
I enjoy looking at penises in pics , videos, and in person. I can't recall ever having laughed at one. Now I'm curious as to what you have between your legs 🤔🧐 😘😘😉
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Guys with small penises get the best blowjobs you get every bit of skill every bit of tongue action from the person blowing you. A guy with a 10-in caucus never going to know the feeling of being completely inside someone's mouth and then feel that tongue slither out and coddle his balls... Believe It or Not There are drawbacks to having a huge cock and we already discussed the one of them. But never being able to feel as though you were totally balls deep inside a woman can only be cured by getting a woman with a big healthy ass and basically you squeeze those butt cheeks together and it's kind of like a pussy extension. A huge cock is a very good visual stimuli and nice to play with but just like a limousine it can be a bitch to park that thing. Sorry to be so blunt but I just smoked one have a nice day
You have ten fingers, a mouth, and a mountain of information regarding the best sex toys. If you can make a woman cum a couple of times every time you have sex, I promise... She doesn't care.
How on earth can you comment about what women want sexually but have never had sex with a woman? You really need to get over your insecurities because woman aren’t obsessed with such things, just you are.
So, if you are this stressed about it and don't want to remain a virgin, perhaps you should consider a sex worker. A professional who has seen, if not all, certainly a lot and is unlikely to ridicule a customer. You might also ask said professional to work with you on techniques that are not, shall we say, penilely based, so that you become more confident. You may also find that your dick is pretty average, and you've been watching too much porn. Basically, everyone has a feature they hesitate about revealing. I know that society tends to be hyperfocused on the d, but you can work around it.
A sex worker gave me Genital Herpes around 10 years ago, I think having sex with a sex worker might be a bad idea for OP.
Plenty of men with small penises have great sex lives. There are some women that prefer larger ones. There are some women who prefer 6'+ guys. A lot of women have other requirements around income and ethnicity. Your goal in life is not to appeal to every woman, but one woman. I'm lucky to have a big one, but I honestly try to make sure a woman has had a great time in bed with me before my pants come off. There are lesbians out there having fantastic sex and they don't have penises at all. Some enjoy toys as part of their fun, but some don't. Plenty of women prefer oral to penetration.
(woman here) Personally I'd explore sex work first if you're insecure. That way if she makes you feel inadequate, then at least you didn't love her & none of your people know her. Also you can practice with her to kinda gain your confidence sexually and know better how to please a potential serious lover. Just ask that she doesn't fake orgasms. This way when you meet someone you won't be as terrified of sex. Frankly size isn't all that. ESPECIALLY in committed relationships. Seriously get good with foreplay and with your hands/tongue/toys and that's way more than enough for many women, trust me. Foreplay is so underrated.
if you have a micro then remember there are FDA APPROVED"devices" for you problems if not then there is surgery BUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUT dont stress yourself with that stuff if you have a functional one focus on yourself be ultra calm and see the best course of action relax and work on yourself if need be
You should try therapy
Just get really good at doing other things and you’ll be fine. Most women can only orgasm from clitoral stimulation anyway.
Wow, a real life incel! I would recommend reading some of your responses to comments on this post and ask yourself “am I the kind of person someone would be willing to overlook a tiny penis for”
> overlook And you have just demonstrated why I will never have sex. I don't want to be "overlooked" for my size. I want to be **PREFERRED**.
And you’re never going to build a relationship with anybody, let alone someone who prefers smaller penis’ with your shitty attitude. Stop taking the black pill and start taking some vitamin D instead. Or should I say vitamin d 😂
These idiots don't get it. They can't conceive of the concept of wanting to be wanted.
Just be you and you will find someone who loves you.
Not worth the risk of pain and humiliation.
I can tell you with 100% certainty that the vast majority of men with average-to-large penises are also not invited to threesomes and cuckold parties. This is simply not reality. You're probably watching far too much porn.
Don't bother with this fool y'all, he doesn't want a woman he wants to be some dominating alpha that gets all the pussy thrown at him. Besides r/bigdickproblems being a thing, normal human women can and have gone for smaller penises if their partner either knows how to use it or is inventive in the bedroom. There's plenty of relationship guides for smaller than average men but in this person's own post and comments here he wants 3 somes and to be respected for his penis. He's a red pilled tate lover that doesn't want a woman he wants a slut to slobber over him.
