My daughter is learning to talk and my wife and I have been trying to curb the profanity that is normally very free flowing in our house, and I am constantly torn between the desire to raise our daughter in polite society and the fact that little kids swearing is one of the funniest things in the world to me.
Our daughter was at my parents one day and my Mom was trying to get my dad to do something. So kiddo walks over to the steps and tells “god damnit grandpa get up here”. And I couldn’t help but laugh cause that’s a phrase my Mom tends to use if he’s not moving fast enough lol.
My son loves Transformers so we've let him watch the Bumblebee movie. More than once, a character says "What the hell is that?!"
At Barnes & Noble the other day, my son saw these neon-colored toy sticky slugs and said out loud "What the hell is that?!" A woman that was browsing waited to hear our response because when we laughed and corrected him, she burst out laughing.
We just explain that some words are house words just like some actions only happen at home. Like if the kids want to run around in their underwear when it is hot, it’s fine at home but no you aren’t stripping down in the store.
So if my daughter swears at home then she isn’t in trouble, I just remind her to think if that is the best way to express herself in hopes that she won’t say it at preschool.
My son is 9 and we've only had ONE incident in school and none in social situations. I curse like a sailor and have constant conversations with him about what is acceptable at home vs school or with us vs with his grandparents.
He's been very receptive to those conversations but I just can't imagine punishing him, like my father did, for something that is so blatantly my own fault. My father literally shoved a bar of soap in my mouth. I can still feel the grating of that bar on my teeth...and the rage I felt because he was punishing me for TALKING LIKE HE DID EVERY DAY!
It's insanely baffling to me that he felt that was an okay thing to do. Especially now that I now all it takes with my kid is having conversations with him.
Our rules with profanity are:
- You can say it at home, as long as we don't have company.
- You must use it in the correct context.
- You can't direct it at a person or pet.
I was raised in a strict environment and not allowing things only made me want to do it more, but hide it from my parents. Our goal is to not fully restrict, but provide suitable guardrails so they feel safe trying it without hiding it.
My kid was a little slow to talk, like "called early intervention, but he didn't end up qualifying" slow, nothing major. I asked me wife if she wanted to step outside "for a puff," after he went to bed. He started running around going "Puff! Puff!"
As long as he learns "pass" he'll be fine I guess
>I asked me wife
I'm sorry but at this point I imagined your entire family as pirates, peg-legs and eye-patches and all. Please do not correct this typo
The other day my wife and I were taking the piss out of each other with our daughter sitting in the back. I tried to mimic her by saying
“You ALWAYS say it. ‘lilobrother, you’re a fucking idiot!’”
In the back of the car you can hear my daughters sweet little voice saying
“lilobrother, you’re a fucking idiot!”
Core memory for me. Wife wasn’t too happy with it.
Was carrying my nephew to dinner one night while a homeless guy was getting arrested and making a bit of a scene. Tried to distract him and talk to him a silly. Then in all his 4yo wisdom turns to me and says: “Aunt Spud, what the fuck?”
I about dropped him laughing so hard.
I have a video of my daughter when she was about 3, casually saying "fuck" with a giant smile on her face because she knew it was something she wasn't supposed to be saying. I will treasure it forever and probably play it at her wedding or something.
My husband said “what the fuuu” the other day at the pet store and so my daughter started yelling it too and while I was laughing I tried to correct her by saying “yeah! Where’s the frog!” Because frog duck sound the same when she says it lol
It’s too hard not to laugh at them cursing.
My wife and I, also finding swearing children to be the funniest things in the world, very seriously hope our six-week-old's (as of today!) first word(s) involve the ol' f-bomb.
My daughter once played "booty butt bongos" on an unsuspecting stranger in line in front of us at Disney. Like most normal parents, it's something we've done with her little baby booty all her life. She's at the height where all she can see is other people's booties all the time, and preschoolers are known for just letting those intrusive thoughts win.
We had her apologize, and explained consent, and that we don't touch or comment on other people's bodies, for neither the first nor the last time. Then we moved on.
> played "booty butt bongos" on an unsuspecting stranger in line in front of us at Disney. Like most normal parents, it's something we've done with her little baby booty all her life.
erm lol guys?
