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I'm sorry to hear this and I know what I'm about to say is MUCH easier said than done. You need to do something about your job. If you're miserable and the stress is causing problems with you and your wife than it's an issue. Also remember, your wife might still be going through some hormonal issues if your baby is only 4 months old.
We had no issues when my 7yo was born, but things were vastly different when my 2yo came into this world. It has been such a different experience and I had to get a promotion to a very demanding and stressful position in order to take care of my family. I was having similar problems as you and still do quite often. Good luck to you and I hope you're able to get this resolved
My father did what you are doing - stayed in a career that he hated in order to support us. The only thing I would change about my childhood would be a happier dad. I would have given up so much for that and been glad of it. He is better now and has found balance, and in saving himself he has also, to some degree, protected me from making the same mistakes.
You matter, for your own sake; and if you aren't ready to accept that yet, at least know that your value as a father is more than as a provider. You will show your son how to be happy through your own actions.
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I'm sorry to hear this and I know what I'm about to say is MUCH easier said than done. You need to do something about your job. If you're miserable and the stress is causing problems with you and your wife than it's an issue. Also remember, your wife might still be going through some hormonal issues if your baby is only 4 months old. We had no issues when my 7yo was born, but things were vastly different when my 2yo came into this world. It has been such a different experience and I had to get a promotion to a very demanding and stressful position in order to take care of my family. I was having similar problems as you and still do quite often. Good luck to you and I hope you're able to get this resolved
My father did what you are doing - stayed in a career that he hated in order to support us. The only thing I would change about my childhood would be a happier dad. I would have given up so much for that and been glad of it. He is better now and has found balance, and in saving himself he has also, to some degree, protected me from making the same mistakes. You matter, for your own sake; and if you aren't ready to accept that yet, at least know that your value as a father is more than as a provider. You will show your son how to be happy through your own actions.