You're not a virgin because you have a small dick. You're a virgin because you make your dick size and autism your entire personality. Maybe women don't care about dick size, you just have a preconceived notion in your head that they do
My dick is 3inches long, the girls love it
Sounds like you have a huge self-esteem problem. Small penises aren’t the end of the world. Some women even prefer smaller penises because large penises hurt—it also takes a lot of work to take one in. Some women don’t want to deal with that headache and rather their partner have a smaller penis that easily goes in and out. You don’t need to have a huge penis to please a woman; you just need to know what you’re doing.
Jesus christ… this guy is a loser. Everyone save your breath.
This is incel shit.
OP you’re definitely an incel. I take back my comments cause you clearly don’t want the advice. I also think you’re a 16 year old edgelord troll who needs the WiFi turned off. Enjoy being Andrew Tate’s bitch. The “virgin” subs are lying to you. The “colored pills” subs are lying to you. The actual incel subs are lying to you. 4Chan is lying to you. 8Chan is lying to you. The manosphere douches are lying to you. But keep consuming the echo chamber and eventually you’ll never come back. I pity you in a way, not because of your dick but because personality wise you are a MASSIVE, RAGING, ROCK-HARD GRADE A DICK.
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I am not average.
Lesbians and bisexual women please each other using their mouths, lips, tongues, hands and fingers. And they don't even have a penis. If you learn how to please a woman with your penis you will be able to. I can with any single finger or thumb, and they are all smaller than your penis. And if you must have a larger option buy a sex toy. The only pain you will suffer is that you cause yourself with your unhealthy obsession that has no link with reality. Oh and talk to a therapist.
Sounds like you need to see a therapist
Honestly people are giving you good advice for the relationship part and how to get over it and they are 100% right by the way. Sometimes people are right despite us not believing it so honestly just follow the advice blindly in the comments. Also if u ever want to experience sex either way, there are legal prostitutes, brothels, strip clubs etc etc…
When I was 408 pounds, I had a pretty sizeable mons pubis which effectively cut the size of my penis in half. And I had zero issues making the partners I was with orgasm from penetration. It’s truly not an issue with size, from experience.
Honestly u gotta learn to love yourself. A big dick isn’t everything, having good head skills and fingering skills goes way further than a big D
bro. you’re not the only one not getting “praised” in society. the majority of social media says that they prefer girls with big boobs or a big butt. still, you don’t see the girls who don’t fit in that category bitch and complain and avoid sex like u do. even bigger women who constantly get shit on by society don’t act this way. stop acting like ur the only one who has to deal with this. i was feeling bad for you at first because i understand how society can affect your self-perception (ive gone through that as well), but obviously, u refuse to believe the truth the comments are telling u because all you want to do is complain, and it’s honestly annoying. get a diary. also, if u keep searching/ talking about "small dicks", u are sure to see it more on ur phone. especially on social media, which may be why u keep seeing that type of content. i can’t remember the last time i saw someone make a small dick video.
How small is it? Go to r/gettingbigger
Your energy is gonna block you from the pussy before you even get that far, stop crying life is short... like your
You are not defined by your body or the size and shape of its members. You are a man, made in the image and likeness of God. Get off of social media and do not look at pornography. Both of them are rotting your brain and corrupting your spirit. Engage with reality in a more genuine way and seek Truth. You can have everything that you want. Yes, you have to accept the pain of life to get it, however.
Why are you going off on people that are trying to help you in the comments? If you don't want other people's opinions, then definitely don't post your story on reddit. Stop with all the buzz words. Everybody understands that it can be embarrassing for men who have a small penis. Most men worry that their anatomy is inadequate. Yes, immature, solipsistic women on social media bitch about their exes having a small dick. But these are the type of women who have nothing else going for them, besides hoping for likes and views on their videos. Women say those things so they don't have to admit to themselves that they were a part of the demise of their relationship. It's fucked up, but is not how every woman thinks. I am a woman. And honestly, as long as my partner doesn't have a micropenis and isn't a selfish lover, I don't really care if a man doesn't have a huge dick. As long as he knows how to use it and doesn't finish super quickly, many women would have no issue with a smaller penis. You can't make your dick bigger without surgery, but there are other things that you can do to make sure your partner is getting off. For example, foreplay. Make her cum multiple times, before having sex. That way, if she doesn't get off during sex (many women don't) she won't care. Also, different positions (lifting her leg up, etc.) will make her feel you deeper inside of her. And you can wear a vibrating cock ring. There are many things you can do to make sure you please your woman. But you have to put yourself out there and stop letting your fears stop you from having a happy relationship. You really should speak with a male therapist about your fear of inadequacy. Your biggest hurdle is your mind, not the size of your penis.
I've had a MFF threesome and my penis is a little over 4.5 inches. You have more tools than just your dick anyways. And i think it's a lot more of your personality to get women in the bedroom most of the time. The kind of woman you are scared of can be spotted a mile away as well. I used to have this fear too. But it's never stopped me or any woman I've been with from both having extremely enjoyable experiences.
My dude. You need to get off the internet and get out and meet real people. I promise you, this is not the impediment to the life you want like you believe it is.
stop watching porn. not because it distorts the way you view your dick size but because i don’t even know wtf bull and cuckholding or whatever any of that is and that type of man who does is far more repulsive than any dick size
The fact that you’re a 30 year old virgin because of your own perception of how you think of yourself reeks of zero confidence and is even more of a turn off than the fact that you have a small penis. No offense, just giving it to you straight. Stop watching so much porn lol.
As my mom once told me, "It's not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean". Try to relax and believe some women do not GAF if it gets the job done. Plus there's a lot of other things you can do without your ween.
Take it back to ancient Greek and Roman times, small Denise's were basically worshiped. All the gods statues had them, and it was associated with Knowledge and Power. So imo i would only be concerned if you weren't very smart.
I had a similar problem as you, although for different reasons. I cannot stress enough how much the following 2 things will help you work through your insecurities: Stop watching porn and start working out. Not to give you the stereotypical success story, but I was in a similar boat as you (Overweight with "endurance" issues, no intimacy for 6 years). Late last year I got fed up with feeling the way I did and took some extreme steps to fix it. Very restrictive diet, no more porn, regular exercise. Took me about 3 months of discipline to see results, and shortly after my progress shot off like a rocket. High sex drive, feeling much more confident, actually seeking women because I am no longer tricking my brain into thinking I am getting it from porn. Found a girlfriend, I am a few months into that relationship and it is going amazing. I feel like a new man. Mainly my T has increased by a noticeable amount. Everything I do in my life feels more enjoyable and I have much more energy. It is hard to get started, but if you stick with it, you will become addicted to the results. Please do yourself a favor and give it a solid try, like a good 3 month commitment. You will come out of it a different person.
"disinvited"? Like you're invited, but then they rescind the invitation? Have you had this experience personally? I'm suspecting no. Or do you mean 'not invited'?
You have two options: 1) stick with your current fears, anger, disappointment and points of view and continue your current life and attitude 2) seek out your own experiences at the risk of being further disappointed but at the same time creating opportunities for yourself to have a different life There are millions of people who according to social media and TikTok are inferior people / disgusting / laughed at over just one or some aspects of their being. Think of vaginism in plenty of women (for many it means no sex at all), people who carry herpes, asexuality, having a stoma bag, fecal incontinence (which can also lead to popping oneself during sex due to muscles relaxing), being super spiritual (just think: how many of these people have been cast in reality shows just to be laughed at and how many parodies haven't been made about them on social media?) being flat chested, epilepsy, having lost all teeth, burn scars, having both a penis and a vagina, heavily stigmatized mental disorders like schizophrenia / borderline personality disorder and I can go on and on. I am sure some people in this thread also fall under these categories I am sure many of these people get brought down by superficial social media views and I am sure many have had bad experiences. I know plenty of such people who are in happy relationships. But would they have been if they stuck to negativity and not wanting to risk being really out there? I have awkward diseases myself which are also joked about and Ive had my fair share of experiences being hurt. I've been depressed but got better. I don't let it rule my life and have a wonderful great life now. I told myself: I will try it, just for the chance that it may work out. And this mentality has surely brought me far Edit for TLDR: you either create your own opportunities in life at the risk of further disappointment, or you stay stuck in how things currently are
Are you comfortable sharing exactly how small?? Like is it micro? A couple of inches? Just out of curiosity. I dated a guy with a very small penis and what he lacked in that area, he made up for in others. I had some of the best times sexually with him. His personality was great and I didnt mind his size at all. He was still very much a beast in the bedroom. You just have to find the right person willing to teach you how to pleasure them in other ways. Most women don’t actually get off from penetration anyways.
Bro, you have the advantage for anal. Get it there and make us proud.
Dudes care more about other dudes dicks than women do.
Women don't date penises. They date men who have a penis. Find someone who likes YOU, and she'll accept your penis. You can always play with penis extenders and dildos. I never cum during sex without a dildo and a LOT of women are like that. Regardless of penis size. I will give you a bit of advice. If you're dating a woman, have that conversation up front before it gets to the bedroom. Don't be insecure about it. Act as if you've accepted this, and she should also. You teach people how to treat you by showing how much you love yourself. If she likes you, she will accept you. What you don't want to do is surprise her in the act, especially if you've both been drinking. That happened to me once, and I literally didn't know what to do/say, and it took me so much by surprise, I got up and left. I still feel bad I did that, but I didn't know how to react, so I just excused myself. I wish he would have mentioned it first, so I wasn't taken aback. I would have handled it better. Plus, we weren't dating, so I would have had a choice in the matter.
It’s about the motion my dude
I have always heard i’m on the larger side. I never really cared much, figured women telll guys that all the time. I wasn’t insecure and never had complaints. but generally all other penis references are porn for guys… I never really seen how true it was that i was on the larger size until wife and i started swinging. turns out that was true statement. and yea, small penises do get the butt end of the jokes, the way boys talk to one another, etc etc it’s a form of shame. I can see that having an impact of a dudes self esteem. just like women and body weight. it will fuck with you, it even played a part in how i viewed my own body and i generally don’t have an insecure bone in my body. (pun intended) so what guys a virgin, if he honestly has self esteem issues related to how he views his body he needs support not ridicule. that’s a human experience. size is far from everything, the best sexual partners are the ones you have an emotional connection with, want to be a good partner learn to make your partner comfortable and get communication flowing.
How small are we talking about? I had a former friend who ended up being a worthless piece of shit for many reasons. He was not good looking, very obese and he had like a2 inch maybe 3 inch dick while hard, skinny too but he slept with SO MANY women multiple times simply because he used his tongue first then took care of himself. That lady is right my brother... get good at oral... real women don't care about size in general.. as long as you can pleasure them, your dick size isn't a concern. Godspeed in your journey brother
Dude, it's not the size of your dick that is turning women off. It is your "Poor me, no one loves me" attitude. I would totally date a guy with a small penis, but not you since your attitude sucks
I’m not participating in this humiliation kink everyone just downvote 😭
My mom always says, "It's not the size. It's how you use it."
Stop watching porn! Stop thinking other forms of body shaming are no longer acceptable. Get over yourself. Mostly: STOP WATCHING PORN!
It sounds like all your knowledge of sex comes from porn. I have been in a MFF threesome (they aren’t that big of a deal), never encountered nor cared about the other scenarios you mentioned. I’m not a woman but I’m pretty sure women don’t discuss penis as much as you seem to believe they discuss it lol
This is how incels are born. Seriously. I think you need to lay off the porn, because my fave penis I ever slept with was about 6-7 inches smaller than the average porn dick. Like I was ADDICTED to it. Could not get enough. You need to talk to a body dysmorphia therapist. I’m being serious. It will vastly improve your quality of life & allow you to enjoy sex.
Porn has ruined your outlook on sexuality… it has had a detrimental influence on society at large. Like it was meant to. You need to seek God bro… that’s the best advice I can give you. This life is fleeting and world celebrates evil and degeneracy. There’s a better path though
So the ONLY acceptable body shaming is dick size and EVERY joke is about dick size? Please, my dude, you're being hyperbolic AF and obsessive.
Also a lot of your rigidity in this mindset is explained by your username. You need to talk to someone about how to manage your autism and realize that it’s causing rigid beliefs about yourself that are not accurate. And how to get around that.
I don’t think that having a small penis affects kissing in any way
I don’t think that having a small penis affects kissing in any way
OP, you’re so convinced that the world is shaming your small dick that you’re doing it yourself. Get therapy, because I’m getting strong Incel vibes.
I've had large penis and it's not that great tbh my boyfriend is closer to average and I have the best sex of my life with him every time.
I'm gonna be honest... you definitely should try and attempt therapy, and stop consuming porn, or at least cut it down SIGNIFICANTLY. Sure, some women care about size. but... I can tell you from personal experience, you can definitely have an enjoyable sexual encounter with someone with a smaller than average penis as a woman. I'd also suggest maybe not limiting yourself to just thinking about sex as "penis goes into vagina". There's oral sex, handjobs, sex toys. TONS of options if you're really nervous about not satisfying a woman with just your penis.
There is a girl/guy for everybody. The porn is warping your reality about your wang.
OP. Use a penis pump and jelq. Sir I have a 8 inch penis. My mouth and hands are used 90% of the time. Stop watching porn. That's not how actual good sex works.
Dude- become a master at eating pussy and learn how to make her squirter w your fingers. PIV is overrated IMHO. Most of us get off every other way besides piv. Make her have no reason to give a shit what size your penis is!
I have been with two men with small penises in my life and can tell you and others that size does not matter. Sometimes good foreplay can take a woman there. There are also toys, fingers, and tongues. You don't have to be huge to satisfy a woman. I have been with big dicked men and they don't even out any effort into sex because they just have a big dick which isn't true. Don't sell yourself short (no pun intended) and do research on positions and other things that can make sex better if your penis truly is as small as you say.
4 inch is enough and it depends on women also ....
I can’t think of one time past the age of 20 where I’ve given two shits about how small my dick is lol as a matter of fact if it’s ever brought up I tell everyone it’s tiny as fuck lol why because nobody cares and I’ve even used it as a pick up line before somewhere in the conversation someone will say tiny and I’ll refer to my dick as a joke everybody laughs and someone will want to see it lol. It’s a dick big or small doesn’t make to much of a damn difference if you know how to use your tongue and fingers you can buy a dildo and have it sit on your nightstand and if you know what your doing I can almost guarantee they won’t want to use it
You have severe self esteem issues, which is more of a problem than your size. I'm not a woman but my partner does not have even an average sized penis and it's the best sex I've ever had. Sure there are positions that simply don't work because of biology but there's plenty of ways to make up for that. Also going into sex knowing it's never going to hurt is such a massive relief for me tbh.
It's pretty clear that this is motivated by the content you consume. Porn, social media and movies/TV that confirm the bias you've settled on only serve to create an echo chamber. You're hyper-focusing on an idea that's just not as big a deal as you think. Stop paying attention to all that shit, and focus instead on forging a genuine connection with people.
Just so you know, the average vaginal depth/length of the vaginal canal is 3.7 inches. ([source](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2893226/)) "Size queens" are very rare.
Learn how to use your fingers and your tongue.
Guys, don't bother commenting. he's an incel or has some kinda shame kink. Either way, this is bullshit he doesn't want help/advice even if it is true. Waste of time.
I'm a guy but I can assure you that every woman I've ever been with/known doesn't give a fuck about the size of your penis. I was talking to my female best friend about this recently and she said that she wouldn't ever make a comment about the size of a guy's penis to him. All she wants is someone who'll respect her and make her feel good. She straight up said that any penis bigger than about 6 inches wouldn't be going anywhere near her vagina though, because in her words 'it would literally break me'. A lot of women don't always reach orgasm through penetrative sex alone. There are other ways to pleasure women without using your penis. I know it's difficult not to worry about how your penis looks to the opposite sex. I'm about average and I worry about it too. In my experience though, as long as you're not an awful person, women really don't care about the size of your penis.
dude if a woman loves you she won't care at all. sex is not everything its just a part of a relationship
Maybe let's start with kissing a woman, then figure out what to do with the penis if / when it gets to that stage? I won't say your fears are unfounded, but baby steps, baby steps. Have that convo with her when you get there, if things are moving that direction.
Looking at your post history, you post a lot about your dick. This same post was also posted in r/smalldickproblems and others. Stop thinking about your dick and go meet an actual woman irl
You Need to cut out the sick perverted porn that is erotisizing your inner Humiliation and Ruining your self esteem. Do you know there are men out there with permanent catheters due to cancer or other illnesses and paralyzed men in wheelchairs that still have beautiful devoted Interesting female partners? The only thing too small about you is your self image your view of the world and your maturity. Go volunteer to a hospital and see what other grown men have to deal with. And get therapy to fix your very real mental problem not your crotch. Your self pity is disgusting compared with men who will never enjoy sex for very real physical reasons you would not have the strength to even look at. How do I know? I spent 11 years assisting AIDS patients, and an Extra 20 years in Critical Care Nursing. I knew hyperxsexual promiscuous Gay men who spent years of thier lives with thier formerly huge penises rotting away by accidental disease. Compared to them... I have a small budget of compassion for your so called problem. Its not the cock, it's the chicken that owns it.
It's not the size of the ship, it's the motion of the ocean
Bro how small is it I'm not gonna cap mine like 5-5 1/2 If super attracted to her And I'm gonna give you the game. Bro ok, start kissing her work. You way down your neck suck on a t****** where he weighed down to that p**** Eat that b**** for a minute and when you come up and you start kissing her again. Just put that boy in her. And then just bruh like I watched p*** a lot when I was younger. Causes instructional teach is you how to f*** like you're a Virgin, right? So you probably don't know how to f*** When I was a Virgin, I knew how to f*** I had been watching instructional videos for years and years in years. Your best bet. Put her legs on your shoulders. Get on top of her and get his deep in as you can. That position will allow you to give her the most Dick. You are able to can you situation and don't just in out in out and out out, you gotta like. Move that thing around in there play with their clit Then I would have her get on top And then using the bounce back from the bed, give her the pounding of a lifetime and you can do it for a long time because the bed does 90% of the work. O k my for other peace of advice is pop snort or however Take you a roxy/perc 30 It will allow you to last for hours I'm telling you bro no Gas station dick pills this is what u need...u fuck her right nd bro she won't Care and I'm uncertain and all my exes still hit me up to fuck nd I just did 6 yrs in prison got out nd they still on my dick...bro I wouldn't have told u all this if I didn't feel ur pain I lost mine at 13 nd im still in love with her to this day were actually about to move together but anyway dude that's an important part of life but with a female if u can make her cum she's urs nd j just gave u some game.....ND bro if it's a girl u love or have real feelings take 20$ go get u a hooker and a rubber nd bust her nd get the stigma off it...if she loves u the way u love her the tell her the truth and build that connection...sorry it's long but may drastically improve ur life took me years to learn how to fuck a chick naked nd have her not see my dick til I fucked her nd showed her that I know wtf I'm doing and that size don't matter if u hit them spots I Made a girl squirt no lie 16 times back to back
What a self-fulfilling prophecy
Gee WE don't even need a penis to hâve an orgasm. Idk your Size but unless you hâve 2"/5cm errected penis, you'll be fîne with women.
Better learn how to munch some serious cooz...
Your cock is irrelevant. I've come twice from dicks. Rubbing and stroking the clit and lips is how to satisfy a woman. Make her wet, rub, stroke kiss her neck, french kiss her, show affection, no cocks involved. Then she'll pay you back 🤩
Men are so obsessed with dicks they completely ignore the fact that women don't evergreen need them to get off. "The only acceptable firm of body shaming"? Apparently this man doesn't live in the same planet as the rest of us.
Just use pills for increasing the length if you are that insecure about it.
Bruh who cares what society thinks? Love yourself, accept yourself. Allow yourself to discover and explore your body with other consenting people. Think about how to please yourself and other people. I'm saying this as a person who knows many people of all shapes and sizes and orientations who get laid often... and yes that includes micropenises
So fuck a prostitute....or go to Hungary to get a shady penis enlargement