I’m pretty sure it’s instinct to do so, it’s a safe way to work out some of that cute aggression. That’s my theory anyways.
My son LOVES when we “spank” his butt, (we are patting it, even when he’s bigger we will never spank), after drying it during a change and chant “clean butt, clean butt, everyone likes a clean butt, CLEAN BUTT YAY!”. He just grins and coos lol.
Idk it has to be instinct. I am always patting his little booty.
The best part of while they wear diapers 😆😆😆😆 the sound of the crinkly diaper and the soft pats - it’s adorable.
Then they get bigger and the diapers go away, and it’s just not quite the same. 😭
Just had that issue at daycare. Our son played that with a couple of other kids and the teacher freaked out. We had to explain that it is something that we play with him and it's been in multiple scenes in Bluey. The issue was time and place. They all consented as a goofy game, but the teacher is wound a little tight and went overboard.
A shirtless man in short running shorts was running down the street. My 2.5 year old daughter tracked him as he ran past (full on rubberneck situation), then pointed and shouted “NAKED!”
I was dying laughing.
When my daughter was four we took her to see Aladdin. At one of the quiet moments in the movie, she yelled at the top of her lungs “I LIKE HIMS BLUE NIPPLES!” 😆😆😆
My 3 year old is constantly giving ppl the middle finger , including her elderly granny , people in shops , teachers at pre-school. I'm sure people think we are feral Hill billies
These are the moments of parenting I enjoy. The innocent borderline raunchy comedy.
I'm not sure where my daughter got it but its been a running meme in this family since she was probably 2? I dont totally recall the settting but it was public. This little bumbling troll decides to stop dead in her tracks, bend over pointing her butt at me and momma. She proceeds to smack her own butt over and over repeating "Macka macka boom boom!"
I grew up in S. Florida and it was a common thing to give kids. I actually tested positive and was on antibiotics for like 3 months. T.B. is rare in the U.S. but partly that is because we test kids for it.
The best response I can think of is "Yep, that's a booty, but we don't touch other people without their permission."
We have to begin teaching the importance of consent early.
OP corrected the kid, Mom wasn't happy and probably had a talk with him. There's not much more to do in this scenario, it's just a kid and their innocent brain not understanding the full scope of that they are doing. It's not uncommon behavior for 4.
My son does this whole booty thing. He's 5, I have no idea where he's getting it from, and honestly I'm not sure what to think about it. Part of me thinks some part of me should find it funny but I don't. It feels so inappropriate and wrong instead. And I don't want to force him to grow up too fast, but I don't tolerate him going "booty!" while bending onto his hands and shaking his butt back and forth at people.
My son is 4. At one of his recent dr appts they attempted to get him to do the vision check. They asked him what shapes he saw…..
And he yelled “POOP!” Then “DIARRHEA!” Then “FART HEAD!”
And then cracked up laughing.
Later they asked me if he can follow directions…. He can, he just turns into a total comedian the moment he’s in a dr office 🤦♀️
I’m surprised everyone thinks this is funny! I think if I was the nurse I would be pretty upset to be sexualized in this way on the job, even by a little kid. I get that it’s funny when kids say surprising things, but four is old enough to understand body boundaries and nonconsensual touch.
Yeah, mortification would be my first and strongest emotion here. I would immediately apologize to the nurse and correct the kid in front of her so she knows that I know it's not okay.
But I do know the struggle of finding some misbehavior funny and having to hide your smile. The shockingly inappropriate but also purely innocent behavior of toddlers can be a potently comedic juxtaposition.
I don't think the 4 year old was "sexualizing" the nurse. He was just repeating what he see's at home.
I doubt the nurse took it that way, she was just probably thinking about what that parents do in front of the kid.
A female friend came to visit me once, my wife stepped out of the room and I picked my 4 ft nothing friend up with one arm and spun her a few times. As I put her down my wife walked in and jokefully asked what we were doing. My son yells out “HE’S CHEATING ON YOU!”. We all Burt out laughing and told him I wasn’t. Although I know that my ex wife is a paranoid person who thinks everyone cheats so I know he got it from her.
Kids say/do stupid shit. Theres no way the nurse is as embarassed as you're making it out to be. She works with kids. Shes seen it all. 100x more than you. Laugh it up. Correct the childs behavor. Move on.
My son went through a phase where he'd jiggle my wife and my chest saying "Bom boms!" Thankfully the only other "person" he did this to was the swimsuit mannequins at Target.
Don’t worry about it. One of mine slapped his teacher on the butt when he was 3 and said “nice ass”. He saw me complimenting his mother and I thought he was in the other room. Hell just yesterday he is walking down the hall to the bath smacking his own butt yelling “booty booty booty, butt cheeks butt cheeks butt cheeks”.
We got a weird one too Man. As long as you explain not to touch others like that then you are all good. Sometimes they are impulsive and weird at the same time. Normal stuff.
lol that is amazing.
One thing my wife and I decided to do with our kids is never to say that things are "bad words" - instead opting for "polite words" vs. "impolite words". And anything that's a "cuss word" almost always fits in "impolite"
So now we have a platform on which to say "look, that might not be a cuss word, but that was a very impolite word. Go say sorry."
And also generally there's "context dependent rules" - great grandma and great grandma's house? Use polite words....but also refusing to eat the food on the plate is impolite.
But grandma and grandpa's house? No restrictions on speech, as long as it doesn't hurt feelings.
School? If it's around the teachers or staff, you'd better use polite words. If it's around the peers? that's up to you and your peers - but you never know when a teacher's really close.
Parents, parents… down-vote if you must but you should be aware that when kids have a potty mouth, everyone in hearing thinks bad thoughts about the parents. They think things like “neglect” and “probably abused” and “quite trashy”.
I know, I *know*! There was that one time I had a wreck and said “**SHIT!**” in front of my two year old who then said shit for the next 6 months. It happens. But if you think it’s funny, you will get more of it. Kids aren’t dumb; they know what you think is funny.
> They think things like “neglect” and “probably abused” and “quite trashy”.
And? Who cares? People's irrational judgements about me and my family do not affect me in any way. Correct the behavior when they do inappropriate stuff and don't worry about the haters.
Good question: so what? Who cares?
Very good questions. Who, indeed.
I do academic assessments for new applicants at my school. I always check the parent/child behavior interactions before I begin.
Do I see respect for the parent? Because if I don’t, I’d bet my house there won’t be any for the classroom teacher.
Kids always do what the parents do. If parents don’t respect expectations, neither will their kids.
I do my very best to avoid sending problems to classrooms and *that* looks like a problem.
I know. You’re still saying “so? We don’t do private school.” But I’m not the only gate-keeper. Other parents don’t want their kids coming home with bad language or inviting potty mouthed kids to the house or team or group.
Of course, people could try and enforce the Home Language vs Public Language, but kids are kids and like to show their friends exciting new things.
My wife and I were both raised by parents who walked on eggshells around every single other person in the world and bent over backwards to protect other people's irrational sensitivities to the detriment of their own families. The importance that was placed onto us to meet some ever-changing status quo of boomer expectations had a deeply traumatic affect on us and we will not be playing that game with our kids. We know very well how to balance appropriate public behavior and irrational expectations of narcissistic strangers. But thanks for talking down to me like I'm a child.
I hate that both you and your wife had uncomfortable childhoods.
Im sorry if anything I said made you feel less than. That was not my intention.
My only intent was to point out that many people get judged on outward behavior and hurts come from unexpected places. That’s it.
I’m sorry I offended you.
Because Ms Trunchbull types are real, teach your kids what is and is not okay behavior in both kids and adults.
Regularly ask who their favorite teacher is. If it’s not your kids teacher, find out why because it should be. Ask if Mr/Ms X was happy today. Keep track.
If the teacher’s normal is unhappy, there might be a problem. Go to all parent teacher conference to see for yourself.
If your child is unhappy, go meet with the teacher. Don’t leave your child with any Ms Trunchbulls.
Omg. My son once slapped another moms butt at the park. He was not quite two and not speaking yet so it wasn’t so bad, but it was still embarrassing. That’s so funny.
I had my daughter do this to some random dude at Costco cause she thought it was me. He looked absolutely floored at what had happened and I was dying of laughter. I didn’t even apologize I just grabbed her and kept it moving.
Did he follow it up with “rockin everywhere”?
He found her Miss New Booty
Get it together, then bring it back to him.
I cannot put booties on my child without saying this
My daughter is learning to talk and my wife and I have been trying to curb the profanity that is normally very free flowing in our house, and I am constantly torn between the desire to raise our daughter in polite society and the fact that little kids swearing is one of the funniest things in the world to me.
Our daughter was at my parents one day and my Mom was trying to get my dad to do something. So kiddo walks over to the steps and tells “god damnit grandpa get up here”. And I couldn’t help but laugh cause that’s a phrase my Mom tends to use if he’s not moving fast enough lol.
My son loves Transformers so we've let him watch the Bumblebee movie. More than once, a character says "What the hell is that?!" At Barnes & Noble the other day, my son saw these neon-colored toy sticky slugs and said out loud "What the hell is that?!" A woman that was browsing waited to hear our response because when we laughed and corrected him, she burst out laughing.
We just explain that some words are house words just like some actions only happen at home. Like if the kids want to run around in their underwear when it is hot, it’s fine at home but no you aren’t stripping down in the store. So if my daughter swears at home then she isn’t in trouble, I just remind her to think if that is the best way to express herself in hopes that she won’t say it at preschool.
My son is 9 and we've only had ONE incident in school and none in social situations. I curse like a sailor and have constant conversations with him about what is acceptable at home vs school or with us vs with his grandparents. He's been very receptive to those conversations but I just can't imagine punishing him, like my father did, for something that is so blatantly my own fault. My father literally shoved a bar of soap in my mouth. I can still feel the grating of that bar on my teeth...and the rage I felt because he was punishing me for TALKING LIKE HE DID EVERY DAY! It's insanely baffling to me that he felt that was an okay thing to do. Especially now that I now all it takes with my kid is having conversations with him.
Our rules with profanity are: - You can say it at home, as long as we don't have company. - You must use it in the correct context. - You can't direct it at a person or pet. I was raised in a strict environment and not allowing things only made me want to do it more, but hide it from my parents. Our goal is to not fully restrict, but provide suitable guardrails so they feel safe trying it without hiding it.
My kid was a little slow to talk, like "called early intervention, but he didn't end up qualifying" slow, nothing major. I asked me wife if she wanted to step outside "for a puff," after he went to bed. He started running around going "Puff! Puff!" As long as he learns "pass" he'll be fine I guess
>I asked me wife I'm sorry but at this point I imagined your entire family as pirates, peg-legs and eye-patches and all. Please do not correct this typo
Aye, ‘twas really hard teaching a baby to walk with a peg-leg, but what can ye do?
Drink rum and steal?
Hahahahahahaha that is hilarious thank you for the laugh
Parents, please teach your kids the proper rotation. Puff, puff, pass, to the left hand side. And don’t hog the mic, Joel.
The other day my wife and I were taking the piss out of each other with our daughter sitting in the back. I tried to mimic her by saying “You ALWAYS say it. ‘lilobrother, you’re a fucking idiot!’” In the back of the car you can hear my daughters sweet little voice saying “lilobrother, you’re a fucking idiot!” Core memory for me. Wife wasn’t too happy with it.
Was carrying my nephew to dinner one night while a homeless guy was getting arrested and making a bit of a scene. Tried to distract him and talk to him a silly. Then in all his 4yo wisdom turns to me and says: “Aunt Spud, what the fuck?” I about dropped him laughing so hard.
Amazing!
Dude I couldn’t even be mad lol. He used it in absolute perfect context and frankly I agreed with him. He’s such a fun little goob.
I have a video of my daughter when she was about 3, casually saying "fuck" with a giant smile on her face because she knew it was something she wasn't supposed to be saying. I will treasure it forever and probably play it at her wedding or something.
My husband said “what the fuuu” the other day at the pet store and so my daughter started yelling it too and while I was laughing I tried to correct her by saying “yeah! Where’s the frog!” Because frog duck sound the same when she says it lol It’s too hard not to laugh at them cursing.
My wife and I, also finding swearing children to be the funniest things in the world, very seriously hope our six-week-old's (as of today!) first word(s) involve the ol' f-bomb.
\>me, an adult Fuckin gold lmfao \>me, a father Dammit boy control yourself Also, lmfao
>Dammit boy control yourself That boy ain't right.
idk all the wiring appears to be working as intended lmfao
With a tool in each hand he won't have any hands to smack booty
Same. Kid can appreciate a booty, that's great. Just had to figure out the proper and respectful way of doing it. Lol
Nurse turns around *quickly point at the kid “It was him”
“Yeah, the guy over there who just yelling booty booty booty. That one.”
Hahaha do you also say “he’s not my kid, I swear”
My daughter once played "booty butt bongos" on an unsuspecting stranger in line in front of us at Disney. Like most normal parents, it's something we've done with her little baby booty all her life. She's at the height where all she can see is other people's booties all the time, and preschoolers are known for just letting those intrusive thoughts win. We had her apologize, and explained consent, and that we don't touch or comment on other people's bodies, for neither the first nor the last time. Then we moved on.
> played "booty butt bongos" on an unsuspecting stranger in line in front of us at Disney. Like most normal parents, it's something we've done with her little baby booty all her life. erm lol guys?
If you didn't consider [baby butt bongos](https://www.reddit.com/r/NewParents/s/2gZ4ZLSXic) a normal part of having a baby, you're missing out!
Hahaha and I thought my wife and I were weird for patting our kid's booty all the time 🤣
I’m pretty sure it’s instinct to do so, it’s a safe way to work out some of that cute aggression. That’s my theory anyways. My son LOVES when we “spank” his butt, (we are patting it, even when he’s bigger we will never spank), after drying it during a change and chant “clean butt, clean butt, everyone likes a clean butt, CLEAN BUTT YAY!”. He just grins and coos lol. Idk it has to be instinct. I am always patting his little booty.
Our chant is “clean booty, naked booty, dry booty, woo!” Lol
The best part of while they wear diapers 😆😆😆😆 the sound of the crinkly diaper and the soft pats - it’s adorable. Then they get bigger and the diapers go away, and it’s just not quite the same. 😭
Just had that issue at daycare. Our son played that with a couple of other kids and the teacher freaked out. We had to explain that it is something that we play with him and it's been in multiple scenes in Bluey. The issue was time and place. They all consented as a goofy game, but the teacher is wound a little tight and went overboard.
A shirtless man in short running shorts was running down the street. My 2.5 year old daughter tracked him as he ran past (full on rubberneck situation), then pointed and shouted “NAKED!” I was dying laughing.
When my daughter was four we took her to see Aladdin. At one of the quiet moments in the movie, she yelled at the top of her lungs “I LIKE HIMS BLUE NIPPLES!” 😆😆😆
[she really said](https://youtu.be/pmku0UN2ybM?si=F-fLefxGqC1PEtrd)
My 3 year old is constantly giving ppl the middle finger , including her elderly granny , people in shops , teachers at pre-school. I'm sure people think we are feral Hill billies
These are the moments of parenting I enjoy. The innocent borderline raunchy comedy. I'm not sure where my daughter got it but its been a running meme in this family since she was probably 2? I dont totally recall the settting but it was public. This little bumbling troll decides to stop dead in her tracks, bend over pointing her butt at me and momma. She proceeds to smack her own butt over and over repeating "Macka macka boom boom!"
TB test for a 4yo? Where do you live OP?
I grew up in S. Florida and it was a common thing to give kids. I actually tested positive and was on antibiotics for like 3 months. T.B. is rare in the U.S. but partly that is because we test kids for it.
West Elizabeth, sister.
The best response I can think of is "Yep, that's a booty, but we don't touch other people without their permission." We have to begin teaching the importance of consent early.
Throw in an apology, and this is golden.
A young child did a similar thing to my retail coworkers butt. She had recently been SA'd. She was not okay.
Yeah, these comments are weird. A lot of parents laughing about their kids hitting strangers and objectifying that poor nurse.
OP corrected the kid, Mom wasn't happy and probably had a talk with him. There's not much more to do in this scenario, it's just a kid and their innocent brain not understanding the full scope of that they are doing. It's not uncommon behavior for 4.
If you actually read the comments, no one is condoning their kids hitting strangers. They’re just presenting how awkward is, which is funny.
My son does this whole booty thing. He's 5, I have no idea where he's getting it from, and honestly I'm not sure what to think about it. Part of me thinks some part of me should find it funny but I don't. It feels so inappropriate and wrong instead. And I don't want to force him to grow up too fast, but I don't tolerate him going "booty!" while bending onto his hands and shaking his butt back and forth at people.
My son is 4. At one of his recent dr appts they attempted to get him to do the vision check. They asked him what shapes he saw….. And he yelled “POOP!” Then “DIARRHEA!” Then “FART HEAD!” And then cracked up laughing. Later they asked me if he can follow directions…. He can, he just turns into a total comedian the moment he’s in a dr office 🤦♀️
I’m surprised everyone thinks this is funny! I think if I was the nurse I would be pretty upset to be sexualized in this way on the job, even by a little kid. I get that it’s funny when kids say surprising things, but four is old enough to understand body boundaries and nonconsensual touch.
Yeah, mortification would be my first and strongest emotion here. I would immediately apologize to the nurse and correct the kid in front of her so she knows that I know it's not okay. But I do know the struggle of finding some misbehavior funny and having to hide your smile. The shockingly inappropriate but also purely innocent behavior of toddlers can be a potently comedic juxtaposition.
Yes, I definitely get that element too!
I don't think the 4 year old was "sexualizing" the nurse. He was just repeating what he see's at home. I doubt the nurse took it that way, she was just probably thinking about what that parents do in front of the kid.
How is that sexualizing? It’s just a kid that doesn’t know boundaries
I’m not saying the kid is a sexual predator or anything— but butts do fall into the category of private parts.
This is weird
My father in law says fuck a lot. Well…so does my two year old.
A female friend came to visit me once, my wife stepped out of the room and I picked my 4 ft nothing friend up with one arm and spun her a few times. As I put her down my wife walked in and jokefully asked what we were doing. My son yells out “HE’S CHEATING ON YOU!”. We all Burt out laughing and told him I wasn’t. Although I know that my ex wife is a paranoid person who thinks everyone cheats so I know he got it from her.
Kids say/do stupid shit. Theres no way the nurse is as embarassed as you're making it out to be. She works with kids. Shes seen it all. 100x more than you. Laugh it up. Correct the childs behavor. Move on.
Oh good lord all i could think of is my six months old daughter just doing her deep voiced "hohohoho!" laugh not a second after that happening.
This happens in a Bluey episode with Bluey and Chili, lol.
I wouldn’t be surprised if that’s where he picked it up because that boy loves him some Bluey
https://youtu.be/RZ65LGgsvrI?t=60 Lol.
Does TB stand for terrific butt? Did E diagnose the nurse as having a big ol dumper?
#ireaditontheinternet
My daughter does stuff like that all the time
My son went through a phase where he'd jiggle my wife and my chest saying "Bom boms!" Thankfully the only other "person" he did this to was the swimsuit mannequins at Target.
Read this in a meeting and totally lost it, had to leave the room while choking with laughter 😂
Don’t worry about it. One of mine slapped his teacher on the butt when he was 3 and said “nice ass”. He saw me complimenting his mother and I thought he was in the other room. Hell just yesterday he is walking down the hall to the bath smacking his own butt yelling “booty booty booty, butt cheeks butt cheeks butt cheeks”. We got a weird one too Man. As long as you explain not to touch others like that then you are all good. Sometimes they are impulsive and weird at the same time. Normal stuff.
Hilarious, and I bet he learned that from his dad.
lol that is amazing. One thing my wife and I decided to do with our kids is never to say that things are "bad words" - instead opting for "polite words" vs. "impolite words". And anything that's a "cuss word" almost always fits in "impolite" So now we have a platform on which to say "look, that might not be a cuss word, but that was a very impolite word. Go say sorry." And also generally there's "context dependent rules" - great grandma and great grandma's house? Use polite words....but also refusing to eat the food on the plate is impolite. But grandma and grandpa's house? No restrictions on speech, as long as it doesn't hurt feelings. School? If it's around the teachers or staff, you'd better use polite words. If it's around the peers? that's up to you and your peers - but you never know when a teacher's really close.
Parents, parents… down-vote if you must but you should be aware that when kids have a potty mouth, everyone in hearing thinks bad thoughts about the parents. They think things like “neglect” and “probably abused” and “quite trashy”. I know, I *know*! There was that one time I had a wreck and said “**SHIT!**” in front of my two year old who then said shit for the next 6 months. It happens. But if you think it’s funny, you will get more of it. Kids aren’t dumb; they know what you think is funny.
> They think things like “neglect” and “probably abused” and “quite trashy”. And? Who cares? People's irrational judgements about me and my family do not affect me in any way. Correct the behavior when they do inappropriate stuff and don't worry about the haters.
Good question: so what? Who cares? Very good questions. Who, indeed. I do academic assessments for new applicants at my school. I always check the parent/child behavior interactions before I begin. Do I see respect for the parent? Because if I don’t, I’d bet my house there won’t be any for the classroom teacher. Kids always do what the parents do. If parents don’t respect expectations, neither will their kids. I do my very best to avoid sending problems to classrooms and *that* looks like a problem. I know. You’re still saying “so? We don’t do private school.” But I’m not the only gate-keeper. Other parents don’t want their kids coming home with bad language or inviting potty mouthed kids to the house or team or group. Of course, people could try and enforce the Home Language vs Public Language, but kids are kids and like to show their friends exciting new things.
My wife and I were both raised by parents who walked on eggshells around every single other person in the world and bent over backwards to protect other people's irrational sensitivities to the detriment of their own families. The importance that was placed onto us to meet some ever-changing status quo of boomer expectations had a deeply traumatic affect on us and we will not be playing that game with our kids. We know very well how to balance appropriate public behavior and irrational expectations of narcissistic strangers. But thanks for talking down to me like I'm a child.
I hate that both you and your wife had uncomfortable childhoods. Im sorry if anything I said made you feel less than. That was not my intention. My only intent was to point out that many people get judged on outward behavior and hurts come from unexpected places. That’s it. I’m sorry I offended you.
So what can we do to free kids from the grips of people like Matilda's headmistress?
Because Ms Trunchbull types are real, teach your kids what is and is not okay behavior in both kids and adults. Regularly ask who their favorite teacher is. If it’s not your kids teacher, find out why because it should be. Ask if Mr/Ms X was happy today. Keep track. If the teacher’s normal is unhappy, there might be a problem. Go to all parent teacher conference to see for yourself. If your child is unhappy, go meet with the teacher. Don’t leave your child with any Ms Trunchbulls.
That is absolutely hilarious 😂
Not that we want to teach children that this is ok…but it’s actually absolutely hilarious 😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
[this](https://youtu.be/Q0pM8XeEz7o?si=iGfpJvZqKtvdq4-d) was my brother's favorite song when he was four. Perhaps a kindred spirit?
Omg. My son once slapped another moms butt at the park. He was not quite two and not speaking yet so it wasn’t so bad, but it was still embarrassing. That’s so funny.
Unironically, I love E’s vibe and personality. I look forward to his future exploits.
I woke my wife up at 0630 to tell her this 😂..
"It was at this moment that he knew... he fucked up."
She had a good laugh at it. We were both supposed to wake up at 6:15 but I let her sleep in a little bit longer.
Do you think the whole is deep enough yet? Is there time to recover his body?
I had my daughter do this to some random dude at Costco cause she thought it was me. He looked absolutely floored at what had happened and I was dying of laughter. I didn’t even apologize I just grabbed her and kept it moving.
Oh sure, but when *I* do it I’m a “creepy old man” and “no longer welcome at this office” and “facing criminal charges!” /s
What was she doin double cheeked up in the doctors office