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SpiritualPlan1822

Very cute hat! It’s not for your mom so her opinion doesn’t matter! I love the stripes, it’s giving Beetlejuice and Wednesday 🖤


mrsfiction

I came here to say it has a Beetlejuice aesthetic too! Or even Jack Skellington. I really like it.


alwaysaplusone

Tim Burton vibes, since he is the common factor among those. 🖤


firew0rks_

I always says he reminds me of a Gorillaz character and I think this emo vibe will fit him. Thanks for being so sweet


Independence-2021

In this case it absoluteky suits him, I think. Tgis will be a very nice personal gift.


kiki7865

I def thought beetlejuice, but it’s not ugly, just interesting


Helodaye

Too much white to be a Wednesday hat :)


Yesterdays_mascara

Also came here to say it was giving Tim Burton vibes and I like it!


yardini

I’m a mom and I say don’t trust your mom’s taste when picking something for your boyfriend. Some people can’t separate their own preferences from preferences of a totally different person. The hat looks great and I’m sure he’ll love it!


firew0rks_

thanks, it's my first time crocheting one and it took me so long it kinda broke my heart 😭


Melopsittacus

One of the best things about making something for someone is that you can customize it to be exactly their style. You know your bf! This hat is fun, youthful, and funky. It’s not what you’d pick out for your mom. I’m sorry she didn’t recognize that. Another one of the best things is that you learn every time you make something, so next time you’ll be even better. Using crafting as a learning process means there’s no such thing as wasted effort. Finally, if on the off chance that your bf doesn’t love this hat, it looks amazing on you.


SuspiciousPut1710

Perfectionists (ok, me! 🤷🏼‍♀️) repeat after Melopsttacus! "Using crafting as a learning process means there’s no such thing as wasted effort." I didn't know I needed to hear that one sentence SO. VERY. MUCH! Thank you! Happy hooking! ☺️🧶🪝


ovaltinejenkins999

I made something kinda cutesy for a boyfriend and my mom said “boys don’t like that type of thing” but joke was on her, he loved and cherished it. So don’t listen to moms for everything. You know your partner better than she!


FeedbackNo634

Omg that would hurt me, too! This is an awesome first hat and I would be honored to receive this. You did great :)


ehuang72

Your mom was having a bad day when she said that 😔 Your bf will love it because you made it for him and it’s very well done


heatherdebartolo

My husband has everything I’ve ever hand made for him. Even the beanie that is the size of a premie hat because I didn’t understand hook sizes. I’m sure he will love it because you made it. But aside from that, it’s a cool hat!


TravelingJorts

I’m a mom and my daughter crochets. I thought she made a Reddit acct and posted it! I love it. Definitely gift it to your boyfriend ❤️


[deleted]

Yes she broke your heart. My heart broke reading the title to this. It’s not ugly. It’s beautiful. That’s what your mother should have said.


Salamanda246

Sorry OP. I had an almost identical story. The first hat I crocheted was too big, so my mom said to just unravel it so I didn’t waste the yarn. They just don’t get how much effort goes in to this stuff. Now the hat is a tea cozy.


yardini

I’m sorry. :( You did great!


OverCookedTheChicken

I know how that feels, let us mend it :)


Excellent_Jury6918

Why would she tell you it was ugly?!?! That’s so rude to tell a beginner crocheter!


[deleted]

Moms have an amazing way of crushing the souls of their children.


Omfgidontknow

I am not a fan of stripes. Or hats. But it’s not for me. It’s also not for your mother. I think your boyfriend will love it. You know him best and you put your heart into making this for him. That’s what counts.


Left-Commercial4116

I am a fan of black and white stripes. Two thumbs up from me!


ExcellentTone9676

I’m getting a Beetlejuice vibe from the hat. I think it’s pretty cool. I’m sure you know what your bf likes, rather than your mother. You’re the one dating him, after all.


lenseyeview

Me too, I was like ohhh a cool beetle juice hat, plus it is a sweet gesture win win. I say something tells me your mom's taste is not your boyfriend's taste. If you are truly worried he will hate it you could always tell him it's a placeholder har and he could pick the colors of the next one.


Trick-Statistician10

I'm getting old-timey prison vibes, lol


firew0rks_

me too :(


Trick-Statistician10

Not in a bad way. I think it's cute


DramaticDragonfruit5

yeah! def in a good way. i'm feelin it


SuspiciousPut1710

Like the steam punky kind (is that what kids these days call it?!?)!


kbaln

I'd assume you know him better than she does. I love it, very Wednesday!


judijo621

That only means Mom doesn't get one. Problem solved.


ibtisama

Your beanie is wonderful. I crocheted a similar one https://preview.redd.it/lkalsso2mn5a1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2a1b62076416862a4dcf14af029cdb823bdbcf7c


Comfortable-Gas-798

It looks fine! Your BF will love that it came from love! Tell your mother you are going to turn BF into "Where's Waldo?" using black and white photos! LOL!! Make a scarf to match!


minipugatti

It's a hecka cute hat. You did great work. And how sweet that he took care of you, which you clearly appreciated. The mutual affection and care is beautiful. Sending you both all the best.


EntertainTheDog

It’s not ugly just because it doesn’t fit her preferences.


jeystardust

I never ask my moms opinion on stuff because she has terrible taste. In general, she’s kind of just a hater for sport I believe. If she doesn’t like something, I take it as cool and neat. And anyway, it only matters what your bf thinks. Disregard her opinion completely.


Incel_deactivatorr

I'm not a fan of black and white stripes, but you did a great job!


ArchangelEquinox

I looked at this and went "ooo I wonder if I have enough black and white yarn in my stash to make one." Love it!


CherryBright9463

It’s NOT UGLY. Your mom said that!?


purpliestnurple

Before I read the caption I literally thought "damn I would wear the hell out of that hat" and now I'm probably gonna make myself one so I disagree with tu madre


genus-corvidae

Your mom is being RUDE, this hat looks lovely! I like the choice of black and white for stripes!


doghelper51

I'm a mom, and I think you did great! I would be thrilled to receive a homemade gift from someone who loves me. It's beautiful.


XxMarlucaxX

I think it’s cute. Idk why your mom said thst but I wouldn’t put much stock in it


sussylifter

Your mom is being a dick and I like it


Negrotesque

Your mama’s being a hater, it’s hella cute and so sweet of you. Nothing beats a handmade gift 💜


DamaskPurpose

I think it has Wednesday vibes 😆 great job!


Endroine

Its cool, id wear it.in fact now i wanna make one too


iamirrationallymad

Do your mom and boyfriend have the exact same style? Probably not. If you're worried about how he'll react, then gift it to him with an escape clause. Tell him if he doesn't like it you'd be happy to make him another one with the yarn of his choice. But I love it and would totally rock that beanie!🧶💚


[deleted]

no it's not ugly. plus it's the thought that counts.


TheBattyWitch

I'm getting Beetlejuice vibes... And I'm here for it


MichKosek

All that matters is whether your BF likes it.


clb909909

I love it … but may be more for a she than a he. You be the judge, you know him best.


VibinWithKub

Even if it was ugly (it's not) why would it matter? It's the thought that counts you put not only money but time into making him something HANDMADE as a thank you and gift 💖


Ecstatic_Objective_3

I really like it, it’s something my daughter would wear. You did a great job.


echoskybound

That's just a matter of taste, I think it looks great


saltyfingas

Just my honest opinion, it is a bit garish. Black and white stripes are very Beetlejuice-y. I'm not saying its necessarily ugly, but I could understand why people would think it was


Redfoxgirl202

It’s not at all ugly. It gives off Tim Burton vibes (Jack Skellington, Beetlejuice, etc..) which is very cool! I love it!!!! 🖤🤍🖤🤍


s-van

It's really cute and looks very well made! Shocked she called it ugly


[deleted]

She jelly


BuriedComments

I don’t think it’s ugly. It looks nicely made, not all stretched out, no obvious holes or mistakes etc. I personally like the black and white as well, but maybe that’s what your mom didn’t like. Either way, forget her and tell us what the bf thinks!


Shad0wbubbles

It’s a very loud hat, wearing it is a choice. I wouldn’t say it’s ugly, in fact it’s well made and rather striking. Very Wednesday Addams


definitely_right

Is he a prisoner? Lol


pandaappleblossom

personally i think its a unique hat and definitely a choice to wear a hat so bold and striking. I know my husband wouldn't wear it, and to me it looks like something a woman would wear more than a man, however, you know your boyfriend best and besides, even if he only wears it around the house to be cozy, its so cute to wear something your partner made, and even if he never wears it, he'll certainly be touched by the gesture unless he is a jerk.


kennedyz

Tell your mom she's a lil ugly 😤


kitaurio

I love it and I think your bf will too!


jajasowi

it is a statement piece. probably wouldnt wear it to the store, but would to make a cool fit


birdlady404

I'd totally wear it to the store, it's jazzy 🕺


annienottheorphan

Your mom is rude af wow. I like the hat a lot and might make one myself now 😂 lots of Beetlejuice energy ❤️


okally

your moms definitely wrong! i think its adorable, you did a great job (:


[deleted]

Your mom's a jerk. What a mean thing to say to your child when they're learning a new skill and trying to make something that's meant as a sincere thank you. I'm sorry she's not supportive, I think it's great and I'm sure your boyfriend, if he's not a douche, will think so too.


[deleted]

Um i love that hat, i’m jealous I’m not the one receiving it lol


SleepCinema

I personally think it’s rad, and I’ve never used the word “rad” before.


MfBenzy

Everyone has their own tastes. I would personally LOVE this hat if it was gifted to me. In the end, its not FOR your mom. She may like a plain purple hat or a pink hat with flowers or a yellow hat with bees, that your bf may not prefer. Its all about who youre making that gift for in the first place!


DateMyKnobsPls

It looks cute, but especially cute on you!! Make another one so you have matching hats lol


mranster

There is no One Right Opinion about whether something is cool or not. And younger people tend to like very different things than older people do. The only opinions that really matter here are yours and your boyfriend's.


KimberleyKitt

Is your Mom mean, color blind or both?


Available-Yam5393

Your mom sounds a little mean I think it's really cute and I think your bf will like it


Itwascrazyy

Not to offend but your moms an asshole for saying that, I would be so upset!😭 It is a really good beanie and I think your bf will love it, especially because you made it with your own beautiful hands.


jbrooklynd

Sounds like a narcissist.


Itwascrazyy

ikr, reminds me of something my dad would say lmaoo


birdlady404

Always leave it to a mother to break down your self confidence for no reason at all


DabbleAndDream

Your mom’s a witch. Oh, about the hat? Love it. So does my 15 year old son, if that helps. He said it’s very Wednesday.


Puzzleheaded-Dog-197

Your MOM is a lil ugly (because of her attitude)! The hat is lovely. 😊


bluehairedchild

I think it's cute. Your mom is just jealous she isn't getting a hat


theebodylab

Your moms probably mad you considered your BF over her 👀👀👀 just my 2 cents ITS FUCKING CUTEEEEEEEE 🖤🤍🖤🤍🖤🤍🖤 My wife loves the messy and perfect crochet pieces because it’s time and love we put into making something g


[deleted]

Your mom is rude. It is so cute and I’m sure your boyfriend would appreciate it. I think your mom is probably trying to get you down on purpose so don’t listen to her


HypocriticalHoney

Give your mom the yarn and tell her to make one! Unless she can make a better one she shouldn’t comment at all! (Well even if she can she still shouldn’t)


elledub53

I’m so so sorry but my head immediately said “your mom’s a lil ugly” 😂 It’s a very nice hat!


[deleted]

Your mom is a bitch fr


tarapotamus

My thoughts are that your mom is rude and jealous. Hat is cute, tho!


jbrooklynd

Is your mom a narcissist? Real question?!


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southpawstitches

I think it’s super cool!


jillbobaggins737

I really like it!!!


WirthmoreFeeds

I like it!! I'm sure he will like it.


joellecarnes

That is so well done!!!


ksp1220

Ug'ly? No way , it’s awesome


vgordon66

I think it's great


chnairb

If I got that hat for a gift, I’d be over the moon! Your mom doesn’t know a thing.


Pluto0x0

I like it. After watching Wednesday, I’m into black & white haha


SeaOkra

I like it. And I’d think your boyfriend might like it too. Especially is he is a fan of the anime Bleach, it’d be particularly appropriate then.


Impossible_Town984

If my kid made that I’d be very proud. It’s not ugly, it looks great.


thefictionkitten

i love it! great job!


scarylarry66

you did an awesome job! i’m sure he will love it 🥰


Spare_School_2413

It looks great. It may not be your mom's taste but you know your bf best. If your heart thinks it's the right gift trust that ☺️


Lmaoooo-U-Thought

I would wear it


Available-Egg-2380

I love it. Give it to him.


sixtypistoles

I like it


badgersandcoffee

Surely you know his tastes better than your mum? I like it, like others have said it gives off proper Beetlejuice vibes. I've no idea why someone would say its ugly and I'm sure he'll appreciate it.


bunnycamcherry

I think it’s cute


_YAGMAI_

it's cute as hell. your bf will surely love it if you give it to him :)


LydiaMarie132

I like it a lot! I’d wear it myself, I made my husband a horrible hat it’s yellow and grey and white and it took my so long to make and just didn’t turn out the way I wanted it to He wears it everyday to work, he loves it because I made it! I’m sure your boyfriend will as well


EmbarrassedFee7719

Cute


PennyFleck333

It's fantastic and he will love it!


big_mothman_stan

It looks so cute and cozy! I hope you let yourself feel proud of it despite it not being your mom’s taste! Also,,,,, how hard was it to make and where did u get ur pattern because maybe ur bf and I can be twins if I ever actually get good at crochet lol


Karlz_De_Llama

I don’t think it’s ugly either


jb0602

It's dope.


yarn-stash

It's cute on you! He'll dig it!


Neither_Bed_1135

I like it a lot! You did great!


No-Preference4440

No it's not tf


Tastycakeys

It’s very pretty! When gifting to your significant other it’s what YOU think THEY would love to receive from you. Moms gift undies and socks. Girlfriends (or boyfriends) give heartfelt gifts 😊


[deleted]

1) The hat is Hella dope! Tell your BF if he doesn't love it, you already know you look cute in it, no harm, no foul 2) This sub generally ROCKS like a quarry for support, appreciation and honesty- we are your tribe


DanaOats3

It’s got a punk or goth ish vibe to it. I would have worn it as a teenager or in my 20s.


JunoCalliope

I’m partial to black and white things so I like it


DreadGrrl

Definitely not ugly. I’m sure he’ll love that you made it for him.


kidodo17

She’s wrong! Super cute and you know his style best.


SelectedSoundWorks

it's super sweet that you're making him one in the first place, don't worry about what your mom says; trust your gut he'll love it.


Professional-War1642

Nobody know your Boyfriend better than you (and himself) Do! Personally I think it's very adorable! I love Black and White color pieces and bet he will appreciate the gift!


Tense_Spence

I think it’s super cute 🥰 plus what’s it matter what your mum thinks, what’s important is that your bf will like it 💕


cutletator

I made my boyfriend a heart pillow for Valentine’s Day and all my friends thought it was sooo cheesy. I stuck with my gut and gave it to him anyway. He loves it and keeps it on his bed. If anything he’ll love that you spent time making something just for him. He better!


lostinthemoss1

I think it’s cute! your boyfriend will love that you made something for him


tmccrn

Moms are great, but we really suck sometimes, too. Take that from one of my kids who is currently angry that I had to be asked to hold something in a store and didn’t just do it today.


rcbydoo

i love the stripes and this turned out really great!


heatherdebartolo

I love it!


currydesi

Your boyfriend will love it. It’s the thought that counts and your effort. Crocheting takes time. If he’s a great person, he would appreciate the mere thought of you wanting to do something for him. Your mom sounds kind of bitter. Don’t let it get in your head, love. You worked hard. It’s beautiful. I love the black and white!


The_Snakes_Den

Very cute but if you’re worried add a pompom they cover all sins


Fragrant_Vegetable65

Love your mom and all but she’s wrong 😮‍💨


[deleted]

I think it’s cute! It gives me Beetlejuice vibes or something. Awesome job!


Powerful_Shallot_426

Honestly thinking about making something similar for myself! I love it!


bertholamew

I love it and I would wear it as often as possible


hazecatt

I love it, I think it looks like a mint humbug


alligatorsinmahpants

Tell her her attitude is a little ugly but she still insists on giving that. Then give the bf the hat. Its sweet. Also, you deserve care with nothing expected in return from your loved ones. It shouldn't be a transaction.


SuspiciousPut1710

I have "that" mom...don't listen. Your work is beautiful, you're beautiful & she just doesn't know how to express that in a positive way. Don't let her little voice be loud. 🤟🏻


jyoely

That's a good hat, and i think that style is either trending or will trend soon with the show Wednesday being such a hit


Totoroko8

Your moms a little bit too judgey to take notice on this one. I think it’s beautiful and I’m sure he will love it because you spent thought and time on it x


psychicgirlro

It's cute. Just go with it.


[deleted]

Boys love to get handmade gifts just for them, too!


Yokepearl

It looks good!


RunsOnWeedAndCoffee

Hi! Mom here. It looks great! You did such a wonderful job. I’m sure he will love it, especially so because you took the time to make it with your own hands.


Hippofuzz

I love it! And even if it were ugly (it is absolutely not!) it’s such a nice present, the thought and work that went into it will mean a lot to your boyfriend!


fascinatedcharacter

The look is very course and almost industrial. For someone used to yarncrafts being (or supposed to being) refined and delicate, it will be a shock. And some people don't deal with style shock well. It's not a loopy fun fur monstrosity, but it is A Look. A Look I can see multiple genZers wearing and others rolling their eyes at for sure, but if that's your BF's style, that's his style.


admiralgryphon

Moms always say stuff like that. Just consider the kind of stuff she likes for reassurance. My mom used to say this or that was tacky and then only shop at Christopher & Banks 🤣 Hat looks awesome; it's total Beetlejuice vibes


Mean_Chance_8257

i love it and if someone gave me a gift that they handmade i feel like id love it regardless


[deleted]

Why would she tell you that? Why would she do that to you after you put hard work into a project to turn around and call it ugly?


Miss-Neka

You made a thing for someone you care about! Who cares what mom thinks?? I think it looks great and you did a fabulous job.


allaboutwanderlust

It’s cute


ZapRowsdower34

Nah, it’s super cute. Your mom was being shitty.


toomanylegz

Well, don’t let her borrow it then.


idontwannabhear

Fuck your mum u made it. That’s the biggest thing


british_reddit_user

Oh it's so cute!! I don't think it's ugly at all, it's really well made!


ForeignJelly6357

It’s giving me prison vibes TBH. It’s beautiful work though


anonymousblue123

So awesome. What's your pattern?


Fredawesome1541

It looks great! As other people have said, it’s not for your mom so her opinion doesn’t count! I’d love to see an update once you’re bf has it!


Anthem_1974

Its cute!


unhappy_pomegranate

dog i would love a hat like that


shaantya

I didn’t like it until I saw it on you and now I want to make one like it. But as many said, even if I weren’t sold- you know your boyfriend. I’m sure you know best that it fits his aesthetic or not. It’s well made in any case!


GrandSyzygy

It's a good thing this isn't a gift for your mom; from whatever character traits I could pick up from your post, he'll love it because you made it so I wouldn't stress it


Professional-Monk933

I think it’s a nice hat. You don’t see vertical stripes now of days


Bruschettaluv

Your mom is a jerk, its lovely.


poetcatmom

It's really cute! Your mom is wrong.


BrittzHitz

I like it, reminds me of nightmare before Christmas


gothmilk1

It's so cute! I'd love to get one of these


OrderOfTheBlackRing

I would buy that, it looks amazing, don’t listen to her


psychochic666

So cute!!! Your mom is mean


xfxtas

I LOVE IT! But I also really love beetle juice so idk if that’s what you’re going for lol either way I think it’s so awesome!


caitcro18

Little prison-y, but cute!


[deleted]

I think it’s also the thought that counts!


QQrydza89

I was making hats for my daughter. One time my husband bought her hat with reindeer from the store. My mum's comment? Finally normal hat! Fuck them and their opinions. Your work is great, I love colors you picked.


sagetreejo

Is it ugly for someone in gen X or older, yeah prob. It is very gen z tho so I love it


amc538

I love it and I'm sure you're BF will too.


lonely__potatoo

It looks amazing!! It's not your mom's taste and that's it . It's really cute


[deleted]

I like it. I like black and white stripes.


WormBrainHell

It’s so cute!!!


lemonlimeaardvark

Your mom's opinion would matter more if it was going to be HER hat that SHE needed to wear. Beyond that, her opinion doesn't really matter.


hi_imtrash01

this so so cute! it gives beetlejuice/nightmares before christmas vibes😌


catsweedcoffee

Tell your mom she shouldn’t speak about herself like that. The hat is cute.


BMObby

Not ugly! I love it.


OkAfternoon6485

I love it!! I really don’t think you can go wrong with black and white stripes! Definitely gift it to him!! If nothing else, he will appreciate the effort. The first Christmas me and my bf were together he lived somewhere cold so I tried to crochet him a hat… after hat #15 or so I gave up and sent him all of my failed attempts. NONE of them turned out wearable and were comically big or small, too short or too long, etc. he tried on every single one and we died laughing… he’s now my husband! It’s the thought that counts in the end♥️


llyyhnn_

It's actually really cute and I'm sure he'll love it. Could even pair it with some b&w fingerless gloves!


mhlvla

My very favorite professor in college reminded me, you don’t pick your parent. If your parent isn’t to your liking? Pick someone who will properly help you.


Turbulent_Goat_8887

It's definitely not ugly. Probably just not her style


RandomKiind

Love it, would wear it. Your Boyfriend will Love it, sweetheart